More of a Divorce Attorney's Thoughts on Love and Marriage-James Sexton

[@SoftWhiteUnderbelly]

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[@MARKHENSTROM]

Mark - could you interview someone who works at an animal shelter? I'd love to hear someone's in-depth perspective on people's relationships to/with animals - how they don't succumb to despair with cases of extreme abuse/neglect - that sorta thing. Could be interesting...

[@degaucherie]

I think sexual economics theory by James Sexton is problematic because it seems like it is being discussed by James, Mark, and even Orion as if sex is only a need that needs to be filled by men and not a mutual fulfillment of existential needs by both partners, both men and women. Mark, I highly recommend interviewing Esther Perel for an alternative perspective.

[@tammic2016]

Hey Mark at the end where the people are modeling their shirts the 12th one in is that Diamond? I would love a follow up on her.

[@weir-doe3205]

I hope you can do this again from the perspective of a female divorce attorney, I think it will be cool for viewers(and yourself too) to judge divorce from the views of both genders

[@bettelousnell6795]

First first divorce ,my husband and I had same lawyer Very agreeable,no argue No crying very agreeable.we had house,cars, business. We were not rich. We were respectful of each other. our Lawyer had been married 3 times. He just could not believe we were so friendly.😅

[@omniopen]

If I ever get married we’re gonna sit down and listen to this guy ramble for 2 hours, if we can’t survive that then we won’t survive marriage, great insight.

[@Strafeyy]

He doesn't appeal to women because he exposes the truth that men so often fail to see. Things are changing though 😁

[@michelefortino3233]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@sarahjaye4117]

😂😂😂

[@lalittl]

Lmaooo this! 😂😂 Listening to this guy is like getting love and morality advice from the cast of Scandal

[@juliesievert7073]

Yes! Great insight!

[@tn767]

My husband and I were married for 38 years before he got pancreatic cancer and died. And when we would go to a party or out with other couples,many times when we got home, he would say, “you were the prettiest one there”. I wasn’t and I knew it. I knew how blessed I was. We held hands in the movies and even driving in the car. I miss him greatly. ❤

[@Alma_Kane]

How heartbreaking, I am so sorry. 😢 My marriage is younger than yours but it's a very happy one too and I dread the thought of losing my best friend.

[@kerryfloody3032]

😢😢😢❤❤❤

[@lovelymequijote6115]

Wow to love somebody like this. ❤🥹

[@terriray24]

Yes, don’t let this lawyer skew your thoughts of marriage. There are still good people out there.

[@mebmom3]

I don’t think she’s heartbroken she’s GRATEFUL! My Dad died of cancer and he and my Mom had a beautiful love story (after a rocky marriage) but you reconcile the pain they felt with the beautiful bond they had ❤Stay strong girl,you’ll be together again …

[@jcnlaw]

Fellow divorce attorney here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). I am so happy divorce attorney James Sexton has a platform to tell the general public what we see all the time. Get educated about divorce if you are even thinking about getting married. Or simply stay single. You can still have amazing relationships without bringing state law into your life and finances.

[@leneo1731]

@@jcnlaw I simply don't understand the laws in your country. But then again I don't understand who marries without a prenup. So maybe I'm the problem and not your country!

[@jaredmello]

I am also in your area, in NJ burbs of Philly. I’ve been trying to partner with a divorce lawyer who understands narcissism I can refer people to.

[@jcnlaw]

@@leneo1731you are not the problem. The laws in the United States vary widely from state to state. Overall, marriage is a bad idea in the United States (and Canada) for most ambitious people.

[@BP-ke5qs]

I'm sure the bastard kids are doing great

[@shelleyinthecity]

What percentage of marriages in the United States end in divorce in your professional opinion?

[@amtha9077]

For me, Mr. Sexton is easily the most entertaining and insightful recurring guest you've had.

[@adriannaaaa95]

Agreed!!!!

[@nightfighter7452]

I like the crackheads

[@The_Drifter_13]

Totally agree! Just watching a train wreck who cannot communicate gets rather boring. This guy actually has something to say.

