LIVING IN AN EVIL & TOXIC FAMILY: WITNESSING EVIL UP CLOSE

Would you know a dangerous, evil and cruel person if you cam across them?
Most people do not want to believe that family could be evil and cruel.
The reality is that psychology has tried to understand this topic for many years and still hasn't arrived at a clear conclusion.
But as a psychotherapist working with families, I must say that evil and cruel behavior can seem to manifest itself in a toxic family that hides abuse and neglect, engages in manipulation and mind-games, disregards the rights of other family, and causes intentional rifts.
In this live chat, I disuss the psychology of evil & cruel behavior.
****Tetrad Pronounced "TI-TRAD"
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#trauma #tamarahilllpc #TOXICFAMILY
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DISCUSSED IN THIS CHAT:
0:00 intro to evil and dangerous personalities (TRIAD and TETRED)
8:50 questions in psychology/theology/existentialism about evil ("What is evil?")
13:55 what is evil vs evil behavior?
18:55 machiavellianism (psychology)("no standard of behavior")
21:43 CLINICAL NARCISSISM ("unwavering grandiosity")
25:12 higher end of the spectrum of antisocial personality disorder ("psychopaths")
31:10 "premeditated behaviors"
45:45 why we believe liars
49:00 OVERLAP BETWEEN MACHIAVELLIANSM AND PSYCHOPATHY
1:08:34 "radar for people who are vulnerable"
1:13:34 RELATIONALLY AGGRESSIVE & EXPLOITIVE
*discussion in-between content
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Mentioned In The Video (research & further information):
1. Thomaes, S., Brummelman, E., Miller, J. D., & Lilienfeld, S. O. (2017). The dark personality and psychopathology: Toward a brighter future.Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 126(7), 835-842. doi.org/10.1037/abn0000305
2. The Co-Development of Relational Aggression and Disruptive Behavior Symptoms from Late Childhood through Adolescence
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti...
3. Parenting Characteristics and Callous-Unemotional Traits in Children Aged 0-6 Years: A Systematic Narrative Review
link.springer.com/article/10....
4. The Heritability of Callous and Unemotional Traits
www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
5. Carlo Garofalo, Craig S. Neumann, and Patrizia Velotti, “Difficulties in emotion regulation and psychopathic traits in violent offenders,” Journal of Criminal Justice 57, 2018, 116-125.
6.Untangling the concept of coercive control: Theorizing domestic violent crime
journals.sagepub.com/doi/full...
7. 15 Signs of Mind Games in a Relationship
www.marriage.com/advice/relat...
8. Is Rejection, Parental Abandonment or Neglect a Trigger for Higher Perceived Shame and Guilt in Adolescents?
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/arti....
EDMOND POST OFFICE MASSACRE
www.okhistory.org/publication...
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*Videos are provided for exploration and educational purposes only and does not constitute clinical suggestions or consultation for individual cases.
If you or someone you know is having a medical emergency involving harm to self, please reach out to the suicide prevention hotline suicidepreventionlifeline.org/.
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[@TherapistTamaraHill]

In case you missed it, here is my highly requested recent chat on the psychology of mind-games kzbin.infoPZixge8EAEo?si=uYYaGPxLeBJaQxBY.

[@AngieandBo]

Thank you. I've been struggling with these things and this video helps me to understand what I'm dealing with. I needed this. Thank you so much

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! So glad to hear that.

[@jodirichardson2820]

@@TherapistTamaraHill thank you! You have made me, (just by watching, learning from your videos) want to climb out of a dark hole, I felt I have been in you showed me there is hope, thank you, I've got a long way to run, at least I remember I can do anything,

[@mosaicowlstudios]

I went no contact with my toxic family. I dont care if it means I get cut out of the inheritence. I can't live like this anymore, showing up for a group of people who make me feel so bad about myself. A group of people who have scapegoated me and kept me in a lower place of regard. Emotionally manipulative people. Not worth it. I don't even care about any money or wealth or anything, if it comes with those conditions.

