Mom Abandoned Me In Order To Live Her Life And Now Wants Me Back For Money r/Relationships

[@carlrood4457]

Smart of the aunt to get custody in writing and get the child support payments transferred. It's quite likely a lot of money never made it to OP over 16 years.

[@jamestomlin5525]

None of it did until she went to her aunts, sad

[@nataliereeves3594]

I suspect she kept the dad away as well since he wanted to talk to her. She probably didn't want him to tell op about the money. They need to take her to court to sue her for fraud or misappropriation of funds. She pocketed the money for herself and only wanted op back for the money she feels entitled to.

[@MiniKitty27]

story 2: it's not a sincere apology if you get upset when the apology isn't accepted

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. I'm also rather suspicious. Particularly since the future MIL *seemed* to accept at first, then called back later to chew OP out. Wonder if someone else is pulling the strings.

[@lorifiedler13]

Apology accepted. Trust denied.

[@onepieceisking5493]

Story 1, I'm actually not surprised that the egg donor wanted op back because she wanted money from op's dad. Good on the aunt for telling her no and that money belongs to op NOT her greedy butt. Op belongs with the aunt as she truly loves op and will care for her unlike the egg donor.

[@maggpiprime954]

And that Auntie corrected her regarding OP's room not being spare. Pretty sure the only reason she didn't immediately say GTFO was in deference to OP's right of decision.

[@dionysus_adores]

The day I left would've been that last time I'd see her and I would've let her know that too. what an awful mother.

[@Davtwan]

That’s what happens when someone ends up having a child at 15-16. I don’t know who’s to blame for that one (no protection, lack of education, bad parents), but I’ll be damned if I’d let OP’s mom use it as an excuse.

[@laumay7364]

@@Davtwan Jesus’ mom was 14 and look how he turned out.

[@nvfury13]

@@laumay7364 Turned into an “off the grid” hermit in the wilderness for a decade, came back, started a cult, assaulted some folks, did some weird shit, got executed.

[@noydb-1]

I kept thinking during the first post, is the dad sending child support? Good to see the aunt saw through mommy's con game and made sure the child support went to the child like its supposed to. I would tell OP to enjoy her new life and forget that egg donor exists, but we all know that as OP goes through college and starts her career, mommy will come begging for money on the regular. Saying that OP owes her for all she did to raise her. Please just laugh in her face when that happens.

[@kathydurow6814]

When I read Mom's boyfriend dumped her & left her poor, lights flashed & bells rang. Mom got rid of OP because he didn't like kids, or she was afraid he'd prefer/chase OP, or simply because it might cramp her style and she's catching up on the stuff people in their late teens & 20s do. No BF, back she comes. Wonder if she spent all her money herself or the BF bled her dry, even though the post could imply mom was living off her BF. OP should stay with the aunt so she has stability in her final high school years.

[@nataliereeves3594]

Theaten legal action if she comes back. She stole from op by using the money for herself.

[@mjforsyt]

Story 1: the things you find embarrassing now are the things that you’ll tell at dinner parties in 5-6 years and will be enthralled by your tenacity. Glad you have your Aunt and Uncle.

[@itsjustmaddisen]

You tell embarrassing stories at dinner parties? Lol.

[@m3l199]

Story 1:. This teen sounded so independent and like a fairly easy teen! She's got a job and involved in activities. All mom had to do was keep a roof over her head for two more years!! OP...you're way better off at your Aunt's!

[@anthonygilmour6236]

Also I hope OP gets in contact with her father.

[@jeanied8701]

I absolutely hate it when people tell me I shouldn't feel a certain way. It's not up to them to dictate my feelings nor should I be made to feel awful because I do feel a certain way that may differ to others. No one has the right to ridicule or dismiss another's feelings.

[@HackiePuffs]

It’s always the exact same case with the “but familyyyy” excuse. Yeah where was that when you betrayed me?? It’s honestly kinda laughable at this point. 🤣

[@BerryTrekkin]

Story 3: Lol, Mark, I had the exact same thought about the tutting 😂 I bet once she’d left there would’ve been whispers of “can you believe they were trying to get us to move out of first class after we paid extra? These train companies are ridiculous!” I could rant for a while about UK trains. I remember an instance where my train had been cancelled last minute and the next one for that service was like 2 or 3 hours away. But I had to get a connecting train at the next station so couldn’t take the later train. I got a ticket for a different company to get me where I needed to go in time. I was refused a refund for the cancelled train because I “could’ve taken the later train”, despite explaining the fact that I couldn’t due to the connecting train. Cost me like £30 for the new ticket, plus losing the £25 on the original ticket. The customer service were just really rude and treating me as though it was my fault. I haven’t used their company since.

