This One Brain Hack Backed By Science Will Change Your Life. Here's How | Mel Robbins

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Mel Robbins explains the science behind The 5 Second Rule, a form of metacognition that beats every trick your brain plays on you to cause hesitation, overwhelm, procrastination, and overthinking.
Mel discusses the five research-backed principles you must master in order to redirect your thoughts, take control of your mind, and unlock the power of your decisions.
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[@krissy7342]

After watching Mel’s videos, I’ve been self observing and realize just how much my procrastination/fear/doubt has been dominating me. I’ve been using the “5 second rule” and actually been slaying lately. Doing stuff I was so fearful of. Thus, becoming able to do the even “scarier” stuff. Thank you, Mel! Your videos are truly life-changing. 💖

[@n0rth1sland3r]

i thought the 5 second rule was when you dropped food on the floor.

[@Huang59]

J. M. I thought so too. but not suprised because human like to make up all kinds of rules.

[@harveyg5207]

J. M. That should be the analogy, either to decide to eat or not in 5 seconds!

[@smartcatcollarproject5699]

I thought that too, but try to get your soup back in 5 seconds ! No way, food is the 5 minutes rule...

[@bajan13ken]

or, faith is like food for the mind, but only if it is planted, and grows into fruitful activity. This isn't really new knowledge, but it should be said in as many ways as possible until it becomes common knowledge (again).

[@SK-hl4tw]

J. M. killed me 😂😂😂

[@Kriksis99]

This is the reason i love psychology... one of the only subjects i paid attention to and felt focus, because i love improving my life and this takes it to a whole another level. This is THE MOST important thing i have heard in my entire life. Never in my wildest dreams i would think it would take 5 seconds to change my life. Thank you Mel!❤️

[@juanlaino9893]

I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. kzbin.infoUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!

[@palcsoke]

I love how she pronounced "Csikszentmihályi" perfectly.😊

[@faceyourfears2248]

hi Mel you probably won't read this. But HEY! you just might. just wanted to say WOW. i came across you on facebook yesterday and ive been hooked to your philosophy and content. i absoloutely love your work and your sense of humour. you ARE an inspiration. thank you thank you thank you

[@AdesivoColado]

FaceYourFears I just feel the same.

[@canaldeautoayuda6089]

People who have hate in their hearts will in turn spew hatefult comments, people who have hope , even in the midst of their pain, will always be grateful for coming across anything that will make them better....Thank you Ms Mel for all you do for us

[@meonly2430]

i had anger problems wich was the main problem in my life and the reason why I failed from doing anything good and the 5 second rule helped me a lot i became a calm person and this changed everything in my life I'm eating less , losing weight , getting better sleep at night , waking up earlier , working out and I'm sure that I'm not far from getting my dream job .. thanks God bless you

[@msl5131]

LOL

[@anitadiaz733]

keep on the good work.

[@ruthmacclure609]

Hey m grand well done you! I'm busy working on myself too

[@Micro776]

This women changed my life forever thanks dr

[@TimPerry]

Interesting. I've been counting to 12 since I was a kid to help me get out of the shower / out of bed. Counting down makes more sense as a psychological trigger. I will start applying this more mindfully to reduce procrastination in general.

[@RamanKumar-SoloExplorer]

Dear Mel Robbins Thank you, for Teaching us about Brain Growth and How To Develop it More The way everyone treated me since my childhood, i always felt like a Victim because of Perception of somebody else people Like me will Always Love you and Respect You Thanks Sincerely Raman

[@hsemu316]

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[@hopemachine5578]

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[@hopemachine5578]

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[@hsemu316]

snehal dubey I am 100% sure this course will change your life forever. All the best.

[@DavidGentile89]

God it's so simple, yet so powerful! I've always struggled with actually acting - great with goals (oh buddy let me tell ya the plans I've got...) - shit at execution. Cue doubt, self-depreciation, depression, find new motivation, set new goals, repeat downward spiral, etc etc... Some people can achieve great things on passion alone. When you've built as many 'failure-loops' as I have, I self-sabotage myself before I can get started. But everything great was built one bit at a time. It's cutting through the doubt, the past, the physical pain of starting that moves me towards my goals. The 5 second rule is incredible in how it cuts through all the bullshit. I literally feel my mind reset and focus on what I need to do. Thank you Mel for this life-changing advice. Although it's not new it takes someone like yourself to make the message loud and clear for others to follow.

