How to Use the 4 Steps of Dialectical Behavior Therapy | DBT PART 1

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Dialectical behavior therapy or DBT enables you to take back control of your emotions, avoid negative behavior and self sabotage, and improve your mood. The 4 steps (or modules) of dialectical behavior therapy empower you to do this through actionable, logical steps. In this eye-opening video of a MedCircle Live Class, triple board certified clinical and forensic neuropsychologist Dr. Judy ho walks through the 4 steps of dialectical behavior therapy and how to implement them.
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Acceptance and commitment therapy or ACT
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Somatic experiencing therapy
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[@mongoosecandice7402]

I actually already did the opposite technique today without realizing it before listening. Was so angry at my partner, and after taking a moment in our fight I went over and hugged him. It definitely led to a more peaceful tone.

[@JillianNoelle]

I like that. 😊

[@MGlyfe]

I love this so much… Opposite action and radical acceptance and 4 x 4-by-4 breathing… Keep on doing what you’re doing and don’t stop… I’m gonna leave my story right now… Miracles can happen because I’m a walking miracle… Hopefully we can talk…Up to Date, August 22..A lot of my knowledge has come through living it (TERROR/ below HELL- from the depression/ meth/ paranoia at a very high level according to my multiple doctors (I’m N:Ow sober from Alcohol and Crystal Meth for over 14 months and 17 days at this moment… Thanks to the moment/ moment help of CBT and DBT skills!! ALL of you that have been there for me throughout this whole crazy journey….(MENTAL ILLNESS/ Wellness (if your lucky and do the Work) Kaiser Facilities> I’ve visited, stayed at some of the following >Woodland Hills, downtown Los Angeles (51/50 stay), Simi Valley, Lancaster (multiple I.O.P’s= Intensive outpatient program), and that doesn’t count the olive view hospital in Sylmar ER/ 72 hour hold) I went to before I had Kaiser insurance) I’ve seen throughout my battle/ past 3.5 years) and not just reading a book on “how” it tells, which I do respect, but I’m uncommon amongst the common now, my goal is to be “uncommon amongst the Uncommon”- D Goggins, so I know ALL about true suffering and true PAIN/ Addiction/ Mental illness, because I live it on a moment to moment basis...but I also now know on the other side of true pain and suffering is this glorious life I N:Ow have (and will N:oW die for) and am becoming….(How Can I be of Service ?)💚

[@saiasdlalsdsk1203]

I love this so much

[@heiseili9279]

he would never let me. realized he was using bpd against me the whole time.

[@AriesFae]

Someone with BPD here! I've been in therapy for 8 years, and so I have a pretty vast knowledge on different types of therapy and am self aware and have learned a lot of techniques to deal with BPD. This specific type of therapy is exceedingly effective in treating BPD and I highly recommend it.

[@SnarlingMaiden]

Good! My husband is dealing with this, too. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this coming from experience.

[@Axawhh]

Hey, I'm sure my best friend has either bdp or bipolar, I think it might be bdp tho, and she's in no place to get help, her family neglects are and are the main cause of her trauma, she has no way to pay for therapy or for a diagnosis, how could I help her? Could I find any free online DBT anywhere? If anyone could help that'd be great. 🤍

[@nidaetoor7238]

Hi ! I have bpd And a long history of psychiatrist misdiagnosing me I live in pakistan and I have no idea where to get dbt from My therapist relies on me coming up with positivity n solutions I feel so lost

[@Axawhh]

@@nidaetoor7238 could I have your insta user to maybe contact you? Maybe you and my friend could talk bout it to each other and maybe you could give her some tips. I'm really scared for her, she seems like she wanna give up on life

[@cinnabeeze142]

would you say this video covers the skills that one would learn from a therapist? or at least the basics of dbt? I’ve been recently diagnosed & am on the hunt for some reliable resources

[@christchaik8317]

ACT & DBT are essentially all about accepting negative emotions, whereas CBT is self-gaslighting. I've grown to dislike the latter in time.

[@fairwearth690]

Me too. The only thing I liked about CBT was the mindfulness portion, but doesn't help prevent the severity of negative emotions that still comes and makes me feel like I haven't made any progress at all.

[@Pursuit4happiness]

I heard this was the issue for Avoidant personality disorder hmm 🤔 and it’s related to cptsd possible but so emdr and CPT .. if that it regarding the feelings? I had to make amends with feelings in learning what they are actually saying etc cerise what I thought before

[@MySpaceDxC_Suffo_AtTheGates]

I’m here because I’m splitting really bad.

