Love Is Blind - Season 5 - #27 - (JP Hates Makeup) - Therapist Reacts

[@Patriciameloc]

It's honestly so comforting that Kirk's reaction to the comment about the make-up is the same we all had: "WHAT?"

[@DJ-lu5np]

JP being an incel is something I didn’t consider but is COMPLETELY on brand! 🎯

[@Ameliamaemay1990]

I thought about it based on the ‘Merica! Look hahaha

[@nice2meetyou631]

Doctor: Presents an elaborate hypothesis on why JP is the way he is over the course of multiple hours. JP: It's the make up 🤡

[@pinsandneedles3]

(deepest possible sigh)

[@AllyMack23]

Lol... I do think Dr. Honda is onto something though!

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

@@AllyMack23agree - it sounds like JP has certainly been influenced by incel thinking. Most people don’t end up there randomly, sometimes they seek it out because some sort of trauma has made it very hard to have healthy relationships and instead of seeking therapy, they end up blaming women.

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

If JP understood why he thinks it’s the makeup, then the problem wouldn’t have existed in the first place.

[@meowJACK]

Pretty much just proves his hypothesis imo 😅 he's deeply insecure and blaming an external source for it. He does feel insecure about the makeup, I truly believe that, but he lacks the awareness to realize that the makeup isn't the problem.

[@lisaess6514]

I really like and respect Taylor for how nonreactive she is as she tries to draw him out when you know she’s thinking WTAF, dude. Maybe it’s her teacher training but whatever it is, I admire her for it.

[@hugomarquez3189]

You can tell that’s one good kindergarten teacher there. If she’s half as patient with her children as she is with JP, she deserves an award.

[@zombieedrea]

She is much, much calmer than I would've been. I would've told him to go fuck himself, ripped my mic off and walked out. 💀 She's probably a wonderful teacher.

[@ilikemaline]

I don't think it's something to be admired, it's something women have to do to not be labelled as crazy and prove men right that we are the problem by showing emotions and a reaction to being insulted and blamed for everything. I am talking about situations like this that in no way can be compared to a working environment involving children although he is a child.

[@GopherCakeStuff]

​@@ilikemalineright. A woman like Lydia would have gone off on him and been called crazy, over dramatic, impossible to communicate with etc

[@hashtagmate]

She rocks, the real hero of this season

[@sassybenito1425]

I don’t think people gave enough props to Taylor for the way she dealt with all of this. I honestly haven’t seen her on or off the show react inappropriately. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think her reactions were very calm and collected. Also I haven’t seen her post about him or drag him through the dirt like others do.

[@prairiehorse6168]

I absolutely commend her for the way she handled it. She was so composed. I would be yelling at him for his ridiculous statements 😂.

[@Ameliamaemay1990]

So true. I would have LOST it hahaha

[@lalalovemelots4391]

Dr. Kirk’s “WHAT??” was all of us watching this episode 🤣

[@lisaess6514]

I should have scrolled before I posted the same thing, lol.

[@ExtraordinaryMachine333]

I "EWWW"ed, but I feel like "WHAT??" is therapist for "EWWW" so it still counts

[@Freee479]

What is more satisfying than Dr Honda finally reacting to this highly anticipated part of Jp & Taylor’s conversation is that his reaction is in sync with alott of ours. So oddly satisfying I must say😊

[@stellannie86]

You go to a show called LOVE IS BLIND, and then your complaint and reasoning for why the relationship isn't working, is that your partner didn't look the way you wanted ON ONE DAY..! o__0

[@meowJACK]

I know right 🤣 the entire premise is supposed to be falling in love with someone regardless of their appearance. So it's super dumb that he fixated on something about her appearance - ESPECIALLY a completely temporary thing that isn't even part of her actual appearance! It's like saying "omg I didnt like your pants during the reveal, so now that ruined everything because I hated those pants and you look so much better without them"

[@hashtagmate]

So typical, I know lots of men like him. They are usually ugly af but only want a perfectly beautiful girlfriend. They need everybody else to not be superficial but they themselves are extremely superficial. They're like sand on a beach

[@s.a.4358]

Taylor even mentions that, but JP just retorts that she seemed fake, as opposed to accepting her explanation that she wanted to look nice for him on their first meeting - and probably thought he would like it and appreciate the effort. What I also find strange is that she apparently has not worn makeup since (I think that is what she said in the conversation) so it’s not like she wears a lot of makeup, fake lashes, etc as her everyday look. So it’s a one-off thing JP is focusing on and blaming for the whole awkwardness between them. It’s almost like he is accusing her of trying to trick him or seduce him with her long fake lashes like some evil temptress witch.

