as an aromantic person, the very idea of dating apps is like...why would anyone do that?? why would anyone throw themselves into a petri dish of mediocrity with such willingness??? for what????
@sparklefulpaladin Жыл бұрын
I'm not completely aromantic, but I totally agree on the dating app thing. Like, why would one not just date their best friend, assuming one wants to date?
@simplymeowlogical Жыл бұрын
"a Petri dish of mediocrity" amazing
@starscreamthecruel8026 Жыл бұрын
When did platonic became invalid? Cant you care about your friends? Are you not supposed to?
@maryterribilini6520 Жыл бұрын
Amatonormativity is the romantic form of heteronormativity
@radicalpasta7040 Жыл бұрын
Well, sort of. Amatonormativity is the hegemonic cultural belief that everyone needs a single, monogamous romantic relationship to have a fulfilled life. Its the popular but incorrect idea that you need a single romantic “soulmate” to have a happy life.This system negatively effects both aromantic people and non-monogamous people. Your statement is sorta true but a little oversimplified. (Speaking as a queer non-monogamous person).
@pyro661 Жыл бұрын
Is "allonormative" a thing?
@radicalpasta7040 Жыл бұрын
@@pyro661 yes. Allonormativity is a thing. It refers to the societal expectation that everyone experiences sexual attraction. Allonormativity negatively effects people on the asexual spectrum. Amatonormativity generally refers to the societal expectations around romance, specifically the idea you need a single monogamous romantic “soul-mate” to be happy.These two concepts are related but not the same.
@pyro661 Жыл бұрын
@@radicalpasta7040 oh OK. Why is it specific to sexuality? Isn't alloromanticism also a thing as the counter to aromanticism?
@AydenN478 Жыл бұрын
Just a quick reminder that some people on the aromantic spectrum date. Same way some ace people have sex. It's not all of us and I'm definitely not one of them but being aromantic is not the same as not wanting to date. It just means experiencing little to no romantic attraction.
@sol_autumnleaves Жыл бұрын
Totally appreciate asexuality being a thing, you ace people are valid the way you are. I absolutely believe that the ace spectrum needs to be discussed more openly💜
@Toni-lo9ms Жыл бұрын
The correct answer to "I'm asexual" in a dating context is "cool" and politely suggest going out as friends to see if something romantic develops. Failing that let the person down politely if it's a deal breaker. If they have a micro label that includes a possibility of sex or they are cool with it without attraction that's fine but allos hear this clearly, the default is IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN. It's up to them if that changes.
@starscreamthecruel8026 Жыл бұрын
I didnt have the terms for Ace/Aro growing up but decades later, a guy that was after me in my 20's IS STILL After me and he's MARRIED!. He just cannot comphrend why I'm not attracted to him. Weird part is, I was there when he kept trying to get girlfriends and a lot of girls werent attracted to him and he kept telling me it was my fault because im supposed to step up and sleep with him TIL he got a real gf. ER ewww, no! His wife hates me and wants something bad to happen to me because she constantly gets compared to me but he doesnt believe in Ace/Aros unless you are non binary because if you are FEMALE, you have URGES. I tried to explain to him that if every single female on the planet was attracted to him, he would be six feet under because they would have TRAMPLED him while fighting each other to get there. He just stared at me like I told him something really frightening. I've only ever had ONE relationship with a guy(not this weirdo)(with sex) which I gotta say was something of a blip because I still dont know how or why it happened but then I got really badly hurt, abused and almost lost my life so anything that had woken up, went out really fast. I made a vow never again and 25 years ON I never have. Its a lot of things in my case but its too complicated to explain to ppl why I never tried to fix it, so I just tell them I'm Ace/Aro. This either gets the standard: Is that why you dont have kids? To dont worry I can CURE you. Its not an illness guys, its like my disorder THERE IS NO CURE, just leave it be.
