Wife Demanded Money For Her To Agree To A Divorce, I Caught Her Cheating And Now She Gets Nothing

[@Kaytori]

My sister convinced my brother he was adopted. He ran to our Dad who said. "Yes, name, you’re adopted. We CHOSE you, we got stuck with her." My brother cheered right up.

[@jennilynne1977]

L MAO! That's great! Your sister's little "joke" to your brother backfired horribly. It sounds like you have a pretty cool dad. Peace, hugs and love to you.

[@LunaP1]

😆 Best Dad.

[@joycec8]

Burrrrned! XD

[@aaroneisenman6873]

As a dad I whole heartedly agree with this!

[@hismom5600]

Ah man, I love your Dad for that 😄

[@RosesCookiesAndMilk]

Story 3: Op is the female version of a nice guy. She’s expecting her generosity to be repaid in affection

[@AutumnPulse]

Yeah I don't get it. She says "backstabbing and rude", that would only mean something if she liked him romantically and was possessive of him. No way she isn't interested she said he was good looking, no one randomly says that about a "friend".

[@jackchop1576]

I've met a few of those. "Always the bridesmaid never the bride because I get passed up for gold diggers" etc.

[@champblaze]

so she is a nice girl.

[@AutumnPulse]

@Last Chance no it isn't.

[@katphish30]

Most Nice Guys are actual guys, but not all.

[@jessicawolfe5861]

Story 3: Huh? how is this rude or ungrateful? Betrayal of what? Thats very odd. What exactly does he owe OP for the "kindness"?

[@crem-crem4070]

Went to the og post and she just keeps saying “it’s rude”

[@whiteroseSango]

I think it's a betrayal of a friend code. Like the best friend could've said they liked the roommate or vice versa. Then they could've talked boundaries on what is ok and everyone could've stayed friends. I think that's the betrayal was talking about

[@xxratsrcutexx3494]

It’s like she’s controlling them or something?? Like who cares, they’re adults??

[@Leo9P]

If you expect to be owed something for an "act of kindness," then it wasn't an actual act of kindness.

[@NCAnon]

All I heard from OP's post was "How dare he not show attraction to me for just being a decent human being? He should know that I'm the only reason he's not out on the streets and should reciprocate by asking to date me!" How disgusting

[@owl7072]

Story 4: The bride herself: _deliberately excludes a literal child from the wedding while allowing others that are the same age to attend_ Most of the family, for some reason: Op why are you being such a petty asshole? Op, who just did what the bride asked and didn't bring their kid to the wedding: 👁👄👁 Man I didn't know it was an AH move to _checks notes_ follow rules and respect boundaries

[@thehaveninthehand]

Not to mention how it must feel for the kid to be excluded, then included again.

[@katphish30]

"If you let people see you did what I asked you to do, it will make me look bad!" *Well, well, well, if it isn't the consequences of your own actions*

[@yozarahirvi4750]

yeah, it's hard to udnerstand Brittany she ask for Lily to not be there for the ceremony and then during the ceremony, she says OP is a petty bitch because she didn't bring lily ? like wtf ? You expressedly requested Lily to not be there then you're angry because she's not there ? I can't understand how her brain works. I mean, I understand she wanted Lily out but didn't want to look bad for excluding Lily too evidently but how can she not understand how much absurd her request are ? I want her to not be there but I also want her to be there ! how can she say things like that with a straight face ?

[@robertx8020]

So DOING what you are told is an AH move? So with that logic 'not doing what you are told is NOT an AH move' ? In that case OP should smack the bride in the face! 🙃😋

[@markbigbadbear]

Bridezilla's and accountability. Heck. Entitled people and accountability in general. If my kid was excluded from my brother's wedding? You better believe my kid and I were spending a father-daughter day doing something my kid would find extremely fun. And I'd be LC to NC with my brother too. Our mom and pop raised us better.

[@ElleD308]

"Lia sees me as a mother now" oh wow.... That OP was like a character from a thriller where the obsessive "nice girl" falls in love with a man and creates a non-existent relationship in her mind, only to find out that his loving signs were just him grateful; she then goes crazy and starts killing every female that shows interest in him 👀 even the lovely old lady that sells him hotdogs every Friday at the corner next to his office.👀

[@TheeKaroolyne]

Ain't this the plot or a lifetime movie? Because it sure sounds as one, pitch it! XD

[@Painfuldreamer5813]

Yes, in like seventeen of them since the 90s

[@Mrsbraynen08]

Looool

[@clarabp2613]

Nooo the old lady no!

[@Pastel_Dreams]

3rd Story: OP is a nice girl. Saw this outcome a mile away when OP first started gushing about this guy and how attracted to him she was. Hope that Jayden and his daughter have a safe place they can stay in the meantime

[@Azulakayes]

Its very gross behavior.

[@HobieInTheBox]

Oh, you mean the Reddit NiceGirl™. I was about to question that statement

[@emanx222]

You had me at first ngl

[@vanzy01]

Yes she is lol

[@lasagnalovingcat5335]

Might be unpopular, but I think they both suck. ESH. He loses his job and a coworker says, "Come move in with me and I'll support you and you're child" and you think he didn't know OP had feelings for him? He knew. A "work friend" doesn't just offer something like that without having feelings for the other person, and if he claims he didn't know then he should change his name to Captain Oblivious. OP is definitely the bigger butthead (3.5/5 butthead score), but he sucks too (2/5 butthead score).

