Love After 50 | How To Find It Enjoy It And Keep It Exciting

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[@judithgallegos1748]

After 51 years of marriage and now as a caregiver to my husband, I would never be interested in forming another relationship. I don´t need another person to share what would be left of my life. I would volunteer, engage with my children and grandchildren and travel with my women friends. I am my best friend.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Judith that’s a very good life plan. We are all different and at different points in our lives. I agree with you. ❤️

[@roseyc.5846]

Judith, I agree!! 👍

[@DeborahCaldwell77]

Judith, That’s what you think. Now. Please forgive yourself if you change your mind later in life. 🥰

[@judithgallegos1748]

@@DeborahCaldwell77 Later in life? How much later? My husband is still doing quite well with me as his home dialysis caregiver. I am 77 and he is 81. As far as any future relationship for me if I became a widow, it would be No Way, José!!

[@mgkos]

@@judithgallegos1748 so often people think their input is required or relevant with regards to the choices we make. What this is, is a not entirely subtle attempt to undermine the confidence of others, a “sunny side of control” “but maybe” tactic. No one else’s business what our choices & preferences are, am with u. Stay well.

[@InspiredLifewithNimfa720]

I am a widow for 5 years but no urge at all to date or have a new relationship. I am loving my freedom and enjoying things that I haven't done before. Even launching a YT channel, still can't believe I did!!! Who knows what's in store for me in the future but I don't think about it. I live for today. Great discussion ,great information, great interview. Thanks ladies

[@lifewithsandrahart]

It’s never too late to follow your dreams. Good for you. We all have different needs and we have to do what we want. ❤️

[@roseyc.5846]

Same here.. thank you for sharing! 🙂🌺

[@mariekitty]

Awesome

[@InspiredLifewithNimfa720]

@@lifewithsandrahart Indeed! and you're my YT inspiration. Btw, I love your interview with your hubby. Making me miss my husband, but all good vibes.

[@sandrafrances]

I'm so much like you @Inspired Life with Nimfa. Widowed for 5 years and just launched a you tube channel today! Very exciting. Good luck to you.

[@suzettecooper382]

After a marriage with infidelity and nursing my husband till he passed away has left a strong case to me that marriage is not something I believe in anymore. I'm a widow of six years and have enjoyed my freedom and serenity after an unhappy marriage. I find peace in nature, my pets and friends. I feel free and contented at 64 years of age.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Remarriage is not for everyone. I know I have a divorced daughter and she said that she is so happy by her self and enjoying her freedom years. Her child is grown and she has the time to enjoy her life now. If someone comes along it would be icing on the cake, but she’s not looking to get married again

[@C.Hawkshaw]

In the comments it’s seems a common thread is that women from “bad” marriages , or longtime caregivers might not ever look for love again. But also from marriages where the man was the absolute light of her life. I guess pretty nice marriages that ended without long caregiving are more apt to lead to the woman looking again for love. I was a long caregiver, now a widow and he was the light of my life, though our marriage was far from ideal. But a strange thing just happened to me : a longtime female friend that I was on the outs with broke her leg. And though she has two siblings, both parents, and two very functional child in the same city, she expected me to drop all my interests (I’m retired) and become her caregiver. Actually another friend (we’re all about 60) also had an operation and basically wanted me on call for six weeks to walk her dog with her, though she lives 45 minutes away and has a husband and two adult sons nearby. So women who think that by avoiding marriage they will avoid being expected to be a caregiver, well they may be wrong. They may be asked, maybe be expected to become somewhat of a caregiver to their female friends. They better be good at boundary setting or start practicing now. I don’t mind pitching in here and there but not every day for Pete’s sake when they have a husband and/or adult children nearby. Still love them of course but Gee whiz!

[@Fyrinspector]

Francine is one brave woman. I tried online dating years ago and it was horrible. I always met them in public places but most of them were not what they claimed they were on line. After 5 tries, enough for me. I enjoy my own time, money, travel, cooking and laundry. I feel at this point in my life I will be with myself only. Very interesting topic. 😎❤️💄Kathy 😷

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Kathy, Being content with our own company is an awesome thing. Francine is very brave indeed. She gives great tips on how to do it.❤️

[@joolzg1936]

I totally agree. I was widowed at 49. I tried online dating....didn't work for me either. I don't want to go through being widowed again either. I am enjoying my freedom.

[@roseyc.5846]

AGREE!! 🌺

[@beautymaven3952]

I agree wholeheartedly. I tried online dating consistently for over 5 years and had too many bad experiences with fakes and liars. Then a couple long term relationships and they too had far too many skeletons in their closet that I was fortunate enough to have discovered. I get that no one is perfect and we all have our mental demons but these men brought so much drama into my drama-free life. I now treat myself to nice dinners, buy whatever I need/want and travel a lot and my life feels full. I welcome a man into my life but he’s got to be like me or better!