[@spaceblank4258]

Thank you MedCircle! I will be signing up today! I have had BPD all my life. Your videos have helped me personally, and by extension, a number of friends who are near and dear to me- I can’t thank you enough! I still have a long way to go with my family but I’ll get there! xD I’m off to review my notes! Thank you so so much!

[@sandycandy2864]

She's wrong about DBT being a short term therapy. It's just the opposite.

[@susanjohnstone1975]

Yeah it is 12 - 18 months where I am from, sometimes longer. It's not short - term and it is intensive. It is not exactly what she said it is. I guess it varies from country to country though.

[@whyohwhy9679]

I have going to psychiatrists for many years and it was not until I got a therapist who used DBT that I made any improvement. My life has changed immensely and I feel SO much better. Previously diagnosed as bipolar but I knew that wasn't really right. Shrinks just want to give you a label and pills. Most therapists try to be helpful but yapping on about your feelings with no direction is just so frustrating. I give DBT a big thumbs up. 👍 👍👍💯

[@KatJ3st]

Shrinks have made a mess of things with BPD. They can't medicate it out of you so one decided I had bipolar instead and doped me out of my mind till another rescued me. The last one told me to get lost because she 'didn't do talk therapy'.

[@navneetchopra532]

These guys usually don't understand mind...just keen on feeding brain with pills. they have no right to be in the profession if they can't engage with psychological aspect deeply enough to at least make a correct diagnosis...!!

[@rosecrow810]

WhyOhWhy? I agree 100%. I was diagnosed with PTSD from severe bullying, and unprovoked physical violence. I received zero help from three different psychiatrists who just wanted to prescribe pharmaceuticals:-( CBT and DBT is where I FINALLY received much needed "relief".

[@thevirtualtraveler]

Totally agree. I was diagnosed BPD back in 1994, but it wasn't until 20 years later researching ADHD for my son when I stumbled across an article about the connections between adult women w/ ADHD & Depression that the pieces fell into place for me. I then had to self-advocate to get my correct diagnosis. Luckily DBT is helpful for dealing with many of the issues brought about by an undiagnosed Executive Functioning Disorder (AKA ADHD).

[@fatpinkteddy]

I have bpd and agree they just want to give you medication. Dbt is not offered in my area on the health system. I need to go private for it but it’s very expensive

[@cuemiku8084]

The host*-You were telling us to take what we learn and act upon it and im sitting here with my notepad the entire time 🤡✋

[@shellymiller4942]

DBT is an intense Therapy that takes lots of practice but is effective!

[@syria5796]

Can you please list the 4 strategies?

[@earthpearl3790]

May we be a little kinder to our pain, it has suffered a lot already. 🔆

[@kam0406]

I am praying that I can get a work book to work on this at home. I am in the US and do not have a way to pay for therapy. I am extremely distressed and recognize I need help, but I can't afford to seek it right now. I am so tired of what is going through my head all the time. I so badly want peace.

[@azzahanafi1392]

I totally understand as I feel the same ...all i do is listen to medcircle and buy books like recently bought some DPT workbooks. I know that the feelings are so strong when in crisis. So much pain and then the next day ...it can be like nothing happened. May we all feel peace and happinesss ..even if its once a day .thank you for sharing

[@lisalifeasiknowit6971]

I'll share this here in case anybody wants to do this. I freeze oranges and when I am agitated or have self harming thoughts, I squeeze frozen oranges. I keep them at home and work. It really helps during intense times.

[@MICHAELYEPES]

I squeeze oranges and drink orange juice when I'm thirsty.

[@carleighmiller542]

what about the frozen oranges helps??

[@marissakaus1]

They also taste really good when you eat them frozen lol

[@thevirtualtraveler]

When I was 18 I was diagnosed BPD b/c it was the closest diagnosis my doctors could find to shove me in. I then went through 6 months of DBT therapy back in it's infancy. It was helpful, but not life changing. (Wellbutrin was life changing). But all the puzzle pieces didn't fall into place until I was diagnosed ADHD 20 years later. The two share a lot of similarities, and go figure, undiagnosed illness tends to create depression. I guess my point is, DBT therapy can be helpful for both ADHD & BPD. And, if you are a woman diagnosed with one, double check the symptoms of the other to make sure it's not a better fit for your specific issues. (And, of course, discuss w/ your psychiatrist. Research and self-advocacy are good. Self-diagnosis not so much).

