Love is not Enough

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[@Luke12vs48]

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[@jennzenn971]

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[@jennzenn971]

@@sorenlorenson8327 Reported.. Thanks for advice 🙂

[@unterdeneichen1547]

No German Subtitels but all other. A really Joke!

[@angelkalathas]

That's exactly what I have been saying to my relatives and friends soon to be parents. They have to sort themselves out first, because unwillingly they are going to pass their neurosities or psychological burdens on their children. That's what happened with my parents and me, and the only reason I managed to see that is due to all of the reading I do. Now my young cousin goes slowly into puberty and her bad behavior magnifies. Her mother wanted to send her to a psychologist. I told that she is the one that needs to see a psychologist first, because it wouldn't do any good to my cousin to have therapy, but the people around her that affect her don't get aware of themselves and better. When a flower doesn't bloom, you water the soil and add nutrients. You don't blame the flower.

[@MrDjreal1]

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[@flowerchild777]

Very well articulated. Excellent. I wish there were more just like you. Accept what's happened in life and try your best to progress. Don't stay in the negative, it will bring you farther down.

[@drfarihasuniverse6409]

That's so true ..thanks for sharing

[@annettealmvik]

You are 100 percent true. This i know

[@stevrgrs]

Same here. I read a ton and it's hard to finally see that I am growing spiritually / mentally and the people around me aren't. It's even harder when the "successful" ones around me are the most screwed up people and the ones that don't take any advice or listen to people like Dr. Mate. It's sad

[@acer4237]

This man carries such sadness with an outlet of such wisdom

[@Nokss_20]

He looks tired to me

[@thomasfristmd1876]

Yes he admitted it in a previous interview that he's made mistakes. He's a very honest person. Also his insight comes from being a traumatised baby himself as he went through the holocaust.

[@b.d.hooten1785]

All men carry sadness. Its just a matter of you figuring out a way to put a set of wheels under it so its easier or if you have to continue to drag it thru life.

[@tommac21]

What wisdom ?

[@bordercollie1140]

Gabor and Alan Watts possess enough wisdom to heal the world, if only enough people would listen. Peace, love and wisdom.

[@D07770]

True

[@obas143]

Alan Watts is my saviour.

[@wordswordswords.5422]

This is excellent and not common knowledge. this should be a mandatory class in high school kids. I don't think most people know or understand this. Thanks Gabor.

[@ptanyuh]

They barely let them teach kids about contraception, you think THIS is going to get into western schools?

[@patricemarie2960]

So very yes! Kids need good, aware, stable, parenting!

[@fannilein8715]

agree! that would be so so important!

[@joefox9765]

It isn't good for human farming to educate the sheeple properly. We don't want them to think on their own and question authority. We frown on homeschooling because forced public schooling is designed to break up the family unit. Dumbing down the masses and making them dependent on the government and thinking a menial job will take care of them! So less education is best. Rather mass Conformity and designed social structure to lead the sheeple without revolt because they are preoccupied with personal problems to think in higher orders. Rather we'll have corrupt politicians that have been educated in the same likeness lead the sheeple while us Puppet Masters control the banks and the politicians. We will then sell the bodies of those who are rebellious to the whole system because they have not been raised properly by Design. We will make privately owned supermax prisons sold on the stock market.

[@ErikaLaGrande]

Who’s going to teach the class? Most of those teachers are more lost than the parents. They may to appear to have it all “together”, but appearances are deceiving.

[@daofa7]

Greatest need for any living being is to be welcomed with safety, love and tender acceptance. This should be the priority and foundation for better world

[@1life744]

Spot On!

[@ptanyuh]

Instead, let's just send parents back to work 4 weeks after they're born, and make them each work 40+ hours per week so they can keep a roof over their heads but never see their kids. USA! USA! NUMBER ONE! USA!

[@jggrimm]

yes. and yes.

