I REFUSED To Financially Support Sister After She Insulted Me And My Kids AITA

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1: if OP’s sister cannot support herself financially, then she cannot afford to insult her financial supporter online where anyone can see it.

[@dalokohs3901]

It's the pinnacle of "don't bite the hand that feeds you"

[@cgi2002]

People also saying "one mistake" are idiots. People have lost out for one mistake throughout all of history, saying the wrong thing to the wrong person has literally started wars historically. You don't often get a 2nd chance, especially these days. Never post anything on social media you'd not want an employer to see, because they will and none of it ever goes away (you don't own your social media, seriously, read the terms and conditions you agreed to).

[@adog6495]

Those "friends" should support the sister

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@adog6495 I absolutely hate when people say “you support them and it’s rude if you don’t”. Uh, what about you?

[@Skyfire_The_Goth]

@@cgi2002 Here is a perfect example of what you're saying. "Will no one rid me of this turbulent priest?" said by Henry II of England out of frustration, and the four knights that heard it took it as an order and killed the, then, Archbishop of Canterbury Thomas Becket.

[@ajunkersgamble6689]

First story: play stupid games get stupid prizes, don't bite the hand that feeds you. Op isn't the ahole

[@dakotagodinez5763]

The last comment on the first post kinda pissed me off. She didn't "vent to a friend". She posted the damn thing on social media, slamming the OP. Never bite the hand that feeds like so many people said

[@marist6734]

What baffles me is that Op's sister is shocked and that Op seeing something that she posted publicly was unexpected to her.

[@Jamlf]

What I don’t get is the last comment for this story missed this point. The sister posted this and other people can see this. Even if it’s a private page, all her sister friends could see this.

[@jakemarie828]

Plus student loans are a thing. Most med students expect to acrew debt and pay it off with residency money. If she really is studying medicine, she could also reduce her course load and get hospital experience. Most programs have externships also. Sister is being irresponsible as well as rude.

[@Yori6552]

@@Jamlf I'm guessing that person is a skim-reader and didn't actually go back and check the info. To be fair, it's hard for a lot of people to imagine someone would be that dumb as to publicly trash their meal ticket unless they've seen it happen themselves.

[@dc.pxrecious]

What also baffles me is the people who were saying OP was the AH and cutting off financial support and that it would ruin the sister's future. There are so many other options for the sister to financial support herself

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

​@@dc.pxrecious I agree with you. Not to mention, this is a classic case of Don't bite the hand that feeds you.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

1st story: Don't bite the hand that feeds you, and don't try and stab it when it's not looking either. Edit: the one commenter says give her a chance she could be under a lot of stress and just lashed out at anything, 1. It is called self-control, 2. The only apologies she'll be giving now is because she's been told she's not getting any more money and she wants it, not because she would actually mean she's sorry.

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 1: NTA. That, my friends, is why you don't bite the hand that feeds you.

[@AKilahVamp]

Well stated

[@notoriousd.i.g.87]

Story 2: How about you both try cosplaying? She gets to dress up as the superheroes/anime characters she likes, OP gets to do makeup and hair and stuff. Win-Win.

[@bluedragonfly8139]

Right? That was my first thought!

[@isabellamaher6682]

And op could dress up as a princess or queen or a cute cosplay

[@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681]

Sounds perverted and disgusting

[@AutumnPulse]

@@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681 you are a self hating Asian, your thoughts on this don't matter.

[@Yori6552]

@@Fiery_Latina_Goatchan_GF_681 Guessing you're either a troll, or misinformed. In the event of the latter, I'm guessing you think cosplay is all sexy, over the top, provocative, etc, and while there are some like that, (And there shouldn't be anything wrong with sexy costumes on adults if they want to wear them imo, but to each their own) there are TONS of cosplays that aren't. I haven't done it, but I've lots of friends who have, and for a lot of people it's like getting to be an actor/actress for a little while and feeling connected to their favorite characters, and getting to strike up convos with other people who will come up and talk to them about the same show. When you hear of the cosplay community, think less 'dirty nasty fantasies' and more 'couture fashion meets book/movie/pop-culture club' and you'll get a better idea of what it really is: a bunch of people in custom designs (Some of which you wouldn't even know were a character unless you were already a fan tbh) who often make friends over a mutual love of the same shows or books at the same time.

[@wintertimber1749]

The little "Cry Me a River" acapella thing surprised me and never knew how badly I wanted you to suddenly interrupt the stories for something like that until now

[@Mrsbraynen08]

😂😂😂

[@professorroundbottom438]

Last story: Getting the clothes into the basket doesn't require an extra step if you drop them into the basket instead of on the floor when you undress.

