LIVING ALONE Over 50 - What They DON’T Tell You

[@azteca6695]

My Mexican mom would tell us in Spanish. "Better alone, then in bad company"

[@HappyonMonday]

I LOVE that and I agree!! ☺

[@notyet2345]

I have lived alone for years and I still love it. I can’t imagine me ever living with anyone again.

[@HappyonMonday]

Me too!! 😁

[@BeerBikes]

been solo since '09 and I frickin' love it! love the solitude and freedom, and NO drama. keep up the awesome work. Peace!

[@HappyonMonday]

That's awesome!! Thanks!! 😀

[@MikeSchmeling]

I have been divorced for 11 years. And I live alone. Dated is a such a PIA. I have difficulty sharing my resources, mostly time. I just got a new puppy... he brings me joy everyday (and some anguish ..lol). As a man safety concerns are not there for me, however getting someone to drive me home from a car repair/drop-off or an out-patient medical appt IS a concern.

[@HappyonMonday]

I'm hoping to get a dog in a few months! 🐕Yes, I usually wait while my car is getting serviced. I just bring a book. My son lives nearby so I have him for medical appts. ☺

[@donna8993]

​@@HappyonMondayI'm alone and I got a puppy. He's a lot of company and gives me someone to care for. Also, someone to hold and give kisses to. ❤🐕 I'm his whole world. An unconditional love.

[@HappyonMonday]

@@donna8993 I love dogs!! ☺

[@kathrynhoppers5737]

I got a puppy, and then another puppy. They never leave my side and give me so much love. It's nice having them to care for, take on walks, and keep me company.

[@HeatherCampbell-kc7fx]

That's why pets are great!!!

[@HappyonMonday]

I agree! ☺

[@ryanclark6602]

I love that purse or a nurse comment 😂 That was my experience with online dating. Women looking for THEIR retirement plan!

[@HappyonMonday]

😁 Maybe online dating is just not good for our age group! 🙂

[@samanthadodd8112]

I've lived by myself since I was 19. Love love love it. 99 percent of the time, it's the best thing ever. 35 years of living proof, it's wonderful. I always have a phone clipped to my side at all times.

[@HappyonMonday]

That's awesome!! Thanks for sharing! ☺

[@deadandburied7626]

@@samanthadodd8112 you only need a clam dumb phone to dial 911 .

[@Funinhounslow]

I live alone but not too far from my partner who also has her own place. Unusual arrangement but it works well and suits us. I definitely need lots of time alone. I am on the downward slope at work - 9 shifts left before I quit for good at 57 and have found your videos a great help

[@HappyonMonday]

That's awesome! I've often thought that would be the way to do it! 😁 9 shifts left - Yay!! You must be so excited!! I'm glad I helped! ☺

[@whyme7996]

My Aunt and her man lived on the same property but in 2 different mobiles. They would wake up and spend the day together but then they would need their own space. They were together for decades and were very happy.

[@HappyonMonday]

@@whyme7996 That's fantastic!! 😀

[@patriciamattei2362]

Nothing beats a fur ball that barks & loves you ❤️ 😘 ♥️ Company & safety all rolled into a huggable package 😊 thank you for your time!

[@notyet2345]

My fur ball would become best friends with the burglar.😂 and she’s barks at everything so I pretty much ignore her barking. She barks at leaves……okay?

[@HappyonMonday]

I agree!! I miss having a dog! 🐕☺

[@HappyonMonday]

@@notyet2345 That's cute! 🥰

[@mikemiller3428]

I'm a guy living alone. I don't really think about safety aspect. If I had a suggestion it would be a camera inside the home and motion lights outside. Especially back or garage door.

[@HappyonMonday]

Great suggestions! Thanks!! 👍

[@surrelljr]

Being alone doesn’t bother me, people get to be a nuisance. I’ve never really depended on people for much. The problem now is people keep pestering me because they constantly need company, so I quit answering texts and answering the phone. Being alone is great!