[@bunilove]

And not even how they look its makeup it comes off and the way he said “am i gonna have to deal with this every day” Deal with her putting on makeup Why are you on this show lollll

[@bunilove]

@@meowJACKseriosuly Lol i am watching on Netflix for the first time and literally looked this up on youtube cause i needed people to wtf with😂

[@pabloescobarschanclas]

i think it’s finally safe to say we made it, boys 😅

[@andedom]

I don’t know why you guys are stressing so much about it, tbh. There has been so much material in the last few episodes that can help us in our own close, interpersonal relationships. That’s really the purpose of this channel. To help us with our empathy, understanding of our own emotions and those others. It’s not a “reaction” channel. But folks are so focused on him reacting to a specific scene that you might be missing it 🤦🏿‍♂️

[@patcymidnight]

for real

[@jdow615]

@@andedom I really apperciate how Dr Kirk takes time to really take us through the content and the schemas/distorations/ general humanity we can gleen from them. That being said, this season was a mess and I really have been looking forward to these pressure point moments--the yikes meter off the chart moments lol I think another part of it is that the season felt hella short compared to others idk that could just be me

[@pabloescobarschanclas]

@@andedom chill out, it was a simple comment lol….it’s not that deep to the point where you have to write paragraphs in the replies.

[@katewright4414]

@@andedom it’s all in good fun…this is kind of a big WTF moment and it took a long time to get here. Lighthearted anticipation for a reaction 🤗But yes - so much good material!

[@lil.lizard]

“Stop and smell your own mind” needs to be in the next Dr Honda out of context video lol

[@haileyoslund]

On it! 😂

[@liarg8182]

"Oh, you're just absurd. I'm sorry you're that absurd. " 😂😂😂

[@whyamievendoingthis...]

I loved that and need it on a shirt. 🤣

[@waveywave20]

Been waiting for this since it aired. His reaction is exactly what I anticipated lol

[@woods8555]

“Let’s watch and see what comes flying out of my face..as I watch…and then pause..and then.talk.” This. This is why I’m here. Gold. 😂❤

[@bellebaby4330]

The first time I saw this scene my blood was boiling 😭 I never could have handled it as well as Taylor did.

[@rivercah]

Only thing I could think about was Jess’ quote about Cole in 90 day fiance: “trash is better”.

[@mandi4794]

mine too! i watched this with my mom and we were both yelling at the screen.

[@14ThIsIsMe]

I think JP didn't like her make-up at the reveal, but is now choosing to insult her with it (to make her hurt like he is). It's sad, but in my experience some men tend to go for a woman's looks when they feel rejected.

[@Arcanine1995]

The first thing she says about him once they meet is that she doesn't typically go for guys with gaps in their teeth. And you're implying that he was being superficial by telling her she looked better without make up?? 👎🏽

[@sockpuppet1]

​@@Arcanine1995but she didn't say it to his face, it s different. Plus, nobody has an issue with him not liking make up, we just have an issue with him staying this was the reason why he couldn't utter a sentence the entire time they were together.

[@AiSayuriChan]

@@Arcanine1995 No. It's okay because she DIDN'T reject him for it. She stated her preference but she didn't treat him differently. She was still the same as in the pods. Him on the other hand...? That's the issue! She was like "Typically I don't go for guys mit gaps in their teeth but that won't change a thing regarding my relationship with JP" while he was like "Omg, I HATE girls with makeup so much, ugh, I can't even talk to her!" Do you know see the difference?

[@14ThIsIsMe]

​@@Arcanine1995 Everybody has preferences/is superficial to an extent. He implied that the way she looked was the reason he wasn't into her and was completely turned off by it, which is way worse by my standard.

[@harrylederman1679]

@@sockpuppet1 exactly the fact that he could not recover on the second third or fourth day is absolutely absurd. He knows he is out of his League and that he will be abandoned again because he does not feel good enough to match her and he is now grasping at straws to get her back because he cannot accept that he is in fact extremely awkward/ and lacks the ability to communicate

[@mariahburns1900]

JP is just so insecure that he can’t handle entertaining the idea that he is the reason for the awkwardness. Truth is deep down he knows it, and probably thinks he is completely unlovable and that’s what he is running from. The only thing he can come up with in order to shift the blame is the makeup thing, which is just ridiculous. He needed there to be some explanation for his behavior, which he probably doesn’t understand himself, and like Dr. Honda put it, he’s just grasping at straws. The truth is he is probably utterly terrified of Taylor and it has nothing to do with her, (she is amazing) and has everything to do with some kind of severe abuse from childhood that would cause the child to fear their attachment figures. I think the reason he is so quiet and awkward is because he is so distressed that his nervous system has gone into the freeze response. None of this is Taylor’s fault and JP needs help bad.

