MONTESSORI AT HOME: Schemas in Early Childhood

[@HapaFamily]

This is a reupload because I fixed all the titles! Thanks to all of you who let me know they were CRAZY in the original upload, you’re too kind! 🥰

[@melancholymadness4354]

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[@maryinsanfrancisco]

I thought I was having a stroke, LOL! "Gorka kig - what the hell is that?"

[@pnhnut]

wow Ashley don't you ever sleep?!!!!

[@HapaFamily]

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[@HapaFamily]

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[@paulaooook]

I have a 26 month old boy and 5 month old girl. You’re a mom’s mom. Thank you for the thoughtfulness and intelligence you put in all your videos.

[@HapaFamily]

Thanks, Paula! You’re too kind. 😝☺️ I’m glad this resonated with you!

[@silh7605]

Agree!! Her videos are informative to the point that I literally have a notebook to write down and keep up with all the info.

[@ralucacopil5395]

You are my go-to channel for inspiration regarding Montessori in particular and being a kind and considerate parent in general. I like SOOO MUCH the fact that you talk fast and get to the point, while still providing the details and explanations needed to understand the why/how/when..etc. And seeing you smile while you talk shows once again that you truly enjoy discovering your kids and helping others to do the same. I really hope this channel will grow fast and beautiful, as it really deserves it, and that this will allow you to concentrate on whatever you love most! Thank you for sharing your knowledge!

[@HapaFamily]

Thank you so much! I really do love sharing all of this stuff with you all, I’m so passionate about it and find it incredibly fascinating! 🥰

[@nocegyrpo6082]

True, she goes straight to the point

[@lila-Bey]

Sweet comment, and true!👍

[@adriannavanoyen]

This is so, so important and something that all caregivers should learn about to avoid frustration for all parties involved! ♡

[@analyticalchick3064]

I'm a career nanny and I LOVE this.

[@CaptainKirkoid]

Describing schemas as "urges" is the most helpful way to think about this behaviour. Thank you!

[@jadelightsword]

This is wonderful. So much of children's "misbehavior" is really just inappropriate expectations on the part of the adult. Your video is so informative, but reassuring and nonjudgmental at the same time. Great!

[@graciousbee]

Thank you Ashley, you are making the world a better place.

[@maryinsanfrancisco]

I love this video so much. It is so helpful to frame your child's behavior within developmental milestones versus "willfullness" or "bratiness". And I really love your suggestions for re-directing. Thank you for the valuable information and yet another wonderful video.

[@Vera1993B]

rotation shema: Ever since he first saw it at 6 months of age, my son was obsessed with spinning a flat, round object like a lid. He practiced starting at 7 months and finally succeeded when he turned one. If we went somewhere, all I needed to entertain him was the lid of one of his toy pans. As soon as he was able to do it, the obsession was gone and never came back :D Thanks so much for an interesting video!

[@zk.13]

I just watched it 3 times to check what my child do! This is so important to title and study your child's behavior

[@lizziehurford4737]

I’m only just watching this but it’s so useful to help with my 16 month old twins. I wondered why my boy was trying to hide in the kitchen cupboards. Thank you so much 🤗

[@gardeningfamilies]

My 19 month old is strongly in a transportation scheme. He'll more laundry from washer to dryer and from dryer to the couch. He'll go back and forth to his bedroom to bring me every book he has. Thanks for this video! I was just looking for schema info. Great timing.

[@Elvaelvaku]

This video is so helpful! My baby is still small but starting to dropping food on the high chair, keep on crawling around, and opening/ closing the shelf repeatedly. It totally make sense now!

[@cinland86]

I have learned so much from this video. Thanks Ashley!! Almost 100k subs. You deserve many millions

[@HapaFamily]

💕💕💕💕

[@daianegomes-santos482]

0:29- Schemas- developmentally normal patterns of behavior 0:53- Overview of 8 of the most common schemas 1:08- Schema: General terms: a framework, how we understand the world. Early childhood context: Intense URGE child has to do something. 3:28 #1- Trajectory Movement of body- Running, climbing, throwing, quicking things, dropping things... Ways to support child: provide opportunities like going to a park , balls, pool(running water), indoor slide, Pickler triangle(a climbing structure).

[@sjcooks3664]

This is great . I noticed this within my toddler but didn’t know it had a name . Since I’ve been getting him toys that go along with whatever schema he’s going through he’s been playing independently for a long time and I’ve been able to reduce screen time . Which I’m happy about.

