The Narcissists' Code: Episode 35- What happens when you discard a Narcissist. Self Aware Narc POV

[@whoisthisapril5672]

I was a housewife to a narcissist and when he said he was saving up to leave, i said ok bye he thought i would beg him to come back…nope! I went and got a job and now I’m making more an hour than him….God got me!!

[@tmc8398]

That's what I'm doing.

[@daughterofthemosthighgod1889]

Period🎯🎯

[@naomilou3267]

Amen girl 🙏🏾🙏🏾 power to ya

[@darkweblou1891]

Period!

[@expandhealthinc.1887]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@kylaren6337]

You know what’s funny? A narcissist never want to have a conversation until they get the boot or divorce papers.

[@ssj4dap]

So true.

[@adorewalker4866]

Facts

[@elhaanegeh2019]

Absolutely true.

[@cherylnorman40]

So true. They don’t want to hear why you want out.

[@bruji2001]

Ain’t that the truth🙌

[@laur131306]

One of my favorite quotes is " an apology without any changes is just manipulation". Thank you for all your priceless info!🖤

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you . appreciate it

[@dianevanderlinden3480]

yep. 'I'm sorry you feel that way.' Sounds like a typical customer service mind game.

[@laur131306]

@@dianevanderlinden3480 that saying really bothers me on a whole other level because not only is it classic manipulation, it's patronizing too. I'll never for the life of me understand why it's difficult to validate a differing opinion or feeling. It's so sad to me and not nice 😔

[@dianevanderlinden3480]

@@laur131306 yes. You almost expect it to be followed by some extremely condescending comment.

[@laur131306]

@@dianevanderlinden3480 exactly!! It's really saying "I feel sorry for you for how painfully dumb and wrong your feelings are". 🙄😂

[@elizabethbacon8550]

I left my ex Narc in May of 2020. He had no ideal that I was leaving him. I just quit talking to him and blocked him on all social media, changed my number and I moved. My life is so peaceful now.

[@MentalHealness]

congrats

[@ManjuKannan23]

Congratulations 🎉

[@MsK_byTheWay]

Best thing ever!

[@rpmcmurphey927]

❤

[@elvismujabi]

😘💕

[@racqueldillon3560]

I went no contact four years ago. When my father died he used the period of vulnerability to impose himself upon me. At my fathers funeral he said “you were right about everything and I’m sorry”. I said “I know” and walked away. no going back for me. I passed the point of no return long ago.

[@piapadmore430]

Eww. The level of smarm…at your dad’s funeral. 😖

[@monicathompson9751]

Great job on staying away from the demon!!!

[@melissajacuinde939]

Yes honey there’s so much to live for! I’m so glad you made it out!

[@malaika4960]

love this strength 💪 ❤

[@marifestation4603]

So strong❤💪

[@babynarc4507]

My Narc always says: "I said I was sorry" "I'm sorry you feel that way" "How many times do you want me to apologize?" But he never actually says sorry. Even his "apologies" are gaslighting me

[@fainitesbarley2245]

I didn’t say that. When I said it I didn’t mean it. I only said it because you said ….. You are over-sensitive.

[@gionagrace6279]

Narcs do NOT know theses words: consisistancy, vulnerability, compassion, communication, compromise, empathy or sympathy....therefore there can never be any type of relationship with them. It's nothing but pure toxicity. Thank you, Lee for all of your help. ❤

[@Babziboo]

I discarded him and he went silent. Then a picture of him romantically hugging my cousin surfaced and I still kept my silence. When that didn't work he created new pages on FB to stalk me. Still...silence.

[@clauaome25]

Something similar happened to me. I blocked him after finding out he cheated, then he goes to talk to my friend. I told her about it, she blocked him, didn't know he was my ex. Then goes and creates another account to stalk me. Gross!!!

[@MentalHealness]

Woooow. your cousing!!?!?

[@Babziboo]

@@MentalHealness yep

[@Kevin-mn4hd]

Nicccce!!! Congrats on standing your ground!!!

[@daisyvega7297]

How long did he stalk you for?

[@lesliechrisco2189]

I was a narcissist until I was thirty years old. I surrendered my life to God and he has totally transformed my life.. God does change people the power of the miraculous is manifested in a totally transformed life.

[@yahushahamashiachiswarlike]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@kingdomdaughters3149]

Can you please update on how you’re going now and how God helped you change ❤

[@Nicole-bv5nb]

No contact for OVER a year! My peace is not for sale.. My Narc husband is catching Narc hell that I’m not DEALING with. He’s Narc’n up the wrong tree trying to get me back.. This is my VICTORY WE WIN!

