How Your Emotions can Literally Make You Sick

[@renataklein4776]

We care what people think of us because in childhood we depended on it. WOW!!!

[@Dana-mb1hd]

I would pay ANY amount of money 💰 to have Dr. Gabor as my therapist!

[@jcm5171]

Oh boy, yes!!!

[@u-dahusandrannamaria9361]

Agree ❤

[@ChooseCompassion]

ME TOO! 💯

[@janeharrop7058]

He does have retreats I saw!!!

[@JAMin3939]

I would too if I had any money 😊

[@vaishalivaidya7978]

Gabor Mate is a human gem. I always have tears of joy or hands on my heart as a gesture of gratitude, everytime I listen to him.

[@jcm5171]

I so agree with you!❤

[@mommar4858]

Yes, me too ✌🏽 ❤

[@elenamarina9736]

I agree 😊

[@vaishaaliramalingam5020]

Exactly 🥹🥹🥹. I would even be open to starting a fan club or something to celebrate this man

[@cherierhynes8514]

Word.👩‍🎤💞

[@chrisd2832]

Can I just acknowledge how Maria pauses for a nice amount of time to allow Dr Mate to express his thoughts fully. This information is so important.

[@PalosVerdesLife]

I agree. She LISTENS, take his words in, lets herself and her audience process his words. Really good stuff.

[@sylviet826]

I remember when my mom was diagnosed with a glioblastoma and she kept asking her doctors if her mental health and over thinking could have caused this. She asked every doctor she encountered and they all said no. Mind body connection is so important! I dodged breast cancer by lots of self work, therapy and past life healing.

[@andreaportik2348]

Ppp😊

[@robynhope219]

​From what? @theamberheardplaylist6768

[@agentflower-7xo]

Yes it's crazy! Like they said, the science is there, it's up to date and backing up epigenetics --but the practice of medicine has stalled way behind science. The medical field has stalled and it's stuck and stagnant and stinks! PS I know stinks is the understatement of the century but I just had to do it for the the alliteration, ya know? 🥰

[@curiousobserver97]

I love when Dr. Mate says our physiology affects our psychology and vice versa.

[@mmendo6895]

Gabor Mate is a treasure !!

[@mariamenounos]

He is AMAZING!

[@robynhope219]

​@@mariamenounoshe is a con artist par excellence.

[@MeseeAcolyteVentures-uv9zw]

When she said i couldn't have kids because i've had my own kids in my parents i felt that 😞

[@delightfuldissident859]

Me too!

[@tjokinen670]

I'm going to listen to everything I can find about what Gabor Mate' has to say. We all need to be listening to the knowledge this Dr has gathered in his long life

[@lisitribble]

“Every creature is born with needs. Essential need of the child is 1) attachment and 2) permission to rest and relax and 3) experience all their emotions.” This is a markedly soothing conversation (in the way that recognizable truth feels good) between these two. Thanks.

[@John_Wood_]

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[@adiroots]

So many lessons. Thank you! Working so hard to get pass my struggles with overthinking, insomnia, abandonment, people pleasing, living a fear-based living and more. Really trying to cultivate my truest healthiest self; mind body and soul. Whoa, its hard stuff.

[@lorie1679]

In the same struggle

[@sheidashekarian5903]

Also struggling with the same things, especially abandonment and feeling unlovable, unworthy, not enough

[@hollandgem2]

Guess we are not alone!

[@adiroots]

@@sheidashekarian5903 You are loved and more than enough.

[@wambuialice957]

Gabor has changed my life and everything I thought I knew about trauma and addiction.

[@dawndid5972]

❤ we agree

[@robynhope219]

One man's opinion..that's all it is.

[@yhen2517]

you can hear the compassion on his voice.... 🥲

[@agatas6783]

Thank you for this interview. Dr Mate was my eye opener when I dealt with cancer years ago. Back then, he blew my mind when he talked about suppressed anger as one of the cancer factors. “When body says no”. That was the book I read back in 2014/2015. I am so happy to see him now all over the internet and once again he has just delivered a message that feels like it’s been addressed to me (I know, I know, but we all live in our heads a little bit)😊Few days ago I put out an intention asking for my true authentic self to show up, reveal itself, tell me what it needs from me. And voila! I just got a new understanding of authenticity and it makes so much sense! So thank you for this episode.