[@maddydavidsdottir9862]

I can 100% guarantee ops mum feels the same way and planted the seed in Mia's mind because mum didnt want to piss op off and get it back herself. I'd 100% call the police.

[@itsjustme7487]

I wonder if mummy dearest didn't covet that ring for herself.

[@kellywaters643]

@@itsjustme7487 I would agree with that

[@charlotteemerson5050]

How does someone even conceive the thought of bullying a child?!?

[@itsjustme7487]

Unfortuately there are a lot of adults who get their jollies by bullying children.

[@kratkartan1486]

Because they are not adults. They are children playing pretend. That's how they think bullying a child is ok.

[@abigailpulliam6996]

Cuz they'd get their teeth knocked in if they bullied an adult, so they choose an easier target

[@ajzephyros7454]

Oh wow I misread that as *buying* a child, that was, bad...

[@charlotteemerson5050]

@@ajzephyros7454 😂😂

[@itsjustme7487]

Story 2 Go the the police, file a report. When you get it back, go non contact. This really sucks.

[@nicolasv6031]

Story 1: what a stand-up AP. Glad OP was so lucky in both finding out, and the AP being a genuinely good person

[@Original_Tenshi_Chan]

Yeah, it's good that the AP was a stand up guy, but it sucks that OP just relented like that. Like I get wanting it to all be done with, but it seems like she married him under false pretenses and then started cheating on him basically right away. And if that was the extent of her shittiness, then yeah, quick and uncontested divorce, but she tried to rinse him. She knew she was in the wrong, knew she didn't want to be with him, knew she was fucking other men, and knew he didn't want to be with her anymore, and decided that was the perfect opportunity to extort him for $100,000 for a marriage of less than a year. The least he could have done was to return the favor, especially since he had her dead to rights.

[@bobi6191]

@@Original_Tenshi_Chan At fault divorce would have cost him money too. No point shooting himself in the foot just to hurt her. He got lucky and decided to take the out, nothing wrong with that.

[@Ivy94F]

@@bobi6191 OP did it exactly right. There are ppl struggling through divorce proceedings right now who WISH they had OPs circumstances. He got out without having to pay more lawyer fees, or giving the ex a dime? There IS no better situation than that. Who cares what happens to the ex? OP sure as hell doesn’t, so why waste even more time trying to punish someone you don’t give a damn about that will only cost money???

[@bobi6191]

@@Ivy94F Did you perhaps mean to reply to Tenchi? Because that's basically the same point I made. I'm in full agreement.

[@Ivy94F]

@@bobi6191 I was kind of doing both. Lol. You’re right, tho. I wanted to hi five you at the same time, but it should’ve been a direct reply to OP now that I reread it. Sorry. Lol.

[@jessereyna6662]

The last story confuses me. Am I not comprehending? Wasn’t she told it was a child free wedding, but can bring her over for the reception? Did I miss something? Was Op suppose to leave her daughter in the car, just in case the bride needed her for something? Op did exactly what the bride wanted. She was told to only bring her over for the reception, but hey Op, I lied, I only wanted her not to be inside the church while the Wedding was going on. Once that was over, I need her here, so nobody wonders why she isn’t here. As if nobody noticed she wasn’t actually there the entire time before it was picture time. Op’s family must have started drinking early, otherwise, I don’t understand how they didn’t notice an entire child missing, until the pictures went out.

[@Erinia13]

That bridezilla was super entitled she wanted her to bring the kid to the get ready BS so she was in the photos with family and wedding party then send her away for the ceremony and have her back for the reception so she doesn't look bad. Like wtf OP's child isn't an effing accessory. Also former MOH thought she was a good cheating alibi that means bride supports that bs, all in all she seems like an awful human being my condolences to the groom, I hope he has good luck because he's going to need it.

[@jessicawolfe5861]

I will never understand how adults can be so cruel to children.

[@Cel3ere5]

Fascinating and psychotic, isn't it?

[@CarinaCoffee]

Story 2: I'll never understand these people that can't accept adopted children as family, especially so when OP has been in Lily's life since she was 6 months old! Sounds like she's the only mum this kid knows and she's been around the family for almost all her life. How can you then not see that kid as your niece or grandkid?!

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 3 betrayal?? Betrayal where? This reminds me of that married guy with the "friend" he really connected with. They did art together and he gave this man a key to his home. Then in the update he'd left his wife to move with the friend. I'm sure before that post he thought he knew he was straight

[@carolroberts4614]

The good old Art Studio story!

[@clarabp2613]

The legend! The art room!

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1: Wherever OP lives is scary, could you imagine being in an abusive marriage, that you can’t prove and wanting a divorce but the abuser spouse doesn’t want that and asks for a ridiculous sum of money to get a divorce?

[@Riunlarose]

And people wonder why wifes go missing

[@itbesid1566]

The disturbing thing is there are actually people in the US who want to rescind the no-fault divorce policy (which allows 2 people to divorce for any reason/without any proof of one's wrongdoing), and GOD I hope that doesn't end up happening, or else situations like the one you described will become way more common

[@TsukiKageTora]

@@itbesid1566 people who probably were divorced themselves and want to keep a person by their sides and if they can’t do that with their own self, they try to force the law to do it instead.

[@madisonclark9177]

@@TsukiKageTora or people seeking revenge who want the cheating etc... spouse to pay up. Without the foresight that no fault divorces are, in my opinion, safe lives. Even if it wasn't abusive before a long bitter divorce or trapping someone can have dire outcomes.