[@dlpacres4718]

Last story: I'm likely being cynical, but I can't help thinning that elderly lady did that on purpose thinking she'd get a first class ticket for free.

[@skullphantom705]

Yep, she was definitely doing it on purpose. And it's even more obvious if she immediately went for the seat marked for disabled and demanded OP moved. This woman sounds like a Karen.

[@SwirlyPinwheel]

At 60, "elderly" is a bit of a stretch, too unless she had a disability besides.

[@sbr8015]

@@SwirlyPinwheel Agreed. My dad was still going to the gym and jogging several times a week up until his 70s when an injury slowed him down.

[@llamabrat07]

@@SwirlyPinwheel my parents are in their 60s & are still active & don’t need priority seating. They also wouldn’t act this entitled. 50s - 60s, and even early 70s are seniors, not elderly. Late 70s and up is elderly. Elderly are those whose age means they have trouble moving and need a place to sit for long trips & need to be near the door so they can make it out in time when they reach their stop.

[@stoopingfalcon891]

@@sbr8015 I noted you said slowed him down. Didn't stop him though, right? Powerhouse dad!

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

The marker of a _sincere_ apology is that it comes without expectation. It's not a manipulative action to smooth things over. MIL-to-be has some reflecting to do.

[@hothotheat3000]

Shared DNA is not a binding contract that entitles this woman to your time, loyalty, or money. Cut her out.

[@hibiscusrose6074]

Story 2 what is wrong with people trying to reconnect people they don't want to be reconnected with? That was a foolish thing to try to do.

[@rogerrabbit80]

They don't understand that not every family cares about each other and likes one another. It's the, "I haven't seen it, so it's not real" idea. "I know what a family is like, you're just exaggerating. It wasn't really that bad." ILs probably don't think they did anything wrong. They think that since they'd be happy to be reunited with family members they hadn't seen in a while, OP would be, too. The idea that OP wouldn't be jumping for joy over such a reunion probably confuses them no end.

[@laurenevers8644]

Goddamn, that 1st story got me. I've never heard a reddit story that made me actually cry before but this one made my eyes pretty blurry at one point. I'm so grateful she has an aunt and uncle who will go so far to stick up to OP's sorry sack of shit egg doner for her. I hope she gets the help she needs after this, that kind of emotional trauma is too severe for a teenager to go through and not have someone qualified help her work through her pain.

[@stoopingfalcon891]

I have a suspicion that the young lady will come out the other side of this so much stronger because of the support of her aunt and uncle. I wish her well.

[@AshenTechDotCom]

@@stoopingfalcon891 yeah, i have friends who went threw shit like this, in one case, both parents sent the kids to stay with relations for the summer, then shipped all the kids stuff out freight style and vanished after leaving them a VHS telling all the kids they never wanted kids and regretted having them, hopefully they have a good life, dont bother looking for them, they were moving out of the country to live their "true lives"... thankfully family saw the video tapes and reviewed them and kept them from the kids till the younger ones were old enough to understand... by then... they didnt give a flying-f about the parents, they knew the were dumped and that things got alot better for them after, turned out 7 years later, the parents both tried to get back in touch and were shocked nobody in the family wanted anything to do with them.... after being arrested and removed from the family farm, they went back to south America and managed to piss off the wrong people and ended up spending some time in a south American prison.. mom made it back, dad, got shanked in prison and didnt make it, turned out the life insurance policy the grandparents got them both to let them pay for, to take care of the kids if they died, actually paid out to a trust for the kids as well as each getting a set amount to spent how they wanted, the grandparents sat them down and found out where they were living and warned them they moved to the states because that place isnt safe if you upset the wrong person, you can endup in jail/prison/dead, and its why the whole core family moved here, and why they help others do the same.. turned out one of said people hit on his wife and rather then let it go he got into a knock-down-drag-out with the dude who was related to some sketchy people both in the local govt and local crime... the family was flat out told, they could pay to get the 2 back, nobody was interested, they burned to many bridges... and didnt listen... at least the kids were able to pay off student loans and pay for school from it.. my buddy and his sister who are both childhood friends of mine, and the yonger ones, all just needed to talk and vent at times.... mosty ranting about how the hell could they be related to that delusional ..woman... (they use more colourful lang..) but yeah... its also what they all claim made them stronger and helped them learn what not to do as a parent, or person, and they learned how to be truly upstanding people after moving out here... the few times they thought about being unwanted they then remembered how happy their true family were to see them and take them in.. and that they got adopted by my family and some of our other friends families like they just gained another kid... the mothers now actually in a home, she had several pretty nasty infections when she got back that took them months in the hosp to clear up that left her body wrekt and her mind was not very sharp to start with....more.... tiny and rubbery... with a bell inside... nobody was shocked dad got himself killed, he never could keep his mouth shut according to everybody who knew him... sometimes the best thing you can do is play mute...

