r/AmITheA**Hole For Telling My Friend To Get Rid Of His 'Companion Doll'?

[@tobybarnett7147]

I’d be HORRIFIED if anyone recorded and listened in on my therapy sessions. That’s an immediate dealbreaker for me that’s one of the biggest breaches of trust you can do. Therapy is supposed to be a safe space and 100% confidential.

[@kickstand284]

And not to mention weird and kinda creepy why does he need to record it

[@platinum_noelle]

And isn't it borderline illegal, as well?

[@cloudythursday9937]

Also weird flex. He openly played it. I mean we all have head sets or head phones. But him openly playing it so she can hear? Completly showing his dominance.

[@tobybarnett7147]

@@platinum_noelle some states are one party consent and hippa only applies to people in the medical service but hopefully it’s illegal

[@pollypockets508]

@@kickstand284 Maybe they suspect that their client is a murderer. (Just a joke)

[@yourlocalnoob4938]

Did that man genuinely just spend a whole post talking about how he can't just be forced to be interested in things he finds boring for his family's sake then immediately insist his family need to force themselves to be interested in things THEY find boring? What in the double standard-

[@sostrucking]

Yes he did. He sounds as whiny as bored kids get. I've always let my kids have their time doing their thing and spend time with them even if I don't enjoy it. I have my hobbies and include them and if they get bored then they can do their own thing. Forcing kids will never get them to like your likes from what I've found out.

[@Pidgeyato]

Why did he spend inheritance money on a companion doll instead of putting that cash towards finding a place of his own to live? Companion dolls are not a necessity for survival. If you're struggling, you gotta save up whatever money you can to support yourself. Instead of burning through it on stuff he doesn't need.

[@101Mant]

I guess he bought it before losing his job when he could afford rent on his salary.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Because he's a full on creep

[@shaymorcormick8743]

Because he is an incel creep

[@bg6b7bft]

You should be able to call ahead to a restaurant, explain that you have a child with extreme food allergies, and arrange for you to bring her a pre-packed meal. "Restaurants don't like outside food" is an insufficient excuse. They are a business, and are required by law to make reasonable accommodations to disabled people.

[@samalvarez8776]

Bringing in outside food can be a liability. Calling ahead and telling them about a huge allergy is what you should do.

[@kionnakelly2918]

@@samalvarez8776 I worked at Panera before and we allow those who have celiac or other serious gluten allergies/intolerances bring their own specialty bread to use in a sandwich. Same with Burgerville when I worked there.

[@mixiv4076]

if you want a comparison for the "companion doll" you could use nudist while I think it's fine to be naked at home but it's different if your living with someone else

[@patriciamebane762]

1q

[@jr5557]

That’s how I felt too. Like if that’s what the dude want to do ok but you got to do that in your own house

[@kierstenpounders973]

Or even if it was a real partner. OP didn’t consent for him to bring a girlfriend. Only himself

[@dawnsharp8524]

Hubby listening to MY therapy session would be an unforgiveable violation of trust. Divorce would be started ASAP.

[@chicken7805]

This is why ppl don't need relationships y'all divorce over anything

[@dawnsharp8524]

Without trust there is nothing. In this case hubby also exhibited an extreme lack of respect for OP by repeatedly intertupting OP's therapy sessions. No respect and no trust = no marriage, just abuse and attempts to control and maybe even humiliate.

[@zahraa4149]

@@chicken7805 while I agree that a lot people scream "DIVORCE" over minor things, I don't think this is minor at all Being in a relationship doesn't mean there is no privacy, and it certainly doesn't mean you get act like you own your partner It's not like the husband tried once or twice then relented because OP doesn't want him to. He doesn't care at all about what OP wants and said "it's not a big deal". Being worried doesn't excuse his actions

[@a.a131]

@@chicken7805 this is not a minor thing you need to "get over with"

[@rubymeaddle]

​@@chicken7805 this is abuse

[@amyjorgensen2876]

Those little insects whose name sounds a lot like a slur really ARE a nightmare. I can see how someone who has never heard “chiggers” would think they’re saying something else.

[@meganpauline4391]

I am from Wisconsin and we definitely have a problem with chiggers in our lakes. So it isn't just a south thing. I haven't had them, but the stories I have heard makes me not want to swim in lakes lol

[@kyab2815]

I live in New York and I never heard of them till I moved to Georgia for a year. I definitely thought they were saying something else the first time I heard it. I was horrified given the statement went like this "fucking chiggers, wish they'd all die". I have no poker face and the person saw my horrified look and explained luckily.

[@sealed2mybff]

@@kyab2815 I'm laughing so hard at this. What a way to learn something new!

[@bellegold2303]

@@meganpauline4391 yeah they are awful in the north too

[@katphish30]

I can't, that's completely idiotic.

[@cantduckinbelieveit7426]

That one with the therapist and the husband recording his wife’s sessions, 😱. That’s absolutely abhorrent. I live in a small one bedroom apt with my partner and I have 45 min therapy sessions every Thursday evening. I asked him once if he could make himself scarce during my sessions and his immediate response was “absolutely, no problem.” And he’s always left the house when I have my sessions. Because he respects and loves me. I hope that OP got help and is doing well.

[@aikikaname6508]

Tell him you respect the ‘companion doll’ as his partner, and as such she can pay her part of the rent. But seriously, man whom is romantically attracted to you whom you rejected and now whoms only romantic alternative is a doll. This is not going to go well

[@tomdean1876]

Most guys that have a "companion doll" spend about 5-10 minutes with it, and then shove it in a closet for a day or two.

