life in my 30s, what inspires me, tattoo meaning, future plans? | Q&A

Answering your questions about youtube, life, what inspires me, future plans, my tattoo, hobbies and more. There are so many things I've never shared about myself before, so I'm happy to get to show more sides of me in this Q&A. This is made in celebration of Lavendaire's 10 year anniversary 🥰 Let me know if you'd like more videos like this one-and what else you're curious about!
// watch more
→ 10 Lessons in 10 Years on KZbin 🌸 How I changed my life | bit.ly/3QwjEnw
→ Story of My 20s: How I Created My Dream Life | bit.ly/3f9iMkP
→ How I Started My Business: Story of Lavendaire | bit.ly/330SBWy
→ Advice on Starting a KZbin Channel - Q&A | bit.ly/start-a-yt-blog
→ Q&A • Why I Started KZbin | bit.ly/2NdtKqI
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0:52 Story behind the name Lavendaire
2:05 Why I started a KZbin channel
5:27 Advice to someone starting KZbin
7:00 Am I happy? How I'm doing
8:17 What inspires me
9:26 What are my hobbies
10:58 Favorite kpop groups/idols
12:18 MBTI & Enneagram type
13:11 Tattoo meaning & story
15:42 Plans for the future? Kids? Wedding?
17:13 How KZbin changed me as a person
19:16 How it feels to be in your 30s
21:35 Life in the next 10 years / Will I stay on KZbin?
24:08 What was a big turning point in my life?
26:48 Proudest moment on KZbin
27:49 Advice to my younger self
28:25 What's next for me?
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[@donikjeni95]

im already in my 30 and i started creating new career bcoz of your videos i have learned to stop worry and restart my career thank you. your videos invigorates me. love from india

[@DH-uw3us]

Right. I feel like I’m still finding myself in my 30s.

[@dilanyol9550]

Im 25 any advice or something u guys would have done differently during your mid to end twenties ?

[@DH-uw3us]

@@dilanyol9550 Set goals and set out to achieve them. Reassess if you change your mind, and don't be afraid to change course. Don't make your job your entire life, have outside interests and relationships that are completely unrelated to your work. Don't stay in a job that you hate and is compromising your mental health. If this is the case, make a plan to get out and do something else as soon as possible, don't wait years to make it happen. If you need help, reach out for it. There are plenty of resources for anything you might be dealing with, you just need to seek it out. Stay connected socially, and social media does not count. Realize that no one has everything figured out, and we're all trying to do our best. Keep an emergency fund, and invest aggressively now. At 25, I would also make sure that I have healthy habits that are realistic to stick to (eating right, exercising, getting enough sleep, etc.). Your body is the most resilient than it will ever be right now, so enjoy it and take care of it. Your future self will thank you. At 25 and younger, it's a lot easier to recover from things, and we can easily take that for granted. But this changes after you hit 25, so stick to healthy habits that are realistic for you to maintain in the long run. If there are things that you want to do or experiences you want to have, figure out a way to do them now. Don't wait for the best moment, because that may never come. If you want to travel, do it now. You can do it in the future as well, but it might not be as freely as you can do it now. Also recognize the things that are in your control, and if you aren't happy about something, change it. We have more power than we think we do, so keep that in mind. I'm sure I can think of more, but that's what I have for now.

[@tessdehert5839]

I finally found a KZbinr who thinks like me, but knows way more. You are my biggest inspiration

[@CoachSarahNicoleB]

"I'm here to live a full life for myself" YES!

[@n3iixluv]

congrats to your ten years anniversary aileen , i am so proud of you!!🤍 your videos helped me drastically to start my healing and growing journey, to form my mindset. i watch you for years, your affiramtions became my everyday ritual this year and i just want to thank you for everything!! hearing my question as the first sentence in a video 🥹🤍 oh my god i have no words, it feels so special to be a part of your video in this way.

[@lavendaire]

wow that's amazing!! grateful for you here

[@lindsayhone5862]

I love the openness, honesty and vulnerability of your videos. You show that it’s ok if things don’t always work out perfectly. Life is a journey and as long as we are learning along the way and becoming the best version of ourselves that is ok:)

[@christinefrazier]

I understand what you mean to listen to when your body is ready when i was 35 i felt like my mind, body, relationship was ready for a baby. Now i'm a mom and i love it was a huge life change but i have no regrets. I lived very well before i had my child and i can say i was ready to have a different life with children. ❤

[@mariebunny]

Nature inspires me the most! Animals, plants, flowers, landscapes, it's an endless source of inspiration!

