'MIL Tampered With My Birth Control' -- Reddit Reactions

[@kristenclark4862]

No. I love how they say "the bloodline follows the father" yet it's only the mother's DNA that can be traced back to our original ancestors.

[@belizelover21]

Damn, for real? Learn something new everyday.

[@vikingrolloishot1789]

Really?! Wow!

[@vikingrolloishot1789]

Who told u?

[@aithnebaartman8233]

Biology

[@catheriner7786]

Yep! Follow the maternal mitochondria 😊

[@lunaashley9272]

I think the worst gender reveals I've seen are where the dad sees its gonna be a girl and storms off, pissed that its a girl, while his older daughter(s) watch.

[@Alex-vf8th]

I’ve also seen it the other way round, when a mother bursts into tears in front of her sons because she wanted a girl and it’s another boy.

[@chelsea_sarfo6388]

It's honestly makes me so upset that people get upset over a specific type of genitals.

[@brafshsyt]

I can understand wanting a son because it is closer personally to you but Jesus why does it matter that much

[@arizleidapetunia5753]

And then they get mad when their child is trans💀💀

[@thatonedog819]

Going to be honest, any gender reveal where someone doesn't die or start a massive wild fire is a good one in my mind. Though perhaps my standards are a bit low.

[@charismap.7660]

if anyone is wondering, according to her reddit it looks like she had a second girl, and bonding with said child has been rocky due to the manner of her conception.

[@tourmii]

that's a shame. the only one who's really gonna suffer from that is the kid and the kid didn't ask to be here 😥

[@kassandrasimpson9888]

I didn’t see that on her post, it only says that she was last not feeling a bond while she’s pregnant with the second baby...

[@daliarodriguez7991]

@@kassandrasimpson9888 Where did u see the post ?

[@mayastonestreet2552]

what’s the @

[@caitlynnbright84]

Might just be all the hormones, I'm almost 18 months post partum and I'm still trying to find balance. I could not imagine having two at once at this point, and being run down by pregnancy on-top of a baby who needs all your attention

[@wilhonbe]

Oh my gosh that's so dangerous for her! Dr's recommend waiting 18 to 24 months before conceiving again so your body can heal fully. Gaud this is sooooo fcked. This whole thing is disturbing

[@b_jean755]

18 to 24 months? That's literally almost 2 years! There is no way doctors say this! You can get pregnant as soon as you want after a baby but it's recommended to wait at least a few months but your the most fertile right after having a baby so it happens all the time

[@wilhonbe]

@@b_jean755 just because it happens all the time doesn't mean it's not potentially dangerous 🙂

[@b_jean755]

@@wilhonbe Well yeah pregnancy in general is hard on the body but to have to wait 2 years is crazy when it takes 6-12 months for your body to full go back to normal

[@jolynnwalker8145]

This is exactly what I was thinking. I know they mentioned have an abortion because of spite, not able to handle another baby, or control but, the safety of the woman and the potential for the baby to have defects is so scary.

[@b_jean755]

@@wilhonbe I've had 2 and another one the way and I know everyone waits different amount of times I just don't see how the risk goes up for you wait a few months vs years cause every baby is different just like every person and you could of had horrible problems your first and not your 2nd so its just pregnancy in general and now adays doctors almost always try saying something is wrong then the baby comes out perfectly healthy

[@amandaalvarado7091]

Well guess what grandma would not be seeing her grandchild

[@kimmilanda2989]

That's also when you tell mil you are thinking of adopting, what about the "bloodline" Now

[@NameName-yj7lp]

Exactly like I would never wanna have a MIL who hates me to see MY baby Like if the baby is part of me, she’s gonna hate the baby

[@Cath6Rob]

I have a neighbor who wasn’t allowed to see her grand babies and died having never met them. I thought the DIL was a asshole for doing this. But now... You never know what goes on behind closed doors.

[@b_jean755]

Some grandparents are seriously crazy and don't deserve to be able to their grandchildrens life! This kind of mother in law honestly isn't that rare! It happens all the time where mother in laws cross the line big time!!

