When to Walk Away from a Toxic Mother

[@Kris_Reece]

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[@angelagunter7359]

So true, I lived this for 53 years.

[@mpr4christ1980]

No paper copies available?

[@SLAYERSARCH]

my mother is not the issue... my sister and her control over her boy friend is.

[@xo7454]

One month after I cut off ties with my mom... my shoulder injury resolved, my gut distention improved a lot!!! Wow.

[@susanleonard1621]

I truly understand what you mean. It would take me about two weeks to psych myself up to see my mother. Then it would take a few days to get out of my depression.

[@jbird73]

That is comforting to hear, and I'm glad you're better. I think I'm in a very similar situation.

[@SourendraDas]

Yes it takes two weeks to psych myself to talk to my toxic mother and it takes two weeks to get out of depression after talking to her! So toxic she is and selfish!

[@xo7454]

@SourendraDas I just cut off all my family. They have nothing good to say ever. They just message to involve me in their drama. I don't even read their messages. I did send a generic father's day card, but that's it. Peace of mind is so underrated.

[@24FRETSHARKFIN]

God bless you!

[@beyondher]

One day after starting no contact with my mum - I've stopped feeling suicidal.

[@Lady-i9p]

I'm so glad you are feeling better

[@Landrick-ll4vb]

Me too she was annoying and verbally abusive

[@emmalouie1663]

100% Yes, I moved closer to my relatives and that was a big mistake... my mother started claiming I needed therapy etc. She is the problem.

[@derekmaullo2865]

@@emmalouie1663 My parents are the same. They suck

[@imarokutv3120]

Im a week into no contact. Shes been asking my sister about me a lot, my sister told me whenever my mom comes to speak with her its about me or her yelling at her. My dad told my sister not to associate with me because im a “delinquent” now. Also ive been having random family members i barely even soeak to randomly texting me about meeting ip because she keeps calling everyone and their mom about me blocking her and why im doing this and all our business. She literally calls my friends and their parents crying to them. Its annoying but i will just block and avoid i shouldnt feel obligated to keep going back just because shes crying again im done going back its always the same thing. I know a part of me still feels bad but i refuse to give into the guilt trip. Im happy right now i need to stay this way i wont let her ruin it a

[@melodyrose6380]

My mother has never defended me in my life. Looking back i want to cry. I’ve tried everything

[@pollytheparrot8929]

Same here😢.. We deserve better

[@mpr4christ1980]

Same here. When I was a teenager... and yes, I was behaving badly back then, but still there was no excuse for this... when my selfish, uncaring dad picked me up one day to visit, she actually told him IN FRONT OF ME, "That's not my son; that's YOUR asshole son!" I don't care what she claims today; her behavior towards me is evidence that she still feels that way and that I'm a mistake she made with him when they were still married. 😭

[@melodyrose6380]

@@mpr4christ1980 I’m glad you’re out of that toxicity now

[@mpr4christ1980]

@@melodyrose6380 I'm actually not. We're sharing an income-based apartment together, and it's killing me from the inside out 😭

[@tamariandixon8539]

Neither has mine.

[@evera_]

There was absolutely no relationship with my mom and no possibility of a healthy communication with her whatsoever. And she never took responsibility for all the ways she abused me and would just continue to do so. Took me more than 40 years to realize that I didn't have to enable this anymore. I've been no contact for months now. It's not easy but I know it was the right thing to do. I'm even moving out of town! I'm on a path to healing. Thank God I have Jesus!

[@gfw2293]

Awesome! Same thing happened to me. Took me forever to move away. It was the best thing I ever did, but I so regret not doing it much, much, sooner. Best of luck :)

[@loricalloway6433]

I was 40 when I finally went no contact with my abusive mother. It felt like the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders. Soon after I cut my mom off I divorced my husband and even more weight was lifted off my shoulders. It’s been 13 years since then and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life. No regrets whatsoever 🥰

[@littlelambs7044]

Amen!! My husband is in the same boat. His mom cannot be reasoned with and everything is always his fault. She verbally abused him, me, and our kids.

[@Timenow1]

@evera_ I kid U not, I had to double check to see if this was my comment (except I'm 50 yrs old & I just learned the Reason why I suffered all my life😢) cuz your story is IDENTICAL to mine (except age of course) Jesus Definitely Has Got Us! 🙏💕 Stay Safe in Jesus & on the path to Healing both Spiritually & Emotionally ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@tompaul2591]

Why do any of you think it took us until our 40s or 50s to stop this behavior? I am 53 and finally put an end to it. I saw the signs much much earlier but never really knew how to put it in to words. Plus, when talking to friends, they always say come on, that's your mom. She doesn't hate you. You have to call her, go see her, take care of her etc. Do you think it's just the expectations that society puts on people, or the whole honor thy father and mother nonsense? I tried to confront my mom once before but to no avail. She would laugh everything off or say I was making it up.

[@localwalker5696]

I walked away 2 years ago absolutely no regrets ..

[@angelakralicek5541]

Me too. I feel so much better.

[@VanillaVlog4u]

Me too, i walked away and havent talk to my mom for 8 months, i feel better

[@iamcolettestyles]

Me to it’s been 2 years

[@candygirl1990]

My mother and me are done. She criticizes me constantly, called me a liar when I told her I was suffering with anxiety and depression. I'm even on pills for my condition. And she told me last week I'm ugly because I don't wear make up, and also she has said I dress like a clown? I have had enough, and as of today I'm walking away from her forever. No choice because she is making my anxiety and depression much worse. I feel relieved to be away from her. There is nothing left now, I just want peace from her. She treats my sister like the golden child, and never does this to her. But with me she can't stop being nasty about me and my life ❤❤

[@mareezy]

Good move and thank God you can walk away. Let your sis take care of her when she's old. I don't have that luxury. I need to walk away from her but I'm also the only one that helps my mom. Even though she is always making me want to cry. And let me tell you, I'm 36, ivy league grad, dentist, mom of 2, wife, don't drink, don't smoke, no drugs. I try to be a good person and still, even with alllllllll of that, she criticizes me constantly, puts me down, and is always putting me at the verge of tears. If I was a bad person, I'd understand. But I've always tried to be a good person and do the right thing. Probably because she always criticized me since little.

[@MsDera81]

@mareezy You can walk away too, you know. You should tell her that under no circumstances will you allow her to verbally abuse you in that way. If she does it again, especially if she NEEDS YOU, then you just simply remind her, strike 1, strike 2, and after strike 3, completely disappear. And do not entertain any other family that would try to talk you into going back. You are grown and you are not obligated to be in ANY relationship where you are miserable.

[@ashleyluna1735]

Sorry to hear that.

