Refusing To Support In-Law's Until They Show Me Some Respect & Stop Making Fun Of Me AITA

[@MarkNarrations]

Yooooooo lovelies, hope you're all well!

[@EuphemineYuki]

Hope you're well too!

[@goreslashdow3813]

I hope you have a great day!

[@MrSarahlovsu]

Kia Ora Koutou from New Zealand!

[@Mewse1203]

You too good sir!

[@verdanalopez9084]

Good day vibes from the waffle gang

[@charondusk5608]

Story 1 - Time to throw away the in-laws. Story 2 - Time to throw away the boyfriend. Story 3 - Time to throw away the rule. Story 4 - .....Time to throw away humanity.

[@Sir_Gerald_Nosehairs.]

I'm surprised no-one mentioned that whenever the Polish girl tries to start a conversation with her boyfriend on the subject, he swears at her. Add that to the rest and you've got a man who think he's got a maid he can sleep with, rather than a partner he respects in any way.

[@justabunneh6490]

She is so disrespected and doesn't even see it. I had a toxic relationship too, but he never swore at me like that or expected me to clean/cook for him.

[@PriestApostate]

The guy wanted a "bang-maid!"

[@MartaTarasiuk]

I'm Polish myself and unfortunately so many women here think that it is OK to be treated like that.

[@lynnw7155]

She needs to make a chore list and split it 50/50. See how he likes that.

[@MistrzSzopen]

@@MartaTarasiuk Yeah, I've read OP's comments in this and She decided to speak seriously with him, but dosen't know how beacuse she dosen't want to cause him too much stress. I died a little inside.

[@j.graham8068]

"I'm sorry it offended you" is not an apology, it's blaming the victim for what has been done to them. The wife is the biggest asshole in the story for not having her husband's back. If she had stood up for him years ago the parents might have got the message.

[@brandi5126]

Yup. Maybe op should say, “I’m sorry you are in a situation you have to ask me for money.” And when they get mad he can say, “I’m sorry my joke offended you.” The absolute audacity of some just is astonishing.

[@nl3266]

Exactly. It takes away all accountability from the person apologizing and puts it all on the person being apologized to, and is thus not an actual apology.

[@TheNormExperience]

Absofuckinglutely agreed!!! A joke is FUNNY. This wasn’t. Also, why in the hell would a speech impediment be funny? Do these people walk up to blind people on the street and go, “Boo!”?

[@thomasjoseph5876]

In a normal situation, I agree. She needs to have her hubby's back but the fact he never stood up to them is what allowed their behavior to continue and his wife to think he didn't have a big issue with it. He needs to lay the law down on everyone and whoever doesn't agree, cut them out including the wife (divorce).

[@FEKana]

@@thomasjoseph5876 I mean it's basic kindness to know not to make fun of people with disabilities.

[@mbyerly9680]

"He sees me as a free maid and wage slave with benefits. Am I not doing enough?" Sigh.

[@dataweiss3756]

Story 4: Non-marital relationships can last and be very healthy. ONLY, if both people agree to it. If one partner resents they aren't married and the other doesn't even want to acknowledge any scrutiny there are major cracks in the foundation.

[@forzafan92]

story 4: YTA, your daughter asked a personal question sure, but she also asked because she was worried that you didnt love her or her mom, and thus the yelling at her probably only confirmed those feelings, you are going to have be extremely lucky to not have any issues with your daughter down the road because of this. and yes the daughter will remember this because it was a negative thing to happen and as many of us know, we almost always remember negative outcomes, it is rare to remember positive outcomes.

[@owl7072]

Story 3: Op: AITA for not letting my kids wear pajamas around the house Me, still wearing my pajamas at almost 2pm: 👁👄👁

[@annaorbanes5070]

Me too. Quarantine rules. Quarantine style.

[@IKKclauKR]

I was thinking that!! There are days were I wear the pajamas the full day...we're in the middle of a pandemic, like I've been in pajamas, sweatpants and tshirts for months

[@pshaw8406]

I've gotten to where I even wear them in public sometimes.

[@sierrastanley3109]

Me: I wear pajamas 24/7 seeing as I go nowhere

[@lindaouellette6656]

I changed this morning, to another pair of PJs but still.

[@Musiyca]

That last story is so ridiculous. Partners are not married, so if the mother is struggling with her health and job hunting, she should be getting allowence from OP as well. At least that's how it works when mother of your child that you're not married to is struggling. OP dismisses eveone else's concerns, because he's the only one content in the situation. It's profitable only for him. So yes, they may be living together and he is supporting the child, but nah, his partner should go for alimony of some sort. And to be surprised parents of other children from catholic school are gossiping about your home life - is OP living under a rock or something? He really seems to have the realities messed up in his head.

[@jeremyweekes2126]

I mean no offence here, but the mindset you have demonstrated in your comment where you're basically saying she should take him to the cleaners is precisely why more & more men are refusing to get married. The mindset you've demonstrated is a part of the problem rather than being a part of the solution.