[@AjiaJ]

Love your haircut 💖

[@Disiskj]

Thanks for the ideas on activities. My 11 month old boy isn't walking yet. He is currently throwing things off his high chair, likes climbing, loves to cover his face with blankets, clothes etc and is always hiding his toys under the couch. It all makes sense now after watching your video :)

[@laurencedebien973]

Wow! This is so enlightening and encouraging! My 13-month old is into most of these schemas- the constant climbing and throwing are the difficult ones-and it really helps me understand why and how to deal with it. Thank you so much for sharing. Best wishes from a French mum who has recently discovered your channel.

[@christinap5148]

Such great info (as always). This helps with my 2 year old so much. He's doing so many of these schemas right now! So cool to see. Thanks Ashley!

[@Data90]

Thank you so much! 😊 Quite recently my daughter (she is 18 months) has been wanting to climb on my step ladder (joys of being short lol) Since it has been too cold to go outside and we really don't have anything safe for her to climb on (we're working on that) I will bring my step ladder into the living room since it has carpet and she can climb on it all she wants. She also enjoys throwing food on the floor and giving our dog an oatmeal bath 😂 Your videos have been SO helpful. Especially now since my daughter wants to be a little more independent 😂

[@elviradelira6569]

Seriously. Since I found your channel it has been nothing but positive and insightful!!! I’m so thankful that you share these resources ❤️🔆

[@learningthroughplaywithkay3597]

My 14 month old dose these behaviours throwing food on the floor . He like tapping toys on the floor , sofa the tv unit. He likes to throw a ball but he then wonts to throw everything . My son was 3 months early so it's always hard to tell . So this video has been really helpful.

[@ItsKalasLife]

Kaylea Bouttell my 2 year old is doing the same thing right now and driving me crazy!

[@artandcreativity5122]

I have a 6-month-old child, this is really important information, and thank you very much for it

[@maggie4619]

Thank you for making this video , so helpful as a parent to understand what schema my little one is going through , and some activities we can do 😀

[@natr2287]

Great video Ashley! I love watching them and I learn so much every time! Love from Copenhagen :-)

[@rabeyaaman1976]

This is so useful! Thank you!! Be blessed!!!

[@eidegutierrez4453]

Wow! Didn’t know that climbing was a trajectory schema. My toddlers are climbers and I have been giving them opportunities to climb outside of home, good thing it’s summer time and we can spend more time outside.

[@senselessrose]

I work in a daycare with ages 0-2 and I swear my 1 year olds are all in the first 6 schemas right now. All at once.

[@AbhiPunj]

All of your videos are so informative and well put together. Thank you so much 😊

[@meaganvanherpen5524]

This was so helpful. Thank you.

[@ashley07263]

Oh my goodness this was so helpful my daughter is literally into all of these ams I've been so lost as to why she was doing these different things tha m you so much

[@meganpantuso7226]

This is amazing information. Thank you so much!!

[@5prerana]

Hi Ashley, what do you recommend/suggest when they start to throw things at a friend’s/neighbor’s place ? How do we control that? Could you please do another video on that?

[@nurbakhyut.makina]

Thank you for your sharing information with us! You're amazing!

[@zaurekassenova204]

Your videos are so inspiring.Thank you from our family because a lot of yoir advices we are introducing into our life now.

[@mallybeck1560]

I love your videos! They are chocked full of so much information, I have to take notes! I love it.

[@valeryclark]

Super helpful, I was really needing this exact info, but too tired (expecting #7) to dig for it. Awesome video -concise, offering solutions , thank you very much.

[@ginagarcia9384]

I miss your videos so much!!! 😢

[@swatipai168]

Super amazing video. Thanks for sharing n explaining the child behaviour through schemas. This makes our lives so much easier

[@graciousbee]

That was super helpful, thank you

[@OctavianiRz]

Thank you so much for sharing this topic. My baby is 19 months old and she keep hiding her toys in the back of something, or throws her Book to the back of her book shelf and I don’t understand why after I saw this video.. I make kind off play hide and seek, I tell her to search thinks that she hide and try to grab it. Now she only throws things that she can grab and put it back or at least she know where her toys when she needs it.

[@rachellevank3107]

Thanks for sharing, you’re really helping me understand my 19 month old ☺️

[@Jane-qg4jr]

Thanks for the information!!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@nylemama5804]

Thanks for the useful information! Does schema related to sensitive periods🤔?or are they two different things?

