Marriage Therapist Reacts to Netflix's 'YOU'! | Q&A

[@cdubsgates]

Hello and thank you for the video! Few things, 1) this was the straw that broke the camel's back, I needed this push to finally watch this show; we powered through and got it done, whoo! 2) were your earrings in tribute to the show, haha? 3) I've been meaning to say... of COURSE I watch to the end, how else could I hear the awesome second line of the song! 'Whaat's anya miiiiiind' :) Take care!

[@StephAnya]

This is hands down one of my favorite comments ever! I love that you noticed the earrings!

[@cdubsgates]

@@StephAnya ❤️

[@cdubsgates]

@@StephAnya Oh, I meant to tell you, I usually listen at double speed (for better or worse) and it really changes the vibe of the tune, give it a listen and let me know what you think :)

[@MandaB28]

Note to myself as a counsellor in training, don’t assume your client isn’t a murderer, but rather ask questions like, Are y’all murderers? 😆

[@StephAnya]

😂 😂 whatever you do, just don’t make a blanket statement based on your assumptions

[@pattif192]

Best of luck to you - lol! ♡

[@shabamflam]

Yes definitely want to see all the times Joe met a particular diagnosis.

[@StephAnya]

Got it. Thanks, Hannah!

[@hp6964]

I second!!!

[@yahaira3151]

Yes please!!

[@StephAnya]

I filmed one diagnosis. I should have that up soon!

[@rethinkcps2116]

@@StephAnya - time to start subbing for Dr. Phil! He did one day a week for Oprah before he got his own show. Please consider. Here and on GQ channel - you shine on camera! Ramp that up. Meet your true calling, the masses await.

[@pigpjs]

The fighting to be right section reminded me of when I saw Michelle Obama on her Becoming tour. She said when she and Present Obama first went to marriage counseling, she expected to be told that she was completely right and her husband needed to change. She was very candid with how shocked she was when the therapist suggested that she might need to work on some things too.

[@angieBhanson]

Hi Steph, I finally finished “You.” I agree that the therapist became aggressive with assumptions, not knowing, these two were lying all along. I think the therapist’s lines were written this way purposely to show she was not able to figure them out.

[@Maya.0114]

Looking forward to more videos about You. I understand why Sherry and Cary's relationship was so refreshing to me. Their ability to openly communicate and be vulnerable with each other is admirable.

[@StephAnya]

I totally agree

[@maddiepilz5711]

This. Was. Fantastic!!! Thank you so much for your videos, you're brilliant! 🤩💕 I would love a more detailed video about Joe's diagnoses and about Love and her mum (I think I'd prefer the latter)! Who doesn't love a difficult mom-daughter relationship 😅 please please please a part 2!!

[@StephAnya]

Noted! Thanks so much!

[@maddiepilz5711]

@@StephAnya no thank you! 💞💞

[@drillsargenttay3960]

Omg yes. Your GQ video was amazing and I immediately came over to subscribe. Your channel is meant for other things, but I just wanted to tell you your pointers have also given me good foundation for a romance on paper! I can’t wait for this :) love your wisdom!

[@StephAnya]

I love that! ♥️ See you at 2!

[@liferealgood]

Yea the GQ video really opens your eyes to a few things. I liked it.

[@FeelTheRainOnYourSkin]

When you mentioned the link between "I know what's best for you" and disrespect. I paused for like 10 minutes lol. How many PARENTS (even when they refer to things other than safety), teachers, bosses do that stuff! Like you said, it takes away a persons agency in their own life, especially if those words are backed up by actions like parents getting mad when you don't take their little pieces of advice. Wow. That hit hard... So yeah, I'd be interested in a video about the relationship between Love and her mom (I was so pissed when she asked her mom for help in a bind, but then also the convo her mom had with Joe!!! So complex!) ALSO! The way you so clearly and concisely explained disorganized attachment was *chef's kiss*. It gave me another ah ha moment! Awesome videos. Look forward to whichever spinoffs happen from this one :)

[@evenif7431]

This was super interesting! Your clients are lucky to have such a thoughtful therapist 💕

[@StephAnya]

Aw thanks so much.

[@evieee50]

I am so happy to have found your channel. I’m going to school to become a counselor. No one in my family has ever been to college so it feels like new territory. Your channel has taught me a lot about this career field. Thank you for being so open about your career and inspiring me to continue on this path. You’re the best ❤️❤️❤️!

[@StephAnya]

You got this! I'm glad that you're finding the videos helpful.

[@lunarosa321]

Why do you want to become this?

