My Girlfriend Of 8 Years Used Me As A "Back Up Plan" And Now Regrets It r/Relationships

[@krafka]

First Story: Unfortunately, OP will NEVER find any woman as "beautiful on the inside" as Lily because the woman he is thinking about never existed. His memories of her and their relationship are pure fantasy. Bluntly, if Lily were really all that "beautiful" on the inside, she wouldn't have treated him like this in the first place. No woman will ever live up to the fantasy woman he's created in his memory.

[@diarradunlap9337]

He needs some serious therapy. Then, he needs to write her off as being a bad bet that he's better 📴 without.

[@itsjustme7487]

@@diarradunlap9337 Absolutely. Lily is not an angel but she may not be a demon. Therapy Is a MUST.

[@JDKT002]

Yuuup. This really feels like they had been together for so long and at such a young age that neither of them ever developed a personality independent of each other. To him to accept that Lily wasn't the great amazing person on the inside that he has built her up to be, would be like admitting HE'S not actually a good person on the inside. As she's a part of him as far as he's concerned.

[@lukogs]

The simp on the update made me crazy. She, the woman who grew up together, known ins & outs, left him & fucked a random dude. That is utter stab in the heart from the back. Yet he says she's the angel, kindest soul, yearning for her, blah blah blah.

[@heathermiller5765]

In a way it's like he never emotionally matured. He needs to take off them rose colored shades fr

[@kbf9644]

“She broke my heart because she wanted to bang new guy, tried to date new guy, new guy blew her off so she came back to me with a mouth full of lies and attempted to use me as her plan B, but I’ve never met anyone more beautiful. On the inside.” 😳

[@unnaturaldisaster1728]

unfortunately that’s the cognitive distortion that happens with toxic relationships. He’s putting her on a pedestal because he’s still emotionally scarred from the break up and wants her back so instead of thinking logically and objectively, his emotions are distorting the truth and, whether consciously or subconsciously, he’s giving himself reasons to get back with her. it’s like a war between rationality and emotion

[@judelbugsrutter6727]

He must know some real gems

[@gemma6515]

Right… 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@titofuente9979]

Wow, if she is the best he can find, he is doomed. I feel really sorry for this guy!

[@Syrin23]

She didn't want to bang the new guy, she DID bang the new guy. She's total shite

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 1:"kindest soul I've ever met" proceeds to describe a manipulative cheater

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Never take an ex back and NEVER be someone else's Plan B. She left after 8 years and only came back because the new man didn't work out. If she really loved OP, she would have never left in the first place. If OP does play his simp card and takes the chick back, then he deserves every bad thing she does to him in the future.

[@darknessbobulus]

Exactly

[@WhitneyDahlin]

Yeah he needs to get some real help. Because he seriously said that Lily is the kindest soul he's ever met. Bro she isn't kind. She was NEVER kind. A kind person wouldn't treat someone like that. She's a selfish person. And the fact he is so blind proves to me that he isn't in love with lily. He's in love with the idea he has of lily. Even if he were to get back together with her she could never measure up to the idea he has of her in his mind because she has flaws and imperfection and is pretty f****** selfish. He hasn't realized yet that she was NEVER who he thought she was. She wasn't a good person who made a mistake. She was a selfish person who used him. But he is completely unable to see it because he's suffering from something called The nostalgia factor. Which is that the farther you get from a breakup the more blind you become to the emotional pain this person caused you and the more blind you are to the flaws of them and the relationship. He needs to receive therapy to deal with his codependency and to help him realize that he needs to grieve the future he will never have with her because the Lily he was in love with never existed at all. It sounds like he has her on a pedestal and it's going to ruin his life if he doesn't get out of this mindset. Because no other woman, no matter how wonderful and perfect for him she is, can ever measure up to the idealized version of Lily. Lily can't even measure up to that version. Unfortunately I have a feeling that he's going to have to learn the hard way and he is going to get back together with her. She'll probably be on her best behavior at first and he's going to marry her quick they're going to pop out a few kids and only after that is when she's going to get bored again leave him or most likely start cheating on him. And then he's going to have to deal with a divorce, raising kids, on top of dealing with his codependency. I hope I'm wrong but I doubt it since it's been 2 years and he still isn't over it

[@RandomTrinidadian]

@@WhitneyDahlin agreed.

[@vanzy01]

👍

[@stephanien6237]

Interestingly, I have two friends and a brother who each dated someone in college, Broke up, and then reconnected 5-10 years later and got married. All three of these couples are still happily married 10-20 years later. Not everyone breaks up over some huge issue. None of my examples had cheating/etc. Some people are not in the right stage of life or haven’t finished growing and need more time. I absolutely agree with not being someone’s plan B.

[@everdreamcosplay]

Story 1 - sorry it's cliche, but dude needs THERAPY!!! Needs to work through his grief and trust issues.

[@Barlmoro]

i had a friend in the same position and he got therapy. unfortunate his therapist (a woman) was not good for him and drilled him to bekomme a class a simp. we still try to undo her damage with a other therapist (a male one). Yes he needs something to overcome the image of the perfect angel like woman, cose you will not found one. But he need to be carefull with the therapist to not get a bad one.

[@JuniperJadePR]

S3: I hope Vienna goes no contact with her family because they all sound like selfish monsters. Taking care of someone after a car accident is more important than a wedding. It's also interesting to note how the OP never mentions how badly Matthew was injured since it would have probably made them look even worse in the post.

[@stephanien6237]

This OP is a cold, unfeeling, controlling monster. He kids sounds like a sociopath given that he shows zero empathy.

[@JuniperJadePR]

@@stephanien6237 After reading the original reddit post's comments, can definitely say that "unfeeling, controlling monster" is an accurate title for the OP.

[@Arthus850]

Someone actually asked how bad the injuries were. OP’s response was, and I quote, “Vienna said before he had whiplash, some fractures and internal bleeding.” Note how he started with the whiplash like as if that would downplay the rest of it.

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

Relationship 'some guy she's been hanging with' Injuries 'nothing serious' Down play everything in her life, belittle her feelings, then op is gonna be back acting surprised Vienna won't speak to them any longer. Smh

[@rogerrabbit80]

@@Arthus850 Fractures and internal bleeding are "nothing serious"? Can anyone tell me what color the sky is on OP's planet?