[@ΘεοδώραΚαλλαντζή]

Very useful video!! Well done!!! ☺

[@chloem.872]

This is just a such a great video! I just subscribed to your channel and I'm so glad I did. This is a huge help. Thank you so much for sharing these schemas and inspiration to be a better mom. :)

[@kimberlygreen731]

I have been LOVING all of your videos!! My little girl is 10 months and all of your videos have been so relevant and spot on for everything I have been looking into! Learning about Montessori, BLW...I have been watching them all and enjoying and learning so much from them! Just wanted to say thank you!!! Also just got instagram for the first time because I was so excited about the giveaway and wanted to be able to follow :) thanks for all the help you have given us on our journey so far I look forward to all the new videos we will be waiting for and enjoying!!

[@jenniferr4738]

Mind blowing! So when do these happen? Are there specific ages or more so this is what it looks like if they’re interested in something. Thank you!!!

[@brianawhatley7119]

There is a general progression, but it's not in a strict order. That depends on the child. They will experience most, if not all of these before they are 6. Their natural development will guide them along. Don't feel like you need to move them from one to the other, just be attentive to the clues they will naturally give you and try to cater to that specific schema. :)

[@RelatableMotherhood]

My daughter is super obsessed with dressing and undressing herself. She's 18 months old. She'll dig out all her socks and shoes and try to put them on, take her shirt off and try to out it back on, and so on. Does this fall into a schema? I've just been allowing her to "play" these ways because she's building life skills. But just curious =)

[@julial.s.7346]

Thank you so much for this video! So helpful and informative 🥰

[@bobbydazzle3457]

Thank you for this video! Does opening and closing doors/drawers go under the trajectory schema?

[@anna.m8]

Great video!

[@samiradanesh2726]

Would this relate to a 10 month old are these ideas for toddlers? I’m really being challenged with keeping my 9 month old entertained. I’m getting tired of her light up typical toys & so is she. She’s not really being challenged. This got me to look more into the Montessori style of learning and playing. I loooove that the concept is going to be challenging her! She needs this! But I just don’t know where to start! Also kind of on a budget! Would you recommend just grabbing a few toys at a time to start? Lol it’s kind of overwhelming on how to start this method. But I love it

[@architecturaldream1]

Oh I’m sad, I don’t have Instagram but I might ask my sister to enter for me. I was thinking a climbing frame would be a wonderful first birthday present for my son 😁

[@melissaleo9611]

Thank you for this! It makes so much sense now :)

[@TheJoofie]

Thanks for the great video Ashley. Your videos are always so helpful and you explained the different schemas very well. My daughter is definitely in a trajectory schema since she was about 6 months old (she’s 15 months now). She throws everything from food, her clothes, to her toys. I’m having a challenging time trying to teach her how to brush her own teeth, self feed with a spoon/fork, or try any kind of Montessori activity (for example, transferring little balls from one bowl to another). As soon as I give her something she throws it across the room. Does this mean that she’s just not ready? Should I keep waiting and try again? I read that there are sensitive periods for children between birth to 3 years old to learn to do certain things during a window of time. I’m worried that she will pass her “sensitive period” to learn things like feeding herself with a spoon/fork or dressing herself. I keep trying to “follow the child” but to be honest, sometimes I’m not really sure “how to observe”. I’ve been trying to practice Montessori at home since she was born but I haven’t really witnessed her do anything independently or “Montessori” yet. 😔 I get so excited to introduce something new to her but she just ends up throwing it. I had to put away certain wooden toys because she would end up hurting herself with it when she throws it in the air. Now I just give her bean bags, balls and scarves to play with lol. I’ve read the books “Montessori from the Start” and currently reading “The Montessori Toddler”, and watched your Montessori at home KZbin videos (And taking your ecourse too) and trying to practice all the things mentioned however sometimes I feel as though I’m missing something or just going about it incorrectly. Can you provide me with some advice or suggestions? She is starting to potty train in a few months and I’m worried she’s going to throw her poop at me lol...just kidding...but sort of not lol 😆

[@diveenuh]

do u recommend any containers for the open & close basket activity mentioned for the containment schema?💜

[@atkhkmsn8123]

Loving this! It helped me make sense of my daughter’s current behaviour. But I’m not sure how I can support her if I don’t intend on purchasing an indoor climbing structure (our house is too small). She’s currently in a trajectory schema and she’s 6-7 mths old. Would a walker wagon help?

[@michaelaalison1900]

My son is 11 months and his schema is scattering things! If his food is all in one spot he has to swipe it around. If his blocks are all in one spot again he has to swipe them with his hands scattering them. Pretty cute

[@michellecontreras7916]

Great information! Thank you!

