6 Life Lessons I've Learned Lately

[@lavendaire]

For a different perspective on life lessons, check out my recent video on Things to Not Take for Granted in Your 20s → bit.ly/2uFFqy6 I'm nearing the end of my 20s, so I wanted to share some big insights and advice from the past decade. If you're in your 20s, what life lessons have you learned recently? 💡

[@tahirarezwana3532]

1. Live the life you're proud of 2. Close the gap between knowing and doing 3. Seek first to understand 4. Treat people the way they want to be treated 5. Power of team work 6. Resilience

[@Isha-19]

Gracias

[@VannaMae]

Thank you

[@thegoldenchild740]

Thank you 🌻

[@li3838]

"If you are still alive and breathing you have another day, another day to try" Thanks for that.

[@Gi.02]

Your comment defenitely deserves *an author's like👍🏼💖*

[@osse1n]

*#1 - be always truthful with yourself* Self-deception is the biggest barrier to happiness in life

[@user-ow7bi3se2b]

If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. - African Proverb ... this lesson spoke to me! Love your videos, as always xx

[@F0reverblessed]

Confidence derives from having already done something and gaining the confidence to do it again! Confidence doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time. Wether it’s confidence in yourself or your craft. From a self love content creator to another, you always know just what to say and how to say it Aileen. Loved it! 💜

[@lo.5704]

I love that explanation!

[@F0reverblessed]

Lo Thank you beauty 💕

[@lizashirin5782]

Usually I would never write a comment but this video just gave me so much energy(back). Lately I`ve been stuck in this discomfort-situation, questioning myself if the next step is the right one and if I could manage. But your video told me to try, to worry less because there is always another day to come,to try again. So thank you. Know that there are people around the world who feel hugged by your words.

[@brijohnson8608]

I've been having a hard time with a little bit of your advice lately (all of which has been well-intentioned for sure, just stuff I don't personally agree with), but I've gotta say... I'm really glad I watched this video. It's very well thought-out and you're really taking your time to explain each one. You really got me when you said "Treat people the way THEY want to be treated." This is SUCH thoughtful, empathetic advice that I really appreciated hearing. I suppose it's natural I wouldn't agree with absolutely everything someone says, so I'm really happy I stuck around for this one. I think I'm probably here to stay.

[@tomomi8861]

I totally agree with lots of what you said especially "Confidence comes from knowing" and the African proverb. I love this kind of videos. Looking forward to watching these more! I don't think the video is too long. For this kind of videos, it is the right length, not too long and not too short. By the way, I love your look in this video very much. The necklace matches the top very much!

[@Bunnylovescoffee]

These tips are exactly needed in my life right now especially the resilience one. I recently just failed a test- not a very big thing in many people's eyes. However, I was so unmotivated & unhappy with it, and it almost pushed me to burnout of my emotion. I want to go to my dream graduate school, and this test held me back mentally. Thank you for encourage me to refresh my mood and keep working on. Also, definitely the business advice!! As a business major, I am dying to know the tips before I go to the workplace.

[@NienitaO]

No, I dont think your videos are long. Resilience is my fav. Still breathing still have the opportunity to try again. I need to remember this more often instead of getting sad about "failures". Thank yooouu!! 😀

[@lavendaire]

Stay resilient :)

[@khumomolosiwa4894]

You really love Willson, always mentioning him like he is the only person in your life. Thats nice

[@SpecialgiftsLA]

Aileen..as I watched this I had a full blown insight into my life struggle at the moment..Thank you for this. As you spoke about comfort zone I reflected on a work scenario..Iv been sent to participate in an event for staff ..I'm quite new and honestly it's been really unsteady with staff leaving etc..a lot of unpredictability. I realized just now that the reason I'm really sad and anxious about going..is becos of so many painful experiences from my childhood..teen..young adult..of moving so much without proper notice or goodbyes..I remember just experiencing that there was no room for me to feel 'sad' or for my emotions..so I'm bawling now..maybe I can release this and be able to decide whether I want to go or not rather than 'run away' from these situations without knowing why!!. You are spot on about getting the information..which then gives you the confidence to make your final action to the desired 'thing'. For me I feel it gives me a grip on the climb..until I am finally able to take bigger actions..so breaking it all down. Wow..Thank you for this profound and simple reminder. Much love and peace..LIA

