Love Languages Explained & How They Impact Attachment Styles

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In today's video, Thais Gibson explains the five love languages as written about by Dr. Gary Chapman. Watch now to learn more about the five love languages and how they impact your attachment style as Thais provides useful tips and guidance.
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:00 - What Are the 5 Love Languages
00:01:58 - How Does This Impact Our Attachment Style
00:02:59 - Hierarchy of Love Languages for the Avoidant Attachment Styles
00:04:28 - Anxiously Attached
00:05:28 - Understands the Needs Behind the Language
00:07:44 - Examples of Needs Specific to Attachment Styles
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00:00:00 - Conclusion
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[@wisdomguveya3728]

I feel there is a different between quality time and time spent. Watching a show for me i can do that on my own.

[@marianabucio6047]

Agreed. Same goes with doing chores together, I don't really consider that quality time

[@LSGO90]

Then neither of you have avoidant tendencies 😂

[@wisdomguveya3728]

@LSGO90 🤣🤣🤣 lol I do. The reason why I like quality time is because I want to spend timr by myself a lot. I enjoy my own company. So when I see u and all we do is watch TV in my head ill b like its Gucci imma go home now coz I could watch something I want anyways

[@MilesIncognito]

This all resonates... I feel like I hit challenges as a DA with Physical Intimacy as a key love language, because if my partner's desire waned over time that felt like rejection. And as a DA I don't want to talk about it, things spiral downward, sadness ensues. I know there's a lot of discussion about DAs "getting scared" and leaving, but at least some of the time I think this is more the sequence. The anxious partner is fast and furious in the beginning (which is a big draw!), but then as the s*x slows down the DA feels like the real relationship isn't what they signed up for. Then they leave, clumsily and hurtfully, because no man wants to talk about how it actually hurts your feelings when your partner stops desiring you.

[@MikeGainsM]

Great video! Could you possibly make a video about emotional affairs as it relates to avoidants? Or one that just addresses emotional affairs in general? I’m curious to get your thoughts. Thanks!

[@GeoffreyAngapa]

Thanks for the informative, well-explained video. It's ironic that the downfall of marriages and relationships is often because of this. The needs of each are different, and where they cross, rank differently. Each does his or her best, giving what they think is love, but is actually what they want or think their partner wants. Again, it comes back to the importance of expressing what one wants, needs, rather than leaving it to the imagination. The Hollywood machine has done a fantastic job of painting the latter as true love. _"If they truly loved me, they would know. Therefore, they aren't the one."_

[@danielleh6806]

Awesome information to know. I've heard many say don't use seeds from a plant that over develops and grows seeds. I'm sure I didn't say that correctly

[@SunshineAndSnowflakes]

I think having a balance is nice. I have zero desire to ask or expect a partner to meet my preferred love language needs. It wouldn't feel natural to hear words of affirmation only because I asked for them. Be yourself and when you do something I really love, I make sure to show appreciation so that little lightbulb goes off in their head that says they got a good response for the action so they'll likely keep it up!💡 Basically I love a dash of this and a pinch of that to create a stellar atmosphere. I want you to do something random and loving because you want to. I'd rather you gather me wild flowers on a random summer day than go crazy trying to think of the perfect bday for me. If we are together and you want to game while I work on my laptop while we sit together, that's cool. I'm up for anything and everything.

[@gatorssbm]

Yeah this is a mentality I feel comfortable with, sometimes I wish I could have it slightly different but its good enough with how I have it. Plus I completely trust my partner, in their own unique way thats how they show they care and I think thats what most people should focus on trust beyond anything else.

[@SunshineAndSnowflakes]

@@gatorssbm I agree. I think when we desperately want or need a partner to meet all of these deep needs of ours, we should look into ourselves and figure out why it's so important. For instance, when I was a very unhealed FA, I never believed one of my ex's actually loved me because he wasn't doing the things I was doing for him to show love. I didn't understand why. I honestly thought it was common sense and when I would get upset, he was genuinely confused and trying to figure out what was happening. Lol Once I healed, I started meeting my own needs and don't search it out anymore. He was always showing me how much he loved me, but I was so wounded I didn't see it through healthy eyes.

[@FruityHachi]

it should be a given that when a person truly cares about another that they tell them supportive, encouraging words or just give them a simple compliment for anything instead of picking on where they're lacking or burying their heads in tv same goes for putting down a phone/turning off tv and giving your full attention to what the other is saying or you asking them questions about their day same goes for doing your share of chores I don't consider those "preferred love languages", just being a considerate human using common sense to treat the other person how you'd want to be treated

[@SunshineAndSnowflakes]

​@@FruityHachi I agree while I also know that everyone is different. "Common sense" is lost on many and it doesn't make them any less than those who automatically know to do these things. Not everyone wants, likes or needs frequent compliments though so those people might not know that their partner thinks this is important. I dated someone who makes social media videos and he was always giving me and my business a shout out which I didn't mind sometimes, but it was starting to be almost every video and I let him know I appreciate it, I just don't feel comfortable with all that attention. He started doing other things as acts of love that were more subtle, but sweet. I'm just saying that I know people who need a ton of words of affirmation and compliments and know people who don't care for too many which is why I mentioned having balance.

[@FruityHachi]

@@SunshineAndSnowflakes that's not what I said, I didn't say that giving someone lots of compliments is common sense balance is a given, being one dimensional is not how relationships work, not even work relationships when an employee is constantly criticized, told they're doing everything wrong and not given any guidance that's called a toxic workplace even if they're given presents for their birthday I'm saying balance is a given because in real life we don't have to choose between a partner who does the dishes versus a partner who spends time with us, and unless a person has an explicit arrangement that they're only hooking up, no talking just doing the deed and then they go their separate ways, a balance is key to a successful relationship of any kind, whether romantic, friendship, work

[@Mooncookie954]

Great content!

[@sifublack192]

Nice video! My love languages have always been quality time and physical touch.

[@koala01111986]

Mine changes depending on people and I'm FA with DA as secondary attachment. I don't like physical touch usually, but with my FA ex I liked it a lot and that was is first love language

[@seansuggs1011]

Words of affirmation but apparently it’s the hardest thing to give. I don’t get it lol. 😅