[@HappyonMonday]

Being alone is great! But we do need some social interactions with people we care about! ☺

[@surrelljr]

@ I pass on most of it

[@Tavi-u4x]

👍Julie you're a inspiration to anyone retired or thinking about retirement I moved to a new city closer to family God is my rock! I leave home 5 hours daily That is my interaction time with people and part time gig I cannot wait to get back home to my peace and serenity! Home is haven When I was working I was never home I treasure my peaceful solitude home time! I rent from my uncle Once you get to know yourself its than you truly never get lonely Being in a unhappy marriage is the worse lonely I treasure my solitude and privacy Retirement was a smooth transition cause I love my OWN company Julie i'm still catching up on your content Thank you for your service😊

[@HappyonMonday]

Thank you so much! I agree. I love being home! You are very welcome! ☺

[@AmyGray-e2z]

I’m a 53 year old retired widow, lost my husband almost 7 years ago. Lived alone since then. I really enjoy it. Sure is there times when its gets a little to quiet, absolutely but I love my independence and the peace. I won’t ever remarry. I choose not to date and I’m ok with this decision. I have a few friends, a grown son, a loving dog and cruise and travel a lot. It’s all I need. Like you, I own a home, car and am financially sound for the rest of my life. I’m content. I’m just in my next chapter in life.

[@HappyonMonday]

I'm sorry for your loss. 😕 But I'm so glad you are enjoying your independence and peace! Dogs are the best - I can't wait to get one again! ☺

[@AmyGray-e2z]

@@HappyonMondaythe hornet spray next to the bed is a good idea. Going to Walmart tomorrow to get some. 😊

[@daniellem5175]

I live alone and have been for years. I love it but I do have a dog. I didn't realize the life alerts didn't work when outside! Great idea about the smartwatches and Alexia!! My neighbors are fairly close but if I fell inside my house, I'd probably lay there for days. Need to get a check-in system set up! Great video!

[@HappyonMonday]

Well this was like 10 years ago and she lived on a remote property. So they coud be why life alert didn't work there. Yes I like the idea of the smart watch. Thanks!! ☺

[@ritaplatz5013]

Hi Julie! I really appreciate you sharing this! I’m not retired yet but I’m single and not dating so I will probably retire single lol. I too am an introvert so I love my quiet time. I live next door to my brother and his wife which does make me feel very safe and secure. Even though I would love to be in a relationship, I’m also 100% okay being single and it’s so nice to hear others feel the same! Thank you for all you do 😊

[@HappyonMonday]

You are very welcome! How nice that you live next to your brother. ☺

[@michellem8284]

I downsized from my big house into a condo in a secure building. I immediately felt more safe. I also tried internet dating and, like you, did not have very good results. I think it is harder to meet someone online as we get older. Most of the time I'm okay being alone.

[@HappyonMonday]

I really considered a condo! I'm glad you feel safe. I'm OK with it most of the time too. ☺

[@beatricerights]

oh my God! You are my twin. Although, I would love a partner but, will not settle for less than I deserve. I mostly want a part to celebrate holidays and vacations.

[@HappyonMonday]

I love this! 😄 Yes. I go back and forth. But I also will not settle. 👍

[@lisagardner9798]

Always look forward to seeing your videos! Great advice.

[@HappyonMonday]

Thank you! ☺

[@danavelez5615]

See if your local animal shelter offers a "day out" with their dogs. Many let you take a dog out for the day to go on hikes, socialization and who knows maybe adoption! A win-win for both! Or maybe foster?

[@HappyonMonday]

That's a great idea!! 😀

[@luciepepe1322]

@danavelez5615. @HappyonMonday I wanted to recommend the same! Awesome idea! Walking/hiking with a dog is safer for a single female. The only downside to having a dog that I can think off is when we vacation and can not take them with us. The pluses far outweigh that minus, though - dogs are the best companions, protectors, hunting buddies, and mice catchers!

[@carrie5813]

I’m in an apartment, so I feel safe where I’m at because it’s a fairly secure building. But, one day I would love my own house. So, this vlog was really helpful: taking into account having neighbors for peace of mind. But, I love living alone. I will get together with a friend for lunch once every two weeks and that’s plenty. Plus, I enjoy traveling solo as well. I love to go on ski adventures by myself. Just surrounded by nature, taking in the quiet. It’s wonderful. I have tried online dating but it’s like finding a needle in a haystack. Plus, like you I enjoy my solitude 90% of the time. In my opinion, those are really good odds. 😀

[@HappyonMonday]

Yes, I feel like an apartment would be a safe place to live! You sound very similar to me! ☺

[@golt4576]

Doing your own thing is great. Friends and neighbors are key. The idea about wasp spray is good.