[@Nightbird.]

And then there's the Eastern philosophy that you are where you're supposed to be. That instead of putting yourself down for not achieving what you wanted..you should be happy to be where you are at because nothing is guaranteed in life..and maybe those things you wanted so badly were actually not good for you..and something deep inside you stopped you for a reason. The guy who always wanted to be millionaire and finally makes it happen..and then ends up dying from crashing his new Ferrari. Or the beautiful woman who finally moves to LA to pursue acting..only to find herself only getting small parts which never pay the bills..and she ends up doing porn just to survive..which then kills her legitimate acting career and ruins her life. And so on..and so on. So the moral of this is instead of looking at your life as a series of failures because of what you haven't accomplished..look at it as a series of accomplishments and that you are doing well even if your not meeting all the goals you have always wanted. And that maybe..the reason you haven't met the goals isn't because of fear..but because deep inside you know they are not good for you. Or..just be happy where you are at in life..and look for the positive in it..instead of feeling you are missing out on a greater purpose.

[@2112Armand]

That's key, cutting through the BS. You just got past the hardest part. That 'one break' that may help if we don't over think holes in it first. You gave yourself that break, you skipped over it. You acted on what you knew was best for you. Run like hell with it for all it's got. It gets better and better everyday, with any effort. New directions and new things to learn, better tools to build with. I'm glad for you. Oh, just a suggestion; The pain from all the bullshit and bad shit fades some with time but the wounds won't heal until you treat them. They're there and hold you back even you ignore them. jus sayin. Faster Tapping is great, simplified and not dragged out or just about selling books. Peace&Grace

[@Nightbird.]

+Armand Grimaud - And then there are all the people who don't overthink things and end up dead. And for whom overthinking would have helped..not hurt them. Personally..I find there is no such thing as "overthinking" something. But I do find plenty of examples of people just following their impulses and ending up in very bad positions or just plain dead. Some of the greatest inventors of our time..Tesla and Edison..were famous for overthinking even the simplest things. And just look at what they created. Remember my friend: The woman in this video is just one of a long line of people selling an idea..a product..and merchandise. They are not doing this out of the kindness of their hearts..or out of some altruistic reason. If they were..the information would be free..as the information that comes from the Dalai Lama for example..and the books the Dalai Lama sells are just compiled info from his free speeches..and all profits go to charity. Every year a new person comes out with "important and life changing information"..and this woman is just one of them. But the real info to change your life is free..and is available in most libraries..both physical and online..and in the words of our elders, grandparents, and the world around us..if we would only open our hearts as well as our ears.

[@2112Armand]

I should have quoted Emerson instead: "Trust thyself every heart vibrates to that iron string." 'Props' on your efforts and progress. I meant no judgement towards you. Best if l had kept to myself. I apologize.

[@alexk48]

@@Nightbird. you left out that Edison and Tesla also acted. Repeatedly. They never just thought about it and then stopped.

[@born2rule9]

stop scrolling on video comment... listen her carefully

[@dr.rasyal3134]

thanks bro...

[@furkanakcakaya9443]

thank you dude

[@Malak-ox1oh]

Brilliant! !

[@michellefaler4787]

Good point. I'll scroll back up and replay it. Thanks for the simple yet much needed advice. :)

[@KarenAllisonrc]

😊

[@nicolepeters6719]

It works, it works, it works. This absolutely works.!!!!! Never realized that I procrastinated so much. This rule heightened my awareness to my own thought processes. Lots of work to do but thank God for Mel Robbins.

[@anitadiaz733]

Nicole Peters you better thank her

[@sinandeger72]

I was in a bad place in life, had bad habits and i was very lost had no direction and hated myself. Then one day I came across your video on u tube. OMG I used your 5 second rule and it changed everything. First time in a long time I like the person I see in the mirror. Gave up all my bad habits and accomplished alot in such a short time. I also read your book it was fantastic. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@Kyoto99952]

I've spent so many hours consuming self-help material on KZbin and this video is definitely in my top 3 most favorite. I come back here frequently.

[@christyclayton5282]

I watched you on another video Mel in a sit down video on a pod cast. Your story is very motivational. I think that it is beautiful that you had the realization of how this idea changed your life, and then were able to back track it to find out the science behind it and use that to help other people with it. Your story alone is extremely inspiring. This "click" in thinking can truly be life changing! Thank you for your thoughts and your efforts to share this with other people in such a positive way!

