Worries & Thoughts: Our Uncertain Lease Future with Our Landlord

[@MySemiSortedLife]

This is part two of a series of 4 videos - Watch them all in order here. kzbin.info/aero/PLOQdR5OVSlXOBtIMtgcVKH2qaX6PHKqHA

[@FrugalFunMum]

The most helpful tips I have for moving is to get free boxes from bunnings, ask coles / woolies for their boxes they are always happy to pass on or your local buy nothing group and label each box, kitchen , bedroom etc. Get a storage unit if you can about a month out and start moving out anything small you can yourself so when the removalists come there isn't much for them to do and it's cheaper per hour. Also make each child a bag for their first night pack like your going on holiday so when they get to the new place they have everything, toothbrush, pj's books, electronics etc.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Great tips. We picked up about 30 boxes for $40 from market place - proper moving ones... purchased a few bits and boxes from Bunnings - they have some great moving stuff now. I don't think a storage unit would be cost effective to be honest... - and we will be moving everything ourselves in my husband's work truck and friends' utes and trailers... loads of hard work. Great tips for the kids too. We actually need to get some suitcases for the kids - I might ask around and see if anyone has any lying around empty. Thanks for your suggestions. x

[@rebeccaweir8857]

Hang in there. You are a very strong woman. Wishing you all the best and who knows….it might all work out for the better at the other end for you.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh it will in the long run - it's the short term thats doing my head in.

[@Rose274]

You can't see the stars without the darkness Mel. You'll get through this and come out the otherside in a better place. Nothing happens without a reason and even though you don't know the reason right now in time it will all become clear. My heart goes out to you all at such a difficult time. Hang in there Mel everything will be ok sending you infinite love,light, hugs and positive vibes 🙏🤗💜

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Rose, your heartfelt comment touched me deeply. It's in times like these that I realize how amazing our online community is. Your words of encouragement and love give me the strength to keep going. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@britt581]

I support channels by not skipping ads. With all the uncertainty going on, I hope the long apple commercial I'm watching puts something in the pot for y'all. Stress is never good for a momma that is responsible for the lives she has around her. Know that you will do what your family needs, and life will go on.

[@shelpen]

You don’t have to! The fact of placing the ad is paying the commission not the views/skips of said ad. 😌

[@britt581]

It allows creators to get more ad revenue, as they generally get paid more if you watch full ads, or at least 30 seconds of longer ones.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh you thanks soooo much. Means the world to me that you’ll sit through ads for me. That’s amazing. X

[@britt581]

@MySemiSortedLife I have no spare income to share but I can give you my time. I once sat through a 45 minute ad (admittedly it was interesting so not suffering) and I hope it helps even if it is an extra nickel. This one was well over 10 minutes so it should be worth at least a dime ;)

[@MySemiSortedLife]

OMG - I had no idea they had such long ads!???

[@vicky_plans_budgets]

Sending you love, lots of courage and strength. The unknown is always scary, I know you will shine through this storm 🤗💜

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thank you so much!! Thank-you. x

[@normataylor3124]

Mel I'm so sorry for you and your family. I've been playing my playlists of your videos 10 to. 15 hours a day on three devices I hope this helps you. Sending big hugs and a shoulder for you to lean on. Does your country have any assistance for families that might help you find a place to move to? Will be praying you can find what you need and for a reasonable price. It is so expensive where you all live. Take care and know we are here for you.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

It will 100% help - thank-you.x But don't over do it and end up costing yourself money - also - you'll probably get sick of me!

[@sailortwips]

We went through this last year when, after telling us they had no intention of selling for a few more years and that they know there was a real risk it would make us homeless, they decided to take advantage of the market anyway and sell after we'd been there 10+ years (although, jokes on them because they didn't get anywhere near the asking price and lost money on it because they hadn't maintained it either lol I embrace the pettiness 😏) From personal experience, I totally understand the panic and sadness you must be feeling. The realisation of how real the possibility of homelessness is is an incredibly overwhelming and devastating experience. As, is uprooting from somewhere you've called home for over a decade, especially when it's not by choice. It's so messed up that this sort of thing is allowed to happen and that you're expected to just get on with it because "that's life". But it's so much for a person to go through and you're allowed to feel what you feel without always having to try and put a positive spin on it and "think positive". Sometimes it just truly feels (and is) rubbish and that's okay. I don't have anything helpful to say because I'm honestly not sure how I made it through it all myself but I just wanted to say that I'm sending positive thoughts and crossing my fingers that it all works out for you as you need it to 💜💜

