Finding Your People: Building Queer Community & Lesbian Friendships (with Lexi Dussi)

[@mrs.rodriguez-vidal1461]

Many years ago my wife and I joined a queer Latin women’s group. It was nice the first few outings but then some women in the group turned out to be catty and competitive. It was an unpleasant experience. All of our friends are straight and although we love them, we hope to make friendships with queer women, particularly other couples in committed relationships. I’m actually really considering starting a couples group but I’m not sure how to begin. Keeping hope alive in NJ!

[@someonesomehow379]

as a closeted lesbian in the middle east I needed this.. I’m comfortable with who I am and yk juggling spirituality/religion and being gay is a whole thing BUT I do think I’m gonna move somewhere at some point of my life.. so yes anyway loved this episode because community is so incredibly important like we all long to that no matter in what aspect of life.. thank you mal for this podcast I LOVE IT!

[@elisku7065]

I'm also there .. can i have your insta profile to context and maybe became friend ?

[@angelp0of_]

best wishes to you!

[@someonesomehow379]

@@elisku7065 omg just saw this!! how old are u??

[@someonesomehow379]

@@angelp0of_ aww thanks!! to u tooo :_)

[@elisku7065]

@someonesomehow379 I'm also just saw it now .. I'm 21 .. my birthday wasn't so far 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@mariac0511]

Hey! I am a constant podcast listener but this one blew my mind. I find myself waiting for a new one every time-it's become a highlight for me. I love the way you share your experiences; it makes me feel a genuine connection, even though our upbringings and countries may be very different. Greetings from Colombia!

[@nikamarijanovic8213]

Same!! I'm from Croatia and it's crazy to think it's had a similar effect on me from so far away. I think the personal stories they tell and are hilarious imo are the reason why it's so fun to watch. I don't know how I came across this podcast but it's slowly becoming my go to thing to watch before bed. 🥰

[@ineslove18]

Same from Switzerland

[@cocainekeiko]

Lexi Dussi's personality is amazing. Cheers to her coming out

[@malialmaooo]

i’m 17 and i just found this podcast. it’s now my new favorite thing to listen to. i’m in this weird part of my life where i feel like im never gonna get out and be able to find people like me, but listening to the stories of the people you have on here really makes me look forward to my future. thank you 🫶

[@LamAnopro_]

❣️

[@megshogie6123]

You will find your tribe, they are out there! Try not to get discouraged. And keep listening to Mal! Her and her amazing guests give some very good advice, have some great stories and experiences, maybe give you some ideas how to go about FINDING your group.

[@EmiliaSkade]

Same here!!

[@tracyhill6166]

I wish I was your mother because I would love you and accept you no matter what happens while you figured it out. The worst thing you could do would be to be marry a man instead of exploring this. Don't try to live a safe, "normal" life. It's YOUR life and it's the only one you've got. ❤

[@jo_spot]

Lexi is hilarious

[@mariaweisner6566]

I'm dying here 😅. She is hilarious. Bless your heart Lexi.

[@adrianafajardo4036]

The people you invite keep getting better and better! So funny

[@caseysteidle7256]

Lexi is a national treasure!!

[@Seebee123]

Lexi and you need to do this together. This has been my favorite episode, I’m really loving this podcast

[@Iknow_xo]

This has quickly become one of my fave podcasts👏🏻 I'm excited to see you grow!✨

[@wendella6920]

So enjoy your podcast! Recently found it and have binged almost all!

[@Rushofthewind]

This episode with Lexi and Mal made me laugh so much. I find myself waiting for new episodes to come out and I absolutely love this new series. 💗✨

[@FlyMeToWonderland]

Lexi‘s humorous art of story-telling is top notch 😂 Thanks for making this podcast, Mal. It is much appreciated ❤

[@HighwaytoHobbs]

Lexi, you’re the whole package! Please never change. This episode was 100% the funniest thus far. 😂

[@margaux1593]

I absolutly love your podcasts, they're so comforting, thank you for that and for making me laugh :)

[@indegrrees]

I enjoy your podcast and look forward to new episodes. I didn't know any of the guests apart from Shannon, and I find it refreshing and very interesting to learn about them and their experiences that are so relatable.

[@debbiebeveridge3237]

Another great episode! Mathilde has the best parties with the best friends. And of course, Shannon does too!

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

We love you Deb!! See you at pride 🌈

[@Honanna90]

Love Lexi as a guest!! She is hilarious and it's great to show the celebration and pride of 🌈

[@BlownAwayYeahFY]

I absolutely love your podcast ! It has been such a delight to listen to you and all of your guests, I'm so glad when the notification pops up saying that a new one is out (no pun intended) ! I could listen to them all day long and never get bored, it brings a sense of community quite needed at the moment. I love that they have different life stories and experiences, yet at the end, love always prevails.

[@mimicolapietro2086]

My favorite podcast so far!!!! She is hilarious and just so real! Loved it!!!