[@julianterris]

Dr. Maté is a fascinating speaker and a leader in his field ~I'm so glad that our generation has the benefit of his work. Thank you, Doctor. 👏

[@gazsto]

I share the sentiment; the sense of community and connection is absent. Throughout my life, depending on my residence, I've experienced both the presence and absence of this connection. At present, I live in a place where people are reserved and too busy to interact with one another.

[@reginadanielsson7901]

Thank you Maria, Gabor Mate , I have followed him for along time, hoping you would have him on your podcast. He is such a brilliant, caring human being. You had great questions and showed lots of emotions. 🙏🙏

[@elainehodgson6403]

There is so much freedom in the wisdom being shared here

[@divinelorraine]

He is a personal hero. Thank you for bringing this wisdom to the people.

[@rutbrea8796]

Brilliant! Although I am not that young to heal myself completely, I have been able to realize that my traumas since I was a child were the product of a life of many mistakes that affected my emotional state as well. That realization made me walk away from those who hurt me for so long, even though I loved them. The best thing to do is to run from them if you want to survive. That action is a pain in itself, but one must do it. I haven't healed completely at 75 but I am on the road to have peace to the end of my days. My faith also has helped me a lot. Thank you so much for your help, because although it is a video not a psycho analysis, you guys are helping people. I have been following Dr. Matte through other videos and will purchase his books. God bless you all.

[@lesolitaire3265]

I find this podcast therapeutic actually. I could listen to it over and over ! Many thanks ❤❤❤❤😊😢👍

[@shyvenyx]

We can be grateful for this wise man speaking up in this sick world

[@Wildviking8]

I know he has to cover himself by saying people should take medication...but most often..when people go down that route..they avoid the real healing and actually add further dis-ease and illness.

[@dianas1252]

I think it the medication you decide to agree to try. So know the medication history before taking it

[@Wildviking8]

@@dianas1252 well, all medication is unecessary and toxic to the body...the only cause of disease and disorders is trauma..either from poor diet or unaddressed trauma/stress...medication may benefit short term..but never a long term solution.

[@Waves353]

@@Wildviking8agreed. I don’t address trauma which came to a head as panic attacks but I was still human and functional. Meds ruined my brain and life. Strange as I had childhood abandonment issues that were whispers. Meds turned them into screams and now I’m 100 💯 abandoned by all, which has created a mental illness that I never had. Angry

[@wabznasm9660]

@@Wildviking8 I think Gabor would be horrified that you’ve taken that message. I don’t know how much trauma an infant can take on to get eye cancer at 2 weeks old.

[@highheartwellness]

My sister loves your podcast Maria and shares about it with me. I've been a fan of Gabor's work for many years now, it's been wonderful hearing the two of you connect year, and sharing this with my sister. Congrats on the baby news!!

[@maryc.i5543]

Wow, great episode. Incredibly insightful. Thank you heal squad! Gabor is a legend! Congratulations Maria, Keven and family! So happy for you all 💜

[@laurieclarkson9180]

I don't know if a person really has to physically move to another place to feel a sense of community. Some people have neighbors two steps away and still don't talk. If you don't have a sense of community, I think we can create it where we are. Create a monthly game night where someone different in the group hosts it each month or have a Sunday dinner every week and invite someone different each time. I think lots of people lack community and they'd appreciate it.

[@omittapir5986]

One of my favorite person! Just love listening to his deep knowledge put into words with his deep voice. His accent is the icing on top of it. May you be healthy and well!

[@goobiesace]

Amazing podcast, Maria !!! Dr Mate is such an insightful pioneer who is spot-on. Your show always provides food for the body, mind, and spirit. Thank you so much for the mission you share with the world. Congratulations to you and Keven for the blessing of your baby. Blessings to all of you🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

[@donnas_art_dreams]

I was desperate to feel better while waiting for results of my biopsies and intuitively knew I needed to eliminate dairy and gluten and began to feel better but my doctor told me it had nothing to do with the food I was eating and took me off the NSAIDs I was taking for arthritis and put me on steroids for 3 months, which I am currently taking. I am so frustrated. I just knew it had something to do with the food I was consuming. Thank you for your research and your confirmation that my disease can be treated by changing my diet ❤❤❤

[@Heroine2me]

I got more out of this than I ever have from several therapy sessions. Just my opinion but any therapists I’ve ever been to listens to me talk. I can talk to my dog for free. It would have been nice if any of them could have provided an ounce of his wisdom and insight. Thanks Maria!

