Money Matters in The Philippines/Expat's Going Broke/Old Dog New Tricks

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

If You Like This Video, See the Whole Story Herekzbin.info/www/bejne/op_Ic3itha6Vqqs&pp=gAQBiAQB

[@Cj2o]

Can you provide an update on John? (I think that's his name) It's been 2 years since this video, what can you tell us? Thanks.

[@FrameWorks-h2u]

Any updates on John? Does he have a channel?

[@stephiegetsit]

When you're in your late 50's and a 19 year old girl wants to date you. Hint it's going to be for your money.

[@MrTrevorDidier]

no exceptions ...

[@briaf3370]

No, there IS an exception ... oh wait, no there isn’t, you are right

[@rolanddressler]

That game plan never plays out , Chick will take all your $$$ every time

[@stevenholton438]

Not necessarily...in the long run!

[@livsstilen]

Hint to young girls, when a late 50 guy wants to date you, it's for your youth and looks. It's human nature dude. But who cares why people are doing what, as long as you get the things you want😉. Bottom line is this: if the price is too high for you, just walk on by🙃

[@roccohagedorn3110]

Here is the problem: even if I would consider trying to help this guy financially for the next 17 month, I’m convinced he would continue to help his girl, and even her mother. He’s been taken advantage of and it will unfortunately never stop. For that reason alone, no money in the world would be enough and it would put me in the poorhouse as well in the end.

[@charlesbennett7688]

Well said

[@michellelee4843]

Love is blind

[@Pat_KraPao]

He will probably get duped into buying magic beans or something. Some people never learn.

[@manuelr1405]

Bingo he will always have that hope that she might love him back.

[@medraymedray5139]

@@marryingabroad9387 it’s fine for hundreds more people to give to those well known charities, but knowing that there are twin american babies living in this crazy poverty (regardless of the circumstances) with literally nothing to eat and you would rather ignore them is absolutely sickening to hear. For those who are subscribers to this channel, which includes some who are part of a small group of expats there, I would rather they donate some funds through Paul to at least make sure that family has food to eat.

[@NahBra_EUC]

I have been traveling to the Philippines for 16 years and lived over there as a young American guy. I tried a few businesses and dated around. BEST advice I can give anyone thinking about going over there... Go with the intention of spending no money or as little money as possible no matter what. Also, do not move in with ANYONE, not with locals, foreigners, girlfriends or anything of the such. Keep your personal life separate. People with little or no money will do what they can to drain your pockets in any part of the world.

[@oldstinkyfrancois43]

OLD white men go there to marry young beautiful fillipina women, thinking their little pension is enough to buy happiness, living like a king being served. 60 year thinking it's oK to get a 19 year old girl pregnant and not have the responsibility to provide for her and the kids? wtf? He's luck I'm not the father of that girl. I'd have chopped his wrinkly head off a long time ago.

[@dustymcdust825]

Exactly!!! My stomping grounds are Colombia. I have a woman that I date in Colombia who asked me for money 1 time when she was robbed along with her girlfriends during the protest that were going on, she still didn't ask me to buy her a phone. Ironically I have a friend who is originally from Mexico who asked me for $200 for food for her and her kids. I gave it freely, 2 weeks later she asked for $300 for food. I told her that I have a freezer full of food and full cabinets and that she is can have as much as she wants. She said I want to go to Costco. I didn't respond. She was never like this before, but I got a 6 figure job 2 months ago and she has become a parasite. She also just found out that her 17 year old daughter was raped by one of her boyfriends when she was 11 years old. I asked her, why did you move your kids in with this man? She responded "because he said that he would take care of me and pay for everything." She still has not told her 20 year old something son what happened to his sister. I think this friendship is done.

[@johnfischer3142]

Sound advise

[@mommadrew9392]

Paul, if you handle John's money for him I would be glad to help him.

[@NahBra_EUC]

@@dustymcdust825 Thanks for sharing. I have just made it a rule not to hand out or loan any money to anyone anymore. I don't mind treating a friend or a date to a nice meal out from time to time but other than that adults need to take responsibility for themselves.

[@susanbruinooge7122]

It's never too late to change your situation, John! Believe in yourself and go for it! I am 73 years old and I speak from experience. You can do it!

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

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[@lecmaj]

The worst for a man is when he has no friends to talk with or advise, so thanks Paul for being a friend to John and helping him out off camera.

[@rmcmurphy7905]

If I were cynical, and sometimes I am,I'd say Paul got a one he'll of an interview!! But after watching Paul for sometime , I like to think his heart is in the right place 👍once again I guess it pays to think with the other head@!

[@amadoparragua6989]

I applaud Paul for his good heart. This is a must-see for future expats to deter them from giving Filipina girlfriends and their families money. Their poor living conditions is something they're used to and they die happy because being poor is normal to many of them. Building them a house isn't the boyfriend's responsibility and even if it's not asked for shouldn't be given since it is never a guarantee for a stable relationship. Expensive dinner in dating, even cellphones are okay but even then, if a girlfriend asks for a cellphone, laptop, anything that is money, red flag is as clear as the sun.

[@tuforu4]

@@amadoparragua6989 the KIDS are major WORRY.

[@amadoparragua6989]

@@tuforu4 if you mean Filipina with kids, it's all your choice to continue or end your connection.

[@tuforu4]

@@amadoparragua6989 i never saw so many kids as in phillopines..

[@desert4seat]

I was sober for 15 years before I watched this video. From the beginning to the end…. The stress is just too much for me to handle. Men: learn to live alone, and learn to love and respect yourself. Women are a nice addition, but they are not needed. No matter your age, remember that you are a King. All by yourself. Sending a big hug to you all.

[@hillbillyintheasia6122]

he want a young teen gf, instead of rule one rent only tell you know what she wants,

[@ginasison861]

I agree woman/man is not the answer of it.learn to live a life alone.

[@jimle22]

After many years of marriage, I have finally learned this life lesson. Women are nice to have around sometimes but live alone.

[@richardwitherow5289]

I really liked your message. That's how I have thought my entire adult life.

[@desert4seat]

@@jimle22 100%.

[@jamesarnett4129]

1st rule living in the Philippines, NEVER EVER let anyone know how much income you have.

[@michaeltamares7974]

Lol. I tell ladies I'm a millionaire and im in the Philippines to buy some businesses.. once I get a piece from them, I take off

[@moonlit9608]

@@michaeltamares7974 passport bros, stand up

[@davieboy666]

Amen!

[@rapier1954]

How about try being honest because they're going to find out in the end anyway.

[@rapier1954]

@@michaeltamares7974 We'd all have to be stupider than you are to believe your bullshit.

[@IsaacDorsey]

It’s a year later whats the story with him?

[@percivalpadilla8390]

I’m a Filipino living here in Japan, my advice for many expats or retirees going to the Philippines is don’t date a girl quickly when you arrive there, just chill for a few months enjoy your stay before dating someone. And also if you date someone don’t buy them something expensive or don’t spoiled them.

[@teascobie6557]

dont date anyone? From the arrival day at the airport to the ride to the hotel Im pretty sure numbers have been exchanged for possible dates. The Filipinas spot the sucker once he steps off the plane and grandpa smells fresh meat. Hard to resist all that temptation in the air. But maybe this video will save one person from falling prey.

[@vi683a]

Philippines is like a prison... they know freash meat and will turn weak people out fast!

[@u4w8cmdd]

your advise is nothing new to me, why in the world would I ever want to date someone in the philippines???? there only interested in how they can get to the next meal or how they can take someones money. the whole world knows that, now who wouldnt go to the philippines for sex, you only spend $5 dollars and she will suck the shit out of your ass with a straw an absolute bargain if you ask me.

[@gooblio]

Agreed, that is the same all over Southeast Asia. Good advice. ❤

[@sharonruff3837]

You get what you pay for guys. Really? Through no fault of his own??? You keep saying "girl". Do you see the problem here? 19 and 58. There's the problem, grow up.

[@BIGMEGA77]

Poignant interview, the interviewer handled it commendably. He was patient, empathetic, and kind. Top notch! This was a Masterclass! Thank you

[@brontelex4016]

YES, interviewer was very tactful, respectful and gracious. I was impressed by him.

[@helenaville5939]

Of course he was. He's making money from it by posting it on KZbin. In fact he's being a predator - using this man's hard-luck story as income fodder. Wake up guys!

[@wambuialice957]

I think so too. Very good interviewer

[@erskinhansen1715]

I get a distinct feeling that this guy will take any money he receives and give it away to the very people that are treating him like trash.

[@MikeBarbarossa]

Don't get involved seriously with these "traditional" girls and their family. Find party girls, have a little fun and then put your foot in the middle of their back and declare "next"

[@thehunterofdeath2180]

😁😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪

[@thehunterofdeath2180]

@@MikeBarbarossa that right

[@KC-in9px]

@@MikeBarbarossa Do you want your sister treated like this? "Next!" ? What a fine man you are.