[@jelena7440]

@@ptanyuh honestly that's inhuman and I don't know how women in USA do it. Most of Europe has 1 year paid maternity leave for the first child, second year and a half, third and every child after that two years. Plus you get a bonus when you have a baby, amount is average salary, it's a viewed as help for buying baby stuff.

[@jld4870]

@@ptanyuh yes we are a greedy people. It used to be work work work to have more more more. Sadly now it is more like-work work work and pray you survive. BUT yet there are still the greedy that believe there is never enough, and as along as I don’t have to ‘see’ others plight I will keep on keeping my own. God help us all!

[@flyingcrew2640]

He doesn't preach just talks with love, connection and vulnerability.. A true teacher and forward thinking person of our time.. Long may he continue

[@franciehartsog1347]

I adore both Gabor and Jordan. I have practiced psychotherapy for 30 years and he is spot on about parenting and child development.

[@thereIsaidit123]

My grandmother didnt have a mother hence my grandmother was unemotional , cold, stoic, selfish...my mother in turn was the same with me and my 5 sibblings..I am the complete opposite with my daughter. I broke that chain..! Sometimes I smother my daughter and over protect her bc I never recieved love from my mother...

[@zabisaboori6301]

You are amazing for braking the chain, thank you.... reallly thank you for making the world a better place!!!!!!!!

[@sheemoheeput9544]

I didn't know my grandmother. But my mom doesn't remember much about me during my childhood and baby days though I am her first child. She is not very loving towards me. Not very attached to me. Very distant with me.im now 35 years old. This haven't changed at all . But she is just the opposite with my little sister. And we are only 2 sisters. My sister too never shared and still don't share a bond with me. There is like some kind of competition going on. We are so distant. But till 2 months ago it was I who used to call her and tried to share my life with her. And it's been 2 months I never called her anymore because I noticed that she doesn't want me in her life. So I just moved on. Here I am with no family as such.

[@mariabr8954]

it's so nice to hear stories like this! Thanks for sharing

[@frannybkranny8760]

@@sheemoheeput9544 Your family of origin is only that. Your true family is made from the people you choose to be part of your life. You get to make up your family with people that love and respect you.

[@PriyankaGupta-ew1li]

I would like ro suggest here something with Love..First of all Congratulations on Breaking the Chain😊 Secondly I Feel u have already Broken the Chain by being Emotionally Available to your kids but you should be Balanced and Healthy in your Approach to love them because again Over-Smothering Can make a child grow up with tendencies be An Avoidant-attachment child! Neither Under-Nourish nor Over-Nourish your child with your Love because that's what makes them Grow up to be either an Anxious or avoidant attachment style adult! Make sure your Love is balanced so your breaking of generational Trauma is actually healthy for your child! ❤🤗😌Lots of love.. Stay Safe🤗❤

[@deborahdelmastro109]

I don't know how or if anyone knows Sylvia Sterpka but it is extremely important for her granddaughter that she listened to this I'm begging someone to have her listen to this

[@andreamorin7416]

I practiced his teaching s on my 4th and last child and it made a huge difference with how she is. One doctor said she was the calmest baby shes ever met and questioned me if shes was always like that.

[@excusesbegone]

I see the generational patterns in my family

[@coreycox2345]

I wish I had seen these things long ago, and am glad that I see them now, excusesbegone.

[@squamish4244]

And in mine. Hopefully this will be the last generation.

[@ptanyuh]

Same, that's why I cut contact with them 4.5 years ago.

[@ptanyuh]

Hahaha, you're FUCKING NUTS.

[@franciehartsog1347]

@@coreycox2345 👍

[@johnmaggiorino4493]

This means pretty much the whole world's babies are affected, everyone is stressed in some way

[@jennytaylor3324]

I guess you're right. Trauma is an occupational hazard of being born. It's how it's dealt with that perhaps makes the difference between good an poor quality of life and self-development.