[@ajarfullofjoy]

I'm with you. The partner is insecure and worried because of her medical problems. Op isn't committed, if he was, he wouldn't go on about meeting other interesting people. You can be committed without being married, but op isn't. Then op explodes at his child. Even if he thinks his partner put her up to it, that anger is misdirected at the very least. Op owes his daughter an apology and a serious convo with his partner where he takes her worries and fears into account. They don't have to get married, but giving her stability and the ability to trust the relationship is necessary for it to continue in a healthy way. Ops family is falling apart because he isn't acknowledging the fear he's created in his partner and now his child.

[@Musiyca]

@@jeremyweekes2126 It's not part of the problem. Problem is in OP's head/mindset. He is the one not articulating himself properly, and also not taking his partner's feelings into account. On top of it he is not fully committing. He is just comfortable and explodes at everyone asking simple question of him about their relation - that's not healthy and it's not good. It only shows that OP is somewhat aware that the arrangement is good only for him and no one else. It's been many years of this relationship and OP's partner is worried about her and her child future. If OP doesn't want to fully commit nor have adult conversation about it and prefers to yell then my comment is justified, since that would be consequenses of OP's actions. His partner needs at least finantial security, because she's not getting emottional one at the moment. The fear of commitment is on both sides, not just for men. It is bad fear and unprompted. Like many other axieties nor compulsive/neurotic psychosis ought to be threated, not swiped under the rug and blamed on partner when it is in OP's head. He needs to be honest with himself and his partner, if he wants to keep the doors open for better partner (cause that's what he literaly said) than he owes it to his partner to tell her, be open and only then she can made informed decision on this unstable relationship.

[@jeremyweekes2126]

@@Musiyca, I'm sorry but it's not really relevant whether OP's reasons for not wanting marriage are right or wrong. What is relevant is the way you're suggesting his partner should handle the situation. Your mentality is more or less saying "oh, if a man doesn't give you what you want, or what you think you deserve then take him to the cleaners". If that is your first reaction to being faced with disappointment then yes, it is absolutely a problem. & like I said, it's the problem that is causing more & more men across the world to say "nope, there is no way I'm going to sign up for that BS". If you want men to commit to marriage then women need to stop this BS of thinking they're entitled to a man's money. Even right from the first date women think they're entitled to a man's money by expecting him to pay for the date. & that is why men are turning their backs on this BS.

[@Musiyca]

@@jeremyweekes2126 I don't have the mindset I deserve anyones money. That is your approach clearly. And that is not what I'm suggesting with my comment. What I was saying that great relationship requires stability, trust and honesty. OP is not bringing it and also disregarding his partner's feelings and fear, on top of which he explodes on their daughter for asking a simple questiong of his reason. OP is guarding his reasons before his own family, so that does matter in this situation. The reason behind actions always matter! Taking him "to the cleaners" is the least partner can do to secure her child, before OP goes through the newly opened door of someone "better" appearing on his path. Simple as that. In this relationship the fear of commitment from OP is causing fundamental problems to his partner. She is in disadvantage here, so she has every right to take care of herself since OP doesn't care, because the situation is ideal for him. I'm sorry for your experiance with gold diggers, but that's not me nor is it what I'm suggesting for the partner to do. Love and commitment require work. Married or not, both sides need to listen and aknowledge each other's feelings. OP is disreguarding everyone else but himself, so it's about time his partner does something while still job hunting.

[@lightwork11]

Story 1: I'm more angry at OP's wife than at her ignorant parents. Way to have your spouse's back and show your loyalty to the father of your children and your husband. What is wrong with her?

[@HelenWA]

she views him as an atm and so do her parents...

[@catharineholton49]

I agree so much with this. I always had my husbands back, whatever the circumstance.

[@brianbarber5401]

What’s wrong with her? She hasn’t been told to eff off to her parents house until she can not be a B.

[@LSHEVV]

MARK you missed the most important PART about STORY 2. He's 31, she's 23 and they've being dating since HE WAS 25.

[@andreaprochowski4717]

At first I had thought he might just inherently be an asshole, but with this information it's clear that he only started dating her to take advantage of and control her. I can't think of any 25 year old that would be attracted to a 17 year old without being a predator.

[@catharineholton49]

I missed that too... ugh

[@frst78]

Pfft. 17 is an adult in most cultures around the world. Only in the states do we infantize teens.

[@serendipitysirens]

@@frst78 found the pedo! ~25 is when your mind is fully developed.

[@unicornjennie]

The guy is a huge ah but age has nothing to do with it. He maybe 31 but he acts like a 10 yr old wanting a mommy to take care of him.

[@cheskydivision]

At least crochet is productive. He works from home and only part time he should be doing more of the chores.

[@KyrieChii]

Or at least SOME of the chores... She can't even get him to clean the bathroom, which sounds like the only chore he's being relied upon to do. He could easily walk the dog, for example. He's dead weight for sure.

[@s.d.berard7518]

I’m crocheting as I listen to this! LOL He better get with it before she realizes how lazy he is!! 😹😺

[@justin09756]

As someone who gaming was/is their primary hobby (its competing with art heavily now that i manage adhd) this guy needs to take a look at what he does and realize he needs to do more

[@dannietea]

This is exactly what I was going to say.