[@angieBhanson]

Yes, Joe is psychotic! You nailed it on Joe! He definitely has a myopic way of being attracted to women. It’s true, Love is more impulsive. I have to watch the last episode again. It is so action packed. Steph, the next show, can you do Dexter (showtime)

[@bruh666]

omggg I've been waiting for this video, You is honestly one of my favorite shows and season 3 was my favorite too. honestly I kind of wished there were more episodes where the two of them worked together as a team / couple, I thought that was so interesting and could have honestly watched a whole season of that

[@StephAnya]

Agreed! I was hoping for more of that in season 4 😫

[@OliviaLovejoy]

I would love a video on the relationship between Love and her mother.

[@ruthless3253]

Just a light correction that it's polyamorous, not polygamous - they are very different things!!

[@StephAnya]

You're right! Surprised that I didn't catch that I said that. Thank you!

[@terrencegriffin5953]

Thank you so much you have made my online MFT program so understanding. I watched the entire season 3 of you and the series reflects on relationship, mental health, and structure family therapy. Again thanks

[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad that you’re finding the channel helpful. Yes, ‘YOU’ touches on everything!

[@Lilblkgoat]

omg u need a whole seies on movies and shows I really enjoyed this

[@StephAnya]

So glad!! I have a playlist on my channel called "What's Anya Screen?" I'm planning to continue adding to it! Let me know your requests.

[@BabaYagaVEVO]

@@StephAnya I’m not the original commenter, but I would LOVE to see your thoughts on Phantom Thread.

[@RaineeRiecke]

I would LOVE a video going in depth on a diagnosis for Joe

[@angieBhanson]

Steph, you see I had to comment every time you hit the key points of what I am thinking. This is great!

[@StephAnya]

Yay! Thank you!

[@animelover390]

Hi Anya! I love your enthusiasm and passion. It's people like you who make the work so safe and positive for the clients who need it. I watched your video on burnout/ compassion fatigue, and I wanted to ask if you knew anyone who took it as a sign they don't even want to be a therapist anymore. I see my own therapist soon, but I can't tell if I'm burned out, feeling a "gut feeling", or both. I’m scared to disappoint the people in my life if it is a "gut feeling" that I should quit, and I'm also scared of regrets or the future in general. Thank you for being a part of the profession!

[@sierralivermore7221]

I love your videos where you analyze couples/relationships/people in the media! If you are interested, the musical "The Last Five Years" is the story of a couple coming together, and then their marriage falling apart. It's the movie that first sparked my interested in family therapy, and there is MUCH to dissect within it. I would love a reaction video to it someday if you're interested! The movie version stars Jeremy Jordan and Anna Kendrick!

[@Fauxrising2022]

Please make more videos about You! I’m so curious what your perspective is on the relationship between Love and her mother the second and third season! I’m interested in your view about the family dynamics between parents and the grandparents when it comes to raising the child. I’m also curious what you thought of the last episode of season three when Love warns Joes current obsession (I forgot her name) about who joe is and Love’s epiphany! Thank you 😊

[@DSN430]

This was great! I would love a video on Love and her mom, relationships other than romantic ones should be talked about more

[@StephAnya]

That’s very true! And I do have a couple of videos on family dynamics if you’d like to see those!

[@DSN430]

@@StephAnya I plan on binging soon 😊

[@MrBeezy92]

Would love a breakdown of Joe. Great video

[@StephAnya]

Noted! Thank you!

[@sajdah1201]

Great video as always Steph ❤️‍🔥 & the little additions to the editing in this video were so good 🙌🏽

[@StephAnya]

Thank you so much!!

[@liferealgood]

Oh this should be entertaining.

[@Crunchyhoney]

It was interesting to see your take on a potential diagnosis, and I’d love to hear what else you have to say about that! I was thinking perhaps BPD? Seems a lot of the symptoms fit him perfectly, and that would also account for his fear of abandonment and would make sense with the trauma he experienced as a kid, and a lot of other things imo

[@WilliamsPinch]

Girl I can’t wait for this!!!!

[@StephAnya]

The countdown has begunnn

[@julieblack5200]

I think it could be amazing if you did a video about the therapist on Lucifer or a video about Lucifer series in general

[@StephAnya]

I’ve never watched it before. I’ll check it out. Thank you!

[@haley4011]

You should definitely make a video on Love and her mom’s relationship!!

[@StephAnya]

Got it!

[@zpurplex]

Yes please, more YOU content, there's so much to dive into! It's really interesting to see you as a therapist analysing another therapist. Wonder what you'd say about the therapist in the show gypsy!

[@aliciaa4859]

Would still loveeee another video on joe and his different diagnosis and more about Love (the character )in general!!!

[@hp6964]

I didn’t like how season 2 ended so I didn’t and won’t watch season 3 but you know I’m watching this video lol. Love when you cover shows and movies ❤️

[@StephAnya]

Haha I appreciate the blind support 😂♥️

[@bgurley1998]

you’re awesome! love the way you break things down💗

[@StephAnya]

Thanks so much!