[@brianmeen2158]

@@The_Drifter_13yeah I really don’t enjoy watching interviews with people that are hardcore drug addicts or have extensive long term trauma. It truly makes me feel uneasy especially if the person Is still using currently

[@MilahanPhilosophersCorner]

Agreed

[@richardlee9656]

He's the GOAT. I've gained tips on how to be a better husband by just doing the little things that don't cost anything financially.

[@Anonymous-km5pj]

Love how he said he gets off on being a provider (protector). That's sex realism right there.

[@marsharowaihy6725]

EXACTLY!!

[@WhineNot]

James is a radical realist. A persistent pragmatist. Life is easier when you can face ugly truths. His energy is the face of absurdity always impresses.

[@misterwallace3479]

He’s in a maze. He truly knows quite a bit

[@FCox-cy2zq]

....and a little narcissistic blow hard....he is super brilliant, but lacking in empathy and not so emotionally intelligent 😢

[@franjkav]

Except for how to get out

[@notsojharedtroll23]

​@@franjkav sometimes there is no way to get out, and realistically speaking, the best you can do is to accept it and try to do the best you can

[@UterineBlackmail]

Life is easier when you can face ugly truths. Spot on.

[@peteh6405]

This guy is brilliant he is 100% honest I love it please have him on again

[@losbrooklyn8861]

He's been on few times if you haven't seen already...watch those ..plus hes been on soooo many other channels

[@letsgetdoing]

Crazy being "brilliant = honest".

[@2ared952]

I married my husband when I was 19 and now I’m 38. We’re still obsessed with each other and spend every second together that we can. But, when I listen to James, I recognize there are things I can do differently and better as a wife. Things that I didn’t think mattered to a man that make sense when he explains it. I appreciate all of his honesty.

[@rainyfeathers9148]

@@kerripendragon4888 Wow. Opportunist🤣

[@MoneyMoneyMoney-wv4fh]

@@saram3156adult children including this lawyer. He’s not that great he’s just transparent and hits on insecurities to make money

[@allie9462]

Wow go you! Help a sister out, only been married 4 yrs and I struggle with trust. How do you handle things like social media and phones, passwords, female friends, etc? Thanks for any feedback❤

[@carolinepettersen8085]

I’m so happy you’ve both found someone you’re still in love with and obsessed with after that many years together, that’s insane! But what you’re saying after has to be a huge reason as to why it’s lasting. Bc you’re both (I assume) putting in effort to evolve and be better for your partner than you were yesterday. We can always grow and evolve, so doing it intentionally is what will make or break a relationship/marriage

[@kaitlyndavila8582]

⁠@@kerripendragon4888 be so fr, pressured by the patriarchy men created?? who would’ve thought LMFAO

[@a.w.3772]

A therapist once told me, "A relationship is the clearinghouse for everything that went wrong in our childhoods."

[@duggadugga6435]

Jesus Christ. That's a terrible therapist.

[@ieatsmochicken]

@@duggadugga6435it’s the truth

[@kjs3431]

⁠@@duggadugga6435 You are wrong; this is very true.

[@vinnievu1]

​@@kjs3431 Can you explain this quote? What is a clearinghouse?

[@annkibe5506]

Somebody should put this on a T-shirt asap!

[@robertopang4240]

What makes this guy so enjoyable to watch is the fact that he DOES BELIEVE IN LOVE, whether for a partner and OBVIOUSLY for his kids, he believes in love and talks about love (and his kids and his role a a father) not only with passion but also with tenderness.

[@Silvermoonscorpion]

He seems to be a romantic at heart, truly.

[@jomoland]

@@SilvermoonscorpionI wonder if that can be difficult for most divorce attorneys?

[@mugulolol]

Yes really that’s the part about him that has drawn me to watch part 2

[@trowdytrav]

That opening monologue was like Quentin Tarantino talking about his new movie 😂

[@shakes.816]

Spot on!!!

[@InkaPley]

❤

[@heatherh.197]

💯😂

[@joniheisenberg]

Best comment!😂

[@kimclark3569]

Nailed it 😊

[@ryancohen5580]

25 years and the chill down my spine and magic is still there for my wife and I, overjoyed to be the outlier

[@PureJoySkinCareWaxStudio]

@@ryancohen5580 I love ❤️ this. It DOES exist!!!!