[@ResidentMilf]

Anyone who thinks crochet is lazy has obviously never crocheted. Rugs for example: you need a lot of hand strength to keep the yarn tension high enough to make a rug that won't fall apart in a few months. I can only work on a rug for about two hours before my hands start to ache. Or large projects like blankets and furniture covers can take a very large amount of time and effort and because of this, these items can be sold for *bank.* Or items made with lace weight yarn, which take ridonkulous amounts of concentration, time, and hand strength. ETA: I'm also a dedicated gamer and he's being a massive hypocrite.

[@o0BlackSand0o]

Story 1: the wife is the biggest ahole. My husband has a stutter. It gets worse in certain circumstances and my mum started making jokes to me about it when she noticed. I shut that shit down instantly. He is the love of my life. His stutter is perfect and he doesn't like jokes about it. No one bullies or hurts my husband without dealing with me, even tho he can handle it himself.

[@catharineholton49]

Spot on wifey.!! That just how it should be. I was my husbands biggest defender. He was the live of my life and God help anyone who said anything to upset him.

[@gelasiakidd8076]

Story 2: Oh ow, now this is what gaslighting looks like, up and including the stonewalling at the end and refusing to communicate in good faith. He doesn't want a gf he wants a house slave that does what he wants. This is how my early relationship looked like with the dude that gave me C-PTSD.

[@sasakimirai4318]

The crochet one makes me so sad, especially seeing OP defend their boyfriend in the comments and say that they're happy in their relationship when there's obviously a huge power imbalance between the two of them. usually i try not to say that a couple should break up based on what we see in aita stories because a lot of the time we see only a small snapshot of their lives, but everything about the way their boyfriend treats them is indicative of the way he feels about them and the lack of respect he holds for them. op should just throw the whole man away tbh also, funny coincidence but since you like to know what we do while we listen to your videos, mark: i like to knit and crochet while i have your videos on in the background!

[@Davtwan]

sasakimirai - Gonna have to agree. Relationships aren’t to “fix” people. He changed the argument to make him look like the victim. Throw his ass out or make an escape plan. This guy is bad news.

[@catandrobbyflores]

I bet if she was making money off of her knitting he'd shut up.

[@amethystanne4586]

I agree with you in regard to the Crocheter’s BF. And I have been crocheting while listening to this (and other) videos.

[@msredux]

I'm sorry if their joke offended you, what a non apology

[@Davtwan]

msredux - Sad part is she probably doesn’t know better, because she probably learned this is how you apologize from her parents. Ignorance is no excuse though. She needs a lesson in wording and manners.

[@stephanien6237]

@@Davtwan she needs a lesson in human decency. She has three kids who are learning that it’s ok to ridicule people with disabilities. Yikes!

[@janicewilcox8590]

Your relationship with you significant other IS absolutely your kid's business. Whether it's their actual parent or a step parent. Because your relationships DIRECTLY IMPACT your children. Granted most of that goes out the window once your kids are adults but you should never be with someone who treats your kids badly.

[@toffiet3347]

Story 3: ok so I agree with the op to an extent. I have noticed i am more productive when I dont stay in pjs and most people are but its abit demanding

[@zerobolt9506]

Same

[@t.matthies3049]

I think the reasoning behind the rule makes sense, but I do think insisting they change before breakfast was a bit extreme, so I'm glad OP and his wife had the family meeting and were able to come up with some more reasonable guidelines (and get the daughter the help she needs).

[@toffiet3347]

@@t.matthies3049 agreed. I think I'd like to have this as a rule for any future potential kids I have but maybe only of a week day or only before a certain time like you can choose to have normal clothes on before this time but after it no (and I mean a reasonable time not you wake up at 9 and have to have going out clothes on and 9.05)

[@stephanien6237]

What if dad demanded that everyone on the family went for a run in the Al “because it’s healthy”? You might be more healthy if you did this-but would you like to have a choice in the matter?

[@silentlambs]

I feel so bad for the dad with the PJ rule and his daughter. I'm narcoleptic and it's a tough diagnosis to learn how to manage. They are so lucky to get a diagnosis so early though. It can take decades sometimes. I really hope everything works out for that family.

[@lynnw7155]

I don't see how wearing PJs will make someone lazier or more likely to doze off. I always get dressed when I get up, but my kids are likely to wear PJs whenever they are home. It doesn't bother me.

[@TheNormExperience]

@@lynnw7155 I have to agree. PJ’s make people comfier, not lazier. They don’t impact your personality and energy levels! It’s not a frikken Mario 🌟 ffs. I’m in too much pain most days to dress in anything but soft pj’s because why would I choose to wear something more uncomfortable when just being in my body is already uncomfortable 24/7? PJ’s don’t make me lazier - I’m already LAZY period lol. They just make me feel more comfy while I’m being lazy. Not the other way around. Pajamas as clothes are a reaction to help my problem, not creating it. But I’m glad the Dad could see past the non-problem to deal with the Actual problem. I can’t imagine how much your narcolepsy must affect your day to day life - I hope pajamas at least help you be comfier dealing with it sometimes!

