EXTREME clothing declutter || Confessions of An Emotional Hoarder Part 1

HAPPY 2023 FRIENDS! Today I'm sharing the first of a series on pursuing a simpler home, and the very personal reasons behind why I have SO much stuff. While I don't think I'm pursuing minimalism, I am definitely looking to make my home, wardrobe, and life much simpler. I hope you all enjoy coming on this journey with me!
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[@WithLoveKristina]

Hey friends! I have KZbin set to auto generate captions for this video, and for some reason it will not. I am working on a caption file but it make take me a while because I have VERY limited time. Thank you for understanding!

[@deejarrell9112]

I Sooo get you. I'm much the same. I've recently switched to a few habits that are helping. I use fabrics I love to do fabric art and quilt. I began a memories journal where I pick up an item to get the feeling or memory, then I write it down. Amazingly, that freed me to let go of the item. Just beginning this whole process, but happy with results so far. Kids clothes I loved? Cutting into quilting blocks. You're welcome to use these ideas😉

[@martelvonc]

Don't think of it as just "getting rid" of things. Think of it as passing the love you had for the items on to someone else who can love them again.

[@WithLoveKristina]

Yes! This is such a good mindset.

[@hknisley2000]

I know this is old but I really appreciate how honest and candid you were.

[@susancheveralllong7694]

"Everything has a season". Is a big thing someone said to me a very long time ago. We have a mental change every 7 years. Just because we are adults doesn't stop us growing.😊

[@rog5184]

You inspired me to get finally donate the 15 bags of clothes I don't wear anymore that has been just sitting there for a year. Also, I have been too ashamed to let myself accept that, although I love grandmacore and 50's vintage, I feel best when my clothes is 90's with a romantic twist.

[@WithLoveKristina]

Oh I’m so glad this inspired you to finally let go of some things that have just been sitting. I bet that feels so freeing! Yes! I love 50s style but have to acknowledge that it’s just not for me right now and maybe never will be. 90s with a romantic twist sounds so cute!

[@nancyboruta7060]

You're changing, you're growing, you're getting older. You will find that happening in your life as you age. A color you may have really disliked, now you love! Same with style, music and other things. Embrace the changes. Life is a journey and these changes are a part of it. 🎉❤

[@henriettahenson]

You are my favourite vintage channel to watch.. You are so real.. Just great... thank you.. I don't know how you find time to do what you do, but it's great to watch... 👍💞

[@stringofpearls4551]

At 62, I realize my Mom was a hoarder; my elder brother (who suffered brain damage from an accident) was a hoarder, and my eldest ADHD son is a hoarder. I have learned there are different "levels" of hoarding: as a child, we all knew to scramble and hide Mom's "clean" clutter in drawers and closets when guests were coming. As an adult, I still remember the pain of taking off of work to help a sister clean my brother's awful apartment so he would not be evicted. And it pains me that my own son lives in a way that damages both him and his family. This is a very real problem, there's no easy answer, but I commend you for taking it on truthfully. I, myself, have literally "cleaned out/purged" and equipped numerous people with whole house "set ups" in the event of fire, new marriage, etc. I am .a maximalist and struggle against it, but I hope your honesty will encourage others to know this is a very real struggle, not to be shamed, and above all to be compassionate. I have seen and experienced the mental/emotional struggle of "cleaning up" that so many find natural, and they do not understand the turmoil others face. Bless you for being honest and plowing through:) If you haven't been there, it's difficult to know how hard the journey is for others. I so resonate with your honest confession that the "ideal 50s housewife" is something you appreciate but honestly don't want to "cling to." The idea of it, you said. I guess that means I need to donate the Indian sari I bought because of the ideal and have never, ever worn. And about 5 other things!!! Thank you:) PS- Your'e adorable with bangs! Wish i were...

[@Glowupby40]

Rewatching your videos again to «help» with the backyard crisis. Who would have known that it’s me who really needed this help right now. Thank you! ❤

[@fishoftheflock4243]

You probably won’t see this comment, but my solution to pocketless skirts/dresses is bike shorts with pockets. It protects my thighs from chafing, and I can mischievously flip my skirt up to access them. I get a kick out of it, but I know it’s not for everyone. ❤

[@JoelleGrace]

21:45 this cardigan is sooo beautiful! It’s kind of reminiscent of the 1970’s esc hippie bohemian style that I love!😍

[@Diniecita]

Kristina, you look so beautiful carrying your child. Being pregnant is a hormonal roller coaster, but worth it.

[@opheliadavey8140]

It's so nice to see your style evolve and your perception of it change. It's a beautiful journey I cannot wait to be part of. I subscribed for the vintage style and decluttering videos but I'm staying for Kristina 🖤

[@karenstairs8273]

I think your intro was very helpful in getting to know where you are in your process. I don't think you have to become minimalist to live a simple abundant life. Simple living to me is so different from minimalist. I too use the things I have kept over the years. It has to be what is right for you and what makes your happy and content. I have what some call a Quirky love of Antiques and much loved items. Lots of books and lots of cozy items. You did a really good job going through your clothes!!! I think finding your style changes through the seasons of your life. Parting with the clothes that you did will make someone very happy.