[@shiannemcpherson1836]

I'm a counselor-in-training (MFT) and I love this! Can't wait to watch more of your videos and listen to your insights. :)

[@juzeefruit9281]

Steph, I'm embracing so much of your show. I really appreciate, well Franky, cost free scenarios and professional counseling. Thank you for that. I truly believe we can, or rather I can't get enough as far as my personal growth. This episode, your open response took me by surprise, although I can thoroughly understand. Professionals are not successful in my mind if they deny humans their right to make their own life's and decisions. I just want to share my view of polygamy. Firstly you are so smart! Thank you for sharing your abundant short and long term retention is stellar. Meaning, as I listened to you, your thoughts and Informatica were well organized and said with ease. The subject, which with your spiritual background (I think based on your teachings of one of my favorite books, "Five Languages of Love", however I need to say at this point I am be presumptuous after all I just started watching you today. So, I really need to share how I feel about swaping several, mire than one wife is and always has been one of the most self-centered ir as I prefer to say, the epitome of selfLessLy. When the Mormons (my brother is a Mormon, he thought he give that a shot, well his wife is a nurse and father in law is a doctor, they filled him full of antipsychotic drugs, for many years now and he's never been the same.in other words she wasn't going to share him with anyone. So there's always that detrimental issue that can arise and I " imagine there are many more. I think there are some things in this life that are simply immoral, exceptionally unhealthy just purely wrong. I thinking the Mormons did away, legally with the whole 55 wife's Brigham Young culture and there's also good ' Warren Jeffs" and I'll end with thus. I love people, however, do many heinous, and as you kention on a m earlier vid narcissistic behavior. It's absolutely not healthy because there is ALWAYS one woman, at least that gets severely hurt. It's the nature of that particular "Beast"! I am really enjoying you! So glad I found your professional teachings! I'm going to get back to it! Thank you again, Julieann

[@olaogun7264]

Yes, multiple videos on YOU, please. but maybe just like you did the GQ triangulation piece in this video. Maybe you can just reference YOU pieces (Like love & mother relationship) in another show that has a similar relationship.

[@user-tz8uv6pi5t]

Yes , we would love the videos you suggested 🤓

[@angieBhanson]

Glad to see this Anya! I love assessing these characters on You. Sidebar: can you do a video on Carl Whitaker? Thank you.

[@StephAnya]

Yes! I’ll be covering Experiential in the next model review.

[@angieBhanson]

@@StephAnya thank you!

[@arij.4051]

Oh my gosh Stephanie!!! I’m so proud of you thank you for making this channel giving your perspective & advice ❤️❤️❤️ You have really has impacted my life in a positive way you are beautiful and I’m so happy for you🥰😘

[@meahgodfrey7599]

Please create a video about Killing Eve. I love the show, and your view on Eve and Villanelle’s love story and diagnosis will be really interesting to see. Plus there’s a book too 💖

[@kimberlygonzalez3384]

Not me trying to figure out how she got her braids done, loving it!

[@fangal12]

Found you through GQ. Love your videos. I would love to see you breakdown Marriage Story on HBO. You're beautiful and amazing! Subscribed

[@sherayperry2842]

Yes we want another video about Joe and his diagnosis please I knew he was a narcissist .

[@janewildly]

Sherry & Cary coupling is kinda funny, because relatively healthy relationship is complicated & silly like that.

[@rmy_Youtube]

Oh snap! I love this show! This is going to be good 🍿

[@StephAnya]

Fingers crossed 🤞🏽

[@paigetownsend5337]

OMG I LOVE THIS SHOW THANK YOU FOR ANSWERING THESE QUESTIONS

[@StephAnya]

Thank you for watching!

[@cm7393]

2nd part PLEASE

[@angieBhanson]

Yes, please review the diagnosis. That is my fav part of the mental health field. I know it will be helpful. I am in the MFT program.

[@thamiresnunes2153]

Id love to see a video on Joe!!!

[@mariias4489]

This is great! Love watching your videos. Simple and super interesting!

[@StephAnya]

Thanks so much!

[@sofiadeliz1935]

I would love for you to analyze the love triangle in the vampire diaries and her relationship with both brothers maybe pretty little liars too

[@janewildly]

Omg so happy I found your Channel!

[@loglady_99]

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[@deline3455]

Do you think you can do a dive on Rue from Euphoria???

[@amandafuss1193]

Love this video. Yes please do more YOU videos. Love that show ❤️

[@selinahavefaith1650]

Im so happy I found your channel. I would love to hear your thoughts on the (American) Shameless characters and family dynamic

[@taylinramirez6608]

Where did you get that amazing emotions wheel??? I would love it for when I speak with my students. (Studying to become a therapist & work with kids.)

[@blondandsmart1]

Could you make a video like this about Love Island?? (specifically, the Australian season 4 or season 5 seasons?)