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Wow, that's such a messed up situation! I can't believe they did that to you after promising otherwise. Well, at least they didn't get the asking price and lost money on it! Karma has its ways, right? But seriously, it's unfair that you had to go through all of that. Your comment did truly help - just knowing I'm not alone makes the world of difference. I hope you have somewhere you love now? x

[@sailortwips]

@@MySemiSortedLife we do thankfully, it turned out to be a blessing in disguise but it was a hell of a disguise... I'm so hoping the same happens for you 🙏🏻💜

[@allisonboulton1754]

Hi there !!!! New subscriber here from Bendigo, Vic....i have just discovered your channel and am binge watching whilst procrastinating......i feel like i am watching my twin....my family has done the move from Qld to Vic 12 months ago.....we were in a similar position.....the move was so stressful....im really feeling for you.....such relatable content....im always the one checking on everyone and everything and i forget about myself .... so your advice is very helpful....i also feel like i get bogged down and my brain gets so clogged i cant make even a simple decision so im going to take your advice and just do 1 thing today....just 1 thing and go from there..i look forward to watching more, thanks so much 😊

[@catherinep1800]

You are going through so much, Mel. My heart just breaks for you. The unknown is very scary and living in uncertainty is difficult. You are smart and fearless and you will conquer this challenge. As always, much love to you and your family 🫶🫶🫶🫶❤️❤️❤️❤️.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Your heartfelt comment truly touched me. It's comforting to know that I have such amazing viewers like you who care and empathize. Your support gives me strength to face the unknown. Much love to you and your family. 🫶🫶🫶🫶️️️️

[@dianabanana9474]

I wish there was something I good say or do to make things easier for you. I do like when you sit down and talk to us and share things with us. Feel free to cry. I know I would be. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Love you ♥♥♥

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks so much Diana - your kind words and generous thoughts mean the world to me.

[@tracyc160]

I’m sorry your going through so much. I have all the confidence that you will come through this wiser and stronger! You got this girl. We are with you…….❤

[@MySemiSortedLife]

I know you're right... thank-you. x

[@rachelg785]

From our renting days I recall you can ask your real estate to help you find a new place - I am pretty sure they are obliged to ensure you aren't kicked out and become homeless. AND, ask the real estate to ask the landlord to be kind and if you find a property earlier than your lease ends to mutually cancel the lease so you don't have to pay double rent beyond the week or so it takes you to move. Most landlords would do this, especially given that it is them who have initiated the need for you to move in the first place. I also think bonds can be transferred from property to property - definitely enquire to real estate about this to see if it is still a thing and how that might work. My guess without knowing anything else specific is that maybe the landlord is thinking to sell empty and take advantage of the high house prices. Maybe they are ready to retire now or something too. Can be all sorts of reasons to do so. Like maybe a family member or them themselves need to live there. Times are tough for everyone. Whatever the reason, I am hoping you will end up somewhere better and you'll look back and see this as a blessing.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

I really appreciate you taking the time to share these suggestions. I have reached out to my real estate agent and see what can be done but she was non commital. Her communication is somewhat wanting.... but it will be ok... Thank you so much!

[@karenturner7983]

You are all in my prayers. I am looking for wonderful things for you and your family.

[@GoingGreenMom]

I haven't done a ton of moving, so not much advice, but wanted to give the reminder that decluttering is supposed to give dopamine hits similar to shopping, so getting stuck into the decluttering might help if you are like me and spend when you are having all the feels. Praying you find an amazing space that is great for the pets and family alike.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

I really appreciate your reminder about decluttering! It's such a helpful way to avoid impulse spending. Thank you for your well wishes and prayers for finding a perfect space for my pets and family. Sending you positive vibes as well!

[@franlewis7122]

Mel… I feel for you and your family so much ♥️ My mum went through this in July last year and it’s been a journey, she was there 31 years and is in her mid 70’s and she’s now come through it… take it slowly and show yourself kindness…sending you big hugs ❤️‍🩹

[@judithwoomer7747]

I just can't say how sorry I am that your going through this. I pray that all will be well!!!🦋🦋❤❤🦋🦋❤❤🦋🦋❤❤

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks so much - I promise it will be.