[@corysturgis6660]

You must protect your children from the stressors you absorb and have great bounderies

[@pushthetempo2]

Its more about how you respond to that stress.

[@corysturgis6660]

@@pushthetempo2 nailed it

[@amypetra5021]

Being a child of a woman who came from a family who was ripped apart, I feel that Gabor misses the fact that some circumstances cannot be controlled, changed or predicted. This is very sad and difficult for me to hear, that I failed my children because my mother failed me. How about doing a lecture on the issues that affect parenting that were literally no one’s fault. I think this man means well but by his statement that the first three years are critical in a child’s life makes people feel horribly about themselves and the failure of their parenting. I loved loved loved my children when they were babies, toddlers, children etc. but I wasn’t taught anything about things like this and I had to figure it out on my own. Gabor Mate when you say “love is not enough” you inadvertently criticize and denigrate people like myself who sincerely loved and tried to parent with the skills available to them. Just stop making sweeping statements like this that cause more inadequacy and shame that we already feel. Please, reframe your choice of topics for people like myself, okay?

[@marydiesch]

Thank you for this video. Supporting babies and children should be the #1 priority of the human species.

[@austinfurbush1821]

This makes so much sense as I reflect on my three children and where I was in my life when they were babies.

[@flowerchild777]

Ditto 😑

[@flyingcrew2640]

What a great wisdom teacher.. The greatest thing u can give your child is your happiness

[@darribasarribas5994]

I’m a single Mum struggling and since I got divorced (when my baby boy was 2 and I was pregnant of my baby girl) I’m really concerned about how to do it so my kids weren’t affected. A couple of years ago I start meditating and practicing yoga, so I could grow to be a good reference for my kids but sometimes I feel weaker. This will work as a rock for that weak moments. Thank you

[@andrecosta281]

keep reading quality books, if you re on the spiritual path growth things will be ok! be gentle with yourself

[@rbg7408]

Knowing this is both liberating and worrisome; realizing that you could be the one to break the generational pattern in your family. There's that pull of comfort to the trauma you've grown accustomed to and the pull of healing and living to what can poasibly be.

[@clipaqua8848]

made me tear up a bit. not for me but for someone else

[@marleyofficialmedia]

I love the sound of his voice. I love his work and message. Thank you Monsieur Gabor Maté

[@bessyisyourbestieforever3164]

My 16 month old is extremely attached to me . I hope we keep that strong bond forever. I lover her very much!

[@renatika]

That strong bond must change in time. Too strong bond create insecure depended personality.

[@gama6749]

Don’t let him grow up to be a dependent adult. Will be tough to balance but you got it

[@infiniLor]

At 16 mos, it's very healthy for baby to be extremely attached to mommy ❤❤❤

[@katherandefy]

People are so eager to make babies who aren’t even 2 years old be emotionally independent. Lots of superstition surrounding this and it comes from a society that avoids connection. Then we have a loneliness epidemic and widespread depression. And wonder why.

[@rachelle466]

@@katherandefy I was just thinking the same. As long as there are healthy boundaries, you cannot spoil a kid with love. In my mind I always have the thought that when they are young for them to feel as comfortable and loved as possible, then the child will be ‘complete’ and when ready it will sort him/herself out in regards to being independent.

[@anamckinney3551]

Love is not enough, so true. Just real life.

[@andrewwabik5125]

I hope when I become a dad that I can be a positive influence on my children. They're going to grow up knowing that their emotions matter. And that I am a safe person to come to. Growing up, it was utter chaos for me. But when my mom wasn't in the hospitals (physical/mental), she was a very loving mother. Sometimes she tried to be more of a friend, but I recall seeing this pattern and resisting in my preteens. My father was....difficult, but was always there. He showed emotions poorly, but he tried.

[@denise2169]

Andrew, it sounds like you are already very aware of yourself and will take good responsibility for your role as a dad! Best wishes!

