My Boyfriend Played A Horrible Prank That Gave Me A Panic Attack, He Laughed r/Relationships

[@jerriewyatt905]

Story 1…OP’s BF is deliberately trying to cause her mental anguish.. she really needs to dump him before he causes her to harm herself.. he’s sick ! He’s being a cruel bully!!

[@aparnarai3708]

Maybe he is experimenting if his pranks can kill her

[@natethegreat5220]

3:43 my jaw dropped. Just had my mouth hanging open in public. I actually like some morbid, offensive or messed up jokes but that was just wow 👀. Never did like pranks honestly.

[@MrJpaynebb]

Whether you have PTSD, other mental issues or none at all walking in to see a person who committed suicide is traumatic. Then for that person to reveal it's all a prank doesn't erase those initial feelings of panic, shock, fear and hurt. It's cruel and vicious. So glad she dumped him and so glad his friends and family have turned on him for his cruelty.

[@ircillo351]

the fact that the ex was like "oh im fine with ur mental problems its ok i wont leave u" was leading me to believe the opposite of what op thought of worst case scenario, where ex DOESNT want to leave op bc shes easy to torment. bummer i ended up being right

[@AndyyWithAY]

You don't have to have PTSD to be put out by a loud noise in the middle of the night. I have anxiety and migraines and I would've noped out of that relationship right then.

[@robertx8020]

This ...I bet ANYONE would jump when that would happen! The ex was /is a POS ..I'm glad his friends and family turned on him too, which shows they are better ppl than this POS was

[@TsukiKageTora]

You don’t have to have PTSD or Depression to be upset that your SO pretended to off themselves to see your reaction

[@maddy8328]

Agreed and same

[@jakemarie828]

​@@starship15a28yeah homeboy has a sadistic streak.

[@Jacky.c.v]

You can be the most stable person on earth, the su*cide prank will f u up

[@Jaol6477]

Take into account that OP’s ex-BF deliberately kept from friends and family that the joke involved him faking his suicide, because he KNOWS it was not a “just a joke” he was pulling there, causing people to look at him wrong as they did

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: the moment he disregarded op’s mental health and PTSD, she should have dumped him. Story 2: NTA. Op asked him nicely at first to not feed their dogs.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

Agreed. Or for saying depression is fake. What will he do when she's feeling low and can't get out of bed? Tell her she's lazy cuz depression is just a "spicy sad?" Such ignorance could literally pull her over the edge to go back to self harm. Or worse.

[@brigidtheirish]

1: Yeah, don't really understand why people stay with people who are so disrespectful from the start. Does she think this is normal? Is she really *that* used to be treated that way? His belief regarding PTSD hits *really* close to home, too, be cause my dad has PTSD from his early teens that wasn't diagnosed until his late *50s.* I've mentioned how *obvious* it should've been given he's blocked off most of a *year* from accessible memory and what we know happened during that year (his mom had a massive stroke and almost died while he was IN THE ROOM). His response is always along the lines of "I'm not a veteran, so..."

[@BruinPhD2009]

@@brigidtheirish I think OP has had so many mental health issues that her self-esteem is probably pretty low. Also, they started dating when she was 16 years old? Everyone is pretty impressionable at that age and her loser boyfriend may have been able to spot her vulnerability pretty early on in the relationship and prey on it.

[@marshawargo7238]

Day One! When she told him about her condition & he made light of it, she should have walked away! Imagine what he'll say to his next gf about his last relationship! "Yah, that B was crazy! 🤪 I'm lucky to have gotten away from her! AND she lied to my friends & made them drop me! She was a Crazy B." I Think, He Thinks, HE'S the main star in Everyone's life story...(if they know him, or not)

[@brigidtheirish]

@@BruinPhD2009 Missed how old they were at the start of the relationship. Yeah. At that age, even a lot of mentally *healthy* teenagers get so caught up in "someone's paying attention to me" that they ignore full-on warning klaxons. It gets worse if they have no frame of reference for healthy relationships. Come to think of it, a lot of folks think it's totally normal for those who don't have a mental health diagnosis to be completely ignorant on such matters. Which, sure, a lot of folks *are* ignorant to a frustrating degree. Most of those folks are also *teachable.*

[@czmAvery]

As someone with PTSD from childhood trauma, the fact that he denied that anyone other than vets cannot have PTSD would have had me gone immediately.

[@owl6637]

Same here! From childhood neglect and abuse. I've had people discredit me because I was a kid or didn't serve in the military. If someone ever said that to me, I'd be gone mid-sentence.

[@damien678]

It makes me especially mad because... I relate to vets without being one. Because as a little kid I tried to protect my mum from physical abuse. And then as a teen I was always ready for a fight against my stepdad and uncle. Every day for years. Those are similar enough circumstances emotionally for solidarity and it pisses me off when ppl say dumb shit like he did because I've been able to understand myself more from hearing how vets have the same social problems that I do (i.e. feeling isolated and disconnected from others, and feeling the most comfortable and self-assured in conflicts) Like it's just the absolute lack of understanding PTSD that pisses me off

[@myeternalteardrop]

Just his general dismissal of mental illness as a whole would have had me gone.