[@RebeccaShepherd]

All worthwhile comments ts mel, don't think you are being petty at all. How sweet was Rosie and Jonah with their comments about moving. I just want to give you a hug through the camera mel. Lots of happy vibes to you mel.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks so much. x

[@mariagar5758]

😮 don't worry about it, things always have a way of working out. Try to declutter and pack as fast as you can. Have a wonderful weekend, take care bye

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Haha, if only decluttering and packing were as easy as it sounds! But I'll do my best. Thanks for the encouragement and have an amazing weekend!

[@Mrsran87]

Ohhh Mel,I'm in the USA but please know that I'm sending you my deepest heartfelt thoughts & prayers through this journey in your life!! I wish that I could give you a big ole sisterly bear hug and tell you everything will be okay,and it will be in time I'm sure!!! We're all here with you from near and far,please take care of yourself dear Mel~Lisa from Virginia USA🥰❤

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks soooo much Lisa. It means the world to me. I don't know if you've been subbed long - but my husband lived in Virginia as a kid in the 80's - Mt Vernon I think? Has very fond memories. Soemday we would like to visit.

[@Mrsran87]

That is so awesome,Mel! Mt Vernon is such a beautiful place,esp in the Autumn months when the leaves are changing colors. We live a little over 2 hours from there..I do hope that y'all will be able to visit one day and enjoy some good old Virginia hospitality!!❤@@MySemiSortedLife

[@barbarap6851]

Hi, Mel! The kids just say the cutest things! Good job moving the Audi on, reducing subscriptions, etc. That all really does help. I am also glad that you have friends that are willing to take your pets, if needed. This is all going to work out. xo

[@MySemiSortedLife]

It hasn't sold yet - fingers crossed.....

[@susanbergh7764]

Hi,Susan from Sweden, sending love, healing and prayers ❤️🙏❤️🙏

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thank-you sooo sooo much.

[@lesleyharris525]

Hi Mel, lovely to see you, you can do this, the thought of moving is difficult and we all feel like it's to much but take an honest look at your house? That draw in the kitchen is broken and has been ever since i started watching you, so they don't care about the place so you can do the same, I'm not saying trash it but if you can just let the emotions go. Mine has only had emergency repairs in the last 20 years and quite a bit before that 😳, so you can find a place where you can live that's much better cared for, ❤

[@janemercer4]

Wishing you so much luck in finding something you love ❤️ you so deserve some good luck Mel you’re such a lovely lady . Stay as positive as you can , all things happen for a reason xxxx

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thank you so much!! You're so right about it all happening for a reason - thank-you. x

[@rachalnocchi5600]

Oh bless little Jonsey! Children are so litteral, I got a good giggle over that!😂 Hugest hugs, moving is stressful, but new possibilities are on the other side. If you ever want to chat to me about any aspect, you know you can!❤

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Haha, I'm glad little Jonsey's literalness brought a smile to your face! Moving can be super stressful, but I'm excited for all the new possibilities waiting for me. If you ever want to chat about anything, feel free to hit me up. Sending you the biggest hugs!

[@Weirtoe]

Sweet angel. My heart just leapt through the screen to you. Im so sorry you're struggling, but for the littlest consolation you're handling it so well. I know it's a struggle to even come out from the covers and face each day, but here you are AND you're sharing your feelings. With that sort of money for rent, I don't think you're going to have as hard a time as you think finding a new place, the hardest thing might be getting out to view rentals - do you have to view to apply? If so, can you ask people who could inspect on your behalf? I hate sitting here watching you and feeling so bloody helpless.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh please know that we’re ok. I rarely share the hard stuff unless I know I can soon share some good stuff. I hate to think I’ve upset you so. Please know we’ll be ok. X

[@Dee-iw6up]

Keeping everything crossed, dear Mel.💐💌

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Your support and well-wishes mean the world to me, thank you for keeping everything crossed!

[@Dee-iw6up]

@@MySemiSortedLife 😊

[@sassyslsgrl]

Love and prayers for you and your family, but I know you've got this ❤️. Also, I understand choosing not to be petty or bitter, but it's okay to let yourself be angry at the situation too. Hugs.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thanks... it's hard for sure...

[@katietayler144]

I’m going to send out a group text to all my friends and family recommending your channel Mel ❤ I’ve been watching for years why shouldn’t I tell my tribe about you 😊🎉

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh wow! Thanks so much Katie - that's so sweet - I hope they like me. If they're as nice as you what a wonderful community we'll build x

[@ellenstam-mulder3002]

everthing become alright.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

It will be - for sure.