[@statuson3455]

Just read your book and got some pages hanging in my room... Mel you really help me to wake up every morning and to run the day instead of letting the day run me ...

[@6thMessenger]

Mel, I first heard about you on TED talks. "How to stop screwing yourself over" was motivational and life changing. I quit my corporate job and started my own business this year. It's been a struggle financially but I am happy. I don't feel like I am moping through life. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and for making the world a better place.

[@eeezzy]

Thank you. I've been suicidal for 2 years and have managed to make a mess of just about everything. I have gone from being a respected successful person to a shell of same. Your video helped me today. I wanted to thank you for taking the time to put it online and imagine it has helped many, of which I hope you are rightly proud. It will help me on my road to recovery and I expect I will watch it many more times. Kind regards.

[@YNYNYNYNYNYN]

How's things been Michael. I'm sure you're living a completely new life?

[@JonathanBaileyn2u]

First, I would like to say, Congratulations. Creating a concept around the pseudo psychology in a 5-second rule is Genius!! Also, your youtube videos are inspiring; the way your personal story shines through on the advertising of the book!! I tip my hat. Thank you for such a great experience. I hope now with your book and my subscription.. I can get through a few of these humps.

[@iNicky777]

I actually started doing this way before I heard of this. But I'm usually counting to 3. Whenever I'm afraid of doing something I try to force myself by counting to 3 and doing it. For example I was always afraid of speaking infront of a big group of people, or asking questions during class and I thought myself to overcome those fears by forcing myself to do those things. It also helped me with my singing and preforming infront of crowds and when talking to boys etc etc. Very good life trick. Whenever you have a good idea act upon it, don't let fear stop you.

[@WizardOfAg]

I bought this book a couple of years ago on a digital platform. Changed my life, it kicked me out of bad habits, two promotions later I still come back to when I need it.

[@gabrielrodriguez7107]

Dear Mel Robins, I loved your Ted Talk and even sent the video to my boss and he loved it as well. I am currently beginning to change my habits in many aspects of my life and starting to see results!! I have a long way to go. Thank you for all your inspirational words. They mean so much to me.

[@sridattachatterjee2711]

U are my idol, Mel! I am practicing the 5 sec rule. Its just awesome!

[@guyyagishalter]

Dear Mel , love your inspiring work. This is by far , the best Video you have ever made. the principals explained by you are just spot on. its perfectly done! love it ! i'm going to share it with my all friends and colleagues. Oh yes , and thank you for sharing with us the 5 Second Rule :) Grateful Guy , Israel.

[@alaalfa8839]

One of my rule is drink more water, because organs of body need hydratation for function to digest food or to work...and its also prevention, it helps focus, while you drink water you interrupt the noise in head.

[@KarinaSwan]

I came across this video at the right moment, I was really overwhelmed emotionally over financial situation today... and over the last couple of years together with other life things that are frustrating. And all I wanted to do is just stay in bed and do nothing and talk to no one, even though I would literally push myself to do something I felt like I was dragging and not much was changing, except more self criticism. I know all the right ways to do things in life, but I cannot bring myself to do it in the right way, due to everything mentioned here. Also, mostly because a few years ago, someone imprinted the self doubt in my brain. From then on it just kept going down with more fears created by me, which led me to a really miserable place. I think this should help change that. Thank you!

[@zennologyofeverything7265]

subscribed. thank you so much for the concise and clear information. greetings from the Netherlands

[@ilustrado7291]

Mel Robbins is my mom. Tony Robbins is my dad. I'm healed.

[@AdesivoColado]

I'm Brazilian. English language is so hard. I bought the audiobook version. That was a challenge to me. However your voice is so clear that I could understand 95% of the content. Great tips. Great book. While I learned a lot of things about how to change my life, I could force myself to learn English. Thank you!

[@acounsellor4623]

Thank you for being here and speaking up on KZbin helping people!!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

[@LjubavLove3]

This really helps me!!! Life changing! Thank you!!!

[@techtonic3430]

nice

[@kebogarin]

Reminds of the saying, "Actions speak louder than words."