[@lavendaire]

I’m glad I could help you see things from a new perspective 🙏🏼✨

[@Selflovewithlena]

I love it to listen to you I’m walking and just put my AirPods on and listen to your voice it’s so chilling and I’m learning new things because I’m listening to you! I found u on tik tok and I loved your tiktoks already so much the positivity u spread out to the world is so amazing! I really appreciate you like for real I love the long videos and thank you so much for your efforts! Thank you so much for teaching me things like a older sister I will never have !!💕💕

[@rea8585]

Treat other people the way they want to be treated and not the way you think you should! So important! But also remember that other people probably treat you the way they want to be treated and if this is not what you want, you should tell them loud and clear. What is obvious to us is not necessary obvious to other people 😊

[@lavendaire]

True :)

[@NickaPaulo]

This is all good in a personal relationship and even there I don't totally agree because I'm not a downer person and I can never tell my husband he is not good enough in a certain area without hurting myself. The same goes for my parents. Don't get me wrong I'll tell him when I dislike something but I'm not telling him that he doesn't clean the bathroom as well as I like it because he will just stop doing it. He doesn't handle that stuff well from me but when we talk about work stuff and I don't agree with what road he is taking then he listens and gets better... A person is composed of different things and what works for one area does not work for another. So I say always treat people with care and positiveness but be honest and say what you feel. That will always work when the other person cares about us. If he/she doesn't and is just negative just ignore or walk away because it's not a good relationship for you. And I know this can't be done in every relationship like family.

[@thegoldenchild740]

Lavendaire can you please do a video on how to do that? Or how to say no? I’m sorry if you already made those videos 🌻♥️

[@savi3165]

Aileen is my favourite motivator. Whenever I'm down and need motivation, lavendaire is my go-to channel. Thank you❤️

[@darshini1492]

I needed this video desperately , all this while i thought i was happy n well contended in life but all in vain i wasnt. What i found out was my friend. why i wasnt happy was because she kept telling n saying things i dont want to hear n whenever she spoke her voice angered me idk why. Im not being mean. I'm just trying to understand people better n communicate with people better. Your videos are a bliss to watch n now i understand how i have been behaving with her , how her behaviour is reflecting toward me. The same way i treated her. Also words hurt sometimes , we should choose what we speak correctly. Mindset is quiet important. What we think reflects. Great video aileen. Love ya

[@lilacollins4308]

The vibes , the editing , the voice , the content she makes Everything is magical , THANK YOU.🌻

[@cupcake5745]

My favorite was the one about being resilient. OMG, that just completely changed my way of thinking, and my future. In school theyve always told me that you can learn from your mistakes but I had never realized that I shouldnt be afraid of failure, I should be afriad of stopping myself from not trying. Thank you so much for opening my eyes and making me realize that failure is proof that I tried, and that as long as Im still breathing I still have more chances of succeding.

[@lavendaire]

🙂💕

[@alicehuang7127]

Thank you for sharing!! You’re such an inspiration. I’ve been going through a quarter life bump now that I’ve achieved my 6 year plan and feeling kind of lost. Your video gave me more perspective and courage to pursue a new job opportunity in a new country!

[@lavendaire]

Turkish subtitles are available! Click "CC" and check the video settings. Thank you to the contributor listed in the description 💕

[@LeonardWaks]

This is a great video. You are providing what a lot of young students are seeking from their philosophy and psychology classes and teachers, but their teachers are not providing. Your lessons come from experience, and they have to be thought about, discussed, and tried out to make them true to life. I respect you very much.

[@lavendaire]

Thank you 🙏🏼

[@ErikaK]

Life is beautiful and we all came here to enjoy every minute of our existence, to be happy, to be free ♡ let go of what no longer serves you and start living your best life

[@doniyorprogrammer]

yess!

[@HitouchLIFE]

Thanks great video!! I’m a doctoral student in Japanese I will have a big presentation about my research next January. I already feel scarily... because I have a panic disorder. It’s really serious disease. But I want to challenge because I’m scared! The only way to get out of comfort zone to go to next stage of my life. I support you!

[@afaf.kofficial7293]

the best part u said was when u said that some ppl get motivated with positive affirmations , others not> they just want u t be harder with them. and that's truly true!

