Long-Distance Relationships Are A Waste of Time!

[@jorgelima1584]

I had a long distance relationship for a year and now she’s my wife and we have a beautiful baby we have been together for about 3 years

[@byimranalam]

you are a role model sir

[@etmbandz7330]

You’re awesome for this!!

[@bleu7734]

Your a man no one has ever died from not having sex. It's called discipline and grown people do this period. My hat off to you because if you single and not having sex. What's the difference. Some men make excuses for the B's. Congratulations on the baby and your love🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞

[@princess0974]

Yes for a year thats easy i can even do it but go on for 5 plus years and tough to travel to see if you gonna be proud of.

[@jorgelima1584]

@@etmbandz7330 thank you very much

[@lukewarm7779]

“Long distance doesn’t work” But y’all be living in the same city that don’t work either lmao - some post I saw once

[@mohdsaifali6222]

But atleast u have physical memories n v have only WhatsApp memories

[@tytaylor1843]

The question to that is which one has a higher chance of staying in good attending. People in the same city has a higher chance of surviving than two people living hundreds or thousands miles away.

[@umchileanyways8603]

exactly. long distance aint for everyone 😭💀

[@lashondaward2924]

Right I dated à Guy 20 minutes from Me he cheated and never communicated with me.But I had à great long distance Relationship and all of it was great and the communication was Fire.It was one of my greatest Relationships

[@meyamonatt6870]

✋🏽💀

[@devilcwesker5980]

Bro if a person has to cheat on you because they haven't seen you for 1 month. They would still cheat on you if u were there

[@MelissaLona]

Facts

[@xanaduxavier9067]

He's not saying that distance is the reason for cheating. He's saying that it's much more likely to happen then if you live in the same city 🏙️

[@lashondaward2924]

Amen

[@briandillow6767]

Exactly

[@alessandravelasco808]

Facts

[@joeyseriously]

some of us actually don’t cheat-

[@rakt8946]

Yep

[@aleram8373]

❤

[@A__MAYANKSHARMA]

Yes!,idk why the mainstream has normalized cheating :/

[@michellepottinger5714]

I don't cheat. And thank you ❤and I'm in a long-distance relationship for 2 years now I am getting married next March

[@Play-jv3oi]

I dont cheat and i am in one

[@gabil3972]

I strongly disagree it all depends in person if they want it to work it's gonna work ❤️

[@ProtaJ]

Naw

[@yuhjeice7186]

@@ProtaJ yaw

[@sanityishell]

Yep

[@nickcerone6086]

I mean me and my girlfriend moved and let me put it this way. There is a 0% either one of us have cheated. The only problem is how often I can FaceTime her.

[@ProtaJ]

@@yuhjeice7186 Nope

[@Free_Introvert]

No only a cheater will think this way. If you aren’t willing to be faithful then just say that. You aren’t willing to commit.

[@DrineThePoet]

THIS

[@unnecessary111]

I completely disagree, but it depends on what type of person you're with. Thankfully me and my fiance are loyal.

[@amarelogan7081]

Yea ok...

[@khalilcook3018]

@@amarelogan7081 lmao 🤣 🧢

[@DaJbieberSwag]

You cant assume everyone’s needs are just so uncontrollable that they’ll even cheat to fulfil that need. Long distance or not, DONT get into a relationship if you can’t stay committed!

[@prettydisabled9060]

Committed or honest that you can't stay with that person and be faithful.

[@pbfairley]

Military families do it all the time

[@alessandravelasco808]

Literally tho

[@sepomushaukwa9006]

Wow thank you!

[@christianlittle9348]

@@pbfairleymen in the military are known for cheating 😂

[@Daria_ko4]

Probably all girls cheated on you 😪 poor guy.

[@rustysoul9540]

Honestly I would cheat on this guy. He seems to think relationships are 100% physical

[@ayushiroy5398]

I know right, I feel so sad for him, the way his mind works god

[@VinexAesthetics]

As a man myself, this guy is worth getting cheated on. Sounds like the kind of guy to get girls just to bang

[@Hey-jw3dm]

dont laugh (laughs)

[@Kiky812]

Yeah he's very entitled but he doesn't know nothing.