[@jackiezorko2562]

Your gentle style , authenticity and transparency make your videos the best !

[@WithLoveKristina]

Thank you so much

[@Fwyd]

When shopping new or vintage, make sure the garment has pockets! That will cut down your culling process. I enjoy your videos.

[@christiana_mandalynn]

This is so cathartic and vulnerable 😭 thank you for allowing us to be on this journey with you. It’s totally okay to embrace different stages/eras of your life, and not be expected to live in those segments for ALL of your life. ❤ I really love the 1950s. But I have come to realize that I don’t feel my best in many of those styles…. It’s so hard because while I WANT to look vintage, the ‘50s isn’t my best era, for my personal style. And that’s okay. I wanted SO badly to be like certain vintage influencers- I love Rachel Maksy’s style, or Shirinatra, but when I tried to copy those styles, I didn’t feel like *me*. It’s been a few years but now I know that I am drawn to more vintage styles reminiscent of an 1930s archeologist or something Safari, and flowy, rustic bohemian. And I think ultimately, evolving your style to your own *personal style* is what it’s all about! You look so at home in your more cottage-y, simple, rural 1800’s farm style. It’s so beautiful on you, the peasant dresses and smocking. ❤

[@janecheer]

This is such a vulnerable video, thank you for taking us on this journey, Kristina! I'm an emotional hoarder too, and I've been dreaming of having a smaller wardrobe too. I declutter about twice a year, and I try to shop suuuuuper seldom, the hardest part is when friends or family gift me some of their old clothes, ESPECIALLY if it actually looks vintage - not my style, not my colors, not flattering, but still kinda vintage - so I feel obligated to keep it all. Also, I've already mentioned it once on your channel, I'm in Russia and it's a REAL challenge to donate clothes for some goddamn reason, and I'm too socially anxious to sell, so when I do pluck up my courage to get rid of stuff, I end up carrying it in bags to a dumpster and luckily it's gone in five minutes! :) Turns out, a great way to think about extreme decluttering is moving! I've recently gotten married and hopefully sooner than later I'm gonna be moving literally to the opposite side of the planet to my now long-distance husband - of course, with the essential minimum of things. He said, "I'm sorry you're gonna have to make lots of decisions as to what to leave and what to take with you", and I said, "Sorry?!? I'm looking forward to that! Finally I'm ONLY going to have the things that truly bring me joy!"

[@SvayaG]

I moved once or twice a year for the first 10-ish years of my young adult life and I thought I was good at keeping my stuff minimal..... Until I finally got married and moved into a house we don't plan on leaving 😅 turns out moving was a bit of a crutch for me. I need to relearn a way to maintain that doesn't involve something like a move. Fingers crossed seeing others do it helps me too 🤞

[@sandraklary4872]

I know it's gonna sound weird, because we don't know each other, buit I'm gonna say it anyway: I'm so proud of you!

[@mermaliade6631]

There's no reason that something that is efficient can't be somewhat decorative and serves both purposes. It's hard sometimes because we accumulate so much. I used to clean hoarder houses when I was in my twenties and there is so much emotional attachment there, as well as worry and stress related to certain items. I think what I myself have learned from that experience is that everything in a home should serve a purpose and function to the home whether it brings you Joy or actually does a specific thing. I can't stress that enough. People don't realize how much clutter can impact a person's stress level and health.

[@rowanford8141]

pairing down for ADHD is amazing. i have auADHD and made it so everything hung in my small NYC closet (about 60 pieces) because when i had a dresser i would never fold and therefor never put things away and moving away form the need to do that dramatically improved my life

[@GingerWitch]

as someone who has adhd and anxiety, I find it so calming to have less in my house and I hope you find this to be true too

[@be83]

I just did a declutter of my little house and it felt so good. I donated books and DVDs to the library, and donated clothes and pots and pans to the Good Will. I think I may do another deep dive this month. I am also an emotional hoarder, and a craft hoarder too.

[@jessicacole5955]

A to zen is great- I also highly recommend A Hoarder's Heart is you haven't found her already. Been following her journey for years and it's astonishing how far she has come and I think some of her tips would be helpful.

[@ah5721]

I love hoarders heart

[@GoingGreenMom]

I like the mindset of minimalists of only keeping things you love or use regularly, but I lean toward what I am calling functionalist. I strugglewith items that are strictly decor, but jars of food is beautiful to me. Tools are beautiful to me. Etc.

[@angelajoyce88]

I love how real you are. Laundry is a massive struggle for me and my family of 8. So overwhelming. For years, I thrifted way too many clothes for everyone. You know how it goes, "well this will fit them next yea" or "this is a good deal, if I dont get it now, I'll regret it later". Now I just buy new, and I'm intentional about what I buy, only buying what I need at that moment and taking an inventory of clothing before getting more. This has helped so much. For a long time, I let others get to me, like I'm a "bad" person when I buy new. I've also always struggled to keep the house clean, while having baby after baby, while dealing with anxiety/depression/feeling constantly overstimulated. I'm 34 and just had my 6th baby, and I'm finally realizing that most everything is made up. Everyone has their own version of reality and I don't have to make it my problem when they think I should be a certain way. I'm not anyone else, I can make up my own reality. I don't have to (and shouldn't) listen to everyone else's version of how I "should" be. I love in past videos how you said mess isn't a moral issue. It's so true, we live in a world full of shame, telling people they're either good or bad on issues that aren't morality based whatsoever. I hope one day I find a friend like you. You have such a good heart and it shines through your videos. And I love your sweater. ♥️

[@ah5721]

Time to get the tubes snipped if your struggling.