[@cheryllevalley929]

I 💯 percent agree with everything you said here. This is what I have thought as well.

[@hashtagmate]

I mean, to be fair: with this personality he IS completely unlovable :))

[@zozoafrica4908]

Haha finally we acknowledge his clothing and accessories!

[@annak1727]

out of curiosity I went on JP's instagram and there are American flags on evvvverything! His friends threw him an America themed party once... like... it's weird!

[@crayker]

I was wondering whether that was unusual in America? I know that people in the US are generally more patriotic than here in the UK. I usually only see that kind of exhibition from second and third generation immigrants

[@jennifercave-np4ow]

JP using “ FAKE” was such a superior, superficial, and judgmental.

[@nader85021]

Just a thought. Maybe he was uncomfortable with all the cameras and producers telling him what to do or say. Taylor confirmed in recent interview he reached out after the show but she ghosted him until two months before show was released at which point JP was already in a serious relationship with someone else. I had a feeling he regretted doing a dating/marriage tv show, which felt forced to him.

[@jennifercave-np4ow]

@@nader85021 you have a good point

[@jennifercave-np4ow]

I should add - in the moment he said that to Taylor , he was coming off that way. He seemed like he wanted to hurt her. Being shy is not an excuse to be hurtful She can’t do anything about it now. ( then )

[@nader85021]

@@jennifercave-np4ow no totally agree. It was really a bad moment for him. But I want give a little grace knowing the environment he was in. Its not a normal environment and these show put these contestants under tremendous stress with hours of shooting they do and lack of social contact with others. Everyone is human and i think at that moment the stress got the best of him.

[@michellesmith7]

Ooof, and he doubles down with the “fake” makeup comment again at the reunion more than a year later!!

[@brittanysralla1673]

Embarrassingly early but I HAD to stop what I was doing to see this

[@stopdragginaround]

You are all of us

[@trafficcontrol2420]

0:33 .. Dr. H and Taylor making the literal same face 😅

[@janine3664]

I like that Dr. Honda addressed this scene because I saw some people saying "Taylor is so pushy and annoying", and "Why is she comparing her relationship to the others?" She is confronting a matter head-on in her relationship and if she didn't ask question his behavior, she wouldn't have had this conversation and found out about his strange views/misogyny. She dodged a huge bullet because she addressed an issue head-on. Let's normalize women standing up for themselves in a calm, assertive manner like Taylor.

[@Therapistsyaps]

"to be frank I was basing it on some of the things he was wearing" hahaha Dr. Kirk this was the best thing you could've said and what we were all thinking as well!

[@tsakamhlabane9269]

Definitely one of the most anticipated scenes…thank you Doc!

[@mariahburns1900]

Next up, Uche telling Aaliya more about his actual experience with Lydia!

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

It’s honestly sad seeing the echo chamber of toxic ideas that must be in JPs head/how he may have got there. I’m remembering now when JP was talking about all the abuse he and his sisters experienced from their mother - he probably ended up with a very very complicated view of women and when he couldn’t form healthy relationships… incel culture was there to drag him down and tell him “you don’t need therapy, it’s all women’s fault!” It seems like he’s a good guy at heart that has been led down some really dangerous paths. I really hope he finds his way out of it and into some good healthy therapy/mindsets.

[@zonthisv4915]

Yep. He grew up with a woman as a villain, and two little women as defenceless 'weak' (not true of course) victims

[@lindsaylori]

finally an insightful comment about JP! So far I've only seen people bashing him about the makeup comment...but there must be a more complex problem within him. What seems odd to me is that he actually seemed quite happy and excited when he first met Taylor, so I do wonder what was really causing him to shut down...

[@mamameg9916]

@@lindsaylori many comments have discussed the same thing, mine being one of them. It’s okay for people to be angry at JP because despite his intent his impact is still harmful and hurtful. People can be angry at that impact.

[@lindsaylori]

@@mamameg9916 I didn't say that JP's comment was not harmful and that ppl didn't have the right to be angry, but I was genuinely curious about what made him act a certain way. His behaviour just seems very odd to me, and there must be a reason behind it. That's why I found OP's comment(and Dr. Honda's hypothesis) very helpful cuz it really went deeper and showed what could be the cause of JP's hurtful comment!

[@mamameg9916]

@@lindsaylori it was the “bashing” part of your comment that just said a lot.