[@cinduhughes3351]

Confront right then there nssy something ppl r selfish me myself n. I

[@ROORabuser]

Yeah there are a lot us useless therapists out there. Gabor said it too in another interview I listened. So you have to be lucky to find one who is trained or at least informed about trauma or you are just wasting your time and money. I have been there too. Good luck man and also talking with your dog can helps a lot by the way, I've dove that too😊 now I dont have dogs anymore unfortynately but I'm on my path to healing❤

[@Heroine2me]

@@ROORabuser Glad to hear it. Good luck to you!

[@NatureRelaxation87]

I've been to 5 therapists myself. Same experience as you. My new 6th therapist understood me in first 15 minutes of our session. She has been trained under him. Her practice of 3 therapists have been trained under him. She recommended him to me.

[@John_Wood_]

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[@carolynmscotti827]

Gabor Mat’e, you amaze me with your genus. God bless you and the work you do to help others. Thank you, and I thank God, for you, you are a gift from God to all of us.

[@Melco6966]

Thank you so much for this video. This man Gabor is amazing he has figured this stuff out. I have been suffering my entire life. My body and mind has finally decided that I can’t function like this anymore. The inability to say no has cost me to much. I was so close to having a severe nervous breakdown. So, I am temporally off from work seeking therapy and on anti-depressant medication.

[@marciabradley7660]

Several times as an adult my mother told me “the first time your father hit me I was holding you”. I at the time was resentful because I knew she wanted my sympathy. Today while listening I can phrase it in a different way. As an infant my mom cried louder than me.

[@melissalibardi8830]

The universe brought me to your channel and I am so grateful!

[@durdicamaderic8696]

Owesome book which needs to be digested thoroughly, I so agree. I love hearing Gabor speak, so much wisdom., Speaking truth, no nonsense here. Bless you Gabor Thank you for sharing this gem interview 🌬️✨💖

[@mollypinto4666]

I loved Dr. Gabor the 1st time I heard him a year back. I so sooo wish I had him as my family doctor 😔 especially for my bipolar son who had become a drug addict. He's been clean for a long time now but unfortunately his bipolar is the continuous problem. To cut a long story short. Yes I was a miserable mum when carrying him. Yes I have many insecurities. Crazy but true, before hearing this discussion I had written a poem on my life We need your priceless help Dr. Gabor. May God bless you for all you do🙏💗🙏 God bless you too dear Maria💗 And thank you for this podcast 💕

[@jframirez1982]

Great guy and his son one of the best journalists of our lifetime

[@readerwriter2116]

This is my 10th full hour of listening to this Dr. It all makes so much sense. He really listens!!!! and of course , the info and wisdom he shares.....Love it all! Thanks...

[@szellllest]

I care! The purpose of caring is to built a society of trust! There are people who care! This is not for us, but for people that will come after, to feel safe!

[@wendyeskelin8765]

This was a really great interview. I've listened to Dr. Mate' before, but I really enjoyed this interview more than all of the others. I really enjoyed the conversation you had after the interview with Kelsey. I think it's really great that you both took so much away. I can imagine all of us had at least one aha moment during the interview. One thing Kelsey said that struck me, was when she was talking about taking notes to bring to her therapist. While I love that she is proactive, it's a little depressing to me, that so many of the doctors and therapists don't seem to know half of the stuff they should know, and it almost seems counter productive to see them sometimes. When they aren't really much of a guide, but more of a listener, it just seems like it could be a never ending set of appointments. Like why aren't these therapists bringing it up to US and not the other way around.