[@HappyonMonday]

I agree!! Yes, my sons gave me some great ideas and help! ☺

[@Mekias]

I love living alone at 52. It's like a warm cocoon where I feel safe and relaxed. I'd like to have someone to go out with on occasion or travel with but otherwise I'm happy. At this point I would have to meet the perfect person in order to consider living with someone again. I'm in a townhome community where houses are identical, people are close, and streets are well lit. I don't have an expensive car in the driveway so I feel fairly safe. No reason to target my place.

[@HappyonMonday]

That's what I always say! I'd have to meet the perfect person! Sounds like you have a nice, safe home. ☺

[@kathrynhoppers5737]

I moved to a 55+ neighborhood where the homes are close together for the same reason. I got 2 dogs to keep me company, and I never feel lonely. I'm also an introvert and love living by myself.

[@HappyonMonday]

That's wonderful! Sounds like a great life! ☺

[@Lulusvideos1]

I think about that lady at Wells Fargo also, many people blame the company or her co-workers but as a work from home employee, I can see how that can happen, last time I went into my office I was the only one on my floor. She must’ve died on Friday, since she never clocked out that day. In my office, cleaning crews only come by a couple of times a week since we’re never there. It’s sad that no one in her personal life noticed right away. My sister is retired and lives alone, if I don’t hear from her at least every couple of days she knows I’m coming over with my emergency key.

[@HappyonMonday]

It is a really scary thing. I'm glad you check in on your sister! I need to set up a check in system with my kids. 🙂

[@Lulusvideos1]

That’s why we have this check in system, a few years back no one had heard from her for a few days, she wasn’t responding to texts or calls, she decided to take a day trip and not tell anyone, she came home to my son and her son-in-law waiting for her. We told her you just can’t disappear like that these days, this world is too crazy.

[@HappyonMonday]

@@Lulusvideos1 She's lucky to have you ☺

[@tracymorgan5386]

@@Lulusvideos1you are such a wonderful sister.

[@tangerinenix5081]

Love living alone and love some of your suggestions. Planning on retiring in a few months.

[@HappyonMonday]

That's awesome!! A few month is soon - yay! ☺☺

[@user-bg9em7ch6k]

Omg I can So relate to feeling like a teenager again after my husband and I split after 20 years together. I loved him dearly, but I also love getting to choose what I do without even thinking about what another might want. I will probably have other relationships, but I doubt that I will ever live with someone again. I simply enjoy being alone too much 🤷‍♀️😉

[@HappyonMonday]

That's awesome!! 😄

[@keepingitreal618]

I agree I never knew living on my own would be this good. 😊

[@LaDonnaB]

I have motion lights outside by each door and the corners of my house. I also have a security system. It costs to install and I pay $50 monthly, but to me it is worth it. It monitors for all windows and doors and will call police and fire dept. if needed. It also videos and keeps those for 6 months. I feel safer with it. Ty for your videos. I am looking to retire in 4 years if I can make it that long!

[@HappyonMonday]

That's awesome! Yes, cameras make me feel safe. I'm sure a security system would make me feel even safer! ☺

[@CurtisRetiredLife]

I live alone and like it that way, I do get lonely sometimes, but after living alone for 4 years I don't think I want to live with anybody else again. I have been thinking that having a partner that has her own house and also wants to live alone would be the ideal situation. Thanks Julie, good video.

[@HappyonMonday]

There's more and more people doing it that way! I think it could be a great solution for having a relationship but not giving up your space and alone time. ☺ Thanks!

[@JD-tn5tb]

I live alone and think of all the same things you do. I live in a 55 plus retirement community so all the houses are pretty close but lots of my neighbors are older than me and not sure they can hear. LOL. But it's pretty safe here so I don't worry too much about crime. I don't have any kids to ask to check on me but when I get older, maybe I'll organize some kind of system with my friends. When I go up in my attic which isnt too often, I make sure I have my phone and I unlock the front door just in case I fall and have to call for help to come in my house. I try to remember to sit on the floor several times a week so I stay in practice of being able to get up off the floor. I pull weeds and do things close to the ground. I think that is a big problem with seniors, even when they aren't that old. Some people cant get up after they fall. I hope even when I'm 90, I can always get up off the floor. I don't have a ring camera or smart watch or alexa or any fancy technology. I hope to get a smart watch some day but I don't have apple so hopefully there are samsung watches. This is a great topic. So many things we can share. Oh and I know you have been hesitant to get a dog because of cost. I understand as I am a responsible pet owner. When my dog passed, life just wasn't the same so a few months later I got another dog. Iife is just so much fun with a dog but you do have to think about vet and boarding fees when you travel. I have medical insurance for her which will help with the vet bills over 500.00 and at this time it's not that expensive. For me, my dog is well worth the cost, and keeps me so much happier than a man.