[@paytonhenrich7376]

story one: NTA. "spiteful mombie" no, you don't get to insult the person who's helping you and still expect them to help. if OP's sister has to drop out of medical school that's her own damn fault not OP's.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Why can't the little princess just take out loans like most other college students? Debt sucks, but that's what happens when you bite the hand that feeds you.

[@Ifrit86]

doesn't seem like the person who wrote that comment read the OP very well to begin with

[@debbietaylor2983]

I was curious about the boyfriend, why is he not supporting the sister in her studies? Is he one of those men who is intimidated by a smart woman? OP should sit down and talk with her sister and maybe ask for her to publicly apologize on the same platform she insulted OP. Then move on from there, talking things through would be far more constructive.

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@Ifrit86 Fr. Also they claimed sis was venting to a friend... no, she was venting online where anyone could see.

[@Ifrit86]

@@debbietaylor2983 "intimidated by a smart woman" lulz she's clearly not that smart. she possibly has expensive tastes that OP doesn't know about and that's why he doesn't want to financially support her entirely

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. My dad passed in 2015 due to lung cancer. It was a slow and agonising death, but he was also extremely independent and stubborn, so he would push himself a fair bit. I'm sending my love to you and your family.

[@0Jenna7]

Mark: 8 year age gap. Me: laughing. Eight years. They're practically the same age. Ah.

[@sM-ww9zb]

I feel like theres a bad narrative developing around calling just all kids "crotch goblins" even if they're just regular kids. You don't need to have kids if you don't want to, but it's no good for so many people to just resent children for being children. They won't be kids forever.

[@BexsBoxofConfusion]

yesss, it was funny the first two times I heard it (and I want kids) but everyone who says it now is just unoriginal and are too lazy to actually be funny --.-

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

I don’t want to have kids myself, (for no real reason, I just don’t plan to) but hating them is excessive. I can’t imagine actually not liking kids.

[@catandrobbyflores]

I only call the bad behaved ones that after a long day at work. I work retail.

[@lrock48]

I call them that when they are forcibly shoved into my care because of "family", while I can't discipline them because the parents said they are not my kids. Fuck em.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I honestly thought that was a term for shitty attitude filled kids being raised poorly, but all children?? Freaking ridiculous, not all kids are little shits, sure they all can be, but not entirely, some are very well behaved and raised

[@Npyne]

Hey Mark, I'm glad that you keep updating us on your dad but I just want to say that it's ok to ask for sympathy- even if you feel you don't need it. I've never been in your position so I can only imagine how difficult it is watching your dad decline, especially after you've already lost your mum. I don't know how old you are (I figure you're mid to late 20s at most but I'm not good with ages) butt it's not an easy situation to deal with at any age. I hope you are looking after yourself and that you have other support around you besides your siblings. I really like listening to your videos, especially while I'm cooking :)

[@MarkNarrations]

Thank you

[@bobbyjay205]

@@MarkNarrations Do you guys have medicial marijuana. it might help with the appetite and pain, and won't make Granpa Waffles as loopy as opiates. I go to a place in Fla. and most of the patients are over 50 crowd.

[@MarkNarrations]

@@bobbyjay205 It's extremely difficult to have prescribed legally over here. Even for terminally ill patients :/

[@bobbyjay205]

@@MarkNarrations sorry dude. i feel for you. my dad a few years ago. prostate cancer. he had an operation, but eventually it spread through the nodes. MUCH LOVE to you and yours.

[@MarkNarrations]

@@bobbyjay205 Sorry to hear that my friend. It's rough but we shall get through. Much love you also

[@et5895]

How is esh in the first story? What's "spiteful" about that? She actively talked shit abt her KIDS. She also wasn't "venting to friend" it was public! "She may never forgive you." Lol WHAT it's her own fault she would have to drop out... Haha forgive her for what exactly? Free money? This comment is so fucking delusional. Why do I feel like something similar happened to them...

[@wmdkitty]

How is it not an a-hole move to keep popping out kids in a pandemic? OP is a selfish breeder, and Sister was right to call her out.

[@FlowersforCapitu]

@@wmdkitty the pregnancy wasn't planned. And the sister can't expect OP to still help her after being rude

[@et5895]

@@wmdkitty I stopped reading after you wrote "breeder". You're just as childish as Op's sister so I not shocked you feel the way you do. Also she didn't "call her out" she's an internet warrior just like you. NOT SHOCKED. Again... Like where is the logic? "Let me get an abortion bc pandemic? Even though I'm capable"

[@et5895]

@@FlowersforCapitu lol what's the funniest to me is that she called them SPOILED goblins.... SPOILED she says 😂😂😂

[@itsjustmaddisen]

@@wmdkitty Found the sister 🤡

[@hollyberry0602]

