Face Your Financial Fears with Meredith Stoddard

Meredith Stoddard (Life Events Experience Lead at Fidelity Investments) stops by to discuss how life events and their emotional components can impact finances and the overall human experience. Meredith explains the similarities between life events planning and therapy, practical ways to make financial literacy more accessible to all, and reasons to avoid comparing your financial status and goals with others. Mayim and Meredith consider the benefits of starting small when working toward your financial goals, framing money conversations around wishes instead of fear, and normalizing financial discussions within the family unit. They discuss changing generational attitudes, goals, & behavior toward money and combating misinformation around finances on social media. This content was created in collaboration with Fidelity. Thank you Fidelity for sponsoring this podcast! From having children to planning for retirement, Fidelity is here to help you manage life’s big moments. myguidance.fidelity.com/ftgw/... public/lifeevents/content/overview#ad
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[@lhmccool67]

I cannot thank you enough for this! I have an almost debilitating amount of guilt and shame around my finances. As a single parent I constantly worry AND I am horrible about managing my money. Hearing a finance person say they struggle with budgeting because it feels suffocating...I felt so seen! Mayim and Jonathan, you help people so much more than you'll ever know. Thank you for all you do!! 🙌❤️ PS Happy Chanukah!

[@m_brokenleg]

Two in a week row? Thank you Mayim. 😘😘

[@orland0110]

Two Mayim Bialik videos in one week. So awesome. Thank you, Mayim! ❤

[@annescholten9313]

This sounds interesting because I have some very conflicting emotions about money and personal finances. Thank you Mayim for inviting her!♡

[@morahjayne699]

Your timing is always so ‘spot-on’! In addition to putting yourself out there to help others not feel embarrassed by their naïveté, your guests are so knowledgeable, genuine and truly solicitous in helping others make peace with their issues. Together your ‘tribunals’ continue to give such quietly needed HELP and positive guidance in negotiating challenging moments and how to get through them. THANK YOU Mayim and Jonathan for each episode which also includes your brand of repartee and humor.

[@DaniElle-di4ho]

Jonathan said it so well, I struggle with the same issue: what is enough? Will it ever be enough? This is what I am working on defining

[@tombirney7276]

One of the most impactful women i ever met was born in Germany in the 1920s. She was very rebellious about wearing dresses, loved school and took advantage of the rise of the military in her teens to become a truck/jeep driver shuttling equipment around for the army. She met like minded teenage girls and bonded. That bonding led her to train as field army nurse, keeping primarily in the company of other women her age. After WWii she emigrated to America and became a pacifist who only worked in public health (no money) so she exchanged care giving for elderly women at night in exchange for paying rent.

[@jamesmarlowryan]

Mayim please have Meredith on again and do a do a deeper dive with her. Even though her company sponsored this podcast. There is more to learn. James

[@karenjohannessen8987]

Yes, please - *_MUCH_* more! I would/could listen for hours 😉

[@Lava775]

Seriously. Money is such a complicated issue.

[@itsjamylle]

Since i’ve heard episode 49 of “the psychology of your 20s” (spotify) i started to really think how my finances affect my mental health and my relationships. And to really dive into WHY is it so tabu to discuss money or why is it so hard for me to negotiate a pay raise. It’s really cool to listen to this conversation here aswell. Thank you for another great one you guyssss 🫂🫶🏼 Nice seeing Mayim and Jonathan together again,i love this dynamic!

[@tomlichnofsky.7048]

Happy Holidays And Seasons greetings to you!! 😊👍🍁♈

[@wickymay]

i own a lot of tie-dye, so u can imagine how much i need this talk lol

[@trishabnot7125]

Oh man, this was such a great and NEEDED topic for me! Thanks for this podcast 🥰

[@Essentialoils4ujess-weagle]

Dave Ramsey's KZbin channel has helped me a ton to understand personal fiance. I just can't get behind him on working towards a zero credit score. But I understand the thinking behind it because people do get into a lot of trouble with credit cards, car loans and student loans.