[@HappyonMonday]

@@JD-tn5tb Yes, you're right about older people not being able to get up when they fall. I'm not sure which brands make smart watches you can call & text from. I'll have to look into it! Yes, I think the cost of having a dog is worth it! ☺️

[@Murphy-repellent]

Absolutely LOVE your channel, thank you for all your work helping us figure out retirement and other life issues… ❤

[@HappyonMonday]

Thank you! You're very welcome!! ☺

[@ljosephdumas3113]

My Great Aunt Mary in Denver, Colorado, fell in her tub and was there for FOUR DAYS before somebody checked on her and found her. She died a few months later. Part of why I'm seemingly paranoid about Life Safety at work.

[@HappyonMonday]

Oh that's just awful!! That is a huge fear. This is why I need to set up some kind of daily check in with my kids. 😕

[@illinoisvoyager5187]

Thank you for this video. I am contemplating retirement next year and your videos are helping me thru concerns I am having.

[@HappyonMonday]

You are welcome!! ☺

[@mandypdx]

I love this!! I am 47 and live alone (recently moved to Washington from Oregon). I already have Alexas in every room, a smart watch, smart doorbell, sensors/cameras everywhere. A double security system and a 95 pound dog ❤ (My dog is a goldendoodle… if an intruder showed up with a treat, Henry would not save me 😂)

[@HappyonMonday]

This is awesome!! Sounds like you're set! My friend has a goldendoodle. They are SO CUTE though! ☺

[@mandypdx]

@ he is a lovebug. His haircuts cost about $200 every 6-8 weeks ($40 is tip). He motivates me to walk in this rain 😘😘

[@luciepepe1322]

@HappyonMonday. I am a 57 year old widow in a similar situation. Knowing that anything can happen at any time, my oldest son and I text each other every morning. That way, I am at peace knowing that if something happened to me, he would know and rescue my cat.

[@HappyonMonday]

That's great. I really need to start doing that!! 🙂👍

[@woodsparker7902]

I live alone and enjoy the freedom. Since I do not have children, I don't have a true safety net in place. This is a concern. I chuckled a bit when you made the "Nurse or Purse" comment. Thanks Julie!

[@HappyonMonday]

Yes you should find a friend or relative that you can check in with! I love that phrase. 😄

[@nakapaa]

I enjoy being alone but from time to time I do need company. I would like to get a dog someday too. I have given up on the thoughts of finding a boyfriend/partner. I will be retired very soon. Kudos to your channel.

[@HappyonMonday]

I think a dog is a great solution!! Congrats and thank you! ☺

[@hardlygamaliel455]

There are smartwatches available with fall detection and the ability to make emergency calls. Some even have SIM cards and can use the cellular network to call for help anywhere there is cell service.

[@HappyonMonday]

Yes! A friend of mine has a watch like that. She said if she falls her watch says, "I detected that you fell, do you want me to call 911?" And if you don't answer it will call 911 for you!

[@nubicep65]

I’m 60. Retired 3.5 yrs. Live alone. Have a “friend” but , it’s a long distance relationship and we both like the set up. We get together about 3x a year. My 3 grown kids live about hour away. I have the ring as well. My next door neighbor is pretty good about the going ons in the neighborhood. I have no interest in another full time partner. Was married for 20 yrs. Been divorced 12.5. I love my freedom. And do things on my own terms

[@HappyonMonday]

That sounds like a perfect solution!! 😀 I also love my freedom! ☺

[@keepingitreal618]

3x yearly sounds perfect 😂😂😂😂😂

[@angelafarrell-aimetti7775]

Hello Julie! I recently subscribed to your channel. I like you and your channel because you are comforting to listen to and I relate because I live alone also. I am an introvert so I feel empowered in solitude. I like a few good friends and have a daughter in her master’s degree program. I look forward to your videos

[@HappyonMonday]

Hello and thank you! That's all I need too: my family and a few good friends! 🙂

[@traceyesparza7824]

You are never lonely if you have a dog. They hear everything and will definitely alert you if someone is around the house. I have two and I always feel safe in my home.

