Who do you THINK you are? - Dr. Gabor Maté with Diederik Wolsak and Sat Dharam Kaur ND

[@Snakefinger1000]

I've been an addict all my life, I am sixty five and just a one hour lecture from him and I am free. The man gave me validation and although I'm still an addict he told me why I am, and gave me permission to be who and what I am. God bless him.

[@rileytodd4050]

That’s good you’ve made it to 65 as an addict. I’m 28 and feel like if I make it to 65 I’m going to be very blessed

[@jazweehcom]

Yes he knows what he is talking about. Addicts seldom want to face themselvves. Even those in AA won't really do a thorough 4th step. They just can't look. Too scary. They cannot accept that fear is normal and part of the human condition. When we embrace our fear and accept and examine it..it fades away. Exposed to the light of Truth fear dies.

[@michaelcurro6217]

Me too at hi masses on opiates?

[@michaelcurro6217]

Wow...holy Steve ish

[@michaelcurro6217]

It's better byhsb hiding ahind grandma's sjirts

[@MrTigertank69]

I love Dr Mate's Voice, it's very soothing.

[@LarvaSolar]

i do too!

[@truthlivingetc88]

i hate him [ that was a joke {a poor joke but still } ]

[@ruth112]

I like it too. I agree it's soothing. (Non constantly but often, the voice reminds me of Johnny Depp's voice).

[@evannaallen8881]

He's so genuine. I love his transparency. It's so refreshing.

[@firebellymel5557]

Me too- it’s like therapy and asmr!

[@angelaleemcintyre5202]

I so appreciate Gabor's way of just being who he is, open and exposed. He is a safe person, trustworthy. He teaches humility, even though he'd be the first to say he's not humble.

[@evannaallen8881]

He's so genuine. I love his transparency. It's so refreshing.

[@CjandPepe]

I agree, he’s vulnerable.

[@amymohanty1045]

Pls dr. Mate...dont get older....people like you need to stay immortal....love

[@serafina777]

😂😂😂

[@DesireesLappeteknikk-wwwlappet]

I also feel like this with Byron Katie

[@brendayoung-kelley9133]

So much love and knowledge that we need in our world

[@wendyfay16]

This man is amazing! His face tells me just how much he has experienced in his life and that he is a truly rare, authentic person! I came across one of the videos of him speaking.... and I was blown away not only by his compassion, but his genuine understanding of the human spirit!

[@mayamachine]

Stop being so needy, it's like your not hearing him. Health comes from within.

[@maggiegarrison9220]

I have never heard the role of a parent described so simply or beautifully: Be so safe for them that they never have to disconnect from themself and manifest so much love for them that they never have to question that the universe is love.

[@Guddilove801]

Amen

[@halinafultiak4979]

Swe....we can but try to do it, we will do it better if we are connected to God Who is LOVE and the source of love. By ourself we are selfish and do it for seelf 😥💕❤️❤️🙏😍🌹

[@kathleencasey7961]

Thank you Halina

[@faithalessandri1879]

💯perfect💓

[@babeyeahsweetie]

Was thinking exactly that, only that, after watching the entire video

[@bastian6173]

I already know that I have to listen to this talk at least 5 times to get every bit of wisdom presented here. I feel these kind of talks are saving my life!

[@MaithiliKulkarni]

I'm half way through this video...., And that's Exactly how I felt!

[@CD-ci5bo]

As someone who is in recovery, I hear constantly from newly sober people that they made the decision to stop "for their children /marriage etc.". Those are the people that I know will go back out because I was one of them. I love Diederik's honestly about his drinking. The way to maintain sobriety is to understand where the pain is coming and develop that self awareness. This is the only way to stop the reactivity that emanates from the younger self. My precious children may never understand this, but I do my best to receive their resentments, anger and sadness with genuine compassion, love and empathy.

[@bastian6173]

Very true. It only works if one stops for oneself. If you stop for xyz you’re still disconnected from yourself and your pain. And what if xyz decide to leave? There goes your purpose… Great advice!

[@ashleymodder1342]

This is the most powerful discussion I have heard so far. I said the words, My mother and father are innocent and I love them and immediately I cried, felt dizzy, laid down, and told myself do not get up until you identify yourself with the infinite love that you are. When I stood up, still dizzy but kept walking and feel stronger, taller, and lighter then I have ever felt in my entire life. Thank you for your intelligence and sharing it with the world.

[@jennytaylor3324]

Trauma is created from large and small incidents, but we feel guilty about not getting over the 'small' stuff in our pasts. People generally think of trauma as car crashes, physical attack etc, but, as Marilyn Van Debur put it so succinctly, "It's not what happened, it's how it made you feel."

[@ravenofthewild]

Such respect for both of these men. Dr. Mate walks the path. I respect that even in his 70s he still does things like Diederik Wolsak's workshop for his own healing. It takes great maturity to co-host a talk with someone you know you don't fully agree with. Excellent talk. Also, I recommend checking ou/ Diederik's story because he healed from an extraordinary traumatic early life.