[@ashleyluna1735]

​@@mareezysorry to hear that.

[@b235r]

How are you now? ❤

[@sparkledejager1965]

A true narcissistic mom will never validate your feelings. I tried all your suggestions and was met with absolute indifference.

[@pollytheparrot8929]

Yea soo true.. Same with mine😢

[@sparkledejager1965]

@@pollytheparrot8929 at least it all finally makes sense. Catch 22 tho.

[@meIomana]

Same with mine

[@emmalouie1663]

100% 100% 100% YES

[@mistiquefire3462]

Purely vindictive

[@angelagunter7359]

Lived this for 53 years. No other recourse than having to go no contact.

[@NYCSouthernGirl1]

Same here. But after 53 years of narcissistic abuse it's time

[@annebanda9797]

Yep! Sometimes they are so set in their ways that there is nothing you can say or do. I live it everyday and I don't know how to get out of my situation

[@CarlitaCosmetics]

My mom is set in her ways and she feel like she’s above apologizing. And she’s a great manipulator. I had to make the decision to walk away.

[@tompaul2591]

@@annebanda9797 you leave if you can.

[@JJ-qt8hh]

53 years? You look amazing! I'm so sorry you endured this disrespect for so long. Hope you're flourishing and happy ❤

[@sharober1]

When i was 46, i finally went no contact with my mother. This affected my relationship with my entire family so the no contact eventually extended to all of them. I hate that i lost who i was....daughter, aunt, niece, granddaughter, cousin, sister. She was so malicious. She died a year ago in December and i felt relief...not even sadness, just relief.

[@isobutylquinoline]

Cheers. You did the right thing. Sad with the family thing, but they've been twisted and manipulated for years as well and the cancer has spread. Have zero regrets and zero guilt. She should be the one feeling guilty for her behavior, but of course that probably never happened even at the end. You know it and I know it.

[@GinKirk7256]

Mothers thruout the centuries have been viewed, and even idolized, as loving, nurturing, supportive, sacrificial. When you have a mother that is not, you feel jipped! Others have a hard time believing you when you seek help. If they refuse to acknowledge your profound pain and suffering, you won’t get help carrying your immense burden! They are gaslighting you just as your mother is!

[@marianneali1735]

I agree Ginny, perhaps childhood friends and friends of youth, though will surprise you with their support and solidarity because they love you and because of what they witnessed in the past and their readiness to acknowledge your cry, only seemingly in the desert

[@faithhopelove7156]

There are good mothers out there. For those who didn’t have good mothers, sadly the cycle continues. But to the ones who God makes as cycle breakers. Those people break generational curses.

[@SeptMG7]

Not credit enough are given to excellent fathers and there are many!!!!!

[@ChrissyHomeschooling]

Mothers are more toxic then we acknowledge and we always wonder why the fathers run away

[@dacaro922]

Girl 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sugaboop7893]

OOP

[@chubbypanda3398]

Omg 😂😂

[@rebeccajohnson7864]

Sad but oh so true.

[@thulisilemlotshwa7917]

True 🤣🤣🤣

[@ChristIsKing-g8s]

You have just summed up my life. On every point you made. My mother is a chronic liar, master manipulator, and always has to be in control of every situation and every person. I could never talk to her, never feel comfortable around her, the last time I was with her, she made me physically ill. When I was little, i was always sick. Always going to see the dr. i used to pull my hair out. I also always was nervous and at the age of 12, I started suffering with anxiety and panic attacks. As an adult, I always had chronic bronchitis, ulcers, physical pain. I was always accused of being a hypochondriac, but it was a physical result of being around her toxicity. It has been about 10 years that I did not have to be around her daily. Only on the holidays. And the holidays were ALWAYS a huge stress ball for me. Everything was always wrong. Nothing ever made her happy. So sad that a mother, someone who is supposed to give comfort to her child can do just the opposite. I always wanted her to love me, I always wanted a relationship with her. But in my old age now, I realize I will never have that. Your videos help me so very much.

[@Kris_Reece]

I'm sorry to hear of what you've gone through but I'm so glad the videos are helping you. Thanks for watching Lisa.

[@mirnacudiczgela1963]

Now you made me think that my constant stomach problems I had as a little girl were due to stress my mother caused me. She was very demanding and ambitious when it came to school.

[@titaa56]

I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that. Just know that it’s good to know when a mother genuinely loves and cares for you, but even more important to know that you do not need anyones confirmation or validation of love to know your worth. You alone are more than important. And if you genuinely know what love is and entails, you will unselfishly show it onto others and those worthy of your love, will gravitate towards you. But all in all, you alone, are worth it. I send you love sweetheart ❤

[@mirnacudiczgela1963]

@@titaa56 Thank you so much. Yes, I know Jesus loves me truly.

[@gfw2293]

I'm so sorry... same type of thing happened to me. My advice is to give it to God & move on mentally as best as you can.

[@IamKlaus007]

Psychological damage to a child from a toxic parent or parents is significant and CAN be addressed by a professional if recognised by the affected individual. If not, the damage remains and spills into personal relationships outside the family. Friends, relatives, co-workers and future partners can all be affected by an individual who has unresolved toxic parental damage.

[@msphotogenic]

Yes my blood pressure gets high when I deal with my mother . I’m going full low- contact on my terms ONLY

[@kaykay5605]

No contact is the better option.

[@derekmaullo2865]

A effort dude. Best wish ever​@@kaykay5605

[@maribellemorales7470]

This was timely for me. Thank you. I have decided a no contact with my mother. The toxicity is extreme. Makes me sad but I’m ready to move on.

[@ritaruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu]

Hi, its been a year since you made this comment. Did you go no contact? Are you happier?

[@maribellemorales7470]

@@ritaruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu yes. anxiety has definitely decreased. I’m focusing on my own family. It has been for the best.

[@downtomarz7835]

I feel like everyone pushes no contact but I just choose to be distant from my mom. We talk fairly frequently but she’s not really involved in my life, and I prefer it that way. Recently I made the foolish mistake of being open with her about things I was going through and I deeply regret it cause my mother gossips too much. It’s one of my biggest frustrations with her. My mom also throws things and mistakes I’ve made in my face when she’s mad at me. Which is why I deeply regret telling her cause I’m sure she’ll do it again when she’s mad at me or trash talk me. All in all it’s easier to live far from her and only keep our relationship surface level because she’s made it clear she is incredibly abusive and violent towards me for no reason.

