I Took All The Money From Our Baby Shower To Pay The Venue Fees r/Relationships

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[@jasminebean5762]

I am amazed the man in the first story said in order to justify himself and show he was a good guy that he "was going to be helping his wife pay her medical bills" the bills for giving birth to his child. This wife will be facing far more serious problems than the cost of that baby shower.

[@elizabethcox5911]

Don't get what you can't afford. And it's called a BABY shower, everything is for the baby. Everything!

[@naruto456431]

Agreed I only use afterpay for small purchases for like Max 200 to keep the repayments at 50 dollars a fortnight who spends 2900 dollars on a venue for a baby shower when you don't have 2900 to begin with it's silly of I got 2900 I'd use it for bills and groceries

[@liviwaslost]

He should of done some research

[@Ash-mo7oc]

yeah, he even said that he was "ok AND prepared to spend that amount on the shower" at the beginning of the post so why is he now stating that he can't? oh because he PLANNED to be paid back.

[@rsmith6425]

Not to mention "hey babe, I want you to feel special and how I'm going to make you feel special is by completely disregarding your wishes and doing what I want"

[@KCohere33]

I can’t even fathom spending $2500 on just the venue for a baby shower.

[@beastshawnee]

Why didn’t the hungry spoiled mama’s boy’s mommie NOT EVEN INVITE her son’s wife!? “Son -leave your wife and come over here by yourself to eat this special meal I claimed to have made?!” Son is pissed that his mommie tricked him but instead gets mad at neglected wife...

[@incineroar9933]

Idk the husband sounds like a big baby I can see why he was confused and thought the money was for him.

[@jessielarabie119]

😂💀

[@BruinPhD2009]

Yeah, the first update didn’t do him any favors. The final edit was a little better. Maybe there’s hope for the guy yet.

[@toxicradiant9858]

Same for the other guy who couldn't figure out which woman to feed from lmao

[@deballen7031]

Lmao 🤣

[@brittneyscriven6106]

No one in the video mentioned the 'hey, I am going to HELP her with the medical bills but she has stuff saved up'. What do you mean HELP!

[@katieb.1184]

"helping my wife with her medical bills." you mean the bills for GIVING BIRTH? nah man... those are now both yours. you made a decision together to have a kid, you pay for it together. the absolute disrespect in how he phrases things is not cool. it feels like he thinks everyone should agree with him and that he is being the bestest guy ever for offering to help so much while also being really selfish.

[@LadyMot]

This hit me too. 'she has money saved, so I can be an irresistible child'

[@DanniSoRude]

You know he's gonna be the type to refer to parenting as babysitting 😂

[@melissajaine_]

I’m

[@mattyk1lls]

Story #2: What OP did was WORSE than MIL?! ARE YOU KIDDING?! That line sent me into rage. Your wife made you dinner. Took off from work to grocery shop. Had it ready for you when you got home. Your mother called and LIED about what she was making for the sole purpose of getting you to LEAVE THE MEAL YOUR WIFE JUST MADE. He made his choice. I would never cook for him again 😊

[@hilaryc3203]

I would have shown. him the door long before, permanently.

[@chelseaallen8927]

The guy who stole from the baby shower sounds like the kind of person to take money from the kid's birthday card.

[@MarshmallowCUPCAKee1]

The party was for him, not his wife or his child. OP sounds selfish & makes bad financial decisions, wife better watch him.

[@paulinadeboer3604]

He pays for her medicalbills, he means their medicalbills or did she get pregnant on her own. I pay the most because she is on unpaid leave from her work. He see every dime that goes to the householt as his money, not theirs. This sound as financiel abuse in the making, she has no job, a kid and a husband that does not listen to her.. i hope she has a safty net. She need one. The guy is controling and THAT is the only reason why HE wanted to host the babyshower.

[@imbuffysummers]

@@paulinadeboer3604 right it almost sounds like he resents her for not being able to work because she just gave birth to THEIR child? Like “how dare she have the audacity to accrue medical bills from giving birth and not immediately work it off afterwards”

[@Draggonny]

Nothing makes a girl feel special quite like ignoring her expressed preferences and doing the opposite. 🙄

[@IzzyPR2010]

This guy didn't have a baby shower, he invested in a business venture that he was hoping to make a profit from, that's how he treated this thing.

[@___Music_Is_Life___]

Did I miss a memo somewhere or does op not understand baby showers? Who rents a fancy venue for a baby shower unless they're like seriously rich? Doesn't the relative/friend hosting usually just have it at their place or if that's not practical find somewhere inexpensive? Are baby showers now weird overpriced status symbols like weddings so expensive people start the marriage in debt?