[@heike3790]

You got this god will give you a home stay strong crying sometimes helps to😅 blessings for you and your family from heike in germany

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Your words mean the world to me, Heike. Thank you for your support and blessings. It's amazing how we can connect with people from all over the world through KZbin. Stay strong and may God bless you and your family abundantly!

[@maggytrafford3969]

Hello beautiful lady! I am soso sorry that you and your family are having to go through all this stress. 😢seeing you upset Mel made me very teary. You are a tough lady and you will get through this Mel because you are a wonderful Mum to your children and would do anything for them! They are going to give you all the strength that you need to go forward and start a new life maybe even a better one. Wishing you all the luck in the world🌷❤️💜🍀🐶

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Aw, I didn't mean to make you teary! Thank you for your sweet words and for being there for us.

[@nissaraebudgets]

Oh Mel ❤ sending you so much love. This is so stressful - I wish there was something I could do to help. ❤

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Just you being here is enough help - thank-you x

[@sammiecollier8783]

So sorry that you and your family have to go through this. I think in many parts of the world housing and rent are outrageous. Our family went through a similar thing just a few months ago. We’ve been renting the same place for around 20 years but a family member of the landlord was moving in. We couldn’t afford to rent another place in the city, we were living in Toronto Canada so we decided to move to another city and buy a home. We were fortunate to have some inheritance. By the way we became first time homebuyers after the age of 50. So it’s ok if you’re a bit older when you’re ready to buy a house 😉. Wishing you and your family all the best!

[@MySemiSortedLife]

It’s so scary huh? I’m glad you have somewhere that is yours x

[@krissy2321]

Thinking of you Mel and sending good vibes your way 💛💛💛

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thank you for thinking of me! Your good vibes mean the world to me. Sending positive energy right back at you!

[@juliesmith668]

I wish I could help you Mel, I understand your pain, you will have to try and focus on all the good things that may come out of this move. Everything will work out.........maybe for the better!!! 😘

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Thank you so much for your understanding. It means a lot to know that there are supportive people like you out there. I'll do my best to see the silver lining and focus on the potential positive outcomes. Your comment made my day!

[@franskie1697]

Sending love Mel ❤ from the Netherlands

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Ah, the power of love knows no bounds, even crossing borders to reach the Netherlands! Sending love right back at ya,!

[@tonyacullen7333]

I have found color coding rooms and each person's things with a master sheet and color tape or stickers to boxes helps with move. I know you will find a wonderful place for everyone and pets. Good thoughts only 😊

[@Lanzafan1]

Be as petty as you like! I don't think you're being petty anyway, it's good to let it out - your landldord can feck right off 😁It's going to cost him to rent it back out for sure. Just a thought - are the kitchen appliances yours? I'm thinking in particular about the fridge. I lost a fridge once due to one of our many house moves. I turned it straight back on when we put it in the new house and the motor blew. You have to leave a fridge switched off for a good 3 hours or so for the gasses to settle back down 🥰🥰🥰

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Oh good point. Yes. All the appliances except dishwasher stove/oven are ours.

[@fionascheibel977]

Sadly if your area has a rental crisis like where i live the owner of your house can rent it out for more rent than you are paying as is. Complete dumps can be rented when people are desperate to live somewhere.

[@maureensales8602]

Its the same in WA its a disgrace that the government have bought people to this being homeless with kids sleeping in cars They group together for safety at night So bad its sad and infuriating.Im hoping good things for you and it all comes together ❤

[@MySemiSortedLife]

It's absolutely messed up that families are forced to sleep in cars. The government needs to get their act together and prioritize helping those in need. It's so scary. If I had money my dream would be to help families like that. #someday

[@normataylor3124]

Keep up on your mental health. You will make this work one way or another. Have you asked your landlord if you could move earlier would they go ahead and release you from your lease with not having to pay it out.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

We have asked - but they were non committal. Fingers crossed.

[@shereem4237]

I had to move in with family to save for a house, It's so hard to do when paying rent. I hope it all goes well for you, I don't know what area you're in but fingers and toes crossed you get a place fast.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Yeah - that will never be an option for us - we have to figure out how to save and pay rent simultaneously. Hopefully the government wises up and realises that if someone can pay rent for 20 years they can surely pay a mortgage!