[@_jlstx]

I’m really bad for wanting to know everything before attempting to do anything. Probably too much so. Quite often learning comes from doing. I then immediately become confident!

[@meriemmim4676]

I swear that all what you're talking about I'm going through it . And eventually I found someone who understands me really truly. Thank you so much Lavendaire you are my role model and my life's teacher. I hope for you all the best and beautiful life

[@HeatherCutright]

The first lesson was the most valuable for me right now. (The last lesson was a close second.) I am very content and at peace in my life currently, so sometimes I think "Hey, I'm happy so why not just live like this forever? Isn't the whole point of life to be happy?" But I am not doing anything. I haven't been being productive. I only do things that bring me pleasure. So I am really just comfortable because I haven't been doing anything difficult or challenging. I may be happy now, but if I look back on my life, I wouldn't be proud. I really needed to hear that there's a difference between living to be happy and living a life you're proud of. Thank you, Aileen ❤ The video wasn't too long for me. I was listening while putting on makeup 😊 Also, would like to hear about lessons and mistakes made in business. Maybe lessons first? Since it would go along with this video kinda. "Lessons I learned in Life" followed by "Lessons I learned in Business".

[@maayu649]

I love the first lesson which is to live a life you are proud of. I am striving for that as of late because I feel like I'm not doing enough to earn self-respect. Therefore, I'm trying to do hard things in my daily life even by doing simple tasks such as washing and folding my own clothes. Thank you for this video, Aileen! 💖

[@heatherdavidson6896]

Closing the gap btwn knowing and doing... Your explanation of that is literally the best way I've ever heard someone explain how I deal with my anxiety that comes from having PTSD!! When I get cornered by ppl who don't understand why I do things how I do, I am so playing that part of this video for them. Thank you!!!

[@TimeFliesTimeManagement]

I love how immaculate your videos look all the time 💙

[@AyuJogaComigo]

To anyone watching, please, watch until the end. I really opened this video like "oh, ok". But I was so down today, wanting to give up everything in my work field and exercising,... But now I feel like "I can try again in another way, I can keep going foward if I don't give up! I can win this!". Thank you so much, Aileen 💜.

[@SaraMakesArt]

"Pursue a life you're proud of" and "As long as I'm still breathing, there's time to make things better", two lessons I will be especially carrying with me. I think either a video on mistakes you've made in business or lessons you've learned about business sounds great.

[@lavendaire]

❤️❤️

[@madugruba]

OMG i could listen to you forever!! It's so therapeutic, thank you so much for sharing this lessons actually helps me to stop and think and reorganize aspects of my life. Its like talking to a friend!! Thank you so much for you amazing work (sorry for the bad english)

[@sofisofi2155]

I thing it's better to continue with the lessons you've learn for business, and then talk about the mistakes! The part where you compare you and your boyfriend and the examples you gave was very helpful for me. We all are different, but sometimes it's difficult to accept it to your closer ones. Thank you for this video! 🌹

[@SarahNicholls]

I honestly gain so so much from watching your videos. Thank you 🙏🏻 💫

[@e.s.beards]

Anyone else find this so motivating!?💗🙌 Living a positive and healthy lifestyle is my passion🌻💗 Have a gorgeous day😘

[@jessicaladd85]

I started homeschooling my son this year after seeing no progress in the public school system. I can't tell you the boost of confidence it has given us both! He's learning! I'm learning! It's amazing!!! Doing new things every day! If we fall---we get back up again!! :)

[@lavendaire]

That’s beautiful ❤️ what an amazing mom you are!!

[@hebaelwassef]

Live the life you are proud of, was right on point for me because I often get lost in doing things that makes me feel happy which usually are lazy stuff like watching Tv and surfing web and social media but I discovered that they have me fake happy feelings and afterwards I feel stressed and sad. So doing things that are outside of comfort zone are harder but gives u a good feeling that lasts longer

[@lavendaire]

exactly!

[@lavendaire]

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[@SoumyaMidhun]

This video came at the right time for me. It is so easy to be happy in one's comfort zone that we automatically shut ourselves down from many life experiences that can help us grow and evolve. Love you Aileen.