[@aussiegal7821]

I was diagnosed as bi-polar but have self diagnosed as a borderline dye to having tried so many meds over a 20 year period and them making me worse not better

[@kbaylor123]

me too but yeah, I have several BDP traits. either way, I'm going to use the workbook, can't hurt

[@heatherleepandaprincess2126]

Dr. Judy I am a huge fan of yours on your crime show but hands-down you have outdone yourself further and further with each video I have watched of you!! Thank you so much for sharing your great depth of knowledge and encouragement your caring approach you’re a complete understanding and validating back to whomever you’re addressing just thank you so much I would be so lucky to find someone that would come close to the realm of superiority that you exude to help me!!And Kyle I appreciate your openness your vulnerability and watching your growth due to the exquisite expertise of your wonderful guest speakers I appreciate you sharing your self your story hence helping us learn about ourselves at the same time!!

[@codacreator6162]

If you fear damaging your relationships when you're not in the "mood" to see your friends, it's impossible to overcome that fear in the moment. Especially when damage is real.

[@mafiawaffle1386]

I'm generally aggressive and just tell them to fuck off, that ends the situation but then it's just guilt instead

[@sf5823]

9:32 Utilising the wise mind, a balance between logic and emotional intelligence.

[@lindadunn8787]

Loving using listening to your video as an intentional "on the side" distraction while journaling. It's an adaptation bringing on happiness feelings and that is quite an accomplishment for which I am grateful. The past hour or so, listening to the video (on the side!) intentionally, I was able to identify participating in implementing components of the fruit of psychodynamic work, DBT, & ACT. WOW and thank you for providing this resource.

[@sheenascott5604]

28:00 he is telling the truth, they both are. They KNOW what they're talking about. Grounding and mindfulness techniques help me 10000%

[@projectqueen610]

5,4,3,2,1..I've naturally practiced the "opposite game" It not only changes my mood, but effects the other person.

[@ally126615]

How does DBT and CBT do for people with disassociation due to PTSD? I started EMDR and I'm so good at disassociation that we just can't get anywhere.

[@yoshitamaurya5623]

CBT is a tool used with other therapies.

[@guylamullins3602]

DBT combined with CBT takes a great deal of time practicing before it starts working, I did realize by using both that I have problems with sensory processing issues and test really high for Aspergers (high functioning autism/autism spectrum). I am using some hacks for sensory processing issues and it helps me get through being in public for short amounts of time. I also have CPTSD, major depression and BPD. Yes I’m messed up. I moved into the country where it’s quiet most of the time. By controlling the Aspergers/BPD issues I can start working on the PTSD. For me it’s all a balance. I have had to come to realize I just can’t do what many can do. If I go against the disability and who I am I have problems. Setting boundaries and learning to say no has helped. I’m learning about narcissistic personality disorder because I seem to have lived with a few people who are malignant narcissists and psychotics. I have to learn how to interact with these people in conjunction with who I am. I practice mindfulness with an app from the VA. I also practice hatha yoga. Being distracted and dissociating is ok. Don’t judge yourself, be gentle with yourself and realize it’s ok to be you. I’m 60. It took me 55 years to get to the point of a nervous breakdown. I think I did ok considering.

[@IAmDaDumb1]

I have seen DBT be useful for reducing disassociation and self-harm. I would recommend completing DBT before trying EMDR again. Typically, EMDR is not recommended/not effective for people with disassociation for the reason you just described.

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

Try Somatic Experiencing (SE) therapy

[@No_where_man-y6y]

Parent of a teen recently diagnosed with BPD. She is currently in outpatient. Which is great for her. I am wondering if there is a good support group for the parents of children with this diagnosis so we can also get some help? We feel alone and it’s been a little tough.

[@miriamadahan1730]

Kyle - you are the VERY BEST interviewer - so real, honest, open and caring! I just love watching you!

[@cathiequackenbush1888]

So true!! The way you interview is what caught me in the first place 3-4 yrs ago. Thank you so much!!

[@yanit75]

Same here.. he is also one of the reason why I keep watching MedCircle.. I like the way he is being authentic, just being himself, humbly confident...