[@AndyyWithAY]

I'd go NC with the future ILs in Story 2. An engagement party is SUPPOSED to celebrate the wedding couple. The future ILs are making this about them and what they want. It doesn't matter if OP is overreacting. She and fiance made boundaries clear and they just bulldozed that for their selfish gain.

[@WobblesandBean]

The thing is, that's her fiance's duty, not hers. If he's not standing up to his wretched parents, then that's a huge red flag and she needs to reconsider marrying this guy.

[@upyourasteriod4494]

No she is the AH the family was trying to help her in their own ways. Everyone wants everyone to feel loved and welcome. The story didn't show selfishness on the IL but the OP for not understanding. Hell, if this was a surprise party it would be even better

[@AndyyWithAY]

You don't get to show love to someone in a way they've expressed is inappropriate. They are major AH knowing OP has this trauma. OP can't be TA for expressing a past trauma and rejecting this selfish display

[@upyourasteriod4494]

@@AndyyWithAY the family tries to fix an issue by doing the right thing. The OP wasn't abused or in a bad situation but her half family was put in a worse situation. Her IL tried to fix it by trying to bring them closer hoping a new relationship might bloom. So her reaction was to freak out deciding that her IL are horrible bc they try to play middle man in a situation that would always hold something over OP.

[@dc.pxrecious]

@@upyourasteriod4494 I'm guessing you're from a well adjusted, loving family. The ILs were wrong for inviting the half siblings after knowing about Op's history. They're even more wrong for not discussing it with Op before hand to find out if she would even be ok inviting them. In this situation them trying to "help" or " do something nice" that wasn't it. You don't try to spring or force a relationship because they stupidly think it would have been love and kisses all around. FYI pain is pain doesn't matter if they weren't abusive OP was rejected by everyone, she was born into chaos and into a horrible situation that wasn't her fault but still had to live with all the pain and ugliness of the situation

[@amysmith6791]

NTA for story 3. I agree with Mark. Priority and booking should always be two separate things. Were they willing to refund you the difference and explain to your boss why you couldn't get any work done. Keep Priority as Priority. Don't sell them.

[@Parasolhyena]

I guess I can see why it might be harder, you need a proirty seat in first class in class any disabled people book a ticket for first class. If no priority books first class don't then you got one first class area doing nothing if no priority tickets are sold. Doesn't make it right of course but it's one of the less stupid things the trains do, still stupid but less stupid.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

What’s the point in booking a ticket if they expect you to just give up your seat when some ninny thinks she has more priority because she’s 60? I will be 59 this year and definitely do not consider myself elderly! 😳🙄😡

[@maurer3d]

Story 3: NTA, assuming the woman didn't have mobility issues (crutches, cane, wheelchair, or walker), being elderly does not automatically make you disabled. The authorities who runs the train are a group of AHs, they shouldn't be booking priority seats in advance. Here in the US if you need disability accommodations on planes and trains, you need to inform the companies ahead of time so they can arrange it and be ready for you.

[@sfsin3380]

While I agree they seat booking is ridiculousness (both on trains and planes recently didn't even get the train seat I paid extra to book I was P***. staff wouldn't do anything). However this was 1st class odds are that when the regular 1st class seats filled the priority where given out Because this is 1st class it no one requested a priority seat no one needs it. This really sound like someone trying to sneak into first class.

[@garthrogers2269]

Last story. NTA, OP paid extra for that seat. Also, what if OP had their own mobility issues that were not visibly apparent? Old age does not necessarily equal disabled, nor does it automatically entitle someone to a seat over a younger person. More to the point, absolutely no-one else in that part of the train was willing to move either.

[@CrypticCharm]

story one. i really hope OP using that money that her mother missed out on, since it was meant to be rasing her, and the aunt is awesome and puts it away for her future. i hope they gets an awesome life with it, good college, great friends an eventual soulmate, and an awesome future. that the mum will never see. because she deserves nothing

[@kalikoserpent]

The OP in story one is female (check at the beginning, they wrote 16f)

[@CrypticCharm]

@@kalikoserpent Oh yeah, thanks for the catch

[@anthonygilmour6236]

What makes you think the father wasn't paying child support or wanted to see OP? OP says that the person who receives the child support has changed, not that the child support has just started. We only have OPs mothers word on what happened I have a strong feeling that the mother is also guilty of parental alienation. 🤔

[@robertx8020]

@@anthonygilmour6236 good point

[@MorbidKat]

I moved out at 16, finished school, and enlisted in the Army. It was not an easy life. Op had the option of a caring home with the aunt and took it which is the best choice and I'm so glad she's getting set up well ar her new school. At first I wondered if the mom was bipolar by how she came back for Op or wanted to share a room but nope, just wanted that baby daddy check. Despicable.