[@user-ht2tc5uj7w]

Hi I did it as well. 👌. It's been three yrs, they say grief is harder the first two. It was guilt first? Then the commercialised, ie, birthdays, Xmas, mother and father day etc didn't help. Grieving for something that's still there was the worst. But hang on a minute. They just let me go. Enough said. I hope my mother still thinks that those people that where fantastic still are. I have no regrets except not seeing other family members, funerals, weddings but hang on, they just accept I'm gone. Meh I just hope they know I love them always will. Their loss. 🙏🏼

[@holeika]

I realized recently (I'm 55), that I was raised by a covert narcissist mother. I was facing my abusive past by learning more about the men that did it. Learning why I am the way I am. Been taking care of my aging mother for 14 years, finally found a great guy 4 years ago. She has tried to get between us, stepped over boundaries (like walking into the bathroom while my husband is going to the bathroom) trying to get him to side with her over me, and so much more. I'm a servant not a daughter in her eyes. Not only is she a covert narcissist but I wasn't wanted. She has had me feeling like I was just a mistake but my brother (who isn't in contact and is also evil) is perfect. I'm the one with the master's degree he did not graduate high school. But when her long time boyfriend found out he had cancer with only 6 months to live I came running to help her. My husband and I started 2 businesses she is jealous and hateful. She kicked us out in hopes our businesses will fail. All she has done is make herself grow older (she will be 76 next month) alone. I put my life in hold for her, now it's my turn to live 😊

[@bridgettetraveler658]

I did what u need to do over 30 yrs ago. I feel so free without those ppl around me. I'm not the least bit lonely. I have embrace JESUS & he's comforted me like no other person. I'm enjoying living the life I'm living. U be Blessed & allow no one to steal your peace or peace of mind ever again!!!

[@diannetimpson6885]

As the family scapegoat I was cut out of their inheritance too. But I knew it when I went no contact. No One has enough money or things to keep me tied to their verbal, emotional, physical and financial abuse for decades hoping to be compensated for the destruction of my soul, spirit and self-esteem. No One. Yes, they turned the entire extended family against me too. I'm not only not invited to family functions but not even informed when they did happen. But honestly, because they drank the narcissistic Kool-aid I wouldn't want to be around them anyway. As a side note: After the golden child got everything he had 2 major strokes and I was unexpectedly financially blessed. Strange but True.

[@Slickhubert]

@@user-ht2tc5uj7w 30 years here. No regret.

[@jamiewilliams8107]

I no longer accept conditions from family members,would rather be alone and be a free spirit.

[@Elizabethpepper8]

Growing up in an evil family blinds a person, laying the foundation of a future with more as its registered as normal, loving behaviour. People often say they married their spouses because they "feel like home", but no one considerates how that applies too those from evil homes. Sometimes the person will experience a trauma so profound that replicates childhood and it blows blinders off. Then the challenge lays internally with the cognitive dissonance, beyrayal blindness, denial. This is a chronic, wide-spread, lifelong, exhausting battle.

[@thirstonhowellthebird]

I can completely relate. I’m sorry for the struggle you’ve been through. It’s brutal.

[@RawOlympia]

So well said, we are blind, mute, and being pounded instead of raised, you put it so well

[@crystalnyla]

Until we BREAK THE CYCLE 🥹

[@bridgettetraveler658]

@@Elizabethpepper8 u said it! That was the way I used to be. Chaos was the norm for me! Now I refuse to be bothered with chaotic ppl!!!

[@bridgettetraveler658]

I believe some ppl become brainwashed after hanging out with evil ppl. Some inlaws, jealous relatives & hateful ppl who hate us many times do everything they can to turn our children & others against us! The best revenge is to dump the haters & become successful!!!

[@tamerahylton2763]

My brother is very manipulative and rude , he screams your shortcomings to the neighborhood...so you can be ashamed to interact with others."NEVER APOLOGIZES FOR HIS DISRESPECT" Then after things settle down he comes around acting like nothing happen. When you refuse to entertain him, he starts cursing you again. His deeds are evil.😢 Dr Hill I am so over this kind of behavior. I am mentally tired

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

You brother is a bully- he has no intention of changing- this behaviour he enjoys

[@CarolOwen-cj4sq]

You must know my brother😅😅😅😅

[@Bella_Noire]

Some of us have spent most of our lives in church. And church talks about evil, references evil, and warns about evil, but they rarely explain evil. Combined with the religiosity of church some people become the perfect victims.