[@MentalHealness]

good win

[@scarthecheetah]

Yes maam!!! Inhale that relief forever ❤👌

[@justapaperdoll5183]

I love 💘 it narking up the wrong tree lol

[@Nikki-en6kd]

Lmbo 🤣😂🙌🏽👏🏾🙏🏽❤✝️

[@dvawva5197]

Lol.

[@jennymeade8786]

My narc has too much rage to have a conversation. He will gaslight immediately and deflect deflect deflect to keep attention off himself and his issues. His rage gets scary pretty fast to.

[@jamaicanjoyh6883]

same...

[@stylist62]

Sorry to hear that, they traumatize you with the ill treatment, I don’t like calling him my, I know what you are talking about, they can’t talk normal without rage anger silence ignoring, or walking away name calling, it’s only what they want and need, nothing else😢🙏❤️

[@renuskalove9404]

Left my narcissist first time and took him back he was even worse and I felt so stupid . Now I left him second time . He tried to hoover me playing the victim and all tht and he said he gave up so I hope he did. Went through hell with him even though I love him I can't be losing myself .

[@allaboutherterritory]

Stay strong 🥰

[@BD-gd9fe]

Would stop still go for it again if you’re saw he was changing ?

[@jsscaaaa3768]

Dont give him a third chance. Dont give him the oppertunity to win you back with hoovering and gaslighting. Go no contact if you can. Stay strong ⚘

[@renuskalove9404]

@@jsscaaaa3768 i am going to no contact and I won't let myself be with someone who broke me I lost Al my self esteem my whole self . I'm healing and after being with him I'm scared I have some narcissistic traits too I'm even sacred that I am narcissistic.

[@ntombifuthiyika5975]

@@renuskalove9404 kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXuWeHp6i9WthLc

[@jzloveinfinite]

In 6 days...I will be 1 year free of my ex narc! I took him back 3 times...never again! You and Dr. Ramini have been extremely helpful during this journey.

[@MentalHealness]

stay safe and strong 💪🏽

[@tional5266]

Also look at Lisa A Romano , very helpful to unwind your mind from the abuse and codependency

[@wonderwoman4961]

What would happen when you took him back

[@aniakolobius2186]

@@tional5266 professor Sam Vaknin

[@1badassrn129]

When a narcissist puts their hooks in you during the love bombing stage, they have created a bond that is so tight that often times, there is little bad they could do that will completely sever that bond. It's like a drug addict being addicted to crack. We (the victims) are constantly chasing that high that the narcissist gave us in the beginning. In our minds, we "know" the person can provide that euphoric feeling for us again. The problem is that we just don't realize that it was all a front to hook us in the first place. We didn't know that's just how the narcissist operates. But we continue to put up with the bs given to us by the narc because we are hoping that the "representative" that was the man/woman of our dreams in the beginning would show up again. Unfortunately though, that fairytale is long over.....and our nightmare begins. So it's not very easy to let go of a narc until they go waaaay past our boundaries that makes us finally say ENOUGH! So Mr. Narcissist.....please understand, that we keep taking you narcs back after these empty apologies are made because you all make that bond so strong and hard to release. That's why your wife left you several times and then came back. She was trauma bonded to you. So please don't get frustrated and sit on your high horse saying you wish we'd just stop accepting the empty apologies and leave. It's not so easy for us because we are hoping that the wonderful person that made us fall in love will show up again. And all will be right in the universe for us. Thanks for reading my rant. And thanks for your insight, candor and perspective.

[@jasminejohnson6621]

Yes i felt this im bonded to one now

[@Lyfeiscrazee]

Indeed

[@1badassrn129]

@@jasminejohnson6621 I'm so sorry you are experiencing this. I really hope that you will be able to release yourself soon. I know it's hard. But being with them is harder. 😔

[@lenaalways932]

Trauma bonded, perfect phrase to describe that break up make up.

[@karoline8524]

@@1badassrn129 you spoke so much truth... We victims chase for the high that he gave in the beginning. On point. You expressed so nicely. I am taking screen shots. But in the video he never said that it's easy to discard him. It's not. It's just that he's telling you that leave him. He never said it's easy. He understands the struggle involved. But they anyway insist on leaving.

[@cheripatterson7246]

Yes. God is with you. My narcissist husband died 5yrs ago. He would have never NEVER admitted that it was him with the problem. I am blessed that God whisked him out of life & I can start to heal.

[@MentalHealness]

God bless you. stay strong

[@tamaralynn9040]

Wow. Very powerful words here

[@tamaralynn9040]

❤️❤️❤️

[@swiftkarma4436]

Congrats on your freedom.