[@itsYourChance]

Mines a stalker, bully, cusses people out without cuss words. Narcissistic,jealous. Tried to be nice and deal with her. But not worth it. Everything goes wrong when shes near. Never knew a more gossiping bitter person. Too toxic. She's not rational so it's not the kind of person you can work with. She likes to cause problems on purpose something is wrong.Not only does it affect physically but it has become a spiritual attack. There's something demonic now moves through her. When a parents like this sometimes God's saying just get away

[@natashaj9169]

Oh I believe this too! Because when I'm around her it's like the oxygen has been sucked out from the air and everything goes dark.

[@hearme4581]

It’s the draining me for years. My whole life is was surrounded around taking care of her.

[@mariangie17burgos20]

After 45 years of dealing with a toxic mother I reached a time to investigate why she never changes her ways with me. I realized that after math of every time she comes around is like it took me a while to detox from her toxicity. These moms and not all are the same even if they are many miles away they can hurt us badly with their wrong ways towards you. Highly bad for you to mind them. I closed on her today by blocking and telling my siblings not to notify me on anything to do with her. Thanks for the video.

[@Is43109]

As a Mum whose daughter has gone no contact with me for 4 years now, I really want to fix the relationship with her. I am a Christian but this did not prevent me from acting in a lot of toxic ways toward my daughter. Some of this was patterns of behaviour learned from my own mother and the unhealed hurts that I had. Some was from my own selfish tendencies and more. But I was blind to what I was doing and didn't realise the harm I was inflicting. This was all complicated by the fact that she had undiagnosed disorders which affected her behaviour. It is very true that '' Hurt people , hurt people'' - the unhealthy cycle just goes around and around down the generations. Because my daughter went ''No Contact'' with me I have been on a long and painful journey of grief and increasing self awareness and I realise that am mostly to blame for the situation. As a Christian and a mother I continue to pray for restoration and healing of the relationship. I write this to encourage other mothers to be willing to take an honest look at their behaviour no matter how painful this is. God will give you the grace to do so.

[@emilyperez6770]

As a daughter who has dealt with a non Christian toxic mother all my life, reading this made me cry. I hope you realize how brave you are to not only become aware of your toxic behavior but to also admit it, something I’ve prayed for my mom to do many times, for her to finally see my side and feel resentment for her toxic behavior that has caused me lots of anger and pain. I’m 18 years old now and I’ve learned to grieve the idea of having that motherly relationship that I’ve always craved, I now only rely on God and I’m so thankful for how far he’s brought me all by myself! Also, I’m praying for you and your daughters relationship. If he hasn’t already, I know God will bring yall back together if it’s truly in his will. I pray he restores y’all’s relationship, and blesses it in all possible ways. Thank you for your comment God bless❤🙏🏻

[@Is43109]

@@emilyperez6770 Thankyou for your prayers, I really appreciate them. It is almost 5 years now and we are still estranged but I believe that she will come back first to Jesus and one day she will seek to reconcile with me. I've come to realise that we both need to submit to the work of God in our lives in order to have a healthy relationship and I encourage you to keep walking with Jesus and He will reveal more and more of Himself and His will for your life. He is our strength and comfort. God bless you so much and thankyou for your comment.

[@PirateWench]

I pray for you and your daughter God heals all wounds

[@bebirah2306]

I hope you are miserable for the rest of your life .ure only feeling sorry cuz she walked away...shame on you.. live with it..I don't feel sorry at all

[@rinalestari1733]

@@Is43109 apologize to your daughter, she will forgive you.

[@vangothengirl]

My mom and I used to be best friends, so as I got older and realized her hitting me, calling me a lot of horrible names (primarily stupid, and ones that have cuss words), always asking me for money since I was in elementary school, guilt tripping me, shaming me, never liking anyone I've dated, disregarding my thoughts and feelings, treating me like a child as an adult, crossing my boundaries, and worst of all making me so sick I ended up in the hospital even the ER many times. In 2018, I started to realize how unreasonable she was and last June cut ties with her completely. No visitation, calls, emails, nothing. I gave her so many chances to recognize and change her bad behavior and she just wouldn't. If anything, she's gotten worse. She's told me since I was little she never wanted to see me again and as an adult, she said if I ever came over, she'd have me arrested. Guess she got her wish 🤷So, enough was enough and I walked out of her life permanently. I have no need or desire to ever reconcile with her and other toxic relatives, past toxic friendships, etc. It's 100% on her that she won't change for the better. She's almost 50 years old, if she hasn't changed by now, she never will. The crazy part is, she's the one who introduced me to Jesus and made fun of me for continuing to follow Him as an adult! She makes absolutely no sense and is the most unstable person I have ever met. I've been reparenting myself since before I cut ties. She hasn't felt like a mom for a long time. I honestly wish I never met her. No mom is much better than a toxic one. Not sure if God is ever going to answer my prayers to bring her back to Him, but I have peace knowing I did everything I could and it wasn't my fault. I don't have to keep blaming myself. My life has immense peace since I've left 💕🕊️

[@shaz3028]

Waw, feel for you reading that.🤤 She sounds like being around her full on gas lighting could really play with your head. May God continue to protect, provide, direct and reveal His unconditional love for you.💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 God bless you abundantly. 🌈🍇🌷 Shalom🕊🌹🌿

[@vangothengirl]

@@shaz3028 Thank you for your kind words, it's very much appreciated 🙏 I hope God continues to work wonders and miracles in your life and never fails to pour out all His conditional love towards you no matter what happens, in Jesus mighty name Amen 🙏💕🕊️

[@Corinna_Schuett_GER]

@@vangothengirl If it ONLY was to use her to bring YOU to Jesus Christ, God chose her well for a reason. Proverbs 16:4 🙏 Blessings your way!

[@deborahgonzalezknight168]

I think it is ironic and for sure is the grace of God that she introduced you to Jesus. But we know He even uses donkeys. Xxxx

[@barbarabouchard8325]

I could never say no to my toxic mother. She destroyed me and everyone in my family. She was so full of hate that you would never talk back. Everyone she would meet, got the whole story of her terrible daughter. Her children were supposed to live with her for the rest of your life and hand over your paycheck to her. As you had no money how could you get away? My older brother was going to be married and she said to me "I would rather see him dead, than married to that girl". (She never met her.) I still am not over the nightmare I lived thru. When she died, I cried for her about 2 minutes. Being relieved that she could not hurt any of us again. All the damage she did to us. I believe she was truly evil. I pity her. Love to all the daughters who lived thru this. Some escaped and some stayed. There is life beyond the nightmare.

[@pasanglamusherpa2848]

I can understand

[@simonehawthorne2647]

They make everyone one around them fking stupid...it honestly p•••es me off!!!