[@The1valentino]

Absolutely loved this interview - just bought his book 👍🏻🙏🏻

[@pmc8119]

The problem is, it's a medical "system" Medicine was so much more natural (homeopathy for one) and the whole field was overtaken by big business (Rockefeller) and natural therapies were demonised. Gaborone Mate is a wonderful man and much appreciated

[@lorie1679]

This gentleman is a blessing 🙌 wish I found him when I was younger. But blessed he is in my life now. Ty for sharing your knowledge dr mate

[@syldzifa234]

Such an great opportunity for me to adhere to what I know to be useful to my holistic well being. Every toxic culture has to be re examined,starting with our food choices and stress levels. ❤❤❤ A million thanks is not enough. Blessings

[@patriciamorrow1185]

Thanks for the point regarding anger and how to immediately set the boundary.

[@jaypakhan6397]

Perfection Dr Gabor has shown me a path to self heal. Dr we are grateful for you. My family immideatley and friends. Again thank God you are who you are. Saved my life.

[@felicialohnes7836]

Maria this episode with Dr.Gabor Mate! I took notes too! Wow, so many parallels. Ibs, I'm a type 1 diabetic, I was the parent growing up. Maria, you are creating such a wonderful tribe here. I'm traveling with you to Greece. I am also Greek. Don't speak though. Evolution! Be your authentic self! 💖✨️🕉🙏💖✨️Love you Maria 💕 and Sending you blessings and love💖✨️🎉💃

[@techjunkie68smusicandtech56]

I really enjoy listening to Gabor, so much of what he talks about resonates with me, I have learned so much already, but I'll never stop! I am healing from depression, brought on by many stressful situations especially the suppression of anger and frustration, so much pain and tension but I know I'll will get better, I owe it to myself!

[@mattmace559]

Thank you. It is amazing that you are so beautiful inside as well as out. I found your channel because I am consuming every Gabor Mate video I can find. You have so much to add to the conversation, your questions and statements were amazing. I look forward to viewing more of your videos. Thank you again for being such a powerful voice that is a big part of helping with our individual and collective healing.

[@momione11]

I learned early not to express myself when I got angry and sad. Kept everything inside. Lived with my father who had mental illness. He fluctuated somewhat in his mood. One minute fantastic the next minute he became a monster and aggressive. Walked on eggshells. Because of his mood. Also became codependent and people pleaser. Became like an adult at the age of 7. But inside a child who taught me to never be able to express myself. So when I am involved in similar things, I become silent and freeze. Although I would have to bang my fist on the table and say stop. Never dared to open my mouth and be able to say stop and no. My mother is codependent and a people pleaser like me. Am a copy of my mother. My mother meets a new man when I am 9 years old. A covert controlling narc. My mother becomes a total robot. Who just gives and gives. Even I follow the same prediction. But I hit a rock bottom August 2021 .Became the turning point. But this is painfully hard work to break out of this pattern. Also to regain being able to say stop and no and get angry. Which is healthy. Gets angry inside but it doesn't show. Instead earlier I started please in the same second. But suffocated myself from inside. My mother has been doing that for 76 years. Me for 48 years. But never again. It's healthy to get angry. Unhealthy not to. It killed myself from the inside. Felt like living dead. Didn't get angry for nothing either. Except when it was totally crazy. Got my life back slowly .Get to know myself. Disappeared when I was 7 years old. Now it's my turn. Want to be involved in my own life.

[@crazykatrockchickhippie4835]

I loved this talk, Gabor Matè, I have so much time for and his work is literally a life saver! When we find and be our authentic selves, the answers were asking and searching come to us. 🙏🌱🕊

[@anitakephart3851]

From the very start of this interview I am hearing nothing but a therapeutic session of the life of the interviewer to. Dr.Gabor Mate. In ten minutes I know nothing more than of this woman's whole life. So self obsessed not concerned with her own audience. Moving on .... Sorry to say I won't be back to her channel

[@arnolddibrescia]

'Petsonality behaviours' or 'trauma's' or other psychlogical are contagious

[@annettemarydever7207]

I LOVE FINDING THIS INTERVIEW 🥰❣️🌟❣️I’ve been telling people since I discovered the emotional & health connection 30 years ago! I use Louise Hay’s book “ You Can Heal Your Life” I’ve had many experiences of being sick & being led to discover the emotional cause💜I feel So blessed to to be on this path & being awake💜🤠🎁💜

[@danutamaj2115]