[@Mia-dt3gl]

OP in Story 3 revealed in a comment the injuries Vienna’s boyfriend suffered in his accident: whiplash, internal bleeding, and some fractures. So yeah, he was _seriously_injured and OP prevented Vienna from being with him. I hope Vienna never speaks to her family again.

[@stephanien6237]

Wow. Yikes! Op says “I don’t think it was anything serious” regarding his daughter’s relationship.

[@TheEmpressReborn]

Oh my God and Goddess. That's just horrible! I hope Vienna cuts off her family, every single one of them!

[@Ax-xo4ux]

@@stephanien6237 even if it wasn’t “super serious”he’s still someone who Vienna cares about. If my friend got injured I’d go and be like “I need to be with them” more so if it’s a partner

[@flodderr]

its not seriously injured at all lol. If its already been weeks since the accident he wouldve already been almost fully healed

[@Steph-yz4tn]

Why do people think everyone should cut family off. It was something to go low contact maybe, but completely stop contact? Damn, you people just want no families in the future.

[@MizTameRumors]

Story 3 OP just ensured daughter never speaks to him again. All because HE decided wearing a matching dress at a niece's wedding is more important than his daughter.

[@Icalasari]

I look forward to her posts in /r/raisedbynarcissists, if she ever ends up there

[@ladyv5655]

Exactly. He will become one of those old people who wonder why their children never talk to them and why they have never met their grandchildren.

[@mitchellbirkhead9214]

@@Icalasari most from that community are massive narcissists.

[@deadhead8323]

Found the reddit page when they asked the level of his injuries it was pretty bad.

[@jenniferhanses7064]

Story 3: YTA. 1) What's a good reason to cancel an invitation? An emergency such as your partner got in a car accident and has been hospitalized. That's considered perfectly normal, and the bride and groom are TA for not saying "Oh, you poor thing, yes, go to him. It would be great if you could be back for the wedding, but send us an update three days before if you can't and we'll understand." 2) You canceled her plane tickets. I'm honestly surprised she didn't just camp out at the airport until she could get on a flight. How could she ever possibly trust you people again? I wouldn't be surprised if she never comes home.

[@Boundwithflame23]

Yknow I was immediately reminded of an earlier story where OP and her dad missed her sister’s wedding because her stepsister fell off her horse and there were people bashing them for that and saying there was favoritism because OP was closer with her stepsister than her bio sister And this is the exact same scenario but Reddit changes tune completely 🤦‍♀️

[@jenniferhanses7064]

@@Boundwithflame23 I did not participate in that one. I would say, in that scenario, that it makes sense to rush to the one in a hospital, but that I would hope the father could leave the OP to watch the injured step while he attended the wedding, knowing that between the hospital and the OP she was being well cared for if the hospital wasn't predicting her imminent demise. Because I would be sad for the bride if her father couldn't walk her down the aisle, though I'd understand if the step were on death's door at that point. The past ten days, my father has been in the hospital (I'm not going to go into details, so let's just say perils of old age). He's not prone to crying, but this time, if he was left alone he'd cry because he was scared. If, hypothetically, I were getting married, obviously he couldn't come, plus either my mom or one of my two sisters would have to stay with him and be unable to attend, and that's just the way things would be. However, as only one out of the three of them needs to be at the bedside (and with covid restrictions only one is allowed to sit with him), I would hope the other two would come. In the case you presented, one person could have stayed and the other attended if it weren't entirely dire. In the OP story, there is only one person to go. But if they'd allowed her to go and tend to him and reassure herself, she might have happily returned to be a bridesmaid rather than this cruel keeping the two of them apart thing.

[@Russman67]

Story 1: OP put Lily on a marble pedestal and even though she literally ripped his heart out to date someone else, he can't let her go. I hope he's able to get some therapy to help him work that out, otherwise he's going to drag that image of her into every relationship he has. 🤦‍♀️

[@Russman67]

Bob needs to figure out a place where he can truly live out this Oedipus complex he's in. I'm glad she decided to have her meal like a boss!

[@Snowshowslow]

I have noticed your comments under a lot of these and I usually really like your takes (including this one) :) That's all I wanted to say, have a good day!

[@AngelDeed]

You and Op are way too dramatic. She didn't rip his heart out she just broke up with him. People have a right to do that. She didn't chest, she didn't abuse jim, nothing like that. They were together since they were 13, what did he expect? All this whining about not being able trust people and whatnot is him, not her, he needs therapy, because it's not normal to react so badla to a regular breakup.

[@sas7831]

​@@Hi-qh4jhit literally is your not obligated to be with somone your life your choice doesn't matter how long u been together

[@BiggusThiccus]

@@sas7831 you are a twisted and broken person. This is what's wrong with the world - the ideas of liberal individualism have been unshackled from politics where they rightfully belong and have been left to fester and destroy the social fabric of every modern western society. Lily's selfishness led her to abandon an irreplaceable person from her life for a cheap thrill that left her with nothing to show for it, and now both parties are left (likely) irrevocably damaged. And still there's apologists like you for this kind of behavior. This isn't a matter of taste or freedom or choice. Nobody will ever want to commit the NECESSARY investment to form families and build up healthy societies if people can just be abandoned without consequence. This is a recipe for broken families its inevitable consequences like poverty and high crime. Stop being an apologist for this demented and degenerate behavior.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

3) He'll be back on Reddit in a few years wanting to know why his daughter cut him off, didn't invite him to her wedding and why he didn't know he had grandchildren.

[@ronhall5395]

Yes and he will have no clue why. " We had one little argument and she ghosted me?" What was the argument about? " I canceled her plan tickets she paid for so.she could not go.visit her BF who was in the hospital after a car accident. It wasn't like it was anything serious. " Dude has no clue!

[@yoshidababies4222]

Yup

[@ScooterBond1970]

Story 3: Thing is, even if he's just a friend and "not that serious" she still cares enough to want to be with him during a health crisis. Which, as everyone is rightly pointing out, absolutely is more important than a wedding.

[@bautistalover]

That’s the thing how bad was he hurt?

