5 Signs You Might Have Nonbinary Dysphoria

[@thatautisticfan]

I don’t think that I’m trans, but I’m more comfortable with having a lot of body hair, wanting short hair, and sometimes wanting male characteristics. I’m still questioning my gender but I’m comfortable with she/her pronouns

[@qwuinn]

just remember that pronouns dont equal gender! You can be nonbinary and use she/her you can be a man and be comfortable with she/her, even though it is uncommon its not impossible:)

[@riv3rw4ter]

Or gnc

[@georgia.newman]

Hear me out…. You’re just a masculine woman and that’s fine

[@paulchapman8023]

Men don’t have a monopoly on abundant body hair or short capital hair. I wish there were more social acceptance of women who had those characteristics.

[@caomunistadoggo4129]

desfem woman exists and it's ok too

[@Milo-hp9fw]

I grew up in a pretty gender neutral environment, where I wasn't taught many gender norms. I didn't feel dysphoria around playing with "girl toys" because I just saw them as toys. Many years later I came out as trans (I'm nonbinary but use he/him pronouns, so I came out as a trans man to avoid confusion) And this fact of my past was used to invalidate me. "If you're really trans, why did you play with girls toys?" Was asked to me by my mom. The very person who taught me that there is no such thing as a "boy toy" or "girl toy". I just didn't see gender in anything. It explains why my dysphoria started only after I started school, where the environment was very gendered. I think if my environment was heavily gendered at home, I'd probably feel dysphoria sooner.

[@SinisterEddy]

thank you for sharing this. I am 20 years old, pre transition, but I have been actively in the closet for almost a decade. I relate to how you identify, honestly. For me, I grew up with extremely defined gender norms, with pink everything. But the thing is, I find hyper femininity fun and enjoyable, to a certain degree STILL. It is not my personal style, but I like it enough that my whole bathroom is decorated pink just for funsies. I also find feminine things attractive on my partner. But the thing is that though I feel SO STRONGLY as a person or man, I find myself in the same demographic as like, "the girls gays and theys" in that I'm not like, a chad frat guy. It's so hard to validate yourself when social norms and people's different experience with them make you question everything. Thank you for sharing this.

[@MiguelJimenez-hc7ch]

@@Milo-hp9fw Gender , in the popular use , is a blend between social and biological dimension . It is universally accepted. Because it follows the same pattern in many contemporary societies . Sometimes , I think that people only concerns on the social manifestation. One can be a men or a women . But , there are many dimensions of man and women . There is no right or wrong on what kind of man or women you wish to be . However , when it comes to biological manifestation , that is where things become more concrete regardless of our self perception . This is due to the fact that our biology follows already a set of rules , that cannot be broken , in a natural setting . Could transgenderism be justified and integrated ? . Yes , as long as it used biological manifestation .

[@Mel-wn9gb]

@@Milo-hp9fw You just demonstrated that gender dysphoria stems from societal sex stereotypes, roles and expectations, not an innate 'gender identity'.

[@Milo-hp9fw]

@Mel-wn9gb Well, kinda? Yeah, I'm a dude and if I'm treated as female, then I'll feel bad. If I have characteristics associated with being female, I'll feel bad. Because I'm not a woman. A cis man would feel the same way if he were seen as a woman. If I were a woman, then I would be okay with being seen as a woman. If having breasts and a uterus were categorized as 'man', then I'd be fine with them. But they're not, so they don't match my identity. There is identity and society at play here. I can't tell if you're supportive of trans people or not, too. I'm guessing not from 'identity' being in quotation marks, but I could be totally wrong.

[@Mel-wn9gb]

@@Milo-hp9fw I'm not supportive of the ideology of 'cis' and 'trans', because as I said it's based in nothing more than regressive, limiting sex stereotypes and roles, which is sexism. Your personal feelings are purely subjective and should not define us as girls, women, boys and men anymore than sex stereotypes should. Treated how? What characteristics? Female and male are the sexes of humans, not social sex roles and stereotypes.

[@christophergreen2619]

I once tried going to a Mormon church, and it was friendly until I was put in the “men’s meeting” where they told me about my special role as a man and they wanted me to lead them all in prayer and I flatly refused and I never went back. I didn’t know I was nonbinary yet, but that was such a strong dysphoria!

[@The_SD-N_lover]

I'm mormon and lds and I just get used to being misgendered every time I go to young womens

[@makotomodachi]

I definitely relate to having social dysphoria. I always hated dressing up to fit an expectation that related to being an "elegant lady". I was raised as a girl, but I felt like I was playing a role I wasn't meant to be like whenever I get told that I have to wear makeup for every event I go to. I also hated being called a lady too because it was a term related to those negative experiences of being forced to look stereotypically feminine. This is why I turned to alternative fashion to express my gender to be in clothes that I like. Being non binary has given me the opportunity to wear anything that I want within reason no matter what day it is. I feel comfortable whether I'm wearing an oversized sweatshirt and skinny jeans or a black skirt with chains on it and a jewel toned lace top. I've been more chill about wearing skirts and dresses again, but only whenever I choose to wear them.

[@waffelpokalypse7365]

As someone who is AFAB, I relate so hard to the whole “girl” thing. Even as a kid, that word made my skin crawl, but even more so now that I’m an adult.

[@BulbasaurRepresent]

I'm currently really struggling with whether I'm non-binary, gender-fluid, gender apathetic, or just gender non-conforming. I really, really wish there was just a simple way to be like "yep, that's who I am" When I looked into asexuality, I immediately realised that it described me perfectly. I wish that I had that same experience for gender because AHHH it's so confusing

[@crowbirdy]

same! It is really confusing because it is clearer definitions for something like asexual, for me it's like I never wanna have sex, tada easy, but gender can feel like such a vague social construct it can be hard to find label that fit and clearly define, which can be totally cool! You can just be you! no labels required! but can be tricky to explain to others and find a community similar

[@glenninuk8981]

I grew up in a time when structures were much more set in stone and whilst this caused problems for many who didn't fit it did provide a pretty solid basis from which to operate. I was one of those who didn't fit and was able to find common course with others to challenge the orthodoxies of the day. And in my lifetime many of those structures have shifted and changed in ways that benefited me. But I do wonder if I was luckier than today's generation who are growing up in a structure free environment where each person has the freedom to define their own social structures and identities and then I suppose fight to get them recognised by everyone else around them. It does seem to me at least a more lonely and isolated exercise. Don't get me wrong. Even in my rebel group (gay) I don't quite fit perfectly but I found a way to live with the imperfect match between the social identity and who I really was.