[@Ax-xo4ux]

Good lord I get this every time someone finds out I have PTSD (specifically C-PTSD but that’s a pain to say and no one knows what it is lol). Like- it’s almost as if ANYONE CAN EXPERIENCE TRAUMA

[@Ashakat42]

I am a veteran, but I also have PTSD from childhood trauma and natural disasters. Anyone who tries to say only veterans can have PTSD don't know what tf they are talking about.

[@sagejungwirth4155]

Dog story: let's not forget that every time the pups get excited and bark at someone, they are being rewarded with treats. The old man is accidently training them into some very difficult to undo behaviors.

[@floramanzano4503]

exactly! Some people might have a phobia of dogs. either simply because they scare them or from a traumatic event in their life. Having a dog suddenly come barreling at you (especially when they are grown. and depending on the breed they could be MASSIVE dogs) is horrifying. The doggos are sweet, and might be looking for a treat.but in their minds they won't know that.

[@JRDZ1993]

I've also known cases when sadists poisoned pets with such opportunities

[@JK-sh8rc]

And is the old man going to be coming over to the OP's house to clean up the vomit & poop when the pup with the sensitive stomach gets sick?

[@jessiealexander3515]

@@floramanzano4503one of my best friends has a phobia of dogs and whenever we go to our other friend’s house, she has to bring her senior dog to her parents’ house. And the dog also has a sensitive stomach, so he can only eat a certain brand of food. And bacon haha

[@psychickumquat]

Absolutely. My brother has a Corgi puppy he's been training to be around crowds of people and every time, he has to deal with tons of people just walking up and trying it pet the dog without permission. Every time he has to tell them no, and while most are understanding, a portion give him dirty looks or get huffy they can't touch the puppy. People need to learn boundaries for others' pets. Just ask "can I pet them?", not hard to do.

[@blackbird4852]

Story 1: If someone told me my best friend did a prank pretending to have committed suicide I'd not believe it right away. I wonder what else he did OP might have missed that his friends and family immediately believed her over him with no visible proof. Either way, so glad she is out there and has such a lovely support system both from her friend and ironically his family. It was already so very breakup worthy long before that final prank

[@0karmaticfrost010]

It makes me wonder what kinds of pos he was to where everyone that knew him was like "yup that's somthin he'd do"

[@stephaniesomer5934]

People have been literally killed for jumping out and scaring people they know. Mama always said “stupid people get killed.” 🤷🏼‍♀️ what a dumb dumb…and food is off limits for anything involving a prank. You don’t mess with food or drink-EVER. 🤗❤️🇺🇸

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

That would make me very spicy mad

[@brigidtheirish]

Agreed that he likely has a history of being a bit of a jerk, but you might be reading too much into how quickly everyone believed OP. His friends and mother had already heard his side. He admitted to his friends that OP was reacting to a prank, but didn't tell them what the prank was. OP confirmed it was a prank and was able to *immediately* describe what happened. He was even *more* vague and deceptive with his mother. When she called OP, not only did OP answer right away, thus already contradicting her son's story, but OP could hold a coherent conversation. Overall, OP provided much more credible testimony than her ex.

[@tracicolvis7382]

The fact that the ex's friends and family believed op immediately when she told them what the ex did says a lot. If someone is a good person and pulled a stunt like this, you'd expect people to be doubtful they were capable of it. Just shows the guy was enough of a day-to-day ass that no one questioned whether or not he could/would do such a horrible thing.

[@audfosutv2500]

Agreed, very telling...

[@bailey678]

Story 1: That's not a prank. That's insane behavior and gaslighting. Controlling abuser.

[@Chantal_P-v4x]

Story 1 - that final 'prank' is absolutely outrageous even without a person having PTSD and mental health concerns. Who the hell does that? That's insane, and far beyond disturbing. I feel like surely any reasonable person would agree that that went too far. And loud sudden noises in the bathroom at night> I thankfully do not have PTSD myself. But I am jumpy as they come regardless. And noisemakers going off in the toilet in the middle of the night - of goodness, I'd be up half the night with my heart racing. These are not pranks. Because as people have said so many times on reddit and elsewhere, pranks are only funny if everyone is laughing. Otherwise its just cruelty and bullying.

[@untitled-gv3qp]

Or you could ended up slipping and hitting your head on the counter or the tub. That was a seriously dangerous thing to do. The OP was gone for a while and his excuse was that he forgot that he hid whoopee cushions in the bathroom? There's no way he wouldn't have heard the noise from the bathroom or the OP having a panic attack. He knew she was panicking and waited it out instead of going to help or anything.

[@wmdkitty]

Oh, god, I would no longer be needing the toilet at that point, and I'd make HIM clean up the mess.

[@Me-wk3ix]

Love how the boyfriend in story one blames OP for ruining 3 of his friendships. If your friendship was ruined because she told a truthful account of something that happened, it seems like that's on you, not her. So many people don't seem to get that.