These stories with parents complaining that they have nothing in common with their kids and insisting it isn't their fault always kinda bother me lol My mum and me don't share too many interests. When I was younger she always said she thought animal crossing was kind of boring, and I didn't mind since I could just play with my sister (We did still do things together, like weekly movie nights ect). But recently I've been struggling a lot mentally and have been very low and lonely, and my mum actually bought animal crossing so we'd have something to do together, and it made me feel so appreciated and loved. There will always be things that a parent can do with their kid, even if they haven't got much in common. What about watching a movie together? Going for a walk? Something simple like that? If your son or daughter really wants to bond with you, step out of your comfort zone a little and try, or find something simple that you can share. Because I'm sure it would mean the world to them :)

[@helema23]

the one with the dad was one where he tried but they put it all on him and wouldnt even try to find something they all can share and his wife was making him feel bad for wanting a night that he can have them do what he likes with him and a night they can do what they like.

[@Mimino55-y5k]

Mom did not complain, the daughter did and then sent flying monkeys to berate her mom. Reddit finished the job of guilt tripping that mother. Hopefully it will work out.

[@nachtara2345]

"I'm very sorry you feel that way" is the most politest F you I've ever heard... Also love this channel continue The great work!!

[@bobbyjay205]

or a polite, well you made your bed.....

[@Mewse1203]

Will you bite the hand that feeds? Will you chew until it bleeds? OP's sister sure did...

[@zerobolt9506]

Hey Dominic

[@Mewse1203]

@@zerobolt9506 damnit! Hey! I've been looking for you so so could say hi first lol. How's it going?

[@zerobolt9506]

@@BiologicalClock what song? There's a song about it!?

[@zerobolt9506]

@@Mewse1203 it good for the most part, I've been watching public freakouts on the channel with the same name and starting to lose faith in humanity other all the idiots that won't wear a mask for like 30 minutes at most just to shop.

[@heathermiller5765]

@@zerobolt9506 I'm wondering the same thing 😊

[@itrasheditgood]

Man, Op is a complete AH. She disregarded her daughter when she brushed her off with the excuse, “we have nothing in common” when daughter basically wanted her to participate in her life. Me and my dad are adults, but one time we took a trip together to Ottawa. He don’t care for art, but we took a tour because I wanted to see pictures done by Van Gogh. I myself don’t really care for war machines, but we took a tour of the war museum. Truth is we both found stuff to enjoy, so I don’t say this lightly, if you want a good relationship, try doing things together, even if you think it is silly or out of your comfort zone, you might just surprise yourself by finding something in common, but you won’t know until you try.

[@laurakirby578]

My mom and I have nothing in common either but we’re super close because we care about each other and listen when the other talks about what they’re interested in. It’s not that hard.

[@golden_leader9227]

Same and i totally agree with you. I share quite a lot of hobbies with my dad and none with my mom but we're super close because she always supported me (and i did the same too, like, talk of each other's passions and geniunely tried to be interested in them!) and we always talked about anything, so it's a relationship based on trust and good feelings in general. I really don't understand this second OP.

[@GrassJelly101]

Story 3: WTF is wrong with the sister asking such inappropriate questions, let alone at a party?! Sounds like some heavy projection onto OP. And age gaps aren't gross if the relationship is healthy, co-dependent, and consensual. Hell, my parents are 10 years apart and have been together for nearly 40 years! My bf and I have a 9-yr age gap, yet we have healthy communication and deep respect for each other.

[@ohnooffwego]

The whole "common interests" thing with adult children is ridiculous. I'm extremely close with my parents and have nearly zero common interests with my mother. Different tastes in media, art, sports etc. We don't even like the same weather. We do both like crossword puzzles, but have totally different methods for solving them. She was a great mom and was supportive of my interests when I was young, but I can't imagine getting pissy with her because she didn't want to watch a football game or a Mel Brooks movie with me now. We're adults. We have a few drinks and talk about our lives to stay close. It seems like some people will find any reason to seek out conflict with their family. "Mommy watch anime with me!!!!" Jesus Christ.

[@desmond_craddock_5226]

Totally agree. I always thought my parents were lame and didn’t want them to like the things I liked or it would mean I liked lame things. Why would a 19 year old expect their 40+ year old mother to like the same things as them anyway.

[@TheLodjur]

@@desmond_craddock_5226 It's the _mother_ that expect them to have the same interests, not the daughter. The only thing the daughter wanted was a mother-daughter-bond with her mom, the mother said it's not possible because they don't share any interests, like spa or make-up, harshly rejecting the daughter, making her feel it's her fault for not having "girly"- enough interests for them to have a close bond.

[@TheLodjur]

Jared Besemer It seem you think the daughter is a conflict seeker for wanting a daughter-mother bond with her mother. I agree, you do not have to share interests to have a close bond, why this mother is so out of line for telling her daughter they can not have such a bond (or it's very hard) because they don't share interests, like going to the spa. I find this mother to be very cold and hard to her daughter in a very vulnerable situation.

