Coming Out Later in Life: From Dating Men to Finding Love at 30 (with Dope Kitchen)

Dope Kitchen’s Nicole opens up about her coming out journey - from the early days of crushing on straight friends, to threesomes in Europe, and finally finding true gay love. In a tent in Alaska, of all places!
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[@JulesLern]

These episodes make me feel so normal omg 🥹♥️

[@rmiller7771]

So relatable!! Being friends with straight women would always trip me up mentally and having that boundary.

[@Faaaa50]

Mal you’re such a good host, great sense of humor ❤😂

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

She is an incredible host. I love her laugh.

[@MiriamDebora]

I agree!! 🤣🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🌟🌈💖

[@LorenaTheWitch]

I will totally steal the “can I flirt with you” line, So cute! 🥰

[@AMB765]

Loved hearing such a positive story from a woman who came out a little later in life. It really is never to late to let yourself just be yourself!

[@ashleyn1988]

Growing up without representation can be so damaging. So many of us have gone so long living in a way we thought we were suppose to. Seeing more and more people who felt the same and acted the same is such a comfort ❤️

[@kileybatchelor]

The amount of gasps that came out of my mouth during camping story time

[@Seebee123]

I’ve folllowed Nicole for so long and to know that we went through similar journeys in life to figure out what makes us happy is so nice to know. We really aren’t alone. Im so in love with this podcast ❤

[@nebskers]

This is my favorite channel... no doubt. I can relate so much to every single video.

[@hiportugal]

thank you so much! (i produce the show hehe) any chance we could ask you to write us a real quick review on Apple Podcasts? Helps us so much so we can keep making episodes!

[@saeshakhurana9861]

love seeing you get comfortable on the pod and laughing so fully

[@carolechero]

Each episode keeps getting better✨🤌🏾, sending my love from Kenya🇰🇪❤️

[@ltrillium1000]

I love your channel. I am a 65 year old man with a daughter who is trying to navigate her way in this very confusing time. She is 20 and I so want her to allow herself to live her life the ways she believes is in her soul. I have recommended your channel and Shannon's channel. But I also like vanwives and the two canadian women - Kristen and... I think you all try to be true to yourself. Keep posting great content please.

[@kylorenthehusky2584]

You’re a great dad ❤. Wish my dad was accepting as you are

[@valenngerez]

I love listen to gay shit. Keep doing it! We needed this ❤

[@uscitizen3252]

Being inexperienced as a newly out lesbian is so real. Thanks for bringing that up.

[@soph7480]

idk why but Mal saying "fuck 🤨" at 4:48 cracks me tf up --- loving the podcast!!!

[@lxxsely]

“i will not work for the man” - mal ❤ lmao

[@Elena-du4bu]

I really enjoy watching your podcast. You seem really empathetic and you create a warm atmosphere ✨

[@JennSarracenia]

Her story of being turned away and then finding her gf made me cry happy tears! I want to find my person ❤

[@eloisejenninger9735]

Such a reassuring conversation 🥺

[@intrepid_astronaut]

Yet another "dope" episode! So hugely appreciate Nicole's candidness and vulnerability. I can't express how meaningful her transparency with her journey will be for so many people, our stories ARE our representation! Grateful for your show, it's my new favorite podcast!

[@AnnaBerlo]

Listen, but that thr*some strategy: GENIUS

[@llaneritaright]

I had doubts since 14 yo, but kept people pleasing my entourage and family, and even got married at 25. I was not unhappy, but something was missing. At 42 I fell in love with a woman, got divorced, and felt for the first time what deep love and desire was. I lost money and my house, and my family does not like my girlfriend. They keep praying that I come to my senses and find me a good man again. Every day I wake up with my girlfriend I thank God I did what I did. You have to be yourself, always. I did not have anyone relatable when I was young. Had a conservative and catholic upbringing, and just never had any other choice but being straight. It is so important what you do Mal. I find so wonderful that young people can hear this stories. Authenticity matters, and is key to a good mental health and to live a happy and fulfilling life. Thank you for this content.❤

[@kylorenthehusky2584]

Hi! ❤ wishing you well. Enjoyed your story

[@tracyhill6166]

Thank you for sharing your story. It's very relatable to me (married to a man for 14 years but now I'm admitting to myself that I think I'm gay and that's why I've never actually enjoyed hetero sex, despite the fact that I have children). Heteronormativity is the most deciding historical factor in my life. I'm 53 though, and feel a lot like she said about not being 'lesbian enough", and my lack of experience is scary to me. 😢 I feel so lonely.

[@rNeyshabur]

I recently watched “how to change your mind” and I have to say psychedelic assisted therapy sounds so interesting!

[@junevertucci3420]

Great guest. Great Host. Fun episode. Love this pod.

[@shelbymorrissey975]

Loved this guest. She’s hilarious on IG and I always got a gay vibe off of her 😂 real recognize real

[@lesliepless2939]

I enjoy the shorts and anticipate the full release with such longing, which seems very gay of me. Hell, yes!