[@malle8306]

@@bautistalover i did some research on the reddit post and apparently the dude got whiplash, some fractures and internal bleeding

[@annlidslot8212]

@@malle8306 Hi, I want to hijack your comment with my soap box. I apologize in advance. this has nothing to do with you in any way. This is just meant to be a general soap box statement. Thank you. Just add to your comment: nobody dare say that whiplash is not serious. I was in a car accident 26 years ago which landed me in a Chronic Pain Syndrome after Whiplash. It killed my career as an attorney that I worked hard to achieve, as I'm now bedridden due to pain. I'm still on a serious pain relief cocktail, that gives any new doctor I see a headache. I'm seriously not addicted, but I am dependent on them for having a semblance of life (about 6 hours per week out of bed resting). This is only a small part of what the consequences of that car crash. Yours, Ann

[@mamakitty6549]

Story 3: I hope the wedding was more important than your daughter because if this was my family... I wouldn't speak to them for a long time. I also wouldn't have gone to the wedding but I'm petty.

[@kingturtle24k81]

I hope she goes no contact ,gets married and don't invite op,his wife and that family on top of that i hope she never let's them meet their first ,Second,third and so on grandkids and then when op and his wife are old i hope she sends them to the cheapest,crappiest nursing home ever

[@christianlee4743]

I would've told ALL the guests what they did and leave right after.

[@Torichan888]

She was probably scared that OP would cancel her flight again and cooperated to prevent that. If Vienna had to take a connecting flight, they could cancel the second flight and leave her stranded until she either figured out how to order a flight not connected to them or gave in and came back. And I don't blame Vienna for not thinking about paying cash or not using the family plan, panic does not lead to the best plans and problem solving.

[@EluneAnzu]

Story 3: Hope OP had fun at that wedding because his daughter's not inviting him to hers that's for sure.

[@clarabp2613]

Or just seeing her again. Now that she is gone she may as well go full no contact

[@ShiNijuuAKL]

@@clarabp2613 not yet, if she was ready to go full no contact she wouldn't have assisted the wedding. She is probably waiting for the right time to cut them from her life

[@kalinaphillips9779]

Story 3. I can be petty, so I probably would go to the airport and purchase a new ticket (maybe with my father's money (?)), maybe paying cash, so OP wouldn't be able to cancel. Then switch off the phone, then block all of them on everything. OP'S daughter deserves a caring family. Hopefully, her partner's one is caring. Hope

[@notoriousd.i.g.87]

Story 2: They literally could have asked a waiter for another chair. They knew OP was coming. They were purposely excluding OP and she did the right thing.

[@jackspring7709]

Yeah, there are some weird Norman Bates vibes about Bob and his mother.

[@tonytandtherevengeofthecru9108]

@@jackspring7709 Why, because of one incident told from only one perspective?

[@tonytandtherevengeofthecru9108]

The right thing to do was leave and take it up with her husband later, not act like a loon.

[@jackspring7709]

@@tonytandtherevengeofthecru9108 Lol - you seem to have drawn your own conclusions from "one incident told from one perspective" lol.

[@tonytandtherevengeofthecru9108]

@@jackspring7709 Yes, that's don't believe only one side of a story. The fact the OP leaves out certain information is very telling.

[@Tammohawk1]

1. She left to see other people. In fact, I think it was one person in particular. It didn't turn out like she thought and so now she wants OP back. Unfortunately Lily isn't the person he thinks she was and he's never going to be able to move on until he realizes what he has done. 2. I'd be thinking about divorcing this man child after that stunt. He's just as disrespectful as his mother is. 3. Hoo Boy, this one is something. Parents are so controlling over the adult child.

[@Icalasari]

Yeah, after that? She's going to go no contact for sure

[@Lady.B0420]

Your first story interpretation seems unfair. These two had been dating since they were literal children. They have never experienced their young lives without each other. This is exactly why my children are not allowed to date until 16 and only after responsibility has been established. You can't be a good partner for someone else when you don't even know who you are.

[@Emily-ck9ji]

Story 2: OP needs to divorce her husband. He only married HER because he couldn't marry his MOTHER.

[@dangerouslysane]

Sounds like OP really does deserve better. OP handled that restaurant situation well and IDK why OP would put up with that husband.

[@pickle_pup8187]

Agreed!!! He should have stood up for her LOOOONNNNGGG AGO!!!! He is a sonsband

[@edwardmorris8465]

Did she say she was coming or might be coming? When did the dinner begin?

[@akl2k7]

@@edwardmorris8465 Look at the beginning of the story. She let the mom and everyone know that she'd be there at 8pm. The dinner guests were all still there when she left.

[@kellywaters643]

ding ding ding

[@DellCTRL]

Story 3: I would _immediately_ go no contact. I’m sorry, but a wedding has no higher priority over someone’s health. What Vienna’s parents did is disgusting and I’m pretty sure Vienna could’ve called the police since her parents weren’t given permission to cancel the flight. They’re very controlling.

[@ronhall5395]

This father reminds me of the guy who posted asking how he could break.up.with his mistress before his wife finds out. Lol. He got shredded. Then he kept doubling down about he didn't want to cheat, but liked being with his mistress so.much he couldn't stop. Someone fixed that for him. They reposted the story into a public forum where the now ex wife saw it. She was especially disturbed about the part where he talked about the great sex him.and AP were having and he knew that even if he broke it off, he would eventually get back with her. Dude could not understand why people were so.mean to him. Oh yeah, his wife was pregnant and they had two other kids.

[@flodderr]

naah, if the accident happend weeks before, the guy will be stable and can wait 1 fucking day. Vienna is just a bitch

[@Steph-yz4tn]

Why is everyone willing to cut contact with family for everything? Damn, in 10 years, no one will have family.

[@Khellyyyyyy]

Story 3: Lets turn the tables, who's willing to bet that if OP or family got injured, they'll want Vienna to put a halt on her plans? They're pretty darn selfish for choosing 'to save face' over Vienna's happiness. They downplays Vienna's relationship, canceled her flight, pretty much kept her hostage for literal WEEKS up to the wedding day, let other people's opinions rule their lives, and finally, OP still doesn't see how problematic he is. What's next, he'll throw Vienna in the basement if she wants to marry a guy he doesn't approve?🙄

[@ScooterBond1970]

Don't give the moron any ideas 😜.

[@anthonygilmour6236]

Hell I checked Reddit for more information and I couldn't find any information about the post and user... Funny that. 🤔

[@mashonem]

@@anthonygilmour6236 thanks for that, saves me some time

[@bautistalover]

I would be curious to know if her boyfriend wanted her there. Meaning if he was fine and wanted her to stay.