[@zerobolt9506]

@@lynnw7155 I wear a tshirt and gym shorts to bed and when I get up in the morning if I don't change out of them I'll tend to go bad to sleep as wearing those clothes will make me more lazy then what I wear normal.

[@silentlambs]

@@lynnw7155 I honestly don't think it does help, but as someone with narcolepsy I may be a bit biased lol. I can understand the PJ rule when kids are younger to help establish routines and sleep schedules but as children get past early elementary school it seems like it'd be less and less useful.

[@cgi2002]

@@silentlambs it's a mindset thing. If from an early age you associate PJ's with sleep and only sleep, then it actually has a chance of forming long lasting psychological effects. But OP has broken that already anyway by having so many exceptions to the rule. A PJ night now also links them to family activities, exceptions for special occasions link them to those too, this breaks the link to only sleeping. Then there is another thing, they don't have fixed arguments of what PJ's are themselves. They specifically say PJ's are fine aslong as they aren't the ones you slept in. To make these bonds work, it needs to be "all or nothing", with fixed bedclothes for sleeping in, and only sleeping in. Then there are also people who just never form those kinds of bonds even with such rules in place.

[@GothBarbie3000]

Late to the party, but… Holy FUCK the story 3 update hit me hard. I have narcolepsy and I wasn’t diagnosed until well into my 30s. The fact that the parents listened to the daughter and took her to the doctor instead of just telling her to “try harder” almost made me cry. Weird circumstance to discover it but I’m just glad that they did.

[@goromajima7677]

Story 4: from a young age, the idea of marriage is drilled into kids heads, that to be completed in life, you need to get married. Especially in a religious school. YTA

[@somedude685]

Story 2: I hate calling people racist or sexist when there being a jerk, because we don’t know if they are or not. But op’s bf sounds very misogynistic

[@nature_fiend777]

fr

[@bobbyjay205]

or culturally indifferent to where he lives now. I got the feeling he wasn't from the UK originally.

[@Davtwan]

Some Dude - Or just a narcissist. The way he made the argument about himself instead is a textbook example of always-the-victim.

[@coreymartin6486]

Being controlling isn't exclusive to the male gender.

[@cheskydivision]

I kind of understand the the pj rule. I think it's more about changing out of what you slept in to start the day. I know if I want to get going in the morning I get dressed. If I stay in my sleep clothes I'm more lazy during the day.

[@kemonono]

my dad thinks this is dumb, because after eating/drinking we wash and brush our teeth ect. but these are children, they're going to get food and toothpste all over their clothing, getting into clean clothes before any of this has 0 logic in the first place unless you don't spill things on yourself often.

[@duchesseebene1273]

@@kemonono Unless you're talking about toddlers, people don't often soil their clothes while eating. Then everyone would need a change of clothes after every meal.

[@kemonono]

@@duchesseebene1273 I never said that? I was talking about kids spilling stuff on themselves while cleaning or eating i.e Food and Toothpaste, which is why it makes more sense to eat and freshen up while in pyjamas and then get dressed to prevent spillages on the clean clothes.

[@kemonono]

I just realised you meant something else I am tired forgive my dumbass-ery

[@judyjohnson9610]

Agreed. The father has sound reasoning. And it wasn't a rule cast in stone for absolutely every day. But given the "current situation," he can afford to allow a little more wiggle room. I find that I am more productive after getting properly dressed. But I also allow myself the occasion PJ day without guilt. Glad to see that they worked something out

[@Davtwan]

Mark saying *“BUT YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE TO”* hit the nail on the head.

[@justinjones-smith5168]

Story 1: NTA. A) They're dumb for insulting the person they need help from. B) You voiced your opinions in their "joke " and they continued. C) I hope the wife keeps the same energy if she's the one who's insulted.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

I hope OP #4's partner manages to get a well-paying job and finally leaves his entitled ass. He's about to lose his daughter so he may as well lose his unappreciated "partner".

[@babycakez8070]

I wouldn’t even say he that entitled, I would say she shot herself in the foot thinking he’ll change his mind. People do it all the time, thinking time would make them want to have children or be married. 9/10 it doesn’t and you should just leave.

[@indianspartan76]

Story 2: what a man child! Being a hypocrite is the least of his problems

[@stephanien6237]

Actually he’s an abuser. He started dating her when she was 17 and he was 25 and has her convinced that her doing nearly all of the chores, cooking and cleaning for him is ok and that this is a good relationship. Yikes!

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 2: OP is NTA and needs a new boyfriend. He's definitely a hypocrite. He sounds like a narcissist. Sad OP feels so "invested" in her relationship that she allows such a sociopath to keep her down. Odds are this isn't the ONLY pleasure she has that he begrudges her.

[@Love2Banime]

Story 2: if anyone ever told me to stop what I love to do, I'd leave their ass. The bf is 100% TA and a hypocrite expecting OP to be more of a maid than appreciating what OP does. Please please OP, just leave him!

[@AaaaNinja]

3:16 That suggestion was amazing. Donating the amount they asked for to a charity. Story 2 - OP posts an explanation for why she's still with him: that she's been with him a very long time. Sunk cost fallacy.