[@kierstinl3787]

I love this! I struggle with thrifting. I really need to do as you do. ❤

[@michellepowell9341]

I've just found your channel and adore it and you! When my girls were small, I sorted through my wardrobe as you are -- I purged a LOT into vintage suitcases, becoming their dress-up clothes. I loved watching them enjoy the vintage hats, sparkly things, beautiful scarfs, handbags, gloves, capes, etc. It was easier to part with things that weren't working for me, passing them to them for creative play. They've grown up and into those items so much quicker than I ever expected. ♥

[@hjordisoskarsdottir6873]

Minimalism has helped me tremendously. I have depression and it helps me not getting as overwhelmed. It is not a fix for every of the worlds problems but it does help a lot. Also it makes moving house a lot easier, I know I've moved house 6 times in the last 5 years.

[@hjordisoskarsdottir6873]

Also I'll keep watcing your videos whatever style you fallow because I really like you and your personality.

[@msamios.321]

I adore watching vintage creators on KZbin, but part of me always knew that recreating vintage looks for myself wasn't really my goal. Maybe your fashion goal is more like mine -- to dress in a comfortable, classic, timeless manner. I actually have a minimal wardrobe, because that helps me get dressed in the morning (I finally got the necessary referral to see a psychiatrist to get assessed for ADHD...at age 57!). Anyway. Just saying that you can adore vintage without being married to it. Finding your personal style where you are comfortable being you is a great thing! I'm so happy that you are finding that now, instead of waiting until you are 57.

[@msamios.321]

Oh. And it's okay to mourn the things you let go...even when you know letting go is the right thing to do. You brought those items into your life because you felt like they reflected part of you, or maybe part of who you thought you wanted to become. It is perfectly natural to have an emotional attachment, a relationship, with the clothes we wear...and the clothes we don't. I hope you find some peace in this journey. I have been in a state of constantly editing my belongings since my mother moved from her home to a senior living community about fifteen years ago. It was so much work for all us to help her edit down her belongings and clean the home we once lived in. I never want to do that to my kids. While I wouldn't say that I am a minimalist at this point, I would say that I try to be aware of what belongs serve me, as opposed to what belongs demand my service. I hold the former dear, and try to detach from the latter. I don't always succeed...it's a perpetual process, but so worthwhile. Anyway. Yeah. Taking account of one's belongings and choosing between what fits (emotionally, practically) is hard work. You got this, Kristina. And you have an entire community of followers supporting you in this journey.

[@s.h.9132]

I’m so proud of you for doing the hard work of downsizing! Blessings to you!

[@rach2111]

I feel like a lot of us are going through an evolution too. Don't feel bad about your style changing, we're here for it.

[@Coz_tol]

Having difficulty with clothing after having a baby is something i didn’t expect although it makes sense. I’ve changed, my body has changed, my lifestyle has changed. I have no idea what my style is anymore other than it’s changed. I think it’s gonna be a long road to figuring out. I feel the guilt of getting rid of things from my old life 😅 but I’m never gonna wear them again!

[@carolinerosekraft2575]

Soooo inspiring! It reminds me of the end of Austenland when she clears out her Jane Austen bedroom 😭

[@CaseyMaura]

I paused about halfway through when you were talking about your style realization, because I just had to comment! I went through a similar journey a couple years ago (I was a blogger for a long time too); I spent my 20s and early 30s trying to build a 40s/50s style wardrobe so I could wear it every day. But after I had my second child, I realized that wardrobe was the “idea of who I wanted to be” rather than who I really am. Coupled with body changes due to childbearing and age, I didn’t feel comfortable in my own skin when I was wearing things I thought I really wanted to wear. I culled *a lot* about 3 years ago and it was emotional as a lot I got rid of were things I’d made. I made a huge dent in my own closet, though I haven’t been able to bring myself to pare down my vintage sewing pattern collection yet. I still have a fairly sizable wardrobe (I still love fashion!), but I’m thrifting and buying more intentionally things that are comfortable and practical (I’m a SAHM who homeschools; so it’s not like I need to get dressed for an office or whatnot daily). I still wear a lot of vintage, and my outfits do make nods to my love of mid century fashion, but I’m at a much happier and lighter place emotionally when it comes to my wardrobe! I actually enjoy getting dressed in the morning now! Which has also been something I realized in all of this: if I find myself struggling to wear a piece I’ve brought home, or feeling guilty I don’t wear it more often, that’s usually a sign it’s not for me and I pass it on. Anyway, long, rambling comment, but I wanted to say I really appreciate your honesty and vulnerability!