[@tanja7richter]

The Myth of Normal by Gabor & his Son & the book & online course Choose Again by Diederik Wolsak are amazing Healing teachers. Also reconciliation with the inner Child by Thích Nhất Hạnh. The way out is in....

[@denise2169]

“ We should ask, “Not why the addiction, but why the PAIN?’ “ Thank you, Dr Maté! Your explanations have help me change my life!

[@gizelljolie]

One cannot hear until they are ready to hear. I appreciate this conversation and learning of Mr. Wolsak through Mate. Everyone is different and that is great for variety is the spice of life. You can focus on the aspects you like from each while remembering that your inner being is the most important of all. The answer to your question is already within you.

[@diana-elena4655]

I'm 40 min into the talk and already sooo grateful I get to hear Dr Mate. He's a blessing.

[@4tom1964]

Dr. Mate. Who do you think you are.... is an awesome question. What you were describing about Pres. Trump is precisely what you were describing about yourself at the airport when you’ve lost your luggage. We all know that under anger and frustration is fear. Most of us also know that we have every actions that come out of our subconscious. That parallels what you see in our president and what you possess in the airport when your luggage is misplaced. Is it moral to demean one and not the other?

[@SunMoonDivinity]

The comment “I wouldn’t have answered the question that way” resonates the same as the father saying, “You held the rake the wrong way”. And isn’t it interesting that we tend to work or have relationships with those who are similar in behavior as our parents so that we can stand up to them by challenging ourselves so that we rise above them (their issues from their parents and so on) as well as our egos/ our little, self-sabotaging selves of trauma, fear, rejections, etc. We are worth, then, every effort to be our authentic, healed selves. Thank you very much as this was EMPOWERING!!!❤️💖🧡

[@laraoneal7284]

The earthquake happened as a young child. The AFTERSHOCKS HAPPEN AS AN ADULT.

[@jaynefahey2485]

I like this! Thanks for sharing!

[@normaodenthal8009]

This discussion is the much needed medicine for our modern age. It reminds me of a quote I came across recently: “I am not I in myself alone, but only in the self of others.” This suggests that neither our bad or our good is entirely self made, and that in judging others we are judging ourselves. I am reminded of Christ’s words: Father forgive them, for they know not what they do.

[@annag2005]

I love you, Gabor. You are an amazing human being.

[@_gongster2835]

I like the way Maté is sitting.

[@sueliddle758]

lol.. I sit like this all of the time .. I'm 53 and I just thought to myself the other day how come I never see anyone else sit like this..

[@williamisabell9539]

Yeah the child within is showing.

[@serafina777]

I always sit like this😱

[@juliedorman1858]

I've sat this way my whole life

[@daynat2349]

I've sat like that a few times....

[@onefive95]

Enjoyed hearing Dr Maté, Diederik Wolsak and Sat Dharam Kaur who all complimented each other whilst having a different and valid approach to achieving the same goal. Will watch again as I find Diederik's targeted approach at locating fear and tracing it's memory back very helpful, and more helpful still, he has a conviction to speak of what we are in truth and what my fear is concealing. His videos have helped me in studying A Course in Miracles and taking a braver and more practical approach, rather than my usual not wanting to look at the problem and hoping if I read it enough I will get beamed up by the spiritual mothership for just for being a diligent reader. Thanks Sat Dharam Kaur.

[@kundaliniyogatraining]

+John Round Thank you for your comments John. May insight transform fear. Blessings on the path.

[@doxistavrou8887]

Love Dr Mate's talks..honest, compassionate,.and thought provoking.....

[@fhhfhdfdhhdhhdfhdf138]

that's really powerful... starts at 1:35:08 about addiction/mental issues, keypoint: "... it's an experience of life and death. if my mum or my dad is not there when they are supposed to be there; i am threatened - my life is threatened. That becomes a traumatic incident." who hasn't experienced that? If that's true, very easy to see where insecurity comes from; generated from our society (parents working all the time, inefficient transport, etc.)

[@daynat2349]

That's what I thought. Then why do some people find it easy to heal. And others sabotage

[@nowpresent2167]

@@daynat2349 Differences in epigenetics endowments,supportive environments, difference between each person's type and grades,age at trauma, insight, presence of individuals of light,etc vary greatly between the said traumatic individuals.

[@ireneb3433]

Incase you're interested, here are the lyrics to IN YOUR MIND [Singer: Johnny Cash .. Songwriter: Rosanne Cash] "In Your Mind In your mind One foot on Jacob's ladder and one foot in the fire And ***IT ALL GOES DOWN IN YOUR MIND*** Livin' at the bottom of the stairs of life Never a smile knockin' on your door The air is blue and so are you Prehistoric monsters on the floor Last verse of your last song And God don't hear dead men The end of the line is in your mind Then you'll be stayin' in In your mind In your mind Bone for bone and skin for skin Eye for eye and tooth for tooth Heart for heart and soul for soul Somebody said "What is truth"? Lock it up and close it down The sound of mournin' like a dove High beyond the rattlin' roar Lookin' to the face of love [Chorus:] In your mind In your mind It all goes down in your mind One foot on Jacob's ladder and one foot in the fire And it all goes down in your mind In your mind In your mind Sunday words are back again And you eat your fundamentalist pie But just a piece you understand You get the rest up in the sky Praise and glory, wounded angels Shufflin' 'round the room Eternity is down the hall And you sit there bendin' spoons In your mind In your mind Father, Son, and Holy Ghost Sacrificial drops of pain On a silver plated cross Sanctification on a chain Thay say redemption draweth nigh The storms of silence from above Stop your ears and close your eyes And try to find the face of love" [Repeat Chorus twice] {[e-mail]} Source: Musixmatch Songwriters: Rosanne Cash

[@startinglifeat30]

Thank you.