[@andrewwabik5125]

@@denise2169 thanks, Denise. My wife aren’t there quite yet, though.

[@angelapellino617]

People give you what they have .. much love and peace to all And each of you listening to this xx

[@VitaminM1]

When you say love is not enough that is also love because you're still caring..

[@nejah.6487]

Wow. Everything i felt inside myself, but couldn't put it into words. Here, Gabor Mate beautifully explains everything i have had in my head all this time.

[@drabbman7865]

I like and agree with most of Gabor Mate's statements; he's spot on in the above video (and his other videos on attachments, authenticity, etc), except the part where he says children are not 'born with a blank slate'. No, every human being is, in fact, born with 'tabula rosa' or a blank slate because humans come to know the world first through the five primary senses: touch, taste, see, hear, and smell. Being born or developing in utero as a 'tabula rosa' does not negate human potential and the path toward self-actualization as these evolve over time with the infant's interaction with the environment and attentive/loving caregivers.

[@D.u.d.e.r]

Gabor Mate is so much right, he is true champion we should follow!

[@patricemarie2960]

Talk to any person, who grew up in the 50's 60's ..... and you will not be anywhere near surprised .... to hear ..... how many addicted, alcoholic parents there were! ..... The stressful lives they created ..... having many children, and not enough of a support system ..... was deeply traumatic! ..... And very sadly .... deeply damaging to their children's lives.

[@justmyopinion8341]

Then the child grows up and has a choice to take responsibility for their own lives. A child that doesn’t see light becomes blind really? Billions of years of evolution wiped out unless light is present what solid scientific study has been done on this?

[@sketchartist1964]

And you think many adults today aren't addicted to anything? You kid yourself. Not only are they addicted, they've become even more selfish they don't even want kids to interfere in their addictions so they abort them. You think this is progress?

[@Thealojzy07]

Hold on hold on..Now is much worst when you talking about addictions. Today drugs are more essential in life then bread bzc bread contains gluten😂. They 12 years old and smoking weed per day as often as am drinking my tea. And then few years later no brain, brain gone with smoke away, no good memory,and they with aggressive attitude, with anger, with anxiety and schizophrenia.Thats the results of smoking weed,drugs etc..Thats what they done to them.Now we have young generations of lazy drug addicted losers..and please don't blame always parents. When am talking with them, with casual met young people on the streets, the cannabis smokers they always giving me same answer: for fun! So stop looking for excuses always for bad behaviour.Some people are just bad.

[@jakebeaker4243]

@@sketchartist1964 I wouldn't call it selfish to abort children that can't be taken care of properly.

[@sketchartist1964]

@@jakebeaker4243 You're right. Let's call it evil. Humans are not things that can be obliterated just because we think it's wrong that they might suffer in life. Everybody suffers in this life.

[@louisianaeu828]

High schools need to teach this; education is one of the pillars that must support this. I am doing the work with my daughter out of learning from my own broken childhood; parenthood is the hardest work cause it is easy just to give up on your children

[@rooster555555]

My family doesn't want to change. They rather have comfort

[@eyeroller22]

This talks to every area of our lives. That if if we are happy and content we begin to take care of ourselves and those around us. And most of all we enjoy life

[@sharonallison9922]

THIS IS ONE AMAZING DOCTORS.....HE SHOULD BE TEACHING OTHER PHYSICIANS.....MOST DOCTOR'S LACK COMPASSION.....🙏💞😇

[@noway325]

Most doctors lack understanding

[@Sleily]

everyone who wants to habe kids needs to watch this

[@angelaconnor3754]

So true but its learning this so your children grow well m achieve.

[@user-mu4cg6yk5r]

Looks like a reasonably happy sole ... will not judge a book by its cover...