[@gsthompson4592]

I am 70 now & have A Lot of things that don't work any longer. Thanks for the inspiration of moving on. ... Glenda

[@monicamayer977]

About 3:30 in the morning, I got up and cleaned out everything in the closet. Drawers! Crazy, the things I spent money on that I never wore. Had a chair of maybe...donated all and avoided that thrift shop:) the maybe chair.... soon

[@sandrab5477]

I found myself while watching you sort your clothes. I never own that many clothes because I am not a big fashion person but the think I kept for years and years was clothing in smaller sizes. Because it was very hard for me to accept that I gained weight. I was hoping that I would fit again in those one day and that day never happened. I was also restraining me from buying cool/fun/cute clothes and always thinking "I will wear that when I will lost XX kilos". One year ago I realized that I wasn't living so I got rid of all those small clothes, I even cried while sorting them but now, my dresser is full of clothes that fit, that are confortable, that I can wear and it makes such a difference on my mood when I open my drawers.

[@labradorite8256]

I had a couple of realizations when I went through that process. First, if I'd known I would change shape so much I'd have worn that stuff way more often! I didn't get to enjoy it whilst I could, "saving" it. Second, the other thing that had changed was me inside, and it dawned on me I wouldn't wear those clothes even if I DID lose the weight, which sort of underscores the first point, because those clothes were for a certain era of my life and that has passed, not just because of the weight but because I'm a different person now.

[@Maryqueenofairs38]

There is a whole culture of minimalism where people think that it’s better to have barely enough and be satisfied. But that requires doing laundry more often, having less options for outfits, and just less fun. I love how you mentioned having a functional wardrobe vs a minimal one. I like to purge things every so often, but I am holding onto some sentimental purchases for emotional reasons. Let’s be real about what we need and what we want, especially when it comes to clothing. It should have a function. I totally get where you’re coming from because I feel as if I am slowly letting go of things I no longer need. It’s hard because of the desire to acquire more after a purge. The emotional attachment is just conflicting with my lack of space and adhd attention span. Also, your choice or background music is beautiful! ❤ :D

[@amandalovetere]

I love this! It’s very inspiring in a way that you may not expect. I am not a vintage wearer, but I have always appreciated the esthetic and enjoyed watching those who are. What I enjoy even more though is seeing the evolution of someone coming into their own in life in general. The aim for a simpler life is something I’ve been interested in for quite sometime. Seeing this gives me the push to continue on that journey. Thank you Kristina and please continue to capture this journey. It will help more people than you know ❤

[@marygraham9524]

I am absolutely doing this over the weekend! Thank you for sharing. Also, the brown sweater you are wearing in this video looks amazing on you. The color is fabulous for your complexion and your hair is very soft and feminine.

[@catgrrrlart]

I literally just decluttered about 90% of my entire house (took about 6 months-still working on it). It feels so amazing to have less and to also have items that I hand selected to keep and cherish. Love this!

[@lindsaytitus3557]

I’m so glad I found your channel, you are such a beautiful person and your videos are a quiet haven of nostalgia and calm. Thank you for your content! 🥰

[@CateSmirno]

I completely agree with you, Kristina. 🤝 I also had a period of fascination with the 50s, 👒 but after playing it for several years, I took from it only what really brought real benefits 🧩 in everyday life, in relationships with people, in my perception of myself as a person. After playing in the 50s, I became more disciplined, well-groomed in appearance and caring about my principles. 🎁 I saved a couple of the prettiest, unique dresses and nightwear, but otherwise I'm mostly mixing modern and what I picked up at the thrift store. 👗 “The priority is comfort and practicality” - as you always say. 👍 It was this philosophy of yours regarding the 50s that attracted me to your channel. 😍 Be true to your heart and this is the most valuable and surest choice when making a decision.❤️

[@susangridley8354]

So timely for me as I just ordered a few new things and purged a lot that no longer fit. Since I quit smoking 2 years ago my weight has just ballooned and I have struggled and agonized over it. I have a horrible time letting go of my "skinny" clothes and buying larger sizes to fit me comfortably. I actually cried after I purged my closet remembering how good I looked and felt in those clothes when now I struggle to feel like I look presentable. But I know it's not serving me at all to have my closet and drawers full of things that just feel like they're taunting me and refusing to buy larger comfortable clothes. I feel very lost and directionless and envy you for having so much clarity. I got interested in vintage right around the time I quit smoking. But I have not gotten very much because I hate how I look in everything and since I don't have much money I don't want to spend on things that won't fit at some point. Now I don't even know if as you say it's really my style or I just love the idea. I came to your channel because of the 50s vintage content but I will follow you for all of who you are becoming.

[@Cill441]

I say to myself I'm sharing my love of out living something. And less gives us room for more or different passions to enter. Its not easy but when completed feels lighter to myself. 😊💛🐝 the bee in me is buzzing around in pollinating my own life.😊💛

[@whyme7400]

Great job! You will be so much happier! You have discovered so much about yourself. Buy more red and make yourself happy every day. I am in my late 70s and it is amazing how many stages you go through in your life. Some are sad to leave behind but it is all a part of life. Good luck with the new little guy coming soon.

[@karenstairs8273]

I am going to be 64 in a few weeks and agree with you about the stages in life!

[@kandacek63]

Yes, as with you those words have struck a chord with me. It’s just been in the last few months that I’ve begun to embrace the idea of a more minimalist life. This concept of Swedish Death Cleaning has recently come to my attention as well, and it makes sense to me. Little by little I think I’m going to inch my way that way.