[@tourmii]

my mom's mom died when my mom was 18, her dad eventually remarried but my mom's sister never respected their step mom. their dad died when i was ~9 and my mom's sister decided that the entire family wasn't allowed to speak to his wife... the only grandmother figure i ever had, and i was a kid so i was confused lmao my aunt was always super toxic and verbally abusive and demeaning to my mom and my mom is a people pleaser and at that point in time didn't know how to set boundaries so for years no one in the family spoke to his wife. me and one of my cousins would always try to get my mom to take us to see his wife but she was always too afraid her sister would find out :( before his wife ended up passing away just recently actually, one of my cousin's passed away, my sister had 2 kids, and a few of my cousins have had some kids as well and she wasn't told that any of them were born or that my other cousin passed. my mom eventually grew some nerves and started talking to his wife again in the middle of all that but i'm not sure what my mom ended up telling her because she was still afraid to step on her sister's toes. so yeah, you never know what's going on or who the "bad guy" really is from the outside looking in

[@GetOuttaMyFae]

My mom has never met my kids. After witnessing her driving through our house twice (I was in the car, she was mad at my step dad) and witnessing her steal another persons child by forging legal documents (she went to school to be a paralegal) and becoming a drug counselor for troubled youth JUST to get connections to get drugs, yeah my kids will never meet her. This isn’t even scratching the surface on all the shit she has done.

[@Cath6Rob]

@@GetOuttaMyFae I am so sorry you had to live through that. You’re a wonderful mom for protecting your children from her. 🥰

[@amymcgilvary8070]

My kids aren’t allowed to know their great grandfather because he sexually abused my mother, her sisters, and my cousin.

[@nicorawest4529]

Thank you for mentioning black women maternal mortality rate!! I have had two kids and that’s all I could think about while pregnant because two famous women during my pregnancy passed away with theirs. Had my anxiety so high the entire time I was so worried about dying just trying to bring my babies into the world.

[@TKDDLJ09]

I didnt learn about this until recently, and i learned it from the tv show "The Resident" where they told the story of a black women who died during childbirth and that she shouldn't have died and at the end of the episode they wrote a little fact about blqck women being more likely to die during childbirth and some website i believe to research or something. I was crying my eyes out during this episode and i simply couldn't let it go, so i just did so much research and it broke my heart. That this happens un Anerics is beyond me and I cant express how much it disgusts me that black women have to be afraid of giving birth, just because they have a higher risk of dying from childbirth simply because they are black. Unbelievable. .

[@vikingrolloishot1789]

This would be me that why I’m not having kids

[@celraekc]

Important point.

[@jenniferreynolds1537]

I apologize in advance, I am truly ignorant about this. I am white, but this is the first time I am hearing that black women have a higher mortality rate during birth. I am wondering why this is? Is it because the care they receive is different? or does it have something to do with genetics i.e. black women are more likely to have complications? I am just curious if anyone knows why there is a difference.

[@chelsea_sarfo6388]

@@jenniferreynolds1537 The reason why black women/ black femme presenting individuals have such a high mortality is because of white/non-black doctors not taking our pain seriously. That's rooted in medical racism. With non-black doctors not taking our pain seriously that leads to us dying from easily preventable things. Basic summary: doctors don't care about black women/femme presenting individuals and their babies.

[@zozoeliza]

i know it’s illegal for men to get women pregnant without her consent so is this illegal too? if it isn’t it should be

[@devanshisharma5678]

Fact

[@izzisart]

I think in some places tampering with birth control is considered sexual assault. But it might depend where they are.

[@molliee5183]

Izzi it should be illegal but I see how it would be difficult to prove in the legal system.. sucks. MIL is fucked in the head

[@Char1ynn]

...it takes 2 to tango this wording is...

[@mangalover0149]

It is. It's called reproductive coercion. It's a form of abuse. The MIL is a monster.

[@kittykat10272]

One year I found out my sister had poked holes in my condoms because she was mad at me and wanted to get back at me. I never ended up using that particular pack of condoms thank God, but I can't imagine being in OP's position. I wouldn't be able to keep the baby if my MIL did that to me, I feel sick just thinking about how much of a violation that is.

[@delilahdrummond4076]

How insane is your sister to think something that big is a valid response for a siblings quarrel? Wtf is wrong with her?

[@meowt8464]

Your sister is fucking crazy for doing that. Thats so dangerous

[@chelbelle4188]

That’s so dangerous, people can literally die in pregnancy/childbirth that’s so messed up

[@hayleecross1530]

One time my exes friends did this w condoms we had when we were in highschool. Like some people are really just fucked up

[@TheFlowMind]

That’s reproductive coercion. It’s a crime!

[@Regrettable-Username]

I love this woman's energy. She's the type of person who'd get into a fight with a creep at a bar for you.

[@lydiaread8834]

I would trust Morgan with my life

[@froody9659]

To anyone who’s curious, I just looked through OP’s reddit. The gender of the baby has never been revealed, unfortunately. The last sort of activity OP had on her reddit was a year ago (when she was still pregnant and when she first posted her story). Other than that, OP stated that, unlike with her first child and during her first first pregnancy , she feels no love towards the second baby and has a hard time bonding with them. Understandable, considering the baby’s conception, but it doesn’t sit well with her husband. In one of her last comments, she stated that she and her husband were currently in counseling.