[@thetechguychannel]

Same, same, brother. We're the lucky few. Cheers to the wonderful women that make our day, one day at a time, until death do us part.

[@PureJoySkinCareWaxStudio]

@@thetechguychannel I love this so much! Lucky woman.

[@missloretta]

I feel the same way. I'm not constantly aware of it but he really is the only man I've ever been interested in dating and he is absolutely my person. I'm so grateful I found him and that my life turned out the way it has.

[@ryancohen5580]

@@thetechguychannel I am convinced my wife and I have been in love throughout all our lifetimes, if past lives exist, she’s been my lady and I have been her man always and forever.

[@HeatherTalley-912]

From a Hospice nurse of 25 years - I could listen to you all day. Tell it like it is, whether anyone likes it or not - you are absolutely fabulous, brilliant and REAL! And that you were a Hospice volunteer was the icing on top! Please keep coming back. And thank you!!

[@abigailrand]

I am a hospice social worker and also adored this video! Pure honesty and freeing to hear.

[@mikedavid5071]

“If you care about it and you don’t maintain it, don’t dare whine when it doesn’t work “- excited and well spoken attorney

[@jessieinthewest]

Showing my husband daily that I appreciate him has changed our relationship so much for the better.

[@isaacengineer2280]

That's awesome

[@krsmedley]

Man the line, “if I had known it was the last time my kids would call me daddy, I would have taken a moment to cry. I’m just dad now” hits me hard.

[@JohnAlternative-o6h]

My ex, the first time she called her mother "Mum" instead of "Mummy", her mummy slapped her across the face. Classy 😒

[@Sh0n0]

u can have girls call u dady these days when ur willy is fully in them weird times

[@kaybailey1797]

coming from the child's pov, yeah this really hit

[@richard_from_england333]

​@@kaybailey1797Why are you watching this?

[@taylorsanders8742]

​@@richard_from_england333 i dont think they are a child, they're saying when they were a child

[@tjemilua]

The fact that he’s a paying subscriber of the channel is everything 😂

[@rocklanddivorce]

That's consistently the best $10.00 per month I spend. No doubt.

[@kdeloris2225]

​@@rocklanddivorceEvery time I see you I click so I can learn something. Awesome Attorney 😎

[@morgoth1946]

Haha the one and only​@@rocklanddivorce

[@still_becoming]

"I've had cases where this person is just fluidly psychotic like straight up should be in this chair being interviewed by you" Had me dying

[@JFEnterprize]

I read your comment exactly same time he was saying it. Like 1 second ahead 😂🎉❤

[@still_becoming]

​@@JFEnterprize happened to me a few times, it's quite magical 😅

[@Darbymarbes456]

I laughed out loud when he said that.

[@KyleVolt]

Please NEVER stop interviewing James Sexton!!!!

[@trat1x]

James has the best analogies I’ve ever heard from anyone. This guy’s a genius.

[@cherielafleur3137]

A hospice volunteer!?! LOVE THIS GUY. I work as a private in-home Palliative/Hospice/End-Of-Life caregiver and agree 💯 with James' viewpoint of living life w a " No B S" attitude...say the thing, say what's real, say it all w empathy and love and truth. And fully comprehend that this life thing is finite and that's OK - dying and death are part of a life, but in the interim there's so much to experience AND we can choose to talk about it all w/o the rose colored glasses on. Thank you, James and Mark! Please continue!

[@saudigold50]

@@cherielafleur3137 Aptly said. And he is a dog lover, too ✌🏼💛

[@cherielafleur3137]

@@saudigold50 LOVE IT!

[@yana__702]

Mr. Sexton! as a 23-year-old who's not married or anything, the fact that I could listen to you for two hours speaks volumes about how much I admire your brilliance. Your interviews have been incredibly informative, and it's clear you're truly passionate about what you do . Awesome interview !