[@Deecat88]

“You have to leave people with their eyes shining, and if their eyes are not shining you have to ask yourself who am i being.? “

[@suzettesteenberg1491]

profound

[@rul4522]

Also born in 1942 in the middle of the war, in an occupied country - and it takes my whole life to learn. I see that in essence it is exactly like Gabor and Diederrik say. 🙏

[@izjaffer7160]

Thank u 🙏🏼- I was born in a culture where boys were preferred over girls - Girls were considered a burden - I was #5 daughter followed by 2 boys & my sister older than me took out all her anger & got attention- to this day in my 50’s I work so so hard - perhaps to get attention & to matter - i try my hardest to please everyone! This talk opened my eyes - I can’t blame anyone - Thank u helping me understand me !!

[@mani-ksb]

Loved this. I love Gabors work, I'm sikh too and love to meditate so was great to listen and see this. Effective no nonsense real help, no other self help books needed to find answers. And a pleasure to listen to the other chap who spoke every truth. Respect and love from UK. Ps. I visited BC its beautiful. Bless

[@bayanbishara6666]

I just finished my BA in psychology. Gabor is such a huge insperation, I love his work and perspective, and I adpre how he shares his own struggles as well. he gives so much hope that I can too help other people, even if I have struggles and wounds myself. bless his soul

[@lookatthebutterfly4774]

I lived almost sixty Years out of my body, on the expectations of others, I totally disagree with " We are not our body", we are, and there is where healing starts in the body.

[@edwigcarol4888]

Totally agree with you. I just do that also. I assume "you are not your body" is rethorical. They can't mean that, seriously, We are more than physiological processes but we are these also. The brain registers constantly the physiological states and reacts to these Data by entering a mind state or another. No brain is functioning without massive body-interactions. Thus "i am nothing without my body" is true. The science fiction with brains living in a bath is the greatest stupidity ever expressed on this earth.

[@dinorahdarby4499]

Legacy, Gabor will leave a legacy to help mankind return to himself.

[@marilyngambon5897]

Doctor Mattes words are amazing. Doctor Matte worked with my late husband David Biggs and I when we ran our home for high risk teens with ADHD and addiction. Bieng a parent is the greatest gift from god . Matte's wisdom of how childhood trauma and abuse leaves a permanent scar leading to addiction and self loathing is so true. We feed the hunger from wthin ourselves to fill an emptiness that was void in are childhood never feeling sustained. So many trying to fill the void even as we watch ourselves withering away. Love where are you, feed me ,i'm empty and so alone fill me I cannot take the pain anymore. Anything please work, fill me fill me. Nothing is working anymore ,fear sucumbs me for I'm losing myself please tell me who I am . I searched my whole life I need you to tell me who I am for I was little and lost I needed you to care where were you

[@evannaallen8881]

May I suggest you put in the effort to spell his name correctly? Especially if your husband had privilege of working with such a man., and you obviously respect, appreciate and benefit from his work.

[@ShawtyPhatt]

@@evannaallen8881 🙌🏆🙌

[@sandradiaz2202]

@@evannaallen8881 I have one word for ms perfect WOW

[@dianneschmid8235]

such a comfort to listen to beautiful souls that are willing to share ways to heal our painful addictions.very grateful blessings Namaste.

[@tracyfederman7502]

Watched many interviews of Gabor recently. This one is older. He has come a long way in five years. Brings much less ego to the table these days. Nice work.

[@zuzannagrzywacz5899]

We are not our body, and our true self cannot be abused or hurt. However, in order to fully embody it we absolutely need to experience our true self, go beyond our ego experientially and not with our conceptual mind.

[@SparkleBC]

I am listening for a long time about 60 years of my life.......Dr Ashley Montagu in the book TOUCHING got me started in the summer and spring of 1972-1973 in Richmond BC.........la leche league international

[@Herkimerdiamond]

Finally I found my teacher!!!!! Dr Gabor Maté wins the parade!!!

[@danutamaj2115]

This is such a great enlightening, learning session not just for addicts but for entire human being community around the World!!!! Parenting ,and not necessarily intentional trauma ,never has been presented to many generations!! That’s why a lot of us got angry, emotional treatment and like Dr Gabor said emotional separation from parents in very early age!! This presentation should be translated to many languages!!!!!!! so whoever finds it on You Tube have a chance to go back to their childhoods and figure it out how to modified their behaviors to produce new , mentally healthy generations , and reduce addictions tendency. Super deeply learning session !! Seems like I’m getting addicted to all Dr. Gabor presentations!!!Will take me long time to dive through tall of them , but there is always time to listen them in the bathroom, during cooking, during make up, driving,at check up lines, doctors behind the schedule , waiting rooms etc, Fantastic job to make The World better place.

