Life Update & Future Plans - Shelftember Fail - What next for "For The Love Of Sorted"? 2021

[@angid3953]

“Social hangover” is such a good description of what I feel after being around people. I have been doing jury duty & as soon as I get home I just want quiet. 🙄 Sorry about your mom’s hubby. That’s terrible. Take care of you…you will get it together. Yes about the driving, me too! 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh jury duty would be intense! I hope it doesn't go much longer. Thanks for your thoughts and support. x

[@emilybrabon5376]

Wow you've all not had much luck lately! I hope your father in law gets better soon,. Sending your family love. X You do way too much Mel! Have a break you deserve one! Xxx

[@LynnsLaunderette]

If I had lived near you and we were friends, I would have been there for you…with a coffee and snack in hand and a shoulder to lean on…. And my housekeeping skills as a gift to you for a couple of days. Oh girl… you handled it like anyone would have, honestly. You are ALIVE, and everyone is okay. It’s a BLESSING! Hugs!!

[@kittykooky]

Same with me I would do the same as you and lend her a hand and take some stress and strain off her. 🌷

[@LynnsLaunderette]

@@kittykooky I’ve been a single mom And have had to do it all while smiling -and all you wanna do is cry and hide. Mel is awesome, she’s human!

[@kittykooky]

I was also a single mum, my son is now 33, it was just me and him since he was 3yrs old so I've been there and worn the t shirt. 🌷

[@LynnsLaunderette]

@@kittykooky 💜

[@MySemiSortedLife]

@Lynn and @kittykooky - You are wonderful women. Truth be told I didn't tell anyone in my immediate "real world" until days later - because I was too proud and ashamed and knew they would have helped in all the ways. But oh I appreciate the sentiment. Also - I was raised by a single mum so I have the hugest respect for both of you. You did all the things and are everything. My mum is amazing.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Lucky I filmed this at 7am today - because my day *IMPLODED* Nothing super bad - just lots and lots and lots of time sapping tasks - oh and a roadside rescue of my bestie and her kids. Cars! Who'd have them??? (Who'd be without them?). Hopefully I'll get onto filming for Monday tomorrow..... wish me luck. This house is a pigsty and the master bedroom is out of control.... but... progress is being made... despite what it looks like in the background. lol (PS. Let me know what you think about this minimally edited chat... It was pretty much one take. I barely had to do any editing...) *Mel*

[@SammieOranges]

Imploded is a great word to describe mom life. I liked the chat :)

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Lol - yep... it wasn't even mum life - it was P&C life.

[@savannahbanks]

@@MySemiSortedLife m That huge PnC work had better be REALLY important! To you! You are overworked! I was head of an alternative school fora year. The first two months was fun and good for my self esteem . Then it got bad for my ongoing anxiety ... I was overworked. Hard to give it up, as you will find, but mental health is more important! And being a mother to 4 kids is already a big job! Maybe you’ll find my suggestion that you give up the P and C , well, rude. (Or give up this channel!) But maybe it takes an outsider (who has your same mental health issues) to see your life clearly. Hope you’ll think about it. Ps... After my year of overwork, I had a big breakdown, and moved in with my kids to my nurturing mother for a year. Phew! Love , Savannah xxxx

[@marciapickens7444]

Girl, I was keeping my eye on your coffee, hoping it stays there. 🤣

[@estherross1]

Hugs. Now you need a lot of me time or a vacation

[@Lanzafan1]

Oh you poor sausage Mel! What a horrible week for you and your family. Glad to see you are gathering yourself again and preparing for 'shelftober.' Looking forward to it. :-D When I feel anxious I can't really do anything much, I just retreat and go to my safe place - waching A Country Practice. I have them all on dvd. :-D :Love and hugs to you all this week xxx

[@XOXOBBS4EVA]

I LOVE THAT YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL, HONEST AND REAL IN ALL THAT YOU GIVE US NO SUGAR COATING 🤗👏👏

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Naw - thanks so much - what a wonderful compliment... I do filter the swear words a though. lol

[@debraarbuthnott3380]

Hi Mel, you are such a trouper!!! We all hide the extent of our mental health from our loved ones. Its what we do. As we know sometimes life throws a lot at us and all we can do is just survive and pick up the pieces later. You do this very well. My go to for my mental health is the continued declutter of my home. Once the clutter was my protection and it made me feel safe. Now it causes me anxiety and love it everytime I open up a space - its like a weight lifted. Keep up the great work!!!