[@ramirogaecia1570]

I am gonna give him what he wants. My pitty. That's it bye

[@JM-vx9fu]

Great interview and an eye opener for those who plan on moving to the Philippines looking for love and a new life. John is really a nice guy. He loves his family despite the abuse he met from those who were supposed to care about him.

[@Bigboy-tb7ft]

As a Filipino, I feel the need to caution foreigners who plan to marry a Filipina. It's unfortunate, but I believe that the majority of Filipinas from poor to lower-middle-class backgrounds are primarily interested in foreigners for their financial resources. It's important to be aware of red flags, such as frequent requests for money. If you notice this behavior, it's best to distance yourself from her and leave..lol. While there may be some Filipinas who are primarily interested in foreigners for their money, there are also many wonderful and genuine Filipinas out there who are looking for love and companionship. If you do happen to find a legitimate and trustworthy Filipina, it can be like hitting the jackpot. So, while it's important to be cautious and aware, it's also important to keep an open mind and heart.

[@alschwartz8732]

you say that like American women aren't the same

[@marissawarfield8812]

Exactly

[@ConspiracyPundit]

Blue pill men get ignored and abused by women in the West, sorry guys all women have hypergamy and Briffaults law hardwired into them. My first wife in the West graped me in divorce and I came out to Asia and it was all love and kisses, after the BS that was CV put my business in the trash love and kisses turned on a dime to instant resentment. I am OK inside because I knew it was all surface-level stuff with a woman. If you go to the Philippines or any Asian country, live on your own and just pump and dump the ones that think they can burrow into your bank account with hot xes. Building homes for her family and buying trucks, nope buy them a coffee max. Stay single fellas and go mgtow, @bigboy you are full of sh1t every woman just wants a walking ATM no matter what the country is.

[@Cap_management]

Its not true. Filipinas like foreigners for our look, height, kind and caring attitude and respect for woman which we learn since young age. Some are after your money only but its everywhere. If you have brain than its so easy to see if girl is for the money only. Just dont give any and see if she stays with you.

[@ConspiracyPundit]

@@Cap_management That kind caring, respect for women, which was falsely drilled into our heads, sure turned around to bite men on the azz. Go MGTOW!

[@kmaydoney]

He went into this with a tight budget but yet manageable. The problem was when he agreed to build this house for a woman he knew for 5-7 months. He was paying $240us in rent and handed over $10,000us. Over 4 years of rent. He let lust and love blind him.

[@dddtrump]

Yeah Jon has issues. Not sure if he likes being used or what. Glad he shared his story though because many people who get used don't tell anyone and continue to be used forever. I guess if he had MORE money.. that mone would disappear as well. Unable to say no to his girl and her family and now with twins.... and zero income he is screwed until Social Security kicks in which will probably be 1200-1800 usd /month

[@steve.1373]

@@dddtrump At 62 I seriously doubt that he will draw that much. If he sold everything he owned in his late 50’s and only had 30K I would have to assume he wasn’t paying a lot into the SSA. More likely he will be drawing 700 to 900 tops. Enough to survive on in the Philippines if he can learn to stop handing it over to his GF and her family.

[@mercxmorris]

@@steve.1373 I made that same calculation, and agree. The fact that he was so willing to go live in a squatter area is evidence that he has possibly experienced near-poverty himself. I seriously doubt he is capable of learning any lessons from any of this. Every suggestion Paul diplomatically presented was immediately dismissed with some excuse or another.

[@artvandelay409]

I don't agree at all that he went to the Phils with a manageable budget. I don't think any westerner could survive on $600 a month in the Phils unless they already owned home there and even that would be extremely tight.

[@RollsRoyceGuy]

This guy is a moron. No sympathy from me

[@theresasasiful]

I'm a Filipina and some Filipino toxic mentality is that parents think their kids are their retirement plan. So this guy ended up of feeding the whole family. Sorry to hear your story and I hope this is a lesson to some foreigners looking for love. Don't fall with very young age 20 or 30 years age gap. Don't sell everything in your country and move to Philippines without knowing our culture, etc.. We Filipinos think that foreigners are rich full of $$$ in his atm and thru him the whole family will survive and go to his country.

[@SwisstedChef2018]

Theresa , I appreciate your comment. I got my run for the money but I never gave up. Eventually I met a wonderful lady on line from Cebu. It is important I mention that I lived almost 25 years in SEA , Indonesia, Thailand, Malaysia and Vietnam. Hong Kong and even India. She is wonderful and we have a 4 year old boy, we live in Florida now, but from the beginning she NEVER asked me for money. She comes from poor background and I do help her family but not near enough what those guys pay, I do respect your culture. You have a wonderful country and let us just keep our heart with the honest ladies. These men, as you mention are also not so smart.

[@Needglory23]

Exactly, kids should not have to spend their life supporting their parents….

[@exotyktechnologies]

@@Needglory23 Well while this is indeed true, very perceivable sometimes, what liberated us here are insurances, social plans and retirement plans. Insurances are however more and more popular in the Philippines. But I am not 100% sure that this is an ideal to follow. Maybe to get inspiration from. Not to copy. Insurances and all those security plans are one major factor of why individualism took over here in North America (same in European Union and other countries). The same individualism that is exhausting me to live in Canada and seeking to move living at least part of the year every year in the Philippines. Family is important for me.

[@geraldboykin6159]

@@SwisstedChef2018 : I got my experience after arriving to Cebu Mactan Int"l Airport.

[@pokesauceboss7977]

Greed is a world culture

[@calwianka]

I'm disappointed with the people attacking this guy. He is telling so much about himself and the bad things that can happen to lonely Americans in the Philippines and is giving thousands of men a dose of reality to avoid his mistakes. It's so painful. Be kind.

[@tessw9744]

Lying to people isn't kind, sometimes it's just enabling. The people who genuinely care the most are willing to tell you the truth. I'd rather be wounded by a faithful friend than be kissed by a deceiver.

[@kriskris1686]

What it makes me worry is the lump on his neck With his weight loss and that it might be a bad thing But I hope I am wrong

[@robertafierro5592]

He was looking for a young virgin. Wake up!

[@karenjewell6543]

This is pathetic....At some point this dirty old man needs to take responsibility for his life.. he needs a therapist not a 19-year-old girlfriend

[@donnabonn1892]

​@@ArcticCat-dm8xm I feel the same about him...

[@kittyandthekatz8046]

100% emotional ( and physical) abuse. He has to beg for rice? And he still believes in her? Poor man has lost himself. Very sad. Amazing interview.

[@mrsbee5056]

It is very sad indeed. Especially for a man I would say it is a terrible way to be treated.

[@freeindeed5393]

He is being manipulated and abused! She would be done with him if he didn’t have money coming at 62. If she finds someone new and better she will also be done with him. He is under this woman’s spell, probably literally! Narcissists show you the “I love you forever” mask when you first meet them! Once they get you in their web they keep you not knowing if you are coming or going, walking on eggshells! This poor chump needs to wake up! Get outa there, go no contact, regain your sanity! It is your only hope!

[@OrthodoxAtheist]

@@kilnmaster Exploiting? Building a house for the family, wanting to help raise kids, providing the money - such exploitation. Wowza. I'm available for such exploitation if anyone is looking.

[@fjorddenierbear4832]

@@kilnmaster He absolutely could buy his way, but he ran out of money to pay the rental costs. Happens all the time in Western countries too.

[@Gromkiii]

​@@kilnmasterYeah she is angel poor girl have so thought life. Even now she so hurts. I wish roles will be reversed for her and especially for you.

[@RosemarieFit]

This guy has zero boundaries. He is also pursuing relationships with women decades younger than he is. 🚩

[@eyesears113]

There lies the problem.

[@officiallykayanna]

bingo! 🎯

[@rencedeasis509]

Agreed ma'am. Expats come here and thinking "TEENS" would seriously love them. If you're wanting a serious relationship with a Filipina then go with women in your own age bracket. 19 and 58? She could be his granddaughter. 😂

[@thewholeworldisbeautiful]

@@rencedeasis509 even Filipino women has aged take advantage of Americans because of their money

[@5DNRG]

Perv haven.

[@martin4374]

A classic example of "Just because he's old, doesn't mean he's wise."

[@brianandlynphilippines]

Good one, Marty! Or this one, just because you can make a negative comment, doesn't mean you should!

[@stevencasley499]

I used to say that to my children when they were growing up

[@pussygalore731]

@@brianandlynphilippines They are just dirty old men and this one is an obvious low IQ dirty old man

[@ZxSpectrumplus]

Gandalf the Old...not Gandalf the Wise.