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 1: Why would OP's boyfriend fake a suicide from pills but also be in the bathtub? That's like a hat on a hat! He should've just covered himself in a giant red flag with smaller red flags stitched to it like a weird quilt but hankfully OP didn't need that visual aid to finally ditch that dirt bag! I guess he can feel "spicy sad" by himself now that his girlfriend broke up with him over his "prank".

[@untitled-gv3qp]

Even if she didn't have mental health issues there are just some things you don't joke around about. Honestly, I feel like side eyeing anyone who's over a certain age and starts pulling pranks on people that are anything more elaborate than unscrewing the cap on a salt shaker.

[@katarinatibai8396]

This guy weaves more red flags than a communist party. A real soziopath. RUN !!!

[@BruinPhD2009]

“Spicy sad” is surely one of the dumbest and most tone deaf things I’ve heard in a long time, especially because it’s referring to a serious mental health issue.

[@mousepariah3884]

I mean real answer people take painkillers to try and lessen the pain so they can get the job done and most OTC ones are also blood thinners which would also hurry the job up. Or sleeping pills so they can 'go painlessly' It being an empty jar though does mean realisticly he would have probibly puked it up* but that's not the point. *one of the first symptoms of OD'ing on otc meds is gastro distress so puking/shitting as your body tries to save itself at the cost of whatever peace and dignity you thought you'd get. It's why pills alone tends to be more survivable if still very damaging.

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

@@mousepariah3884 You are an absolute ray of sunshine!

[@YinYangAngel55]

S2: my aunt. lived in the country side and had guard dogs around her house. She would notice the neighbors close to her side of the fence and pieces of half eaten treats or scraps of meat near the fence. 1 day afterward she came home to a ransacked home, her neighbors nowhere in sight after that. Sometimes its not poison they feed dogs, but treats to get them to trust people they shouldn't.

[@angelaa7388]

Story 1- OP's boyfriend is sadistic. He gets off on making his loved one feel afraid. Very gross. The severity of the suicide prank is extremely disturbing.

[@jasonrustmann7535]

Best part is how he kept sending people to talk to her without telling them what he did, then blames her when she tells them and they turn on him, what a moron lol

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "Only veterans can have ptsd" well then boy's about to be a veteran cause he's gonna have ptsd from my fists and his therapist will be rolling in cash

[@jeaniebee3657]

im guessing op's ex has pulled this crap before if his mom and sister are wanting to set all records straight with the story and believed her without question and not wanting him to get away with it. yep this isnt his first time doing this crap in my opinion.

[@paulastiles5507]

Oh, the sister has definitely seen some crap with that boy.

[@kentario1610]

"he messaged me again to tell me I ruined three of his closest friendships and why would I try to turn them against him." The sound of my palm meeting my face echoes. Suddenly mental anguish matters, huh. Only because it's his.

[@lapsedgoth]

Story 2: poisoned treats are not the only problem. They can also be trying to get your pets comfortable enough to steal your kiddos or steal your stuff. It's probably innocent, but you're responsible for the puppos, not his feelings. :/

[@eldeano9964]

There's no better sound than someone whimpering 'it's just a prank bro', while getting pummelled.

[@carolroberts4614]

With a ten ton weight from the ACME company(I love the roadrunner!)

[@geckokid8265]

This made me think of a fact fiend where they're talking about the time a guy dressed as Mr Blobby got the shit kicked out of him at a child's birthday party

[@TheTrueDiablix]

That 2nd story is a very dangerous situation. Some smart criminals will prep to break into a home with dogs by feeding dogs treats periodically in order to make the dogs not perceive them as a threat. After the very first time, I'd 100% be getting very direct and blunt to them every single time.

[@jackspring7709]

Excellent point.

[@ericaallisonc]

I promise you it doesn't happen nearly as often as online would make you think.

[@TheTrueDiablix]

@@ericaallisonc One of my neighbors about a decade ago did exactly that to another person who lived 2 streets over. I would 100% be in the face of anyone even attempting to feed my dogs without permission if they didn't stop the first time.

[@damien678]

​@@ericaallisonc Probably depends on country. Like I wouldn't be worried about that here in Australia but I'd be worried about that in the US

[@evavocative6975]

That suicide prank was HORRIFYING to hear. I can't honestly imagine living through it, especially having lost a friend to suicide. I am SO GLAD that so many people in OP's life have turned on the EX. Story about the dogs: I have a yellow lab that got CONSTANT ear infections due to allergies as well, and is now on a very limited diet. We are very wary of treats at all, and if someone was constantly feeding her treats causing her pain, I would have gone off on them too.

[@moxie3907]

There was an elderly woman in my neighborhood who would sneak ‘treats’ to our dog on occasions when no one was around to see. It’s like she waited for us to leave the yard before she approached him. Long story short, she was feeding him candies that would make him sick. Sour candies, hard sticky candies, the sort. Pretty sure the lady didn’t know any better after a couple visits from law enforcement, but that didn’t mean that we didn’t have the right to protect our dogs health and safety. You never know.

[@AngharadMac]

Story 1 is a great way to get beaten up without me knowing I'm doing it. You don't scare the sh!t out of me, trigger my anxiety & CPTSD, then *laugh* at me?!? That sends me straight into a dissociative episode. I have worked hard to control it, but I still can't always do so. Those last two "pranks" would have sent me over the edge.