[@jokestermasteroflaughter7754]

Sounds like New Hampshire

[@Somebody9666]

Story 2. Taking it too far? She STOLE from her. She TOOK it too far! Call the police and just explain in detail you just want the ring back. I don't think the cousin will destroy the ring. In case op thinks it will go that far, op needs to be with the police on the first meeting imo. Imagine if it goes so far the cousin flushes down the ring?

[@ladyoblivious]

Story 2, it sounds like the aunt had been eyeing the heirloom and is planning on having a child soon so she felt more comfortable stealing the heirloom from her adopted niece and leaving what issues that caused be with his family. She and the grandma are just that, they don't live with op so the bs stunt they caused is left at op house, but not theirs. In other words they felt comfortable because it wouldn't effect them directly unlike if it was their adopted child and they decided to take the heirloom back from them.

[@mollyoconnor9365]

Story 3 is crazy because OP is totally just jealous and trying to find ways to justify that weird misplaced jealousy over a person who she ISN'T DATING or even hints at having any kind of romantic entanglement with. Your coworker/housemate's love life isn't your business, even if he kisses your best friend. I can maybe understand being concerned about potential drama/side-choosing if they started dating then broke up, which would make things uncomfortable for you being in the middle. But no boundaries have been crossed here. No one has "betrayed" anyone. One consenting adult kissed another consenting adult. They don't need to ask for OP's consent. OP is not involved in that situation in any way, besides simply knowing the two people. Does every mutual friend that dates OP's friends need to ask OP's consent first? Or is it just this one? Because I think there's a name for that...

[@lasagnalovingcat5335]

I view it as an ESH. If you lost your job and a coworker said, "Move in with me and I'll support you and your child indefinitely", would you really not suspect that the coworker had feelings for you? He knows. I think he likes having the benefits of a sugar mama, but likes to play "innocent." Don't get me wrong. OP is definitely the bigger butthead by far, but I suspect he's trying to have his cake and eat it too. Maybe I'm jaded, but that's my opinion.

[@mollyoconnor9365]

@@lasagnalovingcat5335 I don't know, I mean there's also the fact that he had a child to support and take care of. I think desperation can make you see things differently - he may not have realised at the time that Op was doing this for selfish reasons. He may have just seen a friend being kind. There was also no implication that the offer was "indefinite" or that the coworker saw it that way. I would also offer my home to a friend in need, not just someone I have feelings for. OP did not make her feelings clear. It's not the coworker's job to just somehow intuit that based on a kind offer from a friend. He didn't do anything wrong by taking her up on that offer. He doesn't owe her his affection or romantic life just because she let him move in with his daughter when he was risking homelessness. Regardless of if he knew about her feelings or not, I still don't think that makes him an asshole. He hasn't done anything (that we know of) to lead her on or make her feel like they have a relationship. Therefore, there's no reason for OP to feel betrayed that he, an adult, kissed another adult. Accepting an offer to live with someone doesn't imply romantic interest in them. He is more than entitled to date who he wants to date, and OP doesn't get to dictate that. I don't think he's done anything wrong here.

[@lasagnalovingcat5335]

@@mollyoconnor9365 "I don't know, I mean there's also the fact that he had a child to support and take care of. I think desperation can make you see things differently" I agree with you on this point 100%. Having a child to care for definitely influences a person's choices. I can't say that I wouldn't have done the same in his position. If I was drowning and had a kid and someone throws me a rope, I'm likely gonna grab it. If it was just me, I might pass, but with a kid, that's a totally different situation. But if I'm being completely honest with myself, I'd also have to admit in this situation that my coworker likely had feelings for me and I'd do my best to avoid upsetting the household while staying there. Do I have to return those feelings? No, but I'd also do my best not to stir the pot (and move out as soon as possible!). "There was also no implication that the offer was "indefinite" or that the coworker saw it that way. " Without a firm timeline to move out, it is indefinite. 'Lasting for an unknown or unstated length of time' is literally the dictionary definition of indefinite. "Regardless of if he knew about her feelings or not, I still don't think that makes him an asshole." Your opinion is completely valid. I just think he likely knew (or at least suspected) she might have feelings for him. I'm not sure if I would call him a butthead. However, I just find it a bit buttheadish to stir the pot while living there and kissing your host's friend when you know (or at least likely suspect) that your host probably has feelings for you....eh. I wouldn't do it. At least not until me and my kid had moved out. I definitely agree that OP is way more in the wrong. It just feels like he created unnecessary drama by kissing her friend. Did he have the right to kiss her friend? Yes. Is OP being a butthead about it? Absolutely! Can he date who he wants? Of course! The majority of the blame is definitely on OP. Was it also a boneheaded move to kiss OP's friend while living under OP's roof? Yeah. Yeah, it was. Especially since he has a kid. I would have held off on any action that could potentially lead to me being kicked out before I'm back on feet simply because of the kid. He had every right to friendzone OP and he's not wrong doing whatever it takes to keep a roof over his kid's head, but kissing OP's friend while living there was just so unnecessary. But that's just my opinion. I've enjoyed the conversation. It's nice getting someone else's perspective to view the situation from multiple angles, and you've presented yours in a civil manner (which unfortunately feels so rare these days). So many people online act like you just kicked their puppy if you have a different opinion. So from the bottom of my heart, thank you. Btw, I'd also love to hear the guy's perspective, which could change how people (including me) view the situation, but unless he finds the post and responds, my opinion (for now) remains that OP is a major butthead and he is a bit buttheadish. Have a wondeful night!