[@glenninuk8981]

@@JonathanJimbo I think the balance is to be found in pragmatism. I think there feels like there is a this battle to the death going on between those who argue 'this is the way things are' v those who argue 'things are whatever anyone wants them to be'. Existential angst (and despair) is probably part of the human condition. We all have our struggles to reconcile our individual experience with the picture of the world others present to us. But being social animals is also part of the human condition and we need somehow to be our unique authentic selves while playing our part in the group. Sorry to say this doesn't go away with but hopefully we become more relaxed about it all. And in the mean time there is so much joy and pleasure to be had.

[@basic-gender-blob]

You could use the umbrella term genderqueer

[@Susanmugen]

Be a triple a battery. AAA

[@catoboros]

I am a Gen-X enby and grew up in the 1980s with no knowledge of gender or trans people or that the name for my feelings was physical gender dysphoria. I am now living a life that I never dared dream was possible. I transitioned physically in 2020 and socially in 2022. Thank you to all the brave queer people who made my new life possible, and thank you Lynn for educating people and sharing your story! ❤🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧💛🤍💜🖤

[@wren.no.1]

:) happy to hear your story,, keep being awesome & thanks for sharing!!

[@SinisterEddy]

hearing from older trans / nonbinary folk is some of the most helpful stuff. Thank you so much for sharing this. As a 20 year old closeted trans person going THROUGH it right now, it really makes life feel more worth it to hear from people who have been walking this walk longer than I have. You are living proof that it's possible, chatter, thank you for your comment and sharing that you are gen x. It truly truly helps people like me who struggle with internalized transphobia/internalized hate. I'm moving out on my own for the first time in August and I really look forward to changing my life and finding some LGBT community. Thank YOU for being so brave and sharing this with us. Representation can save lives!!!

[@Jasoncrim]

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[@TammiJo9]

I know what you mean. I’m also a Gen-Xer, but gender fluid. The words we needed to describe ourselves didn’t exist yet, we just didn’t have the vocabulary.

[@Blueeeberry11846]

Thank you for sharing your story! It really makes me feel less of the internalized hate and hopeful seeing older queer people living their life.❤

[@rebelleousgaming]

One cause of dysphoria for me was watching my sister hit puberty. We’re both AFAB, but our experiences were so wildly different that it made me question my gender identity. My sister got into all the traditional girly things like boys and makeup, but the thought of both makes me extremely uncomfortable. Doing traditionally feminine things with her like nails or clothes shopping caused instant discomfort and confusion for me. Like she actually became a woman in puberty, but I just didn’t. Idk if this makes sense or if anyone can relate but oh well.

[@vickiecordon7887]

I relate to that very well and the of ever being pregnant and did a permanent solution for that and I am glad I did

[@SinisterEddy]

I feel this but in the opposite way. I am afab, and I have a amab brother who is younger than me (also an older one). Though watching my older brother go through puberty didn't cause many issues for me, as it was the same time I went through my own female one, it was watching my little brother essentially go through everything that I wished I had had that sent me into quite a Time. My little brother is pretty masculine but he has tons of girl friends, guy friends, and even quite a bit of LGBT friends. But he looks enough like me, and we have a similar enough clothing style that my jealousy is just through the roof. It's so hard not to feel resentment, but I think once I come out to my brothers, maybe this could change. I only have two siblings and they are both assigned at birth male, and so naturally this has left a sense of guilt with me, in feeling like I'm letting my mom down. I was the pink baby, and I even really liked pink and girl stuff growing up, which made it extra confusing to even realize I'm trans. But what I want to tell my mom is that I will still be her pink baby, because the way I see it, I'm in the same demographic as women, the same demographic as " the girls gays and theys". Though I only feel really comfortable dressing masculinely, I love a little sparkly eyeshadow, I love piercings and Jewelry, and I grew up as a dancer, so there are so many conventionally women's interests which I love, and I also have a genuine respect and appreciation for women that quite honestly I do not really have for men. To a degree I'm one of those people that kind of feels frustrated by men, and to a degree I almost feel guilty for "joining them". I'm not fully sure how I identify, whether I just feel like a person or I do feel like a man entirely. But I completely felt what you said about your sister. It's such a difficult thing to deal with, and I truly appreciate reading your experience. As someone kind of going through it right now with no friends and and no real ties to the LGBT community or the trans community, finding videos like this and reading comments like yours truly keep me going. It's so hard to feel valid in a world that quite literally doesn't want you to Simply exist. So much love I hope you have a great day, thank you for sharing this.

[@mickeymouse-mj6xk]

Idk, I don't get it, isn't it's just a stupid stereotypes? Not all girls like makeup and shopping... It's just an interests.

[@Moonshine_Victory]

Literally all of these are relatable, rip- Regarding bathrooms, I don't mind using the women's ones cuz I know I'd get super uncomfortable and feel unsafe in the men's one I started to question my gender identity some time ago. First I'd say 'something female, idk' cuz I didn't feel connected to the male gender at all but I felt a kind of disconnect to my assigned gender too. By now, I'm mostly sure I'm some kind of agender which makes me a AAA-battery now haha

[@silentglacierfang]

Being AAA is the best. You just say "no thanks" to everything society says you should experience. I got the deluxe version tho so I am AAAAu (AroAceAgender Autistic). Just collecting all the A's.

[@Moonshine_Victory]

@@silentglacierfang Me too, I consider myself peer reviewed AuDHD (various of my friends have and tell me I do too-). And then there's also anxiety. ...So it might be AAAAAA

[@silentglacierfang]

@@Moonshine_Victory You got the ultra-deluxe shiny edition.

[@Moonshine_Victory]

@@silentglacierfang Seems like it haha Although honestly I'd rather not

[@GeneverNoa]

Haha, love that others collect A's too. I'm AroAceADHDAgender and on the Aphantastic spectrum:D I used to hate it, but recently I began to feel pride for the first time. :)

[@dhfaofhpeofjofj]

As an Enby myself, I had to understand that when I'm out in public and someone calls me he/him, they're not doing it to hurt, they're trying to be formal or get my attention.

[@c.s.joethedragon1311]

Instead of "girl", for me, it was the word lady or woman (shivers). After I became old enough for people to call me a "young lady/woman" I knew something was wrong. It always felt like they were describing a completely different person. Then, when I realized they were talking about me, it felt so weird that it would make me sad. I wish the knowledge of being non-binary had been available to be back then.