[@movieprod]

A wonderful episode with Meredith. I too spent my life in the Industry. I had friends who struggled to pay rent suddenly become millionaires in a short period of time. Some handled it well, others not so much. I recall in one episode Mayim commented on"...the ridiculous amounts of money actors made.." I thought about this, was that a judgment on all actors, like they didn't deserve it, or perhaps a feeling of guilt from Mayim about the money she had made? I'd like an answer. I believe actors deserve the money, it's hard work, requiring total dedication, a sacrifice of any home life, and surrendering their Privacy, in some cases, for the balance of their lifetime. The saying "money is the root of all evil...." is a sound bite from the Bible which actually says "...It's the LOVE OF MONEY that is the root of all evil, NOT THE MONEY itself, a Huge Difference. Meredith's comment on having a boat, then desiring a bigger one is so to the point. I had friends who were lucky to have a rusted-out old car to get to work with then buy a Private Jet when the cash came in, then want a Bigger Jet...a Diamond Ring, then a BIGGER Diamond ring, and so on. In my retirement, I never miss an episode of yours and am a better person because of it and I love you Mayim and Jonathan, and the many folks around you who, as Producer and Crew make it all possible. Thank You! Ooops, one more thing...my friend Sound Editor Joe von Stroheim's father Erich von Stroheim wrote and directed GREED, a silent film hand-tinted by Joe's mother. Joe screened GREED for me and it moved me to tears...it depicts the Love of Money, the GREED that destroys lives. A MUST-SEE. I believe it is available on TCM. Forgive me for the length of this comment...it's kinda like the original cut of GREED which was an astounding 10 hours long. MGM cut it to 2.5 hrs for release and Von Stroheim was furious!!

[@Pronchick1]

Thank you Mayim, Jonathan and Meredith. So good to learn and be reminded of all of the nuances of our relationship with money. 🤓

[@avleck]

Love you guys and this topic - all your topic choices, really - today’s release feels extra cozy/homey given your film setting. Happy new year, Mayim & Jonathan!! 🎊🙏🏼

[@karenjohannessen8987]

What an important, timely conversation, Mayim and Jonathan and Meredith! I *must* listen to this one several more times 🎧, on reduced speed, so I can better take in the information.

[@BrianPiddick]

Mayim and John, awe where to start, a million thoughts from this discussion, nothing to do with money as the underlying concern is our lack of communication between two, supposedly close, humans. As expressed by a wiser person than me, the only thing humans have to do with each other is communicate and that is the only thing that they cannot do with each other. Mayim, why are we so scared of offending/upsetting the one who we should be safe with? Too scared to inform of a bill, can't afford, a new problem not of anyone's making knowing that we are scared ...less of the others response, the fight, the argument, the return of childhood emotional responses when parents were screaming at you. The tip of the iceberg as the underlying current of life's woes are still present even when 'there is enough money'. Thank you for your service and education of us.

[@mimmycal]

Amen. Oh well.

[@nicolewilliams2468]

This might be my favorite episode yet, not because it’s the most entertaining or because it has the most new facts I’d never heard, but because IT’S SO RELEVANT!!! Mayim, I was born the same year you were, I’m a financial controller by trade, & I still feel like an idiot about so many of these things! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the way your interviewee focuses on meeting people where they are, not shaming them for past mistakes, etc., but helping them find the best path for right where they are. This is TRULY a wonderful episode - thank you so much for sharing both this resource & being so open about the feelings / wishes / fears about money. You & Jonathan make it so easy to take in this kind of information because you’re both so authentic in the way you express your own experiences. I hope you have a wonderful New Years, & look forward to seeing even more amazing topics & guests from you next year. Bless your compassionate hearts for this gift that you share with your viewers - it is greatly appreciated! 😊❤😊🎉 🎊🍾