[@mimi.dixon.b]

@@bautistalover I understand wanting to go out,and she definitely should have been able to…..but visiting for a while,especially if it isn’t a life or death situation,and then coming back for the wedding would seem reasonable. I really don’t understand why she had to be there(with family)for weeks ahead of time,it seems like there should have been plenty of time for the visit and the wedding

[@zachf748]

*_Story #1 -_* Two things; (1) Girls don’t blow up their long term relationship for no reason… She had a guy lined up, and she cheated. And (2) She’s selfish. Just look at her message when she contacted you… It’s only about herself, it’s too hard for her… She doesn’t love or respect you. You told her that you didn’t want to talk to her because it was too painful, and what does she do? She reached out to you solely to make herself feel better. And did that knowing it would hurt you. She just didn’t care about you or your feelings. She’s despicable. The only healthy option is to tell her it’s over and ghost her, then move on with your life. You deserve so much better.

[@owl7072]

Story 2: "It's not mine or my mom's fault!" Ummm, _yes it is actually._ You BOTH knew she was coming. EVERYONE knew she was coming, yet NOBODY thought to get a bigger table or find a way to get an extra chair. You allowed your mommy to exclude your _wife._ Are you gonna have her sign the divorce papers for you too? Are you gonna have her go to court and represent you while you stay home and be coddled while eating homemade soup and grilled cheese in the shape of triangles with the crusts cut off? 🤨

[@theajaxs720]

moral of this story, don't marry adult children.

[@debbietaylor2983]

Love the snark in your comment.

[@heathermiller5765]

@@debbietaylor2983 So do I. That actually made me laugh

[@1hellofabutler1313]

That was oddly specific.

[@Draggonny]

You're absolutely right. Dinner reservations are not first come first served, they're invite only. His mother never booked a seat for OP. She did it deliberately.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

Story 2.) You’re a guest but not entitled to ….eat with the family….. ya that makes sense. Wow. Just wow.

[@botanyblack9826]

Sounds like she is a guest in her own marriage. umm.. nope.

[@Russman67]

Story 3: YTA with a little bit of ESH (minus Vienna and the hurt boyfriend) because no one's without blame but OP wins the asshole prize. Sure it would have been great if Vienna would have stayed through the wedding but to cancel her flight behind her back to force her to stay is beyond the pale. The bride going passive aggressive in social media is kind of weak too.

[@atinyevil1383]

Story 1: idk how much of a hot take this is, but people need to stop "going on breaks". If you want to stop seeing someone/see other people, break up. You can't just hold them as a plan B while you're out looking for someone to replace them with. The other person deserves to be happy and not tied to you, thinking you'll come back and putting their feelings on hold.

[@peteranon8455]

"on a break" is just female code for "cheating on you." Guys adopted in the late 90s when they figured out that they could cheat too.

[@victorvaldez8869]

Story Two: How hard is it to tell the waitstaff "oh and my wife will be here in a few, she's running a bit late so we'll need one more seat. if you could please?" Restaurants will accommodate that very reasonable & easy to fulfill request, so it's clear that OP's MiL & husband didn't WANT her there, & she needs to accept that this is probably a bigger issue in the relationship if there's even a relationship to save at all.

[@user-wr3vt8uq4s]

OPs got a JNMIL and a momma's boy for a husband. Does she want another 20+ years of this till the MIL kicks off? If they have kids, there will be even more things the MIL disapproves of.

[@anthonym6119]

He treated her like a celebrity and she treated him like a fan.

[@nelly2958]

Story 3: I’d be horrified if anyone, especially a trusted parent just destroyed my only way to leave. And op thinks this is so normal he’s probably done worse.

[@carlrood4457]

Describing his ex as an "angel" is a sure sign he's not looking back on the relationship with a critical view. He's not remembering the reality.

[@sanchisan6997]

One of my favorite people that I've ever met was at my wedding reception, with her new boyfriend who I only met once before, (she and I had known one another for years) and her boyfriend got a call that his brother was in an accident and all I said to her, standing there in my gown was: "OH NO! Is there anything we can do, do you need a ride? Do you need us to make calls?" How can people be so careless? In case anyone is wondering, they weren't sure how it was gonna go at first but, he made it through luckily.

[@goawayleavemealone2880]

I'm glad to hear that the BF's brother made it, also you sound like a lovely person I hope married life is treating you well. Congratulations on being a decent human being, it seems to be an endangered species these days.

[@jack0f4lltrades28]

Jeez OP, you need therapy 2 years ago. I don't mean to be cruel but move on and get over it. Reality check, you've spent 730 days mourning a woman who didn't spend more than 1 day before dumping you to hookup with a new guy. You are in your own prison of your own making, get therapy and start working on yourself now.

[@kingturtle24k81]

Big facts

[@TheAuthorgal]

Yeah, and that whole losing weight and being nearly catatonic screams that his ex needs therapy because either something else isn’t going on, she’s THAT manipulative, or a combination of the two.

[@shadewolfe1231]

Story 3 - OP and the rest of his family are toxic. Vienna has every right to cut them off.

[@jakemarie828]

Story 3: I'd go no contact with my dear old dad if he did this. To see your child as an extention of yourself to this degree... your child that's 3 years away from being 30... canceling her flight that she paid for... over "wedding duties"?! The father will never respect the daughter and she will need to escape before she gets any real independence.

[@rosemarie1817]

Story 2: So, you're not entitled to a seat, at a dinner you were invited to and said you were coming to.... Yeah, just divorce your mommy's boy, and let him go marry mommy dearest. Story 3: YTA, poor Vivian, you're going to lose her, your relationship with her, contact, everything, "that man" IS HER PARTNER.

[@DePhoegonIsle]

Am I one of the few that would have popped my own father in the jaw for that shit? If I even heard about someone in my family pullihng that shit that he did... they'd have bigger problems than a daughter looking flakey at a wedding.

[@tonytandtherevengeofthecru9108]

You don't know if was still invited after she said she'll turn up when she wants. How does having a meal for his mother, who may have just recovered from cancer make him a mummy's boy?

[@builtontherockhomestead9390]

Story 3, hope OP is fine never speaking to his daughter again when she decides to go no contact. And she should go no contact as her family is very toxic.