[@stephenie44]

I wish I could just pick a label. Gendervague is the best I’ve found, but it still feels itchy.

[@lynnsaga1397]

I've never heard of that gender! It can take awhile to find something that fits and it's ok to take your time with your journey

[@Translucentmoonlight]

I feel this 😔 I am confused about labels and I'm thinking agender but I'm still unsure. I've never heard of gendervague so I will look into that label!

[@stephenie44]

@@Translucentmoonlight hmm I’m think about agender. Thanks for sharing.

[@MiniT-x8q]

First world problems. Honestly, if you look back on this in 10 or 20 years you are going to cringe with embarrassment.

[@stephenie44]

@@MiniT-x8q no, I don’t think I will. I’ll probably look back at it and honor it as a part of my developmental process for becoming a self aware human. Just like how I can look back right now and honor where I used to be. 10 years ago, I was in college questioning my sexuality. It took me several years to realize I was pansexual - gender or gender expression has no bearing on my attraction to someone. I’m really glad I took the time to reflect and get to know myself. And I also honor that 20 years ago, in 5th grade, I was enjoying being included in the social sphere of my class for the first time, and it was instrumental in building my social confidence, even though looking back I think I was being bullied - a small step up from being ignored as the quiet kid in class. I’m glad to have been included and I’m grateful I was too socially illiterate to know I was being given negative attention. I can either belittle all of my upper middle class childhood experiences for being “first world problems,” or I can honor that my experiences, regardless of personal privileges and disadvantages, brought me to who I am today, and will continue to develop me into who I will become. Though perhaps, you might look back and cringe at how you belittle others’ healthy self development. The times I have willfully or ignorantly misunderstood people are indeed the moments I look back on and cringe most.

[@MayMay-hq4il]

Your channel is underrated in my opinion. When i first watched you i just had figured out i might not be straight and as i got to know myself better i found myself returning to this channel whenever i needed some information about different types of sexualities/gender identities or generally comfort and validation. Love from an aroace, sapphic nonbinary being

[@lynnsaga1397]

Oh my god this made my day thank you so much! I'm so happy the content has helped you😊

[@riverchampeimont]

Totally agree! This channel is an amazing resource of knowledge!

[@NonbinaryCatDad]

Same here! ☺️

[@elking8373]

@@lynnsaga1397I’ve had the same experience and have to say, I like your voice pre-T. I can’t wait to see you feel more comfortable with yourself as you progress. ❤

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

Hope your top surgery goes well Lynn! 💛🤍💜🖤

[@nuni6158]

I get mostly dysphoric when being missgendered, and it has been so since I was little. I get super happy whenever there's a gender neutral restroom available. I do think I might be NB. That was a very good list, thank you Lynn.

[@patneuberg]

Hi. Thank you for your videos! This one was really good to stumble upon, and now I'm going to go back thru the rest of your catalog. I'm still very new to this journey. I'm questioning. I'm landing on Non-Binary right now. There's a lot of discovery happening right now with my identity, and since I'm in my mid 40's I'm fighting major imposter syndrome too. But this feels right. Your videos are helping give me some perspective and maybe even a feeling of community. I look forward to more!

[@lynnsaga1397]

I'm so happy my content is helping! It's amazing that you're going on this journey and if I can help even a little bit it in helping you be more comfortable with yourself that's the most important thing.

[@sweetyft]

Just wanting to say 👋🏻 as another person in their mid-40. It’s funny because I’ve spent years saying I had a mild form of dysmorphophobia before I had the words and understanding to know it was gender dysphoria.

[@Swenglish]

Bit of an odd thing I've never heard anyone else describe: As long as I can remember (we're talking early '90s, kindergarten, long before I had any vocabulary to describe myself as nonbinary or agender), calling *other people* by gendered pronouns or referring to them as boys, girls, men, women, whatever, felt intrusive and rude. I didn't have the frame of reference to realize that was me projecting *my own* dysphoria onto other people. Implicitly assuming that everyone felt the same tinge of discomfort when referred to in gendered terms, because "obviously" we all secretly feel weird about this gender thing that has been foisted on us without our consent. So throughout my childhood, I would either try to avoid talking about people in the third person or refer to them as "person" or mumble pronouns...implicitly because that's what I would have preferred for myself. I also distinctly remember in school, when we were learning about Swedish pronouns, I noticed the third person singular personal box in the diagram was empty, and so I put my hand up and asked about it, and the teacher said there isn't one because there isn't a context where you'd need one, and I found myself disappointed and thought to myself "I could probably think of lots of contexts where it would be useful". Eventually I had to just get used to referring to people with gendered language, and now I find myself accidentally misgendering fellow nonbinary people accidentally out of habit, and I hate that I do that, because I learned that habit reluctantly in the first place, and I would much rather be in the habit of using gender neutral language by default, since that's what I've always preferred (and it should be easier than it's ever been, with more pronouns and everything).

[@SophieRoses]

Recently I’ve been experiencing all of these points that you’ve talked about. I’ve been questioning my gender identity and now I’m leaning towards nonbinary. I don’t mine using feminine pronouns, but I realized that I don’t fully identity as a “woman” and I like using gender neutral pronouns too. I’ve been learning more about gender dysphoria and how I’ve been experiencing it. Thank you for making this video and I will definitely be watching more!

[@DinosaurNick]

I'm agender, and I struggled as a kid and still struggle with my body and gendered spaces. Online, people gender me as male because of my voice and my typing style (?), and in real life, people gender me as female because of my body.

[@JohnBarfield-qw3bh]

Thank you for the video. I just love your videos!

[@lynnsaga1397]

Tha k you so much! I'm really happy you like the content😊

[@JohnBarfield-qw3bh]

@lynnsaga1397 I'm starting my transition from mtf and exited about the journey!!

[@Iamveryboredrn]

@@JohnBarfield-qw3bhgood luck on your journey! 🏳️‍⚧️

[@JohnBarfield-qw3bh]

@@Iamveryboredrn thank you!

[@spicychickpea97]

I was also raised Mormon and left at 19, and it took me a lot of years to untangle my internalized misogyny and sexism from my gender dysphoria in order realize that I’m nonbinary and not just a gender non-conforming woman. The strongly gendered patriarchal structure of the LDS church is hell when you’re anything other than cisgender, heterosexual, and gender conforming and I’m happy you were able to get out too.