[@GraceHarwood88]

This is so true. The depths of deception outside and inside the church community makes you either see devils everywhere or blindly naive to the devils putting on their kind masks, right before us.

[@irishouston4103]

Whew

[@cb4017]

It’s just horrifying… the disbelief is difficult to settle. Do not go back to them bc they’ll hurt you again. One always wants to believe otherwise but there’s no way around evil.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You certainly do have to have boundaries with these people.

[@AftreGaol]

Evil looks like a well adjusted intelligent adult following their dreams.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Sometimes it does. That's scary.

[@TheRetroWoman80]

Thank you for this one, Tamara. I watch true crime a lot for the very reason you did this live. And the more I absorb the stories of dark beings, the less naive and less trusting I am of people. I will never be an open book, not in this reality lol. Kudos to you for surviving firsthand experience of even breathing the same air as dark beings👏👏👏👏👏👏😵‍💫🫨💚💚💚

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome 😊 And thank you. Took me a long time to find and see the good after these firsthand experiences.

[@fairygurl9269]

The First Rule Of Avoiding Being A Subject of True Crime. *Don't Start Your Day Like Any Other Day!

[@jolynn2271]

They get happy and celebrate when they know that they have brought hell into your life.😮❤

[@davidelliott9661]

People are dealing with the knots of their soul. And tortured souls have knots, but people don't want to heal the real dark stuff they just think people need medications. They need to get out of their social and mental entanglements that keep bringing them back to the dark night of the soul that creates tragic lives.

[@SM-tl9ls]

Isn't the dark night of the soul a concept dealing with a spiritual awakening leading to self-awareness and self-growth?

[@SM-tl9ls]

Isn't the dark night of the soul a concept related to spiritual awakening, leading to self-awareness and self-growth? Jung describes it.

[@laurajane4806]

Evil and Cruel sums up most of my relatives fairly well. Thank you!! :-)

[@teresapridham8077]

You're the Best Dr. Hill, everything you say is right on & truth telling. Thank You for your advice & wisdom.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I appreciate that🤗 Thank you!! So glad this was helpful to you.

[@bodymindsoul60]

By far you have the best content in the realm of psychology on U Tube, Tamara! Your ability to succinctly break down complex topics, as well as your compassionate nature is priceless. I always look forward to your weekly live stream and especially love when you breakdown the topic of evil. I’ve always felt that is what I experienced in certain relationships. The only other psychologist besides yourself I know that would acknowledge it was evil was Dr. M. Scott Peck “People of the Lie” a famous Psychologist who has passed. Your discussing and educating us on this topic of evil has been extremely validating for me because of the deep trauma, terror, and its effects on my life. I’ve been trying to make sense and put labels on what I always sensed was pure evil most of my life. You are a gem to me , I can’t thank you enough for your continued hard work and dedication to us all, Tamara 🙏❤️

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

❤This is such a humbling comment. Thank you so very much! I appreciate seeing you in the live chats. Glad this is helpful and helpful to you. So glad we get to share knowledge and experiences on a neutral platform of people all around the world. That's a blessing!🙏 So many beautiful people on the channel including you!!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Just purchased the book thanks to you!! 😁 "People of The Lie."

[@bodymindsoul60]

@@TherapistTamaraHill It is a blessing🙏Many thanks for your kind words❣️

[@bodymindsoul60]

@@TherapistTamaraHill Awesome, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. I couldn’t put it down. In fact, I’ve read it several times in the last 20 years. Would love to hear your feedback sometime when you finish. 😊

[@deborahedwards5004]

How can a parent mistreat their own children cruel?

[@taemac10]

Very easily shockingly.

[@soniaighalo3634]

I am grateful that you popped up on my timeline. It is said ask the Universe a question and the answer will come. You have touched on the many thoughts that have been on my mind about family, relationships, and much insight into my own mind map. Gratitude. ❤

[@user-un8gm2hs7p]

Evil wants to hurt, destroy, and kill.

[@fairygurl9269]

Angels Exist Too💞

[@Bella_Noire]

Yes, but are far more evil people than not. Be careful out here.

[@CarolOwen-cj4sq]

Fewer and farther between however. Ego disease!

[@michelefitzmaurice4610]

It blows my mind how a pathological liar can keep it all straight (tell many people a different story & keep it straight for quite a long time until it eventually comes crashing down).