[@reginapolo3357]

At the expense of being selfish, I say that at my age, i will meet someone that need some one to be on top of his heart and prostate medication, and put drops on his eyes.......that is expected if you have been with someone thru thick and thin, but not someone you just met....soooorry!

[@roseyc.5846]

Hi Sandra: l appreciate the topic, however...it is EXTREMELY difficult for mature women to meet good, QUALITY men nowadays. I was widowed at forty-three, and yes, I started dating after a year. Yes, I met a good man, but, things went left, and now I've been single for a very long time. I loved my late husband, and also my fiance (now deceased, as well), but, I'm done with love. Online dating, for the most part, is a horror. I know there are success stories; however, we all realize the need to be safe, etc. It's not worth it, IMHO. I think the rhetoric is mostly false hope for mature women, because the reality is that, by and large, most older men are seeking MUCH younger women. Many even want to procreate in their "golden years". I remember reading somewhere that it makes them feel immortal. I'm not trying to sound bitter; I'm pretty happy enjoying my three grandchildren and my freedom. So, I wish all the best to those who are looking, but, no more for me. Thanks for a great video; take care, and stay well. Rosemarie 💗

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts today❤️

[@T.K.111]

One of my brothers was a moderator for an online dating site. He adamantly advised me to stay away from them!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

@@T.K.111 That’s really interesting and an informative inside impression. He must have seen a lot of men there with ulterior motives? Thanks for sharing. I hope all sites are not like that. ❤️

[@irismcq.3776]

So true Rosey. I can still hold my own at 64 but men my age sure are not interested. Let them enjoy their "purse to nurse" life. And what's even more disgusting is there are simply no men (maybe and that's a big maybe, 1 or 2 that might come close to being decent looking) but they all think they are great. So I hope you older men have money because the younger women sure aren't interested in you, it's your money honey. Call me bitter or whatever you want. I do not care. You pass us older, good looking women up as though we are invisible. Older women that you have a lot in common with.

[@sarasullivan4897]

I have so many content, single and active female friends who no longer date.

[@dianelopresti9352]

Good Morning Sandra, I agree with another subscriber, Judith, who commented below. I've been married 45 years and have been the caregiver for my husband the last three years. During this journey of caregiving, I have become a much stronger and independent woman. When Tony is called to his eternal peace, I will be very comfortable by myself. I have outside interests and wonderful women friends. No need for a man in my life. Blessings, Diane

[@susanjaneleitner7670]

I love your guest! What confidence and honesty! I was lost after my divorce. I lost my husband, family, and friends. I felt quite rejected. Then I lost my job. I rebuilt my life and stopped looking back. I met my guy at the airport! I was not looking it just happened as I was waiting for the fog to clear and to continue my trip. We have been together eleven years now. I feel lucky every day! He is everything I ever wanted and it was worth the rocky path to get to this wonderful place. I am 74 and he is 79. We are together and since the pandemic we live in our own homes in different states and speak five times a day at least. We don’t wish to marry. It works for us. When I am in his house I do not feel it is not my home. I feel we will solve this when I move to the farm… his current home. See you next time! Thank you Sandra for making my life better! ❤️ Suzy

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Suzy, thank you ever so much for sharing your story. It’s very similar to the one Francine spoke about in long distance relationships. I believe there are no accidents and you were meant to meet him. Wonderful story of love. I am so happy for you both and I want to thank you for sharing your story with all of us❤️

[@sogorgeous2257]

Online dating, oh boy nothing has ever happened to me but do be careful! I only go on there once in a great while. I am a very attractive lady, definitely on the glamorous side, intelligent and interesting so I don’t have trouble finding a man but as some of the commenters have stated and I agree, most of the men on these dating sites just are not what they say or claim to be. I have found most of them are broke and have a tremendous amount of baggage so that’s a one date only. Actually, I don’t call these dates but “interviews.” I’ll tell someone, “I’m going on an interview!” Happily for me, I wake up each morning loving myself, thanking God I’m still alive and looking forward to what the new day brings! Life is good. Thank you Sandra for bringing this subject to the forefront. Ann P.S. I have not had this happen to me on online dating but have certainly been approached by married men who tell me they are “separated.” Remember ladies, separated means married!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Ann, thanks so very much for sharing your thoughts with all of us today as well as your experiences. I think as Francine said always meet in public and never get into a car with anyone. I was talking last night with two younger women who are online dating and they seem to be more comfortable with it than those who are 40 and over. You are right to be very careful! Thank you for reminding all of us.❤️

[@pamcornelius9122]

Thank you for this. As a very recent widow (married 41 years, together for 45 years), it’s nice to know I’m not alone. My husband and I were HS sweethearts and I know he was my one and only soulmate. I can’t imagine getting to the point of wanting to date again. The pain is unbearable. Your channel is a comfort to me. 💝