[@HappyonMonday]

I agree!! 😁🥰

[@FIRE_DrNinjaTurtle]

You will not be single long.❤

[@HappyonMonday]

@@FIRE_DrNinjaTurtle We'll see 😊

[@CharlesAnsman]

I’m OK, been divorced for 20+ years, but now that I’m getting a little bit older I do wish I could fall in love one more time. I miss those feelings.

[@HappyonMonday]

I get that for sure! Have you watched the Golden Bachelorette? It's so cute! It's people our age falling in love. ☺

[@Murphy-repellent]

I have been divorced and now in a relationship that I wish I never entered, trust me better alone than with the wrong person

[@dixiebrick]

Quote -“if you aren’t good then you can’t be good to anybody else”

[@HappyonMonday]

I like that quote! 🙂

[@BurritoSupreme42]

I'm good. I have some of the best conversations with myself lol. I have friends spread out across the globe, but it's a good idea to connect with neighbors through the community fb page. Dog owners like chatting. Just pet them (the dogs) if you can't manage a pet of your own. Costs do add up

[@HappyonMonday]

LOL I talk to myself all the time. 😁 Yes, I love dogs whether they're mine or someone elses. ☺

[@ArmyVetlady-m6k]

Hi Julie, this video turned out to be very eye-opening and enlightening. Even though I am happily married for 41 years, the feedback given by you and others is very important! Life is not guaranteed and we will one day pass away and leave behind a spouse. It’s good to think of safety measures for our home even if we are married too. Also for my aging parents who are divorced and remained single for over 30 years. I do check in on my parents weekly and so also my siblings. Thank you and the viewers for their good advice for protecting ourselves at home alone. My husband works for the post office overnight at one of their processing facilities . I have a dog, but he is too damn “friendly “, he may help the burglars get in my house if they give him a treat! 😅😂

[@HappyonMonday]

You are very welcome! Yes, it's true. Even if you are married someday you may be alone. Your dog sounds very sweet. ☺

[@mickster1780]

i can relate. and yeah, get a dog. it's awesome. oh and instead of wasp spray i have bear spray 🙂

[@HappyonMonday]

Yes I really miss having a dog! Awesome! 😀

[@tracymorgan5386]

Regarding that poor woman who died at Wells Fargo, agree with that other comment that what’s really sad & heartbreaking is that she seemed to have nobody in her personal life that noticed she was missing or that something was wrong. If my daughters didn’t hear from me especially if didn’t call to talk to my granddaughter in a couple of days, they would have went to my home & if I didn’t answer called the police. However maybe this woman had family but they lived out of state or maybe she was type of person who didn’t like to bothered, you never know.

[@HappyonMonday]

Yes, that story is just awful. It made me want to set up a check in system with my kids. I will go several days without texting them sometimes!

[@libbyjane700]

I have a co-worker in her late 50's who took her trash out to her attached garage that was one step down. She fell and fractured her ankle and laid there for hours unable to get up and get to her cell phone and neighbors couldn't hear her screaming. Her daughter happened to stop by to ask her mom about borrowing an item, and when she didn't answer the door, she let herself in and found her mother passed out in the garage. Stuff happens at any age!

[@HappyonMonday]

Oh my gosh that's awful!! Yes, I really like the idea of a smart watch you can call or text from for something like that! 🙂

[@sunset1433]

I’m such an Introvert , retired and I ADORE Living ALONE! 🖤🥰 I notice there’s way too much negativity from family , friends , strangers . I’m seriously considering another fur baby🥰 My fur baby was my everything 🥺 passed away 3 yrs ago 🐾🙏🏻 I also luv your videos your alway spot on 🤗🥰

[@HappyonMonday]

I do think introverts thrive alone! I'm seriously considering another fur baby too! It's really hard when you lose one. 😕 Thanks!! 🙂

[@wildnfrantic1015]

I think this is one of my worries when I retire shortly - loneliness. I've only a couple of friends but no one else. Funnily, leaving colleagues behind at work doesn't bother me as they're simply colleagues and I have very little in common with them anyway. How do I deal with my loneliness - something I've always felt