[@serpentinewolf7085]

If she doesn’t like it then she can get rid of her sex toys.

[@101Mant]

@@serpentinewolf7085 did you watch the video? He takes it around in a wheelchair and talks to it. It isn't about something he does I the privacy of his room. It's not the sex part that would make living with him really weird.

[@serpentinewolf7085]

@@101Mant Yeah make him keep it in his room and it shouldn’t be an issue. That’s a nice middle ground for the two.

[@franl155]

@@serpentinewolf7085 - I doubt she parades her sex toys around the place in front of other people, or sets them out at the dinner table

[@wildfyah]

"I couldn't help it." Man that's a line I don't want to hear again. My ex used that to justify his behavior.

[@missyjune9014]

The "abandoned" kid is NOT OKAY! The parent is Not Only Abandoning him Physically, but Emotionally as well. That Emotional Abuse is just as DESTRUCTIVE as physical 'kicking him out' alone somewhere.

[@shutup4607]

1:55:42 my sister was attacked by a dog and after they offered surgery to remove the scars, her quote still makes me happy to this day. "We are who we are and if I have scars now, I have scars now. If you don't want to except me for that then so be it."

[@tamitami7396]

People all missed the my husband said, "I can take a few days to stay at my sister to calm down" Umm.. WTH??? He is a controlling AH and she needs to run!! He recorded it because he MUST be in control of every aspect of her life!!

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

OP your family is NOT looking out for your nephew. Any man who would abandon his child in a parking lot, so he could go on a vacation to stick his dong in crazy, is a child abuser and your family is aiding and abetting his actions. You did the right thing, we can only pray that this man loses custody of this boy permanently.

[@jojojinkins1647]

Chiggers, sometimes called berry bugs (though less commonly), are a family of mites that cause patches of small bumps on ankles and lower legs that progressively itch worst and worse over the course of 1 week or more. This is due to their microscopic larva continuing to bite. Affected areas need to be vigorously scrubbed to remove larva or the itching continues to worsten. And will not stop.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 1: um, just why tf are you even considering letting him move in? What the f***

[@thelastprotectorofoverain1035]

1:11:44 Let me spin it to what OP's kids think using his words. "I can't pretend to be interested in things like Star Wars, Harry Potter, Settlers of Catan, ect, when that just isn't me. I'm not you, I can't pretend to be you." Even as a fan of the stuff OP likes I think he's a AH. This is called a double standard. Break it or your going to break the relationship with your kids.

[@barbarastorball2117]

Story 1 nta While it would be nice for OP to take in this friend but it sounds like the friend doesn't understand that not everyone would be comfortable with living with his companion doll. Personally if OP doesn't want to sit with a companion doll during dinner then op is definitely right.

[@ninjasheep7492]

That WoW one had so much projection in the comments about people being like "My dad abandoned me because he was playing WoW 18 hours a day. You are basically an abuser like my dad for taking 5 minutes to finish up before going to let your wife in. I am also 100% sure that you lied about ALL details of this story and you definitely have a serious addiction" God damn

[@Khaisz.]

Yeah, the people calling him the AH is over reacting way to much because they had bad interaction with the game. They really want him to disappoint 39 people(like they aren't real people also who put time aside for this too) and potentially ruining his experience with WoW because 1 person had to wait 5 minutes. I play online games, and I have been upfront with my family about what time I might need and when, and if they call me while I'm busy and need my help with something and I tell them I have x minutes left of this raid before I can, they understand. Edit:typos.

[@rsmith6425]

Oh yeah! Can you spell divorce? And no couples therapy because obviously he can't be trusted with it. Also she "can take a few days at her sister's house to calm down"? Saying that to me would make it so much worse

[@Akalilly]

The wife KNEW he was raiding too, AND he reminded her to take her keys. As the wife of a gamer, I would absolutely understand waiting until he gets to a save point or safe spot to help me. Hell, I HAVE waited for him to finish what he's doing, and for way longer than just 5 minutes. It's part of being in a relationship with a gamer. Definitely not the AH.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@Akalilly I’m not a gamer and I’m glad I’m not the only one that felt like the commenters were inserting entire scenarios that were not in OP’s story. Plus yeah, he TOLD her not to forget her keys. You have to wonder how often she does do that, to such an extent that he has to remind her. NTA.

[@DarqueQueen7]

Lady with the Hubby that recorded your therapy session? Leave him. He's an a**hole and WILL NOT STOP. I had an ex that used to read my diary, so I wrote my break up note in one and gave him an itemized list of money I lent him and told him to pony up. He did. Then I told him to bugger off - and I got my key from him. That was almost 30 years ago - and I've been quite happy since.

[@staylor3483]

Can we just think about something for a moment: OP's mom & granny are stopping by 1 day for tea. How is OP going to explain the "personal companion" doll to these 2 women? OP, don't let this friend move in.