[@knitchywa]

Dr Mate is amazing.

[@faithalessandri1879]

These old guys in their socks are so cool😍♥️♥️👍🏻👍🏻 seriously, I'm getting so much out of this. Thank you

[@tylerg3393]

I came to this talk from having had watched many of Gabor Maté's talks and knew nothing of Diederik. I did scroll through the comments, as I often have the habit of doing (and having my thinking influenced by them, because of my sensitivity). In my view they are both saying the same essential thing - that peace or "joy" is an end result of recognizing true self as apart from the egoic mind. Gabor calls this authenticity or the authentic self, as you are when born, and then distracted from by societal influences and childhood traumas. I do like the point they seemed to both agree strongly on, which is that "trauma" is the reaction to the incident, not the incident itself - so a seemingly small minor reaction by a parent (minor in their eyes) in early childhood could become a trauma in the psyche that could possibly go unnoticed in a lifetime (and probably expressed through the body via illness) - luckily us who are watching this are already on that path to understanding. Diederik does seem to have a more intellectual approach in his manner of speaking, that I can understand why some people see it as perhaps condescending. In my case, if I pick up on that feeling it means I recognize that potential in myself - that recognition is always a gift of awareness. In any case I'm grateful to have these two beings willing to share such powerful knowledge.

[@MrRaggapak]

One of the best Talks you can find of YT. And i have listened to a lot. Especially Diederiks introduction from min.40. and the powerful soundhealing at the end. Thank you Dr. Gabor Mate

[@DPSufferer]

I believe that DR. Maté has got some revolutionarily brilliant ideas when it comes to healing. Why? because the polarization between the mind and the body is probably what completely has harkened and halted progress in treating people on a fundamental level. And i dont agree with that people dont want to heal, i believe everyone wants to feel as good as they possibly can, and that becomes apparent in addiction. People who take drugs or use alcohol to feel the euphoria or the wellbeing they are missing in their everyday life. And it is that feelgood type thing that people without depression or any sort of problem with their minds have. We usually forget how we got so deep into our depressions and the answers are there but now some of our feelings and trraumas are locked into conditions physical or mental but usually its not only physical or usually not only mental its both. Our Ego is something we cannot live without because it keeps track of what made us sick and what keeps making us sick. Our ego is the only part of us that is interrested in getting well and ultimately free.

[@paulespinosa5195]

exploring wisdom of the ages he deserves more recognition for all of his effort

[@EduDaoUniversity]

the good stuff starts at 9:50 ;)

[@roshanaksalimi845]

What a great man! Excellent talk and analysis by Dr. Gabor. He

[@Molly36]

I am an 86-year-old woman 42 years clean and sober! i’m still in AA but I have worked my other issues and only recently came across Gabor Maté ! He is wonderful❤

[@marygrogan6101]

What a wonderful collaboration between Gabor and Diederik.

[@jonileviness9706]

Taking 'responsibility' for myself in every moment means precisely, responding with ability. Ability to realize that as infinite love at i time where there's the greatest illusion of separateness, in all levels of our society that seems designed for maximum isolation, i'm allowing myself the exquisite joy of coming home.

[@joelmasantos879]

As Allan Watts posed the question Who am I ! The answer was: I am playing someone on the stage of life and when the show is finished for some, we go back stage and never return. There will always be new players and not many will find out they real act.

[@edwigcarol4888]

27:00 "someone said . In fact your mother can't take that burden off from your shoulders.. you have to do it yourself.." Wow! yes yes yes To my own mother... "you are as your are/can you were as you could" Me getting wise stopping expecting her to change her harmful unbearable behavior.. wanting to be a victim, to be right and her to be wrong. Let go.. Gather the strength not to allow that to reach / hit my self longer. How.. i am working on it. No aggression needed. No Defense needed. But protection through the very manner of how i am by me. Connection.

[@DigitalLadyBH]

THANK you BOTH, Gabor and Diederik! There was lot of eye opening comments! I really enjoyed this 2h and it really helped me.

[@galiyajonboboeva3160]

Love Dr. Gabor, such a pure mind 💞. One lecture is better than the other, and so on..

[@patriciagriffin1505]

What wonderful brilliant men who care about others an who want our societies to function for the betterment of it's citizens.

[@danceintherainful]

This is one of the most enlighten videos I have never seen. Thank you!

[@prnnp]

I was 6 when my brother was born and I want to write him all the trauma he experienced in his first years and can't remember now, so that he can know where his subconscious beliefs are rooted in.

[@justice4all977]

Do it please

[@DoubleDownDawn]

Do it

[@saloshniejagathesan1577]

I understand what you mean.... That was exactly what I thought I should do with my brothers.....Perhaps we MUST.. To help them 'discharge' their pain, discomfort

[@lebogangmogotsi2229]

Brilliant teamwork guys ❤️🙏🏿. Love from South Africa. Thank you.

[@ms.mittenz]

Gabor Mate, you are such an inspiration.