[@shaynarose7095]

It's very possible she was just going through post-partum when she posted those updates. Hopefully she worked it out.

[@astronautpuppy]

The second child is a girl it was revealed

[@Gayonetta5000]

THIS! This is exactly why it MUST be the woman’s choice to have a baby. Because that baby is going to be born in a toxic ass environment now, because they ultimately were not wanted.

[@HollSuth]

She updated at some point and said this second child was also a girl

[@mickeyr2858]

It's going to be another girl! ♀️🎀♀️

[@savannahking9619]

Wait like for real!!???

[@loganrahdar1490]

@@savannahking9619 I hope

[@samwilliams7933]

I WAS HOPING THAT THE WHOLE TIME😭😭

[@Katiec6597]

Where’s that info

[@thesenate1448]

@@Katiec6597 I think they're saying they want it to be a girl, so the mother in law doesn't get what she wants.

[@parisabdella116]

There is no way I could keep the baby. I would feel as if my body had been completely violated in one of the worst possible ways. I can feel my skin crawling just at the thought of being in that situation. However, if op does decide to keep the baby, I would change the last name and hope for a girl. No more contact with mil would also be a top priority. Get a restraining order or something!

[@cassandracavette3327]

Why would you murder an innocent child because of your mil? It’s not the babies fault.

[@kittykat10272]

I agree, I just would not be able to keep the baby if my MIL did that. I get why she is keeping it, but I would also feel just so violated. I really hope OP ends up with a girl!

[@meowt8464]

@@cassandracavette3327 its not a child yet.

[@ewilliamsxo]

@@cassandracavette3327 it’s not a baby

[@dawnthomas570]

@Lily Rimer actually facts show it’s a human from the day it’s conceived. It’s science. It’s DNA. You’re right about facts over feelings though.

[@minalaine9692]

They should change their last name and get a restraining order on her that would show them how wrong in the head that woman is because that freaking dangerous for the mother isn't it? Getting pregnant again after just getting your first born child? Shouldn't you wiat for like another year or so before trying again so that the Mother's body heals completely? I'm not really sure though

[@nicolehatton4534]

Yes, it's recommended you wait 18 or more months

[@keiyn7742]

It depends on how the pregnancy and labor/delivery went, but yes, it's recommended to wait well over 15-18 months before trying again to get pregnant.

[@PANCAKESforrr1]

the WIC lady I had an appointment with told me it can take up to three years for your body to fully recover from having a baby

[@caitybritt5610]

@@PANCAKESforrr1 yes! My dr told me to wait at the least 2 years before even thinking about having another one due to the toll he took on my body

[@Mackensierobinson]

Yea it’s actually really dangerous specially 3 month post partum she can lose her life in child birth

[@tessmcclennan5976]

and thats when my husband better pick me and never talk to her again

[@hermesson8749]

When she said she’s gonna change the last name I couldn’t help but say,” 🎶 Let it die let it die let it shrivel up and die 🎶

[@localgirleh]

The lorax!!! what a movie 🤣

[@missspell4897]

I’m pretty sure she can sue her. You can’t just mess with peoples medication. If I had all the money in the world I would sue her for child support out of spite. I highly doubt you’d win but I would still do it lol

[@rosa3299]

If this took place in the USA, each state would handle this differently. In some places I know it would be considered a crime but fraud

[@nykiasmith7404]

I would! I’d press charges on her if I could

[@katemarie7744]

This one hit close to home. I am the female child that was the “killer” of the family bloodline. I can’t tell you how traumatizing it was growing up knowing my grandparents pretty much and dad (at the time - now him having two daughters that are exactly like him he loves) were disappointed with you without having done anything wrong. I hope by the time the 2nd child, if a girl, the grandparents will have gotten over the obsession.

[@rina37789]

Same. This is my moms mom, obsessed with sons. She has 4 children to get a boy and my mom, her oldest aka disappointment no. 1, is the only one that didn’t have sons. But my uncle ain’t shit so he doesn’t even see his kids, one of my cousins passed away and the other one hates her. I had her first great-grandchild, a boy, but they don’t have a relationship. He’s seen her maybe twice this year.

[@karlanicole5077]

It’s super dangerous to get pregnant right after having another baby. The MIL needs to be help accountable and given a restraining order. (maybe even jail if possible in her state) She literally is putting her health in danger all because she wants a grandson. I’m glad she’s happy about the pregnancy, I just wish it that it happened under different circumstances for her and her partner.