[@walksamongwolves6910]

You can get cheated on in any kind of relationship. It all comes down to trust and commitment. Regardless of distance if you don't have either it's not gonna work.

[@MrPhresh25]

There’s no more trusts and commitment anymore people do what they wanna do nowadays.

[@ladydevon1216]

I've been in a long distance relationship for more than 3 years and during the pandemic and being in one is one of the best decisions I made because now I'm happily married to the man who's from 7000 miles away. Everything is possible if you fully commit, believe, trust, have patience and faith.

[@alessandravelasco808]

Well said, I totally agree

[@clarkkent2005]

How often do you see each other though?

[@AshleyGrahamcracker-oq3pf]

@@clarkkent2005they are married

[@AshleyGrahamcracker-oq3pf]

@@clarkkent2005they’re married

[@AshleyGrahamcracker-oq3pf]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@clarkkent2005they’re married!

[@korrensamuel6886]

People in short distance relationships get cheated on all the time. Living in the same state, same city even same area and still get cheated on. I am currently in a long distance relationship for the last 2 years. Being in a long distance relationship is a test of loyalty, honesty, trust and communication. I’ve known my partner for 7 years. That’s my best friend, my everything! Stop telling people certain relationship types won’t work simply because YOU find it hard to keep it in your pants!!

[@nataosharichardson5597]

🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🖤🖤🖤👏🏿👏🏿✊🏿👍🏿👍🏿

[@Omar-wi1ks]

Finally someone has said that!

[@simplyshannon19]

Well said, and to add. . . People get cheated on living in the same house.

[@mac11daddy6]

I agree. Actually it happens more often when they live in the same city or under the same roof.

[@ssanford2556]

you can get cheated on while living in the same city!

[@SweetArt360]

Actually you can get cheated on while living under the same roof, quite possibly sharing the same bed too... 😔

[@cocolokoflacco]

​@@SweetArt360 🥺damm

[@sepomushaukwa9006]

@@SweetArt360 wow EXACTLY!

[@trinityp8575]

Even in the same house!

[@mac11daddy6]

That’s 90% of cheaters. Very rarely does it happen in long distance because the majority of people don’t have the patience to do long distance

[@callmesiyo]

I just knew he was gon talk about intimacy!😂 Long distance does work sir!

[@clarkkent2005]

I mean, is that not important?

[@MT-gb6pl]

My long distance relationship worked after 2 years we’re moving in together!

[@brookiewins4630]

I disagree completely. My boyfriend and I have been in a ldr for three years and we just moved in with each other!!! we didnt meet until a year after of being together. they do work 🥰

[@dimirjay8785]

Fr me and my bf are great and plan on meeting

[@TimeFrameTales2]

I agree

[@prettydisabled9060]

That's nice, did you two keep meeting here and there during the 3 year LDR and how far apart were you?

[@calebstewart2737]

Facts me and my girlfriend plan on meeting very very soon I think it all just depends on the communication factor and the amount of effort that both parties are willing to put into the relationship to make it work

[@sharundeva4780]

Can u say like on what way he came to your country and stayed there, probably need a visa right.. My gf is in usa. And I'm trying to get admission into her college. So student visa is the only hope to be together for couple of years.

[@JackTheStrippa]

One thing for certain in this online space is people shouldn't take advice from random people who seem to think they're the beacon of knowledge when nobody is perfect. Take this "advice" with a pinch of salt and realise it's just an OPINION at the end of the day and don't run your life base on internet "gurus" Take what you can, drop whats not important but always do it your way and be happy. I can't take people at a certain age giving life advice on a life they haven't finished living fully yet and they themselves have potentially a lot of mistakes left to make. No disrespect intended just honestly speaking. Bless

[@khalilcook3018]

🤔🤡

[@khalilcook3018]

@@JackTheStrippa said from the man with the last name doodad lmao

[@khalilcook3018]

@@JackTheStrippa you're on this man's channel and you're real emotional my man. Says alot about you. Lmao

[@khalilcook3018]

@@JackTheStrippa naw but u sure im not yours because I'm owning you in this comment section lmao 😂 🤣 💀

[@khalilcook3018]

@@JackTheStrippa 😆😆😆

[@jesusrojas5422]

Ok ladies who broke this man's heart he's clearly hurt if he thinks long distances relationships don't work smh lol