[@poerava]

Diederik is presenting another flavour of tools in a model of thinking that some people may find more than useful. The separation from body and mind and stepping into the observer is sometimes crucial for creating the illusion of space to let some objective assessment occur. Some folks are being a little harsh on him in the comments. I also prefer Gabor’s methods of body presence and being in the body, yet many really resonate with Diederik who would probably do well to present his tools as tools, not his reality.

[@mickbowe4252]

Wolsak is amazing. I didn't know about him. Of course mate is.

[@WithAnchovies]

What a wonderful talk. Thank you for opening your hearts to everyone.

[@kasiaoleszek7422]

All this consciousness talk. Cool

[@upendasana7857]

For me I feel like Diederick was talking from an abstract point of view,he may well have experienced himself as Source but it did not feel like he as speaking from that perspective.He did not feel congruent to me.He actually came across as quite annoyed and aggressive.I did not find his energy good for me,I had to keep on skipping and go back to Gabor whose energy I found a lot more grounded and congruent.

[@daynat2349]

Balls!!! Diedrich I found him to be authentic!!!!! And east to listen to. Lovely man!

[@daynat2349]

Easy to listen* hes got great advice!

[@charmainemcc6799]

@@daynat2349 hi I agree with Upenda comments. I found Diederick not actually living in his body. But as some one one looking down on his body giving descriptions. Not really experiencing from the inside. He openly blames the women asking the question about why some of her clients in the circle left. Saying that it was her fault.-- "shaming her ". perhaps some one left because they became instantly enlightened. We are not so powerful that we can make every one want to listen to us.

[@dianam4044]

Perfect Feel that discomfort you feel and use Diederiks 6 steps to release YOUR hidden belief There in lies the opportunity for YOUR inner Peace...Diederik is merely triggering YOUR thought and feeling for you. If your feeling were actually universal fact, then everyone would agree with you and that surely isnt so Bless you Sister

[@peterdinh5249]

Love Gabor - but sadly switched off when the other chap seemed to dismiss the rape womans experience, diminishing body experience. That's too heady and sounds patronising to me, we are also our body and experience.

[@maya_taher]

How i love your wisdom Dr. Gabor we are blessed to learn from you! May u be blessed with health vitality always

[@HeatherKMB]

Incredible wisdom. Thank you sincerely.

[@isabellaqueiroz4941]

A safe container ! Absolutely necessary when we are uncovering unconscious beliefs 💓

[@vivianakani]

We are having a physical experience from a conscious perspective. If we say “I am not the body” before I understand what it means to have a body, then it makes it very difficult to process emotional responses, traumas and addiction in such a way that the body and emotional responses can help us grow rather than defend ourselves and shut down the part of us that wants to learn.

[@sandradiaz2202]

Dr Mate You are a blessing and you are helping many people Thank you for all your hard work that you do to help people God Bless U 😍

[@ceceliajamieson1852]

Such an interesting informative night. Thank-you Dr.Mate I'm learning so much from you each time I listen to your talks,❤ Diedrich thank-you for your interesting educational talk you have such a pleasant smiling face, which keeps one attention.

[@vikkieh1053]

I'm glad I found him he is so deep in all his experiences but he shares with us I give my whole attention to him he knows what the hell is going on and what he's talking about quite an extraordinary man unique and sexy

[@STELLA-oz7qx]

I love Diederik soothing voice and the patience and peace he exudes. Love his Choose Again therapy!

[@mystiqueholloway9698]

I stopped when Diederik Wolsak was suggesting that abuse only happens to the body. If that were the case the body would heal and all would be forgotten and / or left behind. The fact the trauma lingers is because it become processed into the psyche and therefore part of ones existence.

[@skylinegtsrock]

I can't understand his response in this matter also. I've been looking for more information regarding him on Google without much success. I'm thinking that he may be a charlatan.

[@analogkid4957]

smoothoperator I know he is a member or teacher of A Course in Miracles which is a Christian Mystical metaphysical text. The text does definitely deal with healing your thoughts and mind.

[@worshipexplicit]

i am my body

[@youbiscuit2146]

yeah he has a very black and white way of talking that seems to come from his own absolute determination to get over his issues in order to prevent his own suicide... therefore he is very attached to having access to and being able to represent some fundamental truth and ends up saying some very over-simplified things in a not very compassionate way. it's quite a defensive posture on his part

[@evannaallen8881]

Everything is reflective; body mind & soul. Maybe he meant we "feel" all abuse physically and store in the body? Not sure either.

[@petraannettepelz]

Deeply greatful. You all are such “eyes”-openers. 🙏🏽🌻🙏🏽🌻🙏🏽🌻🙏🏽

[@dinorahdarby4499]

The authenticity of sitting in a chair.

[@arenginsberg3466]

So many helpful insights! Thank you.

[@Santiago-5107]

I understand it at a intelectual level when he says that rape happened to the body. But I will not believe it unless it comes from a person who has suffered rape or abuse. Its easy to talk when you haven't gone through a rape experience.