[@Vladimir-eq4sc]

Give the poor guy a break , I feel sorry for him

[@mikesparno5748]

3/19/24 Good interview. Paul -you showed a lot of restraint, caution and compassion in your questions. He’s an easy target. Obviously he made some poor choices but regardless of age , we’ve all had our share of mistakes. (ie marriage in any 1st world country can be much worse than his issues).

[@esq5011]

This should be required watching for anyone over 30 going to the Philippines.

[@2000ViperGTSsubscribe]

Anyone over 30 probably knows not to buy their girlfriend's family a free house.

[@stanspb763]

@@2000ViperGTSsubscribe Why not? He wanted to be with her and a woman expects a man to support protect and guide. She might have had feelings for hom but his passive weak behavior was an extreme turn off to her and almost all women. A self directed man would have used that$30 k to get extablished and create an income stream. Start a business or invest for example. I moved to another country 21 years ago and did not know the language and had no work permit but started a business in a field I did not have any experience and it was successful.He had 5 times more capital than I did. I had a spare $13,000 one quarter and invest in Telsa at $58/share. I was not an investor in stocks but that seemed like mad money and I believed in the company mission. If it failed I would not have gone hungry. My intuition paid off well, with stock splits and great growth that initian capital is $930,000. That is an extreme case and I have no invested in any other stocks. The point is be in control of your life and not passively allow life to control your life. REgardless of the money, woman are naturally attracted to men who are their own captains. That has been a genetic predisposition of women since humans evolved. As the child bearer she seeks men who are protective, supportive and provide guidence. A secure feeling woman is capable bonding very tightly with a man who can represent security. Men often complain that is gold digging but it is nature. If he was in control of his life, the very modest demands by her might have signalled the security that allows them to be as propor mother and wife. Only loser men complain about this natural priority females have. He thinks he was taklen advantage of but he simply failerd the test of being a competent male so it is not unexpected she has no respect for him. If he had just gotten a job or put an effort into creating an income stream, and provided leadership she might still interedted in him. His first priority in moving there was getting established, finding allies, developing an income stream and becoming a self directed man whom women could respect before every seeking a relationship.

[@parallax9281]

Not over 30.. More like of sound mind.

[@2000ViperGTSsubscribe]

@@fromscla5883 It is more about being a softee, he came with 30K USD and no income after planning for years-that is utterly idiotic. How to make him a million Dollars is easy, start him out with 10 million. then from thee he would buy pigs, houses and trucks-it's stupid.

[@edwinholcombe2741]

You would be surprised how many men of matured age have come here and throw caution to the wind only to end up broke.

[@b3u3g3g3y]

I'm a hematologist, and John appears to have adenopathy in his left posterior cervical lymph node. Given his extreme weight loss, I would strongly suggest that he visits a doctor soon.

[@amusingmyslf]

I noticed that too when he turned his head.

[@aquafishes]

Large or swollen lymph glands? There's definitely a noticeable bulge towards the rear of John's neck. Oh boy...

[@shawnb1774]

I saw that sticking out right away too.

[@renter007]

@@shawnb1774 Yes first thing i noticed, he got to see a doctor asap.

[@longjohncrypto688]

Well, if the family has tried unsuccessfully to get him deported, what else were they supposed to do? (I wish I were joking, but I think he needs a toxicology report as well.)

[@kellyjordan6440]

Living proof you can be 58 and have the life skills of a 20 year old!

[@platoon1081]

More like a teenager and their "first love", all feelings with minimal foresight...like a lamb being led to the wolves. He seems stubbornly optimistic about being taken advantage of.....repeatedly. This guy had no business going to the Phillipines. Someone had mentioned he had a stroke? Isn't there someone from his biological family that can intervene on his behalf? Thank God for Paul at least.

[@holdencawffle626]

This guy....is an i-diot. A little common sense anyone?

[@krakoosh1]

Life skills in the US and in the Philippines are completely different.

[@peterpedant]

Arrested development. like a lamb to the slaughter in the real world.

[@nzdpnz]

Sadly he's not playing with a full deck, Edit: (sorry, just read comment he had a stroke, my bad) but if u want to date your grand daughter, then u reap what u sow !

[@wolv12458]

I watched this video when first posted while I was still in the US, I live in Europe now and it literally has helped me to not be stupid and make these same mistakes thru this past year and a half, (not trying to say he is stupid) I come back to it and watch it fully again every time I feel like I am about to make a mistake related to this… it scares me so much that it makes me go back to right path in an instant. 😳

[@mikewoodley8767]

Once his Social Security cheques come in, his gal will love him Big Time once a month

[@garychilds1130]

And that is when he neeed to get away from this family

[@TheCatfish1975]

I suspect once he gets his Social Security, many will remind him what they did for him when he was down on his luck. Very sad story. I also suspect once he gets a steady income the GF will want to rekindle the relationship. I cannot imagine the choice between staying with his children and getting on in a better living situation.

[@64Dasani]

To keep with Paul’s “no advice” theme I’ll not say what I think he should do.

[@davidcrisp5368]

She already has that money spent. Find a new island.

[@marryingabroad9387]

I'm sure this numb nuts doesn't even know, that if those kids are really his, SS will give him an additional $1600 a month until they are 18 years old. If she find that out, she will really love him LOL

[@poobado]

Even if we were to give donations to the guy. I don’t feel confident that he would manage the money well. His love for the mother of his children is stronger than his common sense.

[@kenrose2523]

Exactly, this is one-itis at its worst

[@bettyvanderhooven-schmaasc4235]

Wait for the next video! The money problem you point out is valid, directly paying his bills solves this.

[@WilliamRNicholsonLST-1195]

TY , sad that younever thought that maybe Paul would make a trustworthy trustee for a brain damaged person suffering from effects of a stroke ! I will ask Paul if he wants to be a Trustee . That's alright with you , Right ?

[@jonathanganzo4490]

John loves the mother of his twins and he cannot do it without the help of Diana to raise their children, if you want to help then do it.

[@lisaj3583]

Donate air miles for a "free" ticket back to the US. No money. He will probably give it to babies' mama.

[@fjordking]

Been watching many of these videos, I have no intention of going to the Philipines, just started to binge-watching these videos, see this same exact same story over and over and over again, wow

[@brianpinkard7746]

Paul, I really admired the way you conducted yourself through this interview with John. You showed empathy and sympathy and a huge amount of respect throughout your interview. You withheld judgment when it was so tempting to judge. I’m so disappointed that John still doesn’t appear to have learned any lessons from his ongoing experiences. I have thought about living in the Philippines for several years but never chose to because I didn’t have an income until my retirement. How does one help a person that shows every indication of going and doing the bad things over and over again. I liking this to giving money to a drug addict while they are still addicted to the drugs.

[@jaqsmom]

I agree. I want to help and it appears many of us watching want to. Someone would almost need to manage the donations for at least food and transport. If someone has ideas, share. Sigh 😔

[@64Dasani]

@@jaqsmom I agree with the management of things, he appears to be too invested in the house he paid for. He isn’t blind to the fact that “his girl” is still hunting for the next guy. He doesn’t need to abandon his children however he needs to separate himself from that situation. How does he do that?

[@savvysurvivorhub]

@@64Dasani He should start a youtube channel!

[@AidaJof]

@@jaqsmom I was thinking the same thing, somehow though, the mother-in-law would get her hooks into whatever money she'd see fall into John's hands. In the end, how do you help a man that cannot help himself? He's convinced that his girlfriend will see the error of her ways and be nice to him again ...

[@AidaJof]

@@savvysurvivorhub Doesn't have a computer or proper cell phone ... besides the mother in law would get her hooks into whatever money John gets

[@winduncan9818]

Thanks for sharing. When I had an emergency the last minute flight was under $700 one way and I was home in 24hrs. Back in school I had to volunteer in a homeless shelter. Was a sober shelter, free bed, showers, dinner every night, could get mail there and they'd help you to get a job, ID card, etc . It honestly wasn't too bad, I'd sit and have dinner with everybody staying there. Sounds like 19 months in the US might be the way to go.

[@billtay1963]

I was just reading the other day that California (Palm Springs I think) is doing a pilot program with guaranteed universal income if you are transgender or LGB - something like that so he could go there and cross dress for a year and 7 months and have his free money until he gets his Social Security...

[@philpatt970]

He doesn’t have $700.

[@xpusostomos]

He doesn't have visa money either, which is going to be quite a bit over the next 18 months. And then he's going to have to leave anyway because the 3 years of visa are up.... unless he applies for SRRV which is also expensive. Basically he's fucked.

[@thespindrift8460]

I think if the embassy had a guarantee from a charity to give him a bed and board in the USA a volunteer to meet him at the airport and escort him, they might spring for the tickets. Just guessing (hoping maybe).

[@Falconlibrary]

@@thespindrift8460 The State Department loans you the money and expects you to pay it back. They restrict your passport until you do. As someone else said, if only John were an illegal alien who broke the law by entering the US, he'd get showered with cash and prizes. Our government doesn't have anything for taxpaying, law-abiding citizens.