[@alexandramn6734]

Maybe he's gay

[@syria5796]

@@yanit75 can you please list the 4 strategies?

[@Freaky7Kitten]

I'm on my own to do all the work & it's videos like this that are the most educational. Thank You For All Your Help

[@ASerranProductions]

Hey guys! I’ve been watching the live therapy sessions. I really feel like I’ve been able to benefit from the knowledge. Today I used the opposite strategy and it worked!

[@paulastella8268]

I have CPTSD, and I found being by myself all the time helps me tremendously. EMDR is the Gold Standard for CPTSD/ PTSD. This is an evidence based therapy,that works well I would never do anything else,because it works foe me,personally

[@petrairene]

The problem is, DBT is too technical. It's like "I have this problem", the answer is, "here, do that method", "apply xyz". That is just inhumane. Plus, some emotional reactions are just very appropriate. Like for example if you get angry or frightened when you are in an abusive situation. If you shut that reaction up with some kind of suppression method, you harm yourself more.

[@ellca6824]

DBT was developed as an intervention for those with borderline personality disorder. Often these people experience great distress and suffering in their lives which is why DBT is an effective treatment. For those who have experienced trauma, trauma-focused CBT or EDMR would be the go to therapy to address the underlying trauma rather than emotional dysregulation, as in DBT.

[@petrairene]

@@ellca6824 I know several people who were retraumatised by EMDR treatment.

[@Oilofmercy]

@@petrairene yes

[@charlieangkor8649]

Exactly. Borderline people are extremely allergic to emotional invalidation. I am afraid suppressing emotions and pretending we feel the other way just makes them feel even more invalidated by the whole world, so they may finally think "hey, let's finally go through the long-postponed suicide! The world is really an unbearable place when even a therapist cannot give me the emotional validation I crave and feel untolerable menal pain for not receiving". And then therapists wonder why Borderline Personality Disorder patients suicide on them.

[@petrairene]

@@charlieangkor8649 Exactly. A lot of people with Borderline, just with the other personality disorders get that way because their needs and emotions were constantly invalidated during childhood. So these massive emotional reactions are not in and by themselves inappropriate. Like in PTDS, when something even vaguely reminds of the traumatic situation, the emotional reaction becomes completely excessive. So maybe the amount of emotional reaction is excessive in a situation, or the situation is just very vaguely similar but in this case objectively not dangerous at all. But the traumatised part just simply can not discern between realy problematic, justifies action and looks just vaguely like a problematic situation from the past but is totally normal and harmless.

[@user-qk7yy8xi3q]

You look soooo handsome 😁😁😁😁 say hi to Dr Ramani love your content thankyou😊😊😊.

[@kathlynsteinman3599]

How much training did you have to complete before being able to use DBT in your practice? Your description of the different modules is excellent, also.

[@monicat101]

I’m so glad I found your channel, I write down notes from these videos to help me. Thank you.

[@yanitam1297]

Kyle you are Amazing! 🤗 Yes I must hold myself fully accountable to what actions I take from what's being given in this discussion you both are sharing with us. My action to participate in today will be 5,4,3,2,1 😉👌 And my future actions from this point on will be to focus on what,where and how I can implement the right therapy and treatment into my everyday life and habits. Thanks for pointing out in a straight forward manner that it has to start with what actions I must take and hold myself accountable in the present moment x 😉👌

[@beatapanek]

Thank you for this session. Dr Judy explains difficult concepts with such simplicity. also...I cant wait to face to face session :) Im not sure why...but maybe I just miss Callie the lab #essenceofpsychology

[@beatapanek]

and I like opposite action technique

[@mariafegonzales8420]

i love how you discuss topics such as this, thank you so much this is a great help for us mental health practitioners. God Bless Medcircle

[@kyleinnes4963]

I’m pretty sure my gf had undiagnosed bpd, we were together for a long time, we had issues it’s true but right at the end she completely spiralled out with drugs and lost her job and friends and started cheating on me with a drug addict which made me leave, now she’s got her self in a really hard place and doesn’t see any fault of her own, the job was too hard, I wasn’t affectionate enough, everyone’s being mean, so disturbing to see someone so smart and loving just lose it like that, I cry for her every day, I’m grieving for our 7 years together and I’m grieving the loss of her as a person

[@user95395]

Very similar situation for me

[@NattyByNature-]

I can relate, 1 year and 4 months I still grieve her. I hope she’s doing better

[@pamelamurphy77]

I'm one of those girls. I lost him because neither of us understood my bpd. I'm trying. I want to be better. I miss him. I'm trying so hard to fix myself.