[@ahtikahalim9033]

It’s both, the body remembers and the soul is violated.I wasn’t raped but molested and I couldn’t begin imagine the lifeline violation . I feel and remember every touch sometimes and when people hug me around my waste or someone looks at me through shallow desire there’s a sickening discomfort I feel. This was 9-10 years ago I don’t remember that year I just rennet that day in the summer vividly

[@justice4all977]

Rape is murder of the soul. It happens to every aspect of the person entirely. Including the identity. I was raped by an ex after he was diagnosed with mental illness. The same brain changes happen as those of soldiers in direct battle

[@margaretneanover3385]

This guy gives some very solid listening advice. I'm not saying agree with all. But until you listen to yourself as a way to see both perfection and flaw...there's little room to grow how you might want.

[@MathiasManser]

great one! Talk starts at 9:55

[@5chitzo]

Would love to be a fly on the wall wen theese two have a "three day talk". Wonderfull insights beautifully expressed. Thank you all for your wonderfull work.

[@benevolentwarrior]

The language and song of love, can be a great station to tune into :)

[@zarasophia3714]

Flies don’t have ears so you won’t hear a darn thing! Hahaha

[@brentlesheim7084]

Who and what we are today is a result of choices we’ve made in this life and prior lifetimes. We make are own Karma and no one but us can change it for good or bad.

[@clairem6596]

The question is who's rehab would you rather go to? I was into non duality for many years but all it did was enable me to disassociate from my childhood pain, I never really felt it. If you go on the model of you have to feel it to heal it, then I would rather go to Dr. Mate treatment center. I don't think we can very often transcend our thinking, feelings or self obsession, in my experience I feel very lucky when I can just stand back from myself.

[@missclarestube]

Amazing at about 01:32:30 I did this for myself, when did I first feel my triggering emotional response? Really eye opening.

[@197118carserraram]

Many thanks for such great talk.

[@Valandor_Celestial_Warlock]

The message here is that what we are at our very core essence of existence is consciousness. Eternal, immortal, self-aware energy. We are mind, perceiving subjective experience in the physical universe. Everything else that is built around our core being is illusory, not actually real but just temporary, artificial, all the way down to the personality we believe is "who" we are. Therefore, when we talk about "being abused", we're not talking about ourselves, what we are, the "I" to which we refer when we speak of who we are. It's like playing a video game. When your character gets killed, you don't say that you died. You say that your character died. Then he or she respawns and you continue playing. In the "real world", that's called reincarnation. Life is a game. An illusion.

[@daynat2349]

Real talk

[@JohnSmith-ff1yo]

the best response ive ever read, i also think the same way

[@yolyrye]

omg Gabor on his phone in the beginning just gave me the best giggle, I just love him lol

[@kimwarburton8490]

i've seen a few comments here about the part where the woman who got raped and the 'you are not your body' part of the video ... when one is STILL able to be triggered, it cannot be full healing ... i was raped years ago, thought i'd healed. heard a rape 'joke' in a MMORPG game among 2 guys i had thought good friends of mine, got upset, triggered, to me they were agreeing with the horrific experience i went through, condoning it in a small way. i unleashed my anger, others heard about it .... One of them came to me, a young lad, helped me to reframe my experience of both the joke and my past ... somehow he had naturally come across this concept during or after an entire childhood of being raped by a gang of men (who now locked away) Got to know him well over these last few years, oneof the sanest people i have ever met. but he was right, i needed to change the way i thought about my experience, no amount of 'validation' was gunna help me fully heal (to get over it and move on in life however? yes, helpd me with first bit of healing), a harsh cold truth i know, but i was holding myself prisoner to that experience, locking myself as a victim, a survivor etc .... sometimes i can still get that tension in the gut, but nothing like i used to, i can and do choose how to react when thats provoked by something rape related

[@roxannamostatabi7791]

kim warburton you’re my hero for saying this.

[@andrewlowe2962]

Wow, life changing. Thanks 😊 🙏

[@sheilabernadetteclairemcin1107]

Wonderfully wise talk .

[@Kat-I-am3333]

Great Attitude = Gratitude 💕

[@andyakarudolfhessiansack7936]

Not to keen on Diederik Wolsak in this particular talk. Its too woo woo for my logical brain. Gabor on the hand makes perfect sense.

[@JimiBegbaaji]

Gabor always makes sense. I admit I fast forwarded to when he began speaking. I want facts, not woo woo.

[@lindataylor6831]

I do not see it as woo woo.

[@joy96815]

Thanks for the upload

[@RajAdityaDas]

Mr. Wolsak didn't seem to me as bad as everyone made him out to be. The difference between Dr. Mate and him is that the former has a compassionate and personal approach to people, while the latter has a very structured approach to the things they're talking about.