[@dorothylim1903]

What an amazing video and a clear, charismatic speaker

[@godschild5824]

Good morning- you know when I was raising my children, I had no help, on the contrary the people that should have helped me where the ones who caused the most problems. Single mom, had to work, go to school and raise kids, clean house, change the oil in the car (had no money for someone else to change it). However, with all of that said- the thing I would do differently is teach my children how to pray more- many children have problems self regulating because they think they are all alone and in reality if they know how to speak with the Lord they know that they are not alone.

[@tommac21]

Yes love is everything.

[@TJFox-re6lv]

i have a 4 month old baby girl that I love with all my life. but I'm severely depressed I left a mentally and physically abusive relationship when I was 6 months pregnant. I have ptsd & I always try to be emotionally available for my babygirl but some days I have episode where I'm so in my head that I can't even pay attention to her. I feed her and hold her but no interaction. I hate that I'm not happy go lucky baby talking funny face making mama. I just can't be it's not in me. I sing to her and talk to her but I feel it's not enough

[@KidCareCanada]

Thank you for this heartfelt message. It sounds like you are doing your very best in a difficult situation. Can you find some trustworthy support for you - among family or trusted friends? Professional health providers? You are right that your baby needs a responsive caregiver but you do not have to do the caregiving alone. Have you access to professional support? Have you a medical doctor or a counsellor you can see? Mothers we have interviewed have found great relief through talk therapy and medications. As you will see by listening to the mothers in these videos, you are not alone in feeling the way you do. Please seek help. Videos you may find helpful: kidcarecanada.org/media/treatments-introduction (the mum at 2:24 went off meds after 2 years, had a second baby with no postpartum depression. And has never had it since. She said the meds saved her life and her relationship with her baby.) kidcarecanada.org/media/new-mothers-need-support kidcarecanada.org/media/importance-kindness (you might like the other Dr. Dan Siegel videos too - but this speaks to the need for self-compassion) Take care. I hope you can find the support you need and deserve.

[@marcechavezu]

I don't have a kid, but I've had this and have been unable to work, I found that daily guided meditations and affirmations calmed and rewired my brain, I still do them but maybe not as often, My brain doesn't get so negative lately, but still want to reinforce these ideas on my subconscious mind so, I like some channels: Meditative Mind, PowerThoughts Meditation Club and Michael Sealey, I hope you like them, If not just search for classical music, go on a news fast, no negative people or stories around you for awhile and breathe and enjoy your child and life. Much love and peace.

[@alvallewellyn]

You are doing the best you can and if later in her life you can be as honest and articulate as you have been in your post she will be lucky to have you as a parent. Be kind to yourself.

[@NattyBeGood]

You are aware of your limitations, that’s a strength. Be kind to yourself. Find an organisation that can help you be the parent you want to be. You’re doing fine. Carry on the great work and labour of love.

[@RamonaMcKean]

Don't be hard on yourself, my dear. Find support for yourself and just keep doing the best you can. Bless you. 💗

[@graz1851]

You are my support,Mr Mate.Thank God I have found you

[@samanthaalexander3057]

I THINK LOVE IS EVERYTHING

[@samanthaalexander3057]

@maja lovric YOUR RIGHT....always trying to be present and accepting of flaws. very hard to do though

[@aclassmedicine3306]

Pearls of wisdom

[@mariamkinen8036]

We need coping skills for authentic living. Thanks. Love is not enough. Balance is. I felt neglected at the CH. of Helsinki. The doctors knew the maximum time a child can be separated from her parent. My f was a living monster/ no good. The doctors sensed that. We were evaluated healthy but we were fortified psychologically. Thank you.

[@LinYouToo]

My folks didn’t do this. I was scared, worried and anxious over my parents dysfunction. It’s no wonder why I wound up with severe attachment issues

[@jggrimm]

I reached this site via a recovering Jordan Peterson. Both men have a great deal to offer. This four minute talk is a revelation. Thank you, Gabor Mate.

[@PinkSakuraBunnie]

Be wary of Jordan Peterson.