[@peteranon8455]

Story 2. NTA. Also, **** anyone who lectures you on forgiveness. They get to talk to OP about forgiveness when they've literally had there parents die as a child and they get abandoned by the only family for the foster care system. It's not for us to lecture someone who had to deal with that.

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

Last story: not the idiot imo. I have to use a walker due to medical conditions but would never expect someone else to give up a seat they'd booked and paid extra for. However I also take the initiative to book the seats I need in advance so I know I can manage my trips as comfortably as possible whenever early booking is possible, otherwise I just do my best to manage with whatever is available.

[@HealthyObbsession]

Story number 1 as bad as this will sound hear me out I wish my mom had left me and my siblings Instead when big events happened for my middle sister like her 18th birthday graduation Our mother on both of these occasions told my sister ‘You're just lucky I didn't get an abortion’ She has done this to me as well I'm just a bit more mean than my sister I usually replied with “Yeah I wish had gotten one because it's clear you hate being a parent” Or “Well I know condoms were already a thing along with the pill you should have used them” She wanted the prestige of being a parent but none of the work She would also threaten to leave us all the time Not everyone should be a parent and it's time we normalize that

[@nataliereeves3594]

Not the prestige, just the money.

[@jjgandthatsenough]

Story 3: regardless of you actually reserving that seat (neat btw) she was a rude old shrew who thought her age and seniority would force you to do the “right” thing which is, conveniently exactly what she wants. She should’ve been more friendly, or reserved a seat like you.

[@atinyevil1383]

That's kind of what I thought. In another comment, someone said that it seemed like she got the ticket in the hopes that she could get a free first class seat and I'm wondering if this is true due to the way she acted.

[@JohnSmith-xq1pz]

In long enough to drop a "But faaaaamily" for the first story lol

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1: the mother couldn’t have waited until her daughter was 18? Why ruin her high school life and goals just to “live your life”. This mom is toxic beyond belief

[@TheIronwil]

Story 1: NTA. It’s a sad fact that parents who abandoned their kid(s) only to try making amends later almost always: 1) Need an organ transplant 2) Need money 3) the Golden Child cut contact or died.

[@opal5138]

I feel real bad for OP cant imagine what it would be like for a parent to just stop wanting you. Have a wonderful day everyone dont forget to stay hydrated

[@moonlightwolf]

It's not a good feeling when a parent tells you they no longer want you. My mother told me I was dead to her, and it's a pain that will never really go away. It's worse than losing your mother to death, imo, because you have to live with the knowledge that your mother is alive in the world and loving everyone but you. It forever taints your image of your mother and mother figures in general because all you can see when you look at them is your own mother telling you she doesn't love you, that she doesn't want you. It cements in you a fear that if your own mother can't and won't love you, who will?

[@opal5138]

@@moonlightwolf aw I’m really sorry to hear that, I hope you are doing well

[@maryl1785]

OMG, the first story -- my heart goes out to that girl but she really turned it around into a good thing. 2nd story, I'd never forget. 3rd story -- I'm over 60 and don't consider 60 to 65 elderly. Eff that! I wouldn't have moved.

[@brigidtheirish]

A lot of folks in their sixties don't consider themselves elderly. Dad's been *mistaken* for a decade or so older than he really is most of his adult life (started balding in his late teens), so, for him, turning 65 was exciting because, as he said, "I'm *officially* an old coot!"

[@carolroberts4614]

69 here, and my partner 76. Neither of us would want priority seating!

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Oh, I think I remember this story. I think Lost Genre read this story. And I can't help but feel sorry for OP. I can't imagine having a mother who just decided she doesn't want to be a mother anymore. Having regrets is normal, but it's heartbreaking when children are told by their narcissistic parents that they wish they never were never born/they never had them. It's really infuriating that selfish, entitled and/or narcissistic parents blame their poor children for "ruining" their lives. You choose to have children and you didn't want children, then you should've protected yourself(especially if you don't want to stop having sex). No one is responsible for your choices but you. And you only have yourself to blame for your poor choices.

[@samalvarez8776]

Hey! I listen to Lost Genre too! It all started with rslash for me then Markee, Mark Narration and Lost Genre

[@dennymetts90]

@SamMcCauley I started with Mr Reddit, Markee (but I can't stand his voice), Mark Narrations then Lost Genre

[@jessiejeanne9717]

I listen to LG, too! 😆

[@samalvarez8776]

@@dennymetts90 I like Markee's voice. For some reason I can't stand Mr Reddito. He's really popular but I just don't like him lol different strokes for different folks!

[@barbarapearson5896]

​@@samalvarez8776 Mr. Reddito is annoying. He reads like English isn't his first language, and yes I know that he is Canadian but still...

