Love Is Blind - Season 5 - #26 - (You're Still Awkward) - Therapist Reacts

[@markj3169]

The editors of LiB aren't the only ones who know how to build suspense thru editing 😂

[@LightsOfLisbon]

I know it’s killing me

[@nataliamarin5440]

KILLING ME!!

[@jaejae444]

KILLLLLLINGGGG MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

[@alexabercrombie9618]

Ugh same! Played this on 2x speed to get to the end and still no makeup gate!!!

[@KatherinaRussell]

😂😂😂

[@LizNeptune]

The anxiety you feel when you’re waiting for The Doc to get to it 😅

[@jaejae444]

& he doesn't..... 😳

[@WhitLin31]

I'm dying

[@getreadywithnylma]

Im dying!!!!!

[@buffy6673]

Seriously annoyed! I’m skipping through to see

[@s.melonita4454]

@@jaejae444 he doesnt????

[@Onionjellysarcasm]

I mostly love Dr. Honda’s ramblings, but there are definitely a couple times (and this episode is one of them) when I’ve yelled, “Kirk, just watch! Give it another 20 seconds!”

[@zimtapfel]

This. I want to put my hand on his hand to keep him from clicking. I have a clicking hand trauma by now. 😅 I can hardly watch because all I can think is are we going to get further than one sentence before that hand moves and clicks again? 😂

[@delagonz4295]

We’re all traumatized by the anxiety

[@TaylorMeadowSun]

Omg- we need it now!!!!! 😅😂❤

[@katiehansen2206]

This exactly

[@lauradominguez2160]

I know!! hahahahaj he does this more than I would I like to tolerate 😂, the person says a 3 word sentence, he stops, trying to explain what the person could have meant, when, if he actually just kept watching, we would listen from the person themselves hahahaha, it’s comedic at this point 😂

[@Freee479]

26:06 When you said ‘let’s adjourn here’ I screamed nooooooooooooooo😂😂😂😂

[@johnwesely]

Boys, we finally made it. edit: Psych!!

[@Discrete1998]

Istg lol

[@JosieDuncanSong]

LITERALLY been waiting for this checking everyday

[@Anemoia100]

😅😅

[@vidaudink3044]

Yes!!!

[@johnwesely]

Also, if JP doesn't like make up, he realllllly picked the wrong show to go on lol.

[@AfterCoffeeWithJess]

we haven't experienced this much anticipation since waiting for the cuties reaction

[@lauradominguez2160]

Ufff the cuties scene expectation period, that was wild!! 😂

[@srm0520]

Omg I forgot about that! 😂 so true

[@abbys.9233]

I know people are frustrated you didn’t get to the crescendo in this video so I wanted to say that I love all of your content and enjoy you taking your time. I find your extended analysis of JP very insightful. Thank you.

[@andedom]

Likewise! I was a little bit bummed that we didn’t get to the big moment but if we spend our time watching this content just anticipating the “big moments” we’re going to miss out on so many valuable insights and educational moments. And those moments are what this channel is all about !

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Ha! Yeah, I don't think I've ever experienced such anticipation.

[@archercandy6122]

This is exactly what I was going to say. My partner is very quiet and sometimes comes across like this (minus the dick behavior, lol) So for me it's actually been super helpful to hear this entire episode out. I appreciate that he doesn't just watch the shows to react, but also to find those examples, that may not be the actual situation happening, to talk about important elements of psychology and human interaction.

[@sherriromas5871]

YOU ARE DOING THIS ON PURPOSE!!!🤣 stopping exactly where the "stuff" we want to see begins lol

[@Kharvey724]

Sometimes I think the ONLY reason I'd go on a reality TV show is so Kirk can analyze me 🤣 I reallyyyyyyyy want his opinion lol

[@bdasil]

The cast of LIB and the past 10 or so seasons of 90day and its spinoffs are are so lucky

[@Mandy3141]

Thanks Dr. Honda! When you said "yeah but she's not your therapist" I actually realised that many of the people I interact with require that level of patience and engagement from me. On the other hand, maybe I look for those kind of relationships because I've rarely experienced a balanced and equal relationship. Actually, I feel a little awkward when I interact with healthy people on an intimate level. I see myself a lot in Taylor, especially in her dynamics with JP.