[@kiradomochi4961]

Or he's a cheater himself

[@JanieBee]

If you love the person and want to make it work, you will. If one person stops working the relationship falls apart. Commitment and communication are key

[@barrysaxton31]

I'm literally married to my long distance lady after we meet........ Danm bro who broke your heart 😂😂😂

[@lavandermaro1401]

😂😂😂

[@Ttku563]

seems like the same type of reaction to come from someone who either has been cheated on by the wrong girl or thinks that relationships are just something that's 100% physical

[@clarkkent2005]

It’s not 100%, but it definitely plays a big part

[@Frovael]

I so disagree. It's not about being in a LDR, it's about the person. If you are in a LDR, and are SERIOUS about it, then both of you will be understanding, patient and loyal if you both really love each other. But one thing you really need is trust. You need that in every relationship. If you don't have trust in your partner, rather don't be in any kind of relationship.

[@TimeFrameTales2]

Well said!

[@kitiskitkat]

I'm sorry for your loss. :( I know many people who have lost their trust.

[@g3ven59]

To get cheated on, you don't need to be hundred miles away, you can live down the same street and get cheated on. This is your insecurity showing

[@lindakabaghe5589]

Spoken like a cheater or someone who's been cheated on....We don't do that here tho. Some of us have self-control.

[@matt3247]

Bro in law and sister dated for 6 years from 16-22 before they married. Great marriage and three kids. Not everyone is looking to jump on another person every time they are horny. It's called restraint and communication with your partner. Not everyone is as small minded as you. Or disloyal.

[@angelinac3747]

I disagree. Long distance can work as long you plan to live near each other within some years to months. But long term they dont

[@caitroseco6752]

My boyfriend literally lives in another country and it’s going great. But yeah, you have to move. He is going to come here as soon as he can but with the pandemic it’s taking time 😭

[@chrisnotpratt1903]

@@caitroseco6752 hey, at least the longer it takes, the better it would be when they do finally arrive.

[@caitroseco6752]

@@chrisnotpratt1903 your comment made my day! Thank you ❤️

[@justhereiguess3396]

He's going to live near me soon thankfully!

[@caitroseco6752]

@@chrisnotpratt1903 update: visited him for a month. It was amazing ❤️

[@ravenbirdfire]

If you think it's a waste of time you just found the wrong person

[@ehh626]

It all depends on the person. It might be different for you but it all depends

[@Bulky__YT__]

My sister , ended marrying her boyfriend on the other side of the planet after 7 years. That’s a lie bro. I’ve seen long distance work

[@TimeFrameTales2]

Yeah I’ve seen long distance work too🤔

[@shirlsshirls8594]

You can get cheated on women living in the same home. If someone is a cheater or wants to cheat, they will do it no matter the proximity.

[@gabbymorrill5770]

A relationship being long-distance is not the deciding factor of whether or not someone will cheat that happens probably before a relationship even begins. No matter what situation, a cheater is a cheater is a cheater. If you get cheated on in a long-distance relationship that probably means you would’ve been cheated on even if that relationship wasn’t long-distance.

[@sexymskat]

Exactly

[@LovelyKelly645]

I strongly disagree. They can work if both people have trust and self- control and if it's a relationship built on God and His purpose. Everything isn't about sex and needing to fulfill fleshly needs. For couples who are abstinent until marriage, that isn't a concern. Long-distance isn't ideal, but it can work once both parties have maturity, commitment, communication, trust and a vision for the future.

[@khalilcook3018]

Delusional

[@nathaniel972ful]

@@khalilcook3018 all the way delusional. Especially knowing that, more than likely the woman will strike first. She just will act like it never happened.

[@khalilcook3018]

@@nathaniel972ful 💯💯💯

[@TimeFrameTales2]

Well said

[@thunderlifestudios]

Any person with moral standards can, however, I also think thoughtfulness is important. A lot of LDRs fail because people aren't thoughtful and create insecurities in their partner.