[@mybestlifefortherestofmyli7137]

@@swiftkarma4436 that sounds crazy saying about her freedom, but it's totally the truth....... Sometimes freedom is them actually being gone

[@godsfavor6939]

Consistent changed behavior = apology, yes 🙌🏾 actions speak louder than “sorry”

[@MentalHealness]

Always. 💪🏼

[@mimij4341]

Waited until he went to work. The night before parked the U- haul around the block next day told the kids let's go. Left everything but a few pieces clothes in our possession. After 30 yrs I was done. Left him a letter and told him I'm gone. July 1st going on a yr of NC. It was always I'm sorry I wouldn't do it again. His baby mother n I had babies the same day, multiple infidilities, invalidating, disrespect, gaslighting, trauma bonding everything. He saw nothing wrong with any of it. There was so much more that I lost myself. Now through the children I'm the love of his life he misses me deeply. I'm like ok stay the heck away from me. What he fails to understand is that If it was up to me I would have taken him back already like I done so many times, but God has spoken. I'M DONE. He squandered all those chances before. I'm now learning about myself what it is about setting boundaries, self respect, and overall loving me. I met him at 14 and married at 18. In my opinion I had no business at that age getting married but that is what happens when there are no guidance or role models present.

[@willowwhite7196]

Please follow narcissist chronicles on youtube for proper healing. Your story is similar to mine. Coach Jesse will train you to heal strong.

[@MentalHealness]

you started so young, but got out. Stay strong and I'm praying for you

[@dquest7761]

@@willowwhite7196 please allow for people to be comfortable with whomever they chose to listen to for comfort! NO ONE has the power to heal you jackazz!!! 😔 it's all about self love!

[@kmydesire12]

@@dquest7761 you sound ignorant take your negativity elsewhere. If you read correctly they wrote “will train you to heal strong “

[@dquest7761]

@@kmydesire12 can you read stupid, he/she said "FOR PROPER HEALING" as if this man's message is not accurate! It was accurate enough for her to listen to the video and make a comment. They could have kept their opinion about whose channel to watch for so called healing. Now have several seats...my comment won't change!

[@andreaakachocolatedimples5457]

I was apologizing to him when I deserved one. He ghosted me randomly. I shared good news , ghosted. I made the mistake of calling and texting for 3 days. I actually thought something bad happened. Then goes ghost for months. He did this for almost 3 years. Nothing major or offensive would happen then randomly he’d stop calling after talking me several times a day. It wasn’t until that’s discard that I learned about NPD. He actually asked me if I had healed. He never apologizes but actually thinks I’m the problem. I’ve actually never mistreated him. This NPD blew my mind. The way he hurt me for nothing. The crazy thing is I don’t want to hurt him back. He may have discarded me but he’s not allowed back into my life. I hope he gets help.

[@feliciashelton5222]

Sounds exactly like my story

[@laur131306]

My god...that is some of the most painful abuse I've ever heard 😔 I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

[@mimisha3253]

Girl oml they bogus

[@abigailjohnson568]

Start loving you. Choose you. I blocked my ex. He did the same to me. I now choose me. My priority is my mental, physical and spiritual health. Don’t waste your time on someone who does not value you.

[@andreaakachocolatedimples5457]

@@abigailjohnson568 absolutely. Since responding to this post originally my life has dramatically improved. I had started counseling before this post and my understanding of narcissism. The narc is gone!

[@melw905]

I left my ex narc while he was out the house. I had everything planned and just waited for him to leave took as much as I can and left. I already had my own apartment and I didn’t tell him where I was. Everything that you’re describing is exactly what happened.

[@fabiennevdk7045]

Even when not dealing with a narc, in general these words are so true and a great advise to follow: ( around 6:24 ) “You discarded them, now they promise you everything you wanted. That means they knew the entire time what you wanted and needed, they just withheld it on purpose” These phrases make so much sense and yet people need to be reminded of that simple logic because it’s easy to lose sight of the big picture when you’re in the middle of it.

[@justapaperdoll5183]

That is so true ...they knrw everything u wanted and now is willing to give ? Hell for how long 1 night ? 1 minute ? They can not keep it up for any substantial amount of time .

[@alyjiyu]

Witholding on purpose is emotional abuse & manipulation.

[@sherrismith4208]

I discarded the narc I was in a relationship with by letting him think it was his idea. I educated myself about NPD, learned about grey rocking, informed my family what I was planning to do and felt that was the only way I could get him to leave. Gray rocking was extremely difficult because it escalated his aggressive behavior, but he could not tolerate the grey rocking and eventually left and I went No Contact. We work at the same place, and I even avoid him at work with the help of my co-workers that stop him when he tries to come into my office. I pray he will eventually leave this town since he has no family here and they are all up north. He left in Sept 2020 and I have been focusing and working on myself ever since.