[@angeldark404]

Ok, wiki says: Trombiculidae; commonly referred to as chiggers, but also known as berry bugs, harvest mites, bush-mites, red bugs or scrub-itch mites, are a family of mites. Chiggers are often confused with jiggers - a type of flea. As a tn gal, those bugs SUCK

[@skyelindsey687]

Gamer’s girlfriend here. Some of those redditers clearly don’t realize how much work goes into preparing for just those 5 mins of fighting. How about before she goes out she grabs her keys. What if he wasn’t home, or had noise canceling headphones on, or was in the shower. And 5 hours a week is hardly any time at all especially when she herself is doing her own hobby

[@maverickmayhem4280]

With the dad who wouldn't even try to take an interest in his daughter's hobbies...he sounds just like my dad only my dad's a lot more..."honest" with how he feels. Everytime i try to tell him about some game thing I'm excited about he shuts me down and says he's heard enough and it's all "pokemon to him" ( he uses this phrase whenever I talk about something that he doesn't care about). He also makes me watch stuff he likes with him all the time, makes me listen to his music, but when I want to show him something he always refuses, even tells me to stop singing in the house because "it's too high pitched and distracting." Keep in mind i have no where else to sing but my own home. And that's just the tip of the iceberg. He constantly tells me I'm talking too much, oh unless I'm talking about one of his interests then it's fine. 🙄 Ok rant over.

[@maverickmayhem4280]

Oh and I'm 20 and he still talks to me like this

[@lottiequirk9673]

Once you move out, give him a taste of his own medicine whenever he starts talking about his interests. I’m sorry that he’s so rude and dismissive towards you.

[@marianneh1456]

When that husband gets charged for violating a HIPAA Violation what is his rebuttal? “Oh we’re married”. Sweet that don’t matter in the eyes of the LAW !

[@kristy1653]

Although I think this might actually be a divorcable offense, HE is actually not bound by HIPAA. Only medical professionals and their offices are. Also, it’s possible that they live in a 2 party state that requires people to be aware that they are being audio recorded. In that case, he could be in some trouble if this escalated.

[@princessmarlena1359]

I had a roommate with a companion doll, and I didn’t judge him for it. Setting an extra place for dinner, and needing extra space for the wheelchair is too much, though. At least my roommate kept the doll out of the way.

[@Unapologetikallyblaque]

The 19-year-old can get the hell out of my house and wear whatever she wants in her or someone else’s house. If I pay for a space, I control that space. You don’t get to be a guest in my house and control the space I pay for. So, despite the Gen-Z mantra of “I do what I want”- it is, in fact, my house, my rules. Periodt.

[@trevor7520]

boomer+malding

[@vzburns1]

Chiggers IS THE NAME OF THE BUG! OMG

[@joaddahtezembong724]

I am also from the South & I am Black- WTF is wrong with the word CHIGGERS?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

[@Thebelladonnabelle]

No clue. I had no idea they not everyone knew about them. They're sucky little creatures.

[@gamerwolf4276]

WTF

[@Zaners82123]

By their logic apparently Tigger not allowed either. Poor Winnie can't have his bouncy wouncy friend 😢

[@beastshawnee]

I have lived in the south my whole life except for a spell in N Kansas and I never heard them used as a sub for the N word -never.

[@dabbinggrandpa1150]

Bet the doll is already wearing OP's underwear.

[@escapec1077]

Lmao 😂 personal entertainment devices at the table.

[@YancieMomofmanyx]

I so wanted to go through Reddit and hug that kid.You can't help your allergies. Have two kids who suddenly became allergic to seafood- one at age 11 the other age 6. No one else in family with allergy. One even allergic to iodine itself. We ate at capt D s weekly when the first one happened. Did we do this crap. HELL NO!! EVERY SINGLE PLACE that served seafood I checked about possible cross contamination by same oil or same tongs(foodbars). Now we go eat chinese. We have the kids pick the foods that are safe. Two EpiPen s on hand YOUR CHILD COMES FIRST. YOUR CHILD AS SOON ASYOU SAID I DO.

[@Nope148]

16:15 Instead of _expecting your daughter to watch you all eat for an hour while she gets nothing_, here's one simple fix to try: List down all of daughter's allergies onto a little credit card sized paper (group by severity) and laminate it. Or just on Daughter's phone. Bring to the restaurant. They will bring to the chef and/or a manager. They can make adjustments within reason, or they may even recommend safe foods if there are any. This is the same reason EMS info bracelets exist. YTA, and why does she feel personally attacked? Do/did you do the same thing when they made mistakes? Kids see, understand, and model their parents' reaction to things. Or do the opposite if they see that it's ridiculous (Karen level).

[@beegee1960]

This kind of reminds me of the time when a white aide to the mayor of Washington DC used the term niggardly in a budget meeting and two attendees, one white and one black, walked out in outrage. There was a massive outcry about it and the mayor got involved. The aide resigned. Of course it came out that the word niggardly has nothing to do with race but simply means to be grudging about spending. It was just a misunderstanding. But it goes to show that ignorance of the true meaning of a word can be very dangerous. Note: One of the first written use of the word was in Chaucer’s writings.

[@cheallaigh]

yeah that word isn't related to the offensive one.

[@itazuranakisu]

How it's pronounced is the issue though, the fact that some people have used it to be racist when communicating with a black person then feign innocence that the pronunciation bothered them and honestly the English language has so many other words that could fit without using that term that I find it hard to believe that most people who have used it and claim they aren't racist use it in their everyday vocabulary. I mean some people are desperate to say the N word without consequences so I cant be surprised if that motives some people whose everyday vocabulary would make it seem like that word wouldn't typically be part of their everyday language.

[@cheallaigh]

@@itazuranakisu dude get a dictionary... it has nothing to do with "how it's said", it has everything to do with people thinking the words are associated when they are not.

[@kionnakelly2918]

@@cheallaigh it’s easy to mishear it and mistake it for the n word.