[@daniellemason8481]

😂😂😂😂😂 “you can find somebody local to do that”

[@xanaduxavier9067]

OMG thank you so very much for this. I don't know how often I have to fend off a dude trying to talk me into a long-distance relationship, scolding or lecturing me about my soulmate doesn't have to be in my backyard. F*** that s*** yes he does! I have never done and never will ever do long-distance connections! So so I shoot men down left and right on dating sites. 😡 I don't care I want my love to be near me so if we want to see each other every day we can, if we want to go out to dinner or out together we can. I need my man close to me, to hold me daily, and look into my eyes daily, long-distance don't cut it! Long-distance is not keeping me warm at night, long distance is not making me feel safe in my bed at night.

[@rondiaestelle8521]

I had a long distance relationship with the man I'm with now for going on 14 yrs, but when I was in California and he was in Atlanta, after a 1 1/2yr, I moved to Cali for my family business and was running our family restaurant, but we spoke everyday when I was gone and I flew back to Atlanta for a week and I felt like he was stepping out, but when I moved back to Atlanta after 10 months gone, I specifically said, momma back home so get rid of your groupies and we haven't had those problems. 10/10/10-10/10/23, now for the past 3 yrs we have worked together, live together and we do everything together and I mean everything. But it has been such a blessing to still get to know my man.

[@mommyVAPH]

It depends on the person. You can't tell everyone is the same

[@successful363]

How about an introduction and get to know each other better that's if your single and you interested .

[@aloveaffairwithself]

I think it’s amazing how many people who are immigrants to different countries do this, and they end up married or staying together after being long distance for a while…it does work. If you are on one accord, it works.

[@madmank7881]

Most of those relationships don't work out

[@siesiechampion]

Somebody broke your heart💀

[@JT-yk9fs]

Well this wasn’t I needed to hear 😭 bro had his heart broke

[@MduCele.]

Personally, I will never be in a long distance relationship,.... Again. Tried it and never worked. Life is too short for me to be patient.

[@BenjyNLA]

I might be the only one that agrees because I've been through 6 long distance relationships and I've been cheated on all 6 times.

[@SmazzitSEOTrainingInstitute]

😢

[@Skincarefinds001]

You need to check the kind of people you’re attracted to and their personalities bro

[@blasian.k]

I disagree with this one, it has a lot to do with self disciple and how you value commitment. You truly have to be all in and know what your getting yourself into… it is definitely not for the weak

[@markoperic5023]

How can I be all in if I doubt that the other person is all in, and when they ignore me, and I bail out, then Im the coward and weak. But when I try and comunicate and talk about how I feel and wanting to know how they feel, suddenly Im a clingy manipulator who is possesive

[@orbils5087]

this is actually a terrible take on long distance relationships lmao

[@luciaoneill2189]

Loyal , patience and understanding is all u need have healthy long distance relationship unfortunately some people not disciplined struggle with staying faithful

[@starchild8822]

Someone's cynical 🙄 People have self control

[@freshboi8745]

Nah

[@madmank7881]

If people had self-control nothing bad would happen

[@tompowers4013]

Imagine being from Europe and having someone 5000km away.... As my mother said (rip) "fantasy world".

[@Dazzlin826]

Long distance relationship is perfect, no one's in your face all the time or can just show up unannounced to your place😏

[@teamcanaloficial8358]

Ok sir, I'll try it, let's see who wins, me and my gf have mutual trust for eachother that we'll never cheat on eachother, we both have a huge fear for getting cheated on and neither of us would do such a thing, our strong moral code and ethics also help, we view cheating as a highly degenerate action that will lead to going to hell, we've promised to be patient and wait for the day we're together

[@kcastro3481]

Not a waste!! Find someone who loves you and I mean really loves you and you wont have any insecurities within your relationship.

[@domonicb6752]

I highly disagree with this. I’m in the Marine Corps and long distance has worked for a much longer than anticipated time. It’s never been easy but knowing I get to see her again is one of the best feelings ever.

[@mistypedhi]

My husband and I have been long distance for 9 years. He goes to work out of state for 2 to 3 months then comes back home for 2 weeks. Rinse, repeat. It definitely sucks being so far for so long but we are absolutely crazy about one another and no one else compares so it works for us even though, it sucks missing one another.

[@onigiri555]

I don't think so. I met my bf online, he's a christian man, and is such a gentleman he wouldn't throw what we have away because of sexual urges. Our circumstances are a bit different since we're both virgins but its NOT a waste of time if you plan on living together in the future. I'll be moving in with him in a few months and I know its worth the longing :) So if you're in a ldr, don't give up.