[@starchild2727]

I don't get why you wouldn't just tell Heather "I'm going out- see ya later!". But glad ya got out! ❤

[@deboravolpini3341]

"I have a date, see ya later" .... It's not your mother, it's just heather... 😂

[@niqueo9233]

Some friendships are so close that it’s normal to be like “oh? Where you goin? Who you hangin out with?” And if you refuse to answer, they know you’re doing something weird lol

[@AnnaKS78]

The end is so hilarious😂Thank you to everyone who made this episode. You r incredible❤❤❤

[@adelle468]

Interesting to see that it is sort of the same thing all over the world. Nice to see someone that obviously has some experience of the gay life and just life in general and who is obviously also a highly sensitive human that still resort to a fabolously quirky sense of humor to navigate through these topics without making it too serious while still bringing home the more serious messages, and seemingly universal messages in here. Greetings from South Africa. Thanks for a fantastic podcast !

[@megshogie6123]

Yay!!! Its that time! I was so excited to wake up and watch this today. And as per usual, did NOT disappoint. Thanks Mal, and Lexi 😊 Made my morning! Ok, I just HAD to add...New Jersey!!! Make us one of the stops when you gals go on your RV excursion! Pretty please. Hehe a gal can dream, cant she??😊🌠 That really would be so fun though.

[@JulesLern]

Love these tips and tricks on how to seek out community and get out of your comfort zone!!

[@livham1816]

Lexi is hilarious and a fantastic story teller. Another great episode, Mal! So glad I discovered this pod.

[@madisonmccoy4388]

What an amazing episode!! I love hearing the stories of all the guests!! This podcast is an amazing thing that makes every queer individual feel accepted!!! Keep it up ladies!!! ❤❤

[@rosun00]

Waiting for the podcast every week❤

[@juliecarlson2778]

I love Tuesdays for this! Thanks for another great episode - Lexi is hilarious.

[@JustJamey]

I needed this today. Thank you.

[@TechAC81]

Did anybody else screenshot the map? 😂

[@peterb1861]

People should move or travel, if they can. Its so Eye opening and mind expanding!

[@munaaa.o]

This was wholesome to watch❤🥂

[@valenngerez]

There is something about this podcast that makes it so easy to watch and enjoy. Well done 👏🏻❤

[@Blue-ke9fu]

I could binge this daily this is such a great podcast!

[@JoyNova]

Loved this, i laughed so much😂

[@fleuravril1952]

Thank you so so much for this podcast! 💓You can’t imagine how much listening to this means to me as a newly outed lesbian.

[@aimmmssaw3339]

I’m absolutely loving this podcast!!! Every one of them has pulled me in. There’s something so relatable with Mal and each of the guests that she’s had on these podcasts!! I get so excited to see the shorts because I know that a new podcast is soon to follow and I’ll be able to get my “Made It Out” fix😁😆🌈❤️

[@alexnichter8528]

Have been looking for Queer friends for 10 years where I live and have never found them. But I’m taking their advice and hopefully I’ll find some

[@spollock131]

same!!

[@laurenhills239]

The way I never miss an episode

[@ingridslashy]

i freaking love this podcast

[@Dani-lh4yy]

i like this girl, make her famous

[@cmerry3996]

This pod SLAYSSSS

[@timtam39tw]

Now that was a real expensive sneak away date My Damn😂😂🎉😂

[@Ytb_hovie]

Another great episode!

[@stellafrazier73]

Great episode yet again!! I love when people share their coming out stories. And is it just me or does Mal look like a younger Jennifer Anniston? 😅

[@LeeLoKins]

This is fast becoming one of my podcasts to listen to

[@princessadora7777]

❤❤❤ Love the singing part at the end🔥

[@jaleesatuttobene7432]

Funniest episode so far lol I love this Podcast and the uplifting feeling it gives. How can I come interview?? haha So I can.."network".

[@Roy_kerani]

Just subscribed yesterday and I'm now addicted ...❤❤

[@someonesomehow379]

hey is lexi a comedian or like does she do stand up?? if NOT she should!!

[@healthyself7941]

Not sure what "exploring" one's sexuality is. Growing up, and now, I always found girls attractive. A small percentage of people find same sex attractive. It's not like visiting different countries, exploring, to see which you like best.

[@hiruki8]

Not entirely certain we're actually that small of a percentage. It's stigmatized so a lot of people won't admit it or are in denial. Plenty of people don't even REALIZE the reason their love life sucks is because they're in a het relationship but they're actually same sex attracted. All these late bloomer lesbians who really didn't know exist. It's going to get easier as time goes on

[@neddyfernandez1875]

This is the funniest guest! 😂

[@hiportugal]

I want to marry Lexi!

[@kileybatchelor]

How did Heather take the breaking news tho?

[@karlymorgan6011]

Love this podcast! ❤️

[@sarahbey1304]

Ok that was so fun, speaking about friends, how to become friends with Lexi ?