[@martypoll]

BTW Paul, that was professional level interviewing going on there and you did it because you respected his humanity. ❤️

[@dwaynekeith156]

Mental health 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@LordTaylor007]

Best comment in this thread 👍🏻

[@raycatlin3554]

HOW'z about trying to ' shore - up ' the mans dignity . . before it collapse ! ! !

[@martypoll]

@@raycatlin3554 He went off the grid in a remote village. He didn’t seek help. You can’t keep track of everyone. And something that doesn’t get mentioned often enough and that is that many expats move overseas to be left alone.

[@mercxmorris]

@@LordTaylor007 Hi, Aaron.

[@lisasmith7066]

Great interview! I’m a straight female and I’m certain I would get scammed in the Philippines ! Some people can barely afford to eat. Of course they would want your money!

[@j.jwhitty5861]

Hi, I'm a straight male and I'm certain I would not got to the Philippines even if the Greek goddess Artemis was waiting there for me 🤔

[@kev8839]

Reality Check: Don’t be sad John, be mad, mad at yourself and the people that are stringing you along. When your social security checks start to come in, you need to get your own place (by yourself) and help out your twins and no one else, PERIOD! In the meantime you need to not let any of them know this plan. It’s your turn to string them along. I guarantee you’ll be out on the street if they don’t think they’re going to profit from your social security account. She does NOT love you. Sorry dude but it’s for your own good. I’m hoping and praying you see the light.

[@newyorkwalks4515]

The mother in law is a piece of you know what. Openly trashing him in the community, shaming him despite the fact he gave her a house and helped her son. If I would believe in Karma I would hope she gonna get hers.

[@ronaldmadej2460]

They tried to deport him and yet he hardly showed a reaction -- I wish Paul had been upfront and gave this man an honest opinion of his problems. He needs a true friend, one that shows him how he is being abused.

[@ninjaturtle6106]

I agree. I think her love stopped the minute she found out he's unable to get her a VISA to the US bcos the Embassy needed 2 Guarantors that are relatives of his in the US..and he has none.

[@fatslobblob1801]

He's going to do just great with his minimal Social Security income. The guy has no money coming to PI, meaning he didn't have a high income earning history. Then factor in the 75% of maximum Social Security he will expect. This idiot is a broke joke.

[@ronaldmadej2460]

great advise

[@CriticalThinker1967]

I married a Filipina and she moved here to Australia. She pretty much wanted to get a job right off the bat. Works most of the year now packing fruit and sends money home from her own wages. She’s an awesome little lady very determined and a no nonsense personality. At the same time she adorable and very caring. When we met she was a 35 year old widow and I was 49 and divorced.

[@hdj81Vlimited]

AS 35 filipino she can't get any other guy .

[@joelwycoco1791]

Because she is not a scammer

[@pitbak5129]

Would she still work when don't need to send money back home anymore?

[@verreal]

Because she's not 20 with an old man. The age difference for you guys is a bit much, but not impossible. Me and my husband have only 5 years difference. I relocated to Asia to stay with him, and I worked from the beginning. He supported me completely when we had children. That's not the situation for older men going to Asia though.

[@Unclebuns72]

Got her number?

[@imJustBanter]

"Terrific girl"? Chatting up other dudes your whole time together. Talks you into spending all your money on her and her family. Gives you silent treatment for almost a year...Now near broke in a developing country with 2 children to support.. really illustrates "There's a sucker born every minute." incredible interview....Thank you for this video and cautionary tale, that more often than not the biggest obstacle a person faces is the man in the mirror and our own decisions/delusions.

[@E-stylz-1967]

No lies detected 👌🏾

[@hillbillyintheasia6122]

he thought young girl if she got pregnant she love him forever.

[@justinw2232]

The guy is thick

[@jshepard152]

No, you don't get it. She's THE ONE. lol.

[@ek2137]

So true.

[@rickyc6463]

This guy was so taken advantage of….sorry to hear. I could tell this guy is such a nice guy. His girl and her family will never treat this guy well. Hope he stays ok.. he deserves better

[@manueljesus3147]

When poverty walks in the door love flies out the window.

[@mjc42701]

My mom would always say that. 😊

[@aircastles1013]

Sad but often true!

[@madamebrunhilda5105]

My Grandma used to say, "when the hunger pangs bite, love flies out the window".

[@mjc42701]

@@madamebrunhilda5105 "Drunk on stupidity and staggering on starvation." is what I used to hear.

[@manueljesus3147]

@@madamebrunhilda5105 nowday I dun even take hunger pangs....as soon as the Boba tea stops you're shown the door.

[@billiemccluskey2451]

An eye opening and simple video, he’s too simple and laid back of a guy, easily taken advantage of, God bless and help him. Paul, your facial expressions during the video says it all.

[@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234]

Well said

[@seapirate65]

Yea..you have alot of patience Paul for thuis Addle brain American. My question is..how was he able to buy plane ticket frm the US.

[@fendermon]

@@seapirate65 Remember he's been through a lot, and had a stroke. He made some bold moves early on, and trusted people to be as generous and genuine as him.

[@msminicooper2010]

@@seapirate65 He sold everything he owned.

[@mitcheltownsend1492]

Dude is a walking talking target. Seems to just be that kind of guy. Good heart, lack of common sense, and naive are a very bad combination, especially in a country where poverty and hard living is a daily reality. If he makes the 1 year and 7 months he will still be in the same situation because their are plenty of people who see him as just another mark. If he does not change he will continue to be eaten alive. Sad story but a very important cautionary note for anyone, any place, Good Luck.

[@alanedgar5146]

He completely stupid

[@Maintenance63]

Ok , number one, you are not alone. I've made a mess out of my early years. Take a deep breath, exhale slowly. Take stock of yourself. You have some skills. Focus on yourself and get back to taking care of yourself. I'm sorry this happened to you. But, you are not alone. Hang in there , be tough, be strong. Believe in yourself

[@chocolatecookie8571]

Correct. Many YT-heroes in the comment section easily point their fingers at John as if he is the dumbest and biggest loser of all just to make themselves feel a bit better. These "heroes" even celebrate his demise. It is pure sadism and narcissistic. Many toxic people on social media.

[@soiboi5151]

Amen

[@kyotango]

This is the right attitude in this situation.

[@topsuperseven7910]

Former Radio guy: Paul is a very good interviewer. Someone needs to say that, props, seriously that was very well done sir.

[@timothylundy232]

I never judge anyone especially when they are going through tough times. John definitely needs a hand up and I think this interview will shed light on his situation. Very good interview Paul. Let us know how we can help him out.God Bless!!

[@erica8165]

"I keep hoping she will go back to the girl I fell in love with." Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome is insanity! This is a sad story.

[@delegendantiques1129]

problem is.....that is the girl he fell in love with, he just can't see it.

[@brucehuddler7518]

He needs to escape, get a small place, job and wait out SS, any amount he has now or came with would never be enough, they will bleed him to death, as long as he allows it. He has no plan to improve.

[@michellekendall9518]

Young people loves to hangout Yong people what do you expect..pick up same age as you do use common sense

[@butterflybreezy]

He has provided a great service to many men by sharing his story. I hope and pray that he's alright.

[@cwill2000]

This truly a story not to comment on, but to learn from. Thanks Paul.

[@phillipwarren2770]

Why else would a 19 year old girl go out with a 59 year old man, of course it's for money. That girl is never going back to her old sweetheart self unless you go back to your old self with money in your pocket. Welcome to female nature! One more thing, Never invest or loan out money unless you are willing to lose it! I feel bad for you Paul but a 59 year old man should know better.

[@MB-fq5hf]

I agree with you to a point. But, the true "female nature" is to fall in love you know, instead of denying their soul for financial security! I actually feel sorry for these girls!

[@AT-gu8by]

@@MB-fq5hf That’s the girls, not women, I don’t feel sorry for that weirdo,

[@Mark-ft8yx]

Can people be so naive!? Why so young when there are so many women in their 40s who still look great for the age. Women with more traditional values. I see this all the time and hear the same "young fatal female' story all the time. Ask yourself this question. "Am I experienced with women?" If you know that you are not, then beware and take your time. Does the woman still want you if you don't spend money on her? She will show her true colours soon enough if you just spend the same a the local guys do. The guys who are long lasting with women, happily married are the ones with women near their own age. Control your ego guys and ask yourself what is really important in a partner besides her youth. There are good women in Asia, but you have to do your homework and due diligence first. Good luck.

[@mashton6631]

Filed under “duh” 👏🏻

[@mikevienna8287]

you are 100 % right !

[@kevinkennedy6875]

Paul, this may be the most important (and perhaps the most compassionate) video you've ever done. I hope it reaches a wide audience. We all may think that we are immune to this kind of foolishness (and, yes, it is foolishness), but we aren't. We need reminders like this one.