[@zonthisv4915]

Same, and my guess is: a lot of people will. So diving into the possible psychology happening with JP is gonna give a lottttttt of insight around the world, for real

[@Charlotte8591]

I'm the same! I often form relationships or friendships with people who aren't emotionally healthy.

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

We usually thrive within a mutually supportive relationship. You deserve that.

[@gabrielapedroso916]

The suspense is killing me.

[@jaejae444]

☠️

[@TaylorMeadowSun]

Hahah yes!!!!!

[@bellebaby4330]

lmaoooo all I could think about throughout the whole video😭

[@hugomarquez3189]

Dr Honda edging us all! Bring it home already!

[@Sharon-fc6lz]

Lol, the way people are waiting for Dr Honda to comment on 'that scene' is hilarious to me 😅 Personally as a 'quiet' person, these videos between this couple have been really helpful and I've been saving them to refer back to later. Even though I think my communication skills have improved over the years, this has helped me look to reflect on my past and really look at how my behaviour has influenced situations in a way I didn't want because I was deathly scared of being rejected. You described it so well, outwardly I would seem calm, but on the inside, I would be panicking, desperately trying to figure out what to say. My heart would beat faster, I could hear the blood rushing through my ears, it would feel like my brain wasn't working because the words just wouldn't come out, sometimes my hands would start to shake. And if I managed to say something, I'd stumble over my words, or my voice would be shaky, than of course I'd feel stupid for saying anything and I'd shut down even more. I'm a lot better now but I still need a lot of work and having positive experiences (corrective experiences) has really helped to build my confidence. All this to say, I appreciate you Dr Honda for more than just 'reacting' to the show but in really share your knowledge and understanding. Not just with this show but your other commentaries too 😊

[@Alayhoo]

JP reminds me so much of my ex partner. He was exhausting. Totally clueless, could only hear himself talk, and blamed everyone around him so it was other peoples responsibility to manage his emotions. I stuck it out with my ex for over 10 years thinking if I just figured out the exact right thing to say and how to say it, he’d be capable of an emotionally intelligent conversation. Nope. We’d be in couples therapy and he’d just sit there. Our therapist would ask him questions and he’d say “I don’t know” and refuse to engage in any meaningful way unless he was trying to convince me I was wrong, a lot like JP. He got even more pissed when our therapist wanted to help me focus on learning to “hold my position” instead of just acquiescing to avoid a fight. He never told the therapist how mad he was though. I tired to bring it up but he just sat their blank like he had no idea what I was talking about. He felt totally comfortable just lying to the therapist’s face and then berating me on the drive home for not supporting his lie and being “too honest.” I’ve been single for 5 years now and it is GLORIOUS. I never realized how lonely I was feeling in my relationship until we broke up and I was actually alone but felt no more loneliness.

[@Kaelush]

Gosh, I am sorry you went through that and I feel you. My ex was a bit similar, but closer to Aussie's behaviour. We tried couples therapy until he refused because of something that the therapist allegedly said in a one-on-one session, and to this day, I still don't know what it was. If I may ask, how have you dealt with the aftermath? The relationship sounds like it would have been a lot to work through. Staying single does sound extremely appealing! ;-)

[@Alayhoo]

@@Kaelush Hhmm… that’s a good question. I’ve taken a lot of time to reflect on the big picture of our relationship. We got together when we were only 17 years old and I changed significantly during college and grad school in terms of my values whereas he dropped out of college, did not like to be challenged intellectually, liked to stay surface level and pretty much kept the same outlook he had in high school up until the day we broke up. He was very mature for his age when we first got together, it’s why I was attracted to him, but it was like he stayed in that headspace and didn’t grow with me as we aged. Coming to the realization that I actually didn’t need someone to validate my existence was a huge part of it. I also did a lot of self-exploration of my sexuality and thought about whether I actually wanted to be with someone or if i just felt obligated. All of that led me to find out I’m actually asexual! Sure, men are physically attractive, but I’d never date one again lol. My parents also got divorced a couple years before we split and seeing that shit show really impacted the break up because (and yes this is judgey of me) I did not under any circumstances want to act like mom did during the divorce. So I vowed to myself that when my ex and I split, I would not behave desperate for affection or his attention, never beg him to love me, and never say any of the messes up stuff my mom did about my father (like, he deserves to die and I wish he was dead because it would make it easier on me). I had never seen my mother so unhinged it terrified me. I will say that since he and I split, I’ve become significantly more on the avoidant side of attachment, struggle to maintain friendships and feel this intense pervasive drive for autonomy that seems to eclipse any desire I may have for a intimate relationship of any kind. Now I only feel lonely when I’m with other people. So, maybe I haven’t dealt with it the aftermath so well… 😂 But that’s why I’m in therapy twice a week. I need all the “corrective experiences” I can get!