Yeah!! I think we care what people are thinking about us because 1.our judgements usually don’t mix and match.And they have something to talk about and spread smearing campaigns behind our back 2. We afraid to say too much in order to avoid bad smearing campaigns and in many circumstances that might cause us a job. 3. Very often during our childhood we’ve been told “don’t say that””don’t tell her/him”and we keep carrying it over our adult life 4We afraid to be judged , because people who who stand out of the crowd usually don’t follow social savior vivre and being considered nuts, crazy,irrational, being on something etc. Retirement makes us judgement resistant and talking from the heart but not circumstances . I love it. I’m 71 and know how easy is to make some narcissistic money addicts CEO’s , very angry and powerless. I’m a avid listener of Dr. Gabor . He is truly authentic person , Speaks from a heart as well from his personal experience not from text books from medical school. Love all 3 of you. Hope some day our society turn around towards right direction and we get our humanity back on truck .

[@colleensmith3374]

Maria- can’t wait to read this book & re- watch this video!! Congrats, so happy for you both❤

[@mariliansantilli8808]

Thank you sooo much Maria for this extraordinary Interview 😊! I wish you all the best!❤

[@peacefulisland67]

Having listened to many of these conversations over time, I believe we need to be careful when generalizing: Yes, a flare up of an inflammatory condition maybe because of overextending ourselves to others. It may also be because we're trying to get along on our own in situations that are overwhelming. Not everyone is a good advocate for the self when stressed or injured just from being human. Also, consider reframing or reorienting to need to look after others as a way to fill up. Being of service can be a beautiful and healing experience when done in the right context; not to gain approval or even feel good, but to enable another to feel less alone and less pressure. This is how a sense of self worth and serenity ensues, by giving without expectation.

[@toni-annleone780]

He's such a blessing

[@StaLove]

Dr. Gabor is awesome, I could listen to him all day

[@euniceserrano6499]

Thank you so much for this interview❤ I felt like my deceased mother led me to this video to hear what I needed to hear. Such a life saver. I'm also glad that Dr. Gabor and Dr. Lisa Rankin share the same beliefs. We need healers like them!

[@heathersoper6923]

Dear Dr Mate, my emotions Have made me sick, I have been diagnosed with psychogenic tremor caused by chronic stress, anger and anxiety. I was badly conned by a dental Narcissist, every organisation including the police, let me down, this happened to me 7 years ago, I was traumatised and fought all the organisations who were meant to help me, only to find they're corrupt, I was constantly shocked. A year after I put this man in court I found that the dentist in the next room had lied too. Both men are still in the court, to go into detail would take too long but I am now needing an operation, I have list all the bone in my jaw. How do I deal with this horrible tremor, I shake every single day. Thank you.

[@ShelaghBluebell]

Many many thanks to DR.Gabor Mate, for inspiring these sorts of conversations between us as human beings in social connections and deep within ourselves in search of our own authenticity. I know for sure this is what I have really been looking for all my life, and now I have the language and the experiences to forge ahead with this journey because it is yielding results as nothing else has been able to! Many many Thanks,, Dr. Gabor Mate!!!. Your life, your work, your books, your courage, and your persistence are all truly amazing and enlightening--not only in the sense of knowledge, but literally lightening the burdens that have weighed us down for too long! . Heartfelt thanks...

[@caliblue2]

The main thing missing from this Is the truth about energetics and the earths healing ability. When the man with cancer moved to Greece and went out into the garden he was healed by Gaia. That’s the real healer.

[@katef724]

Such a moving interview!!! Thank you!

[@hbinfinity]

Maria is just SO RELATABLE. Love her questions. Love her personal touch. Love you, Maria! You kick ass!

[@dancingram79]

About caring about what other people think. I'm thinking we are programed in childhood to care for our survival, but as you speak about Community and connection. Isn't it also a factor in those connections? So, I understand that we have to connect with our authentic self. Listen to our body and acknowledge our feelings. Strengthen healthy boundaries. Pretty much a balance between all those factors. Trauma for doctors, absolutely! I'm a nurse and I'm telling you. It's crazy! From the start of education and later the schedules the lack of empathy from other colleges. Because it many times turns in to carnage. Not to mention the incredible expectations from everyone. It's not the only career that has such system, so I agree with Dr. Gabor.