[@HappyonMonday]

Yes, it is a valid concern! You could deepen friendships and possibly make new friends. Maybe join a club or find something where people will have a lot in common with you! ☺

[@Izzy_Gtz]

The smart watch and Alexa are a great idea! I was resigned to being found over two weeks later after passing.🤣 To be honest I'm okay with that, I'm just sorry for the people that would find me. 😬🤢

[@HappyonMonday]

Oh yes it would be awful if your friends or family found you! 😬

[@jdollar5852]

My wife had never fired a gun when we got married in 2019. I've been shooting my entire life. She's OCD, so she is now more proficient with a handgun than I am. We set up a range on the back of our property, and she practices religiously. We also have cameras around our property, a power gate, and live 100+ yards off the road, so visitors tend to be the 4 legged kind.😊

[@HappyonMonday]

Good for her!! An Annie Oakley 😁I love having cameras! ☺

[@gatewayz75]

Apparently there is an app that contacts you every day and you have to respond. If no response they try calling you, and the next step is they call emergency contacts. I plan to get something like this one day when I’m older. My mother walked out of her nursing home through a fire exit and fell in the garden in the middle of the night, no one noticed until breakfast, unbelievably the door wasn’t alarmed, scary

[@HappyonMonday]

Oh cool I haven't heard of that! I'll look into that too. Thanks! That is scary about your mom. 😮

[@kirstenguelich630]

I use bear spray as a safety tactic much like wasp spray. Stay off the ladder. It’s not worth the risk. We had a community member fall off a ladder installing Christmas lights and die.

[@HappyonMonday]

Someone else mentioned bear spray too! Yes, I probably should stay off my ladder. 😬That's awful! 😟

[@keepingitreal618]

Nope will continue to do ladders. I can understand if you are going up 2 storeys but will clean my gutters. My friend fell off the curb, should we stay off paths to?

[@HappyonMonday]

@@keepingitreal618 I started texting my kids and telling them I was going to be on a ladder at least. I say, "If you don't hear back from me within the hour be worried." 😁

[@cindyn628]

I'm an introvert and have lived alone for a long time. I hope to be retiring within a couple years. Since 2020, I've been feeling more isolated - both due to Covid and working from home more, and some self-imposed isolation due to needing space and time to work out emotional things I've been going through. In some ways it is welcome and gets easier with time, but I do have my concerns about being too isolated once I retire. I don't want to end up being the crazy old cat/dog lady down the street. That, and due to the fact that I'm feeling the stressors of being my sole support and not sharing the financial and household advantages of being coupled, I've been thinking more about the possibility of living in community somehow. I'm just not exactly sure what that means for me at this point. I guess in some ways I'm tired of being responsible and alone, but I also need alot of time and space and quiet to myself.

[@HappyonMonday]

I totally get that! It is hard being 100% responsible for yourself. Some type of community might be a great option for you! I always though it would be fun to have a community of friends each with their own tiny house. Then you have yor own space but you have people near if you want to socialize! ☺

[@buyerclub2]

I love that you made this video.. As I am long term married, it is not one I fully relate to. But it is an important. one. My mother, who was also a teacher for a long time, seems in many ways similar to you. While her family was so important to her, she did tell me that she doubted that she could ever live with another. Unfortunately she did fall in her apartment. And had to climb up stairs to call us. But she did. I might recommend getting a couple of internet cameras in your home that your children could use to check up on you. Discuss it with them and see what they think. I myself seem to be more introverted than my wife. So I do understand the enjoyment of alone time. (Like time when I write these comments) But In may ways I do think we would be lost without each other. So how was cancun?

[@HappyonMonday]

It is important - thank you! Yes, I will figure something out with my children. I LOVE that you said you'd be lost without your wife! ☺ Cancun was FABULOUS!! 😁

[@whyme7996]

I, like you, am an introvert. I love being alone but I can and do engage with other people. It's just that too many people are physically exhausting. Somehow, I survived the army, lol When my folks were alive, I moved them into my home to watch over them and they had the life alert things...which were useless. It is far better to simply have a phone with you .BUT my Mom had dementia and couldn't use a phone and got so she couldn't even use the button. I asked her once what she would do if she saw me laying on the floor and I wouldn't wake up. She said: "I would get you a blanket"....letting me know that her dementia made calling for assistance not exist in her world. As I get older, I may invite some other elderly woman to move in, unless I get married. It would allow us both freedom but also someone to notice if you are missing or ill. I have a dog who makes me get out and walk her...good for her and good for me. Around my house I do have motion lights/cameras and at the doors I have camera light bulbs that track anyone near the doors. They use an SD card along with sending alerts so, you have the recording if needed.