[@kateburk2168]

This has come at a good time for me. My fiance is back to being 'just a friend' after living here 8 month & meeting most of my family as Mo'ree (Irish for ~great~ grandfather). For the most, things were going fine until he had to free up my daughter's guest room. No, intimacy didn't enter the picture...but one night he asked if we could talk. What I heard was I reminded him of his mother. She died at age 73 in a nursing home (& had mental health issues plus) Well...the wk prior, I had my 75th b.d., other than wearing a shoe appliance, my health is good. We had discussed marriage ... a covenant marriage so our children would not feel threatened. He is having surgery on the second of Sept. While he has no worries about the outcome, he's concerned. I have invested a lot of time in this relationship but... I have decided to move on, maybe get a pet, & let nature take its course. If he comes through surgery without a hitch, PTL! If not, PTL! I have been alone since before 2002 & managed to survive. I am woman, hear me roar!!😎

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I hope everything works out for you. I’ll be thinking of you. Thanks for sharing❤️

[@roseyc.5846]

Kate, I've been alone since then, as well. Better no man than being a, "nurse" or a "purse". 💗

[@liedyMc]

Good for you Kate , don’t settle love your attitude continue to roar 🐯

[@fredalearhinan6693]

I met my now husband on line at 60yrs and he was 63yrs....had to meet a lot of men most of them lovely but not for me until I met the man...we have been married now for 7 and half years....

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Congratulations !! Another story to prove it can be found.❤️

[@mozu517]

Yup, I had to kiss a lot of 🐸 before I found my prince!

[@shirleylangton7967]

Really excellent interview Sandra. Everything Francine said was right on. Dating as you age can be so much more complicated, but if you want it, you can work it out. I would never want to live with someone again, but it is wonderful to have a man in your life for a different point of view.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much for sharing Shirley❤️

[@liannebedard5521]

I married a promising young man and helped to support his graduate schooling, during which time he became a brazen womanizer. I soldiered on, raising two great kids, making a decent if not spectacular career. I came close to marrying once, but got cold feet. Missed a lot, I know…and would definitely re live those middle years. But old age as a single woman is nice…

[@juliefizpatrick513]

Hi Sandra:) After being married for 24 years I have had 1 long relationship after my divorce -it was one of the best periods of my life. Tried several online relationships that were a disaster and now I am very content to live my life w/o a man:). Great chat today👍😊💕

[@roseyc.5846]

Julie, same here. 💗

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much for sharing your relationship stories. I think a lot of women who are mature feel that they are self satisfied with their family and their own company. Everyone has different needs don’t they? It’s up to us to find what makes us happy. Thank you again❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

What an interesting dialogue and diverse conversations we are having here. I’m delighted at the sharing of thoughts and opinions on lover after 50 and how you feel about it. Maybe there is no one answer for everyone. We are all unique and have different ideas, wants and needs. I am glad Francine’s book has sometimes helped or brought thoughts about mature relationships out into the light. Thank you all so much❤️❤️ If you are interested in Love After 50, I put a link below the video.

[@DeborahCaldwell77]

Whew, Sandra, I tried to read all 98 comments but there was enough variety so that I was able to stop. You probably have 98 more, now. I loved this open and honest conversation between two women who love people. I was 70 years old and 10 weeks when I met my current companion. Now I am 11 years older and so is he. He was born 2 1/2 years before I was born so that makes him older but we graduated from high school in the same year. It wasn’t the same high school but it was local and we had never crossed paths before. We don’t live together and we think that’s the secret it was his idea to never even consider it. Now I can see the wisdom of it, for us, because we were so independent. Now that we are both in our early 80s, we can see that love and intimacy and companionship is a wonderful thing, combined with independence and families of our own and sharing it all. As much as we can. As much as we want to. This was great fun thank you

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks fir sharing today. I love the various thoughts and stories about relationships and what works in each instance. Thanks so much.

[@viktoriapettypiece5953]

Happy to hear a positive story....I did not have a happy 34 yr marriage, it wasnt horrible or anything, but it wasnt happy. Then I had a long distance relationship, for many years, but of course it ended. I would love to actually find someone to love AND to love me. I'm 67, and live remotely on a small island.. there is no chance here, though I'm hoping to make the scariest decision in my life, to move to another country, to be closer to my children and hope to find love as well. Thank you for the encouragement ❤

[@hilarymonton9285]

Brilliant. Thank you Sandra. So many questions answered.🙏💖

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Francine will be happy to hear that❤️

[@donnafitzgerald416]

I was widowed at 45. I committed my life to raising my children. I have been independent and in my masculine for a long time to be in control of everything. Now at 62 years old I find I am open to looking for a loving relationship. Dating is something that scares me. Thanks for this conversation. A deep breath and I am ready to jump in..