[@DisneyChar]

S3. Huge YTA, and I would happily tell the entirety of FB how my significant other was injured and the family and bride held me hostage at the wedding to keep us apart.

[@CarinaCoffee]

Story 3 made me so angry! Either OP is not worthy enough to know the details of the daughters relationship or just plays it down to validate their own actions (as in the mindset, that if they're not that serious it's not that big of a deal if she doesn't go visit him). OP cancelled her flight and forced her to attend the wedding. That is so controlling! As has been said in the reddit comments, missing a wedding because someone you care about has had an accident is the most valid reason to miss a wedding. Bridezilla and groomzilla blasting them passive-aggressively on social media shows that that side of the family is toxic too. I bet they'd expect everyone to make excuses and accommodations for them if one of them had an accident/got sick. But someone else's partner is apparently not worth the same courtesy. I'm not surprised they're on OP's side of the family. OP deserves the daughter going no or low contact and I hope she does the same to the rest of that side of the family.

[@CarinaCoffee]

Story 2: So the monster in law didn't reserve enough seats and no one had the brains to squish a bit or get a new table?! Everyone at that dinner was the idiot with the exception of OP, but OP should find a partner who doesn't let their parents treat OP like that or as in this participates in the disrespect.

[@Barlmoro]

the hole thing would only be better handle from op side if she left to get a divorce laywer.

[@laurelrhodes744]

Story 3: it’s people like that who make me anxious about attending weddings. And that “some man” sounds more like family to OP’s daughter than her blood relatives.

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 3: YTA. If this is the last time OP ever sees Vienna, it will be OP's fault. Sidenote: I wish Vienna would have left her parent's home under the guise of running wedding errands and headed straight for the airport. Vienna counld have explained her situation to a carrier supervisor. (My parents are controlling and attempting to keep me hostage.) They could have reserved Vienna a seat on a flight, but only charged her card at the last minute. If Vienna had to do all that to leave, surely Vienna would never return.

[@Raaslen]

Story 1: OP is not in love with Lily, he is in love with the Lily he created in his mind

[@darrylblanch8463]

Dinner story. There was NEVER a spot for OP. Loved the "got my own table all to myself".

[@sandrajohnson6810]

Last story: I would say goodbye to my family and go no contact. They massively overstepped and interfered in my personal life.

[@kidfrid5498]

Story 3, "clearly mad at us" lol, OP that was the last time you will ever see your daughter. She's done with you. That's why she's not responding. She's gone no contact without a word. And good for her. God only knows what else you put her through in her life. This was definitely the last straw.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

2) As someone who's gone to a restaurant and reserved tables for multiple people I know for fact that they will add another table in chair if you need it. Op needs to realize however she's only there to pop out babies for her husband and mother-in-law to raise as a family and possibly bring an extra money for them to spend, because if they do that by themselves they will get weird looks from the guests

[@kingturtle24k81]

Facts

[@EleanoraDzen]

Story 2 is a prime example of “throw the whole man away”

[@jackspring7709]

Story 1: It was obvious within the first minute what was going on there: she met someone else and it didn't work out. Update: Yep. I understand the guy's pain, but she did treat him very shoddily. He did the right thing.

[@ttrev007]

When a partner continues to pick there parents over you it is best to move on and find someone else who would put u first

[@yozarahirvi4750]

the way he descrive Lily in the update "beautiful on the inside" is astonishing ! she dumped him the first chance she got to get a new boyfriend, and she tried to crawl back to him when she understood that the new boyfriend didn't want her, it's a disgusting behaviour.

[@joskubl6017]

Story 1: Lily is your habit, a habit you've had since childhood. So, it is hard to get out of that habit both physically and emotionally. I'd strongly suggest counseling. And even look at her as a sisterly position instead. You need to let yourself move on. Her disposition is something caused by her. Wish you luck moving forward

[@Barlmoro]

it is dissturbing how often this "the grass is greener on the other side of the fance" thing happend and how often it is the woman that kick the stable relationship into the garbage and than realised thats was a bad choice. Hope he can move on or at least find peace with himself, i personaly would understand if he do not wannt a new relationship and only have short flinks with other woman at all.

[@sandracox4341]

Story one, she dumped him to pursue a relationship with a particular guy and he turned out to just want a conquest not a relationship. As soon as she learned that she came crawling back to OP.

[@Barlmoro]

i really do not understand why this happend so often, i wittnes this a few times and had it myself. I really do not understand woman, but how the saying goes: "woman understand each other and the hate them!"

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 1: OP has delusional memory of his time with Lily. He puts her on a pedestal. One instance he says she's the best person he ever met, but then again she dumped him just to go out with another guy. So this is about HIS pride. He doesn't want to admit to himself that Lily wasn't as pure and good as he envisions her in his head. he's made her into a "perfect woman" that no real woman, not even Lily herself, can compare. OP is insane and will continue to remain alone because his bullshit opinion of others is so far skewed that he has no ability to have compassion, empathy or respect for others. He needs to topple that "statue of Lily" that he has created in his mind.

[@WobblesandBean]

That tends to happen when you get together as literal children and never date anyone else well into adulthood. You don't have any reference level, you don't know what it's like to date someone truly compatible with you, so you tend to put that person on a pedestal cuz you don't know any better.

[@jackspring7709]

Exactly.

[@jbgra2566]

The fact that they met twice and went bad should tell him he's just creating an image of her that is not the real her

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

@@jbgra2566 People like to lie to themselves by making up things to make themselves feel better. He's trapped in his own fantasy.

[@mariem8705]

This op really annoyed tf outta me. Just take the L and go back to her. Maybe this time she won’t cheat but you’ll never fully trust her. So it’s toxic but op is already toxic by comparing her to others

[@heathermiller5765]

*He cancelled her flight* ?! Is that even legal? That's practically kidnapping imo. The guy could've been in the hospital *dying* at that point. If it was me I would've been on the first bus back or taken a ride to the airport to see what else could be done. This guy's beyond just being an AH. What a POS honestly 🤬

[@aishas2497]

As long as she isn't the bride, it shouldn't matter if the daughter attended the wedding. Imagine if she was sick in the hospital, would they drag her out a day before the wedding to attend.

[@rosihantu1]

First Story: She was depressed because she was dumped by the AP. She was pumped/dumped and her self worth took a hit. It has nothing to do with longing for OP.