[@still_becoming]

You're an old soul Yana ❤

[@Euank]

its good advice for our futures! I'm 23 too

[@fbolduc03]

I couldn't agree more

[@Mars-yy2kn]

Spread the word as much as you can and you'll be preventing them all from a lot of misery.

[@fitter70]

You as a 23yo interested in the discussion puts you so far ahead of your peers when it comes to relationships. You must be a very intelligent person!

[@jackieisabelajaso]

Okay this guy has literally too many amazing quotes!!! Yeah he's definitely a national treasure with all his stories and thoughts about the world and human beings in themselves 🙏🏻

[@binaryfairy4197]

"Everyone who has a lot of money, doesn't have enough time and everyone who has a lot of time doesn't have enough money" that quote was brilliant in the context he stated it in. I'm curious what he bills per hour 😮! TY 4 doing another interview on these VERY important issues.

[@zoraster3749]

He mentioned it a while back… I think it was around $750 an hour.

[@SandraLemenaite]

@@zoraster3749that was back in time! I bet it’s even higher now 😊

[@tracyclark2747]

Who would have thought that the best marriage advice would come from a divorce attorney. Thank you!

[@ThePittpa63]

It's easy to be married when you aren't selfish. It's not an easy process but if you plan on having children, they'll do better in life with parents that didn't run away due to the slightest discomfort.

[@waterbug1135]

Being married and being parents are two different things.

[@jaughnekow]

Everyone is selfish in a way. The question is how to control it. We're struggling with it...

[@queencupcake09]

​@@waterbug1135how?

[@IOverlord]

@@jaughnekow Put chips and computers in our heads lol. But seriously, there's no ethical fix. Our biological system is the root of all this bs. Just find the people that will keep the same ethics and morals as you, like nature intended.

[@valdius85]

@@jaughnekow selfish in the moment or selfish in the long run? Selfish people, meaning people who put their interest high, will take care of the relationship because they will understand the impact on them if it fails. There is “present you” now and there is “future you”. The people that our society calls selfish usury care only about the present and not about the future.

[@1995ENG]

This guy is the best! He's rational, yet optimistic. He believes in love, but acknowledges that relationships require effort, honesty, and consistency. All couples need to hear this discussion and have these serious conversations about their relationships. Romance is great and lights the spark of a relationship - but honesty and respect keep the relationship flames burning!

[@Monica.S.2412]

Well said...

[@ShantelleKane-vs6tg]

I love this interview. Watched it in snippets throughout the day, and found myself rewinding to write down wisdom. I love what you do, Mark. It’s a gift to see the people of our country through your empathetic eyes. I want to do a soft white underbelly book club. But instead of a book, we watch an episode together then digest. It’s powerful.

[@MERIDETH-u8r]

I have been with my husband for 16 years and were friends for 10 years before that and I still get excited when he walks into the room. He was sick recently and I 100% would have taken his illness onto myself just to make him well again.

[@sararichardson737]

I envy you in the best of ways. Thanks for sharing. It’s good to know that it can be experienced. Bless you both.

[@SallyNegus]

That's love

[@Gotmybonangeldusssst]

I love to see this ♥️

[@ladybug5171]

That’s beautiful

[@BKs_Garage]

This interview is truly a treasure. From the brutal honesty to the way he spoke about his love for his kids.

[@TheFunkybert]

This guy should take his experience and stories as a lawyer in NYC and hit the stand up comedian circuit. He’s got the charisma and talent

[@JFEnterprize]

Comedy doesn’t pay as well as hedge fund guys tho 😢

[@Collageartist69]

He should do a Ted talk.

[@ericamac3525]

@@Collageartist69 Great idea. His knowledge & experience from the ‘not so’ glamorous & giddy BS unions would certainly make an attentive audience think more about marriage & the serious contract it is

[@perfectstorm8204]

makes more money as a lawyer

[@Anonymous-km5pj]

Seems like his life is changing course doesn't it ? But that's up to him....

[@wilboito]

I could listen to this guy all day. Thanks for posting.