[@MayimBialik]

Wowwww, love this feedback!!! Thanks so much, Nicole! 🧠🫶🧠🫶

[@nicolewilliams2468]

@@MayimBialik - you’re so very welcome! 😊 I remember serious financial struggle in my prior marriage that ended up costing me our home & our rental property to foreclosure, my 401k, etc. when I was supporting a then-H who’s business failed (construction / remodeling right before the crash of 2008-2009). I ended up declaring bankruptcy after our divorce, & was at that time a controller of a multi-million dollar private company. It was one of the most demoralizing times in my life. I really, REALLY appreciate the life events your guest spelled out & her empathy for people at whatever stage of life they’re in. I’ll definitely be tracking her down on ALL the socials, as just the tidbits she shared here are so very important. Again, thank you so much! 😊

[@mrs.e3909]

Nothing throws you into fear, overwhelm and chaos as having to figure out financing for nursing home care for loved ones!!!!

[@fabfabi70]

Thank you Mayim!

[@b.garland1826]

Great topic!

[@kathythompson9931]

Great podcast Jonathan & Mayim! I also wanted to know more about the Chinese Buffet Lunch! I always love these insignificant BUT very significant learning experiences! Happy New Year!

[@majadronic9396]

You are absolutely awesome! Loooove your sense of humor ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@marisamartinezolivera]

Whatching this episode I humbly recomend an stage at my Catalonia. We’ve family convos ab money value and money related from the crib equally with boys and girls so normalized from centuries, that when we hang out with friends we pay “Catalan way”: everyone for what everyone actually consumes, (that is a great waiters training btw..). So the 10$ Chinese lunch story told here is our normalcy. Even after marriage we women have absolutely separated accounts, incomes, bills, properties, mortgages, investments with absolute independence and freedom to use money (traditionally, since XIII C. till past one it was a way to protect a heiress from “pretenders” who wanting her for her money couldn’t get a cent from her but resulted in protecting women in husbands banksrupcies, abuse, divorce). To avoid stupidities (here with money) we have a word, “seny”, imprinted in our DNA. A kind of mix of common sense, sanity and mental weighting. It worked and still works. The phrase “Don’t put all eggs in one basket” I think was written in our bibs, LOL. Are we better prepared? I don’t know. But I do know that at least regarding money, our Mental Health was quite prepared. Instructive episode..

[@marisamartinezolivera]

@@deepark2220 I think you just didn’t get what I post. Have a nice day.

[@marisamartinezolivera]

@@deepark2220 You are being judgemental without exactly knowing what’s really going on, what I think it’s unfair. For your knowledge, they know each other from the time they have kids with respective partners. They are long time friends, he’s economically independent and CEO and co-founder of two companies. They “live apart together”. So he’s not the kind of man “hunting a rich lady”. I’m old enough to be her mom too if hurrying up in having babies. But I don’t dare to write such easy criticism without knowing a bit what happens in a couple inside their homes nor give counsels that probably they don’t need. You know that "live and let live"? And btw, the words that’re not English at my previous comment have exact their definition attached, so anyone with a modicum of reading comprehension would have understood the comment perfectly. Bye. Happy Holidays if you celebrate

[@deepark2220]

@@marisamartinezolivera look i went along with you until the end and you came after me, i can only go by what I perceive I'm hearing from their explanation as she told it to her guest then I comprehended what I took from that conversation of what I think they meant, I said I don't know her personally but neither do you, if y'all stop stealing and taking from Americans maybe I would get a better education so I'll know what the hell you wrote.I also said I wasn't really interested in their lives since I don't know them and I would give my own daughter the same advice I give her, my high thoughts of her has changed, that is the way I feel. If you come for me do it with respect, you ppl love to fight and keep shyte going, leave it where you come from

[@deepark2220]

@@marisamartinezolivera who would've gotten all that bull you took your time, why I don't know, to say a thousands word but said nothing, trying to be cute, didn't work. so I'm saying to you have a good day

[@deepark2220]

@@marisamartinezolivera you're right, I overstepped and I don't know either of their intentions so I mind my own affairs and business, I do apologize

[@JB-pe2yn]

Thank you so veryyy much for this video!