[@amywalraven3455]

I’ve been worried about you since it’s been so many days without a video from you. I’m sorry to hear that there were some really tough things going on. You’re handling it all so admirably and so gracefully. I appreciate your honesty and your ability to get back up again after a hard time. Sending love to you, and sincere good wishes for your stepdad’s recovery.

[@mariacastillo3090]

You’re a trooper darling Mel. As I’ve mentioned in the past Ive suffered from depression, anxiety and horrible panic attacks from the age of 11. I’m 55 now and can totally relate to how you are feeling. Everything we experience becomes way bigger than what it actually is. With that being said you have learned to sit when you have to because otherwise you would run on dry like I used to. It is so wonderful that mental health disorders are not frowned upon as when I was growing up. You can talk about it and half the world suffers or knows someone who suffers from these conditions. I’m not sure what I want to say but that I am sorry that you’ve gone through your stepdad’s fall, car accident and passing of a loved pet. Rest my child we will be here to support you. God bless.

[@wthesandrashearman8534]

Hi Mel so sorry to hear about all the trouble you have been having, so glad the children are ok and hope your step-dad recovers quickly. My heart goes out to you, take each day as it comes don’t rush take care of yourself. Love to you all. 😘😘😘😘

[@savannahbanks]

(I love hearing your child!) You work so hard! I’m sending you 'little fairies'! ❤️🧚🏽‍♂️🧚🏽‍♂️🧚🏽‍♂️🧚🏽‍♂️🧚🏽‍♂️🧚🏽‍♂️

[@marciapickens7444]

I feel when we get a lot thrown at us, God is testing us. You passed! You went through it all. We just have to brush our self off, & get back to our life. I'm very happy to hear nobody got hurt. It could always be worse. Thanks for the update. Looking forward to your next video.

[@56vamia]

It feels as you need a lots of love and hugs from Sweden!!!

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Hugs and love back to you. Thank-you sooo much. I am counting my blessings and this community is among them. And you. x

[@SimoneS1000]

Always refreshing how open and relatable you are Mel. I have had a small car accident and felt the same shame you described. Then I realised; car insurance is for accidents - that’s what we pay all that money for! Your family have certainly been through a lot recently. Sending hugs xo

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Yes... it's illogical but what will be will be right? I think it was because I've had two before and it really just brought all that back up. And yes - thankfully Insurance is on it....

[@annecoyle7208]

Well you've been put through the mill lately Mel. I'm glad you got home safely and you are all ok. Hope your step-dad makes a quick recovery. Thanks for the chat 😊. Keep smiling sunshine X 🌞

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks so much my wonderful friend. He is on the mend for now - tough ol' begger he is - I think he's on his 12th life. I hope he has many many many more. He may have to stop his lawn mowing business though! I think working until you're 80 is nothing to sneeze at. Thanks for listening to me. x

[@emmcguire94]

Your kids probably learned so much from you over those challenges! Great building of resilience 💪🏻💪🏻

[@rachalnocchi5600]

You have had a lot of shocks! This is so hard on your body, it takes time to recover from all that. You are taking it bite by bite and day by day, thank you for sharing with us!❤ I'm as always looking forward to whatever you have planned (or not!) 😉. ((Huge hugs))

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thank-you my wonderful friend. I genuinely couldn't do life without you and this community. What a lucky lucky lucky person I truly am.

[@tonibauer8051]

Oh Jeez Mel..... You sound like you have had my kind of month. Sending all of the love and positive vibes humanly possible from Ohio, U.S.A.