[@ivymerritt7577]

Story 1: I think this may turn out to be the best thing to happen to OP. Her aunt appears to care more about her than her egg donor does, as sad as that to say. After update: Ugh! Why am I not surprised? Thank God her aunt has her back!

[@angelblake8225]

Parent got married because I was an oops baby. Divorce for irreconcilable differences. My mom only kept me and my brother around for the child support check. She and her boyfriend kept blowing through it so there was never money for necessities. I had to call my dad multiple times to buy me things I needed cause my mom didn't have the money or wouldn't spend it on me. Once the custody changed she disappeared from my life. No monthly check no need to stick around for the kids. Family all say I should forgive her as she's still my mom. Sometimes I feel she treated me and my brother differently cause he was planned and I wasn't.

[@brigidtheirish]

I'm all about family, but tell yours to get bent. That megatwit doesn't deserve to be called a mother. All she did was give birth to you. Sounds like she didn't even take care of her legal minimum responsibility. The favoritism just makes it *worse.*

[@missliss1764]

Your 'family' that says you 'have to forgive'... Screw that! You do what is good for YOU! I had a similar situation to you and Mark's first story, I was 16 as well. It's been 30 years and it still hurts deeply. I can't forgive. But I've moved on and have a good life. The people who say forgive are the ones who don't know the whole story and how badly we were hurt, or they don't have the empathy to comprehend and are too self centered to be a close part of my life.

[@clairebear-96]

Lmfao the tutting and sighing at the end - i’m not british and have never been there but i do the exact same thing, so does my grandma 😂

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 1: OP needs a therapist and a good school counselor to help her with college issues.

[@TheArnaa]

Story 2: for a horrible moment, I thought the fiancé had been involved in inviting the step-siblings. Kudos to him for standing up for OP. Also, I want to know why the half-siblings agreed to show up at the engagement party of the woman they had previously been happy to end contact with.

[@madgevanness4011]

Because fiancé’s family was either rich or socially prominent and they saw a chance to weasel into a better stratum.

[@cheerio3847]

@@madgevanness4011 I think you are most likely right, but part of me wants to hope they just thought that major things like weddings / engagements should be attended. From what OP said, they didn't seem to have a hateful, angry relationship - just indifferent. No blame on OP for what happened, but no interest in keeping close. I'm hoping that they just saw an engagement party / wedding as one of those duty events you attend for relatives, even if there isn't much of a relationship. Perhaps they felt it was something they couldn't refuse w/o turning their lack of relationship into a 'thing' that becomes hateful? W/o any info about them, who knows? I've heard it said the opposite of hate isn't love, but indifference. In that situation, they would likely accept the invite thinking it was important to her and not wanting things to become negative. If it were me in the same sit as the siblings, I would have thought of contacting OP, or at least the fiancee, to double check this was what she wanted before accepting. If so, then I'd likely attend out of care for my dad and thinking this may be what he would have wanted; after all, it IS a wedding / engagement life event. I was taught you show up for weddings and funerals, and be pleasant, even if you hated the relative!

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 3 nta you paid extra money for that seat and you needed it to continue to work. Plus the fact she was so rude about it as well

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

The woman said she was 60, this an elderly person…lol…I am 58 and do not consider myself elderly. She said elderly, not disabled! Like OP said, why should she be penalized for someone who didn’t take the time to book her seat!!

[@kiarastardust]

also she just freaking assumed that op wasn't disabled

[@cheerio3847]

@@stirrednotshaken4823 Me too! I'm over 60 and don't feel those seats are for me. I think she just counted on being able to grab that seat so she wouldn't have to pay the extra charge to reserve something specific. I do think it was crap of the company to sell more first-class tickets than they had seats.

[@swearimnotarobot3746]

Tell her you’re living your best life, without her. And then ghost her.

[@lisawhereisthecultjam]

Story 1: I was transferred in the middle of my junior year and it was the best thing ever. I ended up Vice President of my senior class at the new school. It was awesome and I am so glad that it happened. One door closes, several more will open. ❤️

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 2: she needs to stop answering her phone and tell her fiancé to deal with his family. That's his mom, he gets to tell her to f off.

[@11darkraven11]

I'm meal prepping tonight and these videos are my favorite soundtrack 😁 I hope everyone is well!

[@MarkNarrations]

I wish I could get my ass in gear to meal prep Terri, good on you!

[@alboyer6]

Story 1. I wonder what the dad has to say. The terrible mom may have done something bad with that situation too.

[@katecooper3410]

Story 2: NTA. You are literally respecting your half siblings' boundaries and you also don't want a relationship with people who don't want anything to do with you. Future inlaws refused to understand that (hence the sneaking) and now you're setting boundaries with them

[@AndyyWithAY]

I never understand how people in stories like 3 can ask if they're TA. You paid extra for a certain seat and didn't give it up. No way you can be TA. NTA.