[@crimsonbehemoth]

its hard to take the pj story seriously on both sides. I will say though, the notion that making the kids change out of their pajamas will "ruin" their lives has got to be the most priviledged thing I'm gonna hear all day

[@TheNormExperience]

My biggest issue with this entire post is HOW it’s presented about what OP wants, what OP thinks is right, for no real actual reason, and even then they straight up contradict themselves; “We don’t control what she wears out of the house (no pajamas, obviously)”....so you DO in fact control what she wears out of the house. This honestly just sounds like control for control’s sake if even OP can’t give a real reason to rationalize it.

[@crimsonbehemoth]

@@TheNormExperience I mean, on one hand I get where the feeling is coming from, but on the other this is just letting principle vastly outweigh the gravity of the situation. The control over what is worn outside, while existent, is still minimal and going for that technicality is like the mindset of a lawyer trying to grab for anything within reach for the win regardless of the spirit of the situation. You might as well be mad the parents are making them do chores as well. Not the same thing but just as serious (that is to say, not very)

[@crimsonbehemoth]

@@aduckofsomesort I can understand the logic behind that. It's in the similar sense to doing the little tasks that would set the pace for starting your day which for most would start with making your bed. It's for making it less likely to build a habit of those moments where you put off something for like a month that only takes at most 5 minutes. Where I could fault the parent is if he were more open with them about the spirit of the rule then perhaps they could appreciate a little more the meaning behind even the little things. Really the situation (asides from the narcolepsy) just sounds pretty typical. I mean, how often will you have a household where the kids fully understand all the rules and not be annoyed with at least one of them? Not gonna be a perfect score that's for sure.

[@stan8479]

@@TheNormExperience ...I'm pretty sure that was meant to be in a "they can wear whatever style they want, even if we hate it" way. I'm sorry, but telling your kids not to go outside in their pyjamas (frankly quite reasonable, people fucking stink when they wake up and their PJs are soaked in sweat) is not "totalitarian" or "controlling".

[@Autumn8564]

I grew up with the pajama rule as well. It’s kind of like the make your bed rule. It gives you an intentional start of the day!

[@RedReaper666OG]

Story 1: NTA, jokes are funny. Torturing someone for something they have no control over is not!

[@floraposteschild4184]

"She was sorry IF it offended me." Way to put the blame on the victim, wife. Poor OP is surrounded with a-holes -- where does he live? Wherever it is, he should move, and take the kids with him out of that hellhole.

[@sarahjaneuldricks6729]

Nothing promotes happiness and harmony in a family unit quite like bending to OP's will and never questioning him about anything ever :)

[@christinasutton5805]

Story three; as an adult, I always start my day from changing out of my pjs tho since my pjs are just an oversized tee and my undies, changing into actual clothes even if they’re just sweats is wayyy better than going around in my pjs in the winter haha

[@ComaLies225]

Same. I have day pajamas and night pajamas lol

[@stephanien6237]

I usually eat breakfast and then shower/get dressed. I guess (per the dad in the story) that makes me lazy. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@MediaWebCrawler]

The whipped topping of that first one for me was when wife said, "I'm sorry you felt offended". Few things grind my gears like an "apology" that's actual translation is, "social norms say I need to apologize here, but I know I'm right about my stance. I'm only really sorry about how your feelings are an inconvenience to me". (In case it wasn't clear poor OP IS NTA)

[@littleylvis]

The best feeling of the day is to put a pyjamas on after coming home from work.

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 2: Doesn't do any housework, only works part time, doesn't like the food you cook, and spends all his time gaming and complaining about you. Sounds like a gem...

[@evelynberrios8164]

2. Wake up lady, you are a gem. Think hard and after making a a list of pros and cons, decide what would best for you. But if it was me........

[@pshaw8406]

This last guy sounds like he wants to keep his options open and got super defensive when he was called out.

[@sagesaria]

Re: the crocheting story: I'm surprised nobody else said this, but...making fun of your SO's hobbies is a BIG red flag. Negging the partner with casual insults and discouraging them from doing things that make them happy is one of the first steps in abuse; it wears them down gradually so that they don't think they're actually being abused because they believe what's being said about them, and/or makes them feel vulnerable and loveless so they get stuck in the relationship.

[@ScooterBond1970]

OK, only halfway thru but... Story 1: Even ignoring the morality of it, this is a perfect exemplar of the axiom "Don't bite the hand that feeds [or would feed] you." Story 2: "He's fuming and asking if I just want him to stop doing what makes him happy." Yeah, turn that question right back on his arse.

[@stephanien6237]

story 1 why has the OP allowed his in laws to belittle him for so long? SIX YEARS?! Not only that but he has stayed with his wife and made three kids with her apparently despite her shitty behavior and attitude. Really? This should never had been allowed to go on for this long! I’m glad he’s standing up for himself now but wtf what he waiting for? Sounds like he bottled up his feelings until he exploded. He deserved better growing up and he deserves better NOW. Imaging what lesson his kids are learning from their grandparents about making fun of people for their disability!

[@sadkingbilly]

“No pyjamas unless you’re sleeping” Sounds more to me daddy is having serious control issues. What a ridiculous rule.