[@SylvesterLazarus]

I feel lucky to not experience as much dysphoria myself. Really, the worst I feel as AMAB is when people told me to not cut off my arm hair and not try to change my voice because they perceive it to be better, like someone telling me that I have a really good and deep "storyteller" voice that I shouldn't try to feminize.. yeah, I'm not really upset by it, but I do have an AFAB non-binary friend who is much more affected by dysphoria. We haven't really got into talking about the topic beyond me just always silently paying attention not to cause any of that dysphoria, but based on body language around others I do think it makes them uncomfortable to get many compliments about gender specific physical traits, so I'm really glad you talk about it in your videos so I can understand it better while hearing it from someone who is in the same shoes. You are really cool and and honest about everything. I don't think I ever commented on your videos, so I just wanted to tell you this. Thank you for being here!

[@DangerousKaos]

Yeah I’m in the south and it’s very triggering regarding dysphoria. Hope top surgery goes well!

[@twosetter_lifetime.member]

watching from Brazil. Really love your videos!!!! Helped me a lot!!! ❤❤

[@lynnsaga1397]

Oh my god thank you so much for watching!

[@rattersworld1016]

Puberty + dysphoria did a collab for me where now that I have hips, I hate to see men in skinny jeans (fictional or real), because I will never look like them. I didn't feel like anyone talked about hip dysphoria so it really caught me off guard ;-; Generally, ever since I was little I've never expected or been prepared for differences between the sexes (as in I just didn't believe that the sexes were different), and it feels like these differences just keep coming now ;-; it's especially obvious because I have a brother who initially looked very similar to me, but over time we just keep looking more and more different... ;-;

[@riverchampeimont]

I relate to all 5 but that's no surprise! Thank you for making another useful video! You're the best!

[@animalcrossingcrew]

I know I'm late to the party but I was told that non-binary people don't have dysphoria so I had delt with people calling me fake.

[@KiahRenamae]

Growing up I never agreed with the feminine expectations that were thrust upon me. I have always had both traditionally masculine and feminine interests growing up and when I thought about gender back then I just hated the idea of being thought of like a girl. I still feel this way now. I didn’t start questioning my gender until I realized I was ace and started thinking about my gender. I also feel like I do have dysphoria about my body. Especially around my breasts because they are so big and prominent and obviously feminine(I also have chronic back pain which makes me hate them more). I feel like I’m floating somewhere in the nonbinary space but I still see myself as being partly a woman. I still like feminine things and will likely wear dresses to formal things because they are pretty. I know that interests and clothing don’t equate to gender but what I’m trying to say is that I still feel partly aligned with femininity while also sometimes not being feminine. I think I’m genderfluid in some way. I recently learned the term demigirl and I feel like that best describes me but I am still not sure if I will adopt that term. I think I want to go by she/they pronouns but I am too scared to ask my friends to use them. Not that they won’t support me but because I feel like I made too big of a deal coming out as ace. I asked my friends a lot of questions about queerness before and now I’m hesitant to talk more about it. I’m sure I’ll tell them eventually but for now I am just keeping this for myself.

[@khadijachaudry3329]

You are either xx or xy. You are a woman. It's normal to not like your body esp during puberty. you can be a woman and not completely related to "girl stuff" bc it's all based on stereotypes. You can't feel like a man or a woman bc it's just based on stereotypes! Don't let ppl like this confuse you. Be whoever you wanna be, present the way you wanna present but you will always be an xx chromosome (woman) but you don't have to act like a stereotypical woman. We are just human beings

[@khadijachaudry3329]

I know a lot of big chested girls who don't like their breasts, it's all part of puberty and you can always get a reduction when yku are older if you want to. If you have issues with ur body please seek out therapy esp bc of ur chronic backpain xx

[@khadijachaudry3329]

Ik my comments will get hate but honestly I hate seeing young girls being confused about their gender when it's just puberty making them hate their body.

[@Unixilian]

I think that you might be censari! I’m one myself, so I think its that you describe😊 or faesari

[@damienb6184]

New subscriber here :) I didn’t have my “lightbulb” moment until I was in my early thirties. Growing up, nonbinary was not a widely known concept, and trans men weren’t as visible as trans women so I had no idea it was even possible. Looking back though there were signs. Something always felt off but I couldn’t put my finger on it. For a while I really disliked “girl colours”, dresses, and preferred toys designed for boys, preferred to play with boys before the age of 13. Things shifted a little and “fem” things grew on me more, but I always felt uncomfortable and like I didn’t fit into “woman”. When I had my lightbulb moment, afterwards I solidly identified as trans male for a good two years. Now I feel somewhere in between, nonbinary and genderfluid fit me much better. Im too ill (severe MECFS from Long Covid) but I dream to one day be well enough to get top surgery and fully come out (Im still mostly closeted as I rely on my family for caregiving and don’t feel safe coming out to most of them).

[@aro4cinglife]

thank you, as someone who's been lowkey doubting their own gender for the last couple of month, this has reminded me the ways in which my struggle is real

[@NonbinaryCatDad]

Recently discovered I'm agender/nonbinary. I've always reacted strongly against gendered language and societal roles. I've always admired and celebrated queer/trans and gender nonconforming people. I've always had an aversion to the term "man" and never really related to the concept of manhood, regardless of sexual orientation. My only dysphoria involves social interaction. I actually find joy in my medium sized hands and feet. And my middle range singing voice. Masculine pronouns have started to bother me a little, but I know I present mostly masculine. Because that's all I've ever known. I'd like to expand my style a little outside the constraints of gender expectation, but don't really have an urge to feminize myself much. 🤔

[@beeghost-44]

I think social dysphoria hits the hardest for me, I hate my chest but hate dressing up like a lady more. My mom is always getting me feminine clothes and when I freak out and break down about wearing it [I have to hold back tears because it feels so wrong and makes me feel super uncomfortable] she always gets frustrated and doesn't understand and I can't explain because I'm worried she will get mad or smth :']

[@kathyroux7386]

Wow. I have struggled with this my entire life without having any words to explain it! I have never felt that my inner self matched my outer self. I am not my birth sex, female, but it’s confusing because my body is female. I always thought I identified as more male, but that’s because the notion of being neither or another option didn’t really exist. So now I have to learn more about my options - am I non-binary, gender fluid, neither, something else? It’s scary but freeing.

[@medzgorgon197]

No, you are brainwashed.. grow up ffs.