[@australianpatriot]

some of us are

[@ShellyJacobson]

I followed the whole sad story about John and Diana and kids. John seems like such a good guy. My heart went out to him and his dreadful situation. The truth is, John got hustled by Diana and her parasitic family for every penny he had. Then, of course, she got pregnant. I will pray for John. He will be preyed upon again by these people. Good Luck !

[@stedye]

Paul you are the “ Larry King “ of Philippines Vloggers! Great listening and question asking skills . Hoping that John finds happiness .

[@fendermon]

Paul's interview skills are second to none. 👍

[@AlizeeDefan]

Good one , the Larry King of the PH. Not too far from the truth !! Paul has a big heart and listens well Must have been hard to make this video.

[@donseay3220]

@@AlizeeDefan Fully agree.... Or maybe the Mike Wallace of P.V.'s... Paul's interview skills were fantastic. And I really appreciate his humanistic, short commentary at the end. And above all, more than money, John needs a support network, of people he can trust, for advice and feedback. Some people do. Maybe we all do from time to time.

[@JohnBrown-hl4cy]

We all have short lives left to live on this planet when we are older than 50. It's your time to live stress free and enjoy what time u have left. Do not let knowone take away your happiness.

[@KC-in9px]

A few pieces of advice for anyone who's considering moving to the Philippines. Stay single, don't have children, rent an apartment, and be happy.

[@amvora777]

"Don't have children". Very important suggestion. Very easy solution, get a vasectomy.

[@tunariencompriscarorosuard6443]

Correct .

[@seapirate65]

Yea and get a vasectomy before heading to phil.

[@fendermon]

Invest in hookers.

[@chlamydiayourdaddyishere]

That's sad advice and more geared for older people I guess. Most foreigners and some xpats tend to think only older people go to the Philippines to find love. If you log on to Tiktok, you'll see many western men in their 20s coming to meet Filipinas their age. TONS!

[@jamessuriano396]

This good man represents a part of humanity that gets chewed up by humanity. I wish him well and hope he gets the FCKOUT and finds a new life while he still young.

[@rv-jn7wn]

Noooo!!! This good man is nieve and has a narrow view of the world and reality. The world is full of men like him!!!!!

[@keith4826]

This is a must watch for anyone thinking about coming over. Just heartbreakingly unbelievable mistakes. This is not the place to be broke. Great job Paul. See you on the next one .

[@raulsantana9273]

Tell me what place is good to be broke?

[@Ricobaca]

I thought is was the place to be broke.

[@Tekillyah]

@@raulsantana9273 Not Philippines, numbnuts.

[@juliuscaver]

😂 nowhere is a place to be broke

[@australianpatriot]

@@raulsantana9273 Scandinavia, Canada or Australia are pretty good places to be broke

[@mwmsearch]

He can't be helped because of his attachment to his girl and kids. I know Paul won't let him starve but you can only help a guy to a certain extent. TY Paul you have a big heart for a fellow american.

[@AaronHartfiel]

I met my wife in Bohol. She never asked me for a thing. She knows I'm not rich by any stretch of the imagination. I've never met anyone who was as sweet and genuine as she is! I feel for this guy, and others who have been in the same situation as him. Not all Filipina are out to take advantage. Some do, yes! But not all!!!

[@True-ob4lq]

She’s fooled you

[@schmitty139]

​@@True-ob4lq Hallelujah 👐

[@steved6269]

​@@True-ob4lqYou must be a miserable soul. Hater.

[@havadj]

I'm glad he understand that taking care of children/babies is a hard job and that the caretaker will need help.

[@Gioxtream]

I give huge credit to this man for sharing his story. Is not easy to share your personal life with the world. Thank you so much. I hope things change for the better in your life.

[@sillyghost25]

I am a Clinical Psychologist and this guy is an amazing interviewer. Thoroughly enjoyed this interaction.

[@Joe-mz6dc]

Great to see your comment. Paul is an excellent interviewer.

[@ashdobbs]

thats nice dear

[@wallybingbang4350]

He seems like he has dependent personality ?

[@AaronRose69]

Yeah he's the new Johnny Carson,.... What a couple of gems these two are

[@CjplusLj]

@@AaronRose69😂😂😂

[@CornellSandifer]

Paul its clear this poor guy is needy; the women can see it and they will always clean him out. This guy is on the road to losing, his problems come from within and until he fixes his internal problems there is nothing nobody can do for him that will last long.

[@jesslocaine6152]

Well said Cornell.😂

[@kendonahve924]

Generally, people don't need a helping hand when they're doing things right. And yes, maybe John has some woman issues ... don't we all ?

[@yorkiephil7744]

@@kendonahve924 He doesn't have 'women issues' - he is just plain stupid and irresponsible.

[@ariefraiser140]

@@kendonahve924 To excuse John's extreme issues with women and money with a don't we all have problems with women comment is a bit disingenuous. That's like looking at a severe alcoholic and saying hey who hasn't ever drank a little too much? It's not the same thing. John has an extreme problem It's bad enough he put himself in this situation but the most disturbing part is that he said he would do it again. He would build that house again. He has little regrets. He would still get into a relationship with that young girl who us talking to other guys online and lied about having a child because he says she's a good girl. He has learned little to nothing from his ordeal. How do you help someone who can't or won't help themselves? And by help I don't mean get a job or make money. I mean just simply learning his lesson and not making the same mistake again. If I knew someone was managing his money for him and ensuring he spent it on necessities for him and the twins he irresponsibly fathered I would donate. But to give this man money directly would be a waste. I have no faith he would make good decisions with the money. Which is sad to say about a nearly 60 year old man.

[@kendonahve924]

@@ariefraiser140 I do see your point of view, but my views are mine. ObviouslyJohn should have done things differently, but here he is, not being able to buy rice, and evidently not in good health. Reports I have seen are that he always was one who worked, not a scammer.Also, to your point about him being willing to do more for his wife ...he has a responsibility to support the twins till they grow up. We aren't being asked to support him for life just accept him as a guy in a spot and give him a boost. The world is full of people who don't have good judgment, but he's far from his home turf and can't be employed. You do what you want, but if you want to tear apart honest people with shortcomings you got your work cut out for you online. Sorry if I sound harsh, but I've made many, many mistakes in my relations with the opposite sex. I guess the "perfect patrol" could have a lot of fun at my expense as well. Get over yourself and give him a little boost. Paul is managing a small collection to help the parties involved.

[@walidel-saleh6040]

"...ever since I don't I don't have any money, anymore, I don't matter..." That's EXACTLY the situation I found myself in. My brother-in-law went from being best man at my wedding, to, years later, punching my 8-year old daughter in the face and attacking me with bamboo sticks, rocks and a hammer. My mother-in-law went from "loving" me, to telling me not to call her "mum" anymore. Not just thrown out of the family (by this time, my wife was living with a new Filipino boyfriend - and pregnant to him - and her siblings and parents were all singing from the same hymn sheet..."Go back to your country...and don't think that we will allow you to take (my daughter.)" The reason was obvious. If I left my daughter behind, they knew I would send money, every two weeks. The long and short of it was that, at my lowest moment (violent and abusive in-laws, a cheating wife and just 20 pesos to my name,) I made a decision that I WOULD return to my country and, if necessary, would smuggle my daughter out. As I saw it, even the worst life with me, in my country, would be better than the best life my little girl could expect to experience if she stayed with them. I won't bore you with the details but, thanks to the pandemic draining finances of all expats, my country's government FINALLY decided to help the stranded return home. In addition to securing flights, they even threw in a one-off loan for living expenses, being the equivalent of 105,000 pesos. What I can say, 22 months after our escape is that my daughter has never been happier. She loves going to school, now that she doesn't have to share the classroom with 48 other kids (when the room has only 30 desks!) She eats what she wants and, even though we would be considered as being below the poverty line, here - we live like millionaires compared to what we went through, back there. With that said, I am NOT down on the Philippines, or with Filipino people. I love the country and most people are great - helpful, friendly, curious and kind. Indeed, the godmother of my child INSISTED on sending us money, one Friday evening - so we could eat on the weekend - despite me not asking her to help us. Later, I discovered she had wired the money from her hospital bed, where she was because of a heart condition. There were many others, like her, who were impressed that a foreigner was willing to endure hardship, in order to raise a Filipino-born child, that its Filipino mother had, effectively, abandoned. I should say, I also came back to no family. It's me and my young daughter, starting from scratch (and I am older than John.) Never give up hope. Best of luck. And thank you for sharing your story.

[@Brandi6666]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@chenjiahui6799]

Never too late

[@donmcdonald4874]

Good on you my man. Sharing these stories really helps a lot more people than you can imagine. I’ve been taken to the cleaners over “love” twice domestically. Fortunately not to degree you have, but you learn that having a kind heart can be a liability. It’s taught me that “no” is my go to answer.