[@govbop]

Gabor presents this so clearly lovingly compassionately and intelligently. To go deeper than him and deeper than somatic work and deeper than most psychodrama and deeper than Richard Swartz requires inner child work. Which is best done both individually with a trained person perhaps w hypnotherapy and also with a group. 12 step model should provide this in group work but for the most part you have to find the right ppl yourself and they are a very small minority. And good luck trying to meet in person

[@DivineSource444]

So what is healthy anger? Going for a jog or swim or doing yoga? OR is it shouting & screaming, &/or telling someone to F off?

[@auntiemsplace]

This is great! Thank you! So helpful to hear it expressed in a way that resonates with the truth inside of us - what he says makes sense. It's another God-given gift - thank You, Lord!

[@crystalmorrison1539]

Thank you, I just got the connections. Every time I got stressed to the max, I got sick or pain

[@petrosnazaryan401]

Thank you Maria Menounos and Thanks to Gabor Mate for unique and meaningful talk

[@chelssea87]

This was a FABULOUS interview Maria!! 👏 I love everything that you and your guests get to me! You guys are filled with so much knowledge and love ❤️ Absolutely amazing!

[@janeliu5237]

Such a great session! Thank you!

[@yittyklein6261]

It all makes sense. But what about when babies are sick and young children? They haven’t accumulated all the trauma to create the physical illness. Why do they get sick?

[@denisebutler2060]

Dr Gabor Mate.... Yes 👏👏👏👏amazing interview. 💯🌹

[@SaraJoWest]

Maria~💖 You are a beautiful expression of courage, strength, vulnerability and healing ~ thank you, Maria, for sharing your pathway to healing with us. It was a wonderful and insightful conversation. ✨🪽💖🕊️ Dr.Gabor Mate!🌟 I am so grateful to you for showing us there is a pathway through our deepest traumas and how we can travel that path safely, armed with self-care and Love.💖🌊✨🐦‍🔥 So.very.grateful!!!!

[@j-trandell9274]

Wow! Thank you both for this interview. I v much wanna read this Dr Mate's book. The heads-up with how to effectively handle anger is so striking - immediate, when it arises, and boundary set, and let go: That makes so much sense, Sir! As a side note, that process so succintly expressed, as done in this interview, is a true sign of expertise! Thank you - 😊😊.

[@lori5946]

My parents didn't accept me. I learned to be a codependant. I learned what I wanted didn't matter. I focused on everyone else. I was never validated as a child. I never developed my authetic self. I have trouble knowing what I want.

[@jojoh1094]

I would give a like to this Video every day if I could! Thanks for sharing, it's changing lifes! Gods bless

[@carolplunkett1401]

Going through a lot of pain and not being able to express those feelings causes all kinds of ill health its not easy to not care less and let it go you get hurt 10:31

[@lindadupuis1531]

Unfortunately, we look to our medical professionals to guide us but I quit expecting that and I go to Naturopathic Doctor for my medical care and to my MD for tests and prescriptions. So I already pay out of pocket for my healthcare already. I rarely use the healthcare system yet my tax dollars are still paying for this broken system. Canada’s healthcare is good for trauma but not diseases. I healed my UC on my own with reading books and drug free for 30 years. I was told it was incurable by my MD. I told him, watch me.

[@Beachvibes2023]

Thank you for your show! ❤

[@divineinhalewithdonnacliff8112]

Omg I love that you have this platform. You are great. I love HIM. I learn so much and feel better

[@ROORabuser]

Great interview as its always the case with Dr Mate. Thanks for sharing😊

[@ceeebeee2294]

What does it really mean to experience your emotions and not suppress them when it comes to disappointment, sadness and longing over people who have died or left us? I get it with anger - don’t hold your anger in, but with grief, what can you do to let go of the sadness of missing someone? How do you not let that cause illness in your life?

[@gladyswilson6479]

I got my Clinical LPC hours in a community mental health facility. Lots of therapists including me left as soon as our hours were done because management did not know anything about selfcare. It is a shame because the platform of the organization is a good, but the practice is not.

[@zaq1zaq2zaq3]

Never stop helping out others and yourself Gladys. God bless you!