[@Innoonlaad]

I think it's tempting to lose empathy towards JP after this conversation. But Dr. Kirk's initial hypothesis still stands. JP has learned to expect that people are going to hurt him and it scares him so much that every move seems dangerous to him. So he doesn't move at all. He completely shuts down and loses connection to himself. So when Taylor asks him what he thinks or feels about their relationship or about anything at all, he doesn't have the answer, which causes him more shame. Like Taylor said, the makeup talk is an excuse. He is desperate, because in his mind, if he doesn't come up with something to defend himself, we are all going see how scared and helpless he is, and that's terrifing. It's a shame that his strategy is to shift the blame onto the other person and try to make them doubt themselves. Of course, that then causes the other person to lose empathy towards him and he ends up in that very place he was trying to run away from. It is possible that if Taylor wasn't this attractive and mature his patterns wouldn't be this activated. But more importantly, his relationship to Taylor revealed his relationship with himself.

[@littleghosdt]

well said

[@andedom]

Thank you for reminding us to have empathy for JP. He’s been through a lot and I’m sure this is just some sort of elaborate defense mechanism. I’m glad Dr H spent so much time discussing possible reasons for JP’a behavior rather than highlighting this silly reasoning that he gave Taylor for his stonewalling.

[@julie91295]

Yeh I think both hypotheses he had can be true. JP prob did frequent the incel forum. Imagine being a young man having the awkward phases and insecurities every boy has and at that critical moment of your development, you get into all the incel rhetoric and start to blame all that upset feeling you have onto the very object of desire you’re having a hard time with. In doing so, he literally create a self fulfilling fantasy of women are fake and manipulative if they look/present a certain way (aka. Wear make up, be confident, atttractic, etc.) and therefore, they will undermine and leave you. It’s best to look down on them and keep them in line. In the pod, without the visuals, I think it was easier for him to shed the incel defense mechanism bc his insecurities weren’t triggered. Upon seeing her, he probably experience all the awkwardness and insecurities dr Honda talked about before while still yearning for her and want to be with her. At this point, his defense mechanism kicked in and all the incel rhetoric he always used as a shield kicked in as well. He subconsciously grabbed on to that excuse to bring her down a peg as a way to feel more secure and as a way to explain away all this confusing feelings he got going on. In doing so, he’s literally stonewalling and pushing her away. As he’s saying all this nonsense to her, you can still see him actually want to keep her around as well. But he’s so conditioned in the way that he actually believe what he’s saying bc that’s the only way he made sense of his awkwardness and insecurities all his life. It’s so sad. It’s also such a clear example of how these misogynistic ideals ruin men’s happiness. Like their main complaint is women are evil and the scourge of life for not wanting them. Here it is a beautiful girl genuinely love and want to be with JP and bc of the way he was conditioned, he stonewalled and pushed her away with his insane defense. Thus, proving his own warp reality himself.

[@JustRaeesa]

I appreciate Dr Honda identifying the incel behaviour we were all seeing

[@bluchu22]

He calls every guy an incel

[@nicky132]

​@@bluchu22JP's characteristics were literally described in the incel article

[@Tnicole01]

@@bluchu22no he doesn’t?

[@TaigaLily9000]

@@bluchu22 He doesn't but hey you might be one 🕵

[@hai_mai]

@@bluchu22if dr honda were a little birdie on your shoulder he’d probably suggest to avoid using terms like “every”, “all the time”, “never”, etc when providing feedback on others

[@AiSayuriChan]

I admire Taylor's calm reaction to JP's weird reasoning. I would've reacted like... well, probably like Lydia would react if someone told her that. Just imagine Taylor and Lydia swapped in this scene! It'd be completely different. And I assume I'd have a more intense reaction. Taylor was so calm and collected, I really admire her for that! She seems to be a really good person!

[@jennajones4334]

I'd love to see a video of Lydia watching that part after it aired. I know she paused it and got up to the TV to insult him lmao

[@hashtagmate]

And in the end people would have blamed you for being difficult or emotional, when HE was in the wrong and you just reacted like a human

[@AiSayuriChan]

@@hashtagmate It sucks but chances are you're right about this :/ Some people are really doing the most...

[@amandadosanjos3994]

I love that you did not assume dr. Honda, you are just the greatest human .. but we assumed and were right all along too 😂

[@janine3664]

I don't know if it's an assumption so much as we have dated guys like JP, Uche, and/or Izzy so when we come across someone with the same traits, we now know the warning signs and react immediately.

[@connorhusen7917]

We’ve all been waiting for this one

[@sailorallie9046]

The flabbergasted reaction is so satisfying 😂 this did not disappoint!