[@Lady.B0420]

Story 1, I just want to give props to Lily. She wanted to try something different. Instead of being a cheater, she broke up with him. That was the most respectful thing she could have done. Of course she still loves OP. That first relationship will always be special and is not replaceable.

[@BA-qn7xj]

Yeah while that obviously would hurt a lot having your partner break up with you, I genuinely have some respect for Lilly for doing the bare minimum and breaking up with OP rather than cheating on him.

[@ZeoViolet]

Yes, thank you, I was thinking this. She would have been a despicable person if she had outright cheated. She was away from him for the first time in her dating life, and for the first time encountered new possibilities and situations. How she handled it wasn't great, but she did break up with him first before she attempted to find out if she might try another path, and it turned out horribly. One encounter destroyed both of them; they both feel used for different reasons and neither will ever be the same for it. I noticed in a lot of these comments that people called her a despicable monster, but judging from the way she seemed after she ruined everything, losing twenty pounds, dropping out of grad school, and being severely depressed...no, not a monster, just a human who took a very human risk that didn't pay off, and the bad way she handled the breakup first ensured that her lifelong love didn't want her back. Scurrying back to him after one bad encounter suggests that she wasn't very mature yet, but neither of them were after having been so sheltered their whole lives. He is prone to pedestal-building and forgot people are human beings. Ten years from now, they'll both probably meet and have a lot to talk about, especially about how they had both needed to grow the hell up. Had she never been apart from him, it might have all come crashing down anyways, because he's built her up so perfectly, and she'd be so uptight from never knowing what else life can offer, that one slip from either one of them would have been catastrophic.

[@MN-jw7mm]

Not a monster, but still a bad person, and also incredibly stupid. It says a lot that her mom didn't sugarcoat her behavior at all compared to the actual OP. OP should be glad he was blindsided while still relatively young and unmarried, because women like Lily will do that in a marriage, too. @@ZeoViolet

[@ZeoViolet]

@@MN-jw7mm It goes for anyone of any gender who get the sudden idea that they are an adult, in a monogamous relationship their whole young lives so far, and was struck with the sudden new idea (late for a human life) that there was more out there they might have missed out on. OP made her into a Madonna, forgot she was a human being and not a statue of perfection, and she slipped up with one mistake destroying the both of them because they were both very, very immature and sheltered. Had they both known more of the world while still being exclusive to each other, it might not have happened. Had she quelled the urges temporarily, but made one slipup afterwards because _she's a human being,_ his built-up Madonna-whore complex where she's concerned would have ruined them both either way. Never, ever build up your SO to an image of angelic, divine perfection, no matter how good a person they truly are. It becomes a powder keg and nothing good can be built on top of imagined perfection. Seeing each other, warts and all (we all have a few, no matter how good we are), makes for a stronger partnership that can endure a few bumps, and far less likely that one of those bumps will be infidelity. They were both young, both very immature from sheltered lives, and both have a LOT of growing up to do, or they'll never keep lasting relationships.

[@graysoldier]

Story one is a prime example of cutting off your nose to spite your face. It sounded that this was a girl that ventured out of bounds and discovered the grass wasn't greener.

[@fytrndm]

I know my mum would be pissed if my sister doesn't fly to the person she supposedly love who just had an accident for a _wedding_ regardless of her role in the wedding-yes, that includes if she's the MOH. It's a freaking wedding, there'll be another family wedding to attend. That OP is crazy.

[@mpmansell]

Story 1: Always be someone's choice. NEVER be someone's option.. OP really needs to get decent counseling to remove that girl from the pedestal. While they both were too young and needing to 'branch out' was almost inevitable, she cannot be excused for how she treated him and he should be helped to realise just how his life actually expanded and improved when I was let 'free' and how much further he can take it if he drops the 'dead weight' and fully embraces that freedom. Hopefully she will also learn from this

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Story one: That man is still grieving. He needs to seek professional help as well as keep doing what he did to move on. That's painful to read. 😢 Story two: So, you went to a date with yourself. That's awesome, OP! I hope you keep at it since your man-child of a husband's mother keeps forgetting to treat you as a guest, as said man-child says you are. 👍🏾 Story three: *ARE* *YOU* *STUPID?!* *YOU* *kept* *VIENNA* *against* *her* *will,* *while* *her* *LOVED* *ONE* *is* *in* *a* *HOSPITAL!!!* Your *entitled* *niece* is bad, but *you* and the rest of *your* *family* are *EVEN* *WORSE* for doing/condoning this act!! Your niece's wedding is NOT MORE IMPORTANT than the LIFE OF VIENNA'S LOVED ONE! I'm willing to believe that you don't even know how close those two are!! You and your family (even your newly married niece) disgust me!! Vienna didn't deserve that bullsh*t you just pulled! 🤬

[@songb1rd333]

Story 2: OP is an OG. I hope she made eye contact while she ate. But seriously, does her husband even like her? A man who respects his partner would have gotten up from the group table and sat with her. Instead he chose to continue to disrespect his wife. What a piece of work. I hope she leaves him.

[@yque4733]

Story #1: OP has Lily/her 🐱 on a freaking pedestal. He needs major therapy. He needs to get it in his head that Lily isn't the end all, be all.

[@GMWILD87]

I hate weddings and never plan to have one but OP is definitely not going to his daughter's and he should except that because obviously his daughter does have something serious with the dude even if he refuses to see it.

[@joshuapierce3085]

Story 3, I disagree about OP creating a bigger problem. I disagree because his wife fully agreed as did the bride and groom as well as the daughter's uncle (who I forget if he was the father of the bride or the groom, though I think he was the father of the bride). OP didn't create a bigger problem. His ENTIRE family did. And OP didn't see the hypocrisy of saying "you can't put some man above your family" when the event he was forcing her to attend was a WEDDING? Literally ADDING a new person to the family. He's basically saying that whoever she marries, she will never be allowed to view them as more important than the rest of the family. Which makes the bride's comment about "not seeing family as important" and "some people don't want to see others happy" extra rich coming from that narcissistic family. Edit: Okay, I just got to the community tab on your page and saw why you didn't do Pet Tax Tuesday. Enjoy France.

[@amadddd0]

Last story: it sounds honestly like kidnapping/imprisonment the way OP refused to let daughter leave

[@enjolireyes643]

Story 1- Next rocket to planet Therapy! Do not pass go or collect 200 dollars Story 2- Keep thumbing it to husband and MIL to be petty or divorce his spineless azz! Story 3- Those parents better not be mad when their daughter tosses them in a nursing home and don’t visit!