[@divinadivina2017]

think twice, how about the thoughts and inner/self-talk? you don't see a good part of thoughts running behind the scenes but they do limit your life in many ways (limiting beliefs). And the words that you tell yourself?

[@JACOPO.OFFICIEL]

I'm on meds for G.A.D. and Chronic depression (dysthymia) they help, I would never stop them but I was naïve and thought they would solve ALL my problems and of course they don't. I'm going to give the 5 seconds rule a try because that's the only thing left for me to try (goddam hope it works for real !!)

[@pinaakee.TheKeyTree]

this is what i needed this very moment. i had been feeling so hopeless and then i just grabbed my phone, opened youtube...and this video showed up !!

[@SeanLei]

*Woah Mel cited a principle from my social psychology professor at UVA!* I didn't realize how legendary he was in the psychology realm.

[@Nightbird.]

Thinking for more than 5 seconds has kept me alive..while many around me ended up dead. It has taught me to not jump to conclusions..because it is easy to misjudge when doing it quickly. It has taught me in a world full of negative, judgemental and harmful people to be careful..assess your surroundings and those around you..and always have an escape plan in life..no matter the situation..which of course requires thinking for more than 5 seconds. I appreciate your message here..but it doesn't resound with me..and isn't for everyone.

[@fighterflight2492]

this rule isn’t about skipping thinking it’s about taking action

[@alexk48]

You seem to have missed her whole point. She's talking about NOT giving in to impulses. Not acting on urges. Whether you have a habit of flying off the cuff and shooting off your mouth or being paralyzed by worry, Recognize the habits/patterns. One knows what one should do instead. When the trigger appears 5 4 3 2 1 to take the desired action. That might be think first or get off your ass.

[@Nightbird.]

@@alexk48 "When the trigger appears 5 4 3 2 1 to take the desired action." You are saying the same thing she said..which is take 5 seconds before doing something. Which means I didn't miss her point. You missed mine. My point was that it normally takes more than 5 seconds to make the best decision possible.

[@mahooshahriari4449]

The 5 Second Rule works. I happened to know about it last night. I used the 5 Second Rule this morning at 6:15 am, by walking to Grocery store with my dog, 30 minutes each way to buy Milk before my son wakes up. It worked. I could have drive car. This way we both exercised for about 60 minutes.

[@phamlaiviet7]

Your accent is great. I'm not very good at English but I understand all the ideas in this video somehow. In a simple way, you easily spread the knowledge for me to apply to life. Thank you from Vietnam.

[@Psanii]

She kinda looks like J.K Rowling

[@borisbeverton5998]

Unless you look at her bank account, then not so much.

[@ruthmacclure609]

She really does

[@kellyann5388]

Mel is smarter and far less annoying though.

[@mrpsycholeojoey87]

Agreed. She actually looks more like Ellen Barkin. God Bless.

[@TheNefastor]

Except _her_ magic tricks actually work.

[@WhenWonderWanders]

Pretty interesting topic. A little apprehensive as how it's presented as such a simple panacea for success. My experience is that this sort of hype is usually inflated and outstanding results will require outstanding efforts.

[@Terryblerwe]

Tim Moody Don't give up Tim. I dig it, the initial apprehension. I'll say this: 1) The truth is you won't change your brain and life in practicing this 5-second ritual ONE Time. You WIN THE GAME when you do what others call Habit Stacking. The 5-second rule helps you take back control in that moment. The repeated actions change your life. 2) As Levarr Burton also said at the end of Reading Rainbow (paraphrasingly), "You Don't Have to Take Her Word For It"! Test it like a scientist or skeptic. Prove that apprehension wrong. Or... If it doesn't work, tell everybody all the variables that made it fail. Wishing you all the best. (Side Note: I do not work for Mel. Never heard her speak before this video. Was skeptical of the "title" alone when Lewis Howes had her on his podcast recently. This video cleared up my initial thoughts.)

[@MNkno]

Tim, I share your apprehension. Today's the anniversary of the Tohoku Earthquake, and feeling that you're in control of EVERYTHING in your life is sheer foolishness in the face of events like that one. What is needed is the impulse to look at any situation with an eye to identifying what you CAN control, and working on that. The idea that you have to stop thinking and act immediately also seems overstated: it seems to favor unplanned impulsive acts. Setting limits on thinking before taking action seems to be more sensible than banning any thought before acting on impulse...