[@Whatsername4224]

Story 2: She lost all my sympathy when she defended her relationship to this loser, even when it was pointed out to her that he was using her as a housemaid.

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

Story 2: sounds like a toxic relationship. She seems to do a lot of the work around the house, and his accusation is that she’s spending too much time crocheting when the chores are still getting done? And when she accuses him of the same thing, he claims she is “attacking him for his hobby” and questions why he should give it up. Sounds like he’s projecting hard and has very little self awareness. NTA.

[@karmageddon9047]

look at the ages

[@MrMrSockhead]

Day: 57 of telling Mark that he is wonderful and deserves the world

[@Akichan07]

Yas!

[@redshift1222]

I salute you

[@hvymax]

20 years with no commitment. Gotta love it. If he wanted a wife he'd find one.

[@coffeezombie6813]

He accuses her of just wanting to take away from him the thing he enjoys (his gaming), when she protests him trying to take away from her the thing she enjoys (her crocheting). 🤔🤔🤔

[@stephanien6237]

20:42. Man “doesn’t believe in marriage” and assumes that his wife put his daughter up to asking why he won’t marry her mother. He A) takes out his anger at mother on his 13 year old daughter, yelling at her and dismissing any of her concerns. B) refuses to consider anyone else’s point of view in “the family”. It’s not unreasonable for a 13 year old who is in an environment where most/all of her friends’ parents are married to wonder why her own parents are not. And instead of being gentle and exploring her questions and concerns and giving her reassurance, OP flies off the handle. Wow. Dad-fail! Hmm. I also wonder how much mom is worried about health insurance and who will care for her in the future.

[@lorifiedler13]

Many people on disability benefits will lose it if they marry.

[@GrayTimber]

That last one. Jesus I don't know how he can say he's committed to his partner with a straight face while also toying with the idea that someone else comes along. Either have an open relationship or commit 🙄

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 4: OP is TA for enjoying a "family" without committing to it.

[@olly2027]

I get it. But they need to change into regular cloths.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

@@olly2027 I think you commented on the wrong comment.

[@itsjustme7487]

@@olly2027 Story 3. I agree.

[@ronintje7647]

"this family situation is great" Yeah, for OP it is... What a true AH who doesn't give a f*ck about the people around him, what a selfish prick..

[@nilianstroy]

You mean without a marriage? Not every family has to be married, and not every married couple is a family...

[@jesterbrown90]

Story 1: NTA. You told them and they didn't listen, AND they aren't apologizing. Story 2: NTA. He wants you to give up your hobby to do more of the chores he ignores to play video games? Yeah, that's a hypocrite. This is probably going to end in a breakup either way, and you need to be ready for that. Story 3: YTA, but all's well that ends well. Story 4: YTA. if absolutely everybody hates what you're doing, you just might be in the wrong.

[@stephanien6237]

Story 2: she needs to INITIATE THE BREAKUP, not wait for it!

[@jesterbrown90]

@@stephanien6237 true, but even if she doesn't, he eventually will.

[@flowerjpotter1629]

Yeah those crochet teapot covers are criminal ! Only joking, it's an incredible craft that despite my auntie's Nana spending hours trying to teach me I remain hopeless.

[@alexmarian4642]

Story 3. NTA. What are the kids expecting to do, wear the same pair of pjs 24/7? That’s gross and unhygienic.

[@ravenwolfkittyface1802]

Story 4: this guy has a whole CHILD with this woman and is still trying to keep his options open? What a piece of work.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2: oh my god. The hypocrisy. The man who spends days playing video games and basically fights to do one single chore a week, tells OP to give up her “impractical hobby” and do more chores and make him more food while he doesn’t do chores and play video games while working from home. What the actual heck is wrong with this man.

[@fcold9402]

3. YTA. You want to play the field but don't want to admit it to your daughter. You are not committed to that gf or that daughter.

[@ChaoticNalilitoMC]

For the last story, OP is definitely the TA. Like, my aunt and uncle who I've known have been together since the 80s aren't married, and when I was around the same age as his daughter when I asked them why they weren't married. Guess what, they didn't blow up at me or anything. They simply said it wasn't the trend (or something along those lines I can't remember the exact words) and just never felt the need. That they were perfectly fine the way they were.

[@ilikecats9886]

God that second story was annoying. That boyfriend is deadweight. He does no chores, doesn’t cook, just sits there and plays video games all the time, and expects his girlfriend to be his maid. He doesn’t even work full time and he works from home too! He’s one of those guys that wants a “traditional woman” but doesn’t want to be a “traditional man” and be a provider. He wants to have it both ways and op can’t even talk to him without getting cussed out. He sounds abusive and op needs to take out the trash already.

[@fuilli]

story 2: stop doing chores, see how long that garbage bf lasts I'm betting only one week

[@candykelly7382]

OH My!!! 'We all know that crocheting is a gateway craft!" I'm dying here laughing

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

Crochet story: NTA boyfriend is extremely weird…… WTF is this problem with you having a hobby like crocheting? He told you that you should spend more time doing household chores instead of crocheting? Maybe he should spend less time playing video games and do some extra cleaning around the house. He does work from home after all it shouldn’t be hard for him to clean the bathroom and run the vacuum over the rugs. You should keep crocheting and make plush toys donating them to Children’s Hospital then it will be “impactful and useful“ by making a cuddly friend for a child that’s sick in the hospital.