[@marshabrubaker185]

Oh my, Mel. Life really decided to kick you around a bit. You are a strong person and I admire your ability to pick yourself up off the floor. I'm in the midst of possible permanent guardianship of my older sister, which means my days are filled with 6 am zoom court hearings, calls & texts with lawyers, Adult Protective Services & staff at skilled nursing facility where my sister currently resides. My life has been turned upside down. I'm also dealing with some physical health issues & financial issues. Where do I begin with mental health issues? I'm trying to make a schedule for each day, cutting the time up into blocks of tasks & activities. Not really succeeding. Today I only managed a shower & breakfast. The other part has been taken up with phone calls & texts with Adult Protective Services & relatives. That said, let's continue to encourage each other. There is light at the end of the tunnel, right?

[@MySemiSortedLife]

100% there is light. I wonder if you looked at your days differently if you can see that the days filled with zoom calls and texts and phone calls are all mega productive. I had a couple of days like that - it felt I achieved nothing - but it was all progress. 6am is crazy early for such things -but hopefully you can get loads of services set up and involved to keep her needs manageable. I have found setting an alarm at intervals in the day help too - to remind myself to eat - or drink - or check in with myself - really helps. eg. at 9:07am I have an alarm that tells me the words that align with my values and it reminds me to check in with myself. Usually at that time I've finished the mad dash of school runs etc so it's a good time. Then at 2pm I have another alarm that asks me "what are you doing" because at time I would have an hour before I have to get the kids and I could get so much done in an hour if I set my mind to it - even if I feel like I've procrastinated my day away. Thank-you sooo much for fitting me in all that you have going on - please know I don't take that for granted and truly appreciate your support. x

[@marshabrubaker185]

@@MySemiSortedLife Thanks for the suggestions & pep talk, Mel. I definitely need to take a closer look at my day, my life, my outlook.

[@karenturner7983]

Wow, a lot to deal with. I admire you for taking the time to explain to your children all you were going through. Even in your struggles you used it as a teaching moment to help your kiddos. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Lots of love from Ohio.

[@nataliesmith8827]

Mel, you've had so much to do with. I hope you are starting to feel abit more settled and finding your feet again. So pleased to hear you are all ok including your stepfather. Sending a big virtual hug. ❤

[@football_editz453]

Oh what a hellish week you had, sending you big hugs 🤗❤. You're amazing, everyone falls apart sometimes, we're human not robots and you held it together when it mattered. 💖

[@maggytrafford1366]

Aww Mel it makes me sad ☹️ to hear what you went through. I am sorry to hear about you stepdad as well, hope he gets better soon. Please don’t feel guilty about anything it happens to all of us. Thank you for choosing KZbin to do this vidio. Take care 💖💕💎🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@judenebaer9997]

Panic attacks suck !! Working through is all you can do. Stay positive. We are doing this together. Took me 3 days to do my closet on to master bedroom. Remember slow is better than nothing. Am trying to get everything out of the master bedroom.that don't belong..we will see how it goes. I loved the video I have been trying to make others feel great about decluttering and cleaning on every thing I can because I know I wish I had more feed back when I started. and I truly believe having others like you knowing that life happens and for some it's harder than other's. I have been following you for a while and YOU GOT THIS. LIFE IS A ROLLER COASTER AND SOMETIMES YOU JUST HAVE TO HOLD ON.🥰 Looking forward to see what you do soon

[@MySemiSortedLife]

100% brilliant advice. Thank-you sooo much for your support and encouragement. x🎢

[@kirstyhyatt7132]

Such a busy month, but you're doing all right, kids can be amazing when they want to, no need to be embarrassed or ashamed, it's a big month and your setting your kids up great for life by being a great example, your kids will thank you in life later for it. And don't worry about shelftember working perfectly, I don't get it perfectly every time myself, and same with decluttering, I go over the same space several times myself, and goals are brilliant to have but don't bash yourself if it doesn't go perfectly, your doing great, and a great example to your kids, and yeah lockdown is tuff but we can doing it. And my mental health I just take it day by day, and working on the space I live in currently but that because I neglected for a long time, but that's okay because I know that I am healthier and I want to be a good example to them as much as possible about looking after myself, so that is my goal