[@thomaschi]

that's a scary story....thank you for sharing makes one think everything over

[@chenjiahui6799]

Hey man, best of luck!

[@victorjackson150]

Great story. I think many of us can learn a lot from this man’s experience. I am very very careful when it comes to $$. I hope everyone will learn from this. Let’s support him in his foibles. I hope that they can make it!!

[@PassportNomad]

The family tried to get rid of him. Dude, out of all the red flags…

[@djakobi1]

Success is relative. The more successful you are the more relatives you have.

[@erichodge567]

Well played.

[@briaf3370]

Yeah!

[@DesertVox]

This is also mathematically and logically sound. How can a poor & serially unsuccessful person be of help to others? Why would others defy their logic and common sense and seek help from an unsuccessful person. Even animals would know to go where there is plenty of food and water instead of wasting their energy on places where there is a scarcity of both. While it might seem not good MORALLY, it's perfectly in line with MATHEMATICS and LOGIC.

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

😂

[@timwidge2248]

Sad story. The way you spoke with him was very gentle and kind. Your obviously a good man

[@iono54321]

I have nothing to say I've been watching so many of these videos, from the PI to Thailand, all the same stories, I wonder how these people even survived in their own country?

[@itzsoeasy1960]

You're right. I believe this guy would have been taken, even in America. It's his personality. Some people can read the sucker sign on your forehead.

[@JonHuhnMedical]

When you're lonely and have limited options, it's so easy to get scammed or taken advantage of. Been there. I'm so sorry for all this, John. Hope things are going better by now.

[@anthonygreenfield123]

Exactly these Pinays prey upon lonely elderly

[@kateefreeze9216]

There's no fool like an old fool. Another red pill guy gets his younger woman

[@robertromero8094]

This dude is far from red pill. He's a child in an old mans body. Real men dont take pills ​@kateefreeze9216

[@seaglass6771]

You want their young bodies. They want funds. A story as old as time, but John really struggles to see it let alone tell it.

[@nicod2213]

He's a ding dong, play or be played he thought he was playing 😆

[@schoomzer]

Exactly...as they say, there is no free lunch. They are both providing and fulfiling a need. Men seem to be disappointed by that reality. Lol

[@shandysnanny]

I'm a Filipino, and I know what this guy has experienced living with Filipinos that are struggling in life. They have to hunt for foreigners that they could use for a decent living. You can't be a pushover or naive to live in my country. Even I, a Filipino don't want to stay longer there.And if I do, I have to be extra careful how I manage my money, relatives ask for financial help, etc. It's cheaper for me to stay for a month in Thailand, in a hotel, than visit my native country for a week. It's safer to roam around in Thailand, Vietnam, and other Asian countries.

[@coiledsteel8344]

@Martina's Journey Quid Pro Quo

[@DJarry394]

I have heard this from some Filipino Americans trying to make it here. In the Philippines They are guilted into supporting all their broke relatives and pay to bring them to the US, and when they put their foot down and say no, all.hell.seems to break loose. The desperation is palpable and people get ruthless. I blame the corruption of the government that keep people impoverished, for starters.

[@johnm994]

@@DJarry394 yup. It's sad people thing Bong Bong is gonna be different.

[@innapropreate8148]

@@johnm994 like I tell people here...this place has turned into professional scammers and beggers...not like before

[@mopheousredpill7462]

@@DJarry394 Don't forget western imperialism.

[@KevinVanRooyen-ik1pr]

Hi Paul, i am thankful for you making this video, because i am learning so much by watching and listening to this video. I feel sorrow 😢 for John and hope that he will pull through the mess. May God help John and strengthen him in this time of his life 🙏❤

[@setapart3452]

I am a 54 year old man and my Filipino wife is 56 and we met 7 years ago. There were many choices that I could have made but I refused to be desperate which that would only cause me to make the wrong decision. We have built a property business together and I am glad that I listen to her and invested when I did. She is older, beautiful, wiser with many years of life experience. She is now retiring and we will travel between countries. It must be for love and nothing else. This man is weak, naive and simple and this family saw him for what he is and decided to exploit him. Lesson to learn: Don't be so desperate and find a woman your age.

[@kellyc2425]

💯

[@anthonygreenfield123]

I dont think age means anything when ir comes to honesty. I mean I have been scammed horribly by freaking 70 yr old lola and lolos in the Philippines. I expected them to be wiser. At least he got to "enjoy" if u know what I mean, with a young pinay lady, wink wink. Hehe. I would say, worth the 20K dollars 😁 better than sitting in a retirement home back in the USA watching television all day or sitting in a trailerpark.

[@smithwilliam6837]

Yes

[@mscreative7345]

Sooooooo glad to see that somebody finally said it, weak and naive. This is not something that he just developed, he has been weak and naive before traveling there. I am surprised he was able to save up 30K. But, like I use to tell my daughter when she was young and would get into trouble when not paying attention, being naive is not cute. I will be greatly surprised if this man can ever rise above this in Amer., starting out with nothing, and the cost of living is far greater in Amer. But anyway, God bless him and his little family. ☹☹☹☹(sad faces)

[@jct4611]

Well Said!🏆

[@garyt7830]

When Poverty comes in the door........Love goes out the Window !!!

[@georgepower7]

😂

[@TheMoore49]

Crazy part is, the family was in poverty before they met the guy! 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@obiwanshinobi5098]

Yes unless you are really good looking. I know guys who are good looking and broke and have literally had women pay for them!!

[@ConservativePsychology]

How the fu@# you go broke in a poverty stricken country in 2 years and it not be your fault?

[@ConservativePsychology]

Dude has no street smarts and is out of his league. I would never allow a woman to live in my house with no sex won't happen. Just buy it and date older established women in their late 20s and 30s. He can't say no that is why he broke not the girls.

[@CoachDeBora]

As the song goes, we've all played the sometimes, myself included. I have to commend Paul for how much restraint he used during this interview. He kept trying to help John see all the red flags he'd missed, to no avail. What we can learn from John: 1. Americans are viewed as walking ATMs to people looking for help, so when the money runs out...out goes the "love" too. 2. a girl (or boy) rarely if ever really loves a man (or woman) old enough to be their grand. You're a sponsor. It is what it is. John is what you call a "nice guy," and girls and women "love" these types of men. But they don't really love them nor do they respect them. It doesn't matter what country he's in, he's gonna be a target for women who are looking for help. Meanwhile, like John's girl, they continue to frolic with men they desire.

[@Lt_Tragg]

Nailed it!

[@bettyvanderhooven-schmaasc4235]

Sadly, if I'd met him on a dating site, I'd go out for a coffee with him. But he's after something that's unrealistic. Almost seems pervy.

[@bettyvanderhooven-schmaasc4235]

Now summarize what kind of men cash out in America for young Asian beauties. If he wasn't still foolishly in love w the woman & angry, we'd all have different feelings about his choices.

[@SY-ok2dq]

@@bettyvanderhooven-schmaasc4235 What makes you think he'd go out with you? Unless you're aged 18~20 that is. Funny how these middle-aged and older foreign men in countries like the Philippines tend to hook up with women under 30, or very often, not too much older than 18...

[@Brian1952ful]

Totally disagree. This moron isn't the sharpest tool in the shed, that's obvious. His wife has been left with twins, and no means of support. Meanwhile he paints himself as a victim. I don't have an ounce of sympathy for this grub.

[@EllieM_Travels]

This video made me sad for John, but I since watched the updates and it seems they’re doing much better thanks to your support. I wish them the very best!

[@YourFreeBeats]

Great interview. I am a younger, widowed future expat in India. I am an IT Exec in the US right now who will be leaving my career behind (so currently saving what I can). Being 51 I am far away from Social Security but like this gentleman have no more family in the US to “fall back on”. I think one difference for this gentleman is he was “looking for love” in the Philippines and obviously that is going to tap in to your savings. My plan is to bring enough to live five years without income in India. After three years if no income I will begin planning a trip back to regroup. In all candor this was a real eye-opener for me and showed me I really need to plan. I wish this man the best.

[@markmartin8276]

What a shame

[@cairistionamacleod3154]

Don’t go

[@ChipperMcGee1]

Follow your gut.

[@erlindagonzales41]

study first girls/women you want to date. chek the background first. (education, family,character, etc)

[@NettiieB]

Where do you plan to settle in India?

[@bartphlegar8212]

Very impressive interview Paul, done with compassion and lack of judgment, yet making incisive points where needed. There is nothing wrong with being a generous person, but there has to be that capacity to have a "circuit-breaker moment" when one is ready to pull the plug. And that doesn't exist for John, probably and reasonably so because of his kids. Let's all hope that as they grow they will appreciate and care for their father who has sacrificed much for them. A cautionary tale for sure...