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Story 3: At this point, I don't think Vienna should even give her so called parents a nursing home. They don't even deserve that much. If they can hurt their own daughter like that, they can pay for their twilight years ON THEIR OWN!

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

That last story rarked me up. Just an absolute AH. Good on Vienna for going NC. Her family sucks.

[@cyrilmarasigan7108]

Story1: OP needs therapy, Lily isn't a Angel and IF she was then she wouldn't have the audacity to come back to OP because OP is her back up plan when she gets dumped, OP needs somewhere else not seeing Lily and focused himself on work and gym.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story1: they're both emotionally unstable and immature. OP needs therapy as soon as possible.

[@WobblesandBean]

Yup. He's doing the infantile thing of "An angel hurt me, so all women must be inherently awful and untrustworthy". He needs therapy, but I get the feeling he won't, and will just keep dating around and getting more bitter.

[@golden_leader9227]

@@WobblesandBean Exactly what i was thinking. I know a similar man. He says that he "understands he needs therapy and to move on", but he still isn't doing anything of the sort and it's already been 8 years. They'll never do.

[@heathermiller5765]

@@golden_leader9227 8 years?! 😳 Jeez. Sounds like a sad existence

[@golden_leader9227]

@@heathermiller5765 Yeah, i agree. He's currently 31. I mean, of course there's nothing wrong in wanting to be single if it's for healthy reasons, but not in his case. He wants someone by his side, but he also has impossible expectations and incredible bitterness. And to think that he was HIM who fuc*ed up, not the ex girlfriend...

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

​@@golden_leader9227 That's just sad. Knowing you need help but choosing to be bitter instead. What a sad and lonely existence.

[@peteranon8455]

Story 1. You can't take an ex back. As soon as they pick "not you," it's all over.

[@kimsvisualdiary]

Story one: she took a chance on the new guy and fell flat on her face. She’s upset because the one she wanted didn’t work out and her backup plan wouldn’t take her back.

[@Voodoomaria]

Story #1: "I love you but I'm not IN LOVE WITH you" is one of the oldest relationship codes for "I'm seeing someone else", The other is "I need some space / We should take a break". OP's GF used BOTH. His instincts are correct, her new relationship fizzled, and she's trying to use OP as a fall-back plan. He should tell her no, it's over and SHE ended it. That's not a bell you can un-ring.

[@Barlmoro]

she nuked the valley between them and should left him allone.

[@Kennabon]

That guy doesn’t miss Lilly, he only misses who he thought she was.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2: never marry a mama"s boy. He didn't just suddenly start with this ridiculous behavior.

[@jleftwing9771]

OP put Lily on a pedestal, and Lily looked down on him.

[@krystalvixen3334]

need an update on story 3 with op losing his daughter because hes a control freak

[@zachf748]

Story #1 - He can’t be that stupid… There’s only one option… Tell her it’s over, then move on and ghost her. You don’t do what she did to OP of you actually love and respect them. She very obviously cheated on him, then left him for the guy. It didn’t work, now she’s back. Do not get back with her right as your getting over it and moving on. Nothing good will come from getting back with her. Nothing. You deserve do much better.

[@MetisRose95]

Hope the wedding was worth it cause that family will be lucky if Vienna ever talks to any of them again.

[@mztweety1374]

To quote the ever so precious Charlie Wilson, "you can't keep running in and out of my life"

[@immortalsofar5314]

#1 I completely understand. When you live, work and sleep with someone for 16 years and then find out you never really knew them, how else are you going to feel? If you can be so wrong about someone then there's no way of knowing anything about anyone.

[@laiten35]

Story 1- Nope, run! Can you just imagine her leaving you and any future kids? Yeah because that’s what will happen, she all over the place!

[@krystinreives7776]

Story 1: I’m happy that op despite missing her had the strength to reject her when she came back. Because to be hurt so much by someone’s cheating you break it off for a while you still miss that person but then that person pops up seeing you as a second choice again she went after the guy she cheated on OP with at first then when he rejected her she ran after OP. I understand that Op misses her but at the same time even after they weren’t together she still went after the guy she cheated on him with and only decide to go after him once the dude rejected her and going into a state of depression because both people rejected her.

[@Barlmoro]

i feel sad for the op and think he need help from a good therapist, i recomand a male one, cose he understand better how op feels and is less likly to shift the blame on OP. She on the other hand, i have no pitty at all. She had a stable relationship and toss it away cose she thought she could do better but it not works out. She made a risky decission and it fails, she will need therapy too, cose she had in her mind how she should be treatet (from the experience with OP) and the fear to be rejectet. I would recomand a male thereapist for her too, so she can fokus on understanding that her fault was and becomming a better person for the next partner.

[@krystinreives7776]

@@Barlmoro I think you might be right

[@Barlmoro]

@@krystinreives7776 i have a friend ( not a close one) who had a similar story and he was to a therapist ( a woman) cose he needet help like the op. His therapist was not a good one and he endet as a big simp cose She shiftet all the blame from his ex to him, cose he is a man and so he must be done all wrong and she only wanntet something better, what she truly deserve. we try since jeahrs to get this simp mindeset out of him and a male therapist try to undo the damage the other has done. i personal had one femal therapist becourse of a beginning depression myself and she was good, but she was an older woman near her retirement. but before i found her i visitet a few others for only the first meating to find out if the fit and all female therapist below the age of approx 35 had a very very strange mindeset and blamed toxic masculinity for all problems of the world, but as i ask to define what this is, the could not do it. SO i say: if you need therapy, be aware that you need to find the good ones and it can take time, cose most times the good ones have long waiting list, cose the are good. the best tip i got was: if a therapist is easy to get to, most times it has a reason why he has the time.