[@amarynth100]

i love this video one of the best ...love those two guys .thank you

[@thereallinnz9407]

I think what these men are trying to get through to people is that even the most average person can change at any moment. (and I've always thought this) Sometimes it does take long. And it's HARD,.. years of thinking, alone time, time to process and inform and reflect to yourself... I believe THAT'S why they are saying the things about the word abuse and "just the body" ... We are not simply one of our parts. We are a collection of parts. Always working together (some check out at certain points; such as in a traumatic experience for instance..) but those parts are ALWAYS growing and learning! Some at faster rates, but no matter how slow, we are always changing and growing and learning. We ultimately get to choose what "knowledge" we hold onto. Sometimes we have to gain a knowledge in order to let go of another. But BE OPEN TO IT. I am 31 and I understand completely the viewpoint of speaking of someone who has "abused" you in the sense that they are innocent.. I heard one time "Every person is doing the best they know how, at that moment" I've been through situations that took years to work through in my mind. Be honest with yourself and that honesty will radiate.(being so honest though, people will undoubtedly use that against you.) However, I have an undying sense inside me that there is something higher at work, ALWAYS. So dishonest people KNOW they are being dishonest, someone who is hurting people KNOWS they are hurting people, and most of all, JUSTICE WILL HAPPEN. Whether we get to see it or not 💁🤘 The universe have given me NO doubts there and I wish that power for everyone.

[@thereallinnz9407]

Also, this whole talk lead up to a WOW for me... Interested in the connection between the body and mind pertaining to health?? ...go to 1:41:50 until 1:45:50!

[@funkndrucked]

powerful testimony of self improvement and release from negative and limiting self fulfilling prophesy's.

[@elizabethl3392]

I am teaching what I need to learn …

[@darinamastro7503]

Brilliant!! Thank you to you both ..

[@cipolli1]

What a fantastic and inspiring talk! Thank your amazing gift

[@ms.harunouta]

Diederik says " this woman who was raped" Dr Mate says "his client who was raped" 2 different ways of addressing someone who went through an enormous pain.

[@jessicastewart42]

Idk who that guy is sitting beside Dr. Gabor Mate, but after listening to very first segment , he clearly is not aware with himself yet! I agree with Dr. Gabor "Well You can stick that in your pipe and smoke it!" Much Love & Many Thanks DR. GABOR!!!! ❤️

[@HeySeussGranny]

3:47 Breathing techniques 6:58 9:54 Gabor Mate intro, book review/package review=it doesn’t matter who we are 13:27 If you get this song, you have arrived 15:06 Whenever we think that it's because of the outside, we don't know who we are, rage, anger, abandonment, disappointment, unconscious beliefs beneath the thoughts, a soul waiting to be born, who I think I am evolves 20:38 Our unconscious beliefs form the world, Trump, Bush, Iraq, vulnerability, fear, suffering 26:24 who do I think I am being at this very moment, you don’t have to carry the burden of worrying about my emotions anymore, only you can lift that burden, WASTED book, he makes it back to himself, trauma, the underlying concepts we believe about ourselves are set very early in life, IN UTERO movie, epigenetics 31:53 for emotional states, not for events, conscious memory happens much later, im0licit memories of beimg welcomed or not stay with us, shape us and what we believe about ourself, children make it about themselves, not good enough, unlikeable, must work/put up with __ to be accepted, who you really are, you believe sufficiently theres truth in the world, you believe you can grow 36:29 suffering because of the mind, this tension needs attention, who did i think I was, it reflected a belief about myself, accusing, defensive v growth mode, grateful for the experience

[@HeySeussGranny]