[@KoguryoKid]

"lack of judgment" I think you mean to say "non-judgmental".

[@txtworld]

Bart, well said - and with due compassion yourself. Generosity’s a great thing - there's nothing better than helping the ones you love - but you need to take charge, make the tough decisions, and be prepared to say "no" where necessary. Unfortunately, due to John's feeble mindedness (notwithstanding that he's a good man at heart), he basically handed out blank checks for all to bleed off him - until he was broke. This isn't a uniquely Filipino issue - there's plenty of horror stories in Western society, of gullible people being taken for all they're worth

[@bartphlegar8212]

@@KoguryoKid That would be a much better way to phrase it, yes... 🤣 ...I stand corrected, sir!...

[@Kandybuggsy]

I feel bad for Jon. He seems like a great guy who is in denial of being taken advantage of. I speak from experience. I’m married to a Filipina for 29 years, and through constant badgering seen my money over to the Philippines for education of her vast family. Built several homes “for us”, but quickly becomes occupied by her family, stores, and farms.

[@ananumatanu7621]

Yep! Never get involved with a Filipina!! Never!!! They will take your money, they will tell you all the bullcrap under the stars about a family is sick and need money.. just be smart and don't get involved wth one.. her ---()--- ain't worth it

[@MuaythaiRingAnnoucer]

Change wife....My gf will not place her relatives above me.

[@ananumatanu7621]

@Gary Drop Oh you poor thing!!! Why so long for?? The hanky panky? Haha

[@lifeuncommon1116]

Me too. I was in love… and I’m glad that I got out after 2 years… I still lost a large amount of money….but a few months work has earned it back… I just learnt many lessons, no one could have told me, I had to go through it to really learn. I’m super pleased I never bought property with her as I would have never seen that again.

[@dhughes647]

Nice guy at his core. But lacks discernment. He seems to long for “love” to the point where he overlooks reality.

[@MrRizzo1961]

Poor guy didn't have a clue . Paul seems to be trying to gently open his eyes. Bravo to Paul. ✌️❤️🙏🙏 God bless you and baby mae . Take care and stay safe.

[@NeilHaskins]

Thanks for this. It's really important to share the negative side of what can happen moving to the Philippines as well.

[@Slipknot-fm8zl]

I wanna thank John for doing this interview because it’s definitely not easy putting yourself out there like this. I will definitely remember and learn from your story for when I move to the Philippines. I wish you the best and hope it all works out for you in the end.

[@penguinsforever1609]

Be careful. Don’t be too trusting. I have relatives there and many of them are questionable. My mom’s side seems to be okay but my dad’s side are greedy.

[@roxetteannclavano8055]

When you move here, be frugal. Look at your budget and cut it in half. The 1st half should be your emergency fund. John had 1.5M pesos and was living a lifestyle as if he had 1.5M USD. 1.5M pesos is barely enough for yourself for 3 years or so.

[@ravanne3746]

This certainly is a good cautionary tale for those of us who are considering retirement overseas. So much can go wrong and without friends or family nearby, you can end up in a very bad situation. Sadly, elderly expats ending up homeless is not unique and there are no services available for expats if they run into financial hardship. Hopefully John is in a better position now but this really is a hard lesson that all of us should take very seriously.

[@ralliston2358]

An old story, watching with someone who would love to move here. Great educational vid. I have built a house here, and everyone absolutely loved me as i paid them... out of the process i learned that here you are a financial source... when the finances end, your relationships will change. The filipinos are a great people, they are resilient and strong. They got along fine before i arrived, and will be fine when i am gone. Money will not fix the issues, as the mentality generally is use everything today, tomorrow never comes.. Great education... sadly reinforces the fact that learning is lost on some... A woman's affections that includes her getting money for sex/love is not be confused with love... the 'john' who hopes that will change is lost...

[@papaeli123]

John reminds me of a worst case 19 year old sailor visiting the Philippines for the first time. His wisdom is far behind his age in these matters.

[@Bababui69]

Lol seriously I stayed away from Filipino, Thai, Russian , Ukrainian women like the plague. My Japanese girlfriend payed my rent got me food and was a successful business person working in Tokyo. I stayed with her when I was in Port and didn't care about the 1.5 hours commute back to base. One of the best relationships I have had.

[@udayakeerthiratna5992]

@@Bababui69 I am also married to a Japanese. she never let me down even in my bad times.

[@oscarrlee18]

@@Bababui69 Ukrainian lol。 USA will pay out the nose to support a crippled non recoverable Ukraine. Through taxation

[@benvoronov2306]

@@Bababui69 I married a Korean who was a first-class person. She never disappointed me. And before that, when I was living in Japan, I was impressed by their sense of honor. They're good people.

[@Lt_Tragg]

As a rule, I never ever dated or hung out with women with less education. As well as respectfulness, strong work ethic and honesty as well. It has served me well in life.

[@Xsplot]

This dude is the height of naivety. He was doomed to be taken to the cleaners. The only reason they keep him around is because they know he's got social security on the way. They're going to clean him of that too. He really screwed up when he knocked her up, with twins to boot.

[@lululiga333]

He shouldn’t have hit on a 15 year old and got her pregnant then. He’s disgusting.

[@Xsplot]

@@lululiga333 He's a boy in a man's disguise. I also loathe the parents who let this happen for money.

[@ddbrown123]

sad state of affairs. It's obvious they don't care about him.

[@lialia-kz4jc]

@@Xsplot Hes actually a pervert. He says she was around 16 when he met her? At his age hitting on a girl that young using his money as a hook in. Hes disgusting. He deserves all he gets.

[@vich7287]

Yes i bet he has "talked" about his pension a lot that is why they are waiting patiently = girl, mom, brother, cousin, uncles, aunties, neighbors, the next barangay.

[@kenthurlbeck]

Philippines, Thailand, Vietnam etc.etc. first rule is your to stabilize yourself first and only then can you have an idea of bringing a partner into your life. That means knowing exactly how much money it takes for you to live in a way that you find comfortable and how much more you are willing to spend to add someone else into the mix. Women 20,30 or 40 years younger than you don't get involved with you because you're the love of their live, it's about the security you can provide them and in Asia, their families too

[@pinkpeony5871]

When you're a 60 year old man and having sex with a 19 year old, there's a big problem there. It's all his fault that he's broke. He chose to pay for a young woman's affections/sex and lost everything that he had and unfortunately, I don't think he even really understands what happened to him and why and is bound to repeat the same behavior with he same female or another.

[@chrisrohr7626]

Likesthat fresh meat.Idiot,

[@zoe9632]

Yes! Why not meet a 45 year old for goodness sake? He set himself up for failure with his lack of due diligence as there are a gazillion similar stories out there for him to pay heed to.

[@MOBU76]

@@zoe9632 cause 45 year old wont go with this fool. Only young and naive 19 yo who thinks she hit the jackpot with this gringo.

[@zoe9632]

@@MOBU76 he's got a job & is doing much better now.

[@tvdavis]

Interesting how they almost never can find a woman to fall in love with in other countries that is in their 30s/40s/50s when they are pushing 60+. Nope. Always just seems to happen that the 20s and younger “women” (girls) are the ones they keep meeting and getting into relationships with. Then it’s “poor me, they took advantage of me!” No, pal. You wanted young 🐱 and when you’re 3x their age, that costs money. Keep it 💯. No 19 year old woman wants someone broke & in their 50s.

[@patrickhughes3587]

This poor guy seems to have made every bad decision possible. My heart goes out to him.

[@williammorgan8346]

A fool and his money shall soon depart but a fool in love is like a drunkard in the dark

[@charleswashington7576]

Must watch TV. Paul, best interview ever. John thank you for your bravery. You allowed us to look into your vulnerabilities. I'm speechless and humbled. This interview is a social survival Guide to the Philippines for foreigners.

[@skydragon569]

Sounds like we will get to hear Diana’s side of the story after-all. Quote from DIANA: “John is abusive and he is a monster”.. Refer to the following video - Channel: Philippine Antics Expat Help Title: TRUTH ABOUT EXPAT JOHN’s GIRLFRIEND and HER SIDE (7th of May 2022)

[@frankcorrea9702]

The man almost looks broken, how sad!

[@CARLEspinoza-w5c]

I will pray for you John for your patience and perseverance to remain with your family John. God will take good care of you. You're a strong good person John. And you deserve to be pray. I remember your lifestory, and I hope that I could only render prayers for you but somehow to be of help as well.