[@softqueensaru]

Story 2 - LMAO can confirm crochet is a gateway craft lol!

[@nyx.8254]

Idk, I think the PJ rule is pretty decent. It's a good work mode/ chill mode switch

[@lapsedgoth]

Story 3: This family situation is great! You have no legal ties to me in the long term. I have the freedom to run off and abandon you whenever I find something more interesting. How dare you question this wonderful life we all share, as long as I'm still into it! Yeah, why wouldn't they feel secure with you one foot out the door and your "partner" having a hard time finding a way to support herself just in case you split...

[@kaimikalaniYT]

No pajamas in the house?? Damn, I would not survive in that house cause I love my pj’s. I will say this though. I zoom call in my pj’s, and don’t really care. No one does XD Besides, who wants to get up and dressed for the day if you are just staying home. Unless its an important business meeting or anything like that, I’m wearing my pj’s, thanks Edit: I still get dressed lmao, but typically when I go somewhere, etc.

[@DJCherryTempo]

Story 3- I had set a NTA before the Update. I'm retracting all judgement after seeing the update cause the situation doesnt seem to warrent any kind of ruling.

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 1: They're lucky he still lets them see his kid. He cut off his own parents for the very same thing. They shouldn't be too far behind, the wife should be on notice.

[@martha4276]

I feel for the girl with Narcolepsy. She probably felt horrible and ashamed of the fact she can't stay awake. I'm glad they solved the issue.

[@demonqueen3886]

Honestly when my friend was being disrespected by her in-laws they thought that she would give them money and let them live in their house after all the disrespect and slurs she's straight up told her husband if they live with them she's going to divorce him and he needs to grow a spine for not standing up for his wife just cuz they're parents don't mean they can get away with disrespecting her and ask for help with her money

[@RevWarRev]

BF is upset at crocheting!?! Wants OP to stop doing something she enjoys so she can do more chores around the house!?! Gee, lemme guess - so he can game more. Immature, selfish, lazy. How 'bout she crochets a BIG bag to stuff him and the gaming system in when she kicks him to the curb.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

Story 4: Dude's partner is good enough to reproduce with, but not good enough to marry? He's the asshole, and not just for yelling at his daughter. His attitude towards his partner and relationship is abysmal.

[@Cat2000]

These videos have pretty much become part of my winding down time after dealing with so many awful people at my workplace. I don't know what it is about your videos in particular, but they really help to calm and settle me after a tough day.

[@singer2be256]

My parents don't like me wearing pajamas throughout the day either, their main reasoning being that a fair amount are slightly see through. According to reddit my parents are AH's too

[@annyphoenix2099]

You always ask what we are doing, so... I started listening to you when dealing with morning sickness in the summer, and now I am listening to you when counting kicks, lol, I kinda think I'll be listening to you when my water breaks 😅😅😅 And while doing loads of knitting of course 😉 thanks for being the goofy positive voice of sanity, Mark, you're awesome!

[@Prettypoisonswitch]

Congratulations!

[@MarkNarrations]

Wow Anny, what an adventure we've been through! Huge congrats :)

[@annyphoenix2099]

@@MarkNarrations I'm so happy you replied, gotta stop grinning before my husband gets suspicious 😅 but now seriously thank you, I'm glad you saw this, your voice got me through a lot of stress and I love following you on your way up. Keep being awesome!

[@denisehoffmann5006]

My favorite hobby is crochet , being in my pj's makes me happy. Crocheting while I lounge in my pj's is bliss .

[@kenshinhimura2322]

People who won’t marry their partner just want an out.

[@rainbowunicorn709]

Story #1: OP's wife clearly doesn't care about him whatsoever. She probably just married him as the "nice guy" provider who would make good husband/father material.

[@ktfitz4604]

Story 4: if a relationship without marriage was their agreement from the beginning, okay, I can see his annoyance at being pressured into marrying now...I don't like his reasoning (wanting the choice to pursue different paths...you gave up that right when you had a baby) but if they agreed on it, then he has a right to stand firm. However, completely the asshole for yelling at a child asking a perfectly reasonable question. Also the asshole for thinking he has a happy family when his partner is clearly unhappy and afraid. Only happy one here is him.

[@DindellaTheDefender]

I kinda understand the pajama one, honestly. I think it promotes a good habit. As someone with depression, forcing myself to get into day clothes on days I don’t work is very hard, but it’s actually really important to have that structure/routine to start your day. Especially if you’re stressed. I understand why his kid(s) doesn’t understand or like the rule, but especially during a pandemic I think any amount of good habits and consistent routine is a good idea to encourage/enforce.

[@DindellaTheDefender]

;; That update hit me right in the feelings.