[@soundautomatic1]

If you don't mind a personal question, when you say you cry for her everyday, it's that literal or metaphorical?

[@keiranmantellk]

Gotta love a pay wall

[@405OKCShiningOn]

Thank you!👍💛🌟💫 the 11.40 is so helpful in patience be patient for all.

[@sareetapradhan5915]

Thank you Dr.Judi ,u r beautiful so as ur explanation...Love and respect From Kathmandu Nepal.

[@sofiap6505]

I feel so excited to continue moving forward with my life after watching this! I took notes the whole time. Thank You MedCircle!

[@emilaubry6856]

Dr. Judy is truly an expert. I've never heard these DPT and ACT explained and contrasted so clearly. Thank you!

[@srolesen]

Lol she's a narc.

[@fugerudity]

great video but point for improvement to Kyle, you are very condascending to the listener. We would not be here if we do not want to make positive change in our life and in our clients if we are also fellow health professionals. Just a constructive critisism to improve future hosting skills. I am certain you wont take it the wrong way if you are authentic about self-improvement

[@adinubila]

glad the host gave his input midway - he is so right - we need to apply and practice the tips

[@cuemiku8084]

Yesss ikr he does be so out of timing

[@dotsyjmaher]

This sounds interesting..I had never heard of it. I started out with a SERIOUSLY abusive mother...and ended up having to take over the care of the family at 14..my father was overwhelmed..and other family members simply did not know how to handle her..Long story short it set me up for "helping" all kinds of crazy people..to my detriment.. Top that off with MAJOR disasters..my crazy mother FINALLY left .after driving my sister into a mental hospital, leaving my father and me to pick up the pieces... CRAZY MOTHER THEN decided to sell our house out from under us... It ACTUALLY is amazing I was very depressed a lot but kept caretaking and pushing forward... I was almost murdered to shut me up about patients murders by my husband and best friend while they were in med school.. I divorced him..survived..and was deprived of a settlement for testifying against him..( they got away with it) My ungrateful sisters stole my inheritance...just after I was nearly killed by a negligent employer.. Finish.... Seven years recovering from head and nerve injury.. I got wiped out in Katrina/Rita... Six months living in the destroyed house..3 years in FEMA trailers..finally got an apt and somewhat stable.. Had to work in a horrible place again...hit with BP oil spill.. Living in a recovering area after multiple disasters.. I FINALLY DECIDED TO JUST PRETEND I WAS OK .AND ENJOY MY PETS AND PLANTS INSPITE of living in what I call "the upiddy slum" It's a slum in an uppidy neighborhood...so it is iffy in many ways in a relatively safe neighborhood... But in 2017 I had a resurrgence of pain and crippling from the accident..and one by one the pets started going... SO.. NOW...Although I did ok for awhile I am now feeling helpless and hurt over the WAAAAAY BACK CHILD ABUSE... This sounds like it might work..THANK YOU!!!

[@randymao9133]

5 sights: cabinet, banana, microwave, trash can, and pillow. 4 sounds: AC unit, ac blowing vibration, airplane, and my door auto lock. 3 scents: my vanilla candle, my socks, the stinky pillows 2 touch: softness of my carpet and texture of my jean 1 taste: of 100% fresh squeezed orange juice that I bought yesterday.

[@sunset33533]

This pairs well with the mindfulness workbook "The Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels.

[@kam0406]

Thank you. I am trying to find something that can help me that will be cost effective.

[@ProbablePrime]

The definition segment here was quite frustrating. "So what is DBT?" Dr Judy: "So this lady invented it...here's some of her story of discovering it... etc etc." But with little actual definition. I appreciate the presentation of this information but I still have no idea what DBT is almost 10-20 minutes into the video.