[@NeoLotex]

@@TheLodjur She didn't say that they can't have such a bond, she just stated that they don't have it at the moment as they don't share any common interests. The approach was probably not the best, but sometimes it just doesn't work out with every parent. Doesn't mean they can't sit down and talk about others things though.

[@bobbyjay205]

The daughter had a daddy/daughter relationship with Dad. They did the bonding stuff, and the Mom didn't complain. The Mom supported her relationship with her Dad, and now she's the bad guy? The daughter is an adult now, and wonders why she isn't closer?

[@ruddiko]

Do your best for him, for you and for him now and for his memory.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Dad update: Sending virtual hugs your way, been there, and all you can do is take it one day at a time.

[@paden1865able]

I finally got my husband to put dirty socks into the laundry basket by letting him run out of clean ones. He got the hint. Mark, do yourself a favor and record all of your dad's stories and memories that you can. It will have a lot of benefits, such as preserving family history and you'll always be able to hear his voice. I wish I had done it myself when my dad was going through stage four colon cancer. I've forgotten his laugh... 🥺

[@jenniferezzell7547]

Dad Update: My sympathies on all this with your dad. I understand completely how hard it is to watch your dad decline and how hard it is for him as well. My dad was disabled for 30 yrs and went from able to do everything to gradually being unable to do anything for himself. My mom and I were able to care for him until the end but only by running down our own health. It is a hard balance to find the right course. Cherish this time with him, even in the confusion.

[@TheTiggerpoo1]

God bless you and your dad Mark. May you have inner peace throughout this painful ordeal.

[@Mewse1203]

Stpry 3: i feel like sister is having issues and is crying for help but doing it in the worst way. The asking about the BDSM thing is weird out of nowwhere There could also be a jealousy/history factor since her and the boyfriend are similar ages.

[@t.matthies3049]

That could be. I mean, 23 and 31 isn't that big of a deal, IMO. If it were 18 and 26, I could understand the concern, but she's old enough that any maturity gap would be based on personality or perhaps life circumstances, not so much age. Whether it's jealousy or something else, it's not the age difference the sister is really worried about.

[@kristinecollier8113]

Of course we want to hear how your dad is doing! I feel like you are my friend, I listen to you every day, so you are a part of my life and I can't call you up to check on him! I am so sorry he and you and your family are going through this. My thoughts and love are with you all.

[@scousemouse9566]

Story,4, NTA, my 10 year old puts her washing in the basket, he is just lazy. Love sent to your dad, it must be hard for him right now, thank you mark for all your hard work and keeping us upto date on your dad

[@joefrieson5100]

I’m sorry that your dad is going through this my prayers are with you and your family.

[@BantheBans]

You don't have to ask it's gladly given. I went through a similar situation with my dad. Much love 💙 (thanks for keeping me company in my cubicle)

[@JayeEllis]

Story 4: NTA - Just as it's 'no big deal' for you to pick his clothes up off the floor, it's equally as easy to put them where they belong instead of dropping them. This is indeed a respect thing. Subtle power play at hand, so beware.

[@ineedhoez]

Subtle? 😂😂😂

[@ljh5141]

Lots of love to you, your brother and Dad. It is a hard road, with so many detours and construction along the way, and sadly, it is a road paved with rocky times, many tears, and heart-wrenching turns. We are all here for you, and some of us have traveled that same off-grid road. Reach out any time, and know that you and your brother are not alone.

[@phoenixsky6124]

She can publicly apologize if she wants to stay.

[@SheenaReine]

Sending love for your dad 💖 I went through a similar thing years ago with my grandma when she had cancer and went into hospice. It’s lovely you’re trying to keep him at home.

[@junovenusian8683]

Peace Mark, I just want to send you and your family light and love and comfort to you all. You’re such a bright spot in my day, I get moved to tears when I hear the sadness in your voice. Sending you and your papa lots of love.

[@Noilamall]

All those people who are calling the OP in story 1 an ahole should financially support the sister.

[@sarily626]

You're such a great son, and your dad is lucky to have you; and they did a great job raising you! I'm sorry for all the troubles y'all are through. I can't imagine how difficult it is for him, and for you and your brother to see him going through that. Keep spending as much time as you can with him! You're doing great 💜💙

[@Buff_Helpy]

Marks having a lot of damned fun with the editing lately and I fucking love it.

[@EditorStevo]

Glad you like it 😊

[@taniaodige3369]

@@EditorStevo great job Stevo (:

[@locusxe1411]

That ESH comment for the first story is so stupid. How is Op being spiteful? By rightfully being angry her sister is being an ass to her kids

[@Digitalfairy]

He was probably an ageist or a friend of the sister.