[@trizmirtes]

I wonder what her sil had to go through with a mother like this. She clearly prefers her son over her daughter. Imagine what she had to hear and do

[@ca-ke9493]

She's probably so desensitized to her mother's misogynistic ramblings that she's learnt to tune them out. Probably why she didn't think much of it when the MIL told her about the condoms because these views have become so normalized in the household. (Think about it, the MIL was in the hospital ranting about a grandson and no one stopped her. Probably because the family has seen that behaviour 1000 times and are too tired to call the MIL out.)

[@concernedcognition]

Grandparent rights sound creepy and not okay. Why do they exist? Not every parent is a good parent but how do grandparents have the legal right to access their grand children without parental consent?

[@cynderella3477]

I think it's actually more for if their child passes so they are still able to have a relationship with their grandchildren. Sometimes the surviving parent will alienate the dead parents parents.

[@PurpleLemonade92]

Well it’s because like in my situation we would never see my brothers kids because his baby mama wants money form us to see them. Even tho she get money from social security and not to mention never has to buy the kids clothes because I do. Then she took them away from us and said we can see them if we give them $400 a month. And then after a month of not seeing them we gave her $400 and she took the money and didn’t let us see them and asked for more money. So my parents took her to court for their rights. She even asked for child support from the judge and the judge laughed at her. She got $1600 from social security. So now we have them court ordered 2 days outta the week. And we actually have them more because she’s busy as she says. My brother was killed by a drunk driver. He didn’t abandon them. He was tooken from them. From all of us. And without grandparents rights we would have lost them too.

[@heatherzarate4101]

My dad had past away, his mom seemed to just use me & my brother for the happy family image & my dad's side of the family is very toxic & my parents were teen parents. My brother & I felt very uncomfortable around our grandmother because she would knowingly put us in uncomfortable situations. So one day my mom decided, let's move! (not over my grandmother though; just because.) From Texas to California. & with my grandmother's grandparent right, she took my mom to court & won. So we could not move.

[@lisapavik4117]

I was EXTREMELY worried about this with my first pregnancy because of an untrustworthy parent

[@thechosenone1533]

Because sometimes the parents might be a**holes who aren't fit to be parents. Or as another comment pointed out,to let them see the kid in case the parent passes away.

[@K1tC4t_94]

Also, it didn't mention how she gave birth. If she had a c-section, mil has seriously put her and the 2nd baby's life in danger. That is way too soon.

[@haleyclark990]

Apparently from what I’ve seen with her Reddit, with her first pregnancy she hemorrhaged, so yeah a super dangerous situation. (Even if she hadn’t hemorrhaged, still a super dangerous situation because it’s way too soon.)

[@cassandracavette3327]

That absolutely is a crime. It’s assault.

[@tessmcclennan5976]

I NEED FURTHER UPDATES ON THIS

[@minalaine9692]

That sister in law better not tell their mother about the plan or else she ain't gonna be welcome in her own brother's house ever again

[@TianaMay2001]

Yea and it sounds like OP and her husband are the only kind of support from MIL that she has

[@skyenby9247]

Also what if the daughter married a girl they never know at this point their being salty because their old fashion views full their head that they don't even realize they could be hurting their granddaughter like they don't even care ridiculous

[@hermesson8749]

Lol that’s all I was thinking is what if she marries a girl or she just chooses to not change her last name or even get it hyphenated

[@skyenby9247]

@@hermesson8749 right

[@Bringon-dw8dx]

Couldn’t keep the baby 1) it’s extremely dangerous 2) that child would always be a reminder of how my body was violated by a person I will have to see until they die 3) I’d get a restraining order and there’s no way that could be kept secret- no child should be born knowing they caused their family to fall apart Also that’s it- name change. I would keep my maiden name and give the children my maiden name

[@Ambie_Michx]

My dads side was kinda like this. Not going far enough to tamper with BC buttt. My parents had my older brother and my Memeré (dads mum) told them she wants a girl. My parents just brushed it off as okay what ever. My brother and I are 5 years apart. When my parents found out they were pregnant with me my memeré told them. It better be a girl or else we are going to stop sending gifts for your son and the new baby. If it’s a girl we will keep sending gifts for both. Luckily I popped out a girl. But through the years I’ve gotten more gifts and called their princess and when they visit she follows me around. As a kid I was happy I got more gifts but once I turned 14 I felt bad for my brother and i have since spoken up.

[@kydeup1990]

I’m so happy with how supportive the husband is. He’s willing to give up the family name and take his wife’s side. Not the case in so many stories.