[@charlieangkor8649]

As I understand it, DBT is a therapy originally invented for Borderline Personality Disorder. It emotionally validates these people, which is what they really crave and feel like the world doesn't give them. It means if you feel like bad, you accept you feel bad and no emotionally incompetent wanna-be-friend pops up to tell you that your feeling is wrong and you should feel good in that situation, just because he lacks empathy and cannot imagine that other people can feel different in a given situation from him. It's a fact you feel bad. If a neuroscientist placed an electrode on your bad-feeling neuron he would really see a strong signal on his oscilloscope. So there's no discussion about it. It's an objective fact that you feel bad. But the problem with BPD people is they developed behavioral techniques how to react to their emotions which are short sighted or not the best in their interest and their consequences are additional distress in their lifes so it's like a circle. So the DBT tries to educate them about other possible behaviours they can choose from, which are acceptable for them, but will lead to a better outcome. Like the DEAR MAN is I think a set of possible behaviours how to deal with people. You don't need to change your emotions you just widen the repertoire the palette of your possible behaviours you can choose from.

[@breanna8692]

@@charlieangkor8649 thank you! This was a very good explanation

[@nunyabidnis3815]

@@charlieangkor8649 That's the first I've heard of BPD not having empathy.

[@Megan6772]

@@charlieangkor8649 thank you so much. I relate verrrry much to the wanting validation and not receiving it from so called support. I think a lot of people who are narc abuse victims can relate or have gone through a unique loss or experience such as losing your mom at a you age, which was also my experience.

[@Broham.tar0]

She was explaining how it differs from cognitive behavior therapy which I appreciated as well. Dialectical behavior therapy is a series of treatments geared toward, as she mentioned, emotion dysregulation and distress tolerance to tolerate being present with their emotions. Think of the dialectical of dialectical behavior therapy as mutual interaction between what is referred to as reasonable mind, emotion mind, and wise mind to interact with ones own behavior through their emotions. That’s my reductive explanation. 🤙 Oh yeah and it is a combination of traditional western psychotherapy with eastern spiritual practices and is often a first step toward treatment with people who have experienced trauma in their lives.

[@v.v5834]

Is there any way to get in contact with Dr. Judy Ho or any professional for an online session where our real life issues can be be taken into consideration as per our life experiences. Or our queries about life experiences. Because sometimes we feel that we have accepted and overcome our all worst situations but our symptoms(pointed in your videos)/cases/life choices/mind doesn't say that we have overcomed and accepted. And in that case, we have nothing more, what we can do about it. So if there is any way(messages, chats, online, telephonic, video or by any means) where I can connect with your team. Then please help me out.

[@GuyYakobovitch]

I don't think MedCircle staff is able to go through KZbin's comments. I suggest you try going to their website and find their contact info.

[@annedahl720]

Strangely, the first question was very relevant to me - PDA and Alexithymia are fairly unknown by doctors so I was surprised and happy someone asked this question. Unfortunately when you answered the question about Alexithymia you did not take into consideration that the caller's child also has PDA which is Pathological Demand Avoidance. Distracting a child with PDA is almost impossible because they do not tolerate any demands or anything perceived as manipulation. I appreciate that you understand Alexithymia, but unfortunately it reinforced my belief that all of these therapies struggle when it comes to complex cases and can do more harm then good because often practitioners aren't able to personalize and accommodate the therapy to the patient.

[@denisekriel5892]

PDA not a well-known and you are right it does require a very tailored approach.

[@syria5796]

@@denisekriel5892 what are the rest of the Tips please

[@lucysilva2023]

Can a person in PTSD really tret themselves using DBT. If not how to access a therapist though MedCircle?

[@alysencameron361]

Rudolf Steiner was absolutely correct when he said the problem with the modern human is a lack of spirituality. Not religion, but spirituality. It teaches all of this and more.

[@jennybarker9374]

IS THERE A TREATMENT FOR NARCISSISTIC DISORDER FOR A STUBBORN 60 YEARS OLD OR IS IT TOO LATE?

[@sandraritchie6512]

Its never too late. While we have life ♡

[@2010mermaid]

Are there support groups for families dealing with a family member with BPD?

[@bookworm05234]

The opposite technique works best for me. I do like that one the most.

[@mycreativedesignsspace6739]

Soooo this doesn’t help me because I also have ADDH and can’t focus for an hour….

[@YessyFam]

Dr.Judi thank you so much for educating us.

[@tonyausten2168]

Kyle actually taking a bath while in depression HELPS alot lol

[@LawnBunny777]

I agree. I remember taking about four baths a day during a very deep depression.

[@tonyausten2168]

@@LawnBunny777Awesome. Thank you for sharing. Shower. Shower Shower i would say. It helps alot.