[@bobbistgelais6404]

Love this!!❤❤ this is what I’ve always been wanting. It’s so relatable. I came out at 28. Amazing ❤❤❤

[@kweenstudios9903]

Always love tuning in for your podcast! Absolutely loved the stories shared this episode!! Now just waiting for the universe to bring me my person and I’ll be all set 😜🔥🥰

[@SaraxAdam]

loved the ep! my only thing is that it's totally valid for people with more experience to want to only date others who are where they're at, just like it's valid that Nicole wanted to explore with people who were on her same playing field when she was starting out! :) don't think it's them being judgmental but rather realizing it's not a good fit anymore

[@nylyyyn7912]

Golden content! Love ourselves first, to understand “real love” and then love others! Wow ❤extraordinary 🎉

[@julierussel3359]

Great episode. Totally relatable!!

[@kbelle9569]

Love, love, love this episode!!! Thank you for sharing your story with us. It's a nervous experience, coming in my mid 30s. But stories like this give me hope it'll get better. Thank you❤.

[@elisegray6962]

Same girl...

[@suzannenelson5976]

Every word this woman said resonates and is the exact same journey I went on in my late 20s early 30s! Surreal and validating!

[@tracyhill6166]

Thank you for this episode. I feel like a societal freak and like I don't belong anywhere as a 53 year old woman who's only had hetero long term relationships but am actually likely homoflexible (vs hetero flexible) due to puritanical culture, growing up in a conservative family, heteronormativity and my own bisexual bias. I'm still working on my journey. These discussions help open up my inner dialogue and help me achieve self honesty and exploration. ❤

[@sarahetrues]

love that people’s partners are there what a good environment ❣️

[@sweetheartxox10]

I really do love this podcast…the fact that this came out while I’m coming out at 25 is the biggest sign …no ? 😂 ❤❤ appreciate you Mal

[@amandaleo7569]

Love these episodes I wish they were longer😭😭

[@truetarottarius]

I was so fucking stoked when I saw that you had Nicole on the pod. So rad. Keep creating 😍✌

[@alanaboso8]

Love this podcast so much :,)

[@cocainekeiko]

love this episode happy that she found her person

[@risapaige7579]

THE MOST RELATABLE one yet.

[@anibr7445]

Mal, i love all of your podcast videos, you are great at listening and making the right question at the right moment. Kisses from a big fan from Brazil.

[@sarahlampz]

This is my favourite episode. Relating very hard to Nicole and all she said about how she didn’t know who she was, and didn’t know anything was certain as an adolescent, aside from knowing she didn’t have any of the same experiences and feelings as her friends. Having to do the work to just dive deep and figure it out.

[@sarahbey1304]

Great episode and such a beautiful story to hear ! Thank you Mal and thank you Nicole for the positive vibes. Btw where are these hiking trips that she organizes ? Any chance we could learn more about that or is it private/exclusive?

[@DopeKitchen]

Hi! I only do about 2-3 a year. I have one happening in Costa Rica in April that still has spots open! I haven’t started planning 2025 yet ❤

[@sarahbey1304]

@@DopeKitchen that's so interesting, how can I learn more about it and reach out to you ? Do you have like an IG for that ?

[@stephfleurigene680]

So many familiar feelings from Nicole story. I just appreciate listening to these episodes. I think this was by far my favorite one. Definitely really relatable of the coming out later in life.

[@ashleypello7532]

I need these on the daily thank uuuuuuuuuu

[@tianagarcia2795]

She’s so funny I love this!

[@chuluvokozela]

My review is that I love everything about it Mal. Cingratulations. I like every episode I watch and I try to wath every Ad fully. You're doing great.

[@pottertardis9706]

My favorite podcast ever I feel home

[@linneasvanholm909]

Make it a movie 🎥!

[@LamAnopro_]

“You don’t want to get wet” and that intro 😂

[@sharonabigailariashurtado8954]

Love it ❤

[@kencoleman5007]

OMG that cabin story.a co-worker and I are (likely) like that. She (identifying as Q) and (mtf) have been quasi-flirting for what may be a year now, and apparently she had been discussing with her co-workers about the concerts that I go to and write about. We work in separate departments and personal conversations could be stop and go, but we see eachother across the cafeteria almost everyday, and she watches when I have platonic conversations with other women. When I suggested that we talk on social, she reached over searched her Instagram handle on my phone in clicked "follow". She then left the table, saying "I'm going to the bathroom. Follow me.". Seeing that she had already hit the "follow" button, I was awestruck. Like "I... You just... Was that a line???". A tarot reader who I follow just told me today that the person thinking about me is already thinking ahead about marriage, and I thought "U-Haul!!!". The mustic said that the person's nervous about the strength of their interest in me and is cautiously revealing her feelings. The mystic saw 3 possible astrological signs, and picked this person's. Now I'm wondering how stereotypically Gemini and Scorpio this woman and I may be.