[@inlumina_punctro]

”love” is an worn-out/dead word. Because of so much ”love” the Earth is how it is, now.

[@maryanncarrlton6878]

Babies are brilliant

[@noway325]

Is this being taught in prenatal care classes because it should be

[@rameshsharma4422]

I mean there are tests for driving why we don't have tests of mental health if a person can be a parent or not.... Would save so many lives

[@Nokss_20]

No, it should be basic education for all ADULTS. Because most people are not really clued up...

[@katarzynalindner594]

Thank you, dr Gabor.

[@joeyp21]

So essentially if you're a loser parent you're damning your child to a lifetime of hardwired garbage. Take on some responsibility folks and become better.

[@jameshaslerbail]

I'd be interested in what you consider as a 'loser parent', as most parents are very well-intentioned and not losers, as Dr Mate has suggested countless times. We always have the capacity to change and increase self awareness and reflective function, our role as an adult is to do exactly what you've suggested and take responsibility for our life and work through and process our issues that most, if not all, come from our own childhood. In this way we can create a safe, loving, and attached environment with our children, and have the space to understand our children and hold their pain or distress without needing to necessarily 'fix' anything or be authoritarian. That's all that is really needed to be a great parent. It's actually not that complicated. Children don't need things, they need nurturance from an understanding caregiver that has time for them and a healthy environment. What makes it complicated is the societal context that we are living in. Additionally, it really is never too late for parents to begin taking that responsibility for themselves. Yes, you may have missed the opportunity during the first 1000 days of your child's life, of which is vitally important for healthy biological development and the period known as the 'synaptic explosion' that continues to occur through adolescence but slows into adulthood. But doing this work of self realisation and processing dramatically shifts an individuals personality at any age; you become calmer, more centred, more nurturing, less anxious, less depressed etc. and that is an excellent change for any relationship at any time in the life, particularly the parent-child relationship. Lastly, Dr Mate doesn't suggest that children are subject to a lifetime of 'hardwired garbage'. You should look into neuroplasticity, and that we always have the capacity to change at any age. It simply gets more difficult and takes a more concerted, consistent effort as we get older to do so on a biological level.

[@alexandradavidoneal365]

Yup. Most people don’t investigate themselves except in times of great crisis. And as we can see today with all the pandemic protesters and denials, some don’t even then. Unwillingness to face trauma and negativity will procreate misery until someone breaks the chain.

[@mariamkinen8036]

Thank you dr. Gabor Mate

[@freeghost5084]

These tremandous valuable knowledge needs to be integrated into the school program all over the world. Thanks Gabo. I love the spreeches, interviews and workshops you've given and making available and accessible. I know you through your book "When the Body Says No".

[@TheAmaraHorton]

This advice is also important during times of great transition or great stress for the child... ie, a pandemic.

[@brittanysuppes]

You are an amazing person!!

[@mackiceicukice]

This is so true.Thank you Gabor Mate.

[@lynnwalker3503]

Wow, makes a LOT of sense. Thanks very much, Dr. Gabor Mate.

[@martinwest2538]

I don't like the title of this video. Love is, per definition, the will and endeavor to give attention, acceptance, affection, nurture and healthy challenges to somebody (even oneselves). Thus, loving the child contains everything a child ever will need. Couldn't agree more on the fact this requires focused, perceptive and available, loving parents.

[@trismerigold1624]

thank you for this video!

[@SaZooCaballero]

Great man, great video. Thx for posting it!

[@mariamkinen8036]

Did I not make it clear that I had excellent professional doctors, physiotherapist , n teachers. And so many good ppl. Love creates all of the foundation for excellence n genius. I wonder why so negative? Love heals. Love creates trust. Something I never had from my f. Mum had this voice that meant it couldn't be escaped from. When she said it in that tone. I felt a lot of fear , at home. I was the baromètre n a dustbin .

[@XmeshinX]

What is this talk from? Is there full video?