[@Sunny-DeeLite]

Im 28 and I recently chose to “retire” from nursing after 9 years to just choose myself and learn myself😮‍💨I had no idea the shadows that were lurking beneath my lil Cancer shell😅….. detaching my external world from my internal world is quite the journey but youve made this process so much easier to navigate so I’m so eternally grateful for you shining your authentic radiant light✨❤️‍🔥✨ I’m also a fellow INFJ so there were so many things you shared that I innerstood 😂 Love you! Thanks for sharing 🫶🏾

[@megabadunicorn8625]

Wow I’m just beginning of nursing journey at 26! I hope I don’t get discouraged later on… but let’s see what the future holds

[@MagsNLily]

@@megabadunicorn8625I started mine at 27 and 30 now. Still going strong and leveling up my nursing education

[@sayanikapandit6767]

Have been following your channel since long! It has been life-changing ❤

[@nosiphiwomangcu]

Saying "yes to joy this year"I love that. ❤

[@sarefah22]

things that inspire me right now is just going to concerts, i mean it's not just concerts, sometimes i also get to travel to other countries too because of that. i also love to write every week. seeing your video while i am eating is just, feeling so lighthearted💖 i hope you keep doing this and hope it's always bringing you joy! btw i am also infj haha i'm 29 now and just have a feeling that i may need to cut off some friends and then i saw this video, i guess being 30 is full with quality friends and the ones that cheer you up for real.

[@kethmiubeyrathna3381]

Good luck with your book Aileen🤎. So excited!!! Love you so much!

[@sunkissedcoco4083]

Thank you Lavendaire. It feels like you’re a big sister I could always look up too! Happy 10th Anniversary 🥳🥳🥳 I resonated with your answer in the related to “What’s your plan in 10 years?” (Hopefully I remember it right 😅) I agree life needs to be joyful because we’ll never know in life!!!

[@BillyWhaler]

Always love an unexpected “IU” reference. Don’t listen to much kpop but endlessly fascinated and sometimes horrified by the business side of the kpop industry. IU is a case study and unicorn. In a brutal “what’s next” industry she has been insanely resilient and able to stay on top for more than a decade.

[@mandvi24]

Can’t wait to get my hands on your book 📖 🎀 It will be a huge success ✨

[@shamshadsora6360]

So good to see you growing and evolving 💜💜💜.love you 🤗

[@rupachemudupathi9569]

My moto for life is being happy + something that gives me joy inspires me Same time I am. A multi passionate person !

[@annaugcitaly]

I enjoyed this video so much ❤ I wish you luck for your book ❤

[@josephineduran9622]

so inspiringggggg.. love you lavendaire!

[@imwortyoflove369]

Omg!! I can't wait to read your book!!! 📖😮💓

[@kynmoobareh7085]

Can’t wait for the book❤❤❤

[@clau_sing_]

Love your q&a's ❤

[@starrrliang6508]

thanks for inspiration !! i got a lot of engery from video! and for many drawning time , it is like the sunshine guiding me to live , to believe

[@sabrinatortarolo6554]

You're so inspiring💖

[@theshelbypalace]

Loved this!! You're such a lovely human!😘😘😘

[@johannahultgren2887]

Wow I can't wait to buy your book😍😍 you always have great advice and is such a wise person, whom I admire a lot!🙏

[@sakshitalwar607]

You are soo inspiring and amazing girl!💜😊

[@MynchUra]

yayyy I think your upcoming book will be amazing!!!!!

[@tajat866]

Such a nice and warm video ❤ Also, I can relate to many things you shared as someone who has been developing her own media project for 10 years.

[@itsmaiyee]

Thanks for sharing your growth journey with us, Aileen! I feel like we are so similar in many ways. I hope we get to meet in person and hang out someday. I just moved from MN to the Bay Area two years ago. My Myers-Briggs personality type is also INFJ! I also started out my KZbin channel as a singer, covering songs and releasing originals. I graduated from college back in 2016 and felt lost for a long time. I stumbled upon your channel in 2017 or 2018 and been following your content since. You are truly an inspiration! Last year, when I got laid off from my full time job at a tech company. I really felt like "that's it", no more 9-5 jobs. I'm 30 now and have been neglecting my creativity and artist soul for the most part. I want to content create full time But it's been such an emotional and mental challenging journey while struggling financially too. The dream life just seems so so far away. But I'm so glad you achieved your dream life of living according to your inner joy and inner child ❤🎉😊

[@princegeraldofdubai]

Thank you for all your contents.