[@demetrickcaldwell6124]

This is the story of my life! And this can be so overwhelming because the "villain" can even play the "victim" so well and even get ahead of the narratives to cover up their toxic behavior .it's like they can take away every "argument" they think you would have and use it against you until you no longer have the energy or vitality of mind to even know where to begin to verbally defend yourself this can have a deadly impact on a person's pysche

[@simpleton2090]

Oh my gosh I a, so at that point. I don’t know where to even begin to defend myself. At this point I don’t even care if the people she has lied to about me hate me.

[@b235r]

I cant help my mother see herself. It does not matter if I use the truth as protection against her lies. My mother is not only lying to me, she’s also lying to herself. I go crazy when I try to argue with her. No one else on this planet can make me feel this way. I would never let anyone else make me feel this way. And now it’s time for me to take a big step away from her. It hurts me so much, I even doubt if it’s the right thing to do. I want to honor my mother for Gods sake. Isnt that the right thing to do? But I have tried so much and I can’t do this anymore. I need to do something, its time I think….but the guilt…

[@natashaarango2679]

I have gone down this path multiple times in my life with my mom, but in the end I cannot just cut ties with her, because she has made so many sacrifices for my younger brother and I. It just breaks my heart thinking to just drop her because she has mental health issues and a lot of childhood trauma.

[@natashaj9169]

It is very hard.

[@GHO5tMod3]

I agree

[@donnellholmes4246]

You have a different situation there. Love her but be mind of what you are dealing with.. She probably didn't know how to deal with stress of caring for you and your brothers. Key words in your statement is that she sacrificed for you guys. So she cared for you but maybe just didn't deal with having alot on her plate. I'm no one special but I hope my words to you help. Donnell Holmes

[@NyamekaMawisa-c4m]

Just gone no contact with my abusive mother since my childhood,im now 60years ,its 3months of no contact it was difficult Thank God i did it

[@THEMATRIXCORP]

Thank you

[@elliewithg]

My mother is so toxic that im becoming like her subconsciously. That’s why I'm scared to become a mother. I know Hurt people hurt people. This toxic crazy cycle ends with me.

[@mareezy]

Good job 😊 same here but I chose to be a momand do everything I craved when I was little. AKA I love my kiddos so much and do so much for them. They are thriving now😊

[@menzoueda2931]

I would at least try therapy then, because I feel the same. I can out of the blue become very cold and heartless. But I want to have fixed this before I have kids, so I'm gonna try therapy😊

[@missco2820]

You can become a mother and not pass on the problem. I'm living proof. Good luck 🙂🌷 my mum is in a nursing home now and she still tells me off for not looking my best. ☹️ I have to limit my time with her as I'm so drained after seeing her.

[@iamcolettestyles]

Exactly why I don’t have any kids cause I don’t want to be like my mom

[@Happyheretic2308]

Oh thank god it's not just me...

[@MTASAHM]

We’ve recently had to leave the church I’ve known all my life to escape my toxic mother. She has been silent treating me for almost 2 years but using church as a means to see my kids. She was also using it as an opportunity to plead her case to my kids and make me seem like the bad guy. I’m thankful for a congregation that was sad to let us go but didn’t stop us from going.

[@marieclaudelatour8542]

not only mothers, fathers as well. I am learning the low contact and learning to keep a lot of things to myself. It is very difficult.

[@BoundariesNOW]

It's not easy but takes practice. It is the wisest thing you can do. Low contact and eventually maybe even No contact. Good luck. 💜

[@badgrand]

So hurtful that we aren’t even able to share our feelings/ things going on in our lives without it immediately being gossiped about.

[@TropicalRedFlower]

God bless you Kris 💗 I had to implement low contact by email with my mom, like you said they always blame you for the state of the relationship, it's unbelievable! However, I have more peace now and I'm healing a lot faster but I'll tell you there is no greater pain than realizing this reality. I divorced a malignant narcissist and that was painful but listen, having to protect yourself from your own mom? This is a sadness and a void that accompanies you all throughout your life, and when you see other healthy families sharing and loving each other, IT HURTS. 💔

[@Kris_Reece]

I'm so sorry Ruth.

[@monicas.1303]

Non sei sola, hai l'amore di tante persone nella stessa tua situazione. Compresa me 🤗💖 italian

[@michelleullrick4547]

I have heard that the older a narcissist gets, the WORSE they WILL become. My mom is 83. Yes, she is elderly. But STILL not too old to be verbally, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and yes at times physically AND Spiritually abusing me. I am 46. I am married. No children, but still. I recently had to go no contact with her. Long long story but basically there was tons of berating, belittling, name calling, etc from her. I even told her she never listens to me or believes that I know what I am talking about and her response was this very childish, "OOOOHHHH BOOOOO HOOOOO POOOOOR MIIIICHELLLLE!!! GET OVER IT!!!" I hung up on her and have not spoken to hear since. This happened about 6 or so weeks ago. I hate that the holidays are coming up, but I just cannot deal with her anymore. Yes, she is elderly, but she IS "all there" when it comes to her mind . She is VERY smart still and cognitive and lives alone in her own house and drives, etc. Yes, she has had each hip replaced and had major back surgery in 2018 BUT .... she is all healed from all that and walks great and is over all a VERY young 83 year old. I "used to" be on her medical list of people to call. She took me off of that. So, there is VERY little I can do. I have a brother who lives in California, but .... again he is in California. Plus he is 14 years older than I am. She does live alone, but again, seems to get along good. I'm sure this is ripping her up, but there has never been any sign of repentance from her. Everything is always everyone else's fault. Especially mine. I would be there to help her medically but she becomes a tyrant even in those moments. Her "needs" instantly become unrealistic demands. I live about an hour away......so being "right there" at her every whim is not always necessary. I do love her as she is my mom, but I am in this "struggle" with going "no contact" . I never thought I had have to make this decision, but many have confirmed that I am doing the right thing. That adult children are NOT to be an extension of the parent, but a separate entity growing into who God made me. I also know there is scripture in Matthew 10:35-38 where Jesus says that if we love mother/daughter, father/son more than Him, He cannot use us and we cannot be His disciple and follow Him . Well, I long to be His follower for once in my life. So..... I do believe God is in this. He is with me, AND with my mom. I have forgiven her. I do pray for her. I have accepted she is likely to never change unless God moves in her in a majestic way. But to be there for her medically .... especially since she took me off the HIPAA list .... I really can't do much.

[@tompaul2591]

So true. My mom is 92 and lives alone, drives, one hip replacement etc. The verbal quickness of delivering negativity to me is astonishing! She has gotten worse ever since my dad died 15 years ago. Nobody to keep her in check. Nothing pleases her, everything I do is wrong, and I too am often called stupid. She has accused me of taking things I didn't and when she found them I never got an apology. She has told me she has given the other kids more money than me, etc. No contact has worked for me for about 4 months now. I expect something in the future from her but I will definitely not hold back like so many therapists say to. I will say my one final peace to her backed by facts so she knows I am on to her and leave it in her court. Hopefully there is a witness there so she can't skew the truth.