[@normankairns2583]

Great podcast!

[@AdVO1980]

what a great episode. You 3 were so articulate, clear and entertaining. Such a relief that there were not all those ads that are included in the other episodes. I am eager to know more about Meredith and Fidelity.

[@mimmycal]

6:20 pm pacific This was great…will forward to my 2 spoiled Millennial sons.

[@kerrie8486]

How do you find a great financial advisor

[@leticiaperez243]

I was married very young. My ex husband is 9 years older than I am I 100% blindly trusted him. 10 years after divorce I’m still carving my way back financially. I’ve taught my kids to always be able to support themselves or have the ability to do so. I work in accounting and have my entire career and I still trusted him to do the finances. I think we need to be able to teach our children regardless of gender to be able to do what you are happy doing but to not be dependent on anyone if you aren’t dependent than making those decisions is clearer.

[@cathydowning8673]

Great episode. Question - in the shopping outlet/ Chinese food incident who paid for the rental car?

[@mollysmith1226]

He said they upgraded him for free

[@mollysmith1226]

My fiancee got upgraded because he was a veteran.

[@mollysmith1226]

@@deepark2220 go back and listen, he said he was upgraded for free

[@karenjohannessen8987]

@@deepark2220 Different rental companies have different policies! Please back off of your judgementalness.

[@mollysmith1226]

@@karenjohannessen8987 thank you 💜

[@telly_0]

Can you please make it more visually obvious that this was a sponsored episode? Did I miss the disclaimer that this was an ad?

[@jasonprice8455]

Will Lenard do a show I want to see his mind

[@jasonprice8455]

The show is hilarious the silica wizards pelvis sorcerer's wand that's not composed out of pure love and light

[@liamwhalen]

One method of providing options to homemakers is ensuring they are self-employed. The homemaker would need to learn all of those details (creating a business, filing business tax returns, etc.), which will help reduce a lack of options by giving them skills and confidence. The wage earner would need to pay the homemaker, which would decrease the household income due to taxation, but there are many supports that would be added to the self-employed homemaker depending on the nation's options for self-employed individuals to participate in government programs.

[@anthonyhaffner1863]

Mayim. 😆😆😆 I love your hat. 😆😆 I hope you can see the hat on Jeopardy on the Alex Trebek Stage when you’re not seeing your hair. 😆😆

[@Randomlista12]