[@michaelwoods3651]

Crazy, right? Even the gender reveal parties seem ridiculous to me. People never did these things back in the day. Weddings, bridal showers, engagement parties are usually bigger affairs. Baby showers are usually more intimate.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

Ikr. Most people have showers in their home or back yard. When my daughters had babies I had showers at my church when my pastor offered the space for free because my place was small, and I had my other daughter’s shower in the social room of a friend’s apartment building, also for free. You don’t rent expensive venues. And guess what - you don’t steal money intended for the baby to pay you back for the shower! That’s like throwing someone a birthday party then expecting them to pay you back for it!

[@deballen7031]

@@michaelwoods3651 I agree wholeheartedly. I also think that these rehearsal dinner things where the entirety of both families plus friends and the vicar the are invited are ridiculous. I mean, who has got that sort of cash to splash? Where will all this stressful madness lead to? When will it all end?

[@katieb.1184]

mine was at our church. it did cost to rent it out, but I didn't ask how much because that's tacky... but I'm 99% certain it was under $200 based on other events

[@ajzephyros7454]

No you didn't miss a memo, this man is just an idiot

[@pamelalaub6204]

The wife was right. The money was intended for items for the baby. It's unheard of for a man to host his wife's baby shower. He dug a hole and stole money from his baby to get out.

[@Ax-xo4ux]

It’s not unheard of- plenty of guys host their wives baby shower. Especially if relationships with other family are poor. It’s not common but definitely not taboo

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

It's so weird to me that a man would even care that much about a baby shower venue.

[@howardallan7849]

For the cook. Just make food for yourself for the next month. Tell him that he's eating a mom's for the next month. If he objects say you're not his mom and you come first with him or he can go be a mama's boy elsewhere.

[@TruecrimeSalads]

Go MARRY Your Mama then!! He chose his mama & she lied about cooking so then he wants to come back home demanding food. Hell NAW

[@kbf9644]

“Thanks for opening my eyes. … But I’m going to defend my actions anyway.” Yeah, you’re eyes are so open. 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️ ETA: “I’ll give the money to my wife and let her decide.” Because he knows she won’t let him go hungry. So if he gives it to her and SHE decides he gets to eat and have money until payday then he’ll walk around guilt free. Dude’s a tool.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

I’m impressed with the “boyfriend not attracted to me” OP, I can’t even imagine the amount of hard work and determination it took her to lose 100 pounds without a working spine. I mean, come on, she pretty much paid to have a creepy and disgusting bully for a boyfriend. Silver linings, at least it was only three years and now she’s healthier and more fit, both physically and mentally.

[@delab13]

Savage! 😂 But accurate

[@mdlizzy]

The guy who wanted the baby and his ex wanted to give it up for adoption got some bad advice! Basically tricking his ex into giving him the baby and then making her pay him for it is insane. It’s definitely going to come back and bite him on the ass.

[@bessevaraven859]

If a woman plans to give up a baby for adoption then she should not have to pay child support at all

[@Dohyden2]

That lady who has chefs for a husband, brother in law and mother in law can expect them in her life to welcome her cooking. Usually the last thing a chef wants to do when they get home is cook more food.

[@socketyellow3]

The story of the foster kid vs dinner: am I the only one pissed off at how the parents manipulated op by telling the kid they were coming so he would make them a invite then said they both canceled on you after seeing your invites

[@league-of-shadows]

Yes and I think commenters were unfair because the BIL’s family were coming to the dinner which made it seem like a larger than normal dinner. Coordinating everyone’s schedule can be really different so you can’t just reschedule dinners like that easily. The parents had no business promising like that.

[@mygodisthemoon]

I wonder if the husband in story one understands its a BABY shower, that all gifts mom and dad are to go towards future use for BABY, including money. And yeah, every baby shower I went to has been at someone's house except for one. The one I did go to that was at a rented venue, mom and dad to be both agreed to the location and both families were the ones to help cover the cost of throwing the party.

[@happilyevernever4289]

It seemed like a scheme where he'd essentially make other people provide for the kid, without him doing much himself. He wanted to show off to others that he can do so much for the kid, when really he wasn't. He thinks he's so smart.

[@skyelindsey687]

It’s clear all the YTA on the play story missed the part about it not being able to be moved to any other night. I’m with the person who described the foster child being like a step sibling they have no relationship with other than them being take in by their parents. And as someone that was part of a sh!tty orchestra concert, I wish my mother would’ve gone somewhere else rather than record that performance (the director had us learn Stairway to Heaven by just having us do g scale practices all season long. We sounded worse than a beginner orchestra)

[@damilton]

for the foster brother story: You shouldnt be forced to go to the play if u didnt want to.I wouldnt have wasted my time at that when i could have been having fun at the place i wanted to go

[@LoveK1]

I hold have went to the dinner and felt absolutely no guilt about it. I’m not wasting my evening on some kid I barely know and no one would make me feel bad about it.