[@mareezy]

Similar situation here but unfortunately, I live 15 mins from my mom. She has a mental illness and I feel bad for her, she has nobody else. She pushed everyone away. She has always done extreme guilt trips. She doesn't take care of her health so I know she will need help and have nobody. I don't know what to do.

[@sunflowers6172]

My mom uses God and her beliefs to say things against me

[@b235r]

@@mareezyhow are you now if I may ask? ❤

[@mareezy]

@@b235r I'm ok, thank you for asking. My mom was born in 1955 and she's still relatively healthy, I'm glad. Things have improved, not sure how but they have!

[@CamCam99206]

My mum is toxic & sometimes knows it, other times is oblivious. People are slowly turning away from her, even with losing people around her she is unable to stop the me me me victim complex & enjoy life. She had a horrible upbringing & sad childhood but chose not to do anything about it or get proper therapy to tackle it head on. She’s nice one minute, then abusive the next, usually when she can’t get your undivided attention or don’t do things her way, any form of boundary or holding them accountable. She smothers her kids & I myself am nearly 40. As soon as she first meets my partners, she creates a narrative & tells everyone why she’s decided they’re not right for me. My father & myself/siblings all have developed chronic health conditions all linked to long term emotional distress

[@staywell7217]

My mother is broken from childhood, which she is in denial as she had a father who had multiple families. She is always in the church. She emotionally and verbally abused my father, and after he died, began emotionally abusing me and my sister. She is self-centered, toxic, and always a victim. The only way she tries to stay viable is to pay for ever everything when we're home or to give money. She can't be trusted with anything we tell her, because she will use it against you...using religion or "prayer". I'm not enough if I'm not married or have kids, as "she prays for God to bless me as I should be blessed". It's so damn sickening and I'm tired of this.

[@fabulousfamily564]

Are you my sibling?? You just described my life. I am married and have kids, but my mom acts like I don't have faith in God because I won't have any more. I literally almost died in childbirth, and she acts like she's holy because she always had kids in spite of danger.

[@lizcuero9065]

I got used to it. No job no friends but God is so good! I am content in different creative ways.

[@staceylynn7749]

Thank you so much for this video and for your channel. My mother is a minister, along with my step-father. Throughout my whole life, I have experienced emotional/ mental abuse from her as well as some physical abuse at times during my teen years. I finally had the guts to cut her off 4 years ago. I was the last of 4 children to do so, my brothers have not spoken to her for over 20 years. I love to see the scripture in your videos because, since I cut off my mother, she and my step father will often try to communicate with me and use scripture to show that I am the bad one and that I am "going to hell" for cutting her off. but in watching your videos, I know that is not true, and you even have scripture to back it up. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! you are such a blessing to me when I really need it.

[@isobutylquinoline]

Sounds like a fun childhood. No contact, permanently.

[@reenashivakumar5449]

This comment section feels like a warm hug ❤🥹

[@Freethnkr]

No one deserves to be abused or neglected, and God isn't telling me to tolerate it either. I love my mother but not her ways, but I gotta accept who she is while I also navigate my healing and realizing she will never change and my peace is priceless. Wish her the best, but I gotta move on.

[@iamcolettestyles]

It’s been 2 years of no contact of my mother and I’m 43 years old I’m glad I left I’m so much at peace

[@valerieshy8749]

Such great advice! I have a wonderful relationship with my mother, but have extended family who behaves exactly as you describe in this video. It's very disturbing. I appreciate your insight presented here.

[@MeOhMyOh2324]

My mother was not toxic but I have a sister who is. I’ve been listening to these toxic series and they describe her perfectly. I tried to hang on to our relationship for over 25 years of our adult relationship. When her physical abuse of our parents started, I walked away. I took my mom with me as my father soon passed away. I haven’t spoken to my sister in over 8 years and have grappled with this. But she hasn’t changed. Her children have walked away. Her family is in shambles.

[@mareezy]

You are lucky it's your sister and not your mom. Not as bad. You can just cut off communication

[@MeOhMyOh2324]

@@mareezy yes I am but it’s still sad and hard to watch her children suffer.

[@mareezy]

@@MeOhMyOh2324 good point. Sorry to hear that. Good thing her children were able to walk away.

[@MeOhMyOh2324]

@@mareezy yes I pray they can find healing

[@Glowngstrzz]

Thank you Kris, I needed to watch this. It nearly costed my life to realize my mom was manipulating me to believe she was right and that her decisions were correct. I was kind of fooling myself not wanting to believe the fact that all she tried to impress was other people, and even when my husband pointed out to me that she was using me for the money I sent her monthly, sometimes even asked more than the regular amount we agreed on I denied and talked in favour of her. At some point when I realized she was using my innocence, I tried to overdose and had a couple of meftal tablets altogether without thinking of my children - 11 months and 4yr old boys. My husband really broke out and even hit me hard out of fear and shame on what I have done. And he yelled at me saying, its all because of your mother - and I understood deep inside already that yes, he was right. He was always right - I just didn't want to accept it until that moment as I couldn't voice out the fact that I was beeing fooled. Two days I waited to see if I was going to be alive - I got severe headache, upset stomach, yellow eyes etc. but thanks to Almighty, my children got their mom back. I still feel much guilty on what I did that night. Now I have gone to a 'No contact' phase, she is living in a different country so she is kind of believing its due to some other pressure that I have blocked her from social media and everywhere. But the reality is, I am now convinced she was infecting me, but I don't want to let her know this. And I feel a great level of peace now - I started to love my husband and kids with a fresh start now. I don't have to please anyone anymore.