[@abby3373]

I’m team abortion that’s pretty much rape at that point. She and her husband consented with condoms and counter child methods. They were responsible this was a third party coming in and not following the consent barriers set by both parties. This is rape in my eyes in all honesty. I’d have the mother in law arrested because this baby was not consented to.🤷🏼‍♀️

[@ajackovic86]

If they are married she can not sue for grandparents rights at least in the state of California. The likely hood of her winning them with both parents objection is very low too. Also a grandparent has to prove that there is an established bond in order to even file with exceptions. With the child not even being born yet there is no bond.

[@cassandracavette3327]

Gpr is only a thing if the gp child dies so if the father dies they can fight for gpr

[@ajackovic86]

@@cassandracavette3327 not in California. A gp can fight for rights if both parents are alive.

[@ajackovic86]

@@cassandracavette3327 In general, grandparents cannot file for visitation rights while the grandchild’s parents are married. But there are exceptions, like: The parents are living separately; A parent’s whereabouts are unknown (and have been for at least a month); One of the parents joins the grandparent’s petition for visitation; The child does not live with either of his or her parents; or The grandchild has been adopted by a stepparent.

[@MJ-yp5vp]

Man Reddit is really showing all the crazy people I swear.

[@annanoble4529]

I can’t believe that it’s not a crime. Also there should not be anything as grandparents rights. The parents should be the one that gets to say who their child is around

[@taylorloch9180]

This is why I get the shot. No one can tamper with that.

[@ClySaga]

Same. I have an IUD. For years I'm good and don't need to think about it. I'm SUPER forgetful, like I'd forget birth control 200% of the times.

[@joursdeTJ]

Or the arm implant

[@PilotMoochi3]

The depo shot messed me up. I got off it after 2-3 years

[@CecilyV]

@@PilotMoochi3 I was on it for a year and it caused me so much weight gain. I’m still struggling with losing it a couple years later. Though I’m glad it helped me realize my ex was lowkey a jerk. Helped me big time with getting over it 🥰

[@alyssal8533]

When she talked about how African American women are more likely to die from childbirth it made me appreciate her more. I already knew about the statistics, but to hear someone with a platform talk about it just means a lot and it should be done more often.

[@maryamalhammadi588]

May I ask why ?

[@nicolehegarty4749]

Exactly

[@Gayonetta5000]

@@maryamalhammadi588 it’s nice to hear non black women share the facts on how women of color and their health have been treated in this country.

[@campanellastefanie]

My grandparents said THE SAME THING to my mom repeatedly after I (second and last kid) was born. My parents only wanted 2 and we are both girls and my grandparents were obsessed with carrying on the family name and they were pissed that we were girls. They didn’t tamper with anything though (they are not that level of crazy). Like if I ever get married, I’m keeping my last name anyway (because fuck the patriarchy) and they apparently never considered that 😂 Both sets of grandparents now want me and my sister to give them great grandkids... my sister had a partial hysterectomy at 30 and I’m 27 and I have a medical condition that makes it VERY HARD to have kids and I also HATE young kids and don’t want to have any ever. I give zero fucks about their feelings though lol

[@kimberlyWard8152]

People stuck in that mindset of "I have to have a boy carry on the family name" sicken me. Like are we monarchs living in the dark ages🤨😒 heck even modern monarchs don't do this shit now. Like how in England princess Charlotte (the middle child) will be able to have throne rights before her younger brother.

[@Natsu.dragneel448]

2:22 not me a black girl sitting here listening to such statistics á😣

[@TwoHotTakes]

Knowing that it exists and how to advocate for yourself is the first step! There’s some amazing people changing healthcare right now ❤️

[@kmcouch613]

I highly recommend using a midwife instead of an OB. They are so much more in tune with women and their bodies. I've used both and the experience was drastically different. I am not a WOC but I was treated entirely different by the midwives.

[@ADWebTV]

@@kmcouch613 that and just understanding everything that is going on by going to birthing classes, asking questions, and visiting the hospital or birth place if possible. Having a doula helps as they can advocate as needed.

[@TKDDLJ09]

I didnt know about this statistic until i watched an episode of The Resident and it brought up this in a really hardbreaking way. Like i cried my eyes out in that episode and then started doing research and holy mother of crap it is so scary that this is happing in a country like the US. 😥

[@Vi-dl6lp]

This feels exactly how I was raised but with my father instead of my grandparents 💀I was really mistreated my whole life but the second my brothers were born my dad was the model father, it’s ridiculous really, how men hating women goes as deep as mistreating their kids

[@kimberlyWard8152]

Sadly it isn't just dads and daughters mothers and sons as well. There was a mom that tried to get her 14 yr old son sterilized because ahe thought he'd be abusive like his dad

[@jaydyboo]

I'm shocked that they can press charges for something like this. This law needs to change. She's literally forced someone to go through permanent body changes, both physically and mentally! What about pain and suffering? If they're in a country where they don't have free medical facilities? They then have to pay for all of that too. For either route be it birth or abortion. Not to mention long term costs of raising a child!