[@doityourselfdiva6001]

When dealing with an underwear thief you have to get crafty. Put up your own camera in the laundry area. Padlock a laundry bag or many articles together. Pin the undies inside your pants, when he opens the washer or dryer he still won't find or be able to take undies. He WILL do this again, don't get complacent. You may have to get a book and babysit your clothes while they wash. This is war, no undies left behind! lol

[@candicehenderson1888]

I love that. "No undies left behind"

[@mariabarker2036]

"If we didn't have this crass convention, we wouldn't have gotten as much loot as we did..." ugh

[@secretskull21]

On the story about the daughter who is required by law to pay for her mom… I would go to someone in law and say “This woman claims that I am not her child, and as such I should not be responsible for her.”. It might not do anything, but I’m just that kind of petty.

[@elizahamilton5599]

My sister had her baby shower in a church social center. And it was…absolutely free!! Who the hell spends that much on a baby shower?!?

[@lilbitof3kiddos507]

My daughter had a horrid bully in grade school. My hubby and I would go have lunch with her a lot. After a particularly bad week, I saw her starting at us. I asked her to come join us to my daughter's dismay. I offered some of the mini Butterfinger's I had brought, and she just talked and talked and talked. My daughter said she became her best friend after that. Turns out she had a pretty bad home life, and she was horribly jealous of my daughter. She became my daughter's body guard of a sort. She had been expelled from other schools for bullying and fighting. We accepted her with open arms, and she stopped it all. Turns out she just needed someone to believe in her, and have some expectations of her ie, that she behave herself and love her she was so afraid of disappointing us that she strove to be a better version. I love that girl to this day almost 20 years later, and she still comes over.

[@tosinakin2508]

California escape story (2:24:00) I am so moved. I am so glad OP was able to get out of that situation, and God bless the people who helped her do it. Some people are honestly so amazing it almost doesn't make sense.

[@ZombieSazza]

That story of the “friend” getting OP to fly to her, where she isolated OP, tried withholding any real humanity from OP, treated OP absolutely horribly, that killed me. OP was in an absolutely terrifying situation where he could’ve easily been killed considering how unstable her husband was, how much she’d lied to OP, trying to force OP into a tent in the woods in a very dangerous area. But what warmed my heart was how two perfect strangers came to OPs help, with no judgment, just pure love, acceptance, willingness to help a stranger in a dangerous situation, where they truly went above and beyond, their pure selflessness here is indescribable, two of the purest, most amazing people I’ve ever heard of. It’s not just helping OP financially, it’s the fact between them they got OP out from an area that was hard to navigate, “kidnapped” him in less than 20 seconds, got him to safety, gave him food and a bed, treated him as a human being, and did all of this purely because they had the means to help someone desperately in need. This one really moved me, especially how OP wrote about his experience, he really gave Ai and Lee glowing reports, he described them in such a loving, respectful, thoughtful way, you can see just how much he respects them and how grateful he is, how he’ll remember this for the rest of his life. Genuinely a really moving story, it really sucks OP was in such a dangerous, volatile situation where he could’ve genuinely been killed, but seeing these two perfect strangers step up in so many ways makes me have hope in humanity.

[@YourShadowKeeper]

I know it's petty but I wonder if OP happened to leave an anonymous tip-off about his "friend" and her partner's plant/fungus stash, and anything else he saw or knew about thanks to that nightmare stay. It's probably best that both the friend and her husband are behind locked doors - either in the form of jail and/or a psychiatric hospital. They need help, and to not be roaming around free. Especially if he has no issues lashing out physically on top of his mental health issues.

[@JokesInBase13]

The difference between "Having $X" and "Being able to afford to spend $X" is what makes or breaks adulthood a lot of the time. Baby shower OP is in SERIOUS need of professional financial advice, or his wife is going to end up in need of professional legal advice when she divorces his immature butt.

[@justlikethewizard]

Okay the other thing with the mom making meals for the one lady's husband I'm surprised nobody also mentioned how weird it is that the wife was not also invited to dinner! My grandparents on both sides of my family would invite all of us to dinner, it seems so rude to just invite one person last minute. Like okay, I can see like spending time alone with your mom for a planned evening every now and then but to just always invite just one? To the point where the wife is feeling put out and sad? That's just so mean and weird, I feel so bad for that lady :(

[@Draggonny]

It's very much the narcissist mother/mommy's boy trope. Mother is trying to keep her son dependent and drive a wedge into their marriage. She doesn't like or approve of OP, maybe because she sees her as competition for her son's love and time. She's making it a daily competition of who gets to have son's company and she's winning. When she couldn't lure him away with actual food she lured him away with a lie. Hopefully that lie was the kick up the backside that he needed to realise what mommy dearest is up to and he'll start setting and holding some boundaries from now on. This was never about food.

[@MsArtistwannabe]

I see a divorce in the future of the guy that goes running to his mommy for dinner like his wife is some kind of servant.

[@luvondarox]

Geez. Is OP even financially intelligent enough for parenthood?

[@damien678]

_On the now pro-choice story:_ empathy and compassion are skills one must learn, and practice to keep up. It is not an inherent, unchanging trait we have from birth. OP may struggle to understand what she hasn't gone through, but she can learn. She isn't broken forever and ever, and I hope she unlearns the way she was taught to see and interact with others.