[@reptiles3244]

@@lasagnalovingcat5335 I've had coworkers live with me just because they were my friend and lost their house before, op in 3 was just batshit

[@kitarrah1422]

Story 2: As an adoptee, that pissed me off! How dare the aunt take the ring and tell her that she isn't really family! 🤬 Definitely call the police and report the theft.

[@NightcoreNewbie]

4th story. Is this a nuclear relationship waiting to explode? I wonder what OP's brother sees in the bride because if the previous MOH was texting the bride for an alibi, then it's likely she will cheat on OP's brother eventually. Big red flag.

[@darylebrown3253]

Story 4: So, MOH gets busted by a bridesmaid, when she texts the bride for an alibi? And it's not the bride who rats her out - so bridesmaid must have been present to (unintendedly) see the text? And MOH thinks Bride is a good alibi source? James is going to regret going along to get along with his new bride and alienating his sister in a targeted insult to her child. Reason why? He's going to need all the help he can get when OG MOH is providing alibis for his wife.

[@LoveableNiki]

F**k him! The way he allowed his niece to be treated...he deserves!

[@Ivy94F]

So sick of these stories where a bride wants a certain condition or exclusion in their wedding, but don’t have the balls to stand by their desires for their wedding day publicly. If that’s what you want, stand by it. But don’t demand something and then expect the person who was excluded to help you with your social standing. If you think it makes you look bad, then maybe it’s because it IS bad. Otherwise, be woman enough to stand on your own opinions. Weddings are practice runs for how you’re going to navigate family situations in the future. If you’re not ready, then you’re not ready.

[@itsjustme7487]

Story 4...Well played Lily's mom. Just tell the truth. You are my hero ❤️ ♥️. When I was young. my friend got married. I waited for an invitation. Never got one so i didnt attend. I attended the wedding shower. Still.no word.🚿 After the wedding I was asked why I didn't come and I told them. " we added your name to Mrs Johnsond invitation". but no-one told me.

[@carlrood4457]

Was Mrs. Johnson a relative or something?

[@Ivy94F]

@@carlrood4457 Probably. My family does that too. All invites go to my parents with me and my brother added. We’re grown. Lol. Saving paper, I guess. 😂

[@seshthecat]

I'm adopted and my great aunt once said I was family because I'm not blood. My narcissistic mother, who actually hated me, absolutely lost it at her, screamed at her for a good 5 minutes about how dare she insult me etc and then kicked her out of our house and cut her out of the family. We didn't even go to her funeral.

[@nelly2958]

Story 3: that story felt so icky. Op is so delusional, making someone homeless because of an unrequited crush.

[@LadyPinkmonsta]

Story 3 just proves Nice Guys aren't limited to one gender

[@jazzyg7202]

Story four: op was not petty as the bride and op's aunt's and uncles stated. The bride is lucky op wanted to still be apart of the wedding because I would have dropped out. The bride was so worried about the little girl when the real issues seemed to be in her bridal party. If I was op any events I throw such as daughters birthday party I would just invite brother because I am afraid his wife will throw a tantrum like she did when I didn't allow daughter to be in the wedding pictures.

[@brigidtheirish]

1: First off, how many people are *happy* to find their spouse cheating? Really says something about how unhappy his marriage was. Second, I think OP made that cabbie's night when he jumped in and said, "Follow that car!" 2: There are several things of a crudely surgical nature that I'm tempted to do to Mia. How *DARE SHE.* My niece is adopted and she is *very much* my actual niece. And very much may parents' *actual granddaughter.* And to *steal* from a *child* for *any reason!* 🤬 3: Sounds like OP has the hots for Jayden but doesn't have the guts to actually ask him to date. Or maybe she's afraid of losing her live-in housekeeping service and cook. I'm betting on both. 4: I have so many questions. Like why did Brittany agreed to have Lily be flower girl but then changed her mind?*And lied about it?* Why was she so concerned about people asking where Lily was that she insisted Lily be in the photos *before* the ceremony, *still* be excluded from the ceremony, but come back for the reception? And if tantrums were a concern, *why* only exclude Lily from the ceremony? Wouldn't a tantrum during the reception be just as disruptive? There is something *weird* going on.

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

4 stories in one video 😊 Story 1: Young, dumb, and full of ***… 😂 Aren’t we all? Story 2: As someone who also plans to adopt, I’m sad hearing about families who don’t accept adoptive children. But also nice hearing about great adoptive parents. Also, they should be glad that you warned them about calling the police before you did. And that you gave them a chance to make right their wrong. Story 3: Lmao. She got friendzoned so bad. Talk about ‘nice’ girls. How is it a betrayal exactly? What exactly happened that affected her? Story 4: Is OP’s child autistic or something that would cause her to be treated differently. It doesn’t really matter. They can’t just ask her to come and go to their convenience. Also lol 😂, ‘wedding party drama’…

[@FlashQuatsch]

Surprised Mark didn't chuckle at that one 🤣

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 4: I wouldn’t call people autistic to try to find a reason why people treat them differently. Some people who do that are just massive AHoles and it isn’t because something is wrong with the person they treat differently

[@HobieInTheBox]

Friendzoning isn't real. People just expect friendship to be transactional

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

@@TsukiKageTora i know. There could literally be nothing different about OP ir her kid and still they are treated differently for some weird power play. But this is what my reddit brain thought of

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

@@HobieInTheBox wdym friendzoning isn’t a real thing? 😂. It’s when one person wants to be more than friends and the other doesn’t.