41:21 Doederik Wolsak, who I think I am is not who I am, repeatedly ask Who Are You, little s self, the essence of your being, a self to function, forms in utero to 4, 5, 6yo, quitting drinking, subconscious, why is an attack question, what was that for, never why is this happening to me, is a lethal victim position question, people don't want to heal, want to keep the I they made up yet get a different experience, I should not have been born, epigenetics, 48:45 every belief, opinion, thought is a repeat of in utero to 4, 5, 6yo, conflict today, how old was I at that moment, I'm never upset now, it's a replay of something I mad eup long ago, the purpose is to take me back there, who's the I who chose that, not important, not loveable, don't matter, it comes from a belief that is a contradiction to who you are, Infinite abstract love, 3yo made an interpretation, ask 3yo advice, addicts - someone who has repeated feelings 2-3xday 54:00 purpose of meditation is to be clear on what I'm thinking, Choose Again, 💯 accountability, ownership, Trump, George Bush, I'm here to fall in love with those aspects of myself every judgment is on me, right v wrong 56:43 Gabor belief, Diederik KNOW, choice without consciousness 58:00 CHARLESTON WEST VIRGINIA Why is this happening TO ME, choice without awareness, I'm suffering because I'm deficient, am I worthless, insufficient 1:00:45 Diederik, grateful for SI, no justifying feelings/upsets, a reason to be upset puts you back in jail, an interpretation of the situation gives her reason for upset, no interpretation is true, SA, repeating the story, it happened to a body, I am not the body, all suffering comes from body ID, say my father is innocent and I love him, what would it cost you to say that, the self you're defending is not who you are, who you are cannot be abused, is above the battleground, the interpretation is the experience 1:06:27 Gabor abuse definition, say my father forced me to __, a relationship must be built with safety and trust in order for them to lay down defenses, brain reads safety subconsciously, defensive mpde = defending that self, it's not about me not mattering, invalidating, right v wrong, safety before going deep 1:12:14 Tried hosting a circle, can't hold their attention, addicts, MH, AA, smart program, Gabor, TedTalk pianist Benjamin Zander, leave their eyes shining, who am I being, it's always about me, 1:14:24 Diederik - What is that for, how you felt is who the I was, they came to show you who you are, I'm not interested in me, committed to my healing, 1:15:41 the I who doesn't want to be heard now has the opportunity to be heard, they bring me something I need to work on, I am teaching what I need to learn 1:16:54 Gabor teaches Diederik, trying is a giveaway, check in when you use that word 1:17:31 We cannot NOT choose, habits reflect a choice, how do we develop the Part that observes and begins to be responsible, Claim and change the habits. 1:18:51 Gabor definition of choice, amoeba, quality of awareness 1:20:05 make decisions without an awareness of choice, my father forced me, word abused implies something is meant to be used, it happened to my body and emotional abuse 1:21:17 every feeling is chosen based on body ID, it never happened to who I am in truth, but it did happen to who I thought I was and I'm not who I think I am, it's impossible for me to be hurt by another, it's my thoughts alone that cause me pain, 1:22:39 Doing it to be right about a belief I made up a long time ago. I wouldn't have done it that way, I'm wrong, collusion, my father never complimented me, German v Dutch, held the rake wrong 1:24:34 Gabor wouldn't do it that way 1:25:09 What are ways to encourage those more loving, constructive beliefs, What is this for, who do I think I am, How do we encourage an alternative belief/self 1:25:35 Gabor telling yourself you're not good enough, Identify the false belief and who you are will show up, see through the veil and the self who made up the story 1:26:03 Diederik how Do you feel if you don't? I can be right about an interpretation or a situation, But I don't feel good. I don't feel good when i'm right. You can be right, (ego sense of satisfaction) or you can be happy 1:26:48 alcoholic, trauma sensitive yoga, kundalini yoga, addiction, alcohol, MH, activating, triggering 1:27:31 Sat Dharam, 40 yr practice, addiction, lismiting beliefs, trauma, pain, activating, safe loving container, support, insight, self reflection, a fast track to healing addiction and separation from Source, Beyond Addiction, kundalini yoga taught in a trauma sensitive way, occupies the whole self, a break from the ego, immediate experience to place of love 1:30:56 Diederik, triggered by kundalini yoga, the urge to use comes up means it's working, don't run from it, welcome it, go where your discomfort is, triggers are opportunity to heal, Don't avoid triggers and people who annoy you, your healing is there 1:32:26 traumatic experiences, how to pinpoint, Gabor - trace the feeling back, whether you recall doesn't matter, remember it's not about the present, you made an interpretation, Diederik go to earliest moment, reinterpret that moment, come back to present, addiction doesn't have to come from a horrendous childhood, it may be innocuous, then ego beats you up 1:36:55 Addiction, trauma, recovery, recovered, careful what I'm telling myself, my story, How do we hold space to help that child tell another story, projecting my own story 1:38:54 answered your own question, shift your own energy about it, even if you are not with the person, and you will see a change 1:39:30 Depression, addiction, physiological illness impact on MH, brain function, brain gut connection, Gabor vagus nerve, sick to my stomach, imbalance in the gut = imbalance in the brain 1:41:48 Sat Dharam 500 species in intestines, 10x more organisms in your gut than there are cells in your body, whose home is it, bacteria sends inflammation through vagus nerve to brain, strains of lactobacillus that decrease depression/anxiety, candida, BM, fiber 1:43:24 Diederik stenosis, who is the I who is in pain, don't experience the pain as suffering, Punjab taxi headache, do you want to keep it, willing to try an exercise, ask yourself who is the I that has the headache, health is inner peace, the interpretation causes the suffering, no pain with kidney stones, If it's not a joyful experience, it's not the I who I am. 1:46:23 Gabor Parenting young children, give them an environment where they can stay connected to themselves, who you're being in the moment, be so safe for them that they never have to disconnect from themselves, Manifest so much love in their presence that they know the universe is love. 1:48:56 Diederik Teach by demonstration, divorce counseling, kids listen, demonstrate who you are and they will take an interest 1:51:27 + - emotions, judging, Joy is not an emotion, it's a state of being, experiencing your true self 1:53:27 Compassion's reach, homeless, shelters, recovery, TedX, do addicts deserve treatment, Gabor - fundamental misconception, addiction/why the pain, closed to their own pain, influencing the government, impervious government, Health Minister, injection site, addictions are about choices people are driven to when they're suffering more pain than they can bear, assume your listeners want to help 1:57:58 Transition period after completing treatment program, overwhelming sabotage thoughts, success is a state of joy, the ego/self cannot live in that state and will fight back, When you have a really good day, be aware because the ego will surface with things you haven't even thought of yet, it's good news you hear that voice so you can heal it, the self that hates you is not finished with you yet and will put up a fight. I've never seen an ego say You Win. Who is the I who just said that? Listen to The True Self. You have never failed. 2:03:44 Sat Nam meditation explained 2:04:59 sound bath, reshape your ID through sound 2:05:54 chanting

[@orianacastro6162]

this is absolutely brilliant