[@KazumiKiguma]

This is not entirely true, some people do legitimately have a difficult time learning empathy, same way some people have a hard time learning social skills. For some, it's virtually impossible.

[@GnosisDharma]

I think that the girl changing her mind to pro choice should not be so hard on herself and noone else either for that matter, brainwashing at an early age is really hard to see through, she was thinking if I don't think like this God won't love her. I also was born in a sect and that sect also was against abortion but maybe even strickter because anyone having pre marridge 53x would have been dissfellowshipped. As a young girl I kind of had to view abortion as wrong, never done any protest or shamed anyone, in my heart though I have always been pro choice. Since my childhood was very difficult to say the least I have always been antinatalist even if I did not know what that world meant I understood from early age how difficult and how much suffering it would create for people having children who could not take care of them. This created a great fear within me, even if I never did such activities I was afraid of getting pregnant. Because I knew how judged I would have been and also that I thought if I even would say I was r4p3d I thought members of the sect would not believe me and having no option to abort even in such circumstance did a number on me, I really never wanted children and I know I can't take proper care not even as adult, I'm not responsible enough. I have never been r4p3d for the record but these were thoughts I had but I feelt I had no choice then to be against abortion even if I thought did would be best option for many because it would cause less suffering. I were never suited to be religious and it was very condadictory in many ways to how I was thinking but I guess I had to think I was wrong because I had to have same opinion as God even if I did not really deep down. Now I have left that religion for 15 years ago. Finally free to think as I really do.

[@MM-zg4bc]

It always surprises me that some parents are naïve when it comes to their kids. Thinking your kid would never steal doesn’t mean it’s true. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter how well you think you know them, you only know what they want you to know. This goes for everyone. No one really knows what goes on in somebody else’s mind.

[@mynights85]

The creepy panty stealing neighbor kid, always make a report, if anything the landlord may be able to use it to evict the family if it keeps up. You dont want that creepiness to escalate.

[@katieb.1184]

Anna WAS TOLD they didn't want people to know... And it's not just privacy... this is a BIG moment in a person's life and NO ONE should steal that moment/make that choice for you.

[@jaysonyoung9197]

The one about the kid who’s phone got mowed was actually really heartwarming. I hope things continue to get better for all of them

[@jdd9993]

Last story: OP is a stand up guy for helping Stacey dump her abusive boss.

[@Zaners82123]

I find it a bit confusing. She wanted to give the baby up for adoption which means she will not be financially responsible for the baby. If she relented to give you your daughter that just seems a little vindictive to go after her for child support when she gave you what you wanted.

[@owl7072]

Story for 23:19 The only AH's here are the parents for confirming an attendance without even checking with the people they confirmed the attendance for, then lying to the kid about them canceling when they never agreed to go in the first place. What if Op had something planned that literally _can't_ be rescheduled? That's why you _ask_ first before confirming _anything,_ especially if you're confirming on someone else's behalf.

[@thefinalteddy9539]

Yea. All of these self righteous people claiming OP is an asshole for not helping a kid. Like they would give up the things they enjoy in the same situation. The parents are the only AH here. Bummed that OP went. Now it has been established that parents can guilt the kid to make the siblings go to events.

[@aikikaname6508]

Exactly! And they aren’t really foster siblings in any meaningful sense. They were adults living their own life when the kid entered the home, there’s no biological or emotional connection there. This is something between the parents and the child. There’s no reason why they should cancel their fun adult plans with friends and family they enjoy spending time with to go to a kids play. They didn’t sign up as a parental role and it isn’t their duty to revolve their plans around a child.

[@elizabethkitty4827]

If you're to be asked what wealth is all about what will be your answer: the rich understand that money is wealth but wealth is a package of many things. So what the rich do is that they use money to acquire everything they can, which falls under wealth and these things in turn bring them the wealth they desire. They invest their money in helping people, acquiring enough knowledge, in staying fit and healthy, in living well and balanced and in creating connections,poor people dream of making more money just so that they can visit a super market of their choice and shop for the best things of life. Rich people get their satisfaction from making more money and the feeling that comes with knowing that whatever they desire, they can get.

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[@Orinatl]

Sooo....He stole from his wife, his wife’s family, and their baby….🤦‍♀️

[@shammydammy2610]

You paid 2500 for a baby shower venue? 2500 that you couldn't afford? Hahahahahaha.

[@ACCER]

I'm still confused on the first post that he's going to help his wife with her medical bills for having their child. Shouldn't it be that they have to pay their medical bills? Yes, she was right to throw out his dinner. He's treating his wife like crap. She needs to tell his worthless ass to do the damn cooking. I'm going with the stray cat theory.....