[@SoulfulVeg]

Tim Moody I was one if the most neurotic people I've met. I just decided to start facing my fears a phobias. It really worked for me, thought it was VERY uncomfortable. But now I'm pretty proud of myself.

[@youdontneedtoreadthis]

Tim Moody outstanding understanding is what it requires

[@WhenWonderWanders]

SoulfulVeg You don't have to sell me on the benefits of facing fears, I just don't know how much tye 5 second rules would help with that but I will try to work it into my life more and see what happens. It looks like some really great stories have come out of it so far.

[@mlcampbell64]

Mel. This is great. Please keep going and be encouraged! Love your energy.

[@cmcherry65]

Saw your interview with Tom Bilyeu it was just incredible. Analyzing and hearing the whole thing i wana ask about activation energy. i know its very hard to kick start towards your dream and requires a huge amount of energy to break all the barriers and get through it but what about maintaining it. Its more hard to maintain that consistency through out. So how to achieve that thing? Can you share something on this? Waiting for your precious words

[@reneezaia]

Love this. Thanks Mel! On a side note Janet Jackson has the five second count down in the intro to her song Rhythm Nation. 😁

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Renee,you are absolutely gorgeous 💓❤🌹and I will be glad to know you

[@rupkathadas4131]

Mel, I love you! Thank you so much for teaching me how to take control of my life using the 5 second rule. It's so simple yet powerful. You don't know how grateful I am to you for this. Thanks again. Best wishes

[@mirandahostens847]

I've been doing the 5 second rule for a few days now and it works like hell. No excuses any more for: * not going out for a run * switch of my mobile in the evening * get out of bed asap * not play with the dogs in the morning (yes they love that) And the best one... calm down IMMEDIATELY

[@happyme9010]

I'm so depressed and scared I had to change the 5 second rule to the 10 second rule so I have more time to get out of my negative thoughts or move my body. My body and brain is slowed from depression so maybe when I'm feeling better I can speed up to 5 seconds! For now I'll keep using my adapted 10 seconds.

[@cpunykurde]

I also have the impression, that 5 seconds is not enough... It can become just an automatic sequence of sounds, while for 10s you need to use your mind a bit more. I want to try counting in another language too. It should keep the mind fully busy at this time.

[@ingomanz8325]

Depression is hidden behind emotional suppression. Releasing negative emotions will offer you much relief.

[@alexk48]

Sounds like a great adaptation. If you're slowed down from depression or chronic procrastination 10 seconds may build up to getting more energized.

[@surgewisdom514]

5-4-3-2-1 going to try it

[@chicatube]

I've just discovered you today and I think the way you present and speak is so refreshing.👍

[@kelwininkwel9207]

Thank you so so much I've been sharing your 5 - rule interview with my friends and family. Change is happening in my community.. Thank you!!

[@einsteinzvice517]

I am wondering how to separate using "The 5 Sec. Rule" from just being "impulsive" and making mistakes caused by impulsivity?

[@terrymcnickle332]

apply it to what 'is known' by you already, ie: something you have been procrastinating on before, not on any and every thought or idea that pops into your wee head. Discernment is what Mel forgets to mention into the video

[@lostinmelody1714]

i hate people talking too much. i appreciate it alot when they get to tge point.

[@taoist32]

Sky Walker takes her thirteen minutes of an edited video to talk vague psychological principles about a rule that takes five seconds to explain.

[@dougefresh133]

Sky Walker Duly noted.:D

[@ruthmacclure609]

@@taoist32 I think she's great and take on board everything she says!

[@taoist32]

Ruth MacClure She explains very well, but her explanation could be even shorter and still get the point across. Is the point of the video to talk vaguely about the 5 second rule for thirteen minutes? All she has to do is give one or two examples of how the 5 second rule works. When you wake up in the morning with the alarm clock, get up within five seconds or you will be lazy. 5,4,3,2,1... If you want better grades. Study. 5,4,3,2,1... it’s basically telling yourself to choose the action you know is good for you.

[@ILLORYS]

Its uncredible to hear that you mention a half hungarian and half american man. Csikszentmihályi Mihály. 1st i thought i heard it wrong. Im so proud of my country! Im hungarian too and im 22 years old. I love to hear your thoughts and lessons. You gave me hope when i was down. I have goals again in life and im not scared anymore to follow my dreams! I needed you and im lucky to found you 2 days ago, Thank you!

