Lorelai and Rory Gilmore: A Complex Codependent relationship..

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@FishareFriendsNotFood972

Rory's arc of 'golden child of the small town cracks when they leave for a bigger pond and find they are a small fish' is such a realistic story, frankly

@ivannareyes1780

Lorelai naming Rory after herself also supports your argument that she views Rory as an extension of herself. She loves Rory, but she doesn't love that she had to grow up after getting pregnant, so Rory was like a do-over for her. Hence, the living vicariously through her part.

@leiiib

Lorelai cutting Rory off after she didn’t go back to Yale for some

@beautelle1065

The problem with Lorelai is that she always made Rory feel that she was superior to others so her going to Yale made her realize she was not that special. You should uplift your kids, but you should also be realistic with them and Lorelai wasn't she really believed that Rory was better than everyone and could do no wrong

@lovefromwonderland

Lorelai obviously had to grow up as an adult because she became pregnant at 16. Mind you, Lorelai’s growth was stunted as well because of that, that’s why she talks to her like a best friend. Emily talks to Lorelai like a prissy sergeant would talk to a trainee. With Rory it was the extreme opposite, Lorelai didn’t set boundaries while Emily set far too many.

@Meanie74

I’m gonna have to disagree that Lorelai would have had the guidance of her parents if she hadn’t left. I mean she would get inundated with ‘guidance’ but it wouldn’t have been good guidance. I think it would have stunted her growth similar to Rory but different mechanisms. Overbearing vs enabling.

@barbiesinspiration8799

Lorelai's ability to always make Rory right even when she was wrong is the reason why Rory started rebelling at an older age, like her sleeping with Dean, she didn't think Lorelai would have a problem with her behavior because she didn't any other time and everyone else was wrong so what was different this time? I remember going to college with girls like Rory who while nice, felt like the praise they got in school for being #1 and being the star student would be the same in college and that the professors would favor them and it was the complete opposite and they struggled alot, even dropping out.

@Princessdollamanda

Lorelai was so childish it was unbearable that tantrum she threw when Jess and Rory got in that accident was so enraging because she didn’t even care to ask if Jess was okay or believe Rory when she said it wasn’t his fault, she went storming into Luke’s restaurant and just unleashed onto him with her childish antics like always and then wants to make nice with him after all that she said as though he’s just supposed to forgive her. She rarely ever let Rory explore her independence which is why she had such a hard time navigating after she left for college

@naomikimbokimi9015

Lorelai definitely parentified Rory at times and acted like a friend more than a mother, I think a lot of things contributed to the demise of Rory’s character including the environment she grew up in. Honestly lorelai and Rory’s relationship reminds me of a more tame version of Susan and Julie from desperate housewives

@katythebeauty330

I’m currently on season 5 and I don’t want to watch the full video until I’m done but yes their relationship is very unhealthy. Lorelai never really parented Rory and she viewed her as a friend instead of her child. It’s funny how Lorelai would get mad at her parents for getting into her relationships but she did the same with Rory and Jess. She had such disgust towards him when really he’s just a troubled teen. She also didn’t see her privilege which is a big part of her fault as well.

@mindyourmanners3784

She was just as classist as her parents it was just scaled back some, she just didn't like when people had more than her and had it all together because it made her feel insecure about herself and lmaoooooo not Gollum 😂😂😂😂 the laugh I let out lmao she really did treat her like that

@riritheedon8967

I’ve never watched Gilmore Girls I love the fact that you’re doing a breakdown of this relationship 😩🫶🏾

@qualinseler

Basically she didn't let Rory grow where she was supposed to and then completely let go when it was time to control the situation with Rory dropping out and moving to her grandparents.

@bgeese1918

Havent seen the rest of the video but based on the comments mentioning Lorelai…im so glad that she gets called out cause omg on the other side of the fandom, god forbid she gets called out or toxic even. Like she was great too but that doesnt take away how a huge reason why rory turned out the way she did (not to take away most of the responsibility from rory too) is from lorelai. Neither are perfect, including Lorelai. But what makes her so lovable is that she does learn from her mistakes and that eventually influences on rory (in some parts at least lol)

@ChinyereXO

This analysis is so good ✨️I enjoyed this show, but always wondered if it was a secretly a social commentary on what happens when people put someone in a pedestal 🤔

@greendiamondglow

I saw the show for the first time as an adult years after it ended, so I feel like i missed the zeitgeist. I thought Lorelei was a loving mom, but an irresponsible one, and Rory was an entitled brat from season 1. But that's why i love the show. They are messy, but not stressfully loud. Gilmore Girls is to drama what Murder, She Wrote is to procedural crime.

@PleaseEnterANam3

Wow... a fair analysis of their relationship that isn't just "Lorelai is the best, Rory sucks and Emily is satan". I never thought I'd see it happen lol