[@trafficcontrol2420]

Good for you! 🎉❤

[@AndreaRodriguez-cu7yn]

You have such a big heart to try with someone for 10 years! I’m proud of you for prioritizing yourself, your mental health and happiness ❤

[@CaulkMongler]

Currently sitting on the sidelines while a close friend goes through this. I’ve given up on telling her she needs to leave and have tried different methods like “do you want a guy like that to raise kids with you? Do you want your kids to have those kind of communication skills? Do you want to start doing the emotional work of not just 2 grown adults, but possibly multiple kids?”

[@mariahburns1900]

When people are severely traumatized, it can cause them to act in very strange ways. Notice how JP on one hand acts like he can't stand Taylor or like he finds her repulsive, then on the other hand he says things like "Keep trying, don't give up on me, I want this to work." He is afraid of being close and afraid of losing her at the same time. It looks like the internal turmoil that goes on for people struggling with disorganized attachment, the phrase I've often heard used to describe it is, "I hate you, don't leave me!"

[@msislabonita]

100%

[@onedirectionlover317]

Yeah, but oof, no one should be expected to stay with someone who hates them (or treats them like it) :/ felt super bad for Taylor

[@testing1-2three]

Yeah, if it make her feel rejected and hurt no one deserves to feel like that and he needs to get help and stop hurting people.

[@mariahburns1900]

@@onedirectionlover317 I'm definitely not saying she should stay with him. I'm just thinking about what is likely going on. I wouldn't stay with him if I were her, he's mean to her. I feel sorry for him, but like Kirk said, she's not his therapist. Hopefully he gets help and can heal.

[@mariahburns1900]

@@testing1-2three I agree

[@pabloescobarschanclas]

oh oh boy, i’ve been anxiously awaiting this one. edit: apparently we have to anxiously await some more lol.

[@delagonz4295]

I need a support group for the anxiety from the built up of this interaction and Dr.H’s recaps

[@casimone]

Lol glad I'm not the only one that is on the edge of my seat waiting for THAT conversation. Doctor had me excited with this 2nd upload and we still didnt get there lol.

[@pwetty4r4]

I hope Taylor watches this and it helps her understand what was happening here

[@ExtraordinaryMachine333]

One thing I hate/love about PiS content, it makes it really hard to just dislike people. I was perfectly fine to just keep disliking JP, but I love/empathize with Aussie, and hearing that JP is somehow like Aussie I can feel those little pricks of empathy forming. Damn. I'm going to have to sit with that now.

[@mkaverage4773]

I was thinking the same thing!!

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Ha! Welcome to my world. It's hard to hate here.

[@onedirectionlover317]

That's such a good reminder that we often expect people's partners to be even more patient and tolerant than even therapists, all without training AND while expecting them to endure the burden of disregarding their own needs (b/c if someone's behavior is bothering their partner, then the partner's needs are not being met) 24/7! (Of course it's good to be able to meet one's own needs and not expect all of one's needs to be met from a partner, but part of the point of a partnership is meeting needs that can't be met through other relationships). Therapists ARE paid for their work and, as Dr. Honda said, therapists have no attachment to their clients in terms of engaging with them to meet emotional needs (beyond the emotional satisfaction derived from their work, perhaps). Partners are not, and yet we expect them to be saints.

[@rebeccaclement99]

Love this!

[@zonthisv4915]

Yes, this remark is going into a note for me. This was an eye opener, to hear it being said, out loud. Because since I was a really young kid I’ve been everyone’s therapist. Within my family, but also at school, the sports club, even teachers. Let alone friends and partners later on, and then even psychologists and psychiatrists, like… I literally don’t know anything else. I never, never saw it this way 👀☄️💥

[@gabs3765]

Yall this video doesn’t give the moment yet haha! Doctor please include the moment we have been waiting for after this!

[@Tyda777]

OMG you're killing me 🤯😤

[@johannajamie9276]

Nooooo

[@katistrophic17]

😂 I started the last video and then saw this so I skipped to it and it wasn't on here 😂😂😂 I was duped.