[@dieselomen4229]

I don’t understand why people are calling OP in the play/dinner story TA, they have a dinner in which the ENTIRE family of the brother in law is attending and clearly stated that they would be the only ones inconvenienced by this dinner, the grandparents adopted a foster child which is fantastic but that does not mean you have to suddenly put a special event that holds way more importance over a kid they have known for 5 months i understand it’s not being kind to the kid but that is not OP’s responsibility, also the parents do not have a right to try and gain control through a Childs emotions that they knowingly caused in what is essentially a giant guilt trip. NTA.

[@amberlexicon]

For the one with the dinner/concert. What /I/ would end up doing is going to the concert and pulling my mom aside and telling her to never sign me up for something against my will again, that what she did was extremely manipulative and I won't accept that treatment, and that if she can't respect me that far the next time she pulls a stunt like that I will go👏out 👏of👏my👏way👏 to make it her problem. I do believe that OP would be NTA if he went to the dinner instead. He's being manipulated out of his own adult plans to go to a child's event for a child he doesn't even really know. Would it hurt the kid? Yeah.. but in all reality that would be through no fault of his own. That'd be because of his mother's shitty behavior. Nononononono absolutely NTA for saying you don't like the kid *right now*. That was very measured and it seemed to get through to him and he finally realized he's being an asshole. As someone who grew up being bullied physically when I was young (before I learned how to fight) and verbally for a while for being queer, I've been called a f***** many times... fuck that kid. I hope he gets a fucking heart. People like him drove me to self harm and suicidality. I have no empathy or mercy for people who torture the vulnerable. I hope what his parent said gets through to him and he turns it around.

[@lademonessa3075]

Tell hubby to move back in with mom if he needs her dinners so much

[@jessicabarbosa837]

I mean, in my family, money received at a baby shower is for the baby and is either put into an account for the baby or can be put toward baby stuff-as in we need a car seat but didn’t get one as a gift so buy one. Or some other major registry item like a crib or something and whatever’s left goes in the bank for the baby. We are not rich by any means. Very much working class blue collar people, we just plan shit out.

[@michealwatts7469]

(Long rant incoming, apologies for those that stick through it). The one thing I will say about the Kids Play one... Guilt Trips have been my life since I was a kid. Regardless of the situation when it was a family event that I was already going to my parents would guilt me further WHILE on the way to the trip and lecture me about "Well you don't know how long until you have with them till their gone" despite spending summers with my grand parents on their farm and going to various family events. It was also religious... Being confirmed was my choice told to me by my pastor but when I expressed my doubts he said "Maybe you need to go on your own journey but if you ever need anything let me know" my father: "Oh just do it for your mother this once" (this once being the 1000000th time) my mother: "Oh its not that bad.. just do it for me" My mother even guilted my over my brothers wedding despite my brother trying to be a good dude taking me out of said wedding cause our respective girlfriends / finace's having a ridiculous argument. My brother and I are cool like that and he's like "Dude you don't have to like my wife but I won't ask you to come and we are still good" (reading this back I know I need more context and there is ALOT but still) my mother was reportedly balling her eyes out cause I said I wouldn't be there since I wasn't invited. However I wasn't supposed to go for my brother anymore I was supposed to go for her. Sorry for the rant but ... This has actually affected my relationships and my ability to say no to people standing my ground (which I have been told by differing therapists) So when I see this I can see the person NOT being the asshole, mind you the kid is completely innocent in this so I would understand them being upset but those parents aren't helping matters and basically refused to hear opposition. So at the end of it all: I would go for the kid, but not the parents nor would I even address them. Maybe that's bias and maybe that's issues I need to work out still but not cool.

[@inichan8786]

Dad excusing him overspending n bunking gifted money: The point is NOT to overspend and listen to your partner. As in not do something expensive without being 100% in the clear with your partner if you can not afford it on your own. Money and gifts at a babyshower are for the future BABY, it isn't yours. It isn't meant for covering up ya own idiocitiy.

[@ashleyn.9166]

For ducks sake. Dude, you're about to have a baby. Babies are expensive. Now is the time to rent a venue that costs as much as I spent on my wedding venue? And you can have an affordable baby shower with men and women. Good friends of mine reserved a park shelter with tables. They had a snow cone truck come and the "games" were lawn games like corn hole.

[@Krisna_K]

Send the mama’s boy back to her! NTA!!!!!! I would’ve left his ass long before this!