[@cambriasvintagehobby8123]

Thank you for sharing. I think it must be so hard to share very personal/emotional subjects and opening yourself up to such a wide audience. I really admire your courage.

[@amd02f]

My style has been changing over the years, to an extent. I have a habit of seeing things that I think I love and then don’t so much once I get it. I’ve been wanting to downsize my wardrobe, because I just don’t wear a good portion of it. I hate to think of how much money I’ve spent, but I think I’m also ready to go with more of a simplistic wardrobe. Thank you for sharing part of your journey. This is encouraging for me to begin working through my closet and keeping pieces that I love and letting go of ones that I don’t.

[@RLiberty94]

This was an excellent video. I totally understand where you're coming from. I can definitely relate with being an emotional hoarder and leaning towards not quite an accidental minimalist, but definitely not wanting to be a slave to my home and my stuff. Being military and living overseas, in a much smaller home than what I've been used too has forced me to declutter a lot my things and really ask myself "do I really need this or is it something I want? Can I replace it later if I realize it was a mistake to get rid of it?" And just giving myself permission to grieve items that I've collected, but either am no longer in love with or simply don't have the space for at this time. Anywhos, don't feel obligated to get rid of or sell all the purge items right away. It's ok to hold on to those things and revisit them later for reevaluation. (I'm sure that last statement might be irrelevant at this point since this video is from a year ago, but I just wanted to encourage you because I totally understand how hard it can be. 🥰

[@kariconant3488]

My jaw dropped when you said that about shirt dresses! I was shocked! I get it though, style changes. Im currently so over the way to casual style of dress that my current state of Florida loves to wear. Im stocking up on dresses and skirts.

[@christiana_mandalynn]

One last thing- have you considered determining your energy movement in Carol Tuttle’s “Dressing Your Truth” system? Maybe while you’re on the postpartum journey (like nursing, if you do) you could take her free course. It has helped me SO much in realizing why I am drawn to certain items, and others o just never wear. I wish I had found it sooner; it saves me so much time and money now. Basically there are 4 levels of movement (Type 1, Type 2, Type 3, Type 4) and each has certain elements in style that they may be more drawn to (fabrics, designs, textures, colors, etc) and things that don’t have enough of these elements just wind up sitting in our closets. She talks about how each woman is naturally drawn to certain things that bring out our natural beauty, but a lot of conditioning takes place culturally that may hamper our beauty 6th sense. It’s been such a liberating thing to learn in her videos and would be so cool for you to determine which of those types you are, so you can build a new era that honors your true style preferences.❤ anyways, it’s called “Live Your Truth” or “Dressing Your Truth”. I’d be curious if you checked out the Type 4 type in the free course. ❤

[@user-oj4oc7hl5g]

So proud of you for going through this process- my issue is old cookbooks… You are an inspiration

[@feltaria9177]

I just watched this even though it was months ago for you. What helps me is to always put the clean clothes back into the same side of the wardrobe/closet. This means that naturally the clothes you don’t wear get pushed to the other end making it easier to see which ones you could sell or donate. It’s not as pleasing as seeing all the dresses together and all the skirts together but it’s a very practical and easy tool.

[@user-of5ek5dj7p]

Kristina you did a good job with getting rid of the clothes. I am also an emotional hoarder with clothes. I have so many clothes I don’t even know what to do with all of them. I can’t even find clothes when I look for them. I am decluttering the clothes right now. I pray 🙏 to god that I stop hoarding and wasting my money on clothes that I will never wear. I could never wear all those clothes in my entire lifetime. So sad 😢.

[@sofapop653]

Personal style almost always evolves, it’s nice to refresh and prioritize what makes you feel the most like “you”. You’re doing great! I think I’m almost due for a reset myself, I do one about once a year, when I switch from my winter to my spring/summer clothes. Power to you! Keep it up!

[@beckyweckmiller6135]

Buy the way, you're beautiful! I couldn't have gone through that much in that amount of time. I'm proud of you! I remember the mountain of clothes I used to have. Now if I've only used it once in the last year or two, unless it's for a holiday, I get ride of it. I've also been going through a decluttering/recovering hoarder thing in my life. What helped me the most was taking one grocery bag a day out of the house, you can't pay it forward and you can't catch up, so if it's midnight, and I haven't done it, I've gotta do it! it was for 40 day. That really helped change the way I saw thing that needed to be thrown away, or needed to be purged.

[@lauriivey7801]

When I retired, I did the same thing you are doing ... just pulling it all out was exhausting, and then sorting and deciding was a real chore ... but it felt so good when I was done!! Now I have enough daily outfits for two weeks, a couple of items that are 'nice' for any fancier gatherings, two sweaters, pjs, and undergarments ... my closet practically echoes

[@besorocks8132]

I came across your video when I was looking for some motivational support as I start my decluttering journey. Hit a wall yesterday when I felt like I was taking too long to go through stuff and keeping too much. You inspire me to get right back into it and to acknowledge that all this emotional hoarding has to stop and to take responsibility. I am looking forward to feeling lighter around the house! 😊

[@StephanieCanada]

I am so IMMENSELY PROUD OF YOU!