[@Akichan07]

Eating chipotle with mark's sultry voice in the background?? *chef's kiss*

[@MarkNarrations]

Wish I had a chipotle close to me, closest is London way. OOOOOF!

[@enjolireyes643]

You.. yes you there... I know days can be long and tough... but you got this. Let's kick back, enjoy the moment we have and the rest... slowly it may be, will fall into place.

[@WobblesandBean]

I'm glad OP's mom didn't end up getting her. I was honestly afraid that she'd be forced back as the bio mom :/

[@AndyyWithAY]

Mark the title game today has been chef's kiss!! I was super pumped to watch both videos today because they sounded JUICY!!

[@brigidtheirish]

1: I want to give OP a hug. Having her life upended by moving is hard enough, but moving because her mom *kicked her out* and *regrets being a mother* has to be *heartbreaking.* I feel like OP's focusing on all the school stuff either because she's used to her egg-donor being a selfish asshole or it's easier than thinking about how she's now been abandoned by *both* parents. I think the commenters gave OP a lot of good advice, but some of them are being way too kind to the egg-donor. Update: Sounds like OP's doing great. Still want to give her a hug. Especially after the mom barged back into her life. What a selfish, greedy bitch, treating OP like a doll she can toss aside and pick up whenever. Worse, an ATM. As if OP doesn't have her own life. As if child support can be used for anything she wants rather than being *for the child.* With these revelations, I wonder if the dad really did abandon OP or if the egg-donor conspired to keep him away. I also wonder what the child support had been used for all this time. Sounds like OP didn't even *know* about it. 2: Wow. OP's childhood was a shit show. Good for OP's fiance standing up to his rotten family. I have questions about the half-siblings, though. Like, what kind of "good people" are "enthusiastic" to tell someone they feel nothing for them and they should go away. It also sounds like the half-siblings *accepted* the invitation despite the lack of relationship. The future mother-in-law's reaction to OP rejecting the new party date sounds like another example of someone thinking "forgive" necessitates "forget." Forgiving someone doesn't mean you have to trust them ever again. Especially since the future MIL is the *only one* who apologized while the others are acting like everything's OP's fault. I wouldn't trust them not to invite the half-siblings over behind the future MIL's back. 3: The real assholes are the ones who made a "priority seat" double as a *bookable first-class seat.* The elderly woman was also an asshole if OP's accurate about her tone and manner being rude from the start. I'm guessing she was rude, since no one else in the car was willing to give her a seat. OP wasn't quite an asshole, he paid premium for a space where he could work relatively unbothered and as much as I'm all for giving a spot to the elderly or disabled, I'm pretty sure I'd dig my heals in if someone *demanded* my seat.

[@Argendriel]

Considering how much a POS the mother in story 1 is, I wouldn't be surprised if the father was being kept away by her. No guarantees, obviously, but it might be worth it to accept his requests for contact just to hear his side of the story.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

At least I got a bit of an education on the train system over in the UK. And the answer is no, I would not have moved - it's called "First in, best dressed" meaning a booked seat is exactly that, a booked seat.

[@kamelanglois2674]

I was treated like an outsider in my family for most of my life,my mother even straight up told me that I was a mistake. Going no contact with my family has helped me start healing

[@carlrood4457]

There's a difference between forgiving the act and being able to trust them going forward. Neither is guaranteed.

[@amarie8769]

The 2ne story: I will never understand how people feel they have the right to do things like that. She is no contact for a reason. The future in laws had no right to decide that it was water under the bridge. OP is going to have to make sure boundaries are put in place for them.

[@kaitlynhall2112]

Story 2: I think I heard a “later” story from OP, where it was her SILs planning her baby shower and doing a genealogy themed baby shower and how the entire family had the same theme. Cause the back story matched for both stories.

[@pjschmid2251]

That story about the train seat sounded like an entitled woman trying to use the excuse of being “elderly” to force that woman from her booked seat. She said the woman was about 60 and never mentioned that she was at all infirmed or disabled so she had no more right that seat than anyone else. Just being over 60 years old does not give you right to special treatment good God. At the rate things are going half the world‘s going to be over 60 years old pretty soon and we all can’t be that special.

[@ricaivory6571]

Story 1 I'd bet money the mother was keeping the kid from the dad and dad stayed away bcuz he assumed that's what op wanted. He wanna talk to her meaning, it was all the mom being spiteful.

[@jenniferhanses7064]

Story 3: From a US view, NTA. I do sympathize with the elderly woman, though. It seems as if the train system is at fault, rather than either of you. The train shouldn't have allowed someone who is not a priority class to book a priority ticket. Heck, it sounds like they need to not book out priority seating at all, or to require booking. Something. The train system is TA here.