[@bioshockbrat9171]

Story 3: sister was being an ass, and a hypocrite. "I'm being protective." - 'you're being an ass.'

[@christianvacchelli1953]

story 1 : 200% agree with "don't bite the hand that feeds you"

[@Mewse1203]

Stpry 2: I didn't put much effort in to foster a relationship with my daughter. The one time I tried with real effort, I felt dumb because she knew more than me so gave up. I have 4 kids. I have a lot in common with my boys....my daughters not so much. But we have found things to bond over. You just have to work. As a parent you have to bite the bullet and learn to enjoy some real shit stuff to bond over. You put in the effort and they will see that even if you don't like it you care enough to try.

[@Rehvengethedragon]

Op is so lazy, she's trying to make it sound like they have to have some massive complicated activity they do together. My mom and I are completely different people but we used to walk together and just talk about what whatever was going on in our life. It's not that hard for a parent to start a new hobby with a kid or you know every other weekend is your turn to pick what you guys do for an hour or so. Relationships take compromise

[@Mewse1203]

@@Rehvengethedragon exactly. She put almost no effort in and the one time she did kind of try, she was like "my daughter can't know she has more knowledge than me."

[@Rehvengethedragon]

@@Mewse1203 That's just so toxic. You can't be a casual fan then get mad that someone else who is a less casual might know more.

[@bobbyjay205]

i have a daughter that i tried to bond with by getting into her hobbies as a young child. As a teen she rather do things with her Dad. it's Ok i wasn't upset. Now that we are in lockdown together, my daughter wonders why we aren't close.

[@Mewse1203]

@@Rehvengethedragon I know right? I could feel the need for toxic superiority coming off that post. OP seems like she is one of those people who always tells their kids "I'm your parent, so I know more, period." When they actually know less in many instances. I do what I can to learn as much as possible about the thing's I'm interested in. I am pretty smart and know a lot of dumb shit as well. My kids eat me alive sometimes with the things they know about subjects I think I know well. 🤣

[@elbielove591]

Hey I have a parent with cancer and I find it comforting that I am not alone in the struggle. Don’t be sorry for sharing. Thank you for sharing. Hope for the best for your dad and yourself.

[@lucaswinsor4469]

Story 1: NTA. "Don't bite the hand that feeds you" "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes" there are any number of phrases and sayings that apply here. She not only tried to aggressively dictate OP's decisions, she implied OP was a bad parent. You don't get to do that and still expect people to keep paying for you. Story 2... Gentle, but probably firm YTA. I'm not going to say OP has to like the same things her daughter likes, or that OP is a bad parent. I'm not even going to say OP was wrong to give that answer. However, she definitely could have been more empathetic about it, especially if it seems like her daughter sees this as an issue. Addendum, Good that OP managed to reconcile a little, best wishes going forward. Story 3: Wow... Just... Wow. NTA. OP is gracious enough to host her sister's birthday in her own home, and sister acts like this. Especially considering she basically had the exact same relationship with a different guy. Story 4: NTA. It's one thing for OP's husband to be tired coming home from a full workday, I get it. But is it really so exhausting that he can't take three steps to put them in the basket his wife asked him to put them in? Is it a bit petty to refuse to do laundry that's been left on the floor, for the sole reason that it's been left on the floor? absolutely. Is it out of line? hell no.

[@mikilacunningham6259]

Agree w u on everyone except 2nd story YTA u shut her down because u didn't seem to care here or there it's not an equal footing u put up more effort because ur the mom & wish she don't right u off as her mom that never cared much to get to know her....

[@lucaswinsor4469]

@@mikilacunningham6259 Sorry, that was a bit tough to understand. are you disagreeing with me saying YTA, or are you saying it shouldn't be a gentle YTA?

[@Mimiroo]

For the mother daughter story it’s good that the mom is trying and I hope things go well for them. Growing up my parents had my brother and I outdoors as much as possible where my dad would teach us about plants and the local vegetation since he studied forestry. I’m artistic and in their words “a whimsical goof”, neither of them really understand my love of anime, ballet, tattoos and cute girly things. In saying that just because they didn’t understand doesn’t mean they didn’t try to support me and show interest in what I liked. My parents bought me anime posters, took me to my first anime convention, came to every ballet recital and competition, showed me love and so so so much encouragement. In return I was more receptive to try their hobbies and we enjoy spending time together!

[@tessastory4976]

Mom and daughter story: Parent trying to get involved with an adult abided teenager kid is tough but at the kid's age, it should be a 2 way street. Both should be putting in effort to trying to finding common ground to keep relationship close

[@celticraven8523]

Damn was rewatching an old video recently, the quality improvement is so amazing.