[@sofapop653]

I know this sounds weird, but when I say goodbye to something with sentimental value, I give it a proper goodbye. By that I mean that I hug that item, and I say goodbye, and I might thank it for the memories it holds, and wish it more happiness on its journey. I know that sounds a bit odd, but as an extremely sentimental person it has helped me.

[@despicabledavidshort3806]

I'm like 4 minutes into the vid while eating my frozen bananas with shredded coconut and almonds and I just had to stop. I want you to know that I just feel so inspired by you. I also watched part of a to zen yesterday for the 1st time, I don't even think I watched it all. I got interrupted and then I found you. I don't want to sound like a weirdo but I feel like there's times we are nudged down a path that we wouldn't normally take, and you are that path. My health , physical and mental, hasn't been well the last 3 years. I'm beginning to heal, I'm feeling so much better bc my Dr has finally got my meds correct. For a very, very long time I've had zero desire to even live, except my 11 yo grandson lives with me, so I had to live. I had to go through the motions of living for him. But inside I felt very fractured and like a shell of a human. I told my therapist I want to feel alive again. I want to feel whole for the 1st time in my life, at 60 yo. And then I "happenstanced" upon your channel. And you weren't fake, and your home isn't fake, and I love that. And I needed that. I needed to see how a real person lives. And I feel the 1st flicker of life stirring in my soul. I want my home to be better, I want my life to be better. Watching you at the beginning of the video make that bed gave me the most beautiful, peaceful feeling. Your room was so serene that my soul felt at peace. I want my home to feel like that. I want my life to feel like that. I know I sound like a crazy stalkerish person but you deserve to know how much your videos touch people, at least me. I think God nudged me on this path and I'm so thankful to him and to you. I'm going to take a quick shower bc I've been outside with my chickens and it's hotter than love out there. And then I'm going to enjoy your lovely video as you inspire me to do positive things in my home today ❣️❣️❣️

[@despicabledavidshort3806]

And so I want to add, since I've already put a lot out there, that I've never been honest with people before. Most of my life I've pretended to be someone that I'm not. Obviously it's a protection mechanism. So I want to start being honest and I will start here. My life is a mess, my home is a mess, my car is a mess, my yard is a mess, and my deck is a mess. I've hurt people's feelings bc I won't let them come to my home. I feel like it's not good enough. I've never allowed my grandson's other family to come here bc I didn't want them to judge me. They've wanted to come here so they could be more involved in his life but I always made an excuse and then took him to their homes. I've never allowed my best friend of many years to come here. About a month ago I decided to be honest with her, I took pics of everything, all the bad in my life, and I sent them to her. You have no idea how hard that was. She's still my friend, she still wants to come over, and I'm still making excuses. I've had no desire to do better, except my grandson's room. His room is very nice, except there's some things he wants to change, and I keep putting it off, making excuses, bc it involves someone coming here to help us do a few things. So this morning, after binge watching you yesterday I "mostly" cleaned my yard. It's a 50% improvement. I took about half a pickup truck load to the dump. I'm pretty satisfied with the progress and will continue when it's not so darn hot. My deck is small, I cleared a few things off this morning for the dump. I will finish it tonight when it cools down. I'm working for awhile in my pantry bc part of the problem is my pantry is very unorganized and I've been storing a TON of stuff in my bedroom. I haven't slept in there in 3 yrs bc of my torn rotator cuff but I'm ready to take my bedroom back. I have to organize my pantry to do that. I went in there a few minutes ago and realized that ice forgotten how peaceful it is in there. I have a huge bay window facing the woods and my cats love to sleep in there. I had a tremendous amount of joy when I remembered how much I love that room. So I'm done making excuses for my home that I haven't shown love to. I'm done not having family and friends over. I'm done not being authentic. I'm going to find myself, I'm going to learn to love myself, and I'm going to show love to my home. Once again, thank you so much for sharing your true self, and your lovely home. And thank you for the inspiration to live my life ❤

[@labradorite8256]

​@@despicabledavidshort3806it's been a while since you write this and I wondered how you got on? Sounded like you'd made a good start. I wanted to say how impressed I was with what you did straight off the bat. We did a truckload from the yard recently and its hard work!

[@labradorite8256]

I LOVE that you found your style and colours, don't feel guilty, its a great thing to know. There's lots of clothes I appreciate but I can leave for someone else. 1950s clothes are more structured and you're definitely on the romantic side. I'm more of a medieval romantic and used to bring that into my office wardrobe where i could. the late 90s was great for me with the velvet and corduroy, dark colours, big collars, almost a bit 70s inspired. Now in my 50s, with some help, I'm lightening the palette and its much more of a lift. Dark colours and heavy fabrics drag me down now, I'm going for a more funky and slightly edgy look. Its fun exploring another style, i miss my romantic days but I'm completely ok with moving on. These are the clothes for the woman I am today.

[@brookearcher856]

I think it's also really hard for me because my mom taught me not only to hang onto things, but I always felt like if I couldn't make money selling it, then it wasn't worth getting rid of it. I also have a really good memory for when I wore things, on what occasion, what time of day, who I was with, and how I felt when I was wearing it. It also reminds me when I was younger.