[@garrieleepeck8753]

Iv struggled this since 14 years old in britian im 47 now i still struggling tried for year in britian i have boardline lot other stuff its terrible in britian

[@hollystafford7665]

I actually really like the 5 4 3 2 1 and will definitely be trying it!! It sounds fun, intriguing and can most definitely help take myself out of whatever I've thinking/ feeling in a moment. I really don't like meditating and am horrible with the grounding/ breathing kind of ways to deal with my dysregulation and that's all I've ever really have been suggested so thank you!!! ❤🎉

[@asrexproductions]

I have this workbook, and it really is very helpful if DBT is your thing (how did I know DBT is my thing? I am very much a believer in "things are bad and that's okay / manageable" vs. "cheer up by just thinking good thoughts! You're wrong about things being bad!")

[@visionaryventures12]

“I have a human half (emotional) , you see… as well as an alien half (rational), submerged, constantly at war with each other. I survive it because my intelligence wins out over both. Makes them live together.” Spock in the Star Trek episode, “The Enemy Within”.

[@mrray5597]

This could help if diagnosed early, but I was 43 before that. This stuff is pointless to me as I learned to do this naturally to survive, and now this can never work. My underlying problem with learning from about 7 ish has yet to be identified and has been dismissed, and they will not test me for anything that could help, and this is in the UK.

[@narcabusevictimgermany9687]

I am a Borderliner and need to dig out my tool box again, being very triggered.

[@guylamullins3602]

I control the BPT and ASD by exercise. If I feel trapped and abandonment issues surface it makes me angry and scared at the same time. I know these thoughts are quite often false. Sitting still while I’m feeling the anxiety from these strong emotions doesn’t help. I go for a walk. I garden. I practice tai chi. Sometimes I just go for a drive and listen to metal. Megadeth helps with the anger issues.

[@earthpearl3790]

I never knew about Linehan’s mental health history! The story I’d been told in various Skills classes was she had a group of clients who were not responding to treatment and had a tendency towards self harming behaviors. As the story goes Linehan spent time at a Buddhist monastery where she learned about Mindfulness practice, which became the foundation of DBT. I love the work you guys are doing here! May we live with more acceptance and compassion. 🔆

[@narwhal9249]

I have BPD, I'm getting assessed for AVDP next month, and have an eating disorder. CBT has never worked for me no matter how much I try.) I went to a therapist for DBT, but it ended up being just talk therapy. Thanks for the info!

[@TopperPenquin]

You swat March Flies collect them in a road side can dig up some ground water pour it into the can light a stick fire boil it then drink the whole lot. Yum!!! not Yikes!!!

[@malkaa4287]

Thank you so much Dr. Judy and Kyle it's very helpful 😊

[@kathlynsteinman3599]

How much training did you have to complete before being able to use DBT in your practice? Your description of the different modules is excellent, also.

[@RazakhanOfficial]

Thank you so much most of the people need this therapy thank for guid us

[@405OKCShiningOn]

Thank you Kyle and Dr Judy. I have been listening for a long time. I apply and listen here for comfort/ healing here in conjunction with treatment, therapy and meds. Psych 2 go, school of life, Dr Ramani. Thank you KZbin. Gratitude. 💛👍🎨✨🌈

[@diamondgoldenblackmore408]

Nothing Is Wrong .. Being A Narcissist 🐾 Just We Are Not Saints 🙄😃Not Perfect. Leave the Person Alone ..if They Break You Down .while you Are Another Kind🐾Of Narc. goodbye..💯🎈👁️👅👁️👄🖕

[@unity6906]

Talking a lot but saying nothing. This did not have enough specific information.

[@sarahholland2600]

4 different coping techniques/strategies were explained & outlined. Did you want a psych textbook explanation of BPD with graphs & research studies? Because that's not what it was about.

[@karyntownsend]

You guys are lifesavers, all the way over here in, Denmark 🇩🇰 K. Karyn xxx

[@sohollysings]

thank you for keeping us accountable! i’m going to do the 54321 activity today :)

[@kbmrigveda5419]

In essence: DO THE WORK. Thank You.

[@richardfeit8296]

Very good introduction to DBTmCBT, And ACT. Thank you.

[@shelbyburnette3609]

Can DBT help with alcohol addiction? Or addiction in general?

[@GuyYakobovitch]

Yes it can. In fact, there is a specialized DBT for addictions, which is a major part of Marsha Lineham's (developer) work in the recent years, and is proven to be effective through scientific study.