[@AurorasWindow]

I’m dying here

[@RockyDaTherapist]

Is he trolling us? 😂

[@JosieDuncanSong]

BEEN WAITING FOR YOU TO SEE THIS NONSENSE, SO EXCITED

[@ivamilosova9996]

im so excited for tomorrow's make up story!! :D

[@JosieDuncanSong]

YOU’RE JOKING! I thought that would be in this video omg

[@nataliamarin5440]

Girl he lowkey takes so long to review one conversation that I skip to the end of the video to make sure the part I want to see is in there before I get my hopes up 😂 Love his commentary but sometimes I just want him to get to the juicy part!

[@jaejae444]

@@JosieDuncanSong 💯🤣🙌🏾

[@kimmi2662]

Self sabotaging is JP's speciality

[@Drs195]

I have been waiting for you to get to this point for a week and you cut it off right when I needed you most 😫😂

[@whyamievendoingthis...]

This comment section is now just the emotional support group of waiting for Dr. Honda to get to *that* bit.

[@AndreaRodriguez-cu7yn]

Poor Taylor. I like that you said she’s not his therapist. She doesn’t know what’s going on with JP and she mentioned before that she used to be very insecure. Imagine, everything changed after they met in person, she’s probably thinking he finds her ugly. It’s sad for both of them all around. She’s waiting for him to say she’s ugly and he’s waiting for her to say the same ☹️

[@mika-vn1wj]

I feel like u would enjoy watching "love is blind japan", I personally liked it because it seems very authentic, a lot of couples break up during the dating phase because they realize that they would not work out (i say this because i remember part of your criticism of the us version being that they seemingly forced the contestants to continue until the altar...) all in all it seemed very genuine and interesting to watch, it was very moving too!! :)

[@niamhabyrne]

Same!!

[@InThisEssayIWill...]

Yes! I loved that one! And it felt like there were more couples in the beginning too(not more contestants overall but they showcased more of the couples that paired up instead of just focusing in on a few of them) and I think that would give so much more material for Dr Honda to cover since there's so many more relationship styles! Also wasn't there a couple that looked a lot like Taylor and JP? where the dude could barely maintain eye contact with her when they got out? And they broke up really quickly

[@EnjoyLife-op5rn]

I loved the Japan version. The Japanese were very respectful toward each other.

[@mika-vn1wj]

​@@InThisEssayIWill...True! I never thought about that! But knowing now that they do filter the couples that are allowed to continue it does make it seem like the japanese version is less scripted ! Do u mean the comedian and the ballet dancer? I do see some parallels between them and JP and Taylor , both guys, in the end seemed to be very distant and not able to communicate how they are feeling, like they are trapped in some way - but it came across as If they just don't care anymore, which i dont think was the case necessarily

[@amara560]

It was so wholesome. Loved that it wasn't just focused on the drama. I'm still hoping we get a second season!

[@LightsOfLisbon]

I keep refreshing and wishing you would release a third video today 😅

[@Geminivtg]

I literally NEVER comment but omg if you don’t release the next part today I will be devastated

[@rosy5728]

dr honda, what are you doing to us!? you were almost there!!

[@uks253]

Weirdest thing to say but JP reminds me so much of my mom. The way he is handling this discussion gives me the flashback to last 25 years…

[@LaurynTamia]

That’s unique. Do you think she’s shy or really nervous generally?

[@uks253]

@@LaurynTamia she is shier in general but freezing/blaming mode is a much greater issue. I’ve tried writing, calm atmosphere etc. It is impossible to get through to her. She can never do wrong but at the same time she believes a lot of ppl are against her (including me). Similarly to JP there’s a lot of denial, blaming others deeds why she reacts a certain way, saying the same out of context sentences repetitively, imagining that others try to make her a bad person and only voice their needs to attack and make things worse for her. Sometimes she just escapes and ignores and then appears two weeks later like nothing ever happened.

[@katiehansen2206]

This was so frustrating to watch. It’s Christmas Day and your family wants to eat before opening presents. We’ve been waiting for this moment……C’MON MAN!!!!

[@swald6811]

I’ve waited weeks of my life for this

[@pabloescobarschanclas]

looks like you’re in for some more waiting, man

[@swald6811]

@@pabloescobarschanclasI didn’t realize until the end of the video, I’m so impatient😭

[@nataliavazquez6603]

LOL how he was saying he wished he said something different so he is not just blaming her and being a dick, and he had not even reached the best/worst part yet!