[@lalvarez5151]

Story 1-NTA. And whoever says ESH probably is a mooch. So sister is supported by her sister, then she goes online and blasts the sister for bring selfish? What an entitled brat

[@tinethebean]

Dad update: I know this is an old video, but I appreciate hearing your story as I’m in a sort of similar situation with my mom - it’s different, but familiar, and it’s comforting in a way to hear from someone else going through something similar. Thank you for sharing, and regardless of how long it’s been, love and hugs to you and yours with all the prayers and good vibes, because it never stops hurting when you lose someone❤️

[@agroteraaaa]

these stories about parents not sharing interests with their kids just makes me appreciate my parents even more. i know my mom doesn't know anything about genshin impact, but it's nice that she'll let me show her my newest character. my dad and i watch sitcoms together, but once in a while we sit down and i show him whatever 12 episode anime i want.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Story 1: Dear Lord! OP's sister wanted to be in the medical field and she pulls that? Um... what. NTA! ETA: With the comment with the ESH - Uuummm, not all pregnancies are planned and people aren't going to stop having them because of a pandemic, that's the reality.

[@joimumu]

On the bright side OP now have a lot more money to spend on her children and we know it a lot because OP sister boyfriend threatened to leave her if she didn’t work the different

[@l1s4sp1ts3]

yeah! Plus calling her a "spiteful mombie" like?? No?? There is no reason to call OP a mombie, she hasn't done anything to deserve being called something like that.

[@rebekahsegun8319]

@@l1s4sp1ts3 I can almost guarantee that user is childfree and doesn't like children either, so they sympathise with the sister more than the OP who children were insulted by their own aunt.

[@novabrilliant4510]

Thanks for the update about your Dad. I love hearing you talk about anything going in your life. Have a peaceful evening, Mark.

[@ginnystark7227]

I'm so sorry about your dad, Mark. As a retired RN I've seen how hard situations like this are on both the patient and family. I'm in the US where Hospice is so helpful. Do you have it in the UK?

[@Jiminphoria]

yes we have hospices x

[@Hiimreggie]

Story 2:nah I can't call the op an asshole cause she tried a lot of things to try to get closer with her daughter but it just doesn't work. I get why her daughter is crying cause she doesn't feel close to her mom

[@escapec1077]

When I was married I already had to do the laundry separately (he manual labor me office work). I told him I was tired of smelling arm pits on his shirts to find out if they were dirty. Put them in the hamper!

[@SilverMaychan]

If my husband left washing on the floor, it would go flying out the window.

[@Roedygr]

Sister has never heard of the proverb "Don't bite the hand that feeds you".

[@standinthegsp6858]

If she starts in again, ask her if she’s projecting.... or jealous.

[@rebekahjonesy4102]

Anyone else going to cry their eyes out when something seriously bad happens to Mark's dad?

[@champslim]

The ESH on the first story is complete BS

[@Hiimreggie]

I was looking for this

[@missluciddreams3472]

I agree

[@jennywhite2462]

Story 1 if my sibling that I was supporting financially called my kids my crotch goblins I would most definitely tell them tough luck about your degree. And never speak to them again. You don't insult the person paying your way and you shouldn't insult children period. Heck even if I wasn't paying their way insulting my kids would be getting them a one way ticket to no contact island.

[@MARSHAO1946]

Gods blessings in your Father. Take care of yourself in this situation also.

[@bkr323]

comment at 21:19 - When my new neighbors moved in, I baked them cookies, and also brought over a bottle of wine. He looked at it, took the cookies, and handed back the wine to me without a comment. Fair enough. I can understand that. What I can't understand is that a week later, the cookie container (which was one of those disposable ones) was left sitting in front of my front door, with crumbs still in it. Yeah.....didn't really establish much of a relationship with those neighbors after that. sigh.

[@sandydunn5325]

Mark, sorry about your dad. I understand as I was primary caregiver for both my parents while working fulltime and going to school fulltime. We do what we can. Hang in there, take time for yourself, and most importantly do forget to care for yourself. Hugs.

[@Ashenicky2009]

My husband is 22 years older than I am. It is no one's business, I am happy and so is he. If he was toxic or was trying to parent me then we wouldn't have been married, the only thing I worry about is if he's going to die on me when I'm still young.

[@jakemarie828]

Mark, your SpongeBob story was so cute! I really appreciate how you pepper in your sentimentality in these posts. Lots of guys would be afraid to share that something made them tear up etc., and it's really heartwarming to hear you share those feelings without shame. You give me hope for humanity. Have a good one ❤️

[@15oClock]

1. Even if OP's kids are ill-behaved, her sister took her money and spoke ill of her behind her back. That's not easily tolerated. 2. Couldn't OP and her daughter try to find something they’re both interested in? At least they're trying now. Side note: You have to be Squidward because you're the tall one. 3. Age differences can be weird, but if it's healthy otherwise, I don't care. The sister's probably projecting her issues. 4. Both have equal opportunity to pick it up, but it's his clothes, not OP's. It's not hard to get this right!