@sequoiatrees1 Жыл бұрын
as my friend would say, "just because someone are good friends doesnt mean they would make a great relationship" he is a cis straight but he gets it 😎and supports me so ye ✔hes cool
@liamodonovan6610 Жыл бұрын
Sweetheart lynn you are the modt wholesome youtuber love you so much you're video's always make me feel better thank you for being on youtube iam asexual and aromantic but i don't really want a relationship
@bdariamihaela Жыл бұрын
The hairband is adorable
@bdariamihaela Жыл бұрын
You'd better show us that cat
@mk-aka-morgan8386 Жыл бұрын
GONNA BE FOLLOWING ALL THESE CREATORS ON TIKTOK NOW THANK YOU 💖💖💖
@JohnSmith-zw8vp Жыл бұрын
Folks, we are individuals, not groups. So just like with all those "What do men/women like/don't like" articles you see constantly...it all comes down to the INDIVIDUAL man or woman. If there's someone you like or have a crush on, forget about "What men/women like", find out what that INDIVIDUAL man or woman likes. I'm asexual myself but I don't even fit neatly into THAT stereotype...I've nothing against sex (I mean we do owe our very existence to it, do we not?) I just don't care for it. And I'm BIG TIME romantic and ADORE beautiful wholesome expressions of love like holding hands, hugging and where you see a couple and one is resting their head on the other...I think that looks especially beautiful.
@sparklefulpaladin Жыл бұрын
Honestly, I really like your stuff, as well as Ace Dad's stuff, and Crispy from Crispy's Tavern, though Crispy doesn't talk a ton about asexuality (mostly just a bit about how it comes up in TTRPGs).
@traceyshortfilm Жыл бұрын
HAHAH AMAZINGGG! Thank you for including our video!! 💜
@LilMissSpeeedy01 Жыл бұрын
I consider myself ace. I've been on dating sites for years. I've only realised I'm ace in the last year. Not only am I ace, but paraplegic. I don't have casual sex. Sex is boring to me. I honestly can't count how many men have told me I would change my mind after I have sex with them. Or I will have the best sex of my life with them 😂 They see me as a conquest for both ace and disability stuff. They "feel sorry for me" and offer me pity sex all the time lol. They immediately think I want and need to get laid when I say I haven't in 13 years.
@courtneyisaseagull Жыл бұрын
SO WHOLESOME 🥰😭🥰
@Omneyvdwatering Жыл бұрын
I think it was ace dad who said the love and sex. I would say romance and sex. I love my partner a lot. Love a lot of people in various degrees. For a long time i thought i was incapable of love, just because i don't like romance or sex. Turns out i was so wrong! And i'm Aro-Ace and Pan. I like people and don't care about their gender (or if it switches, or is fluid)
@popsquirt9370 Жыл бұрын
Yeah love can be romantic platonic familial whatever
@Cameron_44 Жыл бұрын
i just discovered that i am non-binary and im very happy about knowing that
@kerstinsweeney373 Жыл бұрын
every time your cat scratches their collar, my dog goes off.
@lynnsaga1397 Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry!!!
@cushmanarmitige2369 Жыл бұрын
Love this channel, you are a bright little light in a sea of allo cringe lol.
@figthegiant4065 Жыл бұрын
“Sea of allo cringe” Im stealing that
@mythornshaveroses6472 Жыл бұрын
I'm definitely not ace but, I can relate to so much of the feelings they express about themselves. If anyone asks, I just tell them that I am closed for remodeling.
@p0etrygh0st Жыл бұрын
these were so cute
@claudiafaustini9868 Жыл бұрын
This might seem like a bit of a tangent, but would you ever consider doing a video on aplatonism? Great video!
@veronicapatino1532 Жыл бұрын
I wish someone created an asexual app so we all can just met like others have their dating apps too
@mailyak442 Жыл бұрын
Keen for Lynn explores dating apps 👀
@best_of_ant Жыл бұрын
💜
@bdariamihaela Жыл бұрын
10:37 YESSSSSSSSSS
@mrjoker3665 Жыл бұрын
💜💜💜
@popsquirt9370 Жыл бұрын
I think Heteronormativity would be romantic and sexual but maybe amatanoromativity?
@mrjoker3665 Жыл бұрын
🖤🤍💜
@fireyjon Жыл бұрын
This may be the fact that I am a guy, but for me the reason I stopped using dating apps altogether was the sheer number of prostitutes and scam bots that I would run into. Then talking to the number of my friends who fell for them was a shocking realization and while not my defining moment was when I started questioning. So glad to be openly ace now.
@SkyCube. Жыл бұрын
Baced video
@erichamilton3373 Жыл бұрын
Wow! Someone discovered that non-sexual relationships exist! Amazing! What a dhscovery: there's a libido spectrum. Not everyone wants sex all the time...Wow! Hint: heteronormativity has always had space for this...
@Linkwaxx Жыл бұрын
Just tell anybody that is interested in you that you are not fully functional so you dont waste pple time❤