[@justsewit_tk5477]

I'm so thankful to you for doing this video. I had to go no contact with my mother 5 years ago because I couldn't handle the abuse anymore. It wasn't just one but my husband and my children. I called mum out for hitting my son and she down played it saying it was only a little tap - my 11 year old son was howling! I proceeded to try and calm him down but had mum berating me, tell me I was sending him mixed messages. It was when she claimed the grandmothers took precedence that I heard a voice in my ear saying "time to go" and so I told my son to pack his thing that we we're leaving and we weren't going to hang around to be on the receiving end of this anymore. So I packed up the children (my two youngest) and the majority of our things, put them all in the car and as I got in mum said to me "You're not always right!" to which I ignored her. I drove the 5 hours journey home after a very long day (I had just attended my estranged father's funeral) and I had had little sleep the night before. All I wanted was to get my babies to safety. The trouble with mum is that she doesn't know how to step back. She takes over EVERYTHING and it does interfere with my life - parenting, my relationship with my husband, my self esteem, my confidence and my individuality. On the way home I prayed and cried and I kept hearing comforting words "You've done the right thing." I'm not sure if this was my voice of God's and but I am confident HE told me it was time to leave. Since then, I have not engaged. I did have to go back a month later to collect the rest of my things where I was met with mother giving me a very good impression of a sullen child and her passive aggressive silent treatment. I also had aeration from my step father. It was then that I put my house key on the cabinet in the entryway and left! I have had well meaning and ignorant people in my family and at church tell me that I need to see my mother. On Sunday I had a cousin tell me this and in the next breath she told me that God will tell me. HE already has! He saw me go through a tough childhood and to have consistent abuse welling my adult years. He has seen me struggle to be the good and loving daughter only to have the backlash and he has seen me become ill both mentally and physically as a result. Next month my son will be confirming his faith and no doubt she will be there. We are now working on ways to protect ourselves further so that we can all enjoy the day and celebrate this special moment in our son's faith journey.

[@PuenteFamily]

I’m suffering in silence. I’ve tried (years ago) to confront her… and it backfired because she made me look crazy and uneducated. I’m 30 now and just dealing with it while she smears my name and everyone just thinks I’m a horrible person. It hurts. When I finally come forth I know I’m gonna be met with backlash from family bc she’s such a saint to them and a victim of my abuse. If they only knew…

[@freeofusmartinez5199]

I had to walk away from my mother in law after 20 years I realized she was a manipulative narcissistically Christian mother in law. I couldn’t take it anymore she started doing it to my kids. I finally stopped talking to her and now she’s trying to put my husband her son in the middle. When I’m pleasing to her I’m her daughter in love but when I’m not pleasing to her I’m your wife to my husband. Since the day I decided to stop talking to her I’ve never felt so relieved stress free not having to worry about what she’s going to say or do is amazing.

[@kathysimone6521]

So true what you have to say. It’s been 4 years for me , I finally love myself. It took a long time.

[@deborah6972]

Thanks Kris for this message. Its very helpful. I would like hearing about toxic moms who have gotten older and now appear to need care from their children.

[@Kris_Reece]

Yes, good topic and much needed. Thanks for sharing

[@GinKirk7256]

Here’s a story for ya. At age 15 I started having severe pains in my right side, such that I ended up in an ER three times, even on the morning of my graduation from high school at U Hall in Charlottesville. I went from doctor to doctor in an attempt to have my problem diagnosed. All the time my mother insisted my excruciating pain was in my head! Imagine what that did to young me, who thought everything my mother said was the gospel, psychologically! I lived with the pain an entire decade until, at age 25, undergoing abdominal surgery, my right ovary was removed. It had grown to weigh six LBs and was nine inches across. Miraculously it had not burst to allow the cancer to spread! I remember lying on the couch at home recovering when I told my mother how interesting it was that the problem in my head had been removed from my abdomen!

[@annebanda9797]

She probably denied ever saying such a thing. Growing up I had Noone to tell if I have feminine pain or issues. I was left to the wolves . It is amazing that the pain I used to have just went away over time but it was hard

[@tompaul2591]

So, what was her reaction? A denial like most of them do? My mom would say she doesn't remember saying that to you ever, or that you are making up stories, or even that your brain doesn't work right! As if! Too bad you couldn't send he your ovary in a box with a note saying here, they pulled this out of my head.

[@Soulstar717]

GUYYYSSS!!! I m turning 40 this year my parents stay with me and my dad is soooo calm & respectful. My Mother is SSSOOOO toxic it is so bad I feel mentally drained. I decided to move out end of this year even tough my finances doesnt look good & it is really not good for my son who is 14 years old. I am literally planning to move out of my own house that is paid up in full to go and pay rent somewhere else just for peace. thats how bad it is. my mom was ALWAYS possesive growing up but yet very loving & caring & my best friend. She now became my worst enemy.

[@mr.nibblenips4231]

My mom just called me a low life POS today after I just made her dinner. Such a sweet 72 old woman she is.

[@dredd1981]

So glad I watched this. Had to move in with my mother for a while after a divorce and was almost immediately reminded why I moved out in the first place. Zero empathy, controlling behavior, toxic. ......the final straw was when she accused me of not telling her about something....I was able to bring up an email which she had responded to which told her what she wanted to know....argument over, right? Wrong. She continued to insist that I didn't tell her and actively looked away when I tried showing her the email on my phone....then had a childish tantrum and refused to speak to or even look at me. My dad was a gambling asshat who nearly bankrupted the family but he was a saint for putting up with her for over 30 years. I've made the decision to cut her out of my life entirely. This leaves her literally with no one. Her own family didn't want anything to do with her and surprise surprise she has no friends, but tbh I don't care, she brought it all on herself.

[@sheilacastillo3988]

Thank you so much for advice. It really helped me a lot and made my day. All the signs that you were giving me what I’m really going with my mother unfortunately. Every day she calls me a tomboy because how the way I’m dressed, which I’m not a tomboy and she always question my sexuality and I told her I like boys I have nothing and skate people, but this is why I am. I’m not gonna hide it. And they wanna give her money she’s all nice, but then once I’m done doing her favors her mood changes very quickly and like she blames me for being born and that she didn’t have time for herself I didn’t ask you to me. you’re the one that decided to bring me into your life. Don’t start blaming me this is why some women should think about having children. If you are please do not blame the kid because it can hurt them emotionally and mentally.

[@k.s.3421]

52 years old and the youngest of three and the only sibling dealing with my mom. My eldest brother (63) has dementia and his wife keeps him away from my moms toxicity. My older brother(62) cut her off cold turkey. For 15 years I felt obligated to care for her and my abusive dad. I put my dad in a home because his care was above my qualifications. My mom wanted a senior apartment and I was trying to do as much as possible, until 11/24/23! This is the day I became sick of her belittling me and treating me like a 2 year old. This was the day she grabbed me in aggression as I was trying to walk away from her denials…. Pulling away from her tight hold was just as damaging as her lies, guilt trips, bad mouthing, and the day she set a fire in my kitchen sink and walked out the house. This was the worst Thanksgiving ever and I'm hurt. What hurts the most is that my 30 year old son witnessed our arguing over her disrespectful mouth. My son then punched 2 holes in my wall because my mother was saying somehurtful things. My son then took her home because she doesn't know when to stop with anyone. I'm hurt but I've been her enemy since birth. It's best I leave her alone for my own healing…. Now, She has no children who deal with her and out of 9 grandkids, only my son is around and he treads lightly on that! She’s toxic with her friends, sisters, and was horrible to my grandmother. One of my aunts is very religious and my mom even cussed her out one year! My mom is a piece of work!