[@latticehudson]

I love this episode ❤

[@womenwelove]

good interview....I loved the honesty by both of you...

[@ximenaarriagada2132]

love it!!!

[@Raddiebaddie]

I didnt know we would get such an awesome love story too! Very cute ~

[@user-if5jy8dn3e]

Yo I love this girl! Please have her back on again!

[@brentmerlinhootboodangy8374]

Best podcast

[@susanacruz2446]

I love your channel and all your podcast. 😊 and definitely there is a pattern 😅 I also quit my job and I moved from my country in Central America to Europe. I already had my first girlfriend being on my 30's. 😊

[@shelbymorrissey975]

Mal! You not doing your taxes sent me 😂 For the listener: You can definitely be penalized for this if you do end up owing money, and they charge interest.

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

an important psa for the people!!

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

I dont stan cheating honestly. I always think about the person on the receiving end in these stories. I personally have never and would never fk with someone in any kind of exclusive relationship/do anything behind the partners back. Not worth it. Also those who do start relationships like that are likely to be on the receiving end later, or lose their partner the same way. It's a matter of integrity. I've had people towards the tail of a relationship that were extremely desirable and tempting but never crossed that line.... despite my partner having neglected me, mistreated me and cheated on me... but one of us left the relationship with a sense of stability in themselves founded on unshakeable good values and the other doesn't... they cycle through the same thing over and over again. I'd rather hold back my own 'wants' and have integrity, than lose integrity to pursue those wants at the cost of someone elses emotional health, trust and wellbeing. Because I know too well how much that can fk with someone's life. I'm hoping this situation was not as it came across... its important to not celebrate infidelity, even in WLW love stories.

[@hiportugal]

This is fair, but an important detail that was left out is that she was in an open relationship :)

[@DopeKitchen]

It was an open relationship. You don’t have all of the details, and I intentionally left a lot of detail out in order to be somewhat respectful of the relationship that was left. There was no cheating.

[@SaloYD]

This episode is tooo goood 😂😂

[@IAMAJNAMUSIC]

Can’t wait any longer to ask what the book is at the end!!! Where the girls at lmaooo

[@hiportugal]

Thank you for asking!!! It is a book of lesbian erotic haikus written by me, the producer! Glad you are enjoying!! Feel free to submit some :)

[@IAMAJNAMUSIC]

@@hiportugal the best!!!

[@backho5882]

Sameeee. It made me so akward in skool

[@charlycharly2565]

Yesterday was the first day I heard my best friends talk about how they would only bring their men into our Christmas tradition if they’re either married or have kids and I was sitting there thinking fuck I don’t want that, I felt so weird and distant for the first time. Then I asked if they would accept me bringing a woman and they said “sure. Of course. It’s all the same to us.”

[@ico2110]

Me encanta saludos de México City !!!

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

I'm catching up love this podcast ❤👏👏👏 🌈 the pandemic really helped a lot of humans discover themselves

[@dewleneafrica5779]

Fucking loved this interview...❤❤❤❤

[@IAMAJNAMUSIC]

I pizza & podcast every Tuesday with this, and I’m recruiting more for some gay ass shit! Leggo

[@zoyaroya]

❤❤

[@kasaaa_]

yo. just read all the love songs by nicole pyland, kinda similar with meeting up at camp

[@backho5882]

Its only later in life did i understood why ive always been akward w friendships and women ..that would happen when i was attracted to them

[@jordyndillard8794]

as a trans woman, i still adore this channel and all the positive content

[@backho5882]

Always in our spaces!

[@alaadamfree]

❤

[@robinriebsomer4607]

i feel rather sad that you had to turn to psychedelics to sort yourself out. I have heard that psychiatrists are giving patients psychedelics with close supervision for depression and that people who are terminally ill who have been given psychedelics lose their fear of death. As a retired substance use counselor I would not recommend recreational use of these drugs since some of the people who sell them don't care how safe they are.

[@risapaige7579]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

😎😃😊😜😍😘💖

[@dibaldgyfm9933]

The unspoken thoughts about hot girls, men's fear of FF (WW) relations, is only the tip of the iceberg in MF relations without balance, ... or something ...

[@Eli_sharing_TheGospel_]

Romans 1:26-27 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error. Romans 10:9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

[@fresh-eggs]

There's no credible evidence to show or support a God in existence anywhere in reality.

[@Eli_sharing_TheGospel_]

@@fresh-eggs well faith is belief with the absence of evidence so… Also, creation itself is all the proof we need tht God exists. Do you rlly think the universe created itself?

[@fresh-eggs]

@@Eli_sharing_TheGospel_ Firstly faith is pure gullibility.

[@fresh-eggs]

@@Eli_sharing_TheGospel_ Faith is pretending to know things you don't know.

[@fresh-eggs]

@@Eli_sharing_TheGospel_ And as far as science data has shown the universe started at the Big Bang.

[@jenohuang262]

PLEASE MORE UHAUL&UGHOST GAMES!😂Always love this part