[@a.w.3689]

That's right, you're not responsible for other people mess, not at all!!! Keep up the great work, and yes God is with you!!!

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you, I will

[@kimbourne4907]

You are of an incredibly almost non-existent percentage to have not only gone to therapy but to consistently keep it up and truly self reflect and want to change. Thank you for your videos.

[@christianpulisic7784]

Kim Bourne,You got a lovely smile 😊

[@octaviaeddings3765]

I discarded the narcissist in my life who terrorized me. I’m now in a healthy relationship and will graduate with my BSW this year

[@MentalHealness]

🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@louiseelizabeth9613]

What's BSW? 👀

[@Honestlykim]

@@louiseelizabeth9613 bachelors of Social Work

[@emilydavis9766]

I applaud you to no end for not just going to therapy but doing the hard work and raw transparency with your therapist ! ❤️ Your comment - sometimes you have to leave … spot on. As the emotional abuse victim, it came to I had to leave . And it killed me inside but like you said, in certain circumstances it has to be done. I am hoping it provides him with some clarity on his behaviors . Keep up the great work !

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you. i appreciate it

[@ktwhimsy6946]

Narcissists are not the only ones who use projection... I think we also tend to project our good qualities onto the person with NPD, just assuming that because we would have remorse/empathy/compassion/guilt etc. in the same situation, that they must also... we want that apology so bad we just take it at face value... so thankful for channels like this one out there spreading important information !

[@joshuagreen8957]

As an empathetic victim of emotional abuse I am truly glad to know that it is possible for people with personality disorders to actually make change. I feel that it is a very rare occurrence and I am proud of you. Hopefully you can reach out and help others with your knowledge and experience. God bless my friend.

[@arobinson103]

You are just like my husband was. Only you have intellect . Amazing to know after all those years he literally was a narcissist. Yes you have to leave them. I did and I’m so happy now. Btw he has been in therapy for two years now. Started when I left. Too late I’ve moved on .

[@jeanniecannon4612]

Mine is loveless and proud and he would never blow up my phone, he would just continue in his own world of computers and television. His one excuse to call me when we were separated was to ask for a file in the computer. The avoidant covert type leaves you completely empty. I would rather have the overt. Let go to grow. That seed will never grow. True so true.

[@amygiangregorio2956]

You’re right they leave you empty

[@victorious11111]

My ex is very quiet. We have kids together. I discarded him and now I’m starting a family with my new partner. I’m doing much better without him. I’m a whole new person. I haven’t had any issues out of him. I’m actually surprised but happy.

[@stuff1784]

Your story sounds like Ciara’s story!! She dropped narcissist Future for Russell and now they have a gorgeous family together. 💜

[@a.w.3689]

I filed for a divorce and I'm Not taking him back, got him served! I don't want anything to do with him!!!! He don't want help nor does he think he needs it! It will not change my mind i went through too much to take him back, I deserve better!!! Thank you for speaking the truth to help others!

[@MentalHealness]

stay strong

[@niccivictorious5594]

🙏

[@willowwhite7196]

Angela, good for you. Were you in the same house with him when you served him?

[@a.w.3689]

@@willowwhite7196 Yes!! He just got served last week wed. June 9th...I'm in California and there is a waiting period before the divorce is granted!

[@a.w.3689]

@@MentalHealness We are both believers in Christ please say a prayer for me! I hate that he's in my house, yes I need strength!

[@jizmm813]

I appreciate you getting on here and telling the truth bruh. My ex wants me back but I already know what to expect from that situation.....smh

[@gitchygitchyyaya]

“Never”, “should”, “always”…. These are words of control and black and white thinking. Hard ass truth, there are two people in a relationship. What is it about you that keeps you engrained in this mess? You are not being forced to stay in the relationship, and when you value yourself more than you value “your narcissist”, then you can start move on, it’ll be easier than you think

[@ardoniaamand6196]

If it was a happy home, they wouldn’t be watching your videos! You are not the reason people leave and if they say that, soon enough they will go back. I left for me!! I didn’t even know what narcissism was until I left. I lived the life of the victim and didn’t even know it till people like you explained and put verbiage to it. Thank you for helping us make positive changes to wholeness.

[@anniegirlmurphy9321]

Only Christ can get the attention of a narcissist and cause them to change. I’ve had that thought for a long time and I thank you for confirming it for me.