[@BA-qn7xj]

She never cheated. She broke up with OP before ever pursuing anything with another person. That’s by definition NOT cheating. I do think OP shouldn’t get back with her, they were together since they were kids and he should explore who he is as a person separate from her. Besides an ex is not someone you get back together with, it’s someone you learn from and move on

[@laurenmentink7401]

Last story = One commenter said that he has seen people go no contact for less. I am one person who has gone no contact with my brothers for less than that. I would not only go no contact, but I would also tell everyone that OP was dead.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: we have to start teaching people that their school relationships won't last. Friendships, dating, whatever. You WILL grow apart and become different people. You can still be friends even keep contact but things will not be the same between childhood and adulthood. Trying to keep a relationship that started in EIGHTH GRADE together is bonkers. This was practically inevitable. And I say this as a person whose oldest friendship is 30 long. We aren't each others best friend any more and that's OK. People grow up and grow apart with experience. It's even worse in dating because from that age because you don't get to explore and experience life and you start to feel like you are missing something whether you are or not. You need experiences to learn and staying in one relationship from your teen years to your whole life is the antithesis to that.

[@MrDCMiami]

I believe that as well. We all grow more branches to the tree as we come of age and in time, the two trees will likely grow out of synch.

[@jacobrawlins1069]

If they say that she loves you but not in love with you… that’s enough to tell you she doesn’t love you at all.

[@deadhead8323]

Hope there's an update for story 3. Would love to hear that his daughter is going NC with everyone. And hear how he tries to downplay his control and manipulative behavior.

[@emilyworrad5568]

Story 1: It's a situation that sucks and I hope that five years later since the last update, that life is so much better. Yeah, they were right to set the boundaries that they did and to distance themselves and hopefully move forward.

[@neonlights3739]

Nothin like listening to Mark Narrations while I bake some cookies!

[@owl7072]

What kind of cookies 👁👁

[@MidnightCore7]

I listen to him while playing video games lol

[@iasomnium919]

@@MidnightCore7 Same, but usually at some point I get distracted from whatever I'm doing 😅

[@femboy__bunny]

Can I have a cookie 🍪 please

[@neonlights3739]

@@femboy__bunny of course! Here! 🍪

[@briansmaller7443]

Story 1 - both these two deserve each other.

[@InvasionAnimation]

How many times must this be said?! Back ups ae for computers not people!

[@nads3024]

He’s had Lily on a pedestal and not even cheating can shake her off it in his mind. Yeah, what he had with her might have been good at one point. But she decided to chase someone else and when that didn’t work out, run back to OP. She thinks of their relationship as a comfort blanket. I think she’s one of those people who physically cannot be single. She always assumed OP would be there and is now in shock because she’s realised he won’t be a permanent second choice. She’s not a good person. If she felt she’d settled down into a long term relationship too early, she could have explained it to OP and ended it. Instead, she lied, slept with someone else and then came back. She doesn’t love OP. She fell out of love with him but stayed because it was convenient.

[@astronautviolet153]

Story 1 I would not take her back you've been in love with someone for 8 years.Just bounce that's not healthy It's not fair to you.

[@SakuraMoonflower]

Story one; that boy needs therapy. He's so toxically obsessed with the notion that there can be no other person who gets to know him as he is today as well as his ex did who knew him IN CHILDHOOD. Granted, feeling understood at ages thirteen through 21 are meaningful when you're young, but once you're in your thirties like I am, you realize this was just a childhood friend, and they often grow apart as they become entirely different people- and there isn't anything wrong with that. It's clear the girl felt she was missing out on some new experiences and freaked out when it wasn't like how she idealized it in her head, but it was still unbelievably cold of her to break up via text message when she's known OP for over seven freaking years and is on speaking terms with his family. If anything, she proved she wasn't ready for a serious relationship with ANYBODY and that she was ESPECIALLY unworthy of OP. OP has every right to move on... But he refuses. That's why he needs therapy to help him work through his issues and the logical fallacies he's mentally constructed, along with his unfair demonization of humanity in general because ONE ex colossally f*cked up with him when she was just a child herself. Still, it doesn't entitle her to OP that she realized she messed up and she apologized. She clearly hasn't grown that much since then. Story 2: OP is NTA, but she needs to get an annulment or something, because it's pretty clear her husband would rather be sleeping with his own mom instead, if only that wasn't a social taboo. -_-; Sick, abusive bastard. Story 3: OP is the a-hole. The daughter is 27- an adult!- with enough empathy that she canceled her previously agreed upon plans in favor of an EMERGENCY situation. In life, there are priorities. Last minute emergencies TRUMP WELL MADE PLANS, EVERY TIME. :) It was not OPs call to cancel his ADULT DAUGHTERS FLIGHT just because her bridezilla cousin threw a massive public meltdown over OPs daughter canceling WEEKS in advance to take care of her emergency situation. Did Bridezilla's mother publicly apologize to OPs daughter after publicly berating her for wanting to cancel on the wedding until she was LITERALLY KIDNAPPED and FORCED to attend as a HOSTAGE?! No wonder the daughter wants nothing to do with the rest of the family. OP is just as bad as they are: OP is hardcore the a-hole. YTA all day, every day. It couldn't be clearer!

[@Remi1532]

Coworker: You need to quit listening to reddit stories. Me: It's Mark Narrations Coworker: Nevermind. Turn it up!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@carolroberts4614]

Hi Broken! Hope you're well yourself! I am doing better since our weather cooled! down

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@carolroberts4614 glad it's cooled down m8 and that you are doing better, 🤗🤗💜💜

[@Herik_]

Story 3: OP can forgot about having a daughter, any dreams of walking her down the aisle or even meeting his grandchildren, the fact that she is not answering her phone makes me believe she already blocked them and cut them off, I wouldn’t be surprised if OP returns home only to find out that his daughter has already moved out/taken everything she own/need

[@___LC___]

Story 3: the daughter is 27! That “some guy” may be the man she marries! At that age, relationships are serious. There may already be plans to announce a proposal that we’re waiting to be made after her cousin’s wedding. OP and his family will not be getting invitations to her wedding or anything else in her life.

[@___LC___]

Also, if Matthew is still in the hospital after the wedding…that was really serious and she was not “unnecessarily worrying”.

[@marklaechel4537]

"I fall apart crying and she changes her mind" Right there it's over. That's not a man's frame.

[@--AreYouMemeing_]

Hope you enjoy your time with your family mark have a well deserved break 🥰

[@odysseus2656]

Story 1: Work on your self-respect. Nobody should be mourning a relationship 6 months after it is over the way he is.

[@jennbrewster3912]

Omg how can OP in the first story say she's so wonderful when she basically ripped his heart out to get with another guy & then when that didn't work out tried to run back to him! WTF I don't get how stupid some people can be