[@scast23]

Notification popped up - immediately clicked it!! Dr! You’re a menace for keeping us waiting for this scene 😂 (just kidding actually I love watching you regardless of the wait )

[@LaurenAnne6]

I felt so bamboozled yesterday. 😂😂😂

[@scast23]

@@LaurenAnne6 a blue ball moment for sure 😂 and his initial reaction here to the makeup comment was so satisfying because it matched mine almost exactly when I first watched the scene. I was like huhhh?? Makeup?? What?? 😂

[@s.melonita4454]

Finally, Doc. Your editing has reached Netflix level suspense with this cut! Can’t wait for your analysis of this mess!

[@olivia.carousel]

I’ve never clicked on a video so fast! I’ve been refreshing the screen for the last 20 minutes waiting for it to be posted!!!

[@jennifercave-np4ow]

So excited you got to this part!!! You admitting that his wardrobe choice hinting at a possibility of something. Sorry to be vague. Trying to be respectful as possible. The guys kept referring to him as “captain America “. I think he just doesn’t care enough to try. My husband is a very quiet man but he talked to me because it was important. So I think JP is actually a jerk face.

[@sugarwaterpurple5280]

It's like JP views her makeup as a character flaw. But to use it as an excuse to be non-communicative when she wasn't wearing makeup at all in MX is literally insane.

[@cynthiavalencia724]

I could not wait for dr Honda to get to this scene!! Omg when he read that article and it said “incels believe makeup makes a woman fake” I thought to myself oh boy here we goooo lmao

[@asho345]

I think some men see makeup as an unfair advantage that women have over men. In his mind, he might think that the reason she is so confident and he is so insecure is because makeup is her “cheat sheet”. Getting rid of the makeup to him might put them on a leveled playing field.

[@xojacquie7356]

As a makeup artist, your perspective on this is super interesting to me!

[@maarleyjedermann3174]

That would be an interesting claim IF his awkwardness only lasted through the first meeting, but she hasn't been wearing makeup for a while now. Where's the leveled playing field?

[@WhitLin31]

Which is an incel mindset. So it tracks.

[@mamameg9916]

That’s another incel belief, so it would make sense. Imagine living your life that way where an entire gender was seen as some sort of competition or “thing” to be conquered and “beaten.” Exhausting.

[@33afterM]

Yes to this. cheat sheet is a great way of putting it and makes the whole anger towards women wearing make up make more sense to me. The more beautiful and alluring the woman is the more the guy feels the fear of rejection and starts stumbling over themselves which makes them angry with themselves, but they displace the anger onto the woman because that feels better.

[@kimmi2662]

JP would have done himself a wonderful favor if he had sought out therapy in preparation for the show and the possibility of marriage.

[@QueenOfTheZombieApocalypse]

Honestly, it may take him years of therapy before he can have a healthy romantic relationship

[@Arcanine1995]

Oh you know him in real life do you??

[@CaulkMongler]

But also: think of the ratings. There’s a reason, sadly, that messy drama sells.

[@Tnicole01]

@@Arcanine1995 Do you? Because you’re defending him in all these comments like you know him.

[@Arcanine1995]

@@Tnicole01 Dude I'm not even American like how can I know who he is. I just sense a lot of misandry in these comments and I hate group-think and double standards!! :)

[@Twisted-Life]

Dr Honda: Correctly hypothesizes JP's incel behavior, spot on, followed by a humble "I could be completely wrong" - while being completely right. Love your insights, love it when you guess something spot on & the explanations of these buzzwords that we all use in our common vernacular are very helpful & easy to understand - Thanks for the content!

[@ceairamrc]

I love it when Dr. Kirk says wtf. He always says it when I’m thinking it 😂

[@charlize9341]

I saw a comment somewhere suggest that perhaps JP had such a hard time making conversation because his conversation usually contains a lot of bigoted thoughts and he was aware of being on camera. We can't really know (until someone turns up his online commenting history), but the idea does fill in a few gaps. It is still just astounding that going face to face broke down his social skills so much.