[@stejimolphilip7424]

Upload more of these, I found out about this account yesterday and I finished watching everything

[@Nosillamp]

I can’t believe the SIL didn’t warn them. That’s messed up.

[@aspensponem1330]

Just as a slight point if the MIL is this obsessed with boys, I do wonder how she treated her daughter (SIL)? Not to say the SIL shouldn’t have behaved differently but had to be toxic to grow up like that.

[@addisoncoleman1225]

well she might not have been any different, or she might have had a good childhood. the mother had a son, so her “bloodline” would be carried on through him. it is interesting though to think about how SIL was treated growing up.

[@ashleyt6840]

I feel bad about the whole situation. I’m sure if the kid turned out to be a boy and she had visitation at all she’d probably treat the boy way better than the girl. Just so messed up.

[@Emmy-Lee45]

That's evil. Getting pregnant that quickly can be dangerous, and its super common to lose babies conceived that soon after birth

[@winter4505]

did anyone come from TikTok to watch the full thing?

[@melaniebrown4187]

I did lol

[@zebrattoratto]

Me 😂😂

[@sambrennan4787]

Saaaaame

[@daniellehall2432]

Yes!

[@MagicalGirlTV]

I did. I wanted to see how it all went down.

[@HolyShenanigans]

My in laws are not this toxic, but they are still very toxic. We are currently changing our last names to my maiden name. That's what they should do.

[@HolyShenanigans]

Then the mother in law won't have the satisfaction.

[@Maria-m890]

🎉don’t go along with they’re bs congrats 🍾

[@GoofyGeeks]

I really love the podcast when it’s Morgan and Justin their chemistry and banter is the best.

[@akeelanobee27]

Love that she brought up the disproportionate death rates of WOC in the delivery room. 🤍🤍

[@jfoxbeauty]

The SIL is just as guilty as the MIL

[@meganduckett4372]

As someone who is going to use condoms after my kid is born, I’m considering stashing them away now because I feel like this is something crazy my own mom would do!

[@nhgc5332]

I wouldn’t allow my mother in my home if I were you

[@bridgeeeena5798]

You should tell your mom you are getting implanted birth control so she doesn’t get the urge to tamper.

[@briannam916]

I love your passion towards wanting to help women of color with child birth. 💕 The statistics in this country are ridiculous.

[@thatgirllou868]

I've literally been binge watching these all day also the country that I live in we have socialized medicine however our healthcare system sucks so alot of women die during birth while giving birth in the public healthcare system so this makes me sad imagine if she lives in a country like mine

[@amberarras2056]

I would kill for updates on thisss, MIL is gucking insane for this, I want to know what happens and mainly wanna know that it’ll be a girl just to spite the MIL, but obviously none of us are gonna be psycho about whether or not she has a boy, just want the MIL to suffer 😤

[@MakingMackenziee]

Yes! Thank you for highlighting the maternity disparities for women of color! It’s literally the reason I won’t even consider having a baby.

[@myniquewilliams4306]

I think she should play the sister in law basically don’t tell her what’s she’s gonna do

[@devanshisharma5678]

Even better to not tell the sister in lae herself. Like this can probably help in knowing how guilty the sil was really feeling

[@__sp000ky__3]

I find it crazy that OP can't sue due to her MIL messing with their condoms but the MIL can take them to court for GPR like that's just so messed up

[@Theresahunt246]

if they have a boy, they should give him her maiden name. Lol

[@Maria-m890]

Ong that would be the best😂

[@lanaeartistry9401]

If my MIL did that to me I would press charges.

[@tataboom13]

"My mother in law tampered with my bc, her funeral is Monday "

[@madz637]

My Grandma has always favored my younger brother, and now that I'm 18, turning 19 soon, I get to choose whether or not I see her that often. Not only has her relationship with me become strained, but her relationship with my brother too. Playing favourites doesn't work out for anyone.

[@devingeary455]

They should send his mom the bill for 18 yrs of raising a child. For food,clothes,shelter,medical care & sports,extra curricular activities

[@keelyspalding261]

Another big issue I have with this is health risks that come with a pregnancy that so close after another, not only for mom but for baby as well. This is literally so crazy. Mother in law needs therapy.