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Yes and they can have a lot of psychological training

[@iamirondaddy]

This is very true. If you talk about this out loud to an average person their mind will go to some kind of default blanketed statement. Reality can not be addressed. They can only blame or deflect. This type of talk turns into an argument. I get cult type of hatred. My situation is unbelievable.

[@anAngelisHard2find]

Thank you so much Tamara. You are so warm and welcoming to us all. We feel the love you send us all around the world.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you so much! Glad to have you all on the channel!

[@jodirichardson2820]

You are absolutely amazing! I have never heard anything so helpful, smart and honest! Thank you,I used to care for my bestfriend 3 days a week after her stroke, a "friend of hers her husband and I have never liked EVIL, chose to call her husband and I murderers on F. B!! How sick! That's just one of her recent tactics

[@JenHope883]

Especially online scammers.

[@Elizabethpepper8]

Tamara, would you consider a video on religious abuse and the impacts? Whenever someone mentions religion in response to healing, i experience such intense anger. I recognized my feelings are from personal experiences, so i internalize the aggression assuming their intentions are good. I wish there was more public knowledge on the topic so people would be mindful before saying such things.. Its inconsiderate and arrogant to think you have the answers to someones pain. Especially being raised whete religion is a tool of control, source of massive traumam, and reason for a persons trauma and isolation. Is there anythinf else ibcould do besides supressing my emotions? Recognizing its a personsl issue and telling myseld the person likely means well isn't helpful or affevtice for me.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes, absolutely. I actually did a video on this some time ago kzbin.info/www/bejne/mn3CZJ9obbB4mcU. I can always add this to a live chat. There's a lot to unpack. To be honest, the reason you may be experiencing anger when religion is mentioned is because perhaps your exposure to religion wasn't a positive one OR the person/persons who mentioned religion to you wasn't in the right spirit of sharing this with you. I think an overly religious and pressuring person can make exposure to this topic almost impossible. The way in which the topic is delivered, when, and why can also negatively impact you. I grew up in a loving home where God was seen as wise, loving, and fatherly. I prayed at a young age and I saw His guiding grace in my life. But if I had grown up in a family where religion was used to put fear in me, I would have had a much different experience. Plus, there are so many religious people walking among us who truly don't fit the description. That alone can cause anger when the topic is brought up. Learning how to deal with this may require some self-exploration and time.

[@Staying_aliveforwomen]

Yes EVIL hides their alot

[@onelittledropintheocean]

​@@TherapistTamaraHillI read a car bumper sticker that said, "Jesus, save me from your followers" ... Appeals to my sense of humour anyway 😅 I have suffered from hypocritical christians myself, many times actually, almost like they haunt me, but I think it's because I still have something to learn from these people & perhaps they have something to learn from me too 🙏🏻💞🕊️

[@truth4utoda]

Gurl😊 you did that! Thank you love.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you! 🤗

[@crybabyfancy]

I have a aunt on my mother's side who is determined to turn the whole family against me every time .Something bad happens to me.She is very happy and a very sinister way as if I deserve it or as if I am always the problem, 😢 Heard daughters daughters who are twice my age. Because I am a young generation. My mother had me at 40 years old. Almost so all these people are overgrown. And they all love to gang up on me and make me the odd one. I've won it made me grow up with low self-esteem. As my age progressed, I had to teach myself that this is not normal.So bong story short.I don't deal with family at all.My friends are actually my family

[@nellytube4537]

I was taking notes!! Great talk, very informative ❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

So glad! THANK YOU

[@markvanheygen1955]

I saw online that an evil psychopath must have two things wrong, an inherited brain structure and having been brought up with trauma. I ask you, is it possible to be the child of a psychopath, having experienced a lot of evil as a child and be traumatised and not be a psychopath ?

[@yvonnesexton613]

I say, people drive, the same way they live. It's very telling. The accident before work is a perfect example. I've seen it. Many blessings on your soul journey. Stay on your red road. Aho

[@truth4utoda]

Yes. Amen

[@SofoniBeats]

It's good that you tackle these issues

[@PsychedToknow-qw7cb]

Hello Tamara Wow! Your videos are great! They are so informative! I have a question for you: Recently, I read online that 19 per cent of people are dark empaths -- is that true? Thanks!