[@labradorite8256]

I hung onto things and then we had an ongoing problem with a water leak and it all nearly got ruined. I realised I don't have the capacity to be a museum curator for all this stuff and was better off letting someone else make use of it before it deteriorated completely. It was a big lesson.

[@brookearcher856]

@@labradorite8256 haha, dang...that's totally valid. Thanks for sharing that! That's definitely an eye-opener. It's also a great practice to constantly give up what you don't necessarily need to give it to those who struggle to have even the bare necessities.

[@imallears4]

Thanks for talking about your conflicting feelings so much.Thanks for showing some things in slow motion and others in fast motion. Thanks for playing pleasant music (but not playing music when you are talking!). And yes, almost every garment for us women should have pockets, please!

[@fredquimby6438]

Thank you for sharing this with us. It's very kind and brave of you, and very helpful and encouraging to me.

[@mariekelley7557]

The fomo with clothings & all the body changes. yes

[@Foui555]

Thank you thank you for sharing your vulnerability. I'm an emotional hoarder too (and mom with a very chaotic life) and looking at your process is a huge inspiration. It helps me vizualize how to tackle my impossible/impractical home. It's just so damn difficult, I have been feeling stuck for years and I can feel how it's difficult for you too. You are very strong ! Thank you again for this decluttering serie !

[@bethknapp4935]

You should check out Lopsie's channel, she is such an inspiration to me with her home. She is from the Netherlands, and her style is vintage but practical. Plus, she is just the sweetest 💕. Good luck on your journey, I am also an emotional collector, and even if I want to redo things, it is hard for me. I have so many things from my mother and grandmother that I have been surrounded by my whole life, and it is very hard to even think about putting them aside. Beginning with a big purge is always the way to go, it is the most overwhelming in the beginning, but once you get past that stage it becomes so much easier. Happy new year. ❤️

[@WithLoveKristina]

I follow and love Loepsie! She’s wonderful! Best of luck to you if you decide to purge. It is SO hard especially with sentimental things!

[@Miss-Fired]

I've never watched your videos before but I really loved this one. I think finding the style that actually makes you feel good even if it may not be what you pictured for yourself is so important. I love the 40s but I feel best in masculine styles from the late 80s and early 90s

[@alyssacole8543]

You inspire me so much. I also love hats but I almost never wear them.

[@allisoncole9634]

I subscribed because I enjoy you as a person! No matter what style of clothing you wear or what is working for you!

[@Vixxen___904]

Going through my wardrobe after giving birth 3 times in 2 years was the hardest thing emotionally for me. I could really relate to you in this video. You did an amazing job of letting pieces go. Hope you’re doing well🖤

[@abbysouza2850]

This video came at a great time for me. I also feel like I’m going through a style shift (away from most of my vintage) and feeling a little sad about it. Grieving a younger version of myself, I think. Nice to watch someone going through a similar change. Thanks for sharing.

[@nadajaklic3069]

My dear, you have so much strength.

[@MsMaria990]

❤❤❤you are not alone ! Thank you so much for sharing

[@lydiastauffer8566]

I am so excited for you! And this has helped ease my former exclusively vintage girl fomo/guilt about my style simplifying and leaving most of the vintage aesthetic behind for my sanity!

[@rynmarr8566]

I started sewing so I could have the wardrobe I wanted, and most were 1950s patterns. As much as I love the look of those dresses they don’t match my personality, I felt like I wasn’t being authentic to myself. I recently took a major look at myself and my wardrobe and realized when I’m not trying to mold myself into something else, I gravitate towards a more eclectic style (think whimsigothic), my casual clothing would fall into that category too. So now I’m on the mission to get rid of anything that doesn’t feel authentic, and feel better about my wardrobe.

[@chelsea-t]

Going thru your whole wardrobe is a big task! Good job!!

[@heytherehoneys]

This is such a journey and while it’s a bittersweet one you seem to be in a place of ready to let go. Be so so proud of yourself. ❤️

[@sometimesheathersews4429]

Loved the realness in this video! I love watching others change their style up it gives me the courage to do the same. I am so anxious to dress how I want from fear of others in my small town.

[@hannahretel1073]

I appreciate your sensible, thoughtful reflections, I had this playing while I hit my own closet. Precious memories is one thing but garments that are kept in hope for the future - I used your own movement forward to put a lot of my garments forward to someone else. Looking forward to more thoughtful decluttering videos

[@starveartist]

I love listening to you and realizing a lot of the same things about myself

[@nnylasoR]

You, are, LOVELY. 😍 Thank you for sharing your journey - and for your transparency. @3:32 - 3:55 really hit me, as I can totally relate. I am striving to understand and recover from lifelong hoarding disorder, and am certainly feeling TRAPPED by the things I [love?]. I found it interesting that you closed the video with, “I hope wherever you are that you are feeling **safe** and loved.” “Safe” is HUGE word for me right now, as that is precisely how I haven’t felt my entire life (which is super relevant to my battle with hoarding disorder, I feel). Anyhow, I just wanted to thank you … for everything. ♥️ (PS - I ADORE Marissa of ‘A to Zen Life’ 🥰)

[@lyannecb8499]

Ooh, that black watch tartan pinafore you wore at the end of the video reminded me of one I had before I had children... My elder son is 28 this year 😂 Well done!