[@JenaTisot]

I’m a 53 yo female, RN, single mother. I raised my 26 yo son solo, put him through college solo (civil engineering & then an MBA) & helped him on a successful path. As far as uncomfortable “economic” truths… I don’t go to work as a nurse because I like caring for people. I go to work as a nurse to make money, the same reason everyone else goes to work. Does being a caring person make me a “better” nurse, probably, but if there was not adequate compensation, I would not be in nursing or healthcare for that matter. I live alone, own 2 properties mortgage free, rental income, own my vehicle & have a strong retirement plan. There is NO CHANCE that I would get married & potentially jeopardize my financial future… well if I did have a momentary loss of reason & I decide to get married, I AT LEAST would have a pre-nup. Another great interview James & Mark 👏🏼

[@matt_milack]

Do you at least a bit hate the fact that you spend significant percentage of your life doing something you don't like just for money?

[@susandavis903]

@@matt_milackAll prostitutes do.

[@shawnjordan2716]

Look into avoidant attachment style.

[@enkheeb2354]

I think you missed the point my lady

[@lalittl]

Lmao the men would be high fiving you if you were a man. They’d be like “yea!! Stay away from these women bro!” But because you’re a woman they’re like “why aren’t you partnered 😡😡😡”

[@capmmcrunch]

Love listening to this guy. He’s so spot on. Crazy how the Bible says that men want to feel respect & women want to feel loved. Book is thousands of years old but still has the best advice.

[@MyWorld-xw6ic]

I tell women all the time women don’t have to love their husband, just respect him. He has to love her.

[@mileswashington9078]

This guy is great. I could listen to him talk about literally anything.

[@M3lCHOR]

It’s cause your easy to manipulate

[@vanessamacdonald9153]

Love this guy, and mostly because of his honesty

[@conniehanses]

Okay, 60 year old woman still happily married, but he speaks the absolute truth. Im not one to cry easily, but the beautiful people at the end was it for me. Thankyou 💙 🌎

[@bruceb9515]

I envy you. You have a very beautiful and blessed marriage. I'm 57 and have given up. I made my mistakes, I own them. I just wish I could have experienced what you have.

[@JazzEve]

Thanks for having him on again, I could listen to him all day.

[@dominiquecanon625]

I am soooooo glad he is being verbal with these truths. Society needs to open their eyes

[@Paz888Love]

I really like this guy! He is smart and sees the patterns and is trying to help people become more aware and take responsibility. Thank you!

[@garyr1934]

Thank you for giving me a gift for my son of incalculable value This interview encompasses just about every category of what it is to be human and it serves as a guide to be successful at it Mr Sexton you are in fact a national treasure I say this as a man in the city of New York who is going through an EXTREME case of a traumatic divorce and my son and step daughter were SEVERELY traumatized

[@InkaPley]

Beautifully put. Thank you.

[@garyr1934]

@@InkaPley thank you for saying so

[@ams4732]

I’m sorry to hear that my friend. Hoping for the best possible outcome for you and your children

[@garyr1934]

@@ams4732 thank you so much . We in fact do have that outcome . It took several years

[@denimblue9725]

I don't have the energy to watch him now, but reading the comments is equally fascinating.

[@slide5039]

You had energy just to type that and read the comments though? 😂😂

[@lalittl]

The comments are filled with broke dudes afraid of losing money, incels afraid of being heartbroken, and abusers who are bitter their wives left

[@frankzajac3158]

I like this guy. Even though he's a divorce lawyer, he talks like us military Vets who have been in war. Everyone is full of shit, nothing makes sense, laws can be unfair and go against you, and people have no loyalty. No BS common sense, straight to the point, I love it.

[@Mithrandeer]

I am a legal professional and I’ve never thought about it Ike that before. Now that you mention this, this is really true and eye opening.

[@frankzajac3158]

@@Mithrandeer I'm glad you realized it. To be honest, I am surprised at how many people do NOT notice it. The major theme here, is death. James said he volunteered for hospice care, he saw death, willingly. Any Vet who's been in combat, we do the same thing, we see death up close, but we either bring death, or we fall to it. That is why we look at time differently. We don't have time to waste anymore, because we know death is coming.