[@TheRuneTail]

Good job Reddit into bully Op into goin to the foster "brothers" play, a kid he's known for a few months. The "parents" were very manipulative

[@katieb.1184]

yuuuup. I had my mom constantly "voluteering" me for things my whole life and up into my late 20s. I was married and out of the house at 25... and she still kept saying "Katie will do it." I did for a while because well, I didn't want to let the other people down just because my mom won't ask me first. Then I finally said "if I don't agree first, I won't go." I ended up guilty crying three times before she finally started asking me first. I still get massive guilt trips about "making her look bad" when I don't agree to things she wants me to do... as if I'm not 36 with two soon-to-be nine-year-olds and therefore a ton of previous commitments

[@emilybarclay8831]

Maybe the emotions of a traumatised child with no family who is desperate for a connection and who needs love is more important than a steak

[@TheRuneTail]

@@emilybarclay8831 so he should pretend to love a kid he's never grown with or any of that? Yea that won't traumatize the brat more

[@emilybarclay8831]

@@TheRuneTail not pretend to love. Show some basic understanding of his situation and maybe a little bit of human empathy if it isn’t too much of an inconvenience. Calling that child that did nothing wrong a brat tells me your mother failed to raise you

[@TheRuneTail]

@@emilybarclay8831 it isn't real. If you have to be guilty into showing affection then it's a lie

[@CynthiaPrice79]

My mother’s common words, when I was a child, were: I will always love you, but right now I don’t like you(r behavior) very much.

[@massomouse1556]

The dinner story, forget the throwing it out, OP should cook enough for the two portions, and put away the second portion, in the freezer, and say to her husband, upon his return from mommy’s, that there’s extras but they’re on the freezer so I don’t need to cook MYSELF dinner later on this week, and if he still wishes to go elsewhere for dinner that’s fine but don’t expect to come home to a second dinner, and TO expect to fend for himself at least once a week.

[@Mscrimsondragon]

Canadian BF story... Do you even listen to yourself?? 🤦‍♀️ Imagine your post was written by someone else that you know... Now ask yourself WHY ARE YOU PUTTING UP WITH THIS PERSON???

[@actuallynotsteve]

Hahaha the first guy says he's being a good husband by "helping my wife with her medical bills having our baby," what an idiot it's amazing

[@littlegreycat]

Lol that guy still doesn’t get it. He needs to pay for his kid the same as Mom. What a grabber.

[@carolineadams7283]

Wtf I'm helping her out with her medical bills for having your baby I'm gobsmacked

[@christinawhitehead4034]

The guy was more interested in a splashy party as opposed to purchasing things for the baby…. That’s not a great omen for your life together

[@riku1344]

I know that it’s not exactly the same thing but when I was in elementary school my mom married my step dad and he had 2 older sons, but they actually treated me like a actual younger sister and if they could have I’m pretty sure they would have come to anything that I invited them to but at the time I didn’t know how to get ahold of them to invite them anywhere

[@immortalsofar5314]

Yeah, how much of a stranger does an 11-year-old have to be for hurting them like that to be acceptable? I've had various relationships with kids involved (never any of my own), I've never been to a school play I enjoyed and I've never missed one either. Hell, I've even gone to them after we'd broken up - you don't hurt kids, full stop.

[@ViridianAubergine]

I was in the foster care system. I'm glad OP ending up going to Johnathan's play, it's very difficult trying to form connections with a family that may decide to "return" you at any moment, so the fact that he went out of his way to make handmade invitations means he wants this family to last. I know OP said they're not used to forming "temporary" bonds, but it doesn't have to be a temporary bond, because no matter how you view the foster kid, at the end of the day that kid sees you as family, and they might want to keep that.

[@arrantainsh8754]

I don’t like the forced pressure. Go to this post or you’re a bad person. That’s literally manipulation

[@thecelticcrone7927]

@@arrantainsh8754 Normally I’d agree with you. However, children in the Foster Care System are already So Traumatized & they can literally come home from School one day & ALL of their belongings are Out Front, in a Garbage Bag & the Social Worker is standing there to Take Them SOMEWHERE ELSE. Just 1 Foster Kid can get Placed in 5 or more Homes within just MONTHS. Their egos, ideation of Self-Worth & Hearts are so extremely Fragile.

[@OpticalArxenal]

@@thecelticcrone7927 So anyone even remotely in contact with a foster child should bend over backwards for any reason or they're bad people? Where is the neutral ground here? If I knew a foster-parent I was related to, is it my duty to as a completely unrelated person, to protect and attend that foster-child, or be marked a bad person when I have other immediate people I care for because I...you know, know them personally, over that foster?

[@thecelticcrone7927]

@@OpticalArxenal What??? That’s NOT what I said at all. lol Work on your reading comprehension skills & empathy for others.

[@OpticalArxenal]

@@thecelticcrone7927 I was putting the line of dialogue I read to its extreme to gather more context of what you said as a response to the OG post. My reading comprehension and empathy aren't faulty.

[@SamanthaTucker-o2y]

It sucks how everyone is shitting on OP for not supporting her foster brother. But if she does go and caves to the parents lies that she was asked, the foster brother will simply become a means for her parents to control her obligations and life is an adult because you’ll feel too bad to say no to the false expectations. They said for him her parents suck

[@bearb.7406]

RE: SHOWER She's correct... you're wrong. RE: MIL FOOD QUERIES Peanut butter & Jelly & stop cooking for this man.