[@xPxDx3]

It reminds me of when I was. Moving out of my place so the doors were unlocked it was around noon when my boyfriend decided to surprise me by coming by to help he jumped out from behind the fridge in the kitchen to spook me and in reflex I nailed him in the crotch with my knee

[@AngharadMac]

@@xPxDx3 My body's choice is never flight or fawn, though I do occasionally freeze. It's 99.9% fight.

[@atinyevil1383]

Story 2: I think of dogs in the same way I think of little kids. Both are trusting and unconditionally loving. This is why we tell kids not to take things from strangers. Some might be totally innocent and just want to make a kid happy, but some could be dangerous. This is the same situation, except you can't tell a dog not to take things from strangers. The neighbour should know better, NTA.

[@Kalossupremacy3356]

Is it normal for people to pet dogs without asking permission?

[@Sunnyside55]

I had a pure white pit bull with different colors eyes and the house behind me was poisoning her. I had spent 5 grand trying to save her but in the end I couldn't because of the fishing hook they fed her. I couldn't press charges the police said I didn't have proof. This was almost 24 years ago and I still think about it every day!!

[@jakemarie828]

Yeah the boyfriend in story 1 is a sadist. Pretending to be dead in a bathtub to get a reaction is beyond messed up.

[@jacquiethebibliophil]

As far back as Lassie Come Home, written in the 1940s, taking place earlier, the writer said you MUST train a dog not to take treats from strangers. He said jealous people could poison them. Yup, back then it happened too. When I took my most recent Collie (I've had Collies all my adult life) for obedience training the first thing they told me was teach her the "leave it" command. Let no stranger give treats without your permission. It also stops thing eating garbage or random dead things. But to give them the order you must be with them.

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

Honestly, whenever I hear of pranks on reddit, it’s always something messed up. Especially with all of those warnings 😅 If you ever date someone who refuses to understand what mental health is, leave them. They’re not mature enough to be in a relationship. Although I will say, referring to depression as “spicy sad” is hilarious and will be using that to describe myself when I’m depressed. 😂 Story 2: Don’t feed some stranger’s pets without permission. Especially after being told to stop. Although it’s incredibly unlikely that someone will purposefully poison an animal, it’s very likely a child would feed a dog chocolate, etc. And animals can have allergies. And you’re definitely NTA for getting angry at someone who has been told multiple times to flip off and doesn’t.

[@TheRockinDonkey]

Pranks in general aren't very funny. If you can't be funny without making someone else the butt of your joke, you're not funny.

[@demonic_myst4503]

they are despite what people try say now" oh thats not a prank if hurt otherws" this is americans who no clue where the word prank comes from prank night which dates back hundreds of years was linked to arson ans harmdul acts for centuries the word prank is also oldest association is to harmful spirits " prankster spirits start firwes hide your things steal and cause problems " goblins are a key example of pranksters in mythology

[@pippo17173]

@@TheRockinDonkey Its basically those prank channels that were around 2009-2011 with the *ITS JUST A PRANK BRO!* which I think the boyfriend been seeing for idea's.

[@fishbowl5308]

@@TheRockinDonkey humor isn't always universal at first I thought it was gonna be the noise maker in the bathroom which to me is very funny. Suicide tho even I can't see the humor in that.

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@TheRockinDonkey pranks are only good if the pranker has the prank directed back to them and not others. And those ones, like my favorite, where some guy walks with a crowd of people and just stops to stare up and see how many people will do the same. But scaring people, especially those who don’t consent, as a prank are not funny

[@beatrixthegreat1138]

Anyone that utters the phrase “just get over it” has the emotional depth of a teaspoon and probably shouldn’t be dating anyone. If she where older when they started dating instead of 16, she’d be able to recognize it as a red flag.

[@dragonpasta5880]

Story 1: I am very happy that OP left her now ex.

[@rokuth]

Story 2 : I have a friend, an older gentleman, that does daily power walks for exercise. He has gotten to know the local dogs and cats on his route. The pets too have gotten to know him and recognize him on his walks. He does pet them, but as a pet owner himself, never feeds them. As for the sign, OP should also include that the area is being monitored by CCTV as a further deterrent. People act more "civilized" when they think they are being watched.

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

Lmao. “Depression is just spicy sad” 😂

[@CRSB00]

Which is sadly better than "Depression is juat lazyness" that some relatives think is

[@justine8387]

I am in hospital for my spicy sadness I use this term all the time because of social media algorithms. But I would never use it if a person with the condition objected to it.

[@sealbean9990]

I'm gonna start calling my depression Spicy sad now just because it sounds funny x'D

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

@@justine8387 yup. If people choose to use it. It’s fine. If people are forced to use it. It’s not

[@Mapache095]

PTSD or no PTSD, what the bf did is ABHORRENT!