[@brigidtheirish]

Those prices are *insane,* too.

[@sfsin3380]

While I agree they seat booking is ridiculousness (both on trains and planes recently didn't get the train seat I paid extra to book I was P***. staff wouldn't do anything). However this was 1st class odds are that when the regular 1st class seats filled the priority where given out Because again this is 1st class it no one has requested a priority seat no one needs it. This really sound like someone trying to sneak into first class.

[@astronautviolet153]

Story : 1 Hopefully Op be strong and start fresh somewhere with someone that love her. New experience it's not the end new beginning.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - My heart breaks for OP after finding out what a crap egg donor she had. So glad auntie got papers signed AND the child support checks to take care of OP. I hope she does reach out to her dad because she might just find the parent she deserves in him. So glad auntie is taking good care of her and putting away some funds for future. And Mark is right, OP can just take things at her own pace but at least she is safe, taken care of and loved.

[@deborahosborne9426]

I'm disabled. I always book a seat as I know standing isn't an option.

[@klb5114]

Story 1 am I the only one to think the reason why the father is not involved in opie's life is because the mother made it that way. That he probably wasn't ready to be a dad and she got pregnant on purpose cuz maybe he had money. She sounds like a barrel of fun. Opie's dad may not be involved in her life but at least he pays child support. I am happy that her moving was a good experience. She got a great job a wonderful boyfriend and a wonderful aunt that took her in with her husband. The ant was smart enough to get the mother to sign a paper saying she gets a child support check. I'm glad op didnt back with her mom and I'm glad her aunt kicked her out. As for story 3 DK with people think they're entitled to first class seats because they're handicapped their elderly. I understand this was priority seating. But a lot of trains and planes. I don't travel that much by it I have it in years so I don't know about the US. But I know in other countries that they do have chair seats for like that purpose but they usually like in business class first class or economy premium. You very seldom find them in the standard or the cheap area of the part of the travel area. This is like that woman on tiktok that one give up a seat to the family because they don't want to sit together and she would have been stuck in coach. If I'm going to plan ahead and pay for comfort which is not cheap in some places. It's not my problem to accommodate you. Now wondered if they had offered to like pay her the difference on the spot for a free ticket to somewhere in the world then I probably would do it but nope your problems ain't mine

[@LayfonDragnia]

Come on Mark, story two was definitely worth a full “what the fuck” Silver lining, the whole situation shows that the fiancé is a keeper.

[@maiingan07]

Oh, Mark, I had needed to feel the laughter, so I thoroughly enjoyed your personal touches, especially the tut, tut…. at the end. You see, my Mum was born and raised in England, and all of her side of the family continued living there while my Mum had married an American. I even have a Dual Nationality too, which I am grateful for. Anyways, when you were doing your tut tut impressions I couldn’t help but burst out laughing with the image of my Mum and her Mum and sister. I could imagine them all doing it too. Thank you for bringing back some great memories. Wishing you lots of smiles and laughter over your weekend.

[@CatsOverBrats]

Seat arrangements on trains work that way in Denmark too. You can pay extra and book a seat when booking the ticket, or you can try your luck which often ends in you standing in the hallway between the train wagons.

[@jmjedi923]

What...what did the mom in the first story expect? The money was from the dad to take care of OP...now that the mom didn't have OP anymore why would the money keep going to the mom?

[@STB-jh7od]

Story 1: I hope there's an update about her father. Sounds like mother did parental alienation from father

[@MGP2210]

22:15 that British tutting was hilarious. 🤣 🤣 👍 👍 🇬🇧 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 🤗 🌟

[@helenafarkas4534]

story 2: I frankly doubt the sincerity of soon to be MIL's "apology". sure, it had all the required elements, and the fact that she DID apologize when no one else has is significant, but the way she clearly expected that the "apology" would magically wipe the slate clean... yeah no way it was sincere. because if it WAS sincere, she would have understood that OP's feelings were truly wounded by her actions and that hurt takes time to heal. MIL is just as self centered as the rest of the family, she just hides it better

[@lorilyons3416]

Sweetie just know there’s a mom out here loving you and praying for your success. You sound smart and strong. Go kick high schools butt! You’ve got this beautiful girl ❤

[@dianeessex300]

Story 2 Some people destroy very good relationships because they just can't admit they messed up. Good on MIL for apologizing. Hopefully the SIL's will come around too.

[@Silence-1170]

Hi waffles hope you are all doing well today! Stay safe and stay positive waffles!

[@jessiejeanne9717]

I just have no words. This world needs help. ETA: "what the _ffffff-HELL?"_

[@analisesalas538]

Yes Mark go off on the train companies!!