[@John-ys2kd]

I have lived on and off in the Philippines since 2015. It is really easy to be taken advantage of if one is an empathetic and a generous person - because there is so much poverty and need. I have paid for private schools for the kids, medical checkups, dental visits and rabies shots, and do not resent it. A couple of refrigerators, and funeral expense too. It's not a lot, in the scope of things, but one has to have limits. No vehicles or homes. And, she never asks, it is always my decision, and I do what I can, within my financial constraints. My heart goes out to John. He has really been taken advantage of. I am also very concerned for his security. He is at risk there in the barangay, and it is obvious his GF and family do not care about him. Paul I hope you can counsel him and maybe a small fund could be put together for him to get out. He also needs to also sign the embassy paperwork for citizenship for his daughters and they will get SSA when he does (through him) but he has to maintain custody or it will go to her.

[@cherylschumaker1366]

What is SSA? Sorry im not fimialr ... Couldn't he go back to the States get a job and send for his daughters through Sponsership ..But frist make all the right paperwork birth certificate etc...or after 19 months are up leave with his daughters and hire a nanny ...But how is he gonna make it for 19 months on no income??? Very Sad State of affairs ...and his Gf and ppl have no remorse or even care nothing

[@madamebrunhilda5105]

Do you really think the mother will let the children leave?? I doubt it!

[@latinaalma1947]

SSA is WHY these women are advised to get pregnant by Americans a huge scam.

[@thedinnerparty4795]

We pay for everything in life. What's the problem!

[@u4w8cmdd]

@@madamebrunhilda5105 best thing for John is go back to the states without the children so the mother can beg the rest of her life if she thinks she can raise them, cause I can tell you for a fact SHE CANT!!! then John can have a good life again without all the leeches around him, and he doesn't need to pay any child support ever, hey John your laughing mate, Just do it!

[@SurpriseMeJT]

I feel like the lessons he is learning is what I learned in my 20's and 30's. It's kind of sad to see someone older and so naive being taken advantage of. It's painful to watch. On the other hand, as someone who used to work alongside ex-con's and people with mental issues, some people simply don't have the mental capacity and intelligence to make better decisions. Based on what I can see from this man, he simply does not have the capacity to learn from his mistakes, or he simply didn't make enough mistakes before this point in his life. I personally feel it's the former.

[@jinny7303]

reality is these old dudes are going to the philippines in search of exactly that...so they pretty much got what was comin

[@stevenbaer9061]

Don't forget this man had a stroke so I am sure that has severely diminished his mental capacity

[@stevenbaer9061]

@@jinny7303 No sorry, nobody deserves to be bleed dry and then discarded

[@jinny7303]

@@stevenbaer9061 You go looking for/chasing women who will bleed you dry then you deserve it. Simple as that.

[@rapier1954]

He's not being taken advantage of, he went there to get a cheap piece of young ass, it just didn't turn out to be as cheap as he hoped. What can you do? There's no cure for stupidity.

[@davidk8504]

I feel for him. As soon as the interview started, I said to myself,"this man has had a stroke". As the interview progressed it became clear, this poor man can't make good decisions for himself. That family simply took advantage of him. As he said, he had the stroke before he even met the woman he's "with" now. It's a wonder they haven't thrown him out to the street, as cold as they are to him. They're basically starving him to death now! He needs to be examined by medical practitioners to determine his ability to conduct his own affairs. Basically, a competency hearing. The US Embassy needs to get involved. Even so, what can be done to help a stranger in a strange land, if the determination is made that he can't conduct his own affairs in a way that doesn't put him at risk from predatory individuals such as the members of this family? Another thought, is why would you build a home on land that you're squatting on? That makes no sense at all. This man , sad to say, probably won't be alive in 19 months, the way it's going for him. He so needs help. So tragic.

[@sharky4310]

your on point , but very unlikely it will happen in the phillipines. they basically are treating him like a stray dog on the street, this poor guy looks like a totally different person than the guy on the interview he gave 2 years ago. I feel really bad for this guy he seems like a good person, he needs to get back to the America and get some medical attention before he dies sleeping in some empty parcel with no one caring about him. I really hope the expat community over there helps him out a little I know I would if I was over there.

[@chuck5553]

I think you’re absolutely right.

[@chuck5553]

@@malibu-ken great point

[@artvandelay409]

Unfortunately it's extremely unlikely that the US Embassy would get involved in such personal matters. They would most likely recommend that he return to the US.

[@andydsouza507]

If he is sent back to America he will end up on Skid Row in the same if not worse situation. Nobody can live on social security alone in the US if they dont already have housing. He has no support or family in the US. IF he manages to stay alive for 17 months and detaches himself from the claws of the in laws, he may have a chance. But given his mental faculties and decision making it is a long shot at best.

[@sagdjim]

Great interview Paul, very compassionate, helpful and understanding!

[@yoda6051]

Kudos to this man for putting his story out there as a word of warning to others. I hope he got his visa extension and is almost there to social security.

[@lilyjazel7764]

When he receives his social security - he will be revered again . So sad that he doesn’t have family back in America.

[@bunnylover1340]

He is sharing his story that others would learn from it but he still says she is still the one. Pathetic

[@yoda6051]

@@bunnylover1340 It is not on us to judge. I would 100% not choose his path, but not for us to tell another man what to do here.

[@saigoneze4465]

warning wont do much these old men are too horny to think rationally one they are in that mindset of wanting to travel to asia for sex

[@everyonehasadream]

John's story is a very, very sad one. He's definitely very fortunate to have met you, Paul.

[@AidaJof]

However, sadly John is barely in survival mode ... sleeping at the beach!!!!!!

[@danekim4275]

Just watched this video and while it’s a year old, it’s timeless. One of your most engaging documentaries, Paul. John needs compassion from some viewers who can give it, but most importantly he needs guidance getting out of this rabbit hole. A year later today, I hope he is in a much better place. Less than a year until he gets his social security benefits. I wish him well. Truly a compelling video .

[@danekim4275]

Just watched Paul’s update posted 6 months ago. Paul & buds are awesome, got John back stateside to get back on his feet.

[@zeckul]

That's enlightening. A couple of my takeaways: - Solve the income question *before* leaving. Don't assume teaching or whatever else will work out - try it out first. - If a girl says she's into you, make sure that's it's not for your money. I'd tell her straight up that I'm not rich and cannot afford to support either her family or to invest in family property or business. If she still follows you after that, she's actually into you. Quite clearly he is in love with the facade that girl projected back when he had money, and not the actual person he has in front of him.

[@leemelvin6514]

any girl that is young enough to be your daughter comfortably or def grandchild are with you for the money. period.

[@marygraceherpin6855]

@lee melvin its not true me and my husband married almost 11 years. John is a cheater,if he did’nt cheat i guess he will be fine.he got the girl he deserved

[@buythedip1161]

Good point. Solve the income question before moving to a foreign country.

[@nicholasjames8037]

@@marygraceherpin6855 It's sad that this guy goes through all of this and u blame him and accuse him of cheating. You probably only been with your husband for 11yrs because he still got money.

[@marygraceherpin6855]

@@nicholasjames8037 he is talking about my sister i need to depend her. the number 2 girl.she my sister i know john he went to our town every time he went there we feed him we offer him a room with air condition. My father bought a gasoline to his motorbike.and his saying my sister is only for his money excuse me.

[@elsosita1690]

John is heading towards a self destructing sad story. unbelievable.

[@anthonydanielgittins1864]

I have lived in SE Asia for thirteen years. Unless you are a qualified professional or have a substantial sum and other income streams, you will struggle..You never buy any girl anything until you have lived with her for at least a couple of years. Be wary of families and don't be as green as this guy.I have heard a million stories like this.

[@ctb1977]

How old are you? I'm 31 and been in Asia since I was 21, girls or their families have never taken advantage of me. My Thai girlfriend who I have been with for 2 years was supporting me for the first year, and her family have never asked for anything. I bought the mum a £70 necklace, took them for dinner a couple of times and that's it! When the mum and dad are elderly I will be expected to help support them, but that's a Thai cultural thing, it's not because I'm a walking ATM. They won't need much, maybe like £100-£200 a month, and it's years before they're elderly anyway. I've never been treated like a walking ATM. If you're an old dude with a young girl, then yes, they want you for your money, but that's true even if it's an old Asian dude, it's not because you're western, it's because when there's a massive age gap, the relationship is transactional

[@donald8354]

⁠@@ctb1977 I guess you are lucky you have not been taken advantage. Best wishes.

[@jessiem276]

​@ctb1977 Most try to take men for money. You act like if you're young, they automatically fall in love with you. Yeah, the older men are taken advantage of more often, since it's a steady source of income.

[@AnthonyCataldo-b2q]

My wife passed away, but I was the ATM for her daughter for 18.5 years. Easily, more than $100K. She actually called me "the money man." This is in US. My wife knew it and she knew that her daughter would only visit 1 or 2 times per year when she wanted money, and it made her feel very bad. I feel bad for this guy. I hope things turn out well for him.

[@jackbenimble999]

Thank to John for putting himself out there like that. It's a very valuable lesson to anyone considering a move far away from home.