[@problematicprincess6270]

Oh yes I've suffered from the big "spicy sad" all my life

[@CanonSkyrissian]

once again: it's not a prank unless everyone, especially the pranked party, laughs in the end. it's just bullying or even abuse

[@carolroberts4614]

My ex husband tried to prank me many years ago. He planned to jump out of the cupboard under stairs to frighten me.( I probably would have had a heart attack!) Anyway, I saw the door was slightly ajar, and pushed it shut as I passed by.. It couldn't be opened from inside so he had to call me to get him out!

[@nathanhinman9069]

Story 1: she’s 18, he’s 20 and have been together for 2 years. He was an “adult” while she was still a child. Considering his behavior I get the feeling he was never mature to begin with.

[@indyfmw]

I wouldn't say being 18 is an adult.

[@carolroberts4614]

A bit more adult than 16! It would have been easy for him to take control of their relationship.

[@mindyschocolate]

@@carolroberts4614 not necessarily. It’s been proven women mature much faster than men. Two years isn’t a huge differential and 18 year old guys a really are dumb. I’d say it was even.

[@ponykazy3725]

Yeah like that's a Seinor dating a sophomore, or a Junior and a freshman. A lot of maturing/growth happens over those 4 years, even though they are both teens, 2 years really makes the difference. Says a lot he "settled for a younger classmate" tbh.

[@indyfmw]

@Carol Roberts honestly I just view him as a idiot so I'm having a hard time picturing him like that

[@catsncrows]

I have PTSD and if someone jumps out at me I may or not punch depending on how quickly I recognize them. If it happens in the dark all bets are off

[@GMWILD87]

Story 2 the guy was asked politely not to feed the puppies he chose to ignore that he gets whatever OP throws at him.

[@thesecretshade]

I'm so annoyed that she didn't take her TV and gaming station that she paid for. Screw him. He should not get to keep anything.

[@MrBuns-yi2hk]

Story 1: that is not a prank, that is emotional abuse. You can tell he doesn't really feel sorry because he pinned it back on her for overreacting. Kind of crazy that everyone is his life is calling him the AH, and he is still playing the victim and blaming her. You also know that he know what he did is wrong because he didn't tell the truth to his friends and family.

[@Mrs.Self.Distruct]

Very nice of you to provide timestamps ❣️ The boyfriend is deranged holy hell...

[@brie1162]

20:25 I’ve heard a story where someone gave treats to the dogs through the fence, and then STOLE the dogs. They were happy to see the stranger and started associating them with positive reinforcement. This was done when the owners were away at work, and then one day they came home and the dogs were gone. Same as OP, they had a pet door they could run in and out of at will. They had cameras and were able to see the general direction they left in. Luckily they were chipped and the owners had called all the shelters and vets, they were eventually found.

[@AndyyWithAY]

No YOU ruined 3 of your relationships. A fake suicide is unforgivable. Anyone with a shred of moral fiber would be on his side. This guy's lack of empathy and penchant for lying is terrifyng. OP needs to get a restraining order and keep her location secret from everyone who knows him. This guy is dangerous for sure.

[@depuydt2011]

I love that you refer to Poppy as your dog now instead of your dad's. I'm so happy you guys have each other. Thank you for the wonderful video. I look forward to them everyday

[@hoper1294]

People need to educate themselves on PTSD....even those that have it. I was laughed out of support groups because "I can't have PTSD from witnessing someone's trauma". I witnessed my dad have a near death experience and had to call the paramedics. My mom, who was there and performed first aid, tells me all the time to get over it and my EX best friend told me the same and that he will die one day anyway.

[@audfosutv2500]

Jesus! I'm so sorry...

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #1: OP should have noped out of that relationship a looooonnnng time before he even started pranking her. But she's young and dealing with a lot of other stuff that she is actually working on and trying to move beyond. Plus, I get the impression she has such low self-esteem that she honestly believes she doesn't deserve anyone better. Girl, you deserve so much better than this abusive sociopath. Even being alone for life is better. Glad she left.

[@Zaddy-Lu]

Put a sign on the fence that says "DO NOT feed the dogs, violators will be prosecuted"

[@casket.case99959]

The story about the old guy who's dog died and he felt to old to get another and the neighbors let him love their dogs and walk them made me so happy ❤

[@alyssachey8417]

I had an issue too with someone putting cat treats in the mail slot in the door. My one cat would vomit the treats and her previous meal. I ended up having to block the mailbox with a makeshift bag until I could move to another unit/floor of my apartment building. My cat thankfully recovered but she was still dealing with stomach issues. Through the vet we did an eliminated diet and my cat was on a special diet for the rest of her life. She lived 18 years ❤ I am so grateful for my friends who could help me out with her special diet whenever money was tight. We managed to have a wonderful life together. ❤

[@mogulmade]

Final Story: I saw the story with the dog who waits on his elderly neighbor! So sweet! He waits every day to go for his walk. Love it

[@platinumaether8198]

21:22 this reminds me of my papa. He never wanted to get another dog because he felt too old and didn’t want us taking care of his responsibilities. So when my stepfather and mom got a puppy, he instantly avoided it. But the “I don’t want the dog dad” cliche happened and they became best friends. This puppy was like his 4th grandchild. Took our dog on long car rides, 3 hour walks. It was adorable. After papa passed you can see how much our dog misses him. Rip papa.