[@ayataco3647]

I’m glad people are holding OP in story 3 accountable. She’s giving off some nice guy vibes even though she claims she doesn’t expect him to reciprocate her feelings. There’s really no way around it, she’s just jealous/bitter that he has shown interest in her friend despite her having “done so much for him”. Maybe the main reason she allowed him to move in was to help him in a desperate situation, but (seeing as she already found him attractive) I wouldn’t be surprised if she hoped/expected that he would fall for her after everything she did for him. His only betrayal was that he didn’t do as she hoped and fall for her.

[@DellCTRL]

Story 3: Oh, no…your roommate and friend like each other. It was obvious that in the story that OP likes her roommate. I mean for goodness sakes she said he found him cute. She’s acting like they’re “friends with benefits”. Offering someone a place to stay doesn’t automatically mean you and your roommate are together. That’s just all sorts of fucked up.

[@Cel3ere5]

Oh it's so much worse than that. She's flat out fantasizing about playing house. Lia "sees her as a mother figure".

[@DellCTRL]

@@Cel3ere5 That’s just- no. It’s one thing helping out the child of watching it when their parent is busy. It doesn’t make you a parent. More like a babysitter at most.

[@Cel3ere5]

@@DellCTRL You know that, I know that, the animal kingdom knows that - but not that chick. Love the username btw.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@itsjustme7487]

💜💜💜

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@itsjustme7487🤗🤗💜💜

[@heatherdickau5335]

I hope there will be an update on the ring story. Unfortunately Lilly learned a horrible lesson. She now knows you can't trust family.

[@Buff_Helpy]

Story 4: this relationship is doomed.

[@TsukiKageTora]

If she treats her MOH/SIL and her soon to be Niece-in-law like that, there is no way that marriage will last, unless OP’s brother is a pushover which it sounds like it when he agreed to cutting his niece out of the wedding despite not wanting to

[@markbigbadbear]

@@TsukiKageTora nah. this is going to be a perfect cover-up... I mean marriage. At least for bridezilla while she's out and about cheating on hubby. old MoH will provide backup. Or join in. Girls Night!

[@owl7072]

Story 3: ....Are they dating and I just missed that part? /gen Cause if not then why does Op care? If Op was _really_ his friend then there wouldn't be an issue but it sounds like Op only helped him because they had a crush on him but now he's showing interest in someone else so they're trying to kick him out. That's not something a friend would do, and it's actually pretty shitty. "I'm helping you because I like you but since you like someone else that means I can't have you so there's no reason for me to keep letting you live here" that's the vibe this gives off.

[@Iflie]

Yeah she's totally that old man that gives an attractieve girl a place to live and then expects her to fall in love with him because he's so nice , then freaks out when she dates a guy. Only this time it's woman. Like jeez lady, read the room he's not into you no matter how much you ingratiate yourself with his daughter. She says she's not jealous in the update but says she has feeling for him in the other comments.

[@ajarfullofjoy]

Op is definitely TA. Deciding you have dibs on a human because you are making some grand gesture and not actually talking about this weird situation-ship is stupid. Jayden doesn't owe op a romantic relationship. Moving in and mothering his child and supporting him doesn't mean he owes op a romantic relationship. HOWEVER, Jayden knows about op's feelings. He'd have to be insanely blind to not realize. It's give him 1/10 AH. OP gets like 7/10 AH.

[@owl7072]

@@ajarfullofjoy hard agree although to be fair, some people can be very oblivious to other people's feelings. I would know, I'm one of those people. The amount of times someone has hit on me directly and I didn't understand until _months_ later or longer is more than I'd like to admit lmao.

[@jennilynne1977]

@@owl7072 I'm the same way. My husband has gotten mad telling me "some guy had balls to hit on you in front of your old man" and I never even noticed. Lol. My husband wasn't mad at me. He was just mad because it was obvious (at least to me and him) that we were together.

[@mollyoconnor9365]

​@@ajarfullofjoy I think even if he knows about Op's feelings, he is still entitled to do whatever he wants with whomever he wants to do it with. I agree it's possibly not the best move to kiss someone's best friend if you know they're into you, but it's also not his responsibility to live according to Op's feelings. He isn't interested in dating OP. But sometimes you can't help who you are attracted to or develop feelings for, and he doesn't owe anything about his love life to OP just because she has feelings for him. I don't think he's done anything wrong, even if he does know that op has feelings for him.

[@thedarkwench]

Story 3: just because you care does not mean you own him and his child

[@frith.calluna]

"I'm not jealous!" "He doesn't have to like me back..." And so the cat was let out of the bag

[@DrownedInExile]

Story3: So OP is a nice girl? Femcell? Because she's done roommate a kindness, she thinks she holds some claim over his love life? Even though she's too dumb or chicken to make a move herself? Spare me. I'm glad the roommate has stopped lifting a finger to help.

[@thefallennero5265]

Story 3: So we're not allowed to hook up with someone's best friend now? Does the rest of the world know this or is just in OP's jealous ridden head?

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 3 - I don't get it. OP has made it sound like she and Jayden are just good friends, but now she's acting as if he'd cheated on her.

[@evelynduron6549]

It’s simple. She has feelings for him and feels betrayed cause he kissed her best friend. So she is the female version of a nice guy.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 3: sounds to me like she is jealous that he isn’t attracted to her like he is with her friend. You can’t expect them to know your feelings if you don’t make your feelings clear. You can’t be offended by someone breaking an “unspoken rule” if you never speak about it. No one is a mind reader and she will eventually not have any other friends

[@Sammy52550]

Man I would love to have an update for that my brothers ex-wife is blaming me for her divorce because Of the wedding

[@bethanntay]

Sadly had to cancel my membership temporarily. Just had a baby and money is now tight. I'll be back though (once I start working) Thank you for the stories.