[@dianavds6226]

Bad time to be broke. Just want to move out

[@prudencek7087]

I went to VERY LIMITED/LOW contact, and now both my aging parents are very sick physically yet still very toxic. I still keep my contact very limited and my conversations very short and neutral while trying to help them, but I do feel like I'm slowly being dragged back into the circus.🤦🏽‍♀️ How do you navigate through narcissistic, aging, sickly parents, who seem to drain every ounce of energy from you?

[@PiscesSun_Capricornrising]

make sure they have appropriate caretakers by the state. Thats about it.

[@natashaj9169]

I have gone no contact but the guilt hangs over my head.. 😢

[@quasimodo614]

I’ve limited my contact with my mum and what I talk about but she has started trying to play stories through my husband, just weird stuff. They cleverly get to you through others. It’s crazy. I’m trying to remain calm and respectful to her. I never say horrible things to her but even being around her for a bit is draining as have to constantly correct/defend what she is saying about my life or just strange things she says. It’s exhausting 😢 And yes my mum is now in her 70s and getting more illness and I find it hard to know how much help to give

[@isobutylquinoline]

Time to up the ante to no contact. No guilt, they should feel guilty but of course that will never happen. Like she said, you can't pour out what was never put in. BE STRATEGIC. Don't reveal anything because she will twist it. Gaslight why you can't be available until she finally gets the picture. Unfortunately you have to use her tricks against her. If you are straight forward and honest, she will use all of that to turn everyone against you.

[@user-cl6uj5bn2f]

Thank you for this Kris, this is 100% what I'm dealing with right now.

[@freedolphin3077]

When you cried all through your childhood, and then in adult life you barely has any emotion, there's a problem with your mother. She is the most toxic and victim playing thing I've ever seen in my life, the end, the only good thing is I despite her, and I will never act like her.

[@lizcuero9065]

I like being grateful and looking for the good. There is always goodness to be grateful for.❤❤❤❤❤

[@christopherhiller1035]

I've gray rocked my Mom since she betrayed my trust 2 years ago.

[@SharonElizabethWhitfield]

The biggest problem I have had with my mother, is that she constantly criticizes me and compares me to my brother and sister. Yet I have never been able to have a deep one on one mother daughter conversation with her. She dismisses my feelings. She tells me I am just being silly. My mother will not admit to doing anything wrong. I’m done. I tried my entire life to please her.

[@aniabrandt7]

This is the best explanation of boundaries I ever heard. So many video's on this topic but I found this advice in detail

[@2daldridge]

I spent years with panic attack at the thought of her visits. No contact has helped tremendously but now she calls my friends.

[@xxc_legacy]

Walked away 4 years ago. I was told my things will never work out but even though I am not where I am God is blessing me and my mental health is so much better

[@eloisasoto620]

Wow, I’m impressed. Just, what I needed it. Lot of work to do, but it’s a first step. Grateful for came across this video and that you address it. Thank you God bless you and give those who need it guidance.

[@GloryToGodAlmighty]

This is everything. My mom responded in an evil fashion. We live together. My father is the same. My daughter and I do our best to keep a great distance in close quarters.

[@Kris_Reece]

I pray you keep you patience and peace Nicole. Thanks for watching.

[@GloryToGodAlmighty]

@@Kris_Reece this is life changing. My mom is so different for the better. My father is different too. Thank you for your prayers! God is great

[@bakerwannabe4435]

So many chunks of wisdom in your videos. Thank you.

[@ceceliamkarzieh9211]

I have became an alcoholist because of my mother... I'm really getting to hate her

[@newadventures7222]

Thanks for the great video! I disagree though with the admonishment to not email and only talk in person when you're ready to have that very difficult conversation. I usually would agree with the need for in person difficult conversations but with a toxic (well especially a narcissistic) mother you're dealing with someone who is highly manipulative, brilliant at acting the victim and very adept at gaslighting. And as that person's child you've been programmed to respond to all of the above by giving in and believing that you're the one who is bad. There is a definite power imbalance in the relationship and in a face-to-face conversation that power imbalance will definitely arise making it unsafe for the adult child. So my husband & I emailed. It was safer for us. We went to counselling after the emailing (& the awful backlash that came from it). We are no contact at the moment & our counsellor has advised that if we ever did want to talk to her in person again that it might be a good idea to do that with him there. Although I must admit I think she could potentially pull the wool over anyone's eyes. Anyway, suffice to say, I think email is a good option in these circumstances. ☺️

[@newadventures7222]

Me again. After considering my comment, I realised that over the years we had had a few of those very difficult conversations face to face. We were able to observe her response (which were denial & "death stares" followed by a period of "behaving well" for a few weeks. Then all of the manipulation & controlling behaviour subtly returned & was ramped up) So yes, face to face first was probably a good idea. We soon learned she wasn't safe at all.

[@sdub7045]

I had to go no contact for a few months in order for God to heal me. She is raging, misusing scripture, smearing my name, and threatening me because I have placed God first in my life not her. I said no to her request to meet alone and she's having a meltdown. God recently revealed to me that his love for me is not dependent upon whether I'm making my mom happy. What an eye opener because all my life she had connected herself to God as though they were equals.

[@aniabrandt7]

I hope this video can reach much more people as the advice is in details & scriptual

[@VNBSlash]

I'm just throwing this out there it's okay to walk away and distance yourself. Sometimes it's healthier that way.

[@babybubblestudio6932]

Its a hard luck to have a not loving mother who puts you down in front of your other siblings really sad when i see other good mothers with their daughter and wonder y jesus put me through this

[@ilovemelodyjane]

I ponder only for a moment, how better my life would have been had this information been readily available 40 years ago when I was a teenager. I'm dumfounded and speechless.