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Donna, I hope Francine’s experiences will help you in that direction! Good luck!❤️

[@fredalearhinan6693]

Go for it as it can be fun.. I did at 60 and met some wonderful men but they weren't for me also met some doosys . But the idea is just have fun don't take things too seriously and when the one comes into your life wow.. I married at 62 after 24yrs alone and so happy . Nearly 8 yrs married now to a loving kind man and I also love him ❤

[@sandrafrances]

I've done a good bit of online dating 71-74 years old. I've met all kinds. Out of the mix I have gained 2 wonderful male friends.....whatever that means. 😀 So nice to have them in my life for conversations, dinners, and hugs.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you for sharing your online dating experience. I know that will help a lot of women to feel that they can move forward with online dating❤️

[@chrisl6169]

Great information!!

[@pychow13]

Thank you for the positive messages. It gives this soon-to-be 50yo lady who has experienced repeated failures from online dating for the past 5 years, and is struggling with severe low self confidence from the aging looks, hope to find true love eventually.

[@susantaft6873]

Sandra - thank you for this information. As I age - it becomes something I think about more and more (losing my wonderful husband of 31 years). Somewhere in the back of my mind I think it is actually smart (and healthy) to prepare myself mentally for this possibility. No education is ever wasted. As always - thank you for the inspiration you provide.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks for being here today Susan. Francine is a very interesting person❤️

[@pattywilliams2222]

Good information & certainly gives you things to think about. Thanks Sandra & have a wonderful day ❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Have a wonderful day, too, Patti!❤️

[@ester9804]

Very nice conversation today!!! Thanks for sharing...❤️😘😘

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you for joining us today Ester❤️

[@makeupwithvalerienotrends7961]

Loved the interview, thank you Sandra 😊

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you❤️

[@jendrizzyy]

Great video, some insightful things were covered, thanks.

[@n.v.1173]

Thank you for this great video. I’m 52 divorced 14 yrs. & still seeking my forever. I just ordered the book can’t wait to read it! ♥️🌟💃🏻😊

[@tinabrickley8157]

I really enjoyed this video and am so impressed with Sandra's integrity and ability to interview and ask Francine Russo the author questions that many of us women want to know the answers to.

[@AbeniBamidele]

Lovely informative video.🌹 I met the love of my life online and we share a marvelous life after 50. The advice provided is so very useful.🌹

[@lifewithsandrahart]

That’s so great to hear. Thanks for sharing. Your story may help others that are afraid to dip their feet into online dating. ❤️

[@jessie260]

Great interview!🎉

[@christinadaggett6024]

Very interesting interview, Sandra! Thank you for sharing!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much for being here I’m part of the conversation❤️

[@ineldafitte5797]

Super interview. Thank you. Great questions.

[@__lavenderose__]

I'm 24 and I'm having such a wonderful time watching your videos. I'm in a great relationship with my best friend. He's quite literally the man of my dreams. I was thinking this morning how my friendship being more due to knowing each other from school and having some surface level connections sometimes I feel I'm outgrowing that friendship and then I wondered if I would ever feel this way with a best friend, my partner. I really see us being together for our whole lives, I adore him as a person he's so smart. I know I grow and change and I welcome that for him and us. Listening to your videos put my life in perspective and is really healing. :)

[@sweetypatnett6123]

Thanks, very informative and helpful😍🤩!

[@kathyhartsell4383]

Hey Sandra! As always, you bring such creative and informative subjects to your platform. I enjoyed hearing the conversation between you and Francine. Thank you! 💕

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks for watching ❤️

[@kathyhartsell4383]

@@lifewithsandrahart You’re welcome!

[@shirtuntucked1810]

Both women are so beautiful, and generous with their experiences. Thank you both.

[@karencondon2003]

LOVE This 💕🙏🏼💕

[@nancyculhanehoag7936]

Really enjoyed your Topic today! As always you touch on topics that people over Sixty sooner or later will face! Loved the Author , very honest and forth coming!!! Have a wonderful day.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Francine was so great and very knowledgeable. Nice woman and very smart❤️

[@INSIDEBEAUTYwiththeoldgirl]

Hi Sandra, great advice in this video! For me personally, if something happened to Dave I feel I would never want or find someone else. He has wonderful qualities and no one could be better to me than he is. I have a gem which I am so grateful for so I don’t feel anyone would measure up. I know I would fill my life with activities, girlfriends and things I enjoy so I believe I would be content by myself. Maybe if I were younger I would think differently but at 70 I have had the best love and am content with that. Hope this makes sense! Love and blessings, Sheila

[@lifewithsandrahart]

This certainly does make sense Sheila. I understand you truly.❤️

[@annekariuki4734]

Wish you long life with him,,this things we only understand when we are living it..it's quite a bad state to be in,,

[@annekariuki4734]

Widowhood is bad,either way..