[@TaylorMeadowSun]

Omg just get to the makeup part! Lololzzzz I’m on the edge of my seat for Kirk’s reaction! 😅

[@Kaelush]

Oh gosh, there it is - the comparison to Aussie. Watching JP's interactions with Taylor, I kept on thinking that my ex is a mixture of both, but with slightly bigger outbursts. Thank you for the explanations, it seems right on the money for both of them. I would love to know how to handle interactions with this kind of personality structure when communication is necessary (e.g. coparenting) and they are deep in their rejection schema. Again, thank you so much Dr. Honda, your videos have helped me tremendously in keeping my head above water this year. 🌻

[@kimberlydohner399]

Omg would he stop pausing so much and get to the best part?!! Ahhh. I’ve suffered through 2 videos today thinking he’s finally gonna react to JP’s greatest moment but nope. The suspense is torture 😫

[@pianobar8440]

same here🤣🤣🤣

[@tluvsbeauty1]

Wait what it’s not in this video?!.!?!?!?!

[@jimenadavalos3289]

😂

[@marimiranda999]

I'm screaming the same 😅

[@samanthas8340]

What is someone perceives you as being a dick on a regular basis and the person never intended it to be that way, meanwhile other people see the same behavior and not perceive it as dickish? A long-time friend of mind decided to break off our friendship for this reason and am so confused about what I did or how I came across when I at least thought I was very self-aware.

[@OMGitsShrimp]

I feel played!! 😂😭lmao so close!!

[@LaurenAnne6]

Lol! Me too!

[@beebee32002]

JP is almost a replica of my boyfriend lol and I agree with Dr. Honda that not even a 5-hour conversation would completely help him change his point of view.

[@alaziaklexos]

Noo don't adjourn there :(

[@lilylopez2244]

I screamed “NOOOOOOOO” when you cut the episode off right when you did. I am dying from the suspense of waiting for the end of this scene.

[@msmendes214]

"The dick count in this episode is up there" lolol too good. But Dr Honda, I feel you're so right on with all of the JP analysis, because I was like him (well, his earlier "quiet/awkward" version) in my early 20's pre-therapy and pre-relationships.

[@msmendes214]

Also, not enough ppl talk about the alcohol portion of these shows. I constantly see them throwing back drinks all day long & then proceed to get in massive fights that are fairly damaging. Fights that I wonder would have even happened at all of they weren't drinking.

[@cjgroom109]

his perpetual smile also seems to give off the ~stuck at a younger age~ vibe

[@pabloescobarschanclas]

his perpetual smile also gives off serial killer vibes.

[@ExtraordinaryMachine333]

And when he giggled weirdly about the "can you imagine sleeping next to me for the rest of your life" question. I know he was uncomfortable, but it seemed more like teenaged boy uncomfortable.

[@SashellWisdom]

I literally just finished part 1 and was so excited to see that you released part 2 a few mins ago. your vids are so informative!!

[@nataliamarin5440]

I was so sad to find out that he doesn’t get to the makeup part yet 😂

[@ExtraordinaryMachine333]

He might have thought she was lying about the crying, or told himself that she was saying that to manipulate him (sexist guy reactions to crying sometimes)

[@sintara8442]

Yea, unfortunately some peoples first assumption isn't that the person is hurting and therefore crying, but only doing it as a manipulation thing..

[@sharisteele5973]

Yesssss been waiting! Thank you!

[@SicYennefer]

If the next video about Taylor and JP isn't titled "Yikes", I'm gonna be so disappointed 😅

[@galexiefaraway]

WE FINALLY MADE IT HOLYYYY

[@galexiefaraway]

when you thought you made it but you didn't LMFAOOOOO NOOOOOOO

[@Liv_to_wander]

I had a math teacher who used to say “look at your own plate!” I feel like JP should look at his own plate first, before commenting on hers. It make sense that blaming is much more comfortable than sufferings the discomfort of taking inventory of one’s own “plate.”

[@elizasoutie]

You’re killin me…

[@LaurenAnne6]

Same.

[@jaejae444]

im almost upset ... 😳

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Geez.

[@elizasoutie]

@@PsychologyInSeattle You came through, Dr H! Just learning to get in touch with my feelings over here! 😂

[@malvavisco10]

15:35 The Netflix captioner thought this was Stacy speaking?