[@Maria-no4ej]

I think we need a deep dive on the "other weird people without a diagnosis" 😊

[@sintara8442]

That would be awesome ❤😂

[@tzipporah7635]

Canadian here: Appreciates all quirky humour from you, Dr Honda😆 I actually dated a guy in my early thirties who DESPISED me wearing makeup. Funny, cause he had ZERO problem being attracted to me when we first met at a salsa club (in makeup and skimpy clothes) and didnt find women who wore it (outside of me) unattractive. Quite the opposite, he thought they were sexy AF. Thank God, that relationship didnt have a long shelf-life as I saw many other red flags of control and dominance creep up and left his ass. Sadly, years later, he ended up marrying some young girl in her early 20's who he probably thought he could better control😔

[@markj3169]

We made it!!! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@kendrabean606]

Omg this is THE ONE I've been waiting for you to react to. Holy cow I can't wait to hear all the double yikes 😂

[@sbitar87]

ive waited so long for you to get to this scene. this is the psychology in Seattle 'Super Bowl' moment of the season

[@chloeblakesley608]

He also said “you look pretty” as one of the first things during the reveal … not sure how that adds into things because he doesn’t strike me as someone who lies to protect someone else’s feelings 😂

[@Sadji594]

So happy when you got to this section. The messed up thing is she has not worn makeup for the rest of the time that they've been together. And like you said and she said I dressed up and put on makeup one time. So basically you want her to go bear face all the time? And how is that that she's fake? Like you said, lots of women wear makeup. I'm not a big makeup person but when we're going somewhere nice I'm putting on a full face. Yeah he's got some traumas and it could be the insul thing but remember his mom used to berate his sisters because of the man she chose so maybe that has them to do with it too

[@pinsandneedles3]

Yeah. Going on a TV show to find a woman who never wears makeup is just silly. I suspect it's not really about the makeup for him but if it *is,* I have no idea what he was thinking...

[@CaulkMongler]

It’s easier to flip the spotlight onto someone else when he’s feeling attacked and worthless. Messed up regardless, but easy to discern

[@nicolina4050]

I never heard of someone disliking make up so much (like JP). It seems so trivial. This part was surprising. Thank you for your insight.

[@junebug1117]

FINAALLYYYY!!! Dr. Honda we really need your help unpacking this one😂

[@simply_khanh]

I will never tire of the dad joke interjections by Dr. Honda in the midst of a long explanation of a fascinating psychological concept. There is value in being able to add lightness and it is absolutely appreciated!

[@Twirlingbarbie]

I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but now I'm sooo over this dude. What he is wearing all this time and his behavior hasn't been a turn-on in any way either.

[@patriciaa2976]

JP is attempting to NEG Taylor Dr. Honda. Hes an insecure man and as such is attempting to knock Taylor down a peg. He's angry that she reacted the way she did on the reveal. That's why he can't let it go. He knows that she doesn't like him and is now negging her.

[@mamameg9916]

Bingo

[@57andstillkicking]

She reacted fine at the reveal.

[@nmtviola]

I laughed out loud when Dr Honda started out with “WHAT?”

[@aby_lev89]

I've been waiting for Dr. Kirk's reaction to the make up comment- it's exactly like mine was! oh gosh...

[@jboxwood2194]

I’m living for these daily uploads 🫶🏼

[@dribblinonedirection]

JP being an incel has been my guess from the jump!! I felt it from when it talked about his mom, his mannerisms, his “fuck that” response, etc. it just felt off. I think it’s really important to think about how he saw woman and girls growing up. He saw his mom as the villain due to the abuse he unfortunately witnessed and endured. Then he probably saw his sister’s as unable to defend themselves. I can’t help but feel like this has a huge impact on his view of women. Glad we’ve reached this scene.

[@KM-kv9yt]

I told my fiancé, while listening to an earlier episode, "When he hears JP make those comments about her makeup, he's gonna be like, 'WHAT?!'" I watched the first 30s of this video and ran to show my fiancé that my prediction was correct. 😂

[@-NiamhWitch-]

Just started this and immediately paused it. "What? What!? WHAT!?!?!" Was my exact reaction to JP. This entire interaction made me SO furious and triggered me big time when I watched this episode. JP suddenly went to the top of my "sh*t-list" (followed by Uche). Also, it was funny watching this and feeling all this anger toward JP... because my wonderful, emotionally healthy, fabulous husband is also named JP. 😅 I had fun ranting about hating "LIB-JP" to my husband lol.

[@kcatcs]

FINALLY! I've been saving champagne for this

[@VictoriaLynnMyers]

Finally!!! We’ve all been waiting

[@blissfulhueasmr]

“anyway so uh… shout out to Canada” actually made me LOL, i rewinded that part a couple times!!! 🤣🤣🤣 much love to ya, Dr. Honda!

[@randigibson3565]

You and I had the same reaction to the makeup comment.. WHAT?