[@HappyonMonday]

Yes I agree about the life alert things! I may get a smart watch you can call or text from when I'm older. Then as long as I'm wearing it I can call someone. My dad had Alzheimer's. It is so hard to watch your parents go through that. It sounds like you have a good plan! ☺

[@notyet2345]

For personal safety, I have an alarm system and a byrna that shoots pepper spray and teargas from up to 60ft away. It can incapacitate an intruder for up to 20 minutes allowing you enough time to get away. Perfect for people who do not want any firearms in their homes.

[@HappyonMonday]

That's awesome! I've never heard of a byrna before. Love learning all these things! 😀

[@leisure057blank3]

I enjoy living alone. I am 67 and not quite as mobile and am afraid of falling and not being able to get up. I have a smart watch that detects a hard fall and if you don’t turn it off will contact 911. I think I have to have my phone close enough though,and if you get up fast enough it doesn’t go off. I have fallen 2x where the watch asked if it should contact 911., once in a grocery store massive water puddle and once tripping on the curb at the mall. The watch gets me jumping up faster so that 911 doesn’t show, probably don’t have to worry though. I don’t think 911 really works anymore.

[@HappyonMonday]

My friend has a watch like that too! So you have to be near your phone? Like if you go outside and your phone is inside will it work? Thanks!!🙂

[@leisure057blank3]

@@HappyonMonday there is cellular or gps Apple Watch. I got mine gps because I didnt want to pay extra for cell plan for the watch. I always thought it would do emergency stuff bit a few months back I thought I read somewhere online that a gps watch could only work if your phone is nearby. (For the hard fall). Now when I look I can’t see that it says that. I would clarify with an Apple Store though. A lot of people at Best Buy won’t understand well enough I don’t think. I bought mine at Costco but the apple store always has classes an$ stuff.

[@khumminapumphrey3076]

I'm not interested in being a "purse or nurse" either 😀. I'm okay being alone. I love the peace and quiet. Not having to answer to anyone is also a plus. I am divorced and been single for a while now. I have adult children and we speak everyday. We decided to do that on purpose because I live alone and so do my adult children.

[@HappyonMonday]

I also love the peace and quiet! I talk to my kids a lot, but I need to check in on a daily basis. ☺

[@markkitchen4916]

I love your line “I don’t want to be someone’s nurse or purse!”. I must remember that one 😂 Although I love my alone time, I do love being social and couldn’t cope without being around family and friends. Maybe a dog is the way forward…something that loves you unconditionally and doesn’t moan at you if you haven’t loaded the dishwasher 10 minutes after dinner 😉

[@HappyonMonday]

😁Yes, I also love spending time with my friends and family! But a dog may be just perfect for me! 🐕☺

[@kirstenguelich630]

Definitely get a dog ❤️

[@HappyonMonday]

I'm planning on it! I really miss having a fur baby! 🐕

[@lizadivine3785]

I lost my last fur baby in May and will not get another. I will die eventually and who would take it? Vet bills are INSANE and getting worse. If you want to travel most people have to pay to have some one watch their pet and that's expensive. And dogs hate being boarded. It's very stressful on them. So for me it's a NO but i sure loved them when i had them!

[@HappyonMonday]

Yes, I've gone back and forth. If I travel I'm hoping to have one of my adult children watch a fur baby for me. I just miss having a pet! ☺

[@lizadivine3785]

@HappyonMonday oh good I'm glad your kids can help that's best!

[@annhopkin5079]

Oh, heck, yes, a dog.!!!! Or beter still two❤

[@HappyonMonday]

🐕☺

[@tophatbanjo]

Hi, Julie! Great video! I live alone, and I like it just fine. I had a dog for many years, and as he got older, it did become more difficult to board him when I wanted to go somewhere. But now that he's gone, if I want to get on a plane somewhere, I get on it. In fact, I found a good deal on Travelocity and tomorrow I'm going to Mexico City for three weeks. I'll take my little travel fiddle with me and I'll walk around, see the sights, play the fiddle, and that's about it. Eventually I'm going to be done traveling, and when that time comes, my plan is to buy a house and a dog. Yep.