[@Kathrynh246]

You are amazing!!! Ordered your book. I’ve been up for 5 min and counted backwards about 3 times already. I just yesterday wrote “stay in motion”. I pause all day long. I bet I waste 5 hours a day doing nothing. This is exactly what I needed!!!!!

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Kathysbeauty, you are so beautiful 💓💓❤🌹and I will be glad to know you

[@janetschildkamp2109]

So…when you want to lay down instead of clearheaded bathroom…just count to 5. And then clean the bathroom. Am I on the track or not?

[@MusicandSoul]

Interesting, music is also very powerful and can hack the brain.

[@SilatShooter]

This is a GREAT CONCISE 12 minute investment in making changes in your life! Very Helpful! Thank you!

[@taoist32]

Zeus Shama she could have shortened this video to 3-5 minutes and still get the point across.

[@krymyst8091]

Working on my Mindset Reset plan and this really "activated" my brain. Thank you!

[@bdotdilla]

Mel First of all, I just want to say thank you so much for sharing this knowledge with the world. I first heard of you recently on Impact Theory and I really gravitated towards your message. What really stood out for me was when you spoke about how you start off your day. That's something I had been really struggling with, I've been using your technique for the last week and it's really lifted my mood throughout the day. I was always writing to do lists and putting all this unnecessary pressure on myself to get these things done. Once I focused on 1 or 2 things a day I found myself doing a lot more than I thought. Keep putting out this content! It's great stuff and a good way to give us a sneak peak of what's in your book. I can't wait to purchase it! :)

[@manashdatta6487]

moral of the story : just do it now . stop the video .

[@playgrounddolls7766]

Nightbird switch off animal planet on flatscreen.

[@bobstark9541]

Lemurs?

[@careym85]

no one tells me what to do!! ... no even me!

[@flickwtchr]

The moral of the story is, you think you know everything, but you don't.

[@robertapascal6962]

Can’t I’m at work.

[@blueshadow3499]

What is mean by locus? Is that available in wallmart?

[@nikkimoney3062]

Blue Shadow lol

[@sundeepsethi4950]

Thank you ... "stop thinking and start doing " , You are awesome Mel

[@rudysanchez9236]

Ms Mel, I just discovered you and all that you have to offer. You and your technics are a true Blessings. You have a new, loyal follower! Continued prosperity, health and never-ending Blessings to you and your family!

[@mutsvaiv]

The five second rule's locus of control philosophy is westernised and reductionist. Having an internal locus of control doesn't truly make you happy, but it may add more stress onto it, by trying to control things out of your own realm. Sometimes being in harmony with life circumstance (not matter how good or bad) depends on how you perceive it, affecting hapiness and fulfilment. Having a non-judgemental attitude is probably important in this. It's all down to perspective. One size doesn't fit all. Life is complex like that.

[@cmellowdee]

👏🏽 Thank you for saying this. Many things are relative. I have a friend who drives herself crazy thinking she could have done something to cause people's reactions or non-reactions. Instead of considering other factors at play she blames herself. Her internal locus of control is at max and I wouldn't consider her happy at all.

[@joeyppppppp2]

5 second rule don't work but it's making her rich ... Seriously I've tryied it and no !

[@winebox]

Its Me so far it’s helping me. There are other self help people that don’t do anything at all for me. Not everyone likes the same food same with advice.

[@fighterflight2492]

Uh no… you are being reductionist if you think the rule is for changing things outside your locus of control. It’s for changing only what we do control - our behavior. Just like the eastern philosophy you’re alluding to places emphasis on changing what we do control mentally i.e. perception . This is the behavioral version.

[@alexk48]

There's nothing wrong with westernized. And she never said anything about controlling anything outside of ones' self. Even when you've been victimized you can take control of how to respond to it.

[@highlight9014]

What is the five second rule!

[@BinuJasim]

Count 5, 4,3,2,1... I have a better rule. It is called 10 sec rule. Can you guess what it is?

[@hamedhaidari8658]

Count from 10 to 0 then sit da fuck down and continue bullshiting

[@tonyhypnosis]

What I like about Mel is she has a great voice, nice hair, and excellent techniques!

[@meenaljain_]

Madam Mel Robbins your rule is amazing I have just started using it and it really works and activates my brain to go and study ...thankyou.