[@karendominguez2747]

I’m so sorry, it pours when it rains for sure. Please don’t be so hard on yourself, it certainly does feel like everything really gets upside down. It will get better, you are a survivor and a hard working mom and wife. I believe in you and trust you will get back on task. I love your videos and look forward to seeing you. God be with you.

[@normataylor3124]

Sorry about your step dad but glad he is heeling. You will get back n the saddle again just give yourself time. Look forward to your future videos. Hope you are feeling better also.

[@marioncerrone3456]

And breathe….💖💖💖💖

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Hugs and thank-you. x I hope things are settling for you?

[@julieanne7223]

Hi Sweetie it was good to see you. I hope everything turns out ok, it is true everything does come in threes. It was amazing to hear your son in the background, he has grown up so much. And even when you are a "Hot mess" you still look wonderful to me. Hope you have a great weekend, take care of you and stay positive.

[@pamelaplatten1574]

Take care I think you do a wonderful job with your family I think your family must be so proud of you

[@sarakopperud9597]

As hard as life is at times, and it likes to fling the worst at you sometimes, hang in there. We do a lot for our family but then they do lots for us too even if it's just understanding where we are at or where we're coming from. You've got this! Maybe not as gracefully as you wish but you handled everything like I would have and I don't have the anxiety. God bless from Minnesota and take care of yourself. ❤

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Naw - thanks so much Sara. To know I was close to "normal" in my reactions is a weird comfort. I have come to accept that anxiety is something I will live with forever - but I'm glad to know I'm developing the skills to react as others without it would. I don't know why that's comforting... but there you go. You're right. I've got this. Thanks so much. Minnesota is on my bucket list for sure. I believe the forests and lakes there are something to be seen in real life for sure.

[@kateymateymusic1]

You poor thing. Sounds like a stressful time. I very much relate to the “peopleing”. Anytime I spend with lots of people does my brain in and I require time to calm down from it.

[@steefendeesveldhuijsen2290]

I feel you; i always need a plan to function🙃🥰

[@juliewright1895]

Oh Mel, I'm so sorry! What hard stuff you've been going through!! I totally, TOTALLY understand "the cave!" I'm such an introvert too! I do fine in social settings but then afterwards, I'm drained and I just need time. Something I figured out about myself is that if I have to be doing something like intensely caring for a sick loved one for a week or two or more, then I just need time afterwards and I barely want any social interaction other than my immediate family, sometimes for a month or two even. It's crazy! But I figured out that's just how I have to deal with things. Thank you for sharing and I hope things keep getting better for you!

[@zerozilchnada5373]

Just know that watching how far you've come over the years is a true inspiration to me. Tfs & take care 🌺🙏🇦🇺💝

[@MySemiSortedLife]

You really have been here a long time and I'm so honoured. Thank-you. x

[@rebeccabanks9767]

Lovely Mel. I wish you were nearer me, so I could give you a big hug. Sending a virtual hug. You just do whatever you need to look after yourself. If that is putting up 3 videos a week, then that's great but if for whatever reason you can't then we understand. Really hope your Stepdad gets well soon. take care lovely lady. XXXXX

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Virtual hugs work too. As I've said to a few others - you might have been one of the last to know how I was if you lived nearby. Even my nearest friends only found out about it all yesterday. Because I was so ashamed and hard on myself. Silly I know. I do that though.... I either pour it all out and dump it on others or hibernate and hold it in. There's no in between. lol. I'm working on that though. A middle road is best. Thank-you for your kind and thoughtful and highly appreciated offer though. It means the world to me. x

[@judykerr5312]

You have this... all is good and blessed

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks so much Judy. Power on I say.