[@cheallaigh]

@@kionnakelly2918 neither word, like niggardly or chiggers, were spoken out of context or have any meaning related to racism. while they can be misheard, people are searching for reasons to be "woke" as it's put, they want to be offended. that aid mentioned lost his job for using a non-racist word, because people don't take the time to listen. the other guy got in trouble again, because people again assumed and didn't listen. who is really at fault here? people go way too far in their need to be offended. i'm canadian and i knew what both words meant, we don't have chiggers here, just our own evil bastard biting insects... and since there's a lot of scottish decent canadians, we know how niggardly, read miserly, as the jokes go scotsmen can be. there's a reason they're a trope, i know because i grew up with one, my father. i treat people with respect, they present as male or female, i refer to them as such or ask. i don't use racist terms and i will call out people for CLEARLY racist ones. i swear karens and chads are seeping into peoples brains like a virus. to go off halfcocked is a trademark of them.

[@staycejo1]

Wedding vows don't contain a clause that you absolutely must cook for your husband. Since he, by choice, won't eat then it won't hurt him. When you cook and sit down to eat, ignore him and focus on your daughter. He is being low key controlling and wants to break you down in order to get his way.

[@franl155]

Anyone who pulls the "I couldn't help it" card is talking bs. No one can help their thoughts and feelings. Everyone can help what they do about it. To deliberately set out to spy on *private* therapy sessions is an incredible betrayal of trust. How can OP relax and open up in future sessions with the fear that he's doing it again? [] Abandoned child: yet another man who thinks that "No" means "Yes" or "Keep trying" And what kind of home life does that kid have with a father and friend who clearly don't want him around?

[@agingophelia9812]

Yes he damn well could help it. Unforgivable, and the gaslighting is worse.

[@cheallaigh]

What are chiggers? Chiggers are tiny larvae members of the arachnid family and are sometimes called red bugs. Although the larvae are extremely small in size, their bites pack a powerful punch. They’re so tiny that you probably won’t notice when they jump from that tall blade of grass onto your skin. You won’t feel it as they hitch a ride right into your home. When you eventually do feel them, however, they can be extremely itchy. commonly referred to as chiggers, but also known as berry bugs, harvest mites, red bugs, scrub-itch mites, or aoutas) are a family of mites it's NOT a racist word, and i can say as a canadian, even i have heard of them

[@mojavegreen2072]

About the doll, if he wants to be a “package deal”, he is making the choice to be homeless. His choice, not OP.

[@bluejaywoman3421]

when I was a camp councilor I had to call out a camper who called African American campers Nickers. It was clear she was trying to insult them, but trying to not get in trouble. But the camping conversation was clearly not aimed at insulting someone.

[@theladybastet6099]

If my partner listened into my therapy, I wouldn't have a partner, he'd be gone.

[@DarqueQueen7]

Son whose car was damaged by sister? The same thing happened to me. I bought the car - my mom put $500 down while I put $1000 - made the payments myself, insured it myself and told my sister she could not drive the car because she took it out one hight and one of her friends put a cigarette burn mark on the ceiling of the interior of my car. So, I was asleep when my mother gave my sister the keys to my car and my sister went down a street where there is a blind left turn - and right into a station wagon. Took off the entire front end. I had to call my insurance company; told them my sister was driving with my permission - because if I had said otherwise, they would not have fixed my vehicle. Then, I told my sister and mother that the repairs cost over $4K and she and Mom didn't have to pay that. But for the next 4 years, my insurance was going to have a 25% increase and they needed to pay it. My mother was going to talk - and I said I was not going to budge. 4 YEARS. And during that time, there was the bus.

[@AceBobcat]

Markee, "chigger" is NOT a slur.

[@thelastprotectorofoverain1035]

I think he was worried since they sound so familiar that someone might take it out of context, or that it might sound like he slipped. Just playing it safe I guess.

[@juliebaker6969]

This PC 🐂💩 is getting absolutely RIDICULOUS! I am SO over people trampling other people's 1st amendment rights over STUPID crap like this. For Markee to be SO afraid of saying the name of an INSECT because it shares the same suffix as a racial slur is absolutely ASININE. What gets me worst is that the same people that complain about things like that, have NO PROBLEM with throwing around hurtful and hateful words like "racist", "Nazi", "bigot", "homophobe", "transphobe" and the like. Despite the fact that they KNOW it has NO bassist in fact, and they are only using them to insult and falsely defame someone because they disagree with them POLITICALLY. 😤

[@CattyTomfoolery]

I hate those little bugs. Used to get them a lot when I was a kid playing in my grandpa's back yard.

[@mellabihitsugya9826]

Where do they call them that??

[@juliebaker6969]

@@mellabihitsugya9826 The bugs? Everywhere as far as I know, I've never heard them called anything else.

[@hekatsees9449]

OP’s scars: OP’s parents are stuck. This has been something they have worked towards for so many years that they seem to need the scars on OP’s face removed to feel their mission is complete… The scar removal may or may not help them. It has nothing to do with love, they are ‘defects’ they believe they have not been able to overcome… In a way, they are your parents scars… Someone loving you or not will have nothing to do with the scars remaining on your face…

[@kotey1958]

Going to the lobby shouldn't be a disruption to a wedding ceremony. Suppose it was getting up to go to the bathroom?

[@frankbarkmeyer1168]

Imagine forgetting the key after being reminded to not forget your key......

[@debdoug4136]

I've said it before and I'll say it again. I love when you get spicy. I'm quite old and wow crop tops and g-strings? They're actually more comfortable. Less fabric.

[@chloecook4511]

I don't understand why Market redacted the word 'chiggers'. I have never heard them called anything else. And they are much worse than mosquitoes.