[@bdenn7188]

I had to cut off my mom. She came back and couldnt even acknowledge that I had a right to be angry. It's been months. Today she tried to open lines again, and I feel bad because I laid into her as the shitty person she is. Idk why I feel bad. But I do. Her claws always dig in

[@gloriadooley3100]

This video is so helpful, as is knowing that many others are in my same situation. I don’t know anyone else in my life that had to go no contact with their mother, so that made me question myself and my feelings for a long time, and that drove me to such dark places to the point where I almost gave up on the life that God gave me. My mother was a different person behind closed doors than she was to the outside world, only I saw her without her mask, so to compound the stress of going no contact with her, I had to live with other family and friends believing is a saint and I’m a selfish, awful person. She lies and manipulates so skillfully that the rest of the world sees her as my victim and not the violent, physically and emotionally abusive monster she was to me. I never understood why she was that way to me, I lived to please her and worship her, so I had to make peace with not knowing why she abused me and make peace with nobody knowing the truth. That caused anguish, distress and loneliness in my life that I didn’t think I could live through, but I found strength and peace in prayer. It’s only been 6 months, but I am making my way from darkness and pain to a better place. I pray everyday that God gives her the strength to face her truth and her demons, but at this point, that’s all I can do for her. I lived with constant panic attacks, hair loss, emotional pain, guilt and tears everyday and I wouldn’t wish that upon my worst enemy. I feel deeply for anyone that has, or still is, living in that kind of situation, and I pray that God gives them the strength to choose themselves and save themselves.

[@marshallsobin4879]

Hey KRIS …. thank you for acknowledging that parents can be toxic, and the fine line that BELIEVERS walk in honoring THE 10 COMMANDMENTS and the realities of childhood ….my way reconciling this is realizing I’m much older now …. hopefully wiser, taking into consideration the emotional baggage my parents carried… perhaps most narscistic parents may actually thought they did the right thing at the time… also like that 1 of your videos say BELIEVERS don’t have to be push overs.

[@christinelee4780]

Four years ago, I was hospitalised with hypertension and potassium deficiency. I recovered, and I cut off contact with my toxic family, especially my mother who has been talking trash about me behind my back for most of my life

[@masoodpervaiz6044]

God has blessed you with great understanding. Keep growing and be a blessing in Jesus name amen.

[@Kris_Reece]

Thank you Masood. To God be the glory :)

[@tiinaheinikangas3936]

It is good to know, you can go low contact. Almost always people only talk about no contact.

[@nataliapola6988]

I got kicked out of my mom’s house in the middle of the shift at my work at home job. I had to explain to my supervisor what happened and it was utter embarrassment. I had to take two weeks of absence to find a place. Thank God I found a place now.. tomorrow I will be going to her house to pack my stuff up for the move. I am so scared to speak to her. Your video actually has helped me figure out what I’m gonna have to do.

[@DuckTickler]

People are easy to walk away from when they are dead.

[@Livelovelaugh4201]

I keep thinking I have to put up with it as best I can while she’s alive but what I’m more ashamed of is the thought that I will be able to heal when she does pass. Part of me is looking forward to it 😢 makes me so sad because there isn’t anything I would love more than to have a healthy mother daughter relationship while she’s around. I have always craved that from her but I know that will never happen. It’s who she is. Her health isn’t good. I still get very angry at her when she treats me like a child and then I feel bad. Because I know it’s not her fault. I’ve tried talking to her more times than I can count. I’ve cried, yelled, begged and everything in between but it just doesn’t click for her and I feel gaslit. 😢 I’m just so tired of it but I have kids of my own and I don’t want to take them away from her. They don’t want to go to her place so she has to come over to see them. Just really wish I could walk away from her forever. 😢

[@juanpisdomrey5653]

Thank you so much for clearing my thoughts with your video. God bless you! ❤

[@debraboldan7372]

Thank you so much- I am done with the life long toxic comments(I wish I never had you, I hate you, I should have flushed you down the toilet, you are crazy I did not say that, etc.) I am 67 years old and I do not know why it took me so long to walk away, but I finally did and I am so much more happy.

[@Tarotblackcat]

my mother abusive mentally called me b#tch and useless many times I would walk away if I had more money....and could live somewhere else.

[@aniabrandt7]

Countless video's advising to break the contact for some time or break the contact totally but scriptures teaching us balance and acting accordingly to the situation. Great video

[@sunflowers6172]

I went no contact then tried again and she said that “ I was so sensitive as a child and I have never been able to receive criticism “. My husband left me and I was reaching out and all she can talk about is herself and my sister.

[@really5453]

You are not too sensitive

[@anthonymusso5282]

My toxic mother in law recently ruined my marriage, my wife left me and can't see how her mom destroyed our marriage. It's sad how my wife adores and runs to this person. I could understand if i was a crappy husband but i know im a good man

[@TanieBaker]

Very familiar topic for me. Great video. Thank you!!

[@Kris_Reece]

Thanks for watching Tanie

[@kendrahornedeagle9459]

This is my mom and grandma to the Tee! It's painful❤ I walk around with a lump in my throat and I was the blame for everything😢 I would try to vent them and they would tell me "there she goes being nuts again" and I'd tell the doctor said this for mental health and they would say "Doctors only want your money" 😢😮

[@robertmcgirr401]

Wish I could have learned these things years ago. Destroyed me, my life. Stress, constant anxiety cause a stroke. After which I survived, a nervous breakdown. A demon that demands worship. Only God has saved me.

[@lindds5398]

I hope there is a video on toxic fathers!

[@Kay-hg2vo]

My mother had heavy narcissistic traits, Dad was an enabler and we never felt that he protected us from her. Narc and Enabler one is just as bad as the other.

[@sidlicious089]

I am not am all out Christian but... you are amazing. Thank you.

[@pujarajwani4407]

I’m nearly there. I just have four more months to go till she moves out and I leave the country. I looked after her after my father died suddenly as I felt bad for her. No longer. She’s destroyed my self esteem and drained my bank account. There will be no contact after that and I can’t wait to be myself again.

[@majesticakitas1626]

I’m 61 years old I to go no contact with my mom I just can’t take it anymore the stress it has affected my health , just tried to get me fired this weekend she can’t except when I say no.

[@yIsThisMyName]

I'm following this only changing the roles of mother being toxic to the child being toxic. You can substitute husband and wife either way as well.

[@Seetweedle]

Amazing you just answered everything I prayed about before watching this word. Thankyou now I'm going to prep and choose the Christian Cousllser 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@warrenbradford2597]

I need to go. My mother lied to me that my grandmother was the one that throw things. She is still doing that with my younger brothers.

[@takhemaziya]

My mom is very toxic, every time I am at home with her I lose weight. EVERYTIME. She has treated my siblings and I horribly for as long as I can remember. At this point it is not healthy to keep her in my life. Thank you for this❤

[@sheesh939]

Thank you for the words, are very helpful. Just seconds ago my toxic mother came to yell at me again at my bedroom room and that it's just too stressful.

[@anne-hz7hc]

I just did this a month ago April 2024. Been through this for years. It was affecting my health . Control, mental abuse, scornful, will not except boundaries and more. Even down to the cloths that I wear. Nothing wrong with it, it's just because SHE don't like it. She is mentally sick.

[@terrymassie7656]

Titus 3:10 Told to Sit Down twice. Protecting my peace. Low to No contact.