[@leamcdonald2085]

I know these things others don't get it breaks my heart. Greece lifestyle sounds Great! ♡♡♡ Thank you❤

[@auntiemsplace]

The problem with some rage-a-holics however, is that most of their anger comes from outside the home - coworkers, traffic, fast food workers, the list goes on. However, ragers don't deal with these issues in healthy ways and bring them home where all it takes is a little spark of static to ignite an explosion that devastates people, pets, and sometimes walls and other things - leaving the undeserving receivers dazed and confused. Some ragers get drunk on their rage...

[@auntiemsplace]

Talking about addiction - I battle with alcohol - it has become love/hate now... I am on a 'fast' from it now. Childhood abuse - I have all the earmarks of sexual abuse but can't be sure if I just imagined it. Beatings as discipline, starved for love, affection, and affirmation. When Maria said she 'warned' her Dad that after her surgery she would no longer be a performer, I could totally relate. How sad for us, and how sad for our parents. We should never have to prove our value! The one thing I vowed never to do to my own children.

[@FlatStella1]

that was amazing!!!!THank you!!!

[@andrearoper7641]

Great interview, among the best. I'd like to hear Dr. Mate's advice on how to awaken awareness in a loved one to a stressful relationship dynamic. In my extended family there is a traumatized mother stressing out her child, now adult and having early chronic illness (anxiety and appetite struggles and on meds). I'd like to help avoid the likely future crisis, but what does one do?

[@titussamuel2440]

Anger is a big menace. People can be angry all the time. Having faced such chronic anger for long I appreciate such coherent analysis. But this always angry persona is a strategy, coping mechanism, it has something to do with wanting what you can not have. It is a narcissistic tactic for self importance.

[@v.h.l.4261]

Great show 💕 "Piss off!" and "Who cares?!" I'm with you on that 👍

[@netavergan8875]

Thank you for this interview it was very informative. I appreciate the publishing house that translated the book Lačni duhovi into Slovenian. An outstanding book. I hope to get that in the translation as well. Greetings from Slovenia .

[@viviennebolton4358]

You mentioned Therapy each week? So, I am wondering how dependent folk are on their therapists and what value does it bring? What emptiness does it fill? What healing is it providing and how much is it part of the American culture rather than an actual need? I'm intrigued as the UK culture appears quite the reverse (stiff upper lip etc) it takes a huge traumatic event to get us to a therapist and in my era there is still a sense of 'shame' attached to that choice. (That's not to say it's right, as it isn't.) So, I ask not out of any judgement but out of pure curiosity? But then I also know that my belief system of being emotionally strong and not asking for help when I need it goes back to my childhood....So many questions I have now as a result of this podcast, but wow have I learned at lot about me in the process, so thank you!🙏

[@AndrewDeSimone]

My ex is a 50 year old self sabotaging, klonopin addicted, alcoholic, anti depressant abusing, cheating, lieing narcacisst. She had no feminine energy, daddy issues, mommy issues and claims she's a victim of physical abuse. Claims her exes all cheated on her etc etc etc. Just a victim mindset. She blames this all on trauma. No matter how much trauma you have, it gives no one the right to have affairs on you belittle you, take from you but not give emotionally or physically. Gives them no right to abuse you and add toxicity to your life. These middle aged women typically have multiple divorces and children by different men, they typically have personality disorders too. They will blame you for "triggering" them 24/7. Nothing will ever be good enough for these women. Truly toxic. Trauma creates narcacisst.

[@jennifermoffitt4635]

i had a horrible childhood... Father left, brother abused me - had a lot of responsibilities though not unusual in 80's for kids w divorce. .Me and my siblings now don't speak ;/

[@dianedeclare8541]

p.363 of the Myth finally helped me to understand what dr. Mate meant when he said to "not get stuck in victimhood" 10 yrs. ago. There was no time to get further discussion at that time in the Church in the west end. On p.363 he further talks about other identities that we do not need to hold onto rigidly (with too much ego inflation -paraphrasing). diane Leclaire, Vancouver, B.C. Canada

[@mariag2454]

As we age we care less and less what others think. My mom couldn't ever get over the old, what will ppl think. So sad. He's so calming. Maria you def need to leave that toxic LA with fake ppl

[@KimAkia]

Amazing interview!!!! WOW

[@mariamenounos]

Isn't he incredible?!