[@marra9654]

Seriously! They're a huge problem and I literally don't know another name for them....

[@marra9654]

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[@zeroflight6867]

The prank one... it would've been great if she hadn't done it at that time. Don't f*ck with someone sleeping; that can actually be traumatic even if they'd normal laugh the action off.

[@7thjester16]

I'd be creepy if he was taking that doll everywhere talking to it even if he wasn't having sex with it. There was a story about someone with anxiety caring around a stuffed animal and taking care of it, and I'd have no problem with that. The sheer uncanny valley aspect of doing that with a life like doll... nope. Too much like carrying around a corpse and talking to it. He can do it at his place, but if he wants to do it at yours, you're free to say no he can't move in.

[@snarky4lyfe144]

i went to " big kid time out " for two weeks once , i left my daughter in the care of my mother whom i lived with at the time , when i came home from my " vacation" i had a whole slew of child neglect charges waiting for me when i got home , thing is i left everything i thought my mother would need , my Childs medical card , the food assistance card ect. yet i was still slapped with child abandonment charges and neglect . like what was i supposed to do put my child in foster care for the time i went to jail ? no i left her with a member of my family whom i LIVED with , i literally left my kid at home with an adult . found out later my mother had " lost " my Childs medical card and instead of LOOKING for it she decided it would be easier if she ( my mom) just reapplied for medical for my kid ........ i ended up getting everything dropped and never left my kid for any longer than overnight with any family members again .

[@nee_username871]

Wow, that's sad to no longer trust a family member like that anymore.

[@crystaliskandar1]

The fact that the dad from the "share my interest" story referred to "One Day At A Time" that way disturbs me. It isn't campy or childish. It has themes of single parent struggles, PTSD, depression, LGBTQ issues, immigrant issues, alcoholism, abuse, and so much more. For him to refer to it like that makes me think he either hate women as lead characters, hates poc as lead characters, or hates LGBTQ people as lead characters. So he's either sexist, racist, homophobic, or some combination of them. You don't have to like the show but to be so reductive about it gives me some red flags. For actual children to understand these themes and appreciate them for the importance of them but a grown man can't or won't is one of many red flags.

[@KazumiKiguma]

I started hearing WoW guy's reasoning and immediately knew where this was going. My guy at the end of the day, it is a video game. Even if your hardass of a raid leader keeps you from participating because you died or missed buffs, real life should always take precedent. No matter how much you want to explain it, it doesn't justify it. It sucks, and you're allowed to be upset (hopefully not too much though) for having to step away, but yes, YTA for not doing so. Also, find a new raid group, the encounters do not require all 40 people to have world buffs, especially not the one from turning in Onyxia's head. Hell they don't even require all 40 people to be fully geared, it's primarily coordination around fight mechanics, there werent even many enrage timers back then, it was more around resources like the healers' mana. edit: also if you order delivery and your SO commonly gets stuck in the vestibuke, you keep a delivery tracker up and when it's close, say you gotta get ready to step away so they hold off on pulling. EVERYONE deals with real life, so no, the fact there's 39 others doesn't matter. edit 2: also I don't think explaining the lead up investment to a general community that might not understand it (even among mmo players, raiders are a minority) is an attempt to heavily justify himself. I used to hardcore raid, so I knew where he was going even without it, though his context made me realize how shit his raid leader is, and still find him TA. However, the likelyhood theres other stuff unrelated to this incident is high, and who knows what goes on between them. We can only comment on this one incident presented to us, speculation only leads to forming bias or overthinking.

[@TutuFerret]

I lost my husband to WoW. I gave him a month to prove that he wanted to be part of the family (ie cut down on his Wow to when we're not home - ie 10 hours a day and after the kids are in bed) and actually be present when I picked up the kids from daycare and got home from work wanting help with feeding, & bathing the kids and getting them to bed and other housework. I'd generally fall asleep trying to get the kids to sleep, eventually wake up and crawl into bed, then he'd come in at 3am and wake me up to tell me all about his raids. Like WTF? I had to be up to get the kids ready for daycare & be on the bus to work in a few hours. Who does that? He chose WoW. I can't give an unbiased answer. Life was a lot easier without him.

[@rykercabler9756]

The “insect” story, wtf? Is that not their real name? I literally don’t know another name for them, is there another name for them????

[@themousethatroared3371]

Aside from the latin name which almost nobody but an entomologist would know, nope. Chigger is the actual name for that bug. Never heard it called anything else.

[@rykercabler9756]

@@themousethatroared3371 According to google they're also called Berry Bugs. I've literally never heard anyone call them that

[@themousethatroared3371]

@@rykercabler9756 Berry Bugs? Thats one I've never heard.

[@lorirobinson7357]

Call them red biting bugs...lol

[@bluejaywoman3421]

Why couldn't she walk 1/2 a mile? My kid walked 9/10ths of mile to elementary school. His insults are out of bounds.

[@kayq3231]

Oklahoman here, what else are those itchy bugs called?

[@xxKillgorxx]

These stories just keep reinforcing the idea that having kids is just too much drama and too much trouble.

[@jonmendelson1104]

The WoW story I'm going with NTA. It's definitely possible that this is the straw that broke the camel's back for her to get upset but I feel like people are just jumping on it because it's WoW. If we were to change the context to "I was in a meeting with a group of 40 people. It was something we took awhile to get everything organized for and while I was in the middle of a short (roughly 5 minute) thing that I was actively involved in my wife let me know she had locked herself out. In order not to mess things up for the meeting I let her wait inside the building but outside the house in a safe spot during mild weather for a few minutes rather than potentially messing things up for the other 39 people? I could see being annoyed if I was the wife but she's the one who forgot her keys? What if he'd just sat down on the toilet or just wasn't at home?