[@ClaireLamb353]

You are such an inspiring person. This was so informative and really fun to watch . ❤ I’m saying yes to joy too this year !

[@svetlanakrupenko8429]

Love ur videos and u re so inspirational . Love ur meditations 😊🌸 u should do more of them ❤

[@shonaassang1053]

I find the outdoors inspiring

[@bokdong222]

It's my first time to comment here from Korea😄 I love listening your videos while studying! thank you for sharing good ideas 한국어 공부도 파이팅이에요 :)

[@azbahansari]

My growth really inspires me.

[@tanhatabassum1299]

I've been watching your videos for 4 years now. I will proudly say this is my comfort channel

[@KrisseGirl]

🌟🩷YES!! Finally your book is coming!🩷🌟

[@nimeshidissanayake8330]

Resently l started to watch your videos and I am always downloading . However I have spent almost half in my life .But I always felt kind of emptyness.After watching many videos ,I realized I have not come true my own dreams .I am still stuk in some where not belong to me.I am seriously worry ing ,why didnt we have such inspiring videos in our young age. Thank you💖 You really inspired me .

[@rachelgreen6470]

Your video not only for me to learn English well and also learn to have a positive mindset, your voice is beautiful so that makes me like your video very much, I am from Hong Kong

[@claraarnold1723]

I'm also gonna see IU this year in Berlin. I am so excited.-. also the most I've ever spent on a ticket.

[@nekogami404]

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. Your words encouraging me a lot. Since I am also a INFJ , I was introverted and it is difficult to go out and open up to peoples. But seeing you giving me some thoughts that maybe I can also break out of my shell and reach to new peoples, new version of me. Love you ~ also, you become more and more beautiful my dear ❤❤

[@ClaireLamb353]

What inspires me most in life is nature art and music . Feel my happiest singing along to songs I love on spotify and in nature by the sea and when viewing beautiful pieces of art. Claude Monet in particular.

[@she_was_here]

Watching this video made me realise what a lovely person Aileen is! Your videos, affirmations, meditations are just pure ❤ And about 30s... It's so true! I turned 30 last year & you actually see a difference in yourself in a good way! God bless you Aileen 🌻

[@lavendaire]

aw thank you 💜

[@GlowMacarena]

Inspiring video 😊 have been following your yt channel since longgg 👯‍♀️ regards from Spain

[@bankingtales]

I have been watching your videos since 2021, it feels like an elder sister guiding us with so much love n affection and positive vibes. Lysm!!... huge fan from India🇮🇳❤️

[@angiem2375]

Second comment from Uruguay. From a fellow INFJ and type 4 also. Happy to see your growth, been watching you for years. Your house is stunning I might add

[@kattydeleo9035]

🙏🤗🥰❤️💕🌹

[@RN-ki5ij]

Congratulations 🎊 I am from Pakistan and following you so long and have the same feelings to find ture and authentic self. I can't purchase your journal for some reason, but I made likewise for myself love to hear you on podcast and waiting for your book also.

[@SharaFaithRun]

I want to live a beautiful life, doing what I love - to inspire others, and help people.

[@dreamlikediana]

I was working on my homemade Health Journal as i was listening to this. And what inspires me most in life are not only my adventures that I take, especially the "f*ck it" ones, but it has also grown to be snowboarding. I think we really don't give our inner child enough credit. The things that we wanted as children and were interested in doing, there's a reason for that. And adventures can be expensive, and it is a lot of go go going. So it's not always ideal for me to always be taking an adventure. I'm not talking about travel. I'm talking about experiences. Sometimes when you do something too much it becomes a chore. It really has to be something you do every so often to break the routine of things, but when I was having heaps of health issues, chaos in my life, and just questioning my purpose I have found myself through snowboarding. I've always wanted to learn since I was a child, didn't have the money to, nor the time, until last year. And here I am. My progress is insane. I'm 32 and I struggled with a lot of people still in my life, even at my age! I truly learned to understand the people that are there for you at your lowest aren't necessarily your people because misery loves company, and people want to see you do well but not better than them. The snowboarding community, the regulars at least, they're some of the most genuine and kind people. Everyone wants to see you do well. Everyone is so dope. Funny enough, THEY ALL JOURNAL! What a crazy world I stumbled into! For awhile I felt shy and embarrassed I had this introverted side to me, but then I found out that after every snowboarding session, these people journal just like I do. And life started to make sense again, and everything started to fall together again. And now I don't feel the need to hide this version of me. While other people make it seem like you're an alien because you're an extrovert who journals or uses a planner. Or you mix two vastly different hobbies/passions together. People LOVE to put themselves, and others, into boxes. And I'm just going to say, those people aren't your people. They never will be. It takes time though. I met the man I prayed for within this sport. I remember asking for specific things over 5 years ago! Manifestation really does work. It's scary! Cool but scary! I've been single for over 5 years. And it's just been absolutely beautiful getting to know each other and dating each other and having this passion we share together, that I can learn from from him. And he even says I inspire him. We just have similar energy, the same end goals, wants, values, etc. Understanding life really happens exactly how it's supposed to and not on the timeline like you want, like you said a few times, is absolutely beautiful. That was a roundabout way of saying, snowboarding mainly inspires me, and of course my adventures! I recently got all my health results back from all my issues from the last year I'M IN THE BEST SHAPE OF MY LIFE. Every issue I had cleared up. And it's all thanks to snowboarding! And it is insane, and I know and believe things are just going to keep getting better! I'm excited!