[@shimeraleader]

Something like this happened in my family to my cousin with her MIL for the exact same reason and the level of petty that my family exudes --- her husband took her last name so their son doesn't have the "family" names the in-laws were obsessed with.

[@ambsmal]

change it to her OWN last name!!! GO HER! YASSSSS

[@ice1055]

In my opinion she shouldn’t have the baby. If it does turn out to be a boy then the in laws will seriously mistreat the daughter and favour the son. It’s best to put further pregnancy on hold and definitely change out your protection! Distance from the in-laws too.

[@skyenby9247]

I think that they should put the babies last name as the mothers just to spite the in laws even if it's a boy

[@19jeeties64]

Okay but they want to keep the kid? It’s not like some pet?

[@skyenby9247]

@@19jeeties64 exactly

[@ashleyevans2425]

Im gonna need an update at some point looks like if off to Reddit to find this story

[@SkyAlawi]

let us know if you find it haha

[@prashna3458]

The link of the story is in the description!

[@evolvingboard]

Tampering with someone's BC should be considered sexual assault and come with jail time.

[@evolvingboard]

I also wouldn't let the MIL around my kids.

[@907cowgirl.]

Agreed

[@estefanyaray]

Wow just found you guys on tik tok & these are AMAZING !!! Definitely subscribed and waiting for more ❤️❤️

[@asmith.1645]

Ummmmn if there is ever a follow up with this Reddit we NEED TO KNOW!!

[@BB_Creative]

Apparently they are having another girl. That’s all I got but still a slap on the face to that MIL.

[@Emilyfosterf1]

I've heard that they are changing their last names too

[@Maria-m890]

Lol how the turns have tabeld 😂😂😂

[@queenlynails]

Birth trauma is so so so so real. I’m sorry your sister had to go through that

[@3SheepInATrenchCoat]

Imagine they have a son but he’s gay. Lol 🏳️‍🌈 pride

[@heatherduke5410]

Isn't getting pregnant so soon after giving birth sort of dangerous? Her body would've essentially had no real time to rest. Also, I wonder how the mother in law didn't realize that by doing that, it would get her cut completely from her grandchildren's lives? So even if the OP had a son, it's not as if the grandma would've gotten to be in his life(because of what she did to his mother).

[@Bringon-dw8dx]

Yes it’s extremely dangerous- minimum you should wait a year if you had a standard pregnancy. Longer if you had a traumatic vaginal birth or had a C section

[@heatherduke5410]

​@@Bringon-dw8dx That's what I thought. Like, people are even supposed to wait about before having sex after giving birth because they're still healing.

[@Bringon-dw8dx]

@@heatherduke5410 yup

[@Maria-m890]

She could die if her body hasn’t healed 😢

[@anbrooks01]

She can actually sue the mom

[@Maria-m890]

She should personally I would😂

[@alanabear2736]

Having kids that close together can be really dangerous honestly

[@faye25ful]

Why wouldn't the SIL say something???

[@nicolehatton4534]

That's what I was thinking!

[@rebeccanelson6240]

If that grandma would do that to her daughter in law, imagine what she might do to her own actual daughter. The SIL was probably terrified of her own mom

[@kaitlinlarmore608]

imagine how the daughter will feel. just knowing that you grandmother wasn't happy enough you were born because of your gender. i can't even imagine.

[@mariankospix]

This story should be a movie. So happy with the decitions the girl made (camera - not using the last name - etc)

[@gem5343]

My grandparents have always favoured my brother over me. We have a 5 year age gap (I’m older) and as soon as he was born things changed. If I had a toy and my brother wanted it, they’d snatch it off me and give it to him; they made a bedroom in their home for him and not for me. I no longer speak to them for other reasons and have only seen them once since I was 17- I’m now 25. I showed them pictures of my graduation they missed and they didn’t even care. I hope nobody feels the way I did and I guess the idea of their last name living on through my brother makes sense as why he was favoured over me.

[@charlottestow248]

i saw a clip on tik tok and now i am hooked!!

[@RuthMcL1979]

First of all, birth can be sooo traumatic!! My oldest daughter haemorrhaged after having my grandson in December. Not too badly, extra fluids were enough, she didn’t need a transfusion. But my son-in-law has PTSD from it! He was handed his newborn son and thought he was going to lose his wife!! He was ready to have a vasectomy within a month!! Secondly, that MIL is screwed up!!