[@ann-marie6846]

Wonderful discussion and wonderful advice! Thank you so much ladies.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I am so happy that we have many voices here sharing their thoughts and opinions about this topic❤️

[@marysmith8876]

Hi Sandra, this is interesting and good luck for those who want a relationship and are brave enough to try....but no thank you. I lost my husband ,15 years ago and the thought of meeting someone else gives me an anxiety attack. I'm very happy with my own company. Have a lovely week . Blessings to you and Arthur

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Mary, thank you for sharing your feelings about trying to find another relationship. I really understand how you feel. Being happy with your own company is the best❤️

[@mavep2855]

Gratefully, I have been married 56 years this October and I am hoping for many more. My Mom was widowed at 45 and went back to work to raise me and my sister. She never sought a new relationship and was happy that way. A great interview, lots of food for thought. Thank you Sandra and guest.🙏🏻❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this topic today. Your mother must’ve been a very strong woman.❤️

[@KatherineTheGr8t]

Awesome Sandra, you are a terrific interviewer and peppered Francine with questions I would have asked myself. I'm going to get this book, it's exactly what I need for my life right now. Thank you Thank you Thank you : D

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks Katherine. I put a link below the video❤️

[@sunshinehappylady8314]

Good topic & interview... Thanks!!!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you for being here❤️

[@cynthiaakacyndsmith6539]

Thank you both, great conversation!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

She is such an interesting person with a lot of knowledge about relationships. I really enjoyed speaking with her

[@fruityeva]

I'm 21 but I loved this video. You are both so mature. Really inspiring!☺️✌🏼

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much❤️

[@mrtee6953]

Wow you look really beautiful fruity

[@terristevenson3248]

Great interview. Thank you.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you for being here today.❤️

[@ms.teaversation8072]

Love the conversation makes total sense to me 💗‼️

[@janjohnson97]

very interesting video, what a great woman. Thanks Sandra.

[@dulcehajjar5826]

Hello Francine and Sandra 🤗 Nice to have you Both here talking About Something Very Exciting ... Relationship “ Thanks for Sharing and Giving your Thoughts ! Stay Blessed 🙏❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much, Dulce. I always value your opinion❤️

[@maurotivolesi]

I think those who say that they are fine on their own, single, have a lot to do, that they have the garden, the cinema, museums, cats and dogs, are actually people who simply can't find a partner. I'm not a kid, I'm old, but I would never give up love. When I hear that "I'm old for such things" I suspect that person is lying to themselves. No matter how old you are or how old she is 🌹

[@eleanorpolchinski7919]

I enjoyed this very much ! 💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much Eleanor❤️

[@diamondunicorn2421]

This video is informative and encouraging! Thanks 🙏🏽

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much

[@claireshearer6007]

I just listened to you narrate your book Sandra and was mesmerized . Thank you for that , I’m a new subscriber to your channel.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks and welcome! So nice to have you here

[@pamcee79]

Thank you for this interesting and inspiring topic. You are a great interviewer.😍 Really enjoyed this video. Definitely wanna read her book😄. Have a great day! See you soon.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much Pam. She was a very interesting person to speak with❤️

[@tracymcgrath1192]

Loved this. Gives me hope. Love ya Sandra ♥️🌹🙏

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks Tracy ❤️

[@T.K.111]

Most women after 50 are used to being approached. I don't think most women chase men. But men get rejected by women often, and its something they understand....they don't take it as personally. I had 7 brothers...they gave me great advice. I am a widow 3 years, going through that grief, and Covid allowed me to decide what I wanted for ME. I am not desperately looking, but I would like a male to travel with me. So I know what I would like in a male. I prefer to live separately, because I have been taking care of someone else my entire life. Great conversation, Sandra.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I am so sorry that you lost your husband. I know the grieving process.Thank you so much for sharing your story. Wow, how wonderful it must’ve been growing up with seven brothers. You had a lot of protection. Thank you again❤️

[@katatarot597]

Beautiful! Thank you so much dear Sandra 💛💛💛💛💛

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much for watching❤️

[@katatarot597]

@@lifewithsandrahart 💖

[@bettymoonlight6203]

Thanks for info

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Interesting perspective Francine face us. ❤️

[@user-nd6en3qf7r]

Good conversation. Thanks for sharing. Finia Moraiti 😍

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much! Love your way.❤️

[@rv3022]

Very interesting interview, Sandra!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much for watching❤️

[@tammystegall5130]

Loved this !!! Benn married 31 years and my o my how things change but something's are for the better .