[@AdventuresofAnandRutwick]

What a Transformation 🙏👌😊

[@BUTT-HEAD666]

I love Music Aileen I play metal guitar and piano it's awesome music takes you places that makes you feel something special 🤘

[@edele24ballet]

I love this video SO much ❤❤❤ I don't even have the appropriate words to describe how good it is 😆😆 Even that headband is so pretty and looks so magical on you 🧚🏻 And you look so perfect wearing it ✨ Plus you make me feel so happy and proud for having picked up on the significant symbolic meaning behind your making your new home 💗 It's a confirmation that I genuinely like you as a creator 😍 PS I still want that damaged mint workbook from the cottage core rehearsal 😹

[@lavendaire]

Aww thank you dear! Hehe and I have no idea what happened to that workbook

[@nathisamurugan3001]

OMG .... Book!!!! ❤🎉 Congratulations on that. I hope you will read this message. You have changed so many of my mindsets. One of the things that inspires me is your videos. I remember listening to your podcast and binging your videos four years ago. I still have a lot to learn from you. I think mindset is more important than we think, you have helped me change my perspectives, I've realised a lot about myself because of your wisdom. I'm so glad that you decided to share this with the world now you help so many people. ❤ I'm not kidding, on low days, gloomy days.....If I watch your videos, I know I'll feel so much better. Sharing the knowledge that you've gained with the people, changing people's lives, I think this is the greatest thing in the world. Because I will never forget how you helped me to evolve as a person ❤❤❤

[@lavendaire]

thank you so much for sharing all of this with me love 🩷 you're the sweetest! these words made me smile 😊

[@chrismaemercado]

Happy 10th-anniversary, lavendaire and Aileen🎉 I've been a subscriber for a long time, around 2016/2017. I was always that silent viewer, haha😅I discovered your channel while in college and was struggling. Your videos helped me find the motivation to finish my degree and start my career. However, I honestly feel lost right now and second-guessing if this career is really for me. I think I'm experiencing the same phase that you experienced in 2012 (post-graduation+quarter-life crisis), but I'm trusting the process. Your videos remind me time and time again that life is an art and that we get to choose to make it our masterpiece. I also noticed you look even more calm, grounded, beautiful, and just giving authentic energy💖, sending you light and love from the Philippines

[@lavendaire]

Wow, thank you so much. Wishing you the best in your journey 💗💗

[@chrismaemercado]

@@lavendaire This means so much 🥺 will always be grateful for discovering your channel 💗

[@emranao]

Hii, Today is my birthday and it is your channel anniversary as well. I’m so happy for both of us right now!! 🥳🥳🎉🎉🎉

[@lavendaire]

happy birthday love!

[@emranao]

@@lavendaire thank you so muchhhh!! Lots of love 💕💕

[@brendarivas3932]

I love this chat

[@maayu649]

A few years ago, I did write a comment on Lavendaire Facebook page (I think) that I would love to read a book written by Aileen one day. And then, when I was asked, what kind of book I would like her to write, I couldn't answer because I would love anything that she writes since I love her way of thinking. Pretty soon, I'm going to see it comes true and I will make sure to buy her book when it comes out. Thank you for all these years, Lavendaire ❤

[@lavendaire]

you're the sweetest! i appreciate you 💜

[@neeranuchkunakorn9969]

I am looking forward to your book❤

[@lavendaire]

💖💖💖

[@annematecun3686]

I have overcome burnout as well🙌🏼

[@lavendaire]

so glad to read this love!