[@Cel3ere5]

Congrats on the kiddo

[@bethanntay]

@@Cel3ere5 thank you so much. Have a beautiful day/night!.

[@tater60]

Betrayal? Strong words.. Think she hoped for something more.

[@sarahjean3670]

Hey Waffle Gang! So happy when I get a notification from this channel. Mark: you made my week more bearable (3 MRIs, dr appts and sneaking lunchtime stories). So happy! Enjoy your weekend, everyone!

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

Hope the best for you and that all goes well

[@jennilynne1977]

Hope everything goes well for you. I totally understand what you mean about Mark making your day/week bearable or better. He does that for me too. Peace, hugs and love to you.

[@candiebarr6745]

If someone's not invited to the wedding, why would they be there for photos?!

[@AndyyWithAY]

Family is about love, not blood. And if you adopted this child you have all the legal obligations of a parent. You would need to be listed on her FAFSA and you can give her your heirloom

[@nicknitro86]

"You still have to pay me" nope, still married on paper. ---- Uh...how is it betrayal? She wants him to reciprocate, just suddenly turn into one happy family.

[@darthvegaslastnamenotrequi5698]

Story 3.) Op is 100% looking to control this guy because she feels like her "generosity" has an emotional debt attached to it. As long as he lives there he has to be a surrogate rent-a-boyfriend for lack of a better reference. She just can't accept the friendzone and is using her relationship with his daughter to manipulate him/others to say that him having a romantic partner would confuse his child. Awful.

[@catT5236]

Story 3: Jayden needs to f**king run from this situation. OP's even manipulating his kid. Story 4: OP's brother is the biggest AH here, who marries someone who is willing to lie to his sister in order to purposefully exclude his niece for a reason that is definitely BS. He's letting her treat his family this way. Wtf? Was his now wife wearing red at the wedding? Because she's a walking red flag!

[@carlrood4457]

He's definitely a weak guy. People seem to forget it's the GROOM's wedding too.

[@thecrebain6760]

Getting close to 100k, I'm so happy for you!

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 2: NTA. We need an update!!! We've got to get the ring back IMMEDIATELY!!!

[@somerandoonyt9553]

Story 3. YTA...COMPLETELY. The only way I would side with OP is if this friend was hooking up with a different friend ever weekend or something. Like, using OP as an access point to a large group of people. Even then, I'd have a hard time agreeing with them. They're consenting adults. If the friend was being creepy and forceful, then I would agree with OP.

[@alec5803]

I'm can understand Op in story 3. I had this same problem. Op may not make friends easily and when two of them get involved. It can cause unnecessary drama. The friendship could end. Ijs.

[@MrsGump]

OP - start ur own tradition with YOUR DAUGHTER. If OP couldn't have kids of her own & had adopted a baby at birth, would that kid also not be family? Get the ring back & then for Lilly's 13th birthday get her her own real ring for her to pass to her child as celebration of joining "teenage adulthood" lol Our daughter has had a horrendous 5 years with her health & we wanted something special to celebrate her making it to 18, so we saved up & bought her a $500 rose gold & moissanite ring. She loves it & never takes it off! Start your own tradition with Lilly!!

[@AutumnPulse]

Story 3 is totally a nice girl story.

[@britnicox3929]

2: I hope they also tell Lily’s school that Mia is no longer on the list to be allowed to pick her up from school. She’d be persona non grata in my life until she apologized sincerely to Lily and showed she genuinely wanted to fix the damage she made. Mia is an awful person. I would also call the cops anyway.

[@ellorasg4525]

Story 1: In Professor McGonagall's words 'Sheer dumb luck'

[@KE-hr4sb]

S2: NTA, she IS your daughter. Get the ring back, file a police report, and go NC with your toxic family so they can't do any more damage to your daughter. S3: Wut? Your co-worker is right, OP: you have no say in his love life. Helping him out or not, he does not belong to you. Sounds like a huge case of the green-eyed monster. OP: "I'm not jealous/in love with him!" Also OP: "I haven't told him about my feelings, but it's not about that. He doesn't have to like me back...I mean, Lia sees me as mother figure!" You mean YOU see you as Lia's mother's figure. You got friend-zoned, lol.

[@gngrblls2thwall]

S1: Something I thought I'd never say about a reddit story: "it sure is a good thing he was nice to her AP when he caught them."

[@riley6740]

Hi Mark. Please don’t go down the path of telling stories that have no conclusions. I’ve already had to unsubscribe from two channels because of it. I love your channel and look forward to it every day.

[@fcold9402]

2. Ring was stolen, absolutely call police if not returned.

[@mogulmade]

OP in final story is NTA for not bringing her child, but the fact that the extended family took the other side might just mean that Lily does behave badly. Op nor anyone else ever gave a reason for including other kids and not Lily... so that still needs to be answered

[@brigidtheirish]

Except they're calling her a petty asshole for telling the truth and for *not* bringing the supposedly ill-behaved child to do wedding photos. Which Brittany apparently only wanted Lily in so she could lie to the rest of the family about Lily's participation. And why allow a child who's prone to tantrums attend the reception? Why was Lily *only* banned from the *ceremony?*

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark stay safe please, peace.