[@izabelaibraim]

Nooooooooooo it is not this one.

[@ashleyaubergine2610]

Please tell me the next video will have the makeup moment 🤞🏾

[@kaylamaribela]

KIIIIRRRKKKKKK 😭😭😭, there is so much more content please lmao

[@Cavisori]

Nooooo let's NOT adjurn there

[@marlynsantos9677]

Nooooooo!!! 😤 Dr. Honda you are literally killing me. Anxiously waiting for "make-up gate". 😩😭

[@Tyda777]

AAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaahhhhhh!!!! STOP INTERRUPTING THEM AT EVERY WORD🤣🙄😮‍💨🤦‍♂️😉🙃

[@thisismyinferno]

My god, still lol. I honestly think its a skillset how long a tiny clip can be dragged. Its false hope as much as its educational.

[@Whatevertheheck]

Listened to this series for 3 hours last night while I packed up my house!! Great stuff!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@lyngirllove]

Dr Honda I hope you don’t take comments to much to heart, I love that you use these conversations as a jumping off point, it’s helped me in my daily life SO MUCH!

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Yeah, some comments will hurt my feelings. I think it's unavoidable.

[@beccagleee]

15:35 not the captions calling Taylor Stacy 😂

[@CC12203]

I can’t wait for you to finish this scene! Both videos today I thought were going to get it but must be 1 more. I really want to know your reaction.

[@sintara8442]

I SO cannot wait for the next dr honda out of context video 😂😂 its going to be perfect

[@ashleysmith1369]

"You're killing me smalls!!" lol. I'm guessing you have a lot to see with regards to the make-up comment

[@lNoWayAroundItl]

5:02 I would normally feel that way. But he is really one dimensional with his wardrobe.

[@missj5603]

Hey doc...people are getting restless...😂

[@sashanoel8766]

I can’t wait for Dr. Honda to hear what JP’s issue is.

[@ShipFantastic]

Take all the time you want Dr! Your input is Gold!

[@jennifervosler91]

It would be interesting to have LIB cast on with Dr. Honda for conversation of what they think of things like how therapy might be useful or insight into what they were thinking or why certain behaviors are presenting or not

[@gemjule]

I do feel like Dr Honda is giving JP a lot of room... Even if he is right in his hypothesis I don't think enough attention is being given to the fact that he is still being cruel in his treatment of Taylor, whether it's because he doesn't know how to be different or not.

[@onedirectionlover317]

Wonder what his current gf thinks

[@Kanza535]

There's an interesting bit of sexism where it's totally cool for Taylor to start raising her voice at the @19:30 mark but if that was JP, Dr Honda and the comments would be criticisng him as toxic and scary.

[@levantineking98]

The makeup scene 😂

[@joannawrzelikowska3273]

Not yet 🙄

[@sasuke12193]

Guys be patient lol. He’s not here just to react to the most drama filled moments. And I think due to possible copyright or something he may have to pause the video and give commentary every so often.

[@itsleenbean]

No one is saying that. A lot of us are just frustrated that a single scene is split into multiple parts. We are on video 26, and we’re only at ep 6. A lot of these videos could’ve been combined imo

[@itsleenbean]

@@Anastasia11101 that’s not the reason though. he could literally do it the exact same way as he did for earlier seasons. this new format is relatively new. it was way more enjoyable that way.

[@laurablack8700]

Nooooo!!!! You’ve gotta be kidding me!!! 😂

[@22AMBA]

I’m so disappointed with JP ☹️ I was hoping he was just camera shy and then the physical comment came 🤦🏻‍♀️.! I was rooting for them 🙃 Taylor made the best decision though.

[@CaulkMongler]

I think it’s because when people like JP come even remotely close to actualizing their OWN emotions and insecurities it becomes easiest to pivot and resort to “well this is how *you* fall short (because I feel like I’m falling short right now)” it doesn’t excuse it but it explains it

[@harrylederman1679]

I was waiting the whole episode for your comment on the makeup ..It looks like you'll have to make it up next time ;)

[@sfooshy4517]

Aussie and Sam have got to be my favorite couple from these shows ❤

[@trustyourpulse]

We need to all commend Taylor. Good lord I would have snapped on that man. Wayyyy before now, I would have lost my shit. She exhibits the patience of an angel!