[@user-nl5li4dm3z]

Sister I have always been following you since 2019, a guy came to my life this year and I first thought to push him away from me and to not get attached to him. At first he was like 'oh I love you so much and I will never leave you, I am not like others you can trust me'. Months passed and I got feelings for him. Suddenly he found another girl and said he does not feel anything for me. I begged him a lot, I always kept my self respect and ego aside for him. But he left me crying when I needed him the most for support. I am 18 years old. And I really feel depressed. Hope you will reply. Thanks ❤

[@hanhitranthi757]

Hi, i'm 27 years old and I think you should ignore him, focus on your interests, and the right person will come when you learn to appreciate yourself. I recommend you learn about John Gray😊 So good luck❤

[@DH-uw3us]

Financial security inspires me the most right now.

[@erecaastronomo8570]

First comment from Philippines ❤️

[@theinnerdolphin]

I've been following you for years and really enjoy your videos. A small note: I've heard you mention more than once that "no one was talking about this" when you first started and I'd like to gently push back on that. Many people were, some of which were on KZbin as well. Marie Forleo is one of them that I know you've come across as well, your comments on her old videos show up among the first few ones for me since I follow you. You've definitely created a lovely, special community that I'm glad to be part of, but so have many others on here, some before, some after you, and I can't see how claiming you or X or Y were the first helps or inspires others.

[@lavendaire]

Omg yes! I discovered Marie Forleo around 2015 after I started my channel, and I really looked up to her. Before I started my channel, I couldn’t find any “huge” KZbin channels talking about life design, in a lifestyle KZbinr format. I had only found spirituality channels like Teal Swan & Ralph Smart (Infinite Waters), but I was aiming to be more practical than the more spiritual (and “woo woo” at the time) channels. At the time, I put Marie in the category of a produced web show bc her quality was like a talk show but on KZbin. Like “Oprah for the web generation.” I was trying to present these personal growth topics in a KZbinr format like the beauty & lifestyle KZbinrs were doing at the time. Kind of long to explain but that’s why I just cut it short in my explanation haha.

[@theinnerdolphin]

@@lavendaire makes sense, thanks for clarifying!

[@zeded6935]

Plz bring back monthly favourites

[@TheBeautyA]

I heard you talking about wanting write a book since before, been looking forward to it since then! 😍 (been watching your youtube since long time ago) Btw do you know what genre your book will be about? 🥰

[@lavendaire]

thank you! it'll be nonfiction self help :)

[@clau_sing_]

Still waiting on that video about lessons learned from your relationship with Wilson! You're practically married having been together for so long haha

[@user-id3ls7uc6m]

You get ice tea 🍵 also normal tea and green tea.

[@ThousandairesClub]

*when I turned 30, I actually started to value life in a different way and see the beauty in life on a different level....which was so unexpected because in my 20's I didn't give a FAWWKK about anything lol.*

[@wittyshweta2101]

You just so much remind of me 💞 Can I know your zodiac sign? 😅

[@rachakerdsilp7439]

❤

[@ImYourSister]

Luv u🥰 im a muslim

[@samiha_humayra_]

Who is your celebrity crush?

[@nguluanthu1767]

How is your eyes now after LASIK?

[@robertrubi4693]

💗💗💗❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@VenusFaeriee]

Lavendaire: "20s are the years when you are figuring things out, figuring what you want to do" Me: being in that era at the age of 16

[@svetlanakrupenko8429]

How do u become intune with ur body ?😃

[@jennymayashley]

I noticed she changed the thumbnail like 2-3 times is that something people should do to boost views now? (Upcoming KZbinr wondering)

[@lavendaire]

It’s called AB testing where you can test which thumbnail gets higher click thru rate! I use tube buddy but KZbin is supposed to be rolling out this feature too

[@liyah3369]

When i first saw ur videos i thought ur name was lavendaire😅

[@mnkitchen6033]

same

[@bhaskaradhikari2802]

3rd comment.

[@sarvaepc]

Second

[@tessdehert5839]

anyone looking for an accountability buddy for content creation?

[@n3iixluv]

woah the meaning behind your tattoo is so beautiful, i love how spontanious the decision to get that tattoo was. thank you so very much for answering my question, it means so much to me. 🤍

[@lavendaire]

😊💜

[@robertrubi4693]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️