[@jenniflower6569]

The convo of newborns being compared to melons in the beginning though 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@lyssasalinas]

I’m an Irish twin! My sister and I were super close growing up, my mom didn’t expect me either.... 7 months pregnant with me at my sisters 1st birthday.... yeah it was like I had a best friend growing up, we grew apart bc were completely different, but we’re growing closer as we get older and hopefully if I ever pop out a kid she’ll be the cool wine aunt! Let them also grow individually and don’t constantly try to hook them onto each other, that works more for boys than for girls tbh!

[@Notnoodley]

Hi, Irish Person here! ‘Irish Twins’ was an offensive term used to mock catholic families during the famine

[@raivisbane6764]

Haha this remind me of my life I’m a girl, and the moment my little brother was born the my (g-grandfather and grandfather.) told my dad that he should bring just my little newborn brother over for a generational photo for first born son bullshit. I wasn’t invited I was three and had never met my ggf. My mum made my dad take me. It kinda just sums up my position in my dads family due to the fact that they have more sons and grandsons then daughters and granddaughters. But it doesn’t help a huge amount of it actually comes from my dads step mom. Also the only grandma I’ve ever known on that side. Treats girls as second fiddle, to her boys.

[@raivisbane6764]

What I’m saying this is what that little girl will witness if the parents don’t act now.

[@persephone6968]

It better be another girl

[@sarah11sings95]

Apparently it was

[@Maria-m890]

Yaaaaaaaas🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤

[@lyndsycarson8302]

My in-laws would NEVER see my kids or be aloud over at my house EVER! That’s so dangerous and unhealthy! So scary! Yeah they’d never see my kids no matter what they came out as. I’d 100% keep a boy away from that toxic family! Hell No!

[@Libracourt17]

Depends on where you are depends on how grandparents rights work. I’m in Canada where there is no rights, however I just finished a nearly 4 yr battle with my own mom as she tried to take me to court for visitation of my kids (literally she acted as if she was a divorced parent not a grandparent). Luckily for me she showed just how toxic she was towards me which got her no contact. Court system be screwed up.

[@korig7539]

The sister in law is sus for not saying something sooner.

[@enothing]

That’s sexual assault through third party

[@kaylasarro6932]

At minimum if it is a boy they need to do a fake gender reveal and say it's a girl again just to get the satisfaction of pissing them off

[@Enriquez2222]

I’d have an abortion honestly, maybe consider a divorce (for me personally), I wouldn’t wanna be apart of that family whatsoever

[@valzeppelin5153]

That would be a lawsuit. I would make sure the MIL would be paying child support, because she helped create that baby.

[@kenzik7919]

This is my favorite podcast now thank y’all

[@Maria-m890]

Morgan is so cool❤

[@distorbia20]

Omg three months postpartum. Lord she barely healed and is dealing with sleepless nights. Her body is exhausting and to put her through another pregnancy so early on that she wasn’t prepared for. That is evil

[@3Hyena]

I’d laugh my ass off if it was a girl and I’d cut contact with MIL Asap and never allow her to be around my kids I’m so glad she’s petty like me and would change the last names

[@droppndice58]

My former MIL tried to minipulate my ex into giving our daughter her middle name. For context, my former MIL has said im a druggie, tweaker, drunk, parties all the time, and is no good for her daughter cause im not rich. Shes a narcissitic and minipulative woman. So to spit her. My ex and i gave my mothers middle name (Dawn) to our daughter. Eventually my former MIL's minipulation worked and my ex left me.

[@user-od5hr3up6g]

Fathers determine the sex of the baby. MIL can blame her son! No contact sounds like a brilliant idea!!

[@summersmith3690]

She should change her last name to Petty just to shove it to the family 😂😂

[@DarkAngelDiva]

I wish they could file police charges against the mother in law

[@Rmrz06.]

Yup!! The MIL did something to her body without her agreeing! Should be able to press charges.

[@valentinascarfia9971]

My grandparents from my father side loved my brother more than me...my grandma passed away 2 yrs ago and I only visited her grave once...I also don't like to talk to my grandpa. This story makes me VERY sad...at this point I hope for another girl 😈

[@kenzie0122]

My MIL hasn’t done anything this crazy but my first child she kept saying she wanted a boy and when we found out it was a girl she had had minimal contact with her. She showed up to the baby shower long enough to eat and step outside to smoke(while we opened gifts) and didn’t show up to the hospital and got told by in-laws that she doesn’t like me so she’s not coming. Now over 3 years later I’m pregnant again and at first she expressed she didn’t care about the gender but then proceeded to call our baby a boy and I want this or that to be given to the boy which obviously pissed me off.. we still don’t know the gender but no matter the gender I’m limiting her contact with our children. You don’t get to pick and choose what child to love