[@LisaApril]

Second story: 😊this is why training our dogs not to eat anything until you give your permission is extremely important. Many dogs have died by eating things they found in the park that were poisoned. I lived in San Francisco and this was happening to dogs a lot and there was a lot of news coverage about it to not let your dogs eat things in the park because many dogs had already died by poison. I know this is very difficult with puppies, but what I have learned through many puppy trainings is that Puppies should never be outside alone. Puppies should always be supervised Inside and out, and when they cannot be supervised they should be put in Their crate with toys and water because a crate is not a punishment. The crate is simply somewhere for a puppy to go and play and be happy and comfortable while the owner cannot keep a supervised eye on the puppy. This is very important for puppy training. I’m not hostile to the owner and I don’t blame him because he may not know this, but this is something he should be doing. Once the puppy has all their shots he should be taking them out for dedicated walks for their exercise and otherwise keep them supervised or in the crate for the short periods of time he has to do other things and he cannot supervise The puppies. If Dog parents are working from home they can keep the puppy in the same room with them with the door closed. There’s always a way to supervise your puppy or to put them in the crate for a short amount of time, or take them to puppy daycare Until they are able to not eat things unless they are given permission.

[@janetvargas9520]

The dog story. You may want to build another fence or a fence within your yard that keeps them away from the other fence and the reach of other people.

[@Toongeek45]

"As long as you think this was funny, We are not compatible."- All that needs to be said

[@natashaisaacs8874]

I wouldn't be able to be in a relationship with a person like him, it would get on my freaking nerves honestly. It's really immature.

[@AutumnFire1414]

Story 1: When OP's exbf's sister says she'd do anything to help after OP left, OP should've asked her to help her get the TV and Xbox that she had paid for and left when she broke up with the douchecanoe.

[@TheOddityFair]

S1 - Not even taking the Ex’s attitude towards mental health into account, that was not a prank in any sense of the word. That was straight up evil. I don’t blame those friends for turning their backs on him after that. I don’t blame his mom & sister either. This is a wake-up call he needs. S2 - My grandfather had a sweet little dog that he adored. In his 80 years of life, he’d had many dogs, but this was the first time he’d ever had a dog that was HIS dog. His connection to her was deep. He took her almost everywhere w/ him, & when he didn’t she sit by the window all day waiting for him. That all came to a crashing end when the neighbor poisoned her just b/c he could. The day her ashes came back, my grandfather spent over an hour walking around outside spreading them before slumping to his knees. I have never seen my grandfather so broken, & no one in the family ever forgave the neighbor. He was always a rotten fellow.

[@leviathan8215]

I am the woman in all of these stories. I literally had to tell yet another man today to stop feeding my dog treats at the park multiple times and then he said “it should be OK, she deserved it”. This is right after a couple men took advantage of my small business and left me on read. Honestly I wonder if the world is ever going to be ready for me to move past the deep, and completely reasonable fear and hatred I have a cis man.

[@susanlosey9511]

The story about OP’s panic attack. OP, you do not deserve that type of behaviour from that narcissist AH. Of course you will be blamed for everything thing that AH is going to get. People like him are never in the wrong. They are always the victim. You are never alone. You have friends and you have us on Reddit. We are all out there to give you support. Maybe go back to see your therapist to help you get your self worth back. Best of everything to you. You are a very strong and great person!❤❤❤❤

[@riley6740]

Dog story. I have a fence that you can reach through. The kids next door were always trying to feed my small dog. Leaves, flowers, sticks and even chicken legs. I found some burlap garden netting that was very, very cheap. $6.00 for 20 feet by 7 foot and I stapled it to the fence. It gives me a lot more privacy and stops the kids from throwing stuff at my puppy dog.

[@aurorathedragonlady2728]

Story 1 had me double taking so much while folding towels I thought my neck was going to snap! What is wrong with that man? Glad OP got out of that mess because that is just so screwed up. Just... wow! Story 2 is something I would worry about if I owned a dog. Thankfully my cat hates everyone but me.

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

Thank you for sharing that final waffle about your Dad! He sounds like an amazing person and I'm glad he was part of a wonderful community that could and would match the energy and affection of his family. I personally think he did a fabulous job in helping raise you to be the man you are. I love hearing the stories of your family every last one is so special in their own ways.

[@MusicGirl881]

Story 1: NTA that ex boyfriend is a bully who likes to torture others under the guise of “pranks” or “jokes” for his own entertainment. I don’t think he’s ever going to see what he does is wrong until he puts someone in a life threatening situation and even then he’ll probably think he did nothing wrong. Also it says a lot about the ex if your mom and sister automatically believe what OP said.

[@coreymartin6486]

"It's just a joke" is the narcissist excuse when getting called out.

[@peteranon8455]

Story 1. This story was over when those age gaps started. A guy shouldn't be dating a high school girl after he's out of high school, and OP can only expect the type of guy who would.