[@Cloudycloud9]

I’ve been waiting for Dr. Honda’s reaction to this forever 😂😂😂

[@michellesmith7]

I remember JP cried in the pods when he described how his mom would wake up his sisters in the middle of the night to scream at them and he wished he could’ve protected them. When Taylor asked why his mom did that, he said something about how his mother didn’t want them to end up like her…I wonder if she’d berate the daughters about wearing too much makeup and looking “easy” or something and JP has internalized some of this messaging? I sense though that he suffers from such low self-worth that he inadvertently sabotaged the relationship so he can retreat and protect himself. I hit the vibe he probably felt intimidated by Taylor or something…

[@FreeSpirit022]

I have a theory.. At the beginning of the show when Taylor had introduced herself, she mentioned that in the past, she had a hard time loving herself. Someone with these past insecurities can make themselves scrutinise how they are inside and how they physically look on the outside. Not knowing for sure, but if she had brought up this subject with JP in the pods, about her having issues regarding her not loving herself in the past, then that might've been a way that JP could've avoided the answer by deflecting, as she kept asking him why there was awkwardness between the two of them since day one. I felt, perhaps, this was a way he could get out of that conversation that he kept avoiding by distracting Taylor with something that she had struggled in the past with.

[@Julia-um4rv]

Didn't he say earlier that his mom was tough on his sisters about wearing makeup or trying to date men because of her past? I keep thinking maybe that's where his misogyny is coming from. It sounded like he had a better relationship with his mom because he is a male. Also, the way he kissed her made me think he wasn't attracted to her it was like he would recoil quickly after kissing her. That part was weird and awkward to me.

[@ErikaJadeLives]

This is EXACTLY what I have been thinking the whole time about how his strong dislike for makeup is linked to his childhood! The irony is that he is passing the same judgement on Taylor. He's trying not to be like his mom by being quiet instead of yelling, but still shares some of her beliefs/logic. It actually quite sad. I hope he is dealing with the public scrutiny okay, but at the same time takes the opportunity to take a look at himself.

[@33afterM]

Yeah, I don't know about the kiss thing. Even if I was attracted to someone and had talked with them. I'd be awkward AF to kiss someone the first time I'm seeing them. Especially being filmed while doing it. It's the whole performance and getting in my head. I think he actually does find her very attractive which is intensifying his weirdness around women/people. Agree with everything else you said though.

[@Julia-um4rv]

@@33afterM I see what you're saying, but I guess I sensed something immediately when he kissed her. Maybe it was awkwardness, but it made me uncomfortable for sure.

[@Julia-um4rv]

@@ErikaJadeLives Yeah that's a good point. I didn't think about his quietness about not telling her he didn't like the makeup, might be him trying to not be like his mom.

[@M.K12144]

@@ErikaJadeLivesI’m with you here! I wondered if his mom was really harsh about makeup, or if his mom wore makeup like that and so he’s a bit stuck and couldn’t move past that. But of course he cannot or doesn’t even know how to express that, and just says he doesn’t like makeup.

[@zonthisv4915]

I actually hoped the Doc would analyse the end of this interaction where Taylor gets up, and JP stares at her with the actual literal eyes of the boy that he still is. It's one shot that to me says it all. I'm afraid we're not gonna get that though..

[@dazedconfuseds]

Dr Honda has commented about other looks JP has done...just be patient

[@silverarrowtarot]

The crazy thing is almost all the women in every season are wearing fake lashes

[@mermaidguitarist]

Thank you Dr. Honda for your commentary! This video was so enlightening and your shocked reactions to JP’s statements (and the incel theory) were equal parts so gratifying and entertaining!!

[@stellannie86]

Yey, i've been waiting for this one..! :,D

[@tabithatamaraa]

Stop and smell your own mind is absolutely my new mantra.

[@Mandy3141]

"I just go for a granola person" LMAO

[@VashtiPerry]

15:52 the laugh ❤ I know. It’s something. Kind of unbelievable the way he communicates

[@LizMcDo]

0:50 I’m actually cracking up at the “What?…..what??” 😂😂 same, doc, same.

[@JJ-ry8mn]

*insert comment about how women can wear makeup because they like and not just to appeal to men here*

[@AnastaciaInCleveland]

Indeed, makeup is my hobby! It is my creative outlet, and I do it to please myself. Fortunately, I have a partner who loves me no matter what!

[@venucina]

Dr Kirk reaction was sooo satisfying, i love you so much doctor ❤

[@hugomarquez3189]

The question I have is, when has a woman ever not worn makeup in that occasion, when they first meet the grooms to be and they are proposed to? What show has he been watching that he had that expectation?! Second question: is it possible that he has some trauma with his mother (remember his story about how his mother mistreated his sisters), and he transferred that hatred to other women, particularly women that look like her (maybe she wore makeup?)?