[@jorian32ginnetto]

Gabor mate is a smart dude

[@FrancesShear]

Very true statements.

[@judyb2199]

Wise words.

[@user-yk9sk7pg6v]

thank you

[@jessewallace12able]

Dr. Mate, I listen to you and I think you are incredible and helpful. Especially your critique of Jordan Peterson. I think JP is a good thinker, but after watching and listening I can see the repression and rage. I can see how it manifested in his addiction. Thanks for your good work.

[@adrianapamplin5419]

so, you know you stuffed it up. How do you fix it?

[@SobrietyandSolace]

I love this man but do not understand how everything he says is not immediately apparent or self explanatory. Nobody has any business procreating until they understand this shit. I could have explained this from the age of about 12. I actively told my mother she needed to fix her daddy issues from the age of 15 because the men she brought into our home were abusing me. I'm autistic- maybe I have more awareness because I was forced to learn how other's minds work instead of proverbially resting on my laurels.

[@INTEGRITY273]

Good point and my perennial question constantly ignored.

[@MarcoBrevi]

I believe that there are no particular rules as every child is moved by external forces....I did take care at the best way I could But than at 17 my child turn his back on me....Yes it is true that it is better to avoid any stress or anxieties whatsoever: the world is not enough.

[@youttt27]

Those positive patterns that you set surely remain in the child’s subconscious.It might seem that your child turned your back on you but the positive influence of your love will surely be a part of his repertoire

[@LauraStar127]

Superb video!

[@maryanncarrlton6878]

Yup true this is !

[@kristine8338]

True.

[@aranyrigo1871]

Could somebody or you sir give me a link with the full interview ?

[@shireenhendricks2194]

Thank you.

[@sumlunatiksmom]

Or raising the child whilst unconsciously rejecting the child’s authenticity maybe because the parent’s need the attachment to their larger group so they must choose between their attachment and the authenticity need of the child who may be naming his authenticity based on his attachment need to his group.

[@linbonn4749]

3:47 Parents...please pay attention !!!

[@BBFCCO733]

Being poor doesn't mean being a bad parent. I know plenty of people who came here from other countries and build themselves up. Their kids had a wonderful future because they were determined to get out of poverty. Being poor doesn't mean having psychological problems. Having psychological problem and not getting help, can ruin your kids if you or they they don't get therapy.

[@edtech_media6923]

great interview, but let Gabor finish a thought before you cut him off. Poorly edited.

[@livondiramerian6999]

The brain develops through all your life.

[@coyoterooves]

Why does that baby have its ear pierced 1:17

[@terrymckenna548]

Gotta be dumb if one would think that peace n love is the cure.

[@criticalthinker6736]

Dr. Mate was also featured in the independent documentary *Zeitgeist Moving Forward.* I highly recommend all watch it for a new train of thought and non-secular ideas on the root causes of aberrant behaviors, from addiction to violence. Good health to you all.

[@ceochala]

This was amazing! Thank you!

[@tyravanleer7521]

Right ✅

[@charmee4045]

What about young children thrown in childcare as infants? What is the effect? Do they suffer from abandonment issues later in life?

[@HughElvisCrumlish]

True

[@marti2568]

Question is how to stimulate effectively cilld`s brain first tree years?

[@playsavedthechild.2848]

First 1000 days... is a concept to google.

[@lucianmaximus4741]

Kudos -- 444 Gematria -- 🗽

[@D.u.d.e.r]

Gabor Mate is so so much right!!!

[@EvertonSebben]

He´s the man

[@luminyam6145]

Babies are not blank slates and very soon Dr. Denise Cook will prove that you are born with your personality type and that it is immutable. That is going to cause a huge ruckus in the community. I hope I live long enough to see it.

[@Nokss_20]

Sometimes you just ask God why he gave you crappy parents, but I'm sure the answer would be they too had crappy parents and so the cycle continues.