[@SparrowhawkStudios]

Nice to hear that you’re learning more about yourself :D

[@insert-name-here6777]

​@@medzgorgon197 They have expwrienced it their entire lifes and now found a name for it. Obviously brainwashing. Maybe your brain got washed a little too hard

[@Omneyvdwatering]

I have the same with my chest and am looking for a good binder to see if that makes a difference. I'm definately in menopause now, which means my estrogen crashed and because of that my hormonal balance feels so much better than it ever has. I guess if i were younger i would probably have opted for a light dose of testosterone, but now that's not needed. I still struggle with dressing how i want in public. Last time i did there was a lady who had all kinds of questions. She wasn't disrespectful, just curious but after answering quite a few of them it got pretty exhausting. Now that makes me a little anxious to dress the way i want in public again, as i don't want to have those conversations every time i'm out. I just want to enjoy myself.

[@UntamedSimmer]

Thank you for this video, it makes me feel better to know that I'm not alone. I been feeling like a trans nonbinary for many months now, however my family doesn't approve of this and sees me as a full blow girl or woman but I don't see it myself and it makes me feel very uncomfortable being around family who misgenders me and doesn't understands me.

[@MrEmpireBuilder0000]

thanks for sharing! yes, I am glad you do acknowledge that your body is yours and should be loved no matter what. :)

[@UrFriendlyNeighborhoodBassist-]

I really started to realize something was up after an orchestra concert when my mom commented on how “she loves that im embracing my femininity” like girl no im not I just can’t get a suit because I know you wouldnt let me get one, the gown wasnt my choice 💀 Anyways im finally getting a haircut tomorrow so thats good 😊

[@valkeakirahvi]

I'm getting my top surgery in June and it's really exiting but also making me nervous. Hope you'll get yours too and document your experience in some form :)

[@wren.no.1]

ohhh that makes sense, there can deffo b mixed feelings. i hope it goes well for you & i'm happy for ya!!

[@Gamingpandacat]

I never had dysphoria really, just trying to be a cis male in a cis world oh wait euphoria happened guess I'm queer now, those are the facts (I am devastated to know I cannot wear the spinny for fear of judgement and potential harm to myself and those around me)

[@HekateSelini]

feeling put off by gender stereotypes that religions push on us is quite healthy. Being uncomfortable with physical changes in puberty, especially female puberty, is normal. Not wanting to conform to gendered expectations makes sense - gender roles are mostly stupid. But does that mean one has to have a gender identity or medically change one's body? As a kid, I refused any stereotype and expectation related to my biological sex, and would've met most of today's 'gender dysphoria'-criteria. But on my way through puberty and into my 20s, I learned to just give gender roles the finger, advocated for the freedom of gender-nonconformity, learned to live and love and express myself however I wanted and actually like myself the way I am - and eventually made friends with my body. And I'm glad I did, because after a serious illness I appreciate how unbelievably precious a healthy, functioning body is. I wouldn't risk that for anything.

[@renjamin10]

something that gives me a lot of dysphoria, especially as i think more about my gender identity and do more research, is the utter lack of nonbinary representation and information out there. everything feels so black and white, male or female, penis or vagina, etc. i'm at the point where i don't know if the way i want my body to look is even possible. there are so many things that come with hormone therapy that i don't want, but almost just as many things that come with it that i DO want. sometimes i wonder if my gender identity is even valid. my thought is, if it WAS valid, i WOULD want all the things that come with hormone therapy, right? if i don't want all those things, is hormone therapy even the answer for me? if it's not, what IS the answer? it's all very confusing.

[@AinaFuyuko]

It's good to hear you are gonna be able to take steps to feel better and more comfortable

[@LonelyPuddlez72]

As a nonbinary persons, like many other people, have grown up in a pretty strict conservative Christian space, despite how constantly gendered ideologies have been shoved I my face, I never even had a concept of gender until I started hitting puberty because, blood and all that. As people around me began to talk more and more about like "oh this girl likes this guy," "this guy likes this girl," "trans=bad" "when are you gonna date a guy?" "when you get a husband" "who do you have a crush on!?!?" it hit me like a freight train, just about a month ago I finally came out to my parents though, so I'm kinda on a high ride at the moment 😅

[@jadeysusfantasmas]

As a non-binary person, I don't like having hairy arms/legs/body... also my facial structure sometimes, I don't know, it's weird. I hate feeling like this because I know my body is valid, but it is what it is. Love your videos, I learned a lot about my identity.

[@Quin_The_Winion]

I had gender dysphoria for a period of time and didn't have any help cause of homophobia in the family. It was mainly just being scared and confused cause I realised I wasn't straight, I just started an all girls secondary school so. I'm still female (I am cis) and I think I'm biromantic and asexual, I don't fully know though as I've never had a crush and the idea of the thing scares me so that's where I'm at for now. 😅 I kinda just ranged but oh well 😂

[@rattersworld1016]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO!!! It was super helpful and validating, and it's great to see that there are different types of dysphoria. I've been wondering if I have dysphoria, but I only feel it sometimes and usually it isn't very intense.

[@key1526]

I suppose this video is the first time I can comfortably say I feel full-on nonbinary dysphoria…. Because I’ve never really felt dysphoria focused on my body, I’ve had a hard time telling the difference between dysphoria and being uncomfortable because of misogyny. I’ve always felt excluded from boys’ spaces despite having spend most of my childhood making boy friends. I get frustrated at being treated like an outsider, even more so because it reminds me of how much people see me as a girl. As if how I view my own gender is irrelevant. I also will be blindsided by a wave of unreality once in a while after someone close to me slips up on a friend’s pronouns, or makes an off-color comment, or when strangers go out of their way to gender me. I don’t know if I get upset on my own behalf or for the trans community’s side, but I do always notice the gender binary being enforced. And it does hurt. But anyway, I’m getting more secure in the idea that I DO have a concrete gender that others should respect. I’m learning not to listen to that nagging voice that says nonbinary is a made-up concept and I’m simply posing as trans for the validation. This video was, in fact, helpful for me to realize that. Thank you

[@OnePoundBird]

he/him pronouns dont bother me but thinking of myself as a “man” does cause discomfort though i think thats because i think of he/him as more or less gender neutral if that makes any sense

[@lavapug]

The fact that we live in a gendered society in and of iteself is something that gives me dysphoria. The fact that I will always be "other," always have to introduce myself as they/them when binary people will have everyone assume the correct pronouns. I hate it and there's nothing I can do to change it :(

[@izaimedushat42]

I didn’t know that dysphoria that i experience can be because I could be non binary, i thought that if you’re experiencing any kind of dysphoria it means you’re trans, i’m still questioning my gender identity and this video was really helpful, thanks

[@SleepyTimeSensation]

My niece tried to get me to understand some of what you were talking about. I'm not fully there but I'm trying to learn

[@vickiecordon7887]

I wish I were tall so I would look less femenine. I would like to be gender neutral. I stay thin so I do not show too much curves and wear big cloth.