[@purejoy6538]

This is in the Bhagavad Gita. As a Pisces Aquarius cusp I find it really hard not to overthink and/or respond emotionally to change.

[@anitadiaz733]

Pure Joy come on free yourself of those superstitions Its 2018

[@TheMrLappis]

You believe in all that shit? How does the position of planets millions of miles away that has NO EFFECT on the planet have anything to do with your mental and physical well being? Come on. Stop believing in that bullshit.

[@karenzhang1020]

I just started using this to get myself out in the bed, haha. I will keep using it to do more stuff...

[@pepro58]

Read the book and loved it. It helped me with the bias toward action - to stop thinking about things and doing something about them.

[@yoppysoleman9758]

Dear Mrs. Mel Robbins, Ph.D. The explanation you give especially about the procastination is very effective but still comprehensive. Psychological procrastinators like me are very grateful for the videos you share. GBU.

[@MrWeareone777]

Bloody hell. Didn't hear a word she said. To busy reading all the comments.

[@johokeen1]

MrWeareone777 ++ LOL😅 MEE too!

[@rubiyamdr8045]

J. Ho me three ha ha ha...

[@ssabri23]

all of you ,.. concentrate hahahahha

[@tarynbotes362]

MrWeareone777 same here

[@TheMrLappis]

This is super strange. I went up and started the video over, paused it, and returned to read the comments. Haha why is this happening to a lot of people?

[@MosiMusik]

8:22 His name was "Me High, chick sent me high" :)

[@nildacruzdiaz3981]

Very True I have applied it and have changed for the better. Thank you Mel Robbins!!

[@erikagabriel1]

5-4-3-2-1 Go! I'd just like to say thank you for your great book and your videos here on KZbin. I'm a big overthinker but until this time I couldn't realize how to stop the million thoughts and take the action instead in most of the cases. Now I understand what was wrong with me. Thank you again, and greetings from Hungary.

[@JohnM...]

yeah but, I still don't know what the 5 second rule is..

[@Blazekick]

count backwards from 5 to 1 and do whatever you NEED to do but dont WANT to do.............. I thought the video was pretty clear but apparently not.

[@fighterflight2492]

Count backwards from 5 then do it. Especially when it’s something to achieve your goals but you talk yourself out of it and make up excuses instead.

[@meh5069]

To summarize; just do it.

[@caribaez5711]

She talks so intellectually.. makes me want to keep listening to her..

[@stevecarter1673]

I am reminded of this being in a into to a band back in the sixties. "The time has come for each and everyone of you to decide whether you are going to be the problem or whether you are going to be the solution. You must choose brothers you must choose. It takes 5 seconds, 5 seconds of decision, 5 seconds to realize your purpose here on the planet, it takes 5 seconds to realize that its time to move, it's time to get down with it...."

[@sergiodavila5013]

I'm tired of being living in my own cage of FEAR, ANXIETY, and in PANIC at all times for so many years. Enough, enough is enough from this moment on I will deplete and defeat all that has punished me the most of my life. Fear, panic, anxiety. I said, NO MORE I LIVE IN THIS CAGE. I REFUSE TO CONTINUE LIVING Miserably LIKE THIS. I'm going to face and crash head on against my fear, panic, and anxiety. I'm not a cower any longer. I gave too much power to my fear, and this stops right now. Thanks to this powerful video that is giving me an incredible amount of power and advise to win. Thanks again.

[@jay_murs4508]

Get to the point in 5 sec. please!

[@brianbarber9766]

Your attention span is what's getting in your way. People are getting dumber and dumber, notice that at all? Break away from this trend.

[@fighterflight2492]

Um no we’re not so simple we can’t listen for more than 5 secs that’s sad.

[@Ma_Ba]

She's selling a book and hooking on newsletters.

[@skeche]

I needed money, within 5 seconds I decided to rob the bank, nek minute in jail.

[@priscilagarcia7576]

skeche "nek minute" 😂

[@warmaxxx]

no man bank too hard to rob try firwork store or some cold store with busted camera work make sure camera doesnt work n u good, i did it 3 times so far no problems stay low for awhile dont do it too often and try changing state that u do it in

[@BinuJasim]

Act immediately. That is the whole point.