World War I (28 July 1914 - 11 November 1918), often abbreviated as WWI, was one of the deadliest global conflicts in history. Belligerents included much of Europe, the Russian Empire, the United States, and the Ottoman Empire, with fighting occurring throughout Europe, the Middle East, Africa, the Pacific, and parts of Asia. An estimated 9 million soldiers were killed in combat, plus another 23 million wounded, while 5 million civilians died as a result of military action, hunger, and disease. Millions more died in genocides within the Ottoman Empire and in the 1918 influenza pandemic, which was exacerbated by the movement of combatants during the war. Prior to 1914, the European great powers were divided between the Triple Entente (comprising France, Russia, and Britain) and the Triple Alliance (containing Germany, Austria-Hungary, and Italy). Tensions in the Balkans came to a head on 28 June 1914, following the assassination of Archduke Franz Ferdinand of Austria-Hungary by Gavrilo Princip, a Bosnian Serb. Austria-Hungary blamed Serbia, which led to the July Crisis, an unsuccessful attempt to avoid conflict through diplomacy. On 28 July 1914, Austria-Hungary declared war on Serbia, while Russia came to the latter's defence. By 4 August, Germany, France, and Britain (along with their respective colonies) were also drawn into the war. In November 1914, the Ottoman Empire, Germany, and Austria-Hungary formed the Central Powers, and on 26 April 1915, Italy joined Britain, France, Russia, and Serbia as the Allies of World War I. The German strategy in 1914 was to concentrate its forces on defeating France in six weeks, before moving them to the Eastern Front and doing the same to Russia. However, this was defeated at the Marne in September 1914, and the year ended with the two sides facing each other along the Western Front, a continuous series of trenches stretching from the English Channel to Switzerland. The frontlines in the West changed little until 1917, while the Eastern Front was far more fluid, with both Austria-Hungary and Russia gaining and losing large swathes of territory. Other significant theatres included the Middle East, Italy, Asia Pacific, and the Balkans, which drew Bulgaria, Romania, and Greece into the war. Both Russia and Austria-Hungary suffered enormous casualties in the East throughout 1915, while Allied offensives in Gallipoli and the Western Front ended in failure. In 1916, German attacks at Verdun, and a Franco-British offensive on the Somme, led to heavy losses for limited strategic gains, while the Russian Brusilov offensive ground to a halt after early success. By 1917, Russia was on the verge of revolution, the French Nivelle offensive ended in failure, and British, French and German forces experienced heavy losses in Ypres, leaving all

[@matiaspereira9382]

You're my favorite actress ever Dr Bialik! Keep your good job! I really hope you someday reprise your role as Amy in a Big Bang Theory spin-off!

[@alittlepieceofearth]

MAYIM & JOHNATHAN: you should talk to Dr. John Deloney

[@tryingtogetby]

My question is if you went to the Chinese buffet now,what would happen?? 🤔

[@markeke4000]

Can I be on your show

[@itsjamylle]

Two episodes in a week?! it’s giving me LIFE 🫂🫶🏼 Also it’s perfect timing cause it was released right on my lunch break 😋

[@deepark2220]

I think rich ppl take chances and I'm not sure if they are afraid, I think they just jump into an idea, like jobs, like bezo, like Bernie Madoff, like Elon musk, I think they have a dream that they will make it big and be rich and your mind plays a role, my sister used to dream she be rich when she was a kid, she's not one of them rich that mentioned above but she's doing well, me on the other hand, I have never had a lot and even in retirement I dont require alot, I have perfect credit but I don't buy anything, I sleep, I eat and basically ok and if I need anything I can get it. I hate to spend just for food and necessities again I don't require much, hers is from that dream of being rich, she put it in her mind and she never let it go.

[@leticiaperez243]

I think the $10 is a single mom I can provide for me and my kids you don’t want to be dependent on anyone or expect anybody to do for you - I probably would have paid for him but not let him pay for me or my kids

[@jasonprice8455]

How many Johnny Carson bingo pieces ate there

[@HH-gv8mx]

I would definitely leave my abusive boyfriend if I didn’t need his financial support. My rent tripled and since he moved in with me and he is my roommate… It’s so difficult right now. And I feel my life is spiraling out of control if I keep letting him beat the shit out of me.

[@SarahArtist82]

Do you have any friends or family that you can move in with temporary so you can get out now?

[@HH-gv8mx]

@@SarahArtist82 Unfortunately that’s not an option.

[@eleanorreynolds7486]

leave now.

[@keke8880]

Some states have a program called Victim's Compensation Fund that will reimburse up to $5k for leaving an abuser if you are approved. The application is often online if you Google your state's name and Victim's Compensation Fund or similar.

[@jamesmarlowryan]

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[@dakine4238]

I keep being broke and having to scrimp.