[@Miyaslife]

I’ve been contemplating moving for a while and this feels like confirmation 💜

[@MadeItOutPodcast]

the sign ✨

[@kohyimei8732]

Reminds me... I had a "Joshua Tree" scenario. It was an experience, so to say. I can relate to the mess of a scenario it can be.

[@mihaelamars]

I hope I find a group of friends like yours. This is just #lifegoals! Or maybe I should just track you down and join your friend group 🤣

[@ok223ful]

I love it!!!! I think could be good idea make a lesbian party and we can meet each other 🙌🏻💃🍾

[@tracyhill6166]

I wish you would do a podcast about older women who are coming out. I'm in my early 50's and have left a LONG marriage because I was so very sad and unhappy with him. (He's a good man. A good husband even ... Just that he's a man and I actually am not attracted to men. ) He's not right for ME. I don't know anyone who has come out in their 50s or know of anyone who has air quotes changed teams this late in life. I feel so lonely and I have imposter syndrome and I feel like I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life. Clearly I have issues and would love to hear other people's experiences with this. Surely I can't be the only one

[@chack4845]

Please do the show daily 🙏 😂.

[@nowthisisliving]

lexi is a tired top

[@eloisejenninger9735]

“What was the question” “I say hmm maybe” 😂 made me laugh so much. I love this podcast !! PS: Come to London !

[@bertieborough]

You know the old adage, "it's a gay gay world". Well, that's why guys have 'Footy' and 'drinks with the boy's' and girls have 'girl's night's out' and so on, because (and I know I'll get burnt at the stake for saying this) but like it or not, there's a little bit of gay in all of us. And Lexi's comment about the interconnectedness of a group of lesbian's past and present dating relationships reminds me so much of Lesha Healy's L Word character's 'Sex Board'.

[@DKHarris-v5o]

I love your podcast.

[@nikolettachaimeli3293]

Job application : GAYYY 😂😂😂

[@emi7916]

i love her deadpan humour

[@Sassafrassa55]

Come to NZ!

[@ceceu9]

I relate too much with Lexi and I love it 😂😂😂😂👌

[@imani877]

WTFFFF She’s so funny!!💀

[@llaslinvidal7042]

Love ur show definitely im definitely new....for last two years I bin trying to come out as bi...ur podcast show has inspired me to be myself 💯and that I'm not alone ❤ ...💯#34

[@dreamergurlOG]

The best advice I've ever seen about this is to not fuck inside the circle, which is basically what Lexi is saying lol. Because if you do, especially as a new person to the group, you're always going to piss someone off (an ex or someone else who is interested) or cause drama or, if the relationship ends and you were the newcomer, you're now out and you've lost the community you just got. So it's best to fuck as far outside the circle as possible- which can be tricky but is def worth it lol.

[@biologygeek31]

This is such a great podcast. I do wish you guys come out in your RV and have a live podcast in my city, San Francisco, where lesbian bars was a thing of the past. Pretty sad. But the community here has dried up.

[@SL8NS]

She is hilarious!!!!

[@gwen3842]

I love you ! Make Puerto Vallarta your first stop …

[@NanceN_12]

Fun episode.

[@HayleeKlinger]

Buffalo ny for the tour.

[@helenlawson8426]

Lexi was so much fun to listen too. x If you'd asked me before this episode if I'm one of life's organisers I would have laughed hysterically at just the idea of me being able to get my shit together. Now after this episode and thinking back about before I was out, juggling two lives while most my friends were struggling with just one... yep I can organise all right. 😊 Bloody exhausting way to live though, glad I got to leave all those secrets & lies behind and the greatest of respect to those unable to make it out. x Oh and did I somehow miss how Heather took Lexi coming out?

[@whatnot6647]

This was hilarious!!

[@celinel9750]

Finding those friend, creating bound and friendship is giving yourself your chosen famely, it was like that since way befor internet ( I'm that old ;-) ) but tru sport, club and even fandome, it's easyer then you think, just get out of your confort zone a little bit and the feild of rainbow will open 🙂

[@angellombness4371]

celebrate [comment engagement

[@JakiśTakiś]

❤

[@smussum98406]

Why can’t we all just be friends?

[@kristiemars7747]

💓

[@drich329dr]

❤️

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

😎😃😊😜😍😘💖

[@idab6864]

Im howling laughing oh my god

[@HeidiFieldAlvarez]

Come ski and party at Snowshoe Resort, WV. They desperately need a lesbian invasion! It’s also currently home to the legendary gold star lesbian mountain biker Missy Giove 🎉

[@lyndseygolden7546]

Don’t need that today 😂

[@Allykey-d4c]

Why are all your ads about Gaza? Your donations are going towards the richest leaders in the Arab world.

[@nicoles.2588]

I cant find one gay friend lol

[@lyssasletters3232]

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