[@eleen78]

What can I do for my 13 and 16 now if I didn’t have happiness when they were young? (,mentally abusive ex-husband.)

[@playsavedthechild.2848]

I wonder too.

[@bruntbrunette4819]

What support is he talking about ? How should a parent support their child in their early years ?

[@gama6749]

What is you have an adult with an oral personality. Best advice regarding attachment/dependency? Mahalo for sharing!

[@whatdoyoulivefor735]

Life is tragic.

[@louisgreen3915]

Tragic and non tragic, because if there wasn't any BAD things in the world,,,how can we know what GOOD is to compare it to. The only way we have tragedy is when there are times without tragedy, that's how we notice it turning tragic.

[@noway325]

@@louisgreen3915 oh this is rubbish to many people have to much tragedy in thier lives

[@louisgreen3915]

@@noway325 Some people do have real tragedy, and some people are the cause of their own tragedy. But in most cases we have plenty of both. To many people play the victim, and are to lazy to do anything about it, (Lazy or Cowardice,,,which ever applies). But life isn't just one thing, (all bad or all good). We wouldn't even know what good is, if we didn't have something to mesure it against, (like say,,,bad).

[@seankelly4509]

So your saying that emotional, physical & sociological enviourement actually does affect a child? Wow amazing sherlock Holmes,,

[@user-vg7zv5us5r]

one thing is to know it as common sense (lucky you), another - to prove it and have it as a scientific fact

[@seankelly4509]

('Knowing' is,,) 'proof' grasshopper,,? Think about it,? x

[@seankelly4509]

@@user-vg7zv5us5rDont hold 'scientific proof' & 'common sence' in such esteem, & with such unwavering certainty my friend, sence & perception is only ever 'within' each individual, not external to them,! it is not just floating as nebula & everywhere all around easy peasy?, go carefull with the loose statements as 'common' for fear you assume on behalf of others, & also negate or neglect on behalf of yourself? The duty lays not in the nebula?? Nor in the science?? So where does it truely lay? Science is only the study of a thing, the nature & understanding of it, general science is by definition an objective 3rd party observation, a graph, of a rule & principle, this parradoxically is of no use remaining (3rd party) although an industry is made of it & the world turns on it, (The law of correspondence will teach & show you as to your own examining & then 'knowing',) any human anywhere in the world has this ability, & at any time or stage in history has & had acess to this nature, his nature,, but then after that, with that knowing a big responcibility? the only one that is under our own action ,& that is our 'choice', choices ?, & that is within, (& on ones 'own self) as to choose to 'know' or 3rd party it out, its all in the choice, x

[@journee8724]

He stated facts....don't have kids if you don't understand the concept

[@rul4522]

I truly wonder what child is not affected.....?

[@mikebrenneman4755]

Your supporting points are excellent and agree with my many years of science and education. But your headline is faulty perhaps because of what you think love is. True love is putting the needs--not the wants--of another person over our own wants. In the context of your video, love requires us to put the needs of our children (who we brought into the world) above our life goals. It is love that requires we get over our depression and other negative traits. Love includes setting up boundaries or consequences for bad behavior. But Love is always motivated by being concerned for what is best for the other person. Every one of our actions should be based on Love, (which is far different than our emotions). Every command in the Bible, from not stealing to not committing murder, is based on true love. It manifests itself in doing what is right. In conclusion, Love is Enough.

[@mebhisntatownie]

love is a meaningless word - Jacque fresco

[@sorenlorenson8327]

Are attachment issues the same if it is a child carried by a mother that is not the biological mother ? For example the donor sperm and egg have been implanted ? Are these mother's being studied they might give us alot of answers about biology vs environment

[@annyweity8996]

Warum werden diese interessanten Themen nicht auf deutsch übersetzt?

[@CIARA206]

So im Grossen und Ganzem... Das besste Geschenk das Eltern Ihre Kinder geben koennen, ist Ihre eigene Zufriedenheit.