[@Jjudes9665]

I spent over 30 years working in retail and I often felt I could be the only person some elderly customers spoke to during their entire day. I always made those few minutes with them as pleasant and friendly as possible. One of my elderly customers was showing signs of having had a stroke. I knew where she banked, so I went there to alert them so they could maybe contact her family. My store manager/head office was later contacted by her nephew saying thank you and that his aunt was now doing well and safe in a nursing home. I was right to be concerned as a second stroke would have been fatal to her. Our community matters and we should all be mindful of that.💞

[@athenastewart9167]

He gets off on her pain, suffering, and panic. He's a sadist. Run away.

[@shells500tutubo]

In story 1 I would have continued with the 0-1-1 call despite him laughing and told the EMTs that this isn't the first time he's done something like this and you are afraid he is going to hurt himself. They are obligated to take him in on a psychiatric 72 hour hold in the US. I know a person who tried to prank her son and DIL by threatening suicide when they went on vacation without her. EMTs came and she said she will NEVER do something like that again.

[@gngrblls2thwall]

S2: 5 strikes is 2 more than the standard allowance before you're out.

[@MorbidKat]

I have similar mental issues, my husband jump scared me once. Once. We've told our kids all their lives not to sneak behind me or jump scare me. I was raised the same with my dad....it sucks but its livable when you're with respectful caring people.

[@srkh8966]

Story 1:OP’s boyfriend is a sociopath

[@oldwelshlady6584]

No,NoNO NO NO NO NO!!!!! I HAVENT EVEN GOT PAST THE BIT WHERE SHE SAW BLOOD IN THE BATH!!!!!!! THAT IS THE WORST THING YOU CAN EVER DO!!!! THIS IS WHY THEY MUST BAN RED BATH BOMBS!!!!! THEY CAN BE SO SCARY!!!

[@thotimusprimeofficial273]

story 2: NTA!!! SO many dogs these days are food sensitive or have allergies not to mention the amount of baiting that happens. It’s literally basic stuff to ask owner’s if you can give treats to their dogs.

[@EveryFairyDies]

Story 2: Plant a hedge on the inside of the fence that the dogs can't fit through and reach the fence, if possible. It sucks to have to spend money in order to stop a stranger when you've asked them nicely, but it's cheaper than having to rush them to the vet because they've been given something that didn't agree with them.

[@hannah.kate.]

Story 1 was absolutely horrifying to read as someone with very similar issues and CTPSD, I would’ve lost my utter crap and probably lash out by accident in a flashback. A lot of the time people don’t realise setting someone with PTSD or similar problems off could result in a very bad outcome for both, as I’ve had episodes where I was unable to distinguish between people trying to help me and the abusers that caused the problem, and ended up hurting people completely by accident, which I felt truly awful and guilty about afterwards. These issues are no joke, and if you do something like that to someone deliberately, you deserve to have the crap smacked out of you. I hope OP is safe and a lot better off in a different, healthy and supportive environment.

[@jackspring7709]

Those weren't pranks: he is a sadist and he was deliberately targetting OP in any and every way he could think of. Sounds to me like the one who is really messed up in-the-head is the boyfriend. It's a good job she left him.

[@PaintSplashProductions]

Story 1: …What the absolute f*** is wrong with that boyfriend?!

[@Me-wk3ix]

Story 2: so many things wrong. 1. You don't know the puppy's medical history, and what foods could harm them. 2. Treats at the wrong time from someone that isn't the owner can really mess up any training being done with the puppies. 3. OP doesn't know you. You could be a crazy person poisoning the dogs, or getting them used to you so that you can stake out the house or even steal the puppies. It happens. 4. The dogs could end up overeating or gaining too much weight or just making themselves sick if both the owner and you are feeding them every day.

[@Purple_Dragonfly2002]

A prank is wrapping some items in wrapping paper. Putting glitter somewhere, it's silly stuff that's at worst inconvenient. It's not causing distress/harm to your partner.

[@SkylighWillo]

My Dad is a dog walker, so he's always got treats on him. He will happily give a dog a treat, however, he always asks the owner if it's alright before giving anything to the dog.

[@sugarshamrock]

I will never understand why pranking is okay when its not appreciated by the other partner. Its in poor taste and there seems to be no line that isn't crossed.

[@lindaouellette6656]

Legend has it that OPs poor,poor, innocent EX is still laughing about the great “joke” still.. 😂 although alone now😢 really, really ALONE!!😂

[@strangelic4234]

Poor guy isn't laughing because OP ruined his friendships. Everybody knows you are obligated to lie to protect your abusive ex.

[@chillzone44]

Story 2: I think Op was more than polite enough to speak to him kindly as many times as she did before she snapped. You never know what people's motivations are, I knew a seemingly very sweet old man once who dated my grandmother. One day in the truck he swerved trying to hit a cat because he hated them so much, it wasn't in the road or anything so he knew it was someone's pet more than likely. Some people are just evil deep down.