[@user-zz6ub4nc2l]

My fiancés oldest daughter 43 came in when his second wife died like his everything . He was 60 and didn’t know how to do his banking. 5 years later he met me and saw red flags and my gut just wouldn’t rest until he finally took over his accounts she had stolen thousands of dollars and had her name on half of his house and refuses to take it off 😢 she’s trying to get another 10000$ to take her name off . She’s pure evil and I also think his 12 year old son is really sick he’s hurting his dog . I’m wanting to run . This video is them !!!

[@gabbypage6929]

Unless he gave her power of attorney she can prove dementia then she has no legal rights to do this to her father

[@nileoracle]

Greetings...YES ...UP CLOSE WITNESSING THAT EVIL...GRATITUDE

[@anAngelisHard2find]

It is very very complicated to distinguish one type from another type for me......I tend to think IF the evilness is inside their mind and then manifests into their behaviour and it presents with a predictable and ongoing pattern....over many years and with all people around them ....that is an evil form......but if the behaviour may be somewhat evil.....and it's not consistent.....then that's a different type.

[@jasonbeyer915]

One would wonder if population control is a form of evil behavior induced via psychopathy such as poverty inductions or is it society being kind and traumatizing towards us! I ravel this around my mind continuous how there is subordinate admission to devalue populations in way of business yet not everyone has the same business outfits and afforded same occupations

[@danitajminer3279]

A true example of a dark tetrid is the current crime case of Paul Ferguson and his mother, Shandra Vanderark .

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you for mentioning this. I need to follow this more closely.

[@user-eu3qy8uf7f]

OMG. That one is off the charts. That poor child. The mother was working in the legal system and it didn't matter.

[@XavierCarter9129]

I can see how revenge can be perceived as evil at least momentarily but definitely understand the many egregious acts a person can experience that would cause them to want and act out revenge.

[@icalotdonthide2646]

I would love to take revenge, but God does not want that. We expose, he will punish.

[@annettereid8077]

My Husband is evil he is always trying to hurt me talks bad about me to his friends I hate him

[@nostromois]

I hope you are getting away and changing the title to your ex-husband soon, then. Save your self and blossom, make a life where you are too busy being happy to hate 💛

[@robynmarler1951]

I believe you. You must get away from that evil man, and have the lovely life you deserve. Please sweetheart💖🌱💖

[@andyokus5735]

So dump him! Are you a masochist?

[@lakeshadouglas5498]

New subscriber , So glad your channel found me❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Welcome!! Glad to have you aboard.

[@lakeshadouglas5498]

Thank you.

[@RandyMoe]

Ghosted all family 19 years ago. Now happy. FTW

[@sylviafraser4291]

Thank you so much , truly grateful for this 🔥🙏

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You’re welcome 😊

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Hello- listening back here - thank you Tamara 🙏

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You are welcome!!

[@mosaicowlstudios]

Classical Cynicism is different. I'm talking about the School of Cynicism founded by Diogenes the Cynic. There are no themes of Machiavellianism, pessimism, need for dominance/authority/control or any sense of taking pleasure from others' suffering. There is a constant focus on ethical considerations (Classical Cynicism is, in a way, an examination of ethics). Classical Stoicism is directly descended from Classical Cynicism.

[@katehampstead6024]

Yes. I think there's cynicism that shades towards stoicism and realism; and then there's cynicism that shades towards contempt.

[@mosaicowlstudios]

@katehampstead6024 the modern world went and redefined the word "cynicism", and to be honest, I'm pretty disappointed about it, although I do understand it.

[@Powerful_Akoth]

Why was I thinking of how someone in my life has treated me with covert evil but I was so blind to see it cause of the hate, rejection, beatings and insults I went through growing up?😢

[@Youareheretoo]

I like to believe people are hurting inside and need love. Happy healthy individuals don’t want to hurt others? Maybe that’s my naiveness. Maybe that’s my hope for the world. I do believe comparison to others leads to so much discomfort inside a persons soul. I wish I could heal people and love them. Especially as little children. But I am no God to do that. And tbh it’s hard to love people. I think the hardest thing to do in life really is love flawed people especially when they are getting on your nerves. It’s on those moments when your love is being tested and unfortunately some of us haven’t done so well at those moments. Anyways after much introspection I came to the conclusion that many things can indeed trouble a persons soul. Love. I hope is the answer. I didn’t believe in love. I do now. Love is real. I hope everyone reads it finds it. Especially today. In whatever form it comes my wish is you would accept this love coming for you and to you. ✨

[@kellishomaker8060]

Mother and brother both tettrads when they wanted to be. Thank you for this, it helps.