[@sarahconner8287]

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[@MySemiSortedLife]

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[@Aproudmummy87]

We had to move house and instead of paying two rents we arranged with our landlord to put the house for rent on the market once we found another house. They managed to find a new tenant fast and we didn't have to pay two rents. I hope that makes sense lol but you can try to arrange sth. Good luck

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Definitely hoping for that - we suspect they are selling though... so not sure if that will work in this cast...

[@steefendeesveldhuijsen2290]

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[@MySemiSortedLife]

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[@rachelg785]

Not sure if it is a Qld wide thing (I think it is), but I think the rules have changed regarding pets... not allowed to discriminate regarding pets now. I think the tenant just need to ensure the fencing, etc would be suitable to keep their pets contained, and obviously pest control still needs to be attended. Anyway... this would be a good thing to check before you get too concerned. And I assume you offered more rent in case that persuades them? (I reckon you would have... just thought I'd mention it in case). We are building a shed-house that a family member was going to move into but that arrangement fell through... it's a shame you aren't anywhere near us, I'd offer it to you. :(

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Naw thanks Rach - yeah landlords can't deny pets once you live there - but if you have them on your application and it's a toss up between you and someone who doesn't have pets there's a risk they would still choose the pet-less people. It will be ok though.... ;-)

[@AprilShowers560]

Oh Mel, I’m sorry. That’s the thing about renting, it’s all relative and you never know the circumstances of the landlord’s life. Since Covid, being a landlord has also become more difficult, that’s not your fault but that’s the sad facts, The difficulties get passed on. I’m 52 and both of my (adult) children are still at home and can’t afford to move out. Can’t afford to get married or start a family of their own and it’s all really, very sad to be honest. Life in Australia is very, very difficult. I have no advice to offer but I offer my sympathies.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Yes - its definitely so hard - the thing I think I'm most frustrated about is that I suspect that this current landlord is a foreign owner - and so they have not invested in this home to make it better for locals nor will locals benefit from the sale or future tenants. I think the government needs to prevent International investors while we face this cost of living crisis so that it all comes back into our own economy...(or at least tax everything higher for those international investors.) Not that I pretend to understand the economy of course. lol Thank-you for your support and encouragement.

[@suddenlythree]

I am sure you have already thought of this but just in case, could you offer the current landlord the $670 and sign a 3-year lease so you can go straight into your new home in 2027? Sorry for the unsolicited advice.

[@MySemiSortedLife]

To be honest - there's so much work that needs to be done in this place that it's genuinely not worth that - even done up. If I'm paying $670 it would want to be like a mansion! lol

[@samanthabaines3578]

Oh Mel, I hate to watch you upset😢 x

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Always know this Sam - by the time you see me upset - everything is ok... I promise more positive videos (after this weekend. x)

[@samanthabaines3578]

@@MySemiSortedLife I know, but as I've said before, you are my virtual friend and I wish I could send you a hug when you are sad x

[@anneenste]

The pets are the hardest part. Thank goodness for good friends.

[@carliem9494]

I’m sure this will turn out for the best for you, I know it’s difficult to even see the light at the moment though ..... however, just a query - not living in Aus - don’t you have certain rights of tenure after renting the same place for over ten years?

[@moniquef4737]

Trust me Mel, it’s awful now but I know it will work out in the end. You’ve had so many challenges and it’s worked out in the end. Also, I’ve seen people ask Facebook groups if they know of any rentals in the area and email local real estate agents about properties. You could write a letter about you guys, rental history etc when you apply for places so it’s more personal but don’t mention the pets. I wonder if Mel K would have any tips and tricks since ofc she’s in the real estate industry!

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Yep - I've been in Mel's ear a lot... def been in Facebook groups. I think this will be a case of not what we know but who we know.

[@GoingGreenMom]

Is there no chance of getting approved for a mortgage now?

[@MySemiSortedLife]

No - and even if there was the market is so inflated that we could end up worse off in two years. It's safer to rent until my eldest is 18.

[@lynneanthony168]

Is the friend of a friend's house still an option?

[@MySemiSortedLife]

It depends on whether they find somewhere to rent near their new job. They can technically commute if they need to.

[@lynneanthony168]

@MySemiSortedLife Ahhh, ok, understood

[@amppari3061]

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[@MySemiSortedLife]

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[@margaretsofocleous1999]

I think you deserve a lovely house

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Yeah - but - beggers can't be choosers.

[@notcountingsheep3361]

Did you say you'll be close to 50 in 2027?

[@MySemiSortedLife]

Yep. 🤪

[@amynanfito248]

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[@MySemiSortedLife]

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