[@mrssharp]

I have started taking photos of things that hold memories but I don’t need anymore.

[@jeannenabozny5675]

I love vintage and trapped myself also in that if I get there I will be happy stage but no. After working through this for a life time I want comfy. Modest but practical. We live tiny now. So as retired seniors we have pared down and really think over what we bring in. Im do much happier. Especially as Im dressing to please me.

[@Widdekuu91]

I don't want to enable anyone, it might not work for everyone, but; My way of emotionally decluttering is trading stuff with people. I trade items that I want to give a new home and in return I get an item that I like in a different way. The item might be smaller, might be usable (soap, food, fabric) and it might be a perfect gift for my moms birthday or to trade on (until I find something I like.) I also like to trade large bags of stuff for small 1-2-3 items that I réálly like. Tradingshops sometimes have that feature. I still own a lot, but I have really started sorting the items on practical and 'emotional' importance and I have gotten só much better at handing away items or trading bags of stuff away, in return for new materials and/or items. Granted, it takes a bit more time, but I shipped away about 15 bags of clothing and 15 bags of items in 1,5 coronayear. I've also started donating items randomly to people, leaving gifts (jewelry, trinkets) in people's neighbourhood with a tiny note hanging down from it that explains it is a random gift for whoever finds it. Leaving behind items (with a note attached!!!) in trains or busses is also fun. And around Christmas, I cover the trainstations in secret gifts and trinkets with notes. TLDR: Trading helps a lot for me.

[@gramarye_cottage]

I’m a second hand Rose for sure. Not vintage in clothing but antique, vintage thrifted etc in furniture and decor. I’m changing my style a tad too. I’m bringing in colour and patterns into my all black wardrobe. I like simply easy flowy type clothing that I can wear daily. I rarely go out so I passed on and sold items that were for those times that just never happen lol Luv your bed BTW ♥️

[@obsidianrosestudio2663]

I have similar feelings abbot some of my vintage garments. I’m still learning my style, but I know it is a blend between 30s-50s, but I also have a gothic Victorian and Edwardian influence. It takes time and experimentation to truly find where you’re comfortable and feel You. I just have to let go of what others may think of what I may do with some of my vintage, like dyeing to fit my style. Good on you! ❤

[@barbaraweber3084]

Loved your pinafores. I need some of those! I've been decluttering and purging for just about three years. My rule is two things out for every one thing brought into the house. But I am tempted by your pinafores.....

[@joelphick]

Hi Kristina, we're going through this process at the moment with our whole house because we're thinking of moving to a different state and don't want to take unnecessary things with us. My husband finds selling things emotionally difficult so we've got a process where he takes photos of the items and writes a description, and I deal with the selling part. It's been working really well for us, and although it's emotional, we're both feeling good about having less 'stuff'. All the best from Australia. You've got this!

[@DanielaHes]

i rarely comment, but this video made me happy and at the same time i could feel ur sadness. I m happy because i think ur new style will be more of what i m looking for from ur videos, but i was schocked at how difficult even to watch this closing of a chapter in ur life was. wishing u all the best and a safe delivery!

[@rbrown6476]

Thank you so much for letting us share this video with you. A lot of people have said they’re proud of you, and that’s my over-riding emotion too! I feel the same way about clothes sometimes, and I suppose we’re all on a journey to a slightly different style every few years as our life changes and we mature into another age group. (I’ve told myself that this decluttering a little, now and again, is better than staying with the high fashion of one’s 20s and 30s, which can look so daft when you’re nearly 70!) So well done you, and how amazing that you still gift us with your insights when you’re so heavily pregnant and have 4 other little ones. You’re amazing! I loved the last outfit in green plaid I liked all the stuff you kept, but my favourite is that red cardigan with embroidery. It’s gorgeous and I hope we see you in it soon. Also the dark green ‘German’ skirt was wonderful. Many blessings ❤

[@ObsidianxAlice]

Decluttering and cleaning can be such an interesting and tough experience. Who we are is so much also what we wear and keep around us, but sometimes that becomes sort a prison of our own making, and it feels like we get locked in to being a person that we feel dissonant with. This is something I think I'm just coming out of, but the process also took years and a lot of trips to the thrift store with what felt like endless car loads of things I used to love. It's tough! But it was so nice to feel like my spaces were growing with me. A lot of us are on this journey too, we're here to support you, and it's nice to have some company. :)

[@beverlybenson9981]

Love the quilt on your bed. I'm a quilter. ❤

[@sacredrose5477]

I love the black dress with flowers

[@AmyMarks]

That red cardigan with the flowers is adorable. I love that buffalo plaid midi skirt but I'm with you - I need pockets! I don't have any skirts, trousers or dresses that don't have pockets anymore, with the exception of a pair of leggings. It's a non-negotiable!

[@freyadelling3876]

Hi Kristina. I subscribed to your channel right before Christmas or right after. I have started the first week of December of decluttering and moving to living simply. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It is so helpful when you know you aren't alone. I am proud of you and sending you hugs 🤗

[@monacodelancey725]

Love your music selection - captures the bittersweet quality of the work you've undertaken. Joy will then be coming!