[@elizahamilton5599]

I’m Sorry but NTA on the foster kid story. That kid is gonna be let down his whole life if he expects Everyone to drop everything for him. Sorry kid. people have lives they can’t put on pause

[@lauracottom7425]

Story 1 : Did I hear you say like people pay for the meal at the wedding. I have never heard of such a thing. AH You need to grow up quick. You have a baby on the way. Your wife wasn’t planning on 2 kids at the same time. story 2: NTA the dinner could not have been changed because there were other people attending. This dinner was for her husband and to congratulate him.

[@ZombieSazza]

That story of the “friend” getting OP to fly to her, where she isolated OP, tried withholding any real humanity from OP, treated OP absolutely horribly, that killed me. OP was in an absolutely terrifying situation where he could’ve easily been killed considering how unstable her husband was, how much she’d lied to OP, trying to force OP into a tent in the woods in a very dangerous area. But what warmed my heart was how two perfect strangers came to OPs help, with no judgment, just pure love, acceptance, willingness to help a stranger in a dangerous situation, where they truly went above and beyond, their pure selflessness here is indescribable, two of the purest, most amazing people I’ve ever heard of. It’s not just helping OP financially, it’s the fact between them they got OP out from an area that was hard to navigate, “kidnapped” him in less than 20 seconds, got him to safety, gave him food and a bed, treated him as a human being, and did all of this purely because they had the means to help someone desperately in need.

[@talkaboutrandon7870]

I've never been in any baby shower until a year ago (but that's not a real babu shower but just a presentation that our class needed to do in our course.) Yet I have a common sense to know that everything that was given is for the baby. Just like when you have a party and people give you gifts. The gifts is for the birthday celebrant and not to pawn just to get back the money your parents used for the party.

[@matheuslopez578]

NTA/NAH for the dinner story. The age gap makes them having different interests. If anything the parents are the AH for adopting at this stage of their lives.

[@DanniSoRude]

The fairy and cat comments took me clean TF out 😂💀

[@gigga143]

S1: So OP stole the money from her family to pay for an elaborate venue they didn’t need. This would have my husband in the guest room until he paid every cent back.

[@srkh8966]

Second story-she needs to run. The silent treatment? Call a lawyer now

[@Nope148]

I commented on the original of the very first story. The biggest arsehole is still the crappy lawmakers who decided that paid parental leave is unnecessary.

[@zecholozo3117]

Where do these people find their partners 😀

[@jaymel4691]

I don't understand what possible "venue" for a baby shower could cost $2500. And she wanted something smaller! OP is an idiot. What did he think the point if a "baby shower" was? It's literally to help provide things the baby would need! And I worry about how transactional this is. He wanted to make his wife feel "special" by getting an expensive venue, but as soon as they got money he grabbed it all to cover what he spent, on the venue he booked against his wife's wishes. He kept assuring her he could afford it but he clearly couldn't. Ugh! Most baby showers I've seen were held in someone's big yard or in the community room at a church. Also he only took "what little money we got"- but they got at least $2500 since he used it to cover the venue. 🙄

[@jr5557]

OK it’s kind of blowing my mind how Marlee went in on the husband leaving his wife for dinner to go to his moms because you don’t cancel plans you already have for something else at the last minute but then he shit talking to the adult siblings for not wanting to go to the foster child’s play that they never agreed to attend in the first place.

[@perlamedrano3637]

I'm sorry but no OP is not the asshole for not wanting to go to a school Play for a kid they barely know. He is the parents foster child. He is not OPs siblings. And the fact that the foster is throwing a tantrum because Adults don't want to spend an evening with him is very telling that OPs parents are spoiling them and overcompensating for the fact that he's in foster care.

[@LadyMot]

Marky getting riled up for the wife who made dinner seriously gives me hope

[@Mypalpayton]

The foster kid story was sad. It’s not hard to be nice to a kid that has probably been through hell

[@billy9144]

Can't stand the people who judge others like that. You're going to punch somebody in the face just for having an opinion? It's pathetic. Nothing shows Chris love like Christian hatred. Sad that the mom didn't even care that he broke her nose. What a sick family, completely brainwashed.

[@debbymccormack6525]

The saying is "Add insult to injury" not "Add injury to insult", lol

[@pansprayers]

It's the latter where I grew up. Your personal experience in life doesn't necessarily mean it applies as a universal blanket to everyone. Also, you seem awful smug for someone who can't formulate a properly punctuated sentence.

[@debbymccormack6525]

@@pansprayers It's awfully smug, not awful smug. So maybe be your own editor before you come after me :)

[@Hiimreggie]

@@debbymccormack6525 he still has a point

[@raz7573]

@@pansprayers What? “Add injury to insult” doesn’t even make sense.

[@lynsthoughts3576]

I hope he becomes FAMOUS and forget you existed!