[@gloriabaggett7594]

Wish I was there to give you a big hug. Hang in there. ❤

[@hannahlockyer3135]

Sending you a hug 🤗 and take one day at a time.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks so much Hannah. I so appreciate your kindness and support. x

[@lesleyharris525]

Hi Mel, sorry to hear about your mum's hubby hope he's home soon, also sad news about your mum-in-laws dog, they are really a big part of the family. Sorry to hear that you were in a car accident and if the insurance say not your fault believe it. I get the social hangover, I'm not great at social stuff and need time afterwards and with the month you had! Yicks I would be down and useless.my way of coping is cleaning it's a way of controlling something that I can.

[@IrethEaron]

I am looking forward to your shelftober and the other videos you mentioned. I wish you and your family the best! I am the same when it comes to driving, it can be stressful in itself. To have multiple children in the back on top of that would be a real challenge for me for sure. I think it is great that you saw a learning opportunity for your children in your panic attack, that must have taken a lot of strength and mindfulness. Best wishes as always!

[@bevbarrett8537]

Hi you can feel very lifeless after the vacation for a few days but I was bad for about 3 weeks so do rest up and don’t beat yourself up about it your are can feel numb for about a week also sending love prayers and blessings x

[@GoingGreenMom]

Sending healing energy for the whole family! So glad you made it through this far Mel!

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks so much Megan. I really appreciate that. x

[@GoingGreenMom]

Definitely need to plan pantry challenges! I typically do January and 1 of the summer months because there is a store that does buy 2 get 3 free sales in May and August.... or I pick up beef in July as it is turning out.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Yes - I don't know what I was thinking really. Plus I just didn't anticipate what September would truly be like.

[@minimalzebra]

Care and hugs friend. ❤️

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Right back at ya my friend. x

[@caramoonlynn]

Ohhhh I can get a lot of work done in 23 minutes. Let's do this! I'm going to do 15 minutes up, then 15 minutes sitting work.

[@bevbarrett8537]

Hi I love rock painting and do jigsaws but I try to do some cleaning first even if I put a few pots away if you know what I mean I love all your content and pray for you all the time take care x

[@mandypratley9723]

Hang in there Mel

[@barbarap6851]

So good to see you, Mel! How you modeled the car accident is no invaluable to all of your children. They need to see how we can get through the tough times. On another note, I need a monthly/weekly/daily plan with little goals set for each day or I get completely overwhelmed and then feel like I can't do any of it. I like to set a few goals for each day (I know I do more than that but...). When those get checked off, it feels so good! I hope your step Dad is feeling better soon xo

[@catherinemalloy4207]

I’m truly sorry to hear about the misfortune that’s been going on in your life, I love your channel, and can relate to much of what you share with us.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks so much Catherine for your kind words. I'm honoured to connect with you. x

[@ellenstam-mulder3002]

i am far away but i am thinking of you. i watch your video's mel en support you like always. big hug Ellen

[@MySemiSortedLife]

You're in my heart Ellen - thank-you for always thinking of me. x

[@GoingGreenMom]

Totally agree on needing structure! I have been completely doing nothing lately because some of my structure went away with the summer declutter challenge ending.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Right? It's a weird thing but it's something so true for me. My biggest challenging is ensuring I still implement the down time and follow my moods to give myself a break when it's necessary. Thats the challenge.

[@heatherredmon5550]

Hi Mel! I always have to make to do lists for myself. They are like mini goals throughout my week. I try to put things on my daily lists that I know can be achieved that day. I strive for the win daily! Also, I’m so glad you and your family are safe.

[@FrugalFunMum]

I teach Zumba for my fitness which is great because I'm not sure that I would make the time to go to classes like I use to. I LOVE being home and now that I've started my own channel you realise that your filming nearly everything in your life LOL

[@SammieOranges]

Mel, thanks so much for sharing. I'm not even half way thru this but I feel like I'm watching a video of myself, we are going thru very very similar things in our lives. Be safe, thanks for all you do!