[@TheBookHermie]

I just realised... something made me click on this video.

[@blazi64]

It caught my attention that you said you were gonna start with a low dose of T. I don't know much about this topic. Can you take "not so much" T? Like I thought you either took it or not. I personally would like to have more narrow hips and a lower voice but I wouldn't like to have a beard, lots of body hair etc. Could someone explain to me about this? Thankyou 😊

[@snapdragonslair]

You can take low dose t, but it wouldn't stop the changes, it would just slow them down/lessen them, unfortunately, you can't pick what symptoms you get, it's genetics and randomized

[@lynnboartsdye1943]

Can relate to the social dysphoria, anytime I’m out and about no matter how I dress I’m referred to based on the characteristics of my sex and since it’s always those little interactions that only last maybe a minute or two I don’t really see a point in correcting if I’m never gonna see the person again. At least for me I notice it’s not my body I feel dysphoria around rather the assumptions made about my gender based on the appearance of my body and I’m not really the kind who feels the need to modify it to pass or seem more androgynous.

[@hispronounsaretheythem]

Hi, where can I buy gender? I don't really have any gender too, and I'd like to buy one I asked in each of my local stores, but they said they don't have gender. I'm also thinking about getting a used one, and if someone here is actually selling their gender right now, then I would like to discuss the price (I'm kinda new to buying a gender, so I'm not familiar with the prices yet), but I have to be sure that your gender is in good condition. By the way, this is an awesome and very important video! Thank you! I personally didn't have any dysphoria, I just suddenly realized that having a longer hair and looking androgynous kinda cool (I'm AMAB), and when i asked myself, like... maybe I'm trans? No, like, I totally don't want to be a girl, but... I don't really want to be a boy, sooooo... yeah.

[@-_cat_-_paws-_]

Be careful about which store you buy gender from, I bought it really cheep and it just came in fluid form

[@MxPotato84]

I just stumbled upon this video just randomly scrolling through and im definitely going to send this to my dad so he can stop calling me a woman and female!

[@mersomelin_5855]

Your statement that even if you have a woman's body you don't have to force yourself to associate with it - is and damn true, I think! Thank you for talking about this and sharing your experience. I hope, this video will help confused people like me with self-determination, on the path to comfort and agreement with their body and reason. 🙌🏻✨😭

[@mysryuza]

There was an metaphor or something I saw in a video about a similar topic and it was like wearing a shoe on the wrong foot and somehow that helped me understand how uncomfortable gender dysphoria must feel. I never really had much of a connection with was makes a “woman,” despite having feminine features. By adulthood, I was slowly starting to not like being viewed as a “woman” like why should I be judged for my gender? I remember being salty over how the arrangement of graduation gown being gendered (red went for boys and girls had white) because I wanted to wear red. I’m glad that I can identify as Demifem where I can be seen as partly feminine in nature and not defined by what I have “down there.”

[@Skygonier]

This haircut kills me every time 😍😍😍

[@ZiiQii5462]

Hi, it's my first time watching your video. First of all, I wanna ask about myself. If you're a girl/woman and I don't mind being called anything in (Pronouns) like She/Him, but I like men/guy. Am I straight? or Am I part of a transgender person? Also, I don't want to change my body just because someone says something that I don't like in my own opinion and I am really comfortable with my body for now. I think I'm having some doubts about myself. I just want some advice and thank you :)

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

- You don't have to change your body to be trans, the goal is for people to be comfortable with their body. - Pronouns don't necessarily mean you're trans, you could just be a girl who uses any pronouns. - Do you see yourself as a girl? Do you identify as a girl? Do you like that people see you as a girl? Do you pick female characters in games? - "Straight" and "gay" weren't really conceptualized with nonbinary people in mind, but don't worry about it, you can call yourself that if you want, or not if you don't want to. It's up to you. - If you consider yourself nonbinary you CAN call yourself trans, but you don't HAVE to if you don't want to. Nonbinary falls under the trans umbrella, but it's up to you what you call yourself. Hope any of this helps!

[@ZiiQii5462]

@@HotDogTimeMachine385 Thx it helped :) Also, I like to be male or female in games and either of them is fine, but does it mean anything?.

[@roxytocin_216]

All these signs resonate with me. I'm still trying to figure out what I am tho. I've been performing the cis guy thing for awhile, but it's not working for me. I feel like I am either enby, agender or just in denial about being a trans girl

[@elinor1473]

I'm looking to learn more about non-binary & grey gender as I think it may be an underlying factor in my difficult mental health all throughout youth and the confusion I still have around my own gender identity, it will take alot of self-exploration but videos like these really help 💛

[@nyanuwu4209]

'Grey gender' isn't a thing.

[@maurgsden]

I am just so terribly confused. I only recently have remembered how since childhood I imagined myself as a male, or how I joked around with my friends that I am the guy friend of the group and feeling comfortable with that, but I also never felt disconnected from my femininity. Though I never saw both of these genders as strictly opposite things, I always searched for masculinity in my identity as a woman, and whenever I was daydreaming about being a man he always had a lot of femininity in him. I don't know if it's gender fluidity since I don't feel like my identity is shifting towards one or another, it's stable but disproportionate I think? But I do experience some body dysphoria since I have strictly feminine features, so I started working out to build some muscle to fight it. I don't know if I feel like any gender, if I feel like both genders, if I wish to just look like a man and still remain a woman, I'm so confused...