[@jamestomlin5525]

That poor child... hope she's doing better now

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark, stay safe please, peace.

[@britnicox3929]

1: I’m so glad she has her aunt and they are providing her a stable environment 2: apologies don’t mean forgiveness or trust is restored. She’s probably freaking out bc she realized how badly she messed up and is trying to browbeat OP to absolve her own guilt

[@peteranon8455]

Story 1 is both tragic and comic. It's seriously messed up for OP that she was abandoned and it's probably for the best as the aunt seems like a better choice. OP will actually have a better time with college applications and a more realistic outlook on life than 99% of her peers. As for the mother... utter hilariousness on how that backfired on her.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@NCAnon]

Perfect timing Mark. I'm about to start folding the laundry

[@hibiscusrose6074]

Heard story 1 a year ago was expecting her to say in the final update that she had met her father.

[@MGP2210]

Story 02: Weddings are not family reunion opportunities. Especially when they do not want to reunite. No Peaches and Herb to be found here!

[@helenlewis2510]

Bold of the “mom” to assume she’d still be getting child support when she is no longer supporting said child

[@mkitten13]

Not a brit myself, but have travelled on trains in the UK and when I book a trip I like to reserve a seat so I know where I can sit, preferably if I can grab one by the tables. And it bugs me whenever some rude older person decides to take it for themselves and not listen when I point out that it's my seat.

[@nicknitro86]

The commenter can see where the mom is coming from for abandoning her child? ---- Um if someone is going to be a snippy bich to me I'd definitely not move.

[@tamar7065]

I feel so bad for the girl in the first story. Honestly there are so many children whose parents just don't want them, never did, never will, and the kids always know. This is why I'm so adamant that people should have easy access to all forms of birth control and be able to get sterilized without jumping through hoops. There are so so so many bad parents and that mistake can't be undone. Just saying, consider getting your kiddos an IUD, and keep an eye on the status of that RISUG/Vasalgel shot (still in trials last I checked but supposed to be a 100% effective, 100% reversible single birth control shot for men which is fuckin wild.)

[@aprilfox9205]

Marks British snob noises...😂🤣👏

[@rebeccay480]

Haven't finished the first story yet. But I have no sympathy for OP'S mom. The choices she made led to the life she has. I'm so sick of parents blaming the kid for their own choices. Life is the one gift no one asks for. OP deserves better and I'm willing to bet the aunt will be a better mom. OP go no contact with the egg doner, you deserve better and you will feel better when you dont have her blaming you for her life choices.

[@anndownsouth5070]

Hi Mark, so that's where I got the habit of tutting from. My great-great-grandfather was English and I do the tutting thing a lot. Did it once in first grade at my teacher for telling me I should colour in neater. Lol

[@Citizen-ku8kv]

Hello Mark, Your channel is one of my favorites. Wishing you the best.

[@dream6562]

Nobody should sacrifice themselves for anyone's happiness, a list of priorities should be kept, and they should have themselves at the top of that list

[@gngrblls2thwall]

S1: the most baffling thing to me at the beginning here is that OP is 16. Mom can't wait 2 more years to bail out?

[@lovinglifebutnotonearth3909]

The mom lost her teen and youth years to have the OP. Everyone needs therapy

[@ChangedWinds]

Bruh, that story title sounds like my situation. Except my ex isn't getting any money from me, while I'm waiting on the court to order her to pay me child support.

[@elvisneedsboatsbennett2455]

I wonder if the mom was preventing the dad from seeing the daughter as punishment, or so the checks would be bigger. Something to think about.

[@AFAskygoddess]

I retired as a flight attendant when I was a (NOT elderly) 65 year old. Priority seats are always sold. No airline is going to pass up selling a seat because a disabled person MAY want it at the last minute. Being disabled or elderly doesn't mean the world revolves around you. It means that your seating needs can be accommodated on public transportation if you plan ahead.

[@SpidermanandhisAmazingFriends]

Story 2: Two years, she only needed two years before her daughter was gonna move out anyhow

[@Alicekelly2007]

What the F- HELL! Nice save Mark

[@DevilFruitZero]

An apology isn't sincere if you don't allow time for the betrayal to heal. Forever? You expected an immediate turn around.

[@ryanBEA-loveislovegetoverit]

Story 1 need more updates...and hope ur doing good

[@--AreYouMemeing_]

Hey all hope you’re all well 💛 up late again but insomnia doesn’t stand a chance against a Mark video 🤺

[@carolroberts4614]

Same here!

[@kensmith2829]

Story 1: You say it's not something you should feel the need to keep secret...but you have to understand that she's a High School student. Something like that is PERFECT ammunition for bullies. Keep that stuff secret until you're out of HS.