[@lauralulolly]

You make me excited to do these activities for my baby😂

[@dr.priyankakaleraut2361]

Woow. I see all of these in my 25 month old

Thank you so much for this video!

[@ridanisar6390]

I love you - i have exactly kids of ur age - elder girl, n a boy - same age -

[@sonalichettiar7154]

You are amazing 👏 I love you 😍 ❤ I have learnt so much from you

[@johannakristinsantiago5178]

Thank you for this..very informative🙂

[@nicolemccarthy5192]

Where did you buy the wooden train set? 😍 We love your channel thank you so much for all your hard work and sharing it with all of us !! You have given me so many ideas and I'm learning so much from you and so Is my child 💖

[@adayinthelifeofme96]

IKEA has a great one that is expandable

[@Starrylink0308]

Would a trampoline place be good? We have a toddler space in ours.

[@HapaFamily]

Yes, definitely!!!

[@julienb7330]

What baby carrier do you use for Mia?? I was watching a video I hadn’t seen when she was little and saw a comment where you addressed the carrier you were using wasn’t safe for babies hips. I’m having a hard time finding one as all of them look to be made similar

[@lucyblack8527]

Hi! Thank you so much for all of your awesome videos and guidance, I really appreciate them! I was wondering, is it normal for a toddler to be in a certain schema for a long period of time? My 16-month-old is actually showing signs that he’s in three different schemas, but he’s been in the trajectory one since he was about six months old. He’s always been fascinated by dropping and throwing things. I feel bad when I have to tell him no because he’s going to throw some thing that he could break or if he might get hurt so I try my best not to and to give him things that he can throw or drop that are appropriate. But this doesn’t seem to help with him not wanting to throw things that I don’t want him to. 😂 He recently got the ring stacker from lovevery about two months ago and has not been using it the way that it is meant for. I have shown him several times how to stack the rings, but he has no interest in that. He just likes to pick it up and throw it several times and gets very amped up from doing that. Do you think that I should just put it away for now until he is ready for it?

[@JamesandMercyDavis]

Thank you for such awesome information! 💙

[@CRG_]

Great video! Will have to see if you have one on sensitive period. My 15mo old is very into books and not sure how to help her sensitive period with language other than offering lots of books🤪

[@lila-Bey]

C R G mine almost cried at 24 wks when he thought I was taking a new bk away when I was just lifting it back towards him (in the library) 26 wks now and hooked bad. 😍 I love it.

[@carlazamora6712]

I have a question and please forgive me if I sound ignorant but I thought that if a child is spinning around for long periods of time and is aligning everything not just toys but food shoes ext. is a sign on autism?

[@truthupurs5740]

My child only likes to demolish, not connect.. I try my best to model putting things together playing separately, but she just sees it as me setting it up for her to knock it down. When I let her play with blocks on her own, she just takes her hands to sweep them apart and walks off to find another stimulating object to explore.

[@minimalmomgreece]

Thank you for the wonderful this video!

[@judithdelarosa644]

❤ my 7 month old keeps covering his face and wanting to hang his head off my arms or anywhere ..i kept saying i know this means something.. thank you for this❤

[@dianasalguerodelacruz616]

Hi there. What schema was this that your baby was going through?

[@judithdelarosa644]

@@dianasalguerodelacruz616 orientation and enveloping(:

[@silh7605]

Amazing video!!!

[@codiiiiiiiii]

Could a child exhibit these schemas while they are still an infant? My 6mo old son LOVES to pull things over his face-his bib, toys, blankets, clothes, etc. I had him laying on a blanket and he managed to grab the corner and pull it over his face. If I place his clothes near him while I’m changing him he will grab them and pull them to his face. Once it’s on his face he flails his arm and when I pull it off his face he laughs. He has done this so frequently (mostly with his bib or toys) that I feel like it could be a schema based off your explanation. I just didn’t know if it could start this early, but I supposed this is like peek a boo as you mentioned.

[@HapaFamily]

Yes, that is absolutely baby’s first peekaboo (and enveloping at work!). 🥰

[@mariarubio793]

Until which age the schemas Ashley? I'm sure my little one is on some of them but I'm thinking in my clasroom.. would be correct to take care of them for my students between 3-6 years old?

[@HapaFamily]

Up through 6 or 7, but you could certainly see elements of schemas in older children, still, too!

[@AparnaJain1]

Posting schema- where the child wants to insert items like coins, cards or other objects in containers. Support that by giving them a piggy bank to put in coins or a box with a hole to put in poker chips!