[@gayatriraidutta]

Mistakes! We learn more from mistakes. Experiences are like guide books! You are doing a fabulous job and I would love to be in your team if I could ever ever have the opportunity!!! I believe that humans need a subject called lavendering in schools! This is how humanity can grow to be better and happier human beings! Thank you so much for this channel and the work you are doing!! Gratitude all the way from a Singaporean living in Kolkata, India!!!

[@marplebay3904]

This is really helps me :) lately i'm being so down and stressed out about my college and organization teamwork. People always get me wrong whatever I'm doing somethings. But now I finally realize that every people is different and I just can change my action to take care of them. Thank u so much 😊

[@Mama.mindfully]

I love these lessons! And would love to hear more about lessons in life. My favorite is, seek first to understand. We all go through different difficulties and troubles in life that no one knows we face. Thank you for this. 💕

[@ilmatt00]

I love how this video comes out the day I learn about the Csíkszentmihályi's flow theory in my Play Developmental Processes class, and my Community Youth Development class. The points you mentioned in your video are some that we discussed in class

[@chinhitasanyal9488]

When ever i see u ...i feel so calm ..and motivated by ur videos....thank u for ur videos

[@S1r3nc0r33]

It’s so crazy how your videos always come at the PERFECT time when i need the advice you give the MOST❤️ Almost as if the universe is sending help through your wisdom! Thank you SO much for this video🌸

[@prachi214]

You explained the concept of knowledge gap so well and you are able to put the thoughts related to each of the topics so clearly. It is a rare and unique quality. I needed help in that area and glad that I saw your video. I also liked the topic of happiness and I was unclear on whether one should move outside comfort zone and still be happy or keep doings things within the comfort zone. You nailed it. It brought a lot of clarity and I am sure many other users also would agree. Thanks so much. Please keep sharing your life lessons. They are very helpful.

[@lauraramosdelgado]

My favorite was the first one because we usually try to pursue a life we are happy with but you are totally right, we can get comfy and lazy. Adding the proud aspect kind of forces me to get out of my comfort zone.

[@emilyjones1]

I’m in the love with this. I’ve never heard these lessons before and they are genius💖. Love you 😘

[@AkankshaBhandari]

your Journals and notebooks aren't available in India ?

[@liafrances4924]

Pls share the journaling series here on youtube too!! U have a wider audience here on yt

[@veterinarskelekarstvo1108]

Thank you so much for sharing. Your videos mean a lot to me. I would love to hear from you how to take life lightly, how to be lighthearted, how to take life less seriously.

[@alexmcginness8859]

Can you do both business videos? I think the business mistakes first. That’d help me so much!

[@tjongtjokhim62]

Thank you for uploading this video. What are you talking, it's the same what i feel. Because your video, you convinced me, that what i did was wrong and i know how to fix it. Being grateful, i watched your video. Its very motivated.

[@alfusca9824]

I don’t know how old you are, but you look a lot younger than me (!😀). I am amazed that someone so young can be so incredibly wise. I love your videos and your insights. Please keep posting!! ❤️

[@butterkeksgangster6685]

I love seeing you grow personally!

[@anjalijha5014]

Aileen, you always leave me awestruck!!! More power to you girl! I am loving the series so much!❤️🌺

[@user-tg6ot1mb2i]

I like the series very much, wish more, it gives me much energy

[@AlliAsAlways]

Understanding OTHERS love language and not your own was really profound to me. Thank you. 💜💕

[@ritumalani7211]

hi dear, you have actually helped me a lot through your videos in past 5 months and i am extremely grateful for it

[@aydamatrouh4506]

Absolutely helpful. Thanks for sharing.

[@humayramohua]

Resilience is the best lesson...Make more videos like this Aileen! I loved it!! 😊

[@ilaydatugrul13]

hey Aileen! thanks to you, i can improve my English by watching your videos and at the same time you help me a lot in creating my dream life. i have to thank you for these things. love you so much, see you in the next video 💜

[@gitanjalisirwal5684]

Dear Lavendaire, I love your videos and trust me they make my mornings better. My kind suggestion to you is sometimes when you speak with flow , you don’t realise that you repeat the same things which makes the content longer. Shorter videos are more faster to learn. Please do not take me any other way. Always your well wisher and probably one of your biggest fan.

[@summer271290]

The last one! I would love if you could share with us about the biggest fears you overcame when you just started your business.