[@nineblackgoats]

Story 3: when I heard the title I thought he'd kissed best friend without best friend's consent, and OP kicked him out to protect her best friend. But no. OP just has a massive crush on her roommate and expects him to read her mind 🤷‍♀️

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

*Raises hand* I can give another perspective regarding the roommate/ best friend situation. It has the ability to become awkward/ uncomfortable the way that dating a coworker can. It's a don't shit where you eat situation. Without OP's admission that she has feelings, it's rude because it creates awkward situations between OP and her friend that places the friend in the middle. Does the friend acknowledge the roommate with a kiss if she comes over for girls night? Does he have to hang out in his room if they're hanging out at OP's home? If he hangs with them, what etiquette prevents any of them from becoming the third wheel? _However_ given that OP admits to having feelings, it's actually a Nice Girl scenario. OP feels that because she was being such a nice person, keeping her colleague and his daughter from homelessness, she's owed his faithfulness and loyalty for simply being a 'caring,' 'compassionate,' person. She thinks that he should divine her feelings from her actions and feels betrayed that he hasn't and angry that he had the nerve to find someone close to her attractive.

[@LayfonDragnia]

It wasn’t kindness or favors if op is trying to weaponize them as a way to manipulate the father. I thought she meant she doesn’t want them dating incase of a break up but with how much she doesn’t say that and keeps saying he owes her is what makes me think she is just a delusional nice girl.

[@Notoriouscj1]

What’s wrong with a nice girl

[@LayfonDragnia]

@@Notoriouscj1 “nice girl” like the sub reddit.

[@Notoriouscj1]

@@LayfonDragnia Idk what the fuck that is

[@Notoriouscj1]

@@LayfonDragnia there’s nothing wrong with a girl being nice for once

[@LayfonDragnia]

@@Notoriouscj1 have you seen r/nicegirls? I’m not saying girls can’t be nice, I’m saying she’s acting like the psychos from this subreddit.

[@jenniferhanses7064]

Story 2: You legally adopted her. You are the guardian of the ring. Even if Mia wanted to have an argument over who should have the ring, she should have had it with you, not with an 11 year old adopted kid who trusted her. Story 3: YTA. Nowhere does it say he's dating you. He's a roommate. Nowhere do you say he was taking advantage of your friend in an inebriated state. I don't see anything indicating that he shouldn't have kissed her. He's not your property. He's made no promises to you, and he's paid for his shelter with money and labor. He hasn't betrayed you in any way that I can see. He's been faithful in his arrangement as a roommate. Story 4: NTA. Outside of all the wedding drama and the debate that could be had over if you can control your daughter's image or not, there's the simple fact that she wasn't invited to the area with the photographer. I certainly would not be in favor of calling up whoever was watching the kid to bring her to the venue so she could be used as a prop. That's ridiculous. I was expecting to hear you got in a fight with the photographer at the venue or something over taking pictures of your kid, not that your kid wasn't there, and people demanded she be dragged across town just to get pictures of her.

[@bredaisy4001]

Story 3, she needs help because 😒

[@Vikabro]

Story 4: The logic of the bride really confuses me. She said she didn't want op's daughter at the ceremony yet expected her to be there for the photos and was surprised op didn't bring her daughter as requested? That doesn't make sense. Or was she expecting op to bring her daughter anyway after seeing other kids attending?

[@Ivy94F]

Yes! Her decisions don’t make sense. If the kid has tantrums, then why would she think a photo shoot wouldn’t trigger one? Kids hate standing or sitting still for professional photos, even the ones who don’t have tantrums. She needs to be focused on that days of our lives nonsense she got goin on in her wedding party. Lol.

[@zerobolt9506]

Man what luck first OP had, not only catching her, but her bf had been cheated on too & sided with OP

[@davidlionheart2438]

Story 3 - BUNNY BOILER ALERT!

[@janedoe885]

Story 3: I don't know if there's a specific name for this phenomenon, but I know I've heard it referred to as shady to make one person dependent on another for survival and then pressure them into romantic/sexual involvement with the threat of withholding means of survival if overtures are refused. Like a form of coercion. It sounds like the OP was absolutely doing that to Jayden, and is a pretty horrible person imo. Can't even own the fact that she's doing it. Being a woman doesn't make her any less of a creepy, entitled, controlling "Nice Guy".

[@daisychain5087]

Yeah, RAPE! Sexual harassment. And worst of all, she's been abusing, manipulating and violating the wholly poor, innocent child, in order to use her as a source of information and as leverage to have her way with him.

[@nicolem8123]

Story 3. I had a similar experience: the guy was into me (I was unaware), but we verbally communicated it was only friends. Few months later he sees me kissing my SO at the time, the dude lost it and was yelling about it. Cut ties right then and there, not dating, have not dated, no say in what I do.

[@magagail]

I have a friend who has a super similar situation to story three, where two of her friends were hooking up and I cant understand the logic. Like they’re your friends, not your property??? She was telling me that she “put down a boundary” and how they were “disrespecting her by going behind her back.” And I asked her like… what’s the problem here? What specifically is upsetting you about it. I could understand being a little upset that it complicated the friendship group but she made it sound like someone was sleeping with her boyfriend. And she couldn’t understand why I was confused. But it was the same kind of situation as with OP, she had expressed an interest in both of these friends before hand. I think she was upset that her friend was getting with someone she was interested in. But it was such a weird, convoluted situation. People make everything so complicated, I hate it

[@bbwsenpai2562]

I had to rewind story #3 like 4 times because I thought I missed something smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ wtf OP you massive creep

[@Cottontailart]

First story lol second id kick the door in if they don’t want the police then force them to pay to fix it

[@deniseslay9056]

OMG! Call the police! If someone treated my daughter this way I would go full on scorched earth 😡😡😡 My scalp won’t stop tingling with rage

[@katglad]

I love your videos they make my days

[@beccaf262]

How sad of a life do you have that you feel the need to manipulate and pull a power move like that on an eleven year old? I hope op never lets them around Lily again.

