Matthew Hussey - Set Better Intentions and Break Unhealthy Dating Habits | Prof G Conversations

Matthew Hussey, a leading dating expert and author of the bestselling book, “Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily (No Matter What),” joins Scott to discuss how to recognize and break unhealthy dating patterns, set better intentions, and seek happiness. Follow Matthew on IG, @thematthewhussey.
Timestamps:
00:00 In this episode
00:39 What led you to write your book?
03:06 What causes loneliness and how do you solve it?
07:25 Online dating
10:58 Being wary of transferring importance to a new person
16:09 What advice would you give to men and women on finding healthy relationships?
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[@StuartFingerhut]

The "rushing" section hit home so hard 🔨 I never thought or had it framed like that 🎯💯

[@theProfgShowscottgalloway]

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[@louiseobrien2010]

The divorce rate went up dramatically during COVID-19

[@NewBeginnings2.0]

He's got such long winded answers it's impossible to sift for the gold.. Defo zoned out.

[@Roan-xj1mg]

I think Daniel Radcliffe is mostly right. But online dating has clearly been advantageous for women only (and maybe 5% of men). As a regular guy, online dating is quite depressing

[@snoopyboobs]

Online dating is no good for anyone.

[@kyleolson9636]

It's far more than 5% of men who have an easy time on dating apps. I was divorced, a 6/7 in attractiveness, a 24 BMI, 6'3", and 80th percentile in income at the age of 30, making me perhaps at the lower end of the top 25%. Dating online was insanely easy in the top 25%. Everyone I dated, including the one I married, I would have considered out of my league without the help of the apps. I agree a man in the bottom 50% probably has a hopeless situation in the world of online dating, but far more than 5% have it quite easy on these apps.

[@dee-jay45]

Yes, but Matthew mostly coaches women and sees things from their perspective too. And I think that's important to understand in dating. Both genders are needed for a positive outcomes. Just because women hold all the power in modern dating, doesn't mean they can't be unhappy too. Sure, I think most will agree that the situation for average guys is worse. And I can understand the frustration that comes from that. But if you want to fix the problem, you can't just tell women to "make better choices". You need to show/tell them how. And that's what Matthew is doing.

[@user-mu7vv7gb9f]

😂

[@raidtheairwaves42]

It’s not you bro, it’s the apps algorithm.a decent amount of guys are quality. For women there’s always an ambiguity about a guys worth that only certainty like height or income or socialability can make them like your profile pic. These apps only incentivize looking a perfect way and not being real. You swipe right on all women because that’s what’s most important to a guy. Companies at MTCH look at these human dynamics and exploit them like hell. Any sane man would swipe right on a pretty woman, and any sane woman would doubt the value of a man. The problem is that good answers to whether two people connect beyond the superficial datapoints is to put them in a room for more than 5 minutes without any of them having to flee during a moment of discomfort. Imagine if the date stopped after the first awkward silent, then we would have a miserable society right?

[@baffinsansterre]

"Women would be soo much happier if men were better." ― MH (sarcasm)

[@Madskidzz]

If you’re a guy in the west go overseas don’t waste time dating in the west. There are options galore if you explore.

[@contracthit9839]

Galloway is afraid of that subject

[@Madskidzz]

Not sure why it’s literally the best option for most dudes

[@rda0013]

In the words of one of out great philosophers of our time, Kelly Clarkson: "Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone"

[@snoopyboobs]

Aristotle “ just because you’re not lonely when alone, does not mean you’re not a horrible person and nobody likes you!”

[@sherribarman915]

Pay attention folks!

[@theProfgShowscottgalloway]

Take a look at clips and highlights as well.

[@contracthit9839]

To a couple of cowards who don't debate

[@maxr2663]

Where is his scar?

[@stevechance150]

It actually took me a bit to get that.

[@SingleMalt77005]

What is Hussey's relationship status?

[@jtjt8777]

damn Prof G, stop framing your opinions as questions. At this rate, you would not need to invite any guest at all.

[@theProfgShowscottgalloway]

Checkout clips and highlights as well.

[@contracthit9839]

Galloway needs a serious humility check HE is self involved...

[@ArneAsada69]

Dude uses too many words, I zone out after a while.

[@raidtheairwaves42]

It’s not you bro, it’s the apps algorithm.a decent amount of guys are quality. For women there’s always an ambiguity about a guys worth that only certainty like height or income or socialability can make them like your profile pic. These apps only incentivize looking a perfect way and not being real. You swipe right on all women because that’s what’s most important to a guy. Companies at MTCH look at these human dynamics and exploit them like hell. Any sane man would swipe right on a pretty woman, and any sane woman would doubt the value of a man. The problem is that good answers to whether two people connect beyond the superficial datapoints is to put them in a room for more than 5 minutes without any of them having to flee during a moment of discomfort. Imagine if the date stopped after the first awkward silent, then we would have a miserable society right?

[@contracthit9839]

Galloway has no academic credentials in the human behavioral sciences and is profoundly undereducated in this field...

[@DutchinBrazil]

He talks like a woman, biz/money, relationship, sport, every topicmon KZbin

[@snoopyboobs]

Scott is super online and works with a narcissistic women who has poisoned him. Women speak is the way online and newspapers etc talk these days. In real life people are still pretty normal. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with women or men in particular just that our online focus distorts reality.

[@mandb97]

There is too much here. If you are older and and you are single, my advice is stop dating. Live your life with complete freedom. If you listen to Mr. Hussey you will twist yourself into a pretzel. We have either dated or married and it has not worked out. Stop trying and just live. Don't date you will wind up kicking your arse again.

[@theProfgShowscottgalloway]

Thanks for sharing your opinion! Checkout clips and highlights as well.

[@eriksyring]

A not productive conversation between two men who don’t know that humans live in tribes, not couples.