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh I'm sorry you've hit a bumpy road too. Just know you're not alone. I wish I could help? Hang in there. We've got this. x

[@moniquef4737]

Big big love to you ❤️❤️❤️ how r u going atm? You’ve handled it all really well. I admire that you shared with the kids about how you were feeling, it just shows them how important it is to be honest about feelings 💖

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thank you so much!! I'm still struggling with focus and attention if I'm honest - but .... I'm getting there. How are you???

[@moniquef4737]

@@MySemiSortedLife completely understandable since these last few weeks have been chaotic for you. You’ve got this! I’m not too bad, thank you. Just trying to get through these next two weeks of uni before break! Been stressful to say the least but KZbin has been a saviour in a way as I watch videos to help with my anxiety when I’m not doing uni work. Look after yourself and sending big hugs as always ❤️❤️❤️

[@GoingGreenMom]

Well if you have 2 weeks of no school runs, that is good timing at least.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Yep. Already one week down though!?

[@GoingGreenMom]

@@MySemiSortedLife oh, I was thinking you had 2 more weeks.

[@martinafranciscus1281]

Side effect from the vaccination - sleep for 3 days....and Mel, life happenes, don't beat yourself up. You'll get to things, when you're ready. Take good care, greetings from Munich🍺

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Yeah - I've heard that could be it too... pretty poor timing on my behalf to have it straight after such a huge social thing. But all good. Thanks sooo much. I will share a 🍻 in Munich with you someday....

[@kathybottoms5459]

Hi mel I've missed you.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Likewise! I hope all is well for you?x

[@kathybottoms5459]

@@MySemiSortedLife oh I wish I could say I was good but in the real world I'm sad my brother is terminally I'll and I'm taking care of him.love you mel🥰

[@audreycelik6800]

you are an amazing woman mel xx

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thank-you for building me up and encouraging me so. x

[@MySemiSortedLife]

PS. Takes one to know one!

[@audreycelik6800]

@@MySemiSortedLife it's true you do it all I admire you so much

[@angelabaugh4446]

Wow superwoman. Life can be a bitch at times. Take it easy, if I lived round the corner, I would be there for a shoulder to lean on and to help . Xx

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Aint that the truth - we got through and will be stronger for it. Fun (or not so fun) fact - I have close friends literally around the corner and I didn't tell anyone who could have seen me in person for two days after. I was a hot mess. Thankfully the lows don't take a hold of me for as long as they used to - it used to be weeks and weeks of that "back in the day".

[@patriciaalldred1036]

I totally agree that we all need a goal to focus on - whatever it may be. And in your words, we can only ‘strive to achieve’. None of us know what lies ahead so we just put one foot in front of the other and keep learning and growing. Life does not happen ‘to’ us, it happens ‘for’ us. Those are not my words, but they are the ones I live by. Whatever you are doing and however you are doing it - is exactly how it is suppose to be. How could it be otherwise?

[@franskie1697]

❤

[@GoingGreenMom]

Just out of curiosity, have you found a good way to incorporate breaks? I do the same things every day to keep things going, but eventually I get burnt out on that schedule and everything falls apart for a week or two before I can jump back in. I haven't figured out how to have 1 down day and not completely get off track....

[@MySemiSortedLife]

When I was on top of things and doing the daily - I would incorporate a "down day" on Thursdays. That was my day to do as I pleased. I found that I was still productive - but that I didn't have to be. But more than one day - and as this has been almost 3 weeks - really really hard to build momentum again. But.... I know it can be done so I'm not discouraged. Every day I say "today's the day I get my sh$t together" and then by that night it's "Tomorrow's the day I get my sh$t together" lol.

[@savannahbanks]

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[@MR-rw3vc]

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[@MySemiSortedLife]

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[@ellengriffith1585]

First 😃

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Naw - how I so truly appreciate you!! x

[@sonyahubbard3226]

Xxo

[@MySemiSortedLife]

xoxox