[@επιθετικόακτινιδιο]

St1: Tell the mutual friends to support your sister if they want it so badly. It was very kind of you to have supported her so far, although this is not your job and you have a family of your own. She should have been grateful not intrusive, insulting and dismissive of your choices. She has no right to have any opinion about someone else's choices.

[@huinismith]

Story 1: I had never seen "crotch goblin" outside of the subreddit that lampoons AITA. I don't know what to think. Story 2: I'm not touching that with a 10-foot pole. Story 3: I can't imagine what BIL was thinking. I mean... Dude, she was offending her own husband as well. Story 4: Leaving stuff on the floor for someone else to pick up (be it parent, spouse, maid, etc) is disrespectful AF. Big yikes. If it's not in the basket, it's not dirty laundry. Period. Dad update: You have him surrounded by love. All I can say is that I send you guys lots of love.

[@brandonnagyiski9137]

Story 2: mark you have disappointed me op stated in the beginning of the story she has been trying to find some common interests between the two of them. Granted, she never said how long she's been at it, she has been making the attempt. NTA

[@CK2000-Alt-Account]

4:09 the editor made me laugh by adding this XD. about that 1st story: NTA. basically common sense: play stupid games, win stupid prizes (props to Ajunkersgamble for being 4 parallel universes ahead of me with that sentence)

[@Mewse1203]

I am so sorry you and your family going through all that. We will send you good vibes from the mountains of Colorado. Please take care of yourself in this stressful time and know there are people that care.

[@MikkosFree]

I love how someone still made giving free financial support something the receiver becomes entitled to after it becomes a regular thing. How is it again the obligation of OP and bf to support the sister?

[@janbell609]

Sorry about your Dad. My Mom died from lung cancer 25 years ago. It's a very painful for them and for you to watch. The one thing I remember when her time was near is that she started to have this sickly sweet smell. She died within days. It was the same smell her sister had 5 years prior when she too died from lung cancer. I hate cigarettes!!!!

[@gretchenmyers1279]

thanks for the dad update, i'm really sorry he's doing poorly, Mark. Hugs to you both...

[@66doggma]

Sending prayers to your father and your family.

[@81babyruthluv]

i wouldn't feel too bad about cutting her off. Think about what would happened in the real world if she insulted her employer online - they would fire her.

[@TheZombifiedFairy]

Story 2: NTA. It shouldn't be just on mom to fostet a bond between a now adult child. Its insane that people are saying "but you're the parent!"... this is a grown woman now! This is how you create overgrown children. My mom and I weren't close at all, but with effort on BOTH sides, we are now super close. If it was a one sided effort, it wouldn't work

[@krazycats564]

I don't think I have much in common with my mother, but she listens to my interests and I listen to hers, we go on walks together and we cook together. Things like that everyone has to do. I'm an adult so I take a bit more of an interest in her hobbies now too. It's ridiculous to say you have nothing in common. Find something to talk about or just let her talk, let her explain comics or anime to you and pretend to be interested. You'll survive. I'm so glad about the update! So sweet!

[@queenashantee8432]

HAS THE RING OF JEALOUSY... PROJECTING AND A LOT OF TRANSFERENCE GOING ON TO HER SIS AND THE BF.

[@lee02jepson]

All the best with your father, sounds like the family is coming together and helping. Hes lucky to have a son like you + your brother.

[@debbiebriscoe293]

In the last few weeks of my Grandmother’s life she was in hospital & she kept telling us that her sister Lil & brother Reg were there & we just missed them. He brother was missing in action ww2 & her sister had passed away about 5 years before my Grandmother. She was 85 yrs old when she passed & we were told by a priest that her brother & sister had come to take her home & I like to think that’s true. Also it doesn’t matter how prepared you think are in the end it’s still a shock. Sending prayers & hugs to you & your family ❤🙏🏻

[@志瑜杨]

Hey you’re back! I was a little worried when I didn’t see videos my yesterday evening or earlier this afternoon.

[@WatsonAndDaughter]

There WAS a video earlier...

[@BigL_TheKing]

You are an amazing son to be there for your father in these trying times. The world needs more people lile you in it.

[@redninjaibby]

If you don't mind my asking, do you plan on doing a face reveal? Wish you all the best with your Dad!

[@quaruke9489]

Yes yes... we wants the 🧇s....