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Amen to that Tammy😊❤️

[@ElleIsForLiving]

I knew I had to be intentional in dating for my 2nd marriage and am so glad that I did. This was an interesting dialogue and she is right, you have nothing to lose! I hope that you are having a wonderful week. ♥ Elle

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks Elle, each of us has a list of what we really want in a relationship and what we expect. I appreciate your sharing your thoughts today. Much loved your way, Elle.❤️

[@liedyMc]

What a wonderful conversation, very personal and very individual journey for every woman. I love being in love , I was married for 20 years in my first marriage the father of my 3 children , at 43 I married again for 28 years now and I still love being in love aging does bring many different challenges . My motto NEVER SAY NEVER 💖 I have secrets but I’m not telling 😉

[@lifewithsandrahart]

LOL! I love your comment it’s so honest and true. Thank you ever so much❤️

[@C.Hawkshaw]

Oh come on! Tell! Tell!

[@jo-believe]

Francine story is funny and interesting. Have a good day. Blessings 🥀💜🥀

[@lifewithsandrahart]

She will be happy to know. Thanks Jo.❤️

[@karolmolpus9536]

Good conversation 😎

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Karol, thank you❤️

[@jacquimg2469]

I’m a widow, age 70, and I have no interest in dating. But, I really enjoyed this conversation. It’s interesting how people meet these days. I met my husband in person -haha! I remember how sad and disappointing dating was when I was in the dating pool. I wouldn’t want to go through that again.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I think there are a lot of those he would agree with you Jacqui 😊❤️

[@nycgirl6978]

I was married 36 yrs widowed for 12 . I did on-line dating years ago. Met men who were nice enough but I didn’t find compatible for various reason. Now I find that most men that approach me are married and I don’t even respond WTH? I’d love to be in a loving relationship but I’ve given up. I just downloaded Francine’s book. Maybe with your sage advice and the great content you bring to us hopefully I can get unstuck. ❤U Sandra!

[@MaryEllenAfter60]

Good afternoon Sandra. I watched your video yesterday morning, got interrupted and failed to leave a comment. It was a pleasure getting to "meet" Francine, and hearing her experiences. Blessings, and love, my beautiful friend..MaryEllen

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much for watching MaryEllen. I know we all have lives outside of KZbin so I thank you for coming back and leaving a comment. Francine was just a lovely woman and it was nice getting to know her. I hope you have a wonderful week and my love to Jim ❤️

[@sandraoppenheimer464]

Thank you for this video. I had the best husband and love of my life and have no desire to date. But the video gave me a glimmer of hope that my life will go on . I am looking to maybe volunteer or just visit with the elderly widows in nursing homes that maybe have no visitors. Of course I can’t do that right now with COVID rising here in Ky. But I have been thinking I would like to do something for others that are lonely .

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Sandra I think of you often and I know how you are still in the grieving process losing your wonderful husband. I think your ideas of reaching out to others who may be lonely it’s such a fantastic idea. When this Covid thing gets better what if blessing it would be for you to help other women who are suffering. Thank you for being here today❤️

[@YaSminCreaTes]

Yes it so true initially you get so scared of being alone and not being used to it you can go in to overdrive in finding a new partner. I have been on my own for over fifteen years now and cherish my independence like nothing else.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I truly understand!

[@chrisl6169]

I’d love ❤️ to have the chance to have a wonderful, caring, close & supportive relationship!! Having women friends is fine but it doesn’t compare to having that special someone of the opposite sex in your life. I hope I have that chance. Very informative presentation!!

[@T.K.111]

Very good point about legal paperwork...my friend's dad remarried after her mother died. He had a farm and money. When her father died the new wife and her children got everything and my friend and her siblings got nothing.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

How awful. This is truly why everything should be put in a trust. I know this is happening many times. Thank you for sharing❤️

[@cmkarma5554]

This was a great interview you are a great interviewer and the questions were so on point! This is very interesting , I did a few long distance relationship and I did wasted my time especially when you really start to like someone and is so far away Is heart breaking because you can’t physically be together but also in my experience I found that I thought I knew the person but I really didn’t , online and on the phone they sound perfect but they sure were different than in person , and once we met I felt like they were not the same person I believe is because our relationship was always online and on the phone and they behaved the best and fictionalized their personality to make it compatible to mine but that is so stupid for those men to do that Because their real personality had to come up eventually , and what were they thinking that I wouldn’t have noticed? 🤦🏼‍♀️ so after a few tries with the same results I didn’t won’t to have anything to do with long distance relationship I also found out that they kept it up because if they get a one night stand it was fine and most I’m sure not all but most in my experience men that do long distance relationship are not serious about being in one ! ❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Great advice here that you have shared. Your experience should be of interest to those who might be considering to be in a long distance relationship. Thanks fir sharing. ❤️

[@cmkarma5554]

@@lifewithsandrahart thank you 😇

[@judyberends4586]

Sandra. I hope your son and family are safe from the flooding .God bless you . It was close by. In Waverly, Humphrey county . It happened Sat.& was on many channels. I wasn't dreaming it.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Judy, thank you so much for asking. He was OK and had no flooding. I think it was in another area.❤️

[@judyberends4586]

@@lifewithsandrahart it was Tennessee. Dr.Ken D Berry on KZbin lost friends in the flood.it was close to Nashville. Dr.lives in Tenn They were giving money to the victims on his live Monday night. So sad. So happy your son & family are well. Thank you. It's real close to your "son".