[@mikewallin6049]

$10. Chinese lunch...must be treif if it was kosher it would be$34

[@jasonprice8455]

Would you have strayed from me if we were together intimately

[@nancun2837]

Face my financial fears? When you have worked for 40+ years. Now with $7850/ year from social security (because of low paying jobs), no deductions, no Medicare (because affordable care isn’t extended in Texas) Then had all your savings and retirement stolen? At 73 and disabled, most Americans don’t understand. All to do is try to get through each day

[@AuntBeeDoesLife]

I'm 42 been married 19 years had 5 within the marriage 2 prior to marriage yes 7, I stopped working in 2002 lost my 2 girls Aug 2002 biggest loss, ,and became a stay at home mom Nov 2003, kids were 99, 00(first two lost to corrupt system that set me up told me I had everything done let's go get your kids going into court lady pulled a Jekyll and Hyde and flipped the script said I refused to do court orders I didn't know about, things I had said were taken out of context and made me look like the poorest excuse for a human being. It's a long story. Then 03 boy, 05 Boy, 08 girl passed from HLHS and Turner's syndrome long story part of why I'm divorcing, 11 boy stillborn long story another reason to divorce but I didn't have a job and couldn't work because of PTSD in the workforce also a long story, and last one 14 girl, hysterectomy on husband's birthday ironically not at all planned on my part in 2018 we think. I had L5S1 fusion surgery in July 2016 a few days after Pokemon go was released, it was another reason I'm divorcing I was left alone shortly after I got released from the hospital and I wasn't helped by my soon to be ex another reason. My now 19 yr old shortly after my surgery laid me on my back yanked my phone and keys from my hands and went to pick up his friends because I wouldn't cuz o couldn't I just had surgery. He did lots of horrid things to me over the years over powering me. Another reason I want a divorce so I can leave him behind. I don't know what job I can physically do with my hips hurt (arthritis, bone spurs feel like razors, impengments, and tears but good news according to my hip surgeon the conditions don't emit the amount of pain I express they emit, that's just my fibromyalgia amplifying the pain and my wheelchair I finally got my life with is unnecessary...wish my body got that memo) so last Feb I signed up for technical college and hairline fractured my C4 and had to leave for than need to go back in Feb or have to pay loan in full. I need to go to state mental hospital because the psych hospital here doesn't treat pain and I need medical attention for my pain conditions

[@AuntBeeDoesLife]

I can't deal with problematic society, it tech help desk is throwing me into society head first I'm scared I'm not going to be able to keep a job. PTSD stuff while at work customer asked if kids drinks were also free after buying 5 to go adult means and 1 adult meal for there and 6 kids meals for her 6 kids, I said well they are only .69 nothing there to really care about, she wanted to talk to my manager she wasn't complaining. I lost my job. Car flooded out during pizza delivery because of torrential downpour weather that was going on I should of turned around and not drowned but I wanted to get it delivered on time had to wait for my exhaust pipe to be out of water before I could restart my car and finish the delivery it was late and free and I got fired. Boss took me on rounds around the grounds we were security for and pulled over and asked if I wanted a 200 dollar bonus on my check all I had to do was BJ bleh no thanks old man... Threw uniforms in his face and my ex who now sits in jail for horrible things done to a child below 14, I was 17 when I met him he was 32 long story there as well, so throwing shirts made me feel justified I didn't know to report him and all that. My ex knew what he was doing keeping his kind out of jail. Anyway. Traumatic. I was 8 months pregnant working at a gas station at night by myself idk what to do trying to stay busy so I'm pouring bleach on the floor then mopping scrubbing all the scuffs and dirty spots off (the wax apparently) anyway customer comes in opens doors takes me outside calls and ambulance and idk how to shut up shop to go to the hospital idk how to contact my boss I get oxygen and can't go in. Boss comes in I'm so proud of the white floors I cleaned but I cost them a lot of money to get the wax put back on so I was fired. Idk how to clean my mom did it all growing up my Grandma made me do dishes and clean her bathroom and vacuum for a quarter 🤣 if I did 2 things I could get a big red ice pop from the ice cream truck lol. Anyways my mom had ocd for the longest time until her life as she knew it changed she watched my 2 cousins all week and every other weekend when they went to their dad's. Their dad took them from her because we had at the time 32 cats and one of my cousins was severely allergic to them I guess I didn't know till I talked to that cousin. Anyways long story short she got rid of all but 2 cats only because we couldn't find them. They came back later. Took them to humane society and a friend of the family's farm.