[@frankzajac3158]

@@Mithrandeer I'm surprised more people don't realize it. He said he volunteered for hospice care. He willingly saw death. We do the same in the military, in combat. We either bring death, or we fall from it, but we willingly embrace it. That is also why we look at time differently. We don't want to waste any time, we are very direct, because we know death is coming for us.

[@richiemercado4027]

This right here, so true.

[@Anonymous-km5pj]

We here in the west are handicapped by our facade/persona/mask deceptions, other countries not so much

[@arlenetan951]

teared up when he spoke about feeling unconditional love for his kids because I feel the same for my kids. thank you for interviewing him again. i still listen to the first interview from time to time. I didnt even feel the time passing.

[@FossKhan]

Legitimately need to have this guy on every year, such a honest person in a profession where you don't get to hear from that often

[@VIP-ry6vv]

Never married and made it to the age where I'm watching all my friends be extremely miserable in their next round of divorces and then they immediately sign up for wife number three!? I feel like I'm taking crazy pills

[@pest174]

How old are you? I hit 40, and I'm seeing the first waves of divorces.

[@GamingAndChill]

Same. Nothing can compare to having peace, complete freedom throughout the day and way more money saved.

[@ashassassin]

Men are taught to hate relationships. So when they feel unhappy in one they think it's normal. It's not. You're supposed to enjoy your partners company most of the time, with brief periods of unhappiness.

[@sunshine3914]

When I was 45 (about 20 years ago), I noticed that men got way too comfortable being married. It’s just not in their comfort zone to be without. The women I’ve known, have all said that once was more than enough. I’ve only met a couple of men I would want to commit to. Unfortunately, it took me too long to realize that.

[@906lane]

I'm 43 and all my male friends 40 to 50 have all gotten divorced except 1 guy. All of the wife's starting watching TikTok looking at Tarot Cards, Astrology, going to therapy and then all of a sudden the missed out of life and boom 💥 I'm not happy and want a divorce. I'm in the same boat as well married 17 yrs and together 21 with 3 sons. I'm over it all and just applied for my passport, opened a new bank account, opened a post office box. Did couples counseling and I was blamed for things 20 yrs ago. Therapist told.my wife sounds like you feel lost and unfulfilled and that she took no accountability for her own failed mistakes, wife get pissed off and doesn't want to return back, which tell me that the therapist she has been seeing for the last 3 yrs doesn't hold her accountable nor acknowledge her bad chlices she has made in our marrage, so it's a waste of money in the long run.

[@56Spookdog]

Got married at 23 my wife was 21, 45 years later I tell my wife how beautiful she is at least once a day, probably more so now than we were younger. The vast majority of my siblings, nieces and nephews and cousins are long term marriages. I don’t know about the rest of them my wife and ever went to or need a marriage counselor. Is it easy all the time no but I couldn’t think of a better person to spend my life with.

[@jeff1130]

You forgot to tell people she wears the pants in the family

[@56Spookdog]

@@jeff1130ok Jeff confession by projection, so does she walk you on a leash, oh sorry I assumed it was a she, it’s a safe place Jeff you can tell us.

[@56Spookdog]

@@lvr8429another person with confession by projection I’m sorry the other guy had a better dick and know s how to use it. Btw we are together 99.9% or the time.

[@Silly-Goose.]

@@56SpookdogDon’t be upset that strangers troll your successful relationship. It’s jealousy. Pure and simple. I’ve been happily married since 18 and 13 years later we are still thriving. We needed marriage counseling once after I got PTSD from a deployment but thankfully we became so much stronger from it. People either grow together or grow apart. Growing apart has more often then not because people don’t take accountability of their own issues and hope the other partner will fix them. Glad you both are happy and well. Cheers to another 45 years and I hope to experience the same with my spouse! 🎉

[@saudigold50]

@@lvr8429

[@littleeva]

Dogs and babies both live in the moment. As we get older we're consumed with concerns about the past and the future and it's harder to be grateful for what you have right now.

[@jasonolinger7585]

A lot of wisdom in the sentence.

[@midnull6009]

....so no, both don't live in the moment. Dogs will fuck puppies. Babies are dependent and would hand over keys to a car for 2 candies...