[@Ornitorrincoso]

warmaxxx LOL

[@ahsanrasulkhanmahsud6240]

skeche next minute!!! See that's where u went wrong! U should've 5,4,3,2,1 VAMOOSE!😂😂😂😂😂

[@beverlyyoung4962]

Thank You for helping the people of world better understand themselves.

[@meirevisserman]

Awesome! Congrats from São Paulo. You are helping me a lot, thanks 😍💕

[@EvanCarmichael]

#Believe :)

[@arcadeparty4946]

Tony Robbins had it all wrong, everything doest change in an instant, it's actually 5 seconds.

[@srwhite1111]

Wow! Amazing how powerful the mesmerizing blue light(s) of distraction can be. This truly is one of the best videos I have ever seen which generated a tremendous spark within me. My eyes have been opened to several and I mean several anchors and hindrances of my own creation that I have been mired in for a long time. ( I haven't even read the book yet.) Thank you Mel. I appreciate you.

[@daniellechikavanga2067]

I love you Mel Robbins. Your videos are so inspiring!

[@LoraLovesIt]

This is a little bit of a double edged sword. I think it's healthy to have both confidence and faith in yourself but you also can't walk blindly into oncoming traffic. Living completely without fear of uncertainty is usually accompanied by extreme narcissism and why children today don't know how to fail and struggle without spiraling into extreme depression or needing to be rescued by their parents every month when their rent is due. That's all.

[@alexk48]

This is not advising to walk blindly into anything. Our habit of procrastinating and finding something more pleasurable to do is walking blindly and giving in to an impulse. It's also a way of developing very poor habits. This is about starting what you NEED to do instead of engaging in bad unproductive habits. Children who are taught the difference between want and need don't call home for rent. Eventually they want to do what they need to do and get a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment from doing so.

[@jimbalio]

Observe how Mel speaks in statements. When her intonation indicates that she is asking a question - it is because she is actually asking a question. Many people would do well to study her affect and mimic it. Nothing tells the world how unsure you are of yourself than continually inflecting your sentences as if posing a question. When people speak to me with the semi-permanent question inflection, I find myself not very interested in listening; The speaker clearly does not believe what they are saying..

[@schuftiandmunchkin]

I guess you've never been to Australia, then. Because we all speak as though we're asking a question...?

[@BlaireBustillo]

Thanks Mel for explaining this very well. I will apply what I've learned in this video. Have a lovely day today.

[@recoverywithlee2591]

Hi All! This works, as a person in recovery, combating limiting beleifs before they take hold, was key in keeping my head above the water. It is still a part of my life for other intentions and combating defeating patterns. This helps those I guide realize the power of choice of where we put our thoughts. TIP: 1. MAKE IT MANDATORY, to immediatley banish negative self talk with an affirmation you deserve happi ess. 2. TAKE ACTION, a small step, do a push up, breath deeply, call a friend, do one thing that is self serving! BEST PRACTICES and WISHES for us ALL!

[@jessiefox3739]

ADHD people are the most successful people in the world.

[@agee7777]

54321 im not buying the book!

[@taoist32]

adam garrett lol get it at the library. Read the contents. Skim each chapter at the beginning, middle, and ending. After five minutes put the book back on the shelf. You got all the info you need.

[@agee7777]

do libraries still exist?

[@444Lavanya]

Thanks Mel this is very well explained by you. One thing that works well for me is that when my mind is sure of doing THIS will give me THIS result, a new HABIT or any motivating OUTCOME then i get to do it well with much less resistance.

[@fernandatavaresbarcelos7760]

Love you Mel. Thanks a lot to help me!!

[@billstebler5686]

What?! It's a freaking commercial

[@ChanceBerryman]

why is your youtube avi sexy tho lmao?

[@TheCrazyCatHouse]

But all the info you need is the 12:54 minutes already. And KZbin is one huge commercial.... so what ?

[@mmekkeyah91]

Bill Stebler shit up Bill

[@fighterflight2492]

Oh nooo she wrote a book on it and she’s speaking on it. Heaven forbid!!!

[@sergyag1999]

You look like the psychologist of Lucifer

[@Busyfigureskating]

Awesome content, thank you, Mel! You're empowering and inspiring!👐🏻

[@lailaautomatic]

Mel you have mastered the art and science of explaining concepts in the most complicated way.

[@hossainmdabdullahal6517]

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