[@rachelechevarria9851]

I wanna see all the diagnoses for joe pleaseee

[@ManickaThomas]

I LOVE your channel! Just subscribed!

[@StephAnya]

Thank you!! ♥️

[@ManickaThomas]

@@StephAnya I just sent you a message on Instagram asking if you would be interested in doing a collab video. I hope you would be open to that!

[@mariawilliams4737]

When are we getting your take on Lydia on love is blind ??? I will love to know

[@StephAnya]

Hopefully tomorrow!

[@Angryegaroq]

I’d love to see a reaction on the Netflix series Ozarks.

[@RainyDay_5214]

Do more You please!!!

[@yemio1005]

Great video😊 please do a video on gaslighting on a recent film or tv show

[@StephAnya]

Great idea!

[@StephAnya]

Also I do cover this a bit in my Married at First Sight video about Chris & Paige

[@yemio1005]

@@StephAnya thank you😊 I will rewatch that. Maybe you could cover something from the Netflix series Maids? Signs of emotional abuse?

[@xiaoshuangwu4680]

thank you for your videos! it is very interesting.

[@NDObeats]

Loved the topics in this!

[@StephAnya]

Thank you for watching!

[@RobandSijay]

Pulled up and ready 🍿🗒

[@StephAnya]

Thanks so much for your awesome contributions to the chat!

[@SamanthaTallman]

Could you do this for season 4’s ending as well??? I’d love to see your take on it

[@sg-cg6lr]

Yay I found the video!!

[@real_poetiq]

Can you go through the last season of "In Treatment"? I really wanted to unravel "Colin"

[@purplecookissasmr3844]

OMG 진짜 제가 좋아하는 쇼에요!!!! 고마워요 ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡

[@princetonsnumba1g]

Please do HBO’s Marriage Story.

[@HerOpinionsHisFacts]

I love the video! Sorry for this but I am currently in school to become and MFT do you have any videos on cybernetics ?

[@StephAnya]

Thank you! Not really. I talk a bit about systems theory in my second video ever called “What is Marriage & Family Therapy?”

[@HerOpinionsHisFacts]

@@StephAnya ok I’ll check it out thank you

[@jamewithaz]

Pls make more i love this

[@joharibonner7423]

DO BRIDGERTON!!

[@unnimaya5267]

You are so so cool! Love the video! Will you be my therapist? Oh wait I’m single

[@paolabarbosa3883]

Yes please!!!!

[@GorillaTactix]

Awesome video!

[@StephAnya]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@kinzasajid1651]

hey, Can you make a video on clarifying systematic and non systematic family therapies? \

[@Mirahman8]

I'm sorry I'm so distracted by your lipstick. Please, what lipstick it is? Its soooo prettyyy!

[@Oonagh72]

Joe is in love with Love.

[@Jkjoannaki]

I think Joe has OCD along with PTSD. The way he creates relationships and all the compulsions he has screams either ocd or ocpd to me. Also his morality, so strict with his morals no matter what they are and pretends he always follows it

[@stevensantora2976]

Please make seprate videos on the personality disorders and attachment style. Please and thank you.

[@chromesthesia]

Have you seen Ozark and the therapy scenes in that?

[@corneliahanimann2173]

What do you think about them having sex with eachother but fantasizing about other people while doing so? The show kinda focused on that part to imply the councelling was keeping them together, but they really shouldn't have been. I actually don't know how to feel about that part

[@plantstrong9876]

Can you make a video about joe Goldberg

[@affaawww]

Do you think Love was his soulmate?

[@juliannaokike3359]

What if you are extreme opposites in terms of parenting styles.

[@yosoyroman875]

As much of an asshole ax my ex was. I can see that when we were in therapy, I was fighting to be right. Which, clearly isn’t the best method.

[@tatianakidd6799]

Can you diagnose love

[@juliannaokike3359]

I guess I feel like I'm not growing in the areas of life yet that I would like to be.

[@flowersforreal2026]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@CraftyCheshire]

I haven't seen the new season and I don't think you spoiled too much. Now I'm itching to watch it but I definitely don't feel like you said or showed anything too major.

[@AceHBK972]

I’m surprised you didn’t give Joe or Love borderline

[@StephAnya]

They're a true conglomerate! However, with the difficulty with emotional regulation paired with the disassociation and impulsivity. I think that diagnosis is spot on!

[@LM-he7eb]

"I don't think this is a problem" is very dismissive & it does ignore agency. Sounds like a life coach.

[@raynikasmith8591]

do you think marriage is the answer.............

[@raynikasmith8591]

yes i think marriage is asnwer it gudies

[@arlowepena9790]

Plz react to the movie '6 years'

[@reactivitytvxrevive]

We did a similar post on our channel!

[@MsCCarolinee]

Did you say aKsed questions at about 0:40? 🤔😁