[@rootyful]

For the meal story.... Yes, the husband is seriously lacking in respect, but so is the mom. I don't understand why the wife wouldn't be invited over for dinner as well??? Why is only the husband going. And for the bully story.... god, my heart bleeds for that poor gay kid. Imagine being 16 and being forced to have dinner with your bully. As someone that was bullied in high school, that is a terrible thought. The less I got into contact with these people, the better. I'm glad the kid apologized later, but still. 1:12:00 That's straight up indoctrination. I'm glad for op to have changed their mind, even if it took going through something like that herself

[@lorifiedler13]

Wife should have shown up too. Then, MIL would have had to short herself as good manners dictates.

[@annt7384]

Story 1: give husband cooking lessons for his birthday so he can start cooking for you. He has a lot to make up for. Right now he has no idea what’s involved in making dinner. Give him the opportunity to learn. Story 2: Rules of etiquette dictate that you are invited to something, you must reply with a response (yes or no). You then honor that commitment. 😊

[@captainredclaw5864]

Story 2 I think that as an adult I wouldn't consider some random kid I don't know as a relative and without remorse I wouldn't have gone to that play. Also don't fucking make plans for me I don't care if the kid made inventations let him learn those don't always equile guests

[@kristinwiebold2433]

Dont know if this a horrible thing but I hope OP tells the cops about the the illegal thing her psycho friend and husband have in their house and that they get raised and jailed.

[@muhname6052]

Pregnant teen girlfriend: I don't know how I feel about this one. On the one hand OP wants to be the dad on the other hand he's trying to get child support from someone who doesn't want to be the parent. First what money are you trying to get? I hope the girl terminated parental rights. Would love to hear a post from OP asking for advice because the daughter found out the reason her mother wasn't in her life was because she literally couldn't afford it because dad wanted money.

[@Xxmilkshake202xX]

Why is it the siblings’ fault that they had a dinner that night? The foster parents didn’t tell them about the play. Reddit/Markee are ridiculous.

[@Timesowimey]

When I was a kid, my mom was upset with me and told me she loved me, but sometimes she didn't like me. But not because i was a bad kid, but because I had severe but undiagnosed ADHD, and struggled with emotional regulation. What I took away from that was that if even my own mother didn't like me, then thrre was no one anyone else could. It contributed to a lifetime of low self esteem and depression. Be careful what you say to your kids.

[@Thebigbubba]

"He punched me, he straight up punched me.", so...he hopes God never forgives you for abortion (when the Bible doesn't really say much about it) and commits physical abuse on you? (Which has 100 different verses against it), sue him and remind him of his hypocrisy.

[@SymphoniaFly]

Also gotta love how the mother is pro life and people keeping their babies no matter what and yet has no problem disowning her own child and straight up saying she deserved to get punched over a difference of opinion. Hypocrites all around.

[@pamelalaub6204]

Shame on the MIL for only inviting her son and not his wife. If she'd invite them the day before the wife wouldn't have to cook. It sounds like the MIL and son are still connected by an invisible umbilical cord, not just apron strings.

[@LeowithoneO]

is this a reupload? i swear ive heard all these stories before or maybe i spend too much time on reddit lmao

[@owl7072]

Every now and then Markee makes a compilation of stories he's read in the past, why he does it idk but I like it cause it gives me something to listen to for a couple hours or so and sometimes there's stories I missed the original upload of

[@iamhungey12345]

Ditto.

[@seabreezeblank1513]

Unless your mother's physically disabled 59 is considered very young to retire much less sponge off your child to do it your mother needs to get a job go back to work and support herself

[@whattheelle360]

S3 NTA. Foster brother is not your responsibility. The parents are major AHs and not suitable to be foster parents.

[@c.d.4319]

Lawnmower vs phone story: You're a single mother out here buying your child an iphone.. like.. what? AND THEN, he's careless with it! Get him a flip phone, it'll still make calls!

[@missyjune9014]

Sounds like they both work. They both have hands to use. Cook doesn't need to take meal orders unless in a commercial enterprise. Menu: take it or leave it!

[@Violexie-wb7op]

The cell phone story is so heartwarming. 💜🌞

[@gillianbergh7002]

People pay for their plates at weddings? If the couple let it be known they prefer money rather than gifts or it's traditional in their society - then that money can be used towards the catering. I can also understand expecting guests to pay for their drinks - as some people used to get silly when drinks were free. But it's tacky to expect guests to pay for their food on top of all other expenses. If you can't afford a lavish do - then don't have one!

[@charliekezza]

My dad would sometimes say "I'll always love you but I don't like you much right now"

[@tarajamchenry171]

My aunt called my pregnancy out. I was weeks pregnant and was waiting to tell my mom. We were at my aunt's house and the family was getting to know my now ex when I'm aunt just shouts...."YOU'RE PREGNANT!!!" Then she tells my mom before I get the chance to tell her. I'm now NC with my family.

[@datumzinememories]

The baby shower....the money in cards is to get what you needed for your baby like diapers milk medication things you typically forget or dont plan for or bills that comes with a baby even a co ed shower can be hosted at a house or a relatives. You basically stole money from your kid to host your friends and family who seem like have not chipped in...in addition to you. How to say I cant be a responsible parent without Screaming it.