[@stargray1185]

I really appreciate what you are doing. The changes you have made. I am a Narc Survivor and I have healed listening to your what you have been saying and addressing. Thank you and God bless!!

[@MentalHealness]

I appreciate it. Stay strong

[@shanikad.1877]

Today makes 9 days no contact or response for me and he's now doing everything I've asked for plus more. I'm not falling for it at all. I'll always come to these videos and it helps me soooo much. I feel so good 😊😊. Thanks Lee H.

[@goddessrulz3094]

This video truly helped me!!!! Honestly I just told my narcissist that I love him and want him to find peace and love for self. I can’t and will not undo my healing in dealing with him.

[@MentalHealness]

stay strong

[@catmann1960]

You are soooo right. YOU cannot break up a HAPPY HOME!!! My finite mind cannot comprehend how anyone cam say any of those negative things about you. I THANK YOU!! And I understand your idea about church perfectly. And the Bible says the church are the people not the building

[@MentalHealness]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@madisonimogen1028]

Narc has so much love for self that there is no room for anyone love.

[@lolxd9396]

Thank you Lee, you are right, leaving toxic people is the best way to let them that yes there is a problem. 🙏😎

[@Nicole-bv5nb]

Love the fact your are sharing your content as being a Narcissist! Not to many ppl will admit it or even truly and whole hardly seek therapy!

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you

[@jacquelinecruz4187]

Discard should be done when you are completely determined to move on and no threatening just do it when you ready not to take them back .Got it 👍

[@MentalHealness]

👍🏽

[@2011myhappiness]

💯💯💯💯😏

[@reneah9199]

That part “ Gods with me” know you are a healer, and God is using you. I am grateful I found your page ! After 12 years of pain, hurt, being confused. I see know I was recovering from a true person with npd. Thank you Lee and I stand with you, I’m going back watching more videos !💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾🖤🖤

[@ilonawilks6837]

A hit dog will holler!!!! They get mad cause it's the truth!!!!! Gotta stay focused!!!!! I am a Spiritual Advisor and I speak Peace and blessings over you!!!! You are a beautiful human teaching how to help themselves...

[@nataliehollis7114]

I sooooo wish I would have seen this three weeks ago… it was one of the hardest and scariest things I’ve ever been though

[@GwendolynWilliams-or4jm]

Don't pay attention to those people. You have helped a lot of people. I thank God for you!

[@vanessarongstad8576]

Thank you for emphasizing the word I’m sorry is not enough and how important it is for the narc to consistently demonstrate changed behavior

[@tamorgan777]

Stay strong brother, keep doing a good work. I been held hostage by gun point, been stalked you definitely have good viable info don't like the name calling stop you on your God given journey.

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you. i appreciate it

[@ashlee5755]

Thank you for schooling folks that just don’t get it. Enablers are worse than the actual narcissist sometimes

[@prettyuniquell2011]

Yup! Going through it now. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@JamesThomas-ik8ln]

You are the man. My wife is a narcissist. She won't agree to therapy or nothing. She hates me or I think she does. She accuses me of stealing from her, scratching her car etc. She broke me down to where I do nothing but cry now because I don't know her anymore. There are brief times where we're united again but it only last for a week then its back on again. I can tell when its coming back because out of nowhere she will find something to blame me for. Today I listened to your video out loud so she can hear it. So now she is playing sleep but she really is listening. I honestly think I can do what your wife did to you. Thanks for being so truthful about your situation. I wish you luck with everything in life. This helped me understand so much.

[@beatitcreep.]

When I left my narcissistic ex, he didn't try to win me back or blow up my phone. He just went back to the woman he had discarded me for before we got back together. Hoovering at its finest. She took him back, of course. And I went no contact.

[@Iamdearlybeloved7]

That’s exactly what happened to me when I discarded my narc he went right back to his exes😂and I’m so glad I dodged that bullet I am no contact and done ✅ just remember apology with no change is manipulation… 💯

[@beatitcreep.]

@@Iamdearlybeloved7 Oh yeah, I didn't want him back either. I was done the moment I dumped him!

[@yoselynvaldes4180]

I am going through the exact situation.. I left him and I know he is trying to go back to his ex .. I am just hoping that she takes him back so I he is occupied.. we are no contact it’s being almost two months last night after listening to Ben and Lee I finally block him from social media .. I already had him block on my phone but I didn’t do social media he turned him self off so I wouldn’t know when he was online but he didn’t block me .. I was able to do it … it’s like everyday is a survival.. I did tell him couple times if I would had be the one cheating on him … He wouldn’t forgive me ever !!