[@FoxbrushDraws]

AFAB NB who also grew up Mormon here. So validating to find more people who get it

[@LittlestAngelmochi]

This helped a lot because I struggle with my gender identity for years and I recently found out I was non-binary and the symptoms of this match me perfectly because I suffer from it very badly considering I'm still trying to process how gender dysphoria is but you making this video made me feel more comfortable in less anxious about it

[@carimeslockdownedtree2654]

funnily enough, i have no gender dysphoria or _euphoria_ anymore, but since 2020 to last year, _man_ was the dysphoria (and euphoria when i semi 'passed') real. it was only when i came out to my sister as probably trans and she told me i don't have to adhere to gender in any particular way, that i can be me, in my body, without caring about labels, that i stopped feeling it. (also, people drawing a certain character as a very masculine trans man who flaunts his non-op boobs) it's strange. i still don't like 'she', or 'he' (bc when people say it online, it comes from a place of 'everyone online is automatically male so you are immediately a 'he''. augh. i have that "logic") in english, but i don't mind 'ella' in spanish, and thinking about someone calling me 'él' makes me excited, but in general, i no longer... _care?_ _Maybe_ I'm genderfluid? but i mostly don't care? i'm happy with my body now, finally. and yes, maybe 'it' pronouns make me perk up more than they should do, but i finally feel free to dress and act however i want. i used to be bogged down to _only_ dress masculine. to HIDE every part of me that could be considered femInine, to lower my voice, to use sport bras- and i completely set aside the feminine aspects of myself i _did_ like. my clothes, for one. i never wore dresses besides those you wear after the beach, but i could no longer even wear those. now... i don't care. i dress masc, i dress fem, mostly i dress with a mix of both, but it's not out of the need to be read one way or the other. i just am. and that's something that's not the case for most people. most people, including (should i say _particularly_ ) cis people care about that so so much. but i've grown to a level of gender apathy that i no longer care how others see me. i may dislike certain terms, but... idk. it's so strange. after going through 2 and a half maybe? or is it only 2? years of dysphoria and euphoria, not caring at all anymore is _strange,_ to say the least

[@megustaelkiwi]

I think the moment I realized I was nonbinary was when I walked to the bus stop and like three people stared at me just confused, as if they were trying to decide what I was, I had never felt that happy, confusing them for some reason just felt great and I was so proud of myself, then I was like "Oh yeah that makes sense" lol

[@RayYeager-12]

This video helped me a lot.Thank you :]

[@Lyric-bh1qn]

I have secondary sex dysphoria, mainly regarding my chest. I think the biggest sign of this was when I was little and my mum was like “sorry, but in our family, the women get genes that make them flat.” And I smiled so much (while still cringing at being grouped in with “women”).

[@Farr50]

When I was little I played with blocks and took naps. Whatever happened to those days?

[@yosachaiko9969]

What does it mean to be trans, but not have gender dysphoria? What would that be like? I generally feel uncertain about myself and feel like kinda disconnected from my body like its off and I don't like my chest, legs, and voice. But its not to a great noticeable degree. Its like I can live with it, but don't like it either. So I'm confused. I keep feeling like it doesn't make sense for me to be trans and that its really unlikely to be trans without having gender dysphoria. I have my first appointment where I might get my prescription for T. I'm 24 now and want to figure it out. So I'm just gonna try taking T and see how I feel as changes begin, pay attention, and check with myself if I really want this or its actually something else.

[@6ringsofsteel]

You don't have to have gender dysphoria to be trans, that's just a talking point that's used to gatekeep being trans. But aside from that, what you're describing IS gender dysphoria. The classic narrative about dysphoria being a disconnect between your body and your real gender doesn't happen unless you're already in the process of transitioning. I felt the same way before I realized I was transfem but as soon as I started hrt I realized that I actually hated my body and my assigned gender and didn't want to live without it. What made it hard to realize I was trans was that I didn't realize that you're supposed to LIKE your gender, not just tolerate it. I think after you start T you'll realize that you love the changes and not want to go back. The part about being disconnected from your body is called depersonalization and i didn't realize how awful it was until I got to stare at myself in the mirror and see that I was becoming more like my real gender instead of feeling like I was slowly dying.

[@medzgorgon197]

How about you stop being a self absorbed, narcissist and go out into the real world where there are real problems. Jesus! You people!

[@frozenlillypad2070]

And for the first time in my life, I found a kind comment section

[@pair_odocs]

It's filled up with transphobes now. :_)

[@thedappercritter6644]

I'm currently going through a really weird yet really enlightening period where I'm questioning my gender identity. I always felt like I was a guy but I felt less comfortable with it the older I got, and I always felt distressed by the idea of being a girl physically or wearing women's clothing. I don't like having extra hair on my body. I hear my inner voice with feminine AND masculine characters I like. I feel more comfortable around women but in general but I'm also happiest in mixed gender groups or with non-binary people. Anyways I just discovered your channel while browsing youtube and I wanted to say thanks!

[@riv3rw4ter]

I know why I'm non binary, but I was interested in what you had to say anyway. I usually get feminine dysphoria, but then recently I've also started getting masculine dysphoria due to being perceived as male too frequently and wearing too much masculine clothing, so if feeling genderless weren't enough there's that as well now. So I have a skirt now :) probably not going to need it often, but gender pog

[@Хто-п6э]

I'm henlerfluid and sometimes I don't even mind looking like a woman when I feel like a man or non-binary. But it really bothers me that other people never see me as a boy psychologically. Like, all my personality traits would be perceived differently by people if I were a guy, unfortunately sociality is built that way... I am very active, emotional and social by nature, but I feel that I am not taken seriously enough because I am biologically a girl. Sometimes I feel ashamed to tell my friends that I have dysphoria now, especially since I realize that even if they use other pronouns for me, I am still biologically a girl who looks and behaves feminine, and they will still see me in a more feminine direction, not as something androgynous. I often think that because I am a girl, I am perceived as softer and gentler, and I have such features, but I want all my "feminine" features to be simply perceived as human. Socially being a girl does not allow me to freely feel like a person. I don't know what it is and how to deal with it

[@theidiotwithnoname2801]

As a they/them, the second is probably my worst kind, to the point that its more than just discomfort, but just strait up emotional damage. I’m a minor (no age disclosure) and I have a catholic family, and was taught the way Mormons typically are, from what I've seen. My grandmother literally said that she’d send a trans relative to conversion therapy. Anywho, happy existence

[@timbo3286]

Well I wish you the best of luck with that horrid grandmother of yours. Just ... no. How the hell can anyone even think about sending a person close to themselves to a conversion camp? Mind you I'm from germany and we do not have those here, thank goodness, and "conversiontherapy" as a whole was strictly forbidden in the year 2020, unless the person undergoing it is a consenting adult (and i don't see why any sensible adult would do that), but i have heard enough to know about the suicide rates of those that "visited" these things. Stay safe.

[@theidiotwithnoname2801]

@@timbo3286 thanks for that, I kinda needed it.