[@joylynne1343]

❤ You got it right and put it into words ... Thank You. ❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Glad it was helpful! You're welcome and thank you!!

[@EKuehn85]

Thank You , so full if advice

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're most welcome

[@susanmcallister1085]

When she is welcoming names of people it reminds me of watching Romper Room tv show lol

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

🙊😂😂😂👏 Didn't think anyone would remember that show.

[@demetriamccoy3940]

My husband has told me that knows his weakness

[@OceanLover805]

Another good one. ❤ ✌🏽

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you!

[@soniaighalo3634]

Individuals who laugh as they do evil deeds, I know this look well, they shake their heads side to side while having the most evil smile. I know three my brother, my eldest daughter, and her father. They gave me the sense of them enjoying the response of shock to their words and actions. They diagnose this as Oppositional Defiant Disorder???

[@indiebaby]

27:00 It drives me up a wall too. I like the slow lane! I think some people must be adrenaline seeking the way they drive. BUT this is real life not a video game.

[@laurenpegues8372]

What about when it's a toxic work environment ?! 36 mos to retirement. The American work place has degraded beyond our worst imaginations.

[@Mz.Becky341]

So obviously evil is the opposite of good. The difference is knowing how to fight back against evil and not receive it or whether the good comes from the heart so that it reaches the heart.

[@user-cv7nj7xt7h]

Thanks ❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome 😊

[@zareenwilhelm5811]

Why am I always having to resubscribe to your channel 🤨

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Oh my! I don't know. KZbin can do some weird things.😕

[@tina8796]

Toxic, evil people are everywhere. When your own family's toxic you don't have much of a chance. Who can you turn to if you don't have family. Workplaces are toxic, neighbors are toxic, in-laws are toxic. People need a safe environment to thrive in. Nobody can thrive in toxic situations. Why so much hate in the world ? Very sad. If you don't have support, love and acceptance then you have nothing. You need it to succeed

[@ValerieLangley-yw8xw]

thank you intrestin

[@deborahedwards5004]

Can a person inherit the evil behavior of a parent?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You have some really good questions. I don't know the research on this. But I'm happy to bring this comment up next live chat which is next weekend.

[@bristolcorvid8894]

Deborah: Most certainly people can inherit their parents’ evil. Biological predisposition plus environmental influences. No guarantee that the child will be evil, but the likelihood is higher than average. Look at chronic dysfunction among infamous people who have lived evil lives. Dysfunction up and down their family trees.

[@nostromois]

In my family I have seen it happen. In crushing percentages. I suppose they assumed that manner will give them power and safety but never could grasp how my beloved siblings can be so cruel and immoral, callous, such shameless betrayals and brutality.

[@cristinalz9395]

Step parent, family brainwashing, entertainment out of watching me struggle adds to my struggles! Fake love 100% in it to prove she's somebody! Couldn't careless about the affects of her mental games on this family, especially my 93 Year old father! Controls and manipulates as much as she can. Don't say a word!! She'll do something to make sure you get hurt!!

[@nostromois]

Oh dear. Same here. Sucks the life out of everyone, wrecking havoc permanently, life long plans of how to exploit me best and hurt me most. Adds struggles to the struggles, having already undermined and sabotaged even my education to make sure I will always struggle. The rest are enablers or coabusers by now, her money keeps them all kissing her ass while she demeans and manipulates even them - but is cautious enough to keep them all united on the target of hurting me - the only one who was actually offering compassion and assistance and genuine care. Crazy sht, people wouldn't believe the details... 😅

[@sylvanascott1166]

Do these people know that they are doing these evil things.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

This is a great question! I don't think they always do. And we don't have any research to tell us differently. I wish my field did more work in this area.

[@KellyR-ht3me]

Im new so far so good

[@HeleneWebster-Sisk]

How can I sign up for live chat with you?