[@SparkyTuttle]

What a beautiful add for the merch. Recognizing faces that have become parts of all of our lives, that's a feeling I can't explain. Those faces, those eyes, those hearts belong to people we will never meet and yet we see them every day. In as much as our lives are different we are more alike than we dare to believe. Thank you to everyone especially Mark.

[@endlessnameless6494]

44 and never married, but I was clueless to all the "honesty" content about how hard marriage and kids could be. I almost wedded in my early 30's: when it didn't pan out, I felt like I had lost out on a Disney film. Good to have honest, sincere outlooks on 1.) marriage and divorce and 2.) the struggles or raising a kid. As dark as some of it can be, it's one of the "better" parts about the modern internet. Wish I had access to this before I almost got married. Good to make INFORMED CHOICES.

[@DL-yc4pm]

James Sexton is the guy who got me to sub to SWU. Channel has come a long way Mark.

[@themisfitmama4397]

I adore James. Always great when you have him on

[@Freddybender123]

Ditto❤

[@OnyanaRosa]

Saying the quiet part out loud is so honest. I personally approve that message.

[@md9882]

I love listening to this man. The amount of value he brings is invaluable. Thank you Mark for this interview.

[@madilove6660]

This may be one of my favorite interviews so far. He called me out on my own bullshit and really made me think. Love his view on things

[@janettejohns9540]

OMG, I had to break this apart in several listens, but he REALLY does know people. So interesting, enjoyable, and educational!!!!

[@ellewiens3831]

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[@shanalazarone828]

I love hearing his thoughts & his experience. I was glued to his last interview & thoroughly enjoyed this one. Thanks for keeping up with the super interesting guests, Mark. Forever a fan of SWU

[@molliegill1559]

James I love you, and I love how your voice goes up 10 octaves when you’re excited! But I wonder if that would become “the snort when she laughs” after a few years 😂

[@rocklanddivorce]

My ex wife would say yes. For sure.

[@longdong3889]

He found what he is naturally good at. Sad when society doesn't recognize passion anymore.

[@saudigold50]

@@longdong3889 ✌🏼

[@you6382tube]

That would be hard to listen to after some years. screetch....

[@cyn5962]

This is one of the best and most interesting guests that have been on this channel. This guy is relatable.

[@michaelscerbo35]

The BJJ argument where you can’t fake it is the same as music. You cannot fake it and everyone will judge you by what comes out of that amplifier. Some of the best rules and advice I ever got from my teacher.

[@nataliebruce828]

I ABSOLUTLY LOVE listening to him. Right on!!

[@firechan5597]

I got married to my wife last year. Been living with each other for 8 years . Big advice to people who plan on getting married. Live with that person. when you do you tend to know that person on a deeper level, whether they’re clean freaks or messy. And just like school, marriage isn’t for everyone. Only get married if you believe in true love and she’s your soulmate, other than that it is just a title or piece of paper. I’ve witnessed my own parents get divorced and yeah I was 15 years old when it happened.

[@susandavis903]

Sound advice. Followed this game plan. Married 28yrs still in the game…….

[@zuibeckpulezon4626]

Soul mate don't exist

[@firechan5597]

@@zuibeckpulezon4626 to each its own. I feel like god matched me with mines . It was love at first sight and I’m still in love after 9 years.

[@aawillma]

As John Delony says, you don't meet your soul mate, you make them. The two people become each other's soul mates over the course of many many years and trials of character and commitment.

[@firechan5597]

@@aawillma I love that . I actually listen to dr john also. And listening to him I found out he’s not perfect either and goes through trials and errors with his wife .

[@Busybumblybee]

Love is much deeper than what a women looks like

[@a.w.3772]

Yes, but attraction is essential. When attraction diminishes, so does interest. Then resentment builds. When a partner or spouse starts letting themself go, the other partner can get resentful.

[@lalittl]

@@a.w.3772you have def never had a girlfriend

[@patriciakelly1744]

LOVE listening to James Sexton's interviews with Mark, so interesting ~ he brings everything into perspective. I think all couples considering getting married need to listen to him speak ~

[@covenantgal]

The