[@AuntBeeDoesLife]

So no training on cleaning and I didn't really pay attention but I had a standard set for me that I never reached as a stay at home mom, every day after soon to be ex hubby for a reason would ask what I did all day cuz I had got on the computer for an hour long break and two toddlers made it look like a tornado went through the house. Yes they were safe. No I didn't ignore them and was on computer I just took a break from cleaning up after them. So next day I didn't clean at all up after the kids and when he got home it looked like a hundred tornados went through the house and he asked what happened in here? I said oh I did what you assumed I did yesterday being on the PC when you got home....it felt so good to not clean up after them lol 🤣 anyway he didnt stop he continued asking why the dishes didn't get done, etc. Why is this this way who left this out whatever....drove me insane I burried myself in the PC at that point got pregnant found out she was sick he had nothing to do with my belly didn't talk to it or sing to it like he did with the boys...so I was pregnant with MY baby cuz I refused to abort her and try again I couldn't do it my body my rules...anyways long story there. Just trying to get you up to speed. So my oldest son 03 son he would say things like of it weren't for dad, you would be under a bridge somewhere. At the age he said this he couldn't have made it up he had to of heard it somewhere. So I quickly fell into a great depression it's major depression now I have lil to no motivation and energy to even complete the self care and food prep and eat I need. In pathetic why I'm going into the state hospital soon probably after new years so I can do a puzzle with my family and bang pots and pans and ring in the new year. Anyway, goal is to find a treatment for my depression and for my pain so I don't have to smoke mj for my pain so pain management will want to touch my case. Hey I can dream ok! If not I don't want to be here anymore I can't live with this insurmountable pain levels. I had 7 babies vaginally stillborn came out tagged and broke my tailbone he was breach and passed so they couldn't turn him around. Had first 4 without epidural last 3 I was forced with my 08 sick baby so they could do emergency c section if she went into distress but she didn't was out with 3 pushes. So anyways back to now.

[@AuntBeeDoesLife]

My soon to be ex husband got his own place we stay at the house, he wants full custody but doesn't realize that entails me not having any rights over the kids I can't sign stuff take them to Dr appointments nothing. What he really wants and what the judge normally would do is joint custody with full residential. He really needs to talk to a lawyer about it. I am okay with this because court holds PTSD for me and I don't want to step into court ever again especially when my failed parenting is going to be paraded yet again Infront of a judge and I don't want to walk out feeling like the poorest es Excuse for a human being ever again. He says I can't buy the house giving him his half of the sold house. I don't have credit or a job the bank isn't going to give me a loan so I'm going to lose my childhood home but to be fair it does have band-aid fixed stuff and lots of things wrong with the house. But I been here on and off since 86...I do need a flat home I can use my wheelchair in so I can give my hips a chance to heal maybe idk. Am you way. Taking this time to focus on me getting me right with me. I don't want to move from here to go be under someone else's rules I want to do me and clean as I can. I want to not be criticized for every thing I do and say. Just want to be alone for awhile get right with me. Get to know the real me not the me I became so he wouldn't complain and so he would be attracted to me I was his Barbie doll asking what hair style to get etc. I looked like so and so actress which I think he just fantasized her while with me he says he hasn't been attracted to me for awhile now what ever the heck that means...ouch...so I'm done...but my body is against me getting a job I can't get disability because I don't have the work credits because I thew away my career to screw up 3 kids I guess. So rewarding. NOT! stay at home moms put your kids in care and get back to work on case you find yourself having to go out on your own years later for whatever reason so you can support yourself cuz going fron relationship to relationship is not only bad for you but really bad for your kids unless you lose them for whatever reason but still you don't feel good mentally about yourself. And having to get a minimum wage job cuz that's all your qualify for is t going to support you. Sorry but it's true. Get an education too. So you can get your dream job that keeps you getting up and facing the day each day. No man should have that much control over finances. My man always said whatever I got or used electric wise cuz I left a light on in the other room and hea always said how many hours it took for him to earn the money I spent so freely. Whatever man I'm trying to find a niche to make money sorry gotta buy the yarn to make the things to sell. But never felt confident enough in my work for someone to leave a review for me....I leave minor mistakes in my work to remind myself God is the only perfect one. And if I miraculously make no mistakes I add one at the end. Idk how they are going to be used and idk how they are gonna fair with each customer so fear something will happen to it and they leave me a horrible review saying this happens to the product not worth it or something :( I can't handle that right now or ever in my life could I ever faced such criticism.