[@cookingwithkf]

Awesome!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you for joining in on this conversation today❤️

[@NaturalHealingAlchemist]

🤍💞🤍 Have a Beautiful day!!🦋

[@vickielewallen3799]

Good if that is what you want. All i want now is freedom, i love to go where i want without explaining or asking if its "ok with you," etc. Dont entrap yourself unless youre sure you really want to live with another person. Everyone is different, but i just love being totally free.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

You are so right. Everyone is so different. We all have needs and some want a partner and others are happy with themselves. Interesting discussion ❤️

[@vickielewallen3799]

@@lifewithsandrahart Yes. Lonely is not good, but my marriage was like a prison, i wont risk that again. Each person should follow their own heart, for sure.

[@maryannscott5567]

Loved it. My partner of 5 years is 29 years my junior, brought together by fate I guess. This gave me food for thought!

[@lifewithsandrahart]

That’s very interesting, Mary. Certainly has to be an attraction on both sides and if it is working for you both you are very lucky to have found one another. Ages just a number and it’s who you are that is important❤️

[@C.Hawkshaw]

Mary Ann what is your secret? I am attracted to much younger men and would like to date one. 😁

[@deenabergman3596]

Life Over Sixty With Sandra Me

[@dewichintalee9615]

So true madame 👍

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you for agreeing

[@lindajackson8389]

TYFS ❤️

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks, LINDA❤️

[@liedyMc]

Big mistake my sister moved into her partners home and could not move a piece of furniture, was horrible and so sad … she settled for a really bad situation .

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Settling is not good, for sure!! Just like my friend❤️

[@deenam3317]

Im in my 30s but this advice is gold.

[@ginnyperdue3157]

dating on line is so different.when young. you are jumping into a sea of men. .but finally found the one i was looking for

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Wonderful! I don’t know if I would cope today on the dating scene😊❤️

[@mozu517]

I found that looking for a companion is a lot like looking for a job!

[@GlitzyFritzy]

STRANGER DANGER ROFL I hope I'm never in a position to be trying to start over again. I HOPE that if something should ever happen to ShyGuy I am satisfied enough to just be alone but I find that I agree with "go with the sense God gave you" as she said. This was a great topic as I know that there are a lot of women who really are looking for love and we don't want them in the wrong places ;) xoxo

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Amen to that, Mary!❤️

[@jamestalkington7434]

my wave to an angel, GOD BLESS

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thanks so much for the wave!!

[@flowerfield3468]

Every man and woman I know who divorced in middle age and has older kids, have all since gotten new boyfriends/girlfriends and even remarried in some cases. From what I've seen in reality, dating and relationships later in life seems pretty easy and entirely possible.

[@catmama54]

I think if I were to be alone I’d most likely stay that way. The world is so crazy today that I’d find it very hard to trust anyone unless it turned out to be my very first love xoCathy

[@roseyc.5846]

Cathy, you are SO right! 🙂

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Perhaps because of my age, I wouldn’t be looking for another relationship either. But that doesn’t mean it’s right for everyone just for you and me❤️

[@claudiascott6484]

I agree.

[@sharonwallace2944]

Love this! I am 55 and never married.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

We all have to do what’s comfortable for us Sharon. That’s true

[@DavidWalter-rq6hn]

Hello Sharon how are you doing?

[@sharonwallace2944]

@@DavidWalter-rq6hn I have had major pain n bone issues but have missed seeing you. Thanks.

[@DavidWalter-rq6hn]

@@sharonwallace2944 I'm really sorry about that, don't worry everything will be fine. Where are you from?

[@imahick5723]

Men take a lot of your time, Im too busy living my own best life

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Ima, being your own best friend is wonderful. There’s nothing wrong with that❤️

[@karolmolpus9536]

What sites for dating does she suggest?

[@lifewithsandrahart]

They are in her book. I think one of then was eharmony ❤️

[@janemuir3546]

If you cohabit in many states you are considered common law, and not protecting your estate/adult children from the new spouse.