[@heathermiller5765]

@@quaruke9489 lol another Mark 😊

[@quaruke9489]

@@heathermiller5765 it's like a sick dog barking... "Mark mark mark... maaarrrrkk mark mark"

[@missluciddreams3472]

I think he probably has a very handsome face ❤️

[@christinar6717]

If it turns out he's not animated irl, I will be upset. Lol

[@giselleyfish3612]

Sending love and healing light to your father and your family! Thank you for sharing this personal subject with us! As painful as it may be, you’re doing the best you could possibly do for your father. It’s very important to take care of yourself so that you can do so for him, and I think it’s brave of you to find support for yourself by sharing with us. Don’t be afraid to let yourself cry, though! What you’re going through is painful, and you can only benefit from letting yourself feel your feelings. 🖖🏼🙏🏻

[@happymama2793]

Refusing to do easy tasks to take care of yourself such as leaving your clothes on the floor is 'weaponized incompetence' That is where someone refuse to do or learn something knowing the others around them will be forced to pick up the slack

[@DarkAngel65989]

Story 1:OP is not the ah, the sister shouldn't have made fun of OP since OP is the one taking care of her. The sister shouldn't be surprised by OP's decision if you're still going to suspect someone to take care of you after you make made fun of them, then you're crazy. Don't bite off the hand that feeds you. Story 2:OP is the ah, the daughter wants to have that bond with OP, and when she expresses this want OP shot it down like she didn't care or want a closer bond with the daughter since she "try" to create a bond. OP could of talk with the daughter and ask her what did she think they can do together. Story 3:OP is not ah, first of all, it's OP place, and second- the sister was just being a hypocrite and mostly projecting all the hate and disgust she got from her own marriage onto OP. The sister should be the one to apologize and since this was her fault. Story 4:OP is not the ah, he just being lazy and entitled being disrespectful toward OP, OP is not a maid. If he continues to do this, OP should stop doing his laundry to see how he likes it.

[@tinak2576]

Story 1; what the hell was that last commenter smoking? ESH?? The sister wasn’t venting to a friend, she went online and made a public post criticizing and insulting the person who was supporting her. Also she was right about babies during covid? It wasn’t planned. What was she supposed to do that would make that commenter happy? She’s likely sorry? Yeah, sorry she lost her free ride because she can’t keep her mouth shut and thinks every thought that flutters through her brain simply must be voiced. The sister f’d around and found out.

[@tinak2576]

Why didn’t take so long for me to find this point? I was gobsmacked to hear that opinion about babies during a pandemic. It’s none of the sisters business of the OP has a baby! She just found out a hard lesson about keeping her opinion to herself.

[@nyashahardley]

Story1: of course she is sorry she is losing her cash cow.

[@jlyo1991]

Story 1: what does a pandemic have to do with having a child. It doesn’t affect babies.

[@kidflash2fan]

For story 3 personally I don't think it's about something wrong in her sisters relationship. It could very much be that her sister looks down on OPs choices. And doesn't think that she can make good or responsible choices. Why else does she need to look after her at that age.

[@HeiwaTori]

story 3: its only 8 years, thats the difference between my parents & they've been married & in love (still hold hands when walking together) for 30 years, OPs friends & family need to grow tf up

[@hothotheat3000]

If your mutual friends are upset, tell them to support her financially.

[@vCoralSandsv]

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. From an outside pov, I know he doesn't want care help, but if he wants a better quality of life then care is part of that. It doesn't mean he's giving up. It's to help everyone. Frame it as how to give him the best life right now. It will allow you to still help too.

[@eydnamortensen5985]

Last story: NTA! This was my life for ten f-ing years! Not just dirty laundry on the floor, but also: dirty pots and pans after he cooked himself a meal after I cleaned the kitchen. Dirty dishes in the living room, wet towels on the floor and my absolute favorite; dirty dishes in the sink WITH food still on it, coved in nasty soupy greasy water with the kitchen rag floating in it and the drain clogged! Every freaking day for 10 YEARS!!! I finally broke and mustered up the courage to end it. I have now been free for a little over a month and it is GLORIOUS! My home is so clean I can barely recognize it and I feel so liberated and like I am bubbling over with joy. I love being a single mom so much that I am not sure I will ever want to be in a relationship ever again! My advice for anyone in a relationship like this is: RUN! And don’t look back!

[@JSainte17]

It sounds like the mom has really made an effort to do things with the daughter that she likes, but not vice-versa. Now that she’s an adult I would expect if she feels their relationship is lacking, and she knows mom tried many things growing up to try and bond, for her to maybe try one of mom’s things just once. Or sit down with her and sort out, like adults, what activities you could both enjoy, or something new neither has done for both to try together. Also, based on ex’s reply, I get the feeling that ex definitely, and daughter maybe, see the entirety of the effort being mom’s responsibility; “He takes her to fix furnaces and stuff, and suggested I do stuff like that.”. Bruh.

[@thePanda_huma]

She's 19, she could try to find something in common with her mother... she has tried and compromised but the daughter also needs to try. OP is NTA.

[@ebonyblu63]

Praying for your Dad and your family. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