[@HappyonMonday]

Yes, I worry about what I would do with a dog when I travel. That sounds like a fun trip!! Enjoy! 😁

[@carrie5813]

What are great travel idea! I love that! Have fun!

[@nitasmith7993]

Your luck you have a check-in person, a lot of people don’t.

[@HappyonMonday]

Yes I feel very blessed to have my kids! ☺

[@danncorbit3623]

My wife died in 2017 and I don't think I will ever marry again. The problem is that I am still in love with her. It would not be fair for me to marry someone else while I am in love with my wife. Sometimes, I sit in my living room and I just think. But it's not even a daydream. It's like you are riding a horse and you drop the reigns, give 'er a kick and say, "Giddy-up!" So I can imagine doing that and eventually my mind drifts to my former wife and then my new wife walks in and says, "What are you thinking about." Well, I can't lie to her, because that would be wrong. But if I told her I was thinking about my former wife, that would surely hurt her feelings. Besides which I am at the age where medical problems start to creep in. I would hate to burden someone if I got some bad medical problem. So I figure it is better for me to remain single. But I am OK with that. As far as marrying the wrong person, there is a proverb, "Marry in haste, repent at leisure."

[@HappyonMonday]

I think it's OK to marry someone new even if you still love your wife. There is enough room in your heart for more than one person! The right person would understand that you still keep her in your heart. If she's a widow she may still have someone in her heart too. If the right person comes along don't be closed off to it. Just be honest with her. All people our age have medical problems! ☺

[@fuzzybeargville]

supplement your income being a dog walker

[@HappyonMonday]

Maybe! 😄

[@ArmyVetlady-m6k]

Dog walking and pet sitting gig apps are really an actual way to supplement your income and at the same get personal satisfaction from being with furry friends. There are also animal rescue shelters and adoption centers that you can volunteer at to help clean cages, socialize with pets and walk /feed them too. Another option if anyone doesn’t want to invest in getting a dog or cat. I sent my single coworker who is anticipating retiring in a few years the top pet care gig job apps (flexible hours and decent pay), so she can assess if it’s something she may desire doing, since she loves dogs and doesn’t want to own another after two of her dogs passed away the past few years.

[@HappyonMonday]

@@ArmyVetlady-m6k That's great info - thanks!! 😀

[@ericwitt4586]

You don’t have to be alone girl you just need to get to know the right man I’m 59 and in good health and yes I’m a man you shouldn’t be alone as pretty as you are maybe you will find one of us men !

[@ericwitt4586]

Thanks im being sincere I don’t lie or talk trash girl

[@HappyonMonday]

That is very sweet - thank you! I know I don't HAVE to be alone. I think it would be hard for me to give up my independence and my solitude. ☺

[@ericwitt4586]

@ me too but I would for the right reasons and a true lady 😀

[@ArmyVetlady-m6k]

😅😂

[@70qq]

🤘

[@Retired-jr3qs]

I am retired and live alone. No one is going to take of you if you come down with cancer like I did this year. I was fortunate to have people to take care of me. By the way all of us will eventually get sick. Be careful about the nurse and the purse comment. Have a care team.

[@HappyonMonday]

I'm sorry you had to go through cancer! It's definitely a good idea to have plans in place for something like that!

[@deadandburied7626]

Yes, please get another dog! A dog can bark and give alarm if you have an accident, and be a great companion. 😊

[@HappyonMonday]

Yes I am planning to get a dog in the summer. ☺

[@carlosmedina7537]

🤗☕👍

[@ericwitt4586]

If you had a man companion he if he’s not a wuss he would take your fears away 🙏🏻🇺🇸👍😀

[@ericwitt4586]

😀

[@HappyonMonday]

That could be true! 😁

[@ArmyVetlady-m6k]

😅😂

[@thorsrensen3162]

i am snoring and farting and no one complaines.

[@HappyonMonday]

😆That's awesome!! 🤣

[@tomj528]

Why be lonely when there's a never ending supply of generic, inter-changeable female companionship, especially as you age?

[@HappyonMonday]

Well that doesn't sound very nice! 😄

[@tomj528]

@@HappyonMonday Maybe not but it sounds like a lot of fun!