[@MemineandOurs]

Loved Learning more about the schemas. I feel like my daughter does a couple of things from most of the schemas.. is that possible to be in more than 1 at a time? Or do I just need to watch closer and figure out which one she’s really in. Xx

[@HapaFamily]

Yes, more than one is very common! Pretty sure both my kiddos are always in several different ones at a time! 😊

[@MemineandOurs]

Ah ok.. thank you for confirming 😊 good to know that I can still cater to each one at the same time. As in have multiple different activities that will entertain her for each schema! Xx

[@seymaatasoy4817]

Is there an untold schema for dipping and rubbing hands to yogurt and anything with that consistency like cream, hand soap etc. 😩

[@ItsKalasLife]

My 2 year old throws stuff when he is mad. How can I help him? He will throw anything. He threw his chalkboard the other day, then his train, then flipped his chair over all in 1 min. It's driving me insane and I'm losing patience.

[@kathryn4003]

Pretty sure my 9 month old is in the trajectory schema. He climbs on everything. He doesn’t throw anything but he loves to bang whatever is in his hand on the floor or another object. Ideas on how to help him without getting dings on my wood floor? (I think he likes the sound)

[@loracorwyn3713]

Kathryn Garrison carpeting in the areas he is in most often or those foam mats. I think discouraging the behaviour is not going to be over all helpful, just try redirecting him to do it in areas that won’t hurt your floor as much

[@HapaFamily]

I agree with Lora! Also try some of those softer but still hard balls or blocks? They would make a noise, but otherwise not damage anything. And if it is the sound that he is fascinated with, perhaps try offering something that makes noise, like a small drum or other musical instruments! 😊

[@kathryn4003]

I think I need to get him a drum. He has a little hammer for his xylophone that he uses to hit everything and honestly I think it’s so cute because he tries to “sing” too. The hammer can’t hurt anything but I think it’s time to find a drum. Thanks!!

[@grinningneko5480]

Maybe someone can help me? My 9mo is obsessed with opening and closing things. Or lifting them up and putting them back down. Yesterday she would not stop opening and closing a closet door even though she kept slamming her fingers in it. I ended up having to block off that cabinet with boxes because if I tried to redirect her attention she just crawled straight back to it. She's also fascinated with lifting up our carpet. She'll just lift it up over and over again. What schema is this? What activities can I do with a 9mo to support it?

[@827honey1]

From what I have read that is a connection schema. Try toys that click together.

[@pomminnie]

you are amazing.

[@pomminnie]

You do not just provide theoretical information in a way that is detailed yet easy to digest...you go further to give us WHAT to do with them. I wouldn't know what to do without you as a mom.

[@greengumgrows]

I have a 3.5 year old daughter and a 7 month old son. Do these schemas appear in these ages?

[@loracorwyn3713]

greengumgrows id say yes even my 10 year old still has some schemas, she loves reading inside of boxes or doing activity under blankets for instance.

[@HapaFamily]

Yes!

[@greengumgrows]

@@loracorwyn3713 oh! I'm just not able to figure out what schema my daughter is in. Do kids skip some schemas? Like I've never seen her line things up or connect them and never seen her upside down. I feel like she has always been in the trajectory schema she loves slides and speeding on her scooter and the only thing she ever did with her toys was throw them out of sight.

[@loracorwyn3713]

greengumgrows she probably just had been processing them in a less obvious way then the examples given. From what I’ve read for instance the lining up schema can also be expressed by separating things by colours, like putting all blue blocks in a pile and red in another etc or placing all round objects into a basket and all square objects into another one.

[@CafecitoAna]

Can babies have more than 1 schemas? I feel my baby has at list 2

[@green4760]

yes

[@naseerahdola1847]

I ❤️❤️ your videos

[@marisalastra7898]

What if we are at someones house? How do i let my baby know that its not ok to be climbing or running around? I love your channel!!!! You’re amazing❤️

[@choosnau]

Children dont necessarily have to be spoken to "like children". Explain to them there is a time and place for things. Some things okay at home are not okay in public. My 4 year old has know since he was 2 that when we are at the library, we use a softer voice than most places. That's coming from a kid who's "inside voice" is the equal decibel to a jet plane

[@HapaFamily]

I agree with Choo! :)

[@Taiwaneverything]

Our two-year old just put a spoon of playground sand it his mouth... 😂

[@nicolereadstarot]

Is this why my twins throw everything down the stairs?

[@alinedacosta4818]

I think my 29 months old boy is in ALL the schemas at the same time! 😅