[@beatitcreep.]

@@yoselynvaldes4180 "I did tell him couple times if I would had be the one cheating on him … He wouldn’t forgive me ever !!" I told my narc ex the same thing! And he said he would have (he would never have!!) I bet yours lied, too. Stay strong. Blocking him was the best thing, it's best to not see what's going on in their life.

[@yoselynvaldes4180]

@@beatitcreep. exactly you are so right .. if we had done it to them .. we would be the worse !! One time we were done I put a picture on FB riding a bike he went off me saying that I was with the guy behind me and I even had my daughter there how could I be doing that to him that he knew I was being unfaithful to him … call him he didn’t answer .. I was like “ Can’t you see that’s my brother “!!! 😂🤣🤣 he felt so stupid !!! I am telling you I never exposed him on social media like he did to me !! So many proof I had but well now I am trying to be better and heal for my future

[@kelizz0092]

THANK YOU FOR WHAT YOU DO!!!! I needed to hear these things for soooo long. After 4 years I finally have gone no contact and blocked him in every way possible. Before I did so I told him by text message not to contact me. After contacting me 3 times I told him if he continues doing so I will be forced to file a restraining order. Watching your videos reminds me why I left and it gives me strength to maintain no contact.

[@evol15122]

Amen!!! Keep doing what God has called you to do. A good friend of mine (who admittedly now realizes that they was/are a narcissist) told me about you. It has been a blessing and an eye opener for me. Your KZbin videos have helped me more than anything, including counseling which I am currently receiving. Not, to say counseling isn't helpful or necessary. However, listening to a Dx'd narcissist be open and honest has been more beneficial to me. A therapist can tell you what they've read, been told or experienced with patients. But, they have rarely had any personal experience with a narcissist. I've shared your KZbin with other women who are involved with or married to a narcissist.

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you. appreciate it

[@GodsChild71111]

When I find your TikTok I was shocked you exist and told my sister to do what you do because she's a self aware narcissist. Thank you for what you do. I appreciate you for your honesty and growth. God bless you!

[@chiecortez2260]

Watching while crying😢i dont know but this hits me hard😭

[@MentalHealness]

🥲

[@kmydesire12]

@ Chie Cortez your probably just becoming aware of what you been dealing with be strong your self love journey will be so worth it. Be encouraged

[@tional5266]

Does it provide you with some hope that yours might see the light? This is extremely rare , take care or you ❤️

[@lmarie724]

Woooow! "EGO - Edging God out" deep. I'm so happy that you are going to therapy and have found God again. He is the way! 🙌🏾❤ keep going.

[@EH-ep1bp]

Th only way 🙏🏾

[@kevinmclaughlin3448]

God is with you,.he put you on this earth to speak,.and letting know people can get a little help from this,.and helping the survivors 🙏🏽

[@fredapope58]

I truly believe God is leading you because you have truly blessed me with these “classes” I’m still trying to get out of a narcissist grip but everything you are saying he did or is doing…. I finally get it!

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@chenh339]

It is impossible to look at you as a narcissist bc you have been so EMPATHETIC to we all here in this channel, big THUMBS UP!!!!!🙏👍👍👍👍👍

[@AlyssaKerslake]

Thank you for this, always see people cover being discarded but hardly ever the aftermath of discarding the narc.

[@MentalHealness]

you're welcome

[@pattycakes5]

Great advice. Only accept changed behavior as an apology. This message was very genuine. Thank you.

[@DreamersUniverse]

I’m so happy I found your channel! You are a blessing in more ways than you’ll ever know!! Congratulations to you for doing the work and I am grateful you are sharing yourself with us!

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you so much!!

[@kathywilson4997]

U have saved my life. I didn't know who I was I lost myself. Omg u really inspire alot of women and men. Thank u

[@heatherr4825]

I just found your channel yesterday, and I've been listening to lots of your videos! You're significantly easier to listen to than HG lol. Thanks and keep up the great work!

[@MentalHealness]

i appreciate it

[@leaerman6823]

the way you said : "God is with me on this journey".. its true. i think its really great and inspiring to take something like your disorder, become self aware and turn it around into something like this, where you are helping thousands of people every day!! This is called a glow up😁😁😁 Thank you for everything you do, your video helped me leave my abusive relationship of 5 years. God gave you this for a reason because he knew what you can do for all of us. Keep up the good work, we are all proud of you and your family 💪🤘

[@lies-hurt_Love-Heals]

My ex said to me on my daughters bday, “I never listened to you did I?” And I cried and talked and he listened all day. I felt so validated for like the first time in a long time. He was just doing to try to get back with me though, which soon became obvious when I told him he couldn’t spend the night again. And that I thought he was weaseling his way back in.