[@aishahghanie6650]

I disagree with this statement. Maybe he talking based on his bad past experience that is how he expressed it.

[@daylinnparker7711]

I agree… you’re really just giving the other person a pass to do whatever they want and only respect you when they get together with you!

[@danpachunka3043]

about to hit the year mark. 7 hours apart, we see eachother about twice a week/a month on the weekends and facetime nearly every night. it can work if it’s with the right person! find someone you trust, that can control themselves to protect what they love:)

[@iamunstoppable205]

There is always exceptions to the rule. However, more than likely, long distance relationships do not work.

[@animelover1000]

I totally disagree it totally depends on person..... It is the best relationship in the world .....there is a attachment of soul not body.... 🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@ThatNofbody]

Yea no long distance relationship are totally different in a bad way talking otp and Skype aren’t the same as being together in person if it was why is their that feeling of nervousness and having to feel like y’all have to meet all over and sometimes it doesn’t even work out once y’all meet bc it’s sm different 😂

[@markoperic5023]

What if theres that soul attachment and its beautifull, but then when I tried to tell her about it and how I felt it, she started playing hard to get, and bussy all the time, and acting clueless that she shoed interest before. And then when I assume she isnt interested and start a newrelationship, suddenly Im the bad guy who broke her heart and cheated and betrayed her.

[@kellymcdonald9414]

I. Agree. Keep. Owning. The. Truth. So. True. And. Real.

[@JasmineSlater.]

Talks about sexual self discipline, porn, masturbation, cheating, and just the real nitty gritty should be on the table before you even commit. Have real talks and decide if that is what you want. Point blank.

[@ei13y71]

Man thinks that virgins don’t exist 😭

[@megane0912]

Learned it the hard way 😂

[@squirrelm245]

Last time we called he said he dunno how he feels about meeting my family then after he said I dunno how to tell you this I don’t wanna make you sad but I need to focus on myself. Then I still was sad I think he found someone else though cuz we didn’t talk for ah month then we got back together n Its been like three years almost, Still can’t get over it, Its crazy

[@noxolokhumalomashobane2463]

Long distance relationship is not a waste of time….

[@ProfessoRox02]

Studies show that you are slightly more likely to get cheated on a near distabce relationship than a long distance relationship, besides going into a relationship thinking like that is just toxic.

[@madmank7881]

How was that study done was it done by people saying that they got cheated on or people saying that they cheated?

[@ProtaJ]

All the women disagreeing lol

[@mayacleo5627]

Long distance relationships don’t equate to cheating. There are partners who cheat living under the same roof, let alone same city

[@godaininja]

If you can’t trust your partner to not cheat, it doesn’t matter whether they’re thousands of kilometres away or a metre away.

[@riapatel2362]

real long distance relationships require patience and commitment early on. if you want to fuck around and cant be honest you shouldn’t be in any type of relationship

[@alessandravelasco808]

Facts

[@lavandermaro1401]

Exactly!

[@TV-MAN701]

My bf is in NL and im in MY, we had been together 3 years, through bad and good, figts, as long as both looking for the same goals, it will work

[@lostrem0te]

ive been with my girlfriend for over a year almost 2 years online and we are very happy and cannot wait to meet. its not a waste of time if you love the person. we plan on having many happy years together and even if we broke up it wouldnt be a waste of time, it would be years filled with love.

[@SweetArt360]

I strongly disagree, cheating has nothing to do with distance. People cheat while living under the same roof. It's all about one's character and values. If you're not happy with how things are you either communicate and work through it. Or you communicate that you don't want to be in that relationship anymore. Has nothing to do with this or that.

[@lsamsonable]

True, however, it’s the lessons, discipline, and conservation of knowing that your relationship is worth it. Commitment>Needs

[@librasoul1705]

ALL facts!!!! I don't do long distance relationships. PERIODT! I've learned my lesson. However, it can work if BOTH parties are truly ALL in and ultimately work on living in the same state.

[@Tritanaa]

It's funny how long distance boyfriends have always been more trustworthy than short distance ones

[@jcastanien]

I got cheated on by my spouse in my own home, married 17 years and then by my ex after my divorce, who was 4 miles down the road.....doesnt matter the distance. It's the PERSON.