[@Desugan69]

Exactly that, also he remindet her :,,Don't forget the keys!" and still She forgot them and like i understood not only for the first time So yeah 99% not the asshole I don't play wow but i gues 1-2 player mabey could hold him safe for 30sec and in that time he opens the door for her so yeah 1% a hole

[@darkshadow5581]

It's hilarious how opposite the NTA and YTA comments are. In a shorten format... YTA cares about... -she was possibly in danger (yes seriously) -he prioritized a game over her -2/3 hours a week is too much WOW time. And NTA says... -he reminded her and she still is that incompetent -its 5 minutes of her time vs a week for 39 others -People hate him because it's a game, if it was sewing, or a sport like baseball, no-one would care. Personally, I think it's clear which is correct. But don't worry, apparently she can't leave because she can't handle 5 minutes without OP. XD

[@SilverMaychan]

I used to play wow. No you can't expect anyone to cover for you when you are raiding and want to go get something. That just doesn't work.

[@jonmendelson1104]

@@Desugan69 It depends on what encounter it was. If it was one of the easy ones there's a decent chance they could work through it without him. However, there are some encounters where 1 person not doing something at a specific time will cause everybody to die and there's nothing the group can do about it. For instance, there's an encounter where a spell is cast on a random player and 5-10 seconds later they explode and get launched up into the air. You have to run out of the group during that 5-10 seconds otherwise the explosion will hit the whole group. There's a small possibility that you could realize that a player is away from their computer and somehow communicate with the other 39 players that everyone has to move instead of just that one person but the odds of the players registering that it's him, communicating that it needs to be done, and everyone moving are extremely slim. That being said I don't know how much I believe that he actually reminded her to bring the keys with her on that particular occasion. The story is 100% from his point of view and that's the type of detail that I could see getting added to the story to make him sound better.

[@Funkykitsune]

@@Desugan69 I'm starting to wonder if she 'forgot' the keys on purpose. I mean, how many times do you have to lock yourself out before you remember?

[@claudeyaz]

They shouldn't have ordered food while in a raid or a buff..like all these wow widows and absconded kids pushed their own trauma on this guy. This guy if he isn't lying...has a healthy set up. Seriously you cannot just leave the computer. 39 other people are reliant on you. And if you die. You lose the buff. It is a big deal!

[@Bmomma-gs9gw]

Omg i thought it was a companion dog...NOT DOLL LOL

[@locusxe1411]

For the WoW story I’m going with NTA. He left her out there for 5 minutes. He told her to bring her keys and she forgot it. What if Op was any in the game? What if he was injured or something in his hosue and couldn’t get to the door. I genuinely thing everyone who said YTA is just stupid. No one even brought up how he said he plays once or twice a week. It’s his wife’s fault for forgetting her key. And that one Redditor saying what if she got murdered. Like what? Isn’t the vestibule in their apartment complex outside of their room? But yeah I don’t see how Op is an ahole. Most Redditor are just idiots

[@krystalfloods6197]

I agree, he literally reminded her to bring her keys. It’s ridiculous that anyone would say he’s the asshole but then again that sub is extremely biased towards men.

[@sostrucking]

I bet she don't forget her keys next time

[@NuggetNapper]

He *claims* she was out there for five minutes. Maybe it felt like 5 to him, but I'm willing to bet money it was more than just 5. Plus, I don't think there is any justifiable length of time to leave one's spouse locked out of your shared residence while you play a GAME. He was playing a game, not injured or incapacitated. And he was using this as an excuse to shirk his responsibilities to his spouse. But that's my opinion.

[@thatwaffleguy4958]

@@krystalfloods6197 I think you meant "against". Being biased towards someone is the complete opposite.

[@CuriousRegard]

For the WoW story , NTA .But I suspect your playing time is gaming time and it's twice as long irl :P

[@jessicajones3019]

Omg what is OP’s way of cooking vegetables sounds good I’m a picky eater with certain vegetables they sound amazing

[@scarysara9364]

I have a feeling that O.P.'s friend has some _metal_ issues if he is treating the "companion doll" like it is a _real_ person. : /

[@Lunasera]

The WoW story is ridiculous -.- Of course if your life rushes by you there is definitely something wrong but in moderation it can absolutely work. I have always liked gaming, mostly RPGs like Persona, KH, Pokemon and stuff My fiance likes games too though more Anno and Civilization and the like We make time to spend quality time together and are both working full time, manage the housekeeping and meeting friends and still have much time for gaming left. Of course this is also because we are lucky to have a partner with similar interests. But OP's wife knew this about him, he surely didn't start after marrying her and her forgetting her key while being reminded to take it doesn't speak for her either. Maybe they just don't fit cause this relationship seems prone to building frustration.

[@JMac7395]

1st Story: once the friend suggested that "jealousy" was the issue for not wanting the doll in your home I would've retracted the offer. That's a red flag indicating something is off. The friend may have had a break down after losing his job. So instead of talking to a human being, he's talking to an inanimate object. I would encourage him to spend his money on a therapist, online or in person, to express his thoughts & to give him constructive feed back.

[@royalrebel8380]

The part where Siri activated was hilarious! Love these long videos. I like having background noise at all times and these videos are perfect

[@Ecclectic_citcelccE]

The parents who insist on surgery for the scars are terrible people, not for wanting him to have surgery but the way they treat him and his sister. Their treatment won't improve once he's had the procedure, as evidenced by sister's treatment. OP should talk to his kind grandfather and explain how he feels and doesn't feel impacted socially.