[@SweKelt]

Come on, so close now. I wonder what Dr Honda will say, maybe just "yikes, that makes no sense" 🤔

[@zimtapfel]

I think it will by far not be as big of a reaction as people here seem to think or hope for. 😅 I actually think this comment section is making a much bigger deal out of that scene than it really was.

[@SweKelt]

@@zimtapfel There is not much to comment. It's just an outlandish excuse from JP

[@darcymusicpy4274]

The moment we've been waiting for people 🤣

[@LaurenAnne6]

If only...

[@DaniNouveauWitch]

I really appreciate you and your content, Dr. Honda, but it seems from the comments section that we are getting a bit frustrated with 30-minute videos covering less than 3 minutes of content from the show. Maybe the commentary could be edited or condensed a bit for brevity?

[@abbys.9233]

I valued the content of this video. I wouldn’t want a shorter version.

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Thanks for the feedback.

[@Yaeza31]

I realized while listening to this that I feel so defensive of JP because I've been in his shoes where I'm awkward and quiet and *I just don't know what to say*, but I do enjoy the company I'm in, so I'm just vibing, but the other person/people are not and it's just... a mess?

[@jayray4313]

Common man. Really??

[@tb89117]

WOW….Please get to the line! Lol 😂😂😂

[@kjgaia]

Dr. H - this defensive structure you're describing where no matter how nice she says something, he still thinks it's an attack - are you describing disorganized attachment style? My husband does this, it's awful. If it's not, please let me know what topic I should go read about.

[@PsychologyInSeattle]

Yes, that defense can accompany disorganized attachment, but it can be a part of any attachment style - but more likely it would be part of an insecure attachment style. For people who distort others as being hostile/rejecting, they likely experienced hostility and rejection chronically early in life, and they learned to assume that's happening, even if the other person is merely upset or providing feedback.

[@kjgaia]

@@PsychologyInSeattle Thank you so much for explaining. Unfortunately, that defense structure tracks. I appreciate the insight.

[@Nunofyabizzzzz]

I don't see how JP has been trying. She asked him to talk more and he didn't say anything

[@Tyda777]

Can we made a vote 🗳, Who wishes that Dr H let the people finish their SENTENCE before commenting? 🙋‍♂️🙄😐

[@Anemoia100]

🙋🏾‍♀️

[@xxXMarleyGirlXxx]

🙋‍♀️

[@denidagalev4424]

@@xxXMarleyGirlXxx 🙋‍♂

[@itsleenbean]

🙋🏾‍♀️

[@plutoniumcore]

Yes, sometimes I wish he would let the scene play out then comment on it.

[@TattedTentacle]

I'm curious to see you react to the sexual assault allegations and lawsuit that LiB is being hit with (as more details emerge). I know you spoke to a producer and it seemed like she had the best intentions but I was shocked to learn about lack of action on the producer's part in regards to the sexual assault. LiB seems so incredibly unhealthy behind the scenes that I'm thinking it's better to just cancel the whole thing.

[@TattedTentacle]

I say "shocked" but at this point "disappointed but not surprised" is more accurate tbh.

[@kaytlinirwin8426]

He’s edging us at this point

[@Lunalis_610]

OMG, Dr. Honda, you're killing me. 😂

[@liljairenag]

I am not used to hear the word "dick", let alone that many times 😂

[@psiquepanchis]

Omg he actually leave it there😅 noooooo

[@gingerdavis1833]

YESSSSS

[@CourtneyGilmour]

Omg please just get to the makeup part 😭💀😆

[@killa_kel]

I just really want him to get to the makeup part 🙃

[@Melbean]

THE SUSPENSEEE

[@AninhaMalmo]

In the pods, JP cried about having an “angry mother” which sounded like he was severely abused growing up. Being abused by parents will to some extent stunt a child’s emotional/relational development. Dr Honda even comments here that JP acts like a child, stuck in repetitively blaming Taylor as a way to defend himself from what he thinks are unfair “accusations”, unable to take in what she’s actually saying. My guess is that JP has such a low self esteem and high defensiveness in life in general, and that he due to fear immediately shut down after meeting Taylor since the whole experience became “real” when they no longer were in the pods. I’m waiting for the next episode from Dr Honda, where JP reeeeaally goes full on dick when he comments on Taylors appearance, showing tendencies of controlling behaviour!

[@davonnadawn1382]

No, it's bad, and she picked up on something early on. It wasn't only in her head.

[@FantaPopRockz]

Is the makeup part not on this video?