[@dwitaratna5946]

Thank you for made this video and share your knowledge ✨ 💕

[@aminaismail5849]

I discovered your channel recently and am happy to be here, love from Africa sis

[@maliahstark]

Confidence comes from knowing! Love this ❤

[@test111ification]

You are such an inspiring youtuber and you always talk about what I am going through in life. Please keep creating such valuable content...both topics are good! I suggest you do more videos on lessons you learned from life and only one video at the end of this series about the mistakes you made in business. Love you ❤❤❤❤

[@merita554]

Loved this video, please share us more about what u learned from having a business❤️❤️🌸

[@xiaojuntete1187]

Yay! Can’t wait honestly Your confidence and how you embrace your love to yourself and others is very contagious, thank you💜

[@Azhar2794]

It’s incredible how everything you mentioned is related to me and is important for me to hear and accept. I love your videos and I feel happy and in peace watching them 😇😇

[@mhemola]

Thank you so much for this video, just from the very beginning you inspired me. Am proud to see you grow, and to share it whit us.

[@cristinafer7118]

I don't speak english very well so I am not able to write a large esay yet. I only want to tell that I started watching your videos because I like your content and this is useful to learn English too. This video is perfect, it isn't too long, nor confusing. I like to watch more videos like this =D

[@nickfaraid6307]

Thank you for this video Aileen, sometimes in life we need this reminder to remind us everything is going to be okay. Don't give up..love your video as always.

[@ChouaLis]

thank you so much for sharing your recent life lessons! I love your long self-reflection/life talks, so please keep it up.

[@lavendaire]

Aw thank you ❤️

[@nehas7201]

This was so beautifully explained thank u today I learned something ❤

[@viana1254]

Everything you've been posting is so timely. The universe is speaking to me through you. Thank you Aileen 💖💜💖💜

[@doniyorprogrammer]

The opinions you shared on being resilient is really inspirational . I should really absorb it into my whole being and it should become the part of me . Thanks Lavendaire sister for this :))

[@realwei917]

Love this at all!!! Thank you for sharing experiences. I like the video so much!!!!!!!!

[@pavlaadeeova4751]

Like your lessons you've learned rather than failures. And especially n. 4 was really useful. I know 5 languages but this was something level up. Thank you really spot on

[@chyenneariel]

Always great content. Having both videos is my preference. One on lessons learned and one on mistakes made

[@madhukatta5260]

Thank you so much Aileen. I love listening to you❤ love how you articulate your content so well. Keep up :)

[@t-maimai-ttt7656]

Thank you for the inspiration. Encouraging. Helpful. Make me feel like going for it! ありがとう、アイリーン🎵

[@PiinkyPeyed]

The videos I like the most are the ones that focus on one big lesson, rather than a bunch of lessons. I think it's because I can focus better if the topic is one clear thing :)

[@studykendrick2029]

Still trying to be better at teamwork. It really is true that if you build a good team you can go far! I'll find mine someday🌟

[@FabiolaSuarez]

Everyone needs to hear this!

[@GROAWESUM]

You are an inspiration, Aileen. Love you!

[@shanb8543]

They were all my favorites. Thanks. Definitely looking forward to both lessons learnt and mistakes made in business

[@msteelha]

Love the personal examples! Makes so much more sense

[@seigiaiko9340]

wow im having a bad time with my job and i'm about to go for a very important working trip and this motivated me a lot, thank u lavi

[@imjasmine8608]

I'm sorry but the aesthetics in the beginning especially how they match the dress is beautiful! You're so inspirational, excited for your launch girl! Inspiring me to do youtube :)

[@emysmagicworld2440]

This was one of my favourite videos of yours ! Thank you so much for your quality content and peaceful voice 😘

[@zaara3636]

Cant wait for the journaling series!! And the video was long but worth watching😘😘👏👏👍👍😊

[@akuaron]

I'm just at min. 4:40 and I can confidently say that you really are making the big changes in my mindset to pursue my dream life. I'm serious after all this time that I follow you you're still giving me such an inspo I'll never ever thank you enough!! ☺️💙💕🌱

[@akuaron]

Absolutely wanna see more of this! Thank you for your wisdom!! 😊💕

[@kathleen_fung_]

Loved this ♥️ please share more about your lessons in business

[@MissVindicat]

Love your plants! 🌱🌵

[@mariamnader2016]

Thank u so much Aileen 🙏❤