[@medchan5810]

Gonna comment on the car story. YTA specifically because you tried to HIDE IT. Say he goes to sell it later on and doesn't disclose that there was a minor accident. That could be considered fraud. It's already been repaired and some people wouldn't care about that (I personally bought a car after it had been in a minor accident) but for others, that's definitely a factor to consider. I don't think he could be sued for it but I'm not sure. Still, I'd certainly be displeased if I wasn't told up front about my car being in an accident.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

The parents of cleft lip clearly care WAY more about what others think of them than they do about their own child's feelings. Sad

[@Thebelladonnabelle]

Oml how are people still so shallow? People with facial deformities or scars can still find love. Looks aren't everything.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

"I'm not a teenage girl, I can't pretend to be one." Ummm, really? You're doing a really good job of being one right now lol. You're the adult and the parent. All I hear is how you're hurt and they aren't making an effort. Helllooooo....that's YOUR job. It's time to emotionally grow up a little bit and be the adult in the relationship and try and get interested in the things your kids are interested in. All of your complaints as to what they are doing are literally the EXACT things you are doing to them. Only they aren't laughing at your shows and being disrespectful. Sounds like they are the adults in the relationship and you're the child. If you had them watch Parks and Rec, they might like it and therefore get the context behind Settlers of Katan and be interested in playing

[@fedupmomma1309]

To the guy who left his wife downstairs for 5 min... You told her to take her keys. Reminded her & she was aware of what was going on. I say NTA. She knew the door could & mostly would close & lock on her.

[@AJStarhiker]

Nah. OP's home, OP's rules. The friend is acting like a choosing begger. Recording the therapy isn't just disrepectful, it's a HIPPA violation. Relationships don't matter in that.

[@ashleyn.9166]

No. No, it's not a HIPPA violation. Husband isn't a healthcare practitioner treating her. Her healthcare practitioner didn't share info with him. Go read what HIPPA actually is.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

So if her boyfriend doesn't want her living with a man, why doesn't he rent a place for them? Does he not work?

[@dragonetafireball]

Last Op should be careful for his own mental health. People who’ve been shunned most of there life for something like a scar or weight often report trust issues because people who where mean before are suddenly nice and now they don’t know who to trust because everyone new they meet they wonder if they would have accepted the old them.

[@gabriellewatson2236]

I cant sleep and im listening to this to relax myself, but im genuinely laughing at your commentary and add ins in this video, Markee! Go off queen!

[@DragonTwin88]

Food allergy: Just stop going to restaurants. End of issue.

[@AnonymousDragonWolf]

Ewewew! Okay, so the guy got rejected, and so he got a sex doll to compensate. That sex doll, to him, is the equivalent of a living woman. How has nobody else thought about that? This guy thinks women are no better than sex objects!

[@staylor3483]

Re: OP with cleft palette & lip... NTA.. it is your body, you do as you see fit. However, writing as a parent of a now 20yo with Spina bifida: my husband & I blamed ourselves for her birth defect. We did everything we could to make our child whole. OP's parents are most definitely feeling that same guilt. They brought their child halfway around the world for better treatment & a better life. They see their child so close to being whole, something they have dreamt of since seeing that little face at birth, & they can't handle the thought of the face not being perfect. What they don't take into consideration is that everything they have done to achieve that perfection has hurt their child inside. The parents need therapy to come to grips with their grief over blaming themselves for their child's imperfect exterior & work harder to repair the harm they have most certainly caused to their child's psyche.

[@annahorne6806]

I would take that 12 yr old in so he could have a stable life. That poor kid. Lost his mum then his dad abandoned him in a parking lot. He will have huge abandonment issues omg

[@57daysproductions]

Man, I relate to the one about the bugs. That's what we call them here, and I genuinely have no idea what else people call them. I'm always afraid people not from here will think I'm tryina say the n word, but oof.

[@bethelcharis3554]

Seriously?! Chiggers? Yes I spent the majority of my growing up years in Georgia. We called them that. It’s not offensive to anyone in the south 🙄. And yes they are the most annoying bug in the universe! Their bites can sometimes make it look like you have a rash. And if your clothes get infected you would have a full body rash.

[@rseegraves]

Plays with dolls - your house,you rules. If you have to make a place at the damn dinner table and “it’s” wheelchair. Homeboy needs to get a life. And if he hadn’t spent a shit load of money on a glorified fleshlight, he might have more money to live… SMGDH…

[@Pheronia]

I am a recovering WoW Addict, I have a full T3 Hunter and a Benediction Priest, but come on now, if I had to go let my spouse in I would have mentioned it on coms so that everyone else could step up their game, or the off tank could step up if I were main tank

[@Trikormadeinadon]

"You're really not going to miss raiding all that much." Very true, but honestly, personally I would not miss the raiding much like you say, but I would miss the raiding more than I would miss the girlfriend. Video games are more fun to interact with than people are. People suck. And sex is overrated. Video games are WAY more fun.

[@sostrucking]

We will just have to disagree on the sex vs gaming part. Yes some people suck...others are fun to be around. At least a game console doesn't eat all your food.

[@thatwaffleguy4958]

@@sostrucking See you just have to avoid the people who suck at fun, but find that one who's fun to suck. That was really crass, even by my standards. I apologize.