[@AuntBeeDoesLife]

So I'm stuck on a loop because my body is weak and out of shape beyond physical therapy because they expect 10-20 reps of each exercise? Then turn to talk to colleagues while I painfully finish the reps asked to do and pushing past my limits so I can get better they should know what they are asking of me. Next day I stand corrected I wasn't in insurmountable pain NOW I am. So I quit. Time and time again. No one is in my corner keeping me on track they all have so many needs I'm pulled in so many directions idk which way is up anymore. Lil time to focus on me with all that going on and I've spent all my spoons on them and have none left for me. So no self care for me and depression gets deeper. And pain reaches higher levels than imaginable. If pain is life I'm out. Now that I'm in my 40e they are now trying to say the pain is from age of yeah everyone old has pain just part of getting old I bet to differ this isn't aches and pains this is debilitating but since I'm in your office I guess clearly if I can do that it must not be so bad...but it took everything out of me to come. just done with judgmental doctors who chalk me into addict category but I wouldn't smoke if my pain was managed well. Managed so much that I get my life back and ability to do things I want to do like learn to belly dance and country dance a lot of different other dances too. Have a playlist of dances I want to learn matter of fact lol. Anyway. I'm not sure what the future holds for me. Might end up locked up permanently in the state hospital who knows. Maybe live in my car until I can figure it out but not having a home makes it difficult to get a job. And thefts happen and assaults happen murders happen. Idk my soon to be ex hubby is paying for two homes and utilities, working a lot. My oldest and his gf need jobs but my 19 yr old thinks he gonna find a 25 an hour stable 9-5 job straight out of highschool lol 🤣 holding out for that. And he made his girlfriend quit her job because safety issues arised at work for her. I need a job or my youtube to take off or twitch or craft personalized gifts for customers and fear the poor reviews. Idk what I'm doing where I'm going what my purpose is. People have expressed that my sharing my story is to get pity no it's to explain why I'm the way I am and what all I won't put up with and to hopefully touch someone into thinking hey I don't have it so bad I can face this if she faced that sort of thing. No pity party for me no thanks, I should write a book, but I have no happy ending awaiting my readers how much of a Debby downer am I?! Forget it until I find my niche and find my purpose and happiness I can't expose public to such a downer book. Not about that. My story shouldn't end here. No matter how much I want just this pain to end mentally and physically. New years couldn't come faster. Wish me luck 🤞!

[@Drew_1500]

Do you have financial fears when you’re a millionaire? Asking for a friend.

[@thisismyinferno]

Fear of losing it all once you have it.

[@AllThingsMoneyandTech]

I kind of think it’s funny she’s being interviewed on a KZbin channel but wouldn’t want her son to start one in order to make money. People can make money on KZbin it just takes work and knowledge.

[@ldebs7732]

Please, please... Get Selena Gomez

[@jtsjtsm7920]

Mayim, I appreciate you, but people still do work all the time to make it to a place in life where you have some breathing room in America. I don't think much has changed.