[@andycodling2512]

When a child is in a state would movement or dance not be a good way to expell that energy

[@JustinGreek-b4g]

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[@amypola5903]

Kyle. Magnesium is needed to make GABA. Get off soy, and on greens.

[@Brokenkingpins]

I hate the host. None of the 3 techniques will assist me in my disdain for this useless waste.

[@lintarg6639]

She's so good!

[@majatooks4010]

I have bpd I need help with that , but no insurance, how I can get help🥺

[@taanyahleecat8090]

I need several types of therapy and this is one, and EVERYTIME I try to learn about it too apply it, I'm bored. I check out an cannot find it's value. What's that about?

[@inventorium8027]

Your assumption that analyzing brings results seems not right. Instead, I propose synthesizing a multidisciplinary approach for better results. Treating symptoms must supersede eliminating the root causes! Today's science is handed down from generation to generation. Rishi craft is different. One Rishi has seen and interpreted the subject as an individual. So modern science remains as a convention only. Buddhism is put in the wrong cluster, according to western classification. But it is also a moral guide and an applied philosophy.

[@claraserna9377]

Thank you for making these videos! Huge help 👍🙏

[@MsAnchovey]

Does she demo how to do these therapies on this video or just discussing them?

[@DonnaHarrison-j1c]

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[@EE-bg1de]

5, 4, 3, 2, 1 METHOD WORKS. Really has helped me get control of my thoughts.

[@center08]

There's a form of DBT called RO DBT (Radically Open DBT). It addresses excessive self-control (overcontrolled) behaviors. It was developed by Dr. Thomas Lynch.

[@supersaiyan8437]

And...?

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[@oddweed]

Kyle. Are you doing ok?

[@inventorium8027]

if you work on the premise that thought=deed, you can also interpret it action start with righteous thought. if the assumption is right thought=deed. The universe is a construct of the mind. If the assumption is a wrong and success is not possible!

[@LongJourneys]

I have CPTSD...traumatic childhood, spent 6 years in the military, then 6 years in prison - I developed a dissociative disorder and extreme ahedonia/depression. I'm hoping DBT can help me.

[@EgawaFigueroas]

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[@stella3551]

I will do the opposite action method

[@candice3897]

My granddaughter is in Wauwatosa psychiatric hospital. Comming home till she can get in treatment. I am taking her to this hospital mon_fri 8a-2p for DBT treatment. She tried suicide 2 times in 10 days. I need to help her. What can grandma do?

[@adimeter]

I clicked on 'dislike'. I don't fully understand it. it may be very good, but it doesn't sound as right for me as 'inner childhood trauma'. so it's not totally a dislike, probably more of an 'oh, idk about this stuff. Bless you & those who are helped by this type of therapy--maybe me also, someday.

[@johnreed2272]

Undiagnosed however, increasingly obvious emotional dysregulation. I love all three ideas, today i will try 5,4,3,2,1. When I have a moment of despair, i will try the opposite one!

[@sleeplesscrafter]

Mindfulness and grounding does not help me at all. If anything, it makes me more anxious, unfortunately. As for opposite technique, I remember reading something about acting out as if something exciting just happened, like winning the lottery. I tried it once, jumping up and down and hollering in excitement. It actually helped, but can only happen while alone or people will think I’m crazy. As for cravings, oftentimes I’ll drink some water, sometimes with lemon and stevia, and the craving will pass. My husband has a really hard time with cravings. He’ll eat 4 big cinnamon rolls and I’ll just be like, I can’t believe he ate all that! I can barely eat half of one. That’s probably why I’m not overweight but he is obese-something he’s struggled with his whole adult life. Setting boundaries with someone who is easily offended, like she said “if you behave this way, I’ll leave early,” could easily cause an argument right then and there. I have found that most people that you need to set boundaries with don’t react well at all to boundaries.

[@caliblue2]

All valuable information but I do think these modalities would have more meaning to patients if a spiritual context was also taught. Humans are the ones who’ve separated our energetic connections and expenditures into 2 modalities of science and spirituality- in reality they are one and the division creates a lack of real meaning.

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[@tanyabaker4809]

I'm kind of confused about membership. Can someone explain it to me? I know this video is 2 years old so I may not get an answer but thought I'd try. 😊

[@Grace4ever22]

What are the PAIN points in your life?