[@donnabohanon1570]

Again, your long awaited for reaction did not disappoint 😂

[@caylacompassion]

Not me getting a makeup ad during this video 💀

[@yara-um6tx]

Your reaction to this whole thing was insanely satisfying to watch 🤣 honestly, I could not believe what I was hearing from JP’s mouth either

[@AceofRoses510]

A past boyfriend with absurd insults and thoughts about me ultimately cleansed me of my own absurd self-hating thoughts. Funnily enough I refer to him as my favorite ex because of that.

[@SecretSqrlGrl007]

@AceofRoses510 What is your secret? My ex had absurd insults about me but I feel like I still internalized them way more than I should have.

[@pt7981]

@@SecretSqrlGrl007 life is so short. Dont spend another day judging yourself for someone else’s conclusions on you. Start being aware of when you’re being hard on yourself/judging yourself and try to actively stop the negativity about yourself. Hard at first and eventually, natural like breathing.

[@arianaaag4]

the video we all have been waiting for 🤣

[@amigadecachorros]

This makeup thing is from his mommy verbally abusing his sisters for wearing makeup. He told us his mom was abusive. I feel like I haven’t seen any reaction videos remember this. His mommy was the one who warped his ideas on women. I don’t think this is why he shut down, I agree he pulled this excuse out of his a**.

[@nokibin9676]

We finally got there !!

[@NicoleArata.artworks]

Love when dr Honda catches up to these moments 😂

[@queenshay]

Dr. Kirk is just as confused as everyone with JP….. He’s just seems like he might have avoidant attachment just speculation lol……

[@livingwholewithless]

Dr. Kirk, I’ve been watching your content for years and I love learning from you! You’re entertaining and so kind and knowledgeable. I’d consider myself to lean conservative but I still respect your views and actually learn a lot from it! I couldn’t agree more about the red pill movement among men and even women, it’s toxic and absolutely not what most conservatives I know are about🤍🤍 Thank you for always keeping it real!

[@PotterytothePeople]

lol i was so excited to see dr honda’s reaction to this. didn’t disappoint 😂😂😂

[@hitatchiqueen]

I loved "stop and smell your own mind" 😂

[@digthewarmth]

Dr. Honda almost saying What the fck?! is so funny.

[@stellannie86]

Since i first saw this scene i've been so enraged. What a misogynistic pig. -_- Even if makeup use was such a big issue for him, i feel like he could've asked about that from her. I don't think that's revealing too much about one's physical appearance.

[@annekenney6914]

And if you look at most of the other scenes she wore little to no makeup. So he could assume that she normally doesn't always wear a lot of makeup, that she just wore it for the reveal. The comment made no sense, There wasn't an issue. He was just deflecting. Instead of taking responsibility for his behavior he chose to put her down. He could have crippling anxiety and he should seek treatment for it. You can sympathize with his pain, but his behavior to Taylor is unjustifiable.

[@mercheg.8397]

I feel so validated when you react like I do 🥹

[@chocolatecat198]

Recently a guy I’d been seeing told me that I should wear more makeup and tighter clothes for him to find me attractive. I had a similar reaction as Dr Honda at the beginning of the video: “what?!”… “What!?”

[@catherinemarie08]

I've been wondering if JP's mom used to be abusive towards his sister's about their makeup and message it send to boys/men. Still that doesn't make up for his bad delivery of his preferences on makeup and his using it as a reason to not talk to her. All he had to do was tell her (when they aren't talking about their relationship) that he likes how she looks without or without much makeup, or when she has a lot on tell her that he wants to be careful about hugging because he doesn't want to have to dry clean his suit. His comment about her freckles was perfect, nothing more needed.

[@Skadivore]

When JP said that in my head I was like GIRL RUUUUUUUN

[@TheCutiepuffs]

the “shout out to canada” sent me 😂 hi from canada!

[@Nunofyabizzzzz]

I immediately started laughing as soon as this video started. Yes!

[@silverarrowtarot]

Dude!!! I’ve been waiting for this moment for everrrrrr!!!!! What?! What?!! 😂😂😂

[@RLC-tr1wn]

Yay we made it everybody! lol . I have been saying for years that this whole '' you look better natural'' is a passive-aggressive way to control women, the same guys that tell you you should leave your roots natural because it suits you better, the examples are endless. I'm tired of some people with small minds thinking that BS is a compliment, it is not. I'm sorry that JP got tricked into going to a tv show where 99.99 percent of women AND men are going to be wearing some type of makeup, why did he think it was a good idea to participate in this experiment? money ? travel ? I'm really trying to understand why for real.

[@beefmaster4]

Interesting hypothesis, I think people look better natural and I'm not trying to control them, including their whole hairs and not just the roots