[@musicmakeuplover3025]

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@ecohumanism]

15:04 I even thought that some people are not really evil, but can't control themselves when their ego is hurt. But maybe they are just the lesser evil

[@VickiTrusselli]

I just found you tonight. I have a narcissistic ex i divorced in 1989. i am 74. it is 2024. My ex is now out to destroy me as a human being by turning sons against me and now my grandchildren. I am a freelance journalist, humanitarian forever. My ex is a full blown gun nut and MAGA. My son told me last time I visited he was going to shut me down. no politic or religion talk or anti republican. whatever. i was visiting him with my niece and my grandson was there. His dad said he put voo doo on me. bought a life insurance policy on me. they are mean to me tell me my spirituality and my peace is weak and means nothing. VERBAL ABUSE. I AM KEEPING MY DISTANCE . MY SON WILL PULL ME IN THEN MAKE ME CRY BY THE END OF THE VISIT. HIS DAD WAS A LYING TWO TIMING MYSOGYNOIST/

[@jodirichardson2820]

Were they born this way? Or conditioned to be this way?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I would say, my short answer would be, both! Sometimes it's more so one of these things or a combination of the two. I will certainly touch on this coming up on Friday. Stay tuned!

[@Uberqueenbee]

So does occultism

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Occultism is definitely an areas where evil and cruelty can hide and affect negatively a lot of people. It's a scary reality.

[@nostromois]

Evil can hide even better under the robes of holiness, righteousness and philanthropy, as we constantly get to see.

[@Karal-lg3nx]

Sadism…

[@alshaw6476]

👀 👍 💪 😥 🤔 😇 😊

[@SickofHypocrites]

An important topic that no one but you has handled so well. Just wish you didn’t fidget so much❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'd have to watch that a bit closer. Sometimes I can move around a lot! There's always room for growth. 😀

[@nostromois]

​@@TherapistTamaraHillthe message is in the voice and that it has a perfect speed, tone and flow 👌 my Mediterranean eyes see a normal non stiff human, which is another lesson. ❤

[@freerangeboogie7293]

I am curious to know why your sadistic patient came to you in the first place. Then I wondered if he enjoyed sharing his activities with you(?) Sick, huh? :(

[@sherriwilliams1624]

Machiavellianism is not a personality trait, it’s a philosophical belief that is taught and passed down. Being in a Narcissist Family environment will not force good ppl to concede to the evil ways but actually repel those who have no tolerance with such negative energy which burns and consume everything in its paths.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I think this comment is worth me addressing to clarify any misleading views. While I get where you are coming from, it's not 100% correct. Psychologists Richard Christie and Florence L. Geis named the trait, Machiavellianism, after Niccolò Machiavelli, a Renaissance diplomat and philosopher. The concept of Machiavellianism does stem from theory but theory informs our practice as scientists of the mind. We regard it as a trait to help distinguish personality traits as professionals. Machiavellianism IS 1 of 3 traits that make up the "Dark Triad". For now, we in the field of psychology regard Machiavellianism as a personality trait. psychcentral.com/lib/machiavellianism-cognition-and-emotion-understanding-how-the-machiavellian-thinks-feels-and-thrives

[@alshaw6476]

👀 Great ! topic 😊 🤔 👀 people was not always this. 😊 😊 will power / respect we value others 😊 money was not our God ! 🤔 👀 60s yrs observation general public 😊 in God we trusted 😇 personal skill is discovered over time not directed from misinformed bias nepertism or favoritism 🤨 😊🤔🤨😉🫣 mother's will do anything for their child 😢😮 some people needs and build their personality from less not more life is real life. We grow up to grow out we do this together 😊😊 finding self most will achieve this ❤

[@Bella_Noire]

Some of us have spent most of our lives in church. And church talks about evil, references evil, and warns about evil, but they rarely explain evil. Combined with the religiosity of church some people become the perfect victims.

[@Youareheretoo]

They never explain that your own parents can be evil. It’s always people that drink or party. Especially while a young person stay away from these people is very much mentioned over and over. There are people that don’t drink and party and are evil.

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

The issue with that is that people don't read their Bibles for themselves to understand what it is. Church people overwhelmingly rely too much on their pastors to feed them the word and explanations of it; they need to learn how to feed themselves.