[@Shenn3165]

My sister has an elderly dog, whom I love dearly, and I make sure to ask my sister what kind of treats I can buy for my buddy, before I give her anything other then what my sister already has for her.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

The first story: suicide is nothing to joke about. As someone who once was on the verge of doing it, it is absolutely nothing to be taken lightly. Good on OP for getting out of that toxic relationship. She deserves better.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 2: My dog has SEVERE allergies (apoquel 2x a day, only hypoallergenic food, special baths etc) otherwise she will scratch herself until she bleeds heavily, and will vomit until I need to take her to the emergency vet. If anyone did this I'd go absolutely berserk.

[@LilChuunosuke]

*Story 2:* I want to defend OP with a far less sad story than the ones everyone else was sharing. I used to work for my family's business. Part of the daily errands consisted of visiting the town center to deposit any checks at the bank, then drop off invoices & other misc business mail at the post office. On the way to the post office, you had to pass this coffee shop and a couple seniors got together to hang out at the same time that my dad usually ran those errands. One of those seniors had the cutest little small dog. I think his name was buddy, but this was years ago. My dad caught the guy coming out to his car one day & chatted him up. Got permission to pet the dog & even give him treats. But the dog had a sensitive stomach, so we could only buy a specific brand. My dad introduced me to the owner so that when I ran those errands in his place during my summer vacation, he would know who was touching his dog in the car & that the treat he would recieve every day was safe. It always made that errand a little more special when I saw Buddy do his happy little taps on the door, waiting for me to give him kisses & treats.

[@GalaGrinsArt]

With dogs, you always ask if it's okay to give them something. If I'm eating over at someone's house, I always ask if it's alright for me to give the dog something from the table. I'd always have thanksgiving at my Aunt's house and for the longest time she had a dog allergic to turkey. Always need to ask.

[@youngcanuck5397]

Story 1: I remember this story. That final “prank” isn’t a prank. It’s downright insane to pretend something like that even without PTSD and other mental health issues

[@mrbas5150]

I hate pranks, It's just another form of bullying. I can't tolerate bullies.

[@liacaburian2092]

Story 2 NTA. You gotta be careful now a days. Idk what goes on in people's heads that its okay to give unknown treats to other people’s dogs and those who want to poison them. Years ago my mom found pieces of cubed cheese with rusty nails in our yard, we were on high alert of a whole year because we didnt know which neighbor did it. Luckily all our dogs have passed on from old age or euthanized because of cancer, no one was poisoned

[@persephoneszeliga]

Please everyone be sweet to Poppy. Herz is so super cute. Please don’t feed Herz any unsolicited snacks, like the old Boomer in the story. Thanks!!

[@MagipieMM]

A coworker of my dad's used to give my dog treats when she went past the fence with her dog. Eventually figured out that she was the source of his continued allergies. He was allergic to beef and she was giving him beef treats. At least she was super embarrassed, upset, and apologetic after it all came to light.

[@suppressedfury8499]

I hate being startled, loud noises don't bother me if I'm expecting it. I had an old roommate, who at one point thought it would be a good idea you have a friend who I had never met. Hide in the apartment and then wait until my roommate left to come out and sneak up behind me with a fake, but very real-looking knife. Neighbors called the police after I fired a warning shot in our apartment. Roommate left shortly after that...

[@itsjustmaddisen]

One of my dogs had a severe food allergy so this has immediately put me off feeding animals anything without asking. I asked my neighbour if I can feed her cat anything here and there (her cat would actually come meowing loudly at my door for cuddles). Our neighbour was really appreciative that I bought some snacks for Hamish and would joke he’s the cat version of me lol (we’re both ginger). When I did feed him, I let her know so that he isn’t overfed.

[@alleycatalog]

He's pushing boundaries. That is all. He doesn't like being told no by his woman.

[@starbars96]

Story to nta his treats could upset pups stomachs, and are being rewarded for difficult behavior

[@Wolvesbane39]

Story two. I had this happen with my dogs. A lady was coming around and feeding them treats, her excuse was to have them "Not bark at her". She didn't pet them or interact with them. Just shoved the treats through the fence. Well there were also problems at the time or teens kicking at the fence when my dogs when they were out and also throwing trash at them. So I was trying to train them not to go to the fence when people were walking. This lady was undoing everything, on top of the idea that she was giving someone else's pets food that could mess with their stomachs. It's not that hard to understand if the owners ask you not to feed their dogs, then don't feed them.

[@sumonelse1989]

Story 1: Just..wow. The level of stupidity is mind blowing. It's also not the first time I have heard of such cruel pranks. In fact, I'm pretty sure I saw one such prank on KZbin. Some guy convinced a friend to dress up in a pink bunny costume and jump out at two people who were walking past. The older man started clutching his chest and collapsed while the woman screamed "DAD!! DAD!!!". It was all a set up. The father and daughter were in on it and the "prank" was on the pink bunny man making him think he had caused the older man to have a heart attack. They say that humor is subjective but only a sick twisted individual would think such things are at all funny.

[@sherrygibbs7547]

Cudos' to the exs' mom and sis for not enabling him. I hope that they warn any new (potential) girlfriends what he us capable of & to not put up with his crap. I hope the mom & sis can get through to the guy and get him to recognize/accept responsibility for & correct his behaviour. I hope OP can heal from some/most of her trauma and she finds a companion that truly cares about her.