[@nana73carol46]

My sweetheart/husband passed away 5 years ago this week. We met in high school and we were married 51 years. I dated a man 3 years ago only two times and he was nice but not for me. Recently I met another nice guy and we went out to lunch once a week for a month and he didn't seem like he wanted anything but friendship and someone to have a meal with once a week. This ended last week when I saw through to a side to him I didn't like at all...severe jealousy. Another man who is younger wants to meet me when the Covid virus is not such a big problem. I am hesitant. I'm 74 and I at this time feel that having another love in my life is pretty slim. It's hard to find someone, it's a lonely life and time is running out. Good luck to all who are looking for love later in life.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Why do wonderful 51 years you had with your soulmate. I am sorry that he passed away five years ago this week. It is possible to find love again but it never will be the same but it can be either different or better the second time around. You are smart to and any relationship when you see red flags. It would be nice if you find someone, but if no one comes into your life you seem to be happy with you. That’s a very good thing❤️

[@palomino5223]

I had a friend who met a man and they really hit it off. All of a sudden, nothing. She was so let down and it set her back. Another rejection. She later found out this man was diagnosed with cancer and had to go into treatment right away.So yes, never take anything personally.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Thank you so much for sharing that story with us today. It is example of taking things personally for sure

[@karolmolpus9536]

How long or short should profile be? Suggestions

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Not too long. Just enough to be interesting. ❤️

[@HelenaMikas]

I honestly think it is terrible to hear of children expecting their parents savings are theirs by right.....My mother remarried when. she was widowed .I never thought I had a say in her belongings. only wanted her to be happy .

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Do you have the exact right perspective on your mothers inheritance. It is her money to spend the way she wants

[@HelenaMikas]

​@@lifewithsandrahart Yes I think I do or rather did as she is now in a better place ..I was taught financial skills by my mother. She did a great job . and told me it was my responsibility. When she married my stepfather they let me have the house BUT I paid a going rent . Later on I bought it For years now I've lived in Germany where banks pressure people to invest so it can be left to their children .Fine, fine but if you saw how many go without in order to do this you may be shocked .Unlike many countries Germany ensures all further education is free ..

[@C.Hawkshaw]

I just turned 60. I found that in my ‘50’s younger men were horrified if I flirted with them, but now that I’ve gone grey they think it’s really funny that I flirt with them. As for a real relationship- I think I might be a little too confident and independent. I’ve just taken up horse riding and surfing. There are so many things that l want to do. Unless he was forty or a very young fifty, l think he might slow me down. 😁

[@wendi2819]

Gosh, now at 69, I can appreciate just how young I was at only 50. My dear child is nearly 50. I never found anyone else. I thought there was always time.... now I don't have the confidence to even try. I was 46 when widowed. I actually know the hard way, if you have alot more safety ( insurance and I paid for my own home and have a good pension!) While I'm far from upper middle class, I worked hard to feel safe. I was with a gentle and kind man but he has no pension, no insurance, no health insurance and he rents. I can't commit to this man. I only have enough to take care of me. He brings nothing to the table security-wise. Plus he gives one of his children every extra cent. I'd guess he's living on $1,400/mo. and no insurance or savings. I can't legally tie myself to this situation. Anyone else?

[@lindahostetler4572]

My husband was 50 when we married. He had not been married before.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

I have the same thing. Arthur was 57.Thank you for sharing. ❤️

[@carolefox6553]

Sandra, I know that I am out of step with the mainstream. I found the video to be interesting, but I do disagree with some points. 1) Morals...I do not agree that morals are changing. Morals just are. Whether they are accepted or not, is not the measure of validity. 2) Finances... My question with keeping finances separate for the sake of the children, or any other reason, is two fold. Is there less trust and concern for the other in a second marriage, than a first? Why should children think their wants are the top priority and they are owed an inheiritance, so separate accounts are needed to keep the peace? My fear would be that this would not be the only area of contention. As always, Sandra, than you for offering us perspectives and allowing us a safe place to do the same.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

Carole, You have made some very interesting points and they certainly are issues to be thought about. Every relationship is different and the dynamics are different. I agree that we should not lump every relationship into one set of circumstances. It’s always great to have open dialogue and thoughts here. Thank you.❤️

[@gracewise4720]

In today’s world you really have to watch who you might meet. I find as an older woman most older men are looking for a nurse and a purse lol and I have been both for practically my whole life. I will never get married again even though I do have a guy that I am companions with but that’s as far as it goes with me. I like my freedom too much and I know who I am and I have a zero tolerance policy for just about anything they might try to dish out. They always do. As you get older it becomes a caretaking issue and I have decided that with the inheritance that my guys family will get they’re going to have to step in and do that caretaking when it gets to that point not this mama not again. I’m not against love at all but with love and relationships comes a lot of responsibility and as an older adult it normally entails caretaking and I am not willing to get to that point so I might be on the other end of the spectrum. I do have a friend though that is in her late 60s almost 70 and is not satisfied with the life that she has lived so she is desperate to find love again and that’s OK if that’s what she wants.

[@lifewithsandrahart]

So true. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts about dating after 50 in this day and age. There are some who have been successful, but truly be careful. I hope everyone reads your comment.