[@beth4015]

“Enabler of Narcissist behaviour “ Thanks for sharing… I’ve been healing watching your videos. 😃

[@natalieelliott2331]

I'm literally so proud of you lovely. I've had so much experience with narcissistic relationships. From my dad to several romantic relationships. I've figured out that it's a disorder similar in a way to ptsd, which I have. All it takes is looking inside. Mindful actions. Seeing everything and being true and authentic. I'm so overwhelmingly happy that you are doing this and helping and leading the way to inner growth and healing. Bless your soul mate. Much love and light to you. Good job 🕊🤍🕊

[@racheljohnson7709]

My ex husband was physically and emotionally abusive so I had him arrested, got a no contact order and protective order against him and served him divorce papers while he was in jail. I’ve been no contact for 2 years and divorced for a year. The look on his face was priceless when I walked out of the courtroom after the divorce was finalized.

[@BabyDoll-xw6ex]

I’m proud of you for becoming self aware, and taking the steps to improve yourself. I’m also grateful to you for sharing this journey you’re on, and for your advice. 🙏💖🙏

[@Diana_the_Goddess]

Lee, never let anyone tell you that you are evil. It's not your fault for having the disorder...you are doing the best you can for being better person for yourself,your kids and the whole humanity. Nobody is perfect and completely sane. There is a difference between awerrenes and working on yourself than being an as* and blaming others for yourr own mistakes or missfortune. God bless you.🍀

[@MentalHealness]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@Kevin-mn4hd]

I'm js in the last 4ish days I just found you. You went from 10k to 11.3k subscribers. Doing great man!

[@MentalHealness]

Spreading the word. I appreciate it

[@judy1angel]

Lee, thank you so much for having the courage to own it, to accept it, and having the courage and COMMITMENT to change! I have a narcissistic son, and he mostly treats me with contempt. It's evil, the effect his gaslighting has, and all the rest. I started watching Dr C on Surviving Narcissism - BUT he is not a Narcissist! And when I came across you on youtube THEN I understood, what is going on in my son's mind, and how I have contributed to the problem by at some level allowing it. Whenever I tried to address the problem, or the behaviour, he would make it into a game of words, a game where there was only one winner, and it was never going to be me! I saw for the first time the smirk that showed he got a rise out of getting me upset or angry, so horrible! So bless you Lee, I really never could have understood unless I watched your stuff! I'm binge-watching right now, as I have to decide how to handle this is I don't want the light constantly rained on in my life! For once I have to assess what is best for me! God's grace will guide me too, and my prayers will be with you living in the light! 🌈🙏🏼🌈

[@cutescorpio1]

Thank you for this. I'm going to watch this everyday so I can remind myself why I need to leave. All of this applies to my situation.

[@theholisticapproachrx]

Praying for you to be led by the Holy Spirit to leave. Dealing with a narcissist will age you. You're beautiful. Follow your dreams and be happy. You deserve the BEST

[@kaymiller2441]

“A long tumultuous conversation” 😂. God is with you, he looks at the heart.

[@Italiana72787]

I just wanted to say how much I appreciate your channel and what you’re doing! Great job

[@MentalHealness]

I appreciate that!

[@carinajohnson874]

Your videos helped me get out of the abusive relationship I was in. Keep doing what you’re doing. Thank you

[@MentalHealness]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@xxpositivexxful]

Thank you so much for sharing your journey. You have such a good vibe about you. I ended things with a narc a few months ago before it got nasty. Not going back! Wish all narcs became self aware like you ✨

[@danetteclay1753]

MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU AND YOUR FUTURE… THANKS FOR BEING HONEST💪🏾🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@angelandrews2276]

Thank you for this video and every video you do on narrcissts too how to handle the situation !

[@MentalHealness]

You’re welcome

[@christianpulisic7784]

Angel Andrews,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌷🌹🌺,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

[@natashafostercalledtospeak3458]

I just discarded an Narc but for you to want the help& consistent with your therapy and help and you seeking God that's a blessing that is a change and I don't care what nobody say from a narcissist. May you be blessed on your journey with finding God and helping yourself more and more each and every day.