[@samararoberts7596]

Depends on the 2 people. I disagree respectfully. Some couples work, some couples don’t 🤷🏾‍♀️💯

[@vhumpy364]

If you have the right type of person I disagree and if you're with the wrong type of person I'm completely agree

[@aaliyahbarker7225]

a longer way to say “i’m a cheater and here’s how i’ll justify it”

[@aaliyahbarker7225]

Or vice versa, you’ve been cheated on

[@naydaagoat]

I’d say it depends on the people. I just released my hands of one. The way I see it ain’t no way ima be with someone whom I never video chatted never saw face to face and this person never once speaks about it but countless of times say it will happen. It takes two committed people, communication is crucial you gotta do way more communicating than a normal relationship due to the distance between the two. Definitely gotta have a plan with closing that gap sooner than later or else its pointless. Sex isn’t everything but wasting your time is valuable and its something everyone should be concerned about when going into LDR’s.

[@SlimMxntana]

Gotta be realistic with long distance relationships in order for them to work other than that your right it’s a waste of time

[@afrothundar]

I generally agree, but think it can work in certain situations. My current wife and I were long distance for several years (5). I was in medical school, and she was just starting out in a demanding career field. I think that fact that we were both very busy made it work. If we had tons of free time, and were out in the “party scene” it would’ve been a different story. We had just enough free time to miss eachother, but not enough time to dwell on it. Frequent visits help as well.

[@marie-louiseb]

Idk what to think about this video. I'm glad this is just your opinion!

[@_fruity_sally_face_]

Im in a long distance relationship and it’s working perfectly fine

[@3mm4]

6868.68 km away and still loving each other update ay still 6868.68 away but only me loving😩

[@FireAngelChris]

You must have a plan it can work but one has to move in a timely manner. I was in Michigan and she was in Houston. She move to me and that’s the main reason it had lasted as long as it did.

[@Fire-Hydrant-Cactus]

Psalm 37:7-9 “Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him.”

[@thunderlifestudios]

Some people aren't "monkeys" but sentient thoughtful humans.

[@madmank7881]

Sentient what does it mean that people don't setting things because they have desires which override logic most of the time. People have desires then they found a way to then they try to find a way to make their desires make sense through "logic".

[@prettydisabled9060]

I stayed faithful in my first and so far last one. Though found out he was married. I believe it can work out if both are determined to make it work and I agree there needs to be a plan to come together.

[@hayyyoooh916]

I’m not gonna cheat on the person I’m with even if it’s long distance.

[@thegentleman9929]

He has a point, unless one is willing to move so you can plan a future, kids, etc... Then forget about it, unless it's just a fling

[@barbaralove4336]

Sir how are you doing if that's how you feel I respect that but there are some of us out here who see it totally different relocating wouldn't be a problem I don't believe in living together and I am celibate has been for twenty years by choice and that's not going to change until my last name become his last name so a man like you I probably wouldn't be his choice keep the faith be encouraged😊

[@Nam3less2U]

Facts happened to me but I was young and it was unexpected but definitely not worth wasting your time no matter what.

[@cocolokoflacco]

how did you find out though?

[@sarasextacy]

Disagree! Stop spreading negativity!! Im happy with my british man. We are 10000km away

[@mariancounsellor]

I agree with you that eventually someone has to relocate for things to work out in the long- term. However, cheating is about a lack of self-Control and lack of respect so if someone cheats, it’s not based on location.

[@djuanacarter4838]

It will only work if the person is faithful. Sex outside of marriage is a sin anyway.

[@sleepingsuga2526]

Considering I've been with my long distance boyfriend for 2 years now, I'd strongly disagree with that. It depends on the people.

[@IAmKentori]

How did you do it?

[@IAmKentori]

And how often do you two see each other?

[@victorc4_1234]

Mmmm no. You mighta had a bad experience but that doesn’t mean everyone is like that

[@Tradhuntdeer]

Cant say i agree with this In a long distance relationship the love is way stronger and time spent together is way more precious ❤

[@nickydipsy3364]

I think many people dosent have the power of keeping a long distance realtionship. Its so much effort and I gotta respect them that can hold an realtionship. They are the True lovers.