[@moonbear5929]

That first story pissed me off! It's bad enough the in-laws made fun of OP's speech impediment, and it's bad enough his wife didn't even stick up for him and told her parents to knock it off. But the worst part is if the in-laws keep doing this, OP's kids are going to think it's OK to rag on Dad for his speech and make fun of any one else that may have a handicap or something because they learned that adults do it, so it must be OK to do it! Kids learn by example, they see these things and know what's going on. It's time the in-laws learned a lesson. No money and no being around the kids if they cant be civil and polite in OP's house! Fuck them, they have a hell of a nerve asking for money from OP while making fun of OP. They have no respect for him. I've joined a number of crochet groups on facebook, and you would not believe how many times a member has complained or lamented that their significant other doesn't like them spending time crocheting, or spending money on yarn. I just think it's pretty damn sad when a partner doesn't support a hobby the other does. The partner sees it as a worthless thing to do and they dont like giving up any room to the storage of yarn. They dont see the value it has in calming the crocheter down, it gives them joy and sometimes solace and you get something out of it when they're done. How much of a soulless person do you have to be to crush some one's enjoyment? Crochet, knitting, sewing and such are not just hobbies, they're worth while skills.

[@theyellowshoe]

🤣 the crochet story, I'm crocheting as you are reading the reddit, 🤣🤣, gateway craft! OMG! Almost fell out my chair laughing!

[@shantellspeaker6293]

Same im making some baby hat and bootie for great nephew here in April.

[@janicewilcox8590]

Mark: why do I always get teary when these stories are wholesome and happily end? Me: because you're a lovely human, Mark.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

Story 3: OP NEEDS TO DUMP THIS ASS! Story 4.) Is this a strange organizational habit or coming from organizing people? What is this?

[@aethertoast4320]

The pajama rule makes perfect sense and the people saying that they are bad parents for not allowing it are part of the reason there are so many freaking Karens (male and female) around. It is that dang mindset that any level of rule is bad if you don't "feel like following it".

[@jesterbrown90]

Day 33 of waiting for Mark's energy to reach critical mass and he screams "WHAT'S UP WAFFLE GANG?!" at the top of his lungs.

[@travisricherson6406]

Holy moly this dude telling her she should be doing more chores like screw that

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#2 - hold up. OP works full time and does the majority of things around the house, and the BF only works part time and won't lift a finger to contribute? WTF does she need his lazy ass around for? Screw that. He can cook his own damn food and maybe she needs to hide the game console in the shower, so he'll only find it if he actually cleans the bathroom. OP is NTA but that BF needs to be shown the door!

[@americanhoney3098]

Oh boy. Those in laws are something else. NTA and don't give them a dime.

[@Mewse1203]

2nd story: so stupid. Dude is lazy as hell and thinks she should give up the one thing she does for fun? He said SHE'S attacking him? Nah bro. Her reasoning for staying with this lazy poop nozzle is the very definition of the "sunk cost fallacy." Bounce that dillweed.

[@olgalavado]

she must get rid of that useless idiot she has for boyfriend

[@thedestroyasystem]

r/rareinsults

[@KyrieChii]

It was sad to me, seeing how attached she seems to someone who obviously doesn't care about her at all... And mentioning that he was her first boyfriend since moving to a new country makes it even less likely that she'll want to end it, as it sounds like something of a 'security blanket'. Makes me wonder if OP doesn't have any family nearby she could depend on.

[@belledomnik]

Crotchet IS a gateway craft. My sister started there - baby blankets and hats and booties to hats and throws. Moved on to seeing - mostly bags and now knitting. I don’t see this stopping. Watch yourselves.

[@Mewse1203]

Harmless little joke? It's not harmless if it has HURT him. If it was "just a joke" they'd have stopped when OP asked. It's not a joke if it's at your expense.

[@jessicawolfe5861]

Story 4: yeah, he’s an idiot. But he is totally missing the point. Marriage is a contract that protects both parties. He can leave her at any time with no recourse. That puts her in a very vulnerable situation, as well as the kids.

[@VSE4me1]

Last story. OMG what an a-hole. His partner isn’t able to work, so she has NO ability to earn a living, and NO privileges to any savings, retirement, etc they’ve built together. He’s leaving her in an incredibly vulnerable financial position. Not to mention health insurance if he’s in the US. Marry the woman for heavens sakes.

[@cheskydivision]

I hate the turn "harmless joke" .

[@anndownsouth5070]

It's only a harmlessly joke if everybody end up laughing.

[@lorifiedler13]

If it was a harmless, OP might have laughed. When confronted by "it's a joke", demand to be told why the joke is funny.

[@2Cambell]

Crocheting- Go on with your skilled, bad- ass self. He works part-time, you work full-time. 50 ways to leave your lover 🎶

[@madgevanness4011]

Bullying in-laws: tell them that not only will they not get a loan, you will contribute x$ to speech therapy each time they tag on you. Or make them sign a loan document that raises the interest rate for every “joke” and keep a recorder going in their presence(warn them if it’s a 2 party state) so you have a record. Or the old swear jar they have to give you $10 or leave the house.

[@itjustmemanning8441]

When I lived and worked in Ithaca, NY, all sorts of people would be out doing stuff in their pj's. I'll never forget the lady in the grocery store wore pj's with cowboys 🤠. She had to be in her late 30's!! LMAO 🤣

[@beegee1960]

Or even putting on clean pyjamas was OK? Incredible.