[@elaineb9951]

told my narc husband to leave after a another raging episode where he called me names, accused me of cheating and put his hands on me, first time in 19 years, figured it was only going to keep getting worse. He then sulked for few days then said he agreed but would take him 3 months to move out. Called his old girlfriend from 40 yrs ago (who husband had died) a week or so after told him to leave. During 3 months he wore his wedding ring in ‘support’ of our marriage even though he had started an affair but he didn’t know i knew, lol. During 3 months he was so civilized, then last few days before moving truck came he love bombed a bit hugging me and saying he cared about me, i smelled good and appreciated all I did for him, ugh! Then said he couldn’t handle any more rejection yet told our friends he made this decision to leave even said same in email to me few months later, rewrote reality! He wouldn’t go to counseling, he certainly never apologize, we have been divorced 3 months and they are getting married next month. She is in for scary and rude awakening!

[@cisneroslady]

I am SO proud of your growth! And you got it...GOD IS SO GOOD and you absolutely are on a blessed journey. I pray you find good company in a church setting. There are some great churches out there who will take you as you are and uplift you. But I agree with you...God is within us and prayer is number 1.

[@dorothyroby3874]

I thank God that he lead me to your channel u are a life saver, u stay blessed and keep doing what u do…🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@MentalHealness]

Glad I could help

[@toniwilliams9817]

No one has the right to attack you because of what you are going through. You are doing the work to help yourself and others...to be a better person, husband, and dad. I commend you for actually doing the work! You inspire me on my healing journey.

[@queenkayla8416]

So thankful for your content ✅

[@MentalHealness]

Thank you

[@thisisme9136]

God is with you and guiding your journey... happy for you... you are doing great work! blessings

[@darlenesmith5524]

They don’t forgive you for anything, always thrown up at you!! It becomes your fault for the way they are now!!

[@tawanachristian3396]

We KNOW GOD IS WITH YOU, JUST BY YOU GETTING HELP AND SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH, SCREW THEM!

[@allaboutherterritory]

Narcissistic abuses relationships aren’t even happy 😂😂😂 so how could they blame you…

[@LauraMatherne-m2o]

Thank you for your unabashed honesty and help for both narcissists and their "supply". Mine falsely accused me of cheating almost daily. No contact was all I could do in the end.

[@MentalHealness]

you’re welcome

[@yvonnegrijalva1047]

My husband did not apologize and didn’t show no remorse and he was making me feel it was my fault for us breaking up

[@1classystyle]

Three years of a roller coaster of emotions where I thought multiple times about leaving but didn't. He then was the one who ghosted and discarded me. I'm the one working on the healing and moving on, blaming myself as well. You are right that I had become emotionally dependent on him and the times I've told my friends, "He broke me". Thank you for your perspective and for helping me see the other side and what to be strong enough to do if this were to ever happen again.

[@tandreasellers7683]

I kicked mine out the day after Mother’s Day .... I gave in a couple times but we’ve been no contact for about a week. He’s blocked across the board. He was calling me from other devices but that stopped. I’m pretty sure he’s found another supply.. it sucks but I started back to therapy Monday and moved in with my parents to stay strong. I don’t understand why I’m struggling to let him go but I keep telling myself it’ll get better with time

[@MsLady-ok5nr]

Soul tie Keep yourself around loved ones and walk with Jesus through faith not sight

[@moniquejackson8635]

Absolutely a soul tie, and in the beginning you both had so much in common and that made you closer. I'm so sorry and I know exactly what your saying about it's hard to let go. I just really am trying as of yesterday .

[@annwigmoreinstitute4985]

it is called trauma bonding being with a narcissist causes this

[@theholisticapproachrx]

You can do it

[@IngridGrant-lt4zo]

Wow! This is a different side of you. Thank you for your courage.

[@KnowYourWorthPodcast]

I’m so glad you are in therapy and also, giving information about the disorder; God bless you!

[@MentalHealness]

God bless you as well

[@KnowYourWorthPodcast]

@@MentalHealness thanks so much I was dealing with a narcissist and everything you said is so true, I had to change my number, and he still try’s to find me, he is so sick 🤒 thanks again for ur honesty

[@dinahburns8488]

Thank you so much for helping me understand this mess I was in. I discarded my partner after two years, and will not go back to him without getting therapy . I took my POWER back.

[@monasharaf7037]

True what you said about god is so true . There is light in the knowledge and solution for a better happier life. Thank you with all my heart 🙏🏻❤️ your existence is making a change in this world !

[@MentalHealness]

You are so welcome

[@darkangel2662]

THIS EXPLAINS A LOT!! I thank you so much for helping me understand my NARCISSISTIC husband I follow you on tictok as well. My mental health is plummeting as we speak because of him. I'm working on a plan as we speak.....PLEASE continue with the work GOD has sent to do!! GOD BLESS YOU!!

[@dr.denitaharris971]

God is leading you. Thank you!

[@MentalHealness]

You are so welcome. I'm just trying to follow him