[@dagnytheartist]

Story 4: OP's brother and sister-in-law both suck, and I doubt their marriage is gonna last if OP's brother literally can't confront his fiancé about wedding plans/hurting his sister and niece. He is spineless: refusing to confront his wife while also refusing to stand by her (crappy) decisions: you have to at least pick one or the other! Someone telling me that their spouse made a decision they "didn't like" and were sorry about would have made me incredibly uncomfortable. It shows how little OP's brother cares to actually stand up for his niece. He also knew that his wife was going to throw a fit at their wedding about the photos thing...why marry this person? Best case scenario is getting an amicable divorce before any babies happen.

[@carlrood4457]

I didn't get the OP's brother thought his niece would be expected to be in pictures once she was excluded from the ceremony. It sounded like he was like, "What's the big deal? You told her not to bring her daughter and she didn't." He was weak and unsupportive, but seemed just as confused by his bride as his sister.

[@wildwikedwanderer1208]

Story 1: omg that is an amazing court system. Feel so happy for OP

[@ceeshnia]

Not really. I feel happy for OP, but it also opens up for abusers to trap their victims in marriage, because they won't "consent to divorce".

[@robertx8020]

@@ceeshnia This Sounds like a terrible system1

[@fcold9402]

4. Why would you even go to the wedding? NTA except for going at all.

[@jadedflames2809]

Last story: even if Lily is prone to causing temper tantrums, OP still didn't took Lily to the wedding, *as requested*, by the couple, she just refuses to hide Brit's bs. So I 100% say that OP is NTA

[@DCD762]

I truly hate when Mark bring a story that needs an update and doesn't have 😂

[@Ivy94F]

IKR??? He says ‘now I turn this over to you..’ and I’m like, NOOOOOOO, not yet!! 😂😂

[@DisneyChar]

S2. NTA from the title, I dont suffer thieves, I would have called the cops immediately after the phone call.

[@SusanPederson]

OP did exactly what she was asked but obviously the bride failed to think it through & made a fool of herself. Too bad.

[@Dmitrisnikioff]

What a goddamn bro. Like, that is absolutely the way to behave when you find out you've been unwillingly made part of an affair.

[@janwojciechowski7227]

Ring story: OP should call the police and teach "auntie" a lesson about consequenses. She stole a ring which never belonged to her and from a child - how small and jealous you need to be to do that. But is not a AH for not thinking of OP's daughter as a family. It is how she feels and you can't push someone's feelings out just because you feel different. OP choose this girl as a daughter but the rest of the family can choose for themselves.

[@minimochi2206]

Story 3... YEAH Jayden needs to get away from OP ASAP they obviously have some issues they need to get through & him living there is not going to help the situation at all. Poor guy

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

It's not petty nor arseholish to set boundaries around access to your child that prevent them from being blatantly used. It's just strong. (Pls forgive any typos, I have vision impairment from a migraine.)

[@adamwilliams4928]

Story 3: WOW... I can't believe a real person posted that. O_O

[@stonefox2546]

Last story: I give the marriage 2 months for the cracks to start to show and 6 months until it's done.

[@cpaul9269]

The Wedding - OP did handle it perfectly, and,frankly, I admire her self-control. If I was her brother, however, I might have left the bride at the altar have watched this sh-tshow. And I would have flipped out if my bride EVER treated anyone, much less my sister, the way se treated OP. She apparently didn't have the sand to be honest and up-front. Now - I think she STILL hasn't been. I don't think the tantrum thing is a thing - I think maybe her family laid into her about none o their brats being involved - but hat just a gut feeling. Might also explain OP's brother being such a ball-less wonder throughout this circus. Man, good luck to all of them.

[@maggiejreviews]

What kind of weirdo says no children at the ceremony but they can come to the reception? That's weird.

[@Maniacal_Laughter]

Story #2 should check their states heirloom laws

[@My-name-is-Kit]

Story 3: Denial isn't just a river in Egypt 🙄

[@EveryDayALittleDeath]

Story 4: Honestly, I don't think OP was enough of an "asshole". The second I found out other kids were in the bridal party, I'd tell the bride she can find a new MOH.

[@potatoempress5731]

A rare case of a r/nicegirl with Story 3 OP haha. RUN JAYDEN RUN-

[@0karmaticfrost010]

Story 3: if we're gonna go with the argument that op SOMEHOW isn't in love with him which come on, rlly we're not stupid. She's probs pissed cuz if he falls in love with someone else she won't have a personal free maid that cooks and cleans for her, this is what I was thinking BEFORE op brought up how his daughter sees her as a mother figure. I'm sorry but the second u bring up how much the kids like you, don't lie you are in love and I'm glad OP's denial of her toxic ass feelings showed so the dude could move out asap. Garentee if the guy started casually dating someone without telling op regardless if it was her friend or some stranger, op would be pissed either way

[@benry007]

Story 3: OP seems to think that because she offered him a place to stay he now belongs to her.