[@trashkitty8736]

4:12 that noise scared the hell out of me lmao

[@sondraford3644]

I can relate to pretty much everything, in this video. Thanks, ever so much. 💛 🤍 🖤 💜

[@DrJamieTalks]

Great content! 💕🏳️‍⚧️

[@UmbraStarWolf]

My body dysmorphia or dysphoria mostly comes to my face structure and hair I hate my voice too much Dysphoria with my name or being reffered to as male is distressing. I hate confrontation so I hate correcting people. Also having to dress up as a man is so uncomfortable but my mind makes me HAVE to do it Most of my life I was fine with being a man so being non binary came out of no where of me

[@torevenheim9607]

We have never been bombarded with so many impulses, can understand young people are confused, but as the years go by it will clear up eventually and you will be comfortable numb

[@blackiethecat5609]

4:51 omg 😭i was so annoyed at everything gendered, especially me getting gendered but i thought it was just me being a feminist

[@light_ow]

Hey I’m Noah 21 and non binary :) I grew up in a very very open, supportive, loving and caring environment! My parents always supported me and loved me for who I was. As a child it was noticeable that I’m not like the other boys nor girls I was always kinda different. I played with dolls but also with action figures. I used my mom’s makeup and played in the dirt. I liked boys a lot even as a child. When I started playing video games at the age of 13 I think I started using a different name cuz mine always felt wrong and i didn’t like it, so I started using Noah being called a name that wasn’t/ isn’t associated to my male phase of life was feeling great. I’m not a man nor a woman I’m kinda both and none of them I’m just being me nowadays and that makes me happy, but I don’t communicate it as much as I’d wish since I’m living in a small village where the hills not only have eyes but also ears! Anyways if you are in a situation like mine where you just don’t know what to do or what to be remember that there is no right way there is only your way and if it’s right or wrong for you will only show after a while. Live your life the best you can and love yourself!

[@keyboarddancers7751]

In Britain and Ireland, you can have as many dysphorias as you like but you'll get no help from the health service.

[@beeghost-44]

This vid has helped a lot, I understand what dysphoria is but I can't really tell if what I am experiencing is dysphoria. I want to look masc, but I like my feminine characteristics more than usual other times, like I'll hate my chest and body and wish that it was flat and I see myself as a mess or a "thing" that's not meant to exist but then at other times I love it, yes I wish I was flat but it just becomes easier to look at myself. I'm still figuring myself out but this vid helped me figure out that I am valid, I will keep trying to figure myself out and maybe even update:D

[@hunt3r_rayy]

I remember about a month ago my dad said she and I felt really uncomfortable and it just felt wrong, no I think I’m non bianary but idk yet :( ur videos have really helped me figure this stuff out!!

[@jamesphillips2285]

I suspect I may be non-binary in part because I *don't* really care what pronouns people use to refer to me. Probably not dysphoric though.

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

People often focus on dysphoria, but there's also euphoria, the happy comforting feeling you get when someone genders you the way you want. Would you prefer if people called you by they/them pronouns?

[@jamesphillips2285]

@@HotDogTimeMachine385 I have come across that term from watching many of Ash Hardell's vids (they wrote the "ABC's of LGBT" under their old name). I hate how people treated them for putting out such wholesome content.

[@TheOpinionarium]

It’s so hard for me to know, because I don’t think I generally experienced dysphoria, more just a general longing to not be in my own body. I built up a shell that came from being beat up again and again until I acted like I was male, and I buried every feminine aspect of myself and the memories of those aspects. So for years all I got when I looked at myself was pure, unfiltered hatred. To say I was dysphoric would be inaccurate, because I hated my body to the point of literal disassociation. My mind may as well have been a separate entity that never thought of the body it piloted around. Now my wish to be more feminine as I cracked the shell poured out, and I’m still kinda lost. I settled on enby for the fact that I have masculine traits I wouldn’t be without, but I long to be pretty and feminine.

[@violetstellanova4470]

That sounds like trauma. I hope you’re able to talk this out with someone.

[@TheOpinionarium]

@@violetstellanova4470 I’ve been able to a bit :) I’ve progressed and, I’m out as a trans woman. I’m honestly much, much happier in general these days (have been since I came out as bi early this year) I’m looking into HRT at this point- the amount of self growth I’ve experienced in the last 9 months has just been positively immense. I should probably see a therapist at some point, my childhood was messed up- I know. But I’m at a good point in my life right now

[@reed6514]

What's NB term for aunt/uncle?

[@charllandsberg]

Thank you for this. You put it so well for the way it feels.

[@RobinLarsen-gg1oi]

I relate to all of this so cool to find another nonbinary exmormon!

[@StardustAnlia]

I was just commenting on a transphobic video. My critique of them was that while they talked about the question of whether trans identities existed, my conceptualization is identities are truths about subjective experiences, so objective truths are irrelevant to their truth, as they affect anything that can be affected by the mind however their holders define them.

[@nathanaelgazzard7989]

5:26 three cheers for surviving the intense gender dysphoria imposed by fundamentalist Christianity! 😭

[@samalsrei5089]

7:33 YES, unfortunately my native language is heavily gendered. It‘s hard to speak about people without using feminine or masculine words…

[@Aster_NB]

i figuered out that i have Dysphoria because i wore the same Hoodie over the whole week. I tolt myself that i was doing that because i liked that hoodie but loved it because it can hide my chest the best. Now i have a binder and i can wear other things too.

[@lucas.tedesco]

😶😐

[@danisito.5]

it really hurts when people you trust that knows that you´re transgender, use your deadname (specially if you are fighting with that person). we are not the problem for being who we are, we just choose the wrong people to be with.

[@Gabriel-sn6yg]

I discovered I had dysphoria when I already know I was non-binary...

[@kitdubhran2968]

Im gender fluid and that includes enby sometimes. Im super lucky that I don’t often have body dysphoria (just occasional top dysphoria, and also wondering where my business went below the waistband. I have to remind myself that I wasn’t born with one. 😅) As far as pronouns, most of the common ones for me are fine… but no “ma’am”. Never ma’am. It’s terrible and it feels like the mental health equivalent of putting on a wet bathing suit. No thank you. Im lucky enough that I don’t feel too bothered by social gender dysphoria, except of course the whole social anxiety thing. 😂 This list was super helpful, though I really appreciate it. Thank you for posting! ❤

[@insert-name-here6777]

Hello fellow fluid. Really... what is this changing perception about? Took me quite long to figure that out. Like one month your fine and than.. wtf is that?

[@dochics1053]

My doctor says I am. Gender dysphoria

[@nathanbreadboi9223]

Bro I always felt like I was not super comfy at all with myself but I never understood why, because I knew being trans was a thing but I legit thought it was only male and female for the longest time. I know I'm not a girl, I know I'm not a boy, I'm non binary and that feels very liberating to say. So uhm, thank you for giving me validation haha