[@domaniward1170]

"Trombiculidae" who says that? "Chiggers" is the only known word by the common person for that incredibly annoying insect.

[@judelbugsrutter6727]

Last OP 😢 im so sorry for what youre going through. This has happened in our family but in my small relative's case they were a member of a biracial blended family. The AH parent was kicked to the curb after doing a lot of damage 💔 and they're now doing better than fine... I hope your heart is mended soon too and you find your person. OPs parents sound very religious/fundamentalist and i cant help but eonder... if they're not enough with op being well now with a few scars; are they ever going to be 'enough' with a son who's well with no scars? It could just swap to something else as to what makes their life sux so much... in their own opinions tgat is. If you're looking for good things you attract good things and your looking for bad things you will find them.

[@naturalPaths]

Huh..wonder what have happened if glittery, paid-back wife would have just laughed, said ‘good one,’ and then left it on and gotten stickiness Everywhere.

[@kyriacarica5862]

3rd story: Why can't OP just make a family activity out of grocery shopping and cooking their own food?? That would be such a great bonding experience! Also, why doesnt he just research restaurants that his daughter CAN eat at? If this were my stepchild, I would memorize her allergies like the back of my hand so we could find a place we can all eat at in peace. 4th story: ESH. All these pranks are stupid and they all sound toxic af.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

36:05 - Markee, why does your Siri sound like a Minecraft Villager?

[@demonheart13]

For the allergen story, while OP is a jerk here, I am surprised they haven't established any safe restaurants she can eat at. Something isn't being said here because sending back food more then twice for the same reason sounds like a problem somewhere and I fail to believe that every restaurant has the same problem unless they live somewhere where there are very very few places to eat out

[@wordforger]

Story 1: NTA. You are uncomfortable and that is enough. If the doll is a non-negotiable, then the living situation just will not work. End of discussion.

[@Mouthymensch]

As someone who grew up with weird allergies and an emotionally abu***e parent, my learned response was to wait it out when I had an allergic reaction. To the point where my sister would ask why I’m not eating and I would let her know and no one would do anything. That op is definitely the ah. All the kid is learning is that they are a burden for something that’s outside of their control

[@emeraldqueen1994]

For the story where OP’s husband recorded her THERAPY SESSION : two words HIPPA VIOLATION!!!!!! IMO, that’s a VERY PERSONAL MATTER!!!! For the story where OP felt like his nephew’s dad : CALL CPS that’ll DEFINITELY create trauma & possible PTSD (I HAVE PTSD FROM BEING ABANDONED BEFORE THE AGE OF 2!!! Thank goodness for adoption because that could have been a lot worse!! For the story where OP’s co workers misunderstood him when he mentioned Chiggers : little pro tip, they’re also called Red Bugs in case of misunderstandings like that for the story where OP’s husband wanted “fancy food but didn’t want her using the ingredients involved in cooking said food : your cooking sounds so good!!!! 😋 PLEASE POST THE RECIPE!!!!!!!!!! For the story where OP’s parents threatened disowning him if he didn’t have his scars removed : OP, YOUR BODY YOUR CHOICE!!! If you’re proud of your scars, keep them, if not, get the surgery... I actually have medical related trauma, too, so I empathize with you being hesitant to get the surgery...

[@ashleyn.9166]

The husband isn't a medical practitioner. HIPPA is to prevent medical practitioners from releasing medical information to unapproved parties. There is a reason that for any type of telehealth appointments they say to be in a quiet private area and the doctor is in a closed room. If someone was eves dropping on their end it would be a HIPPA violation. On your end, it's legally your responsibility. Not saying it was OK or her fault what happened. It was NOT. But legally, not a HIPPA violation. (Worked in a hospital and chronically ill. Very familiar with HIPPA)

[@wendycoulter9122]

+A-*n adult house guest, has no right to demand anyone be uncomfortable in their own home for their comfort. (Hell I have personally enforced this fact in my own home kicking out my 19 year old nephew for breaking my absolutely no pot smoking rule) And yes, the home owner has every right to tell you I am not comfortable with your choice in clothing in my house :P This person has no legal obligation to house this person.

[@stephanieraebel8160]

Comic-Con!!!!!! Father and daughters dont likes the same thing. Here is what you do. Take them to Comic-Con!!!!!! Every female there is done up to the nines!!! make-up included as well as some sweeeet fashion to boot!!!! Try it!!!!!!!!FEMALE CHARACTERS!!!!!!!!!! Grand daughter was the same until the Scarlet Witch!!!!!!! Cos play.....gotta love it❤❤❤❤

[@julias2855]

Husband has watched soooo much Paw Patrol. Not his favorite show. He watched because kids love it. He’s a grown man, of course Paw Patrol is not his favorite. Lol. Edit Princess Power Hour is a thing he does too. Lol.

[@c.d.4319]

Neice in a thong: NTA. She can dress however she wants when she lives on her own. It is respectful to cover up when you're a guest in another's home and they ask you to.

[@logan64528]

But the niece didn't really have any option but to move in with her aunt.

[@DaddyC702]

@@logan64528 this does not change the fact that she is in another person's ho.e and need s to show respect for the occupants that live there. Family or no, this is not appropriate attire if there is a man in the house which is probably why she dresses this way.

[@logan64528]

@@DaddyC702 not necessarily, I think the aunt needs to ease up because that is probably how the niece usually dresses.

[@gurbythane9132]

Seriously, I sat through Power Rangers, and a dozen other horrid live-action such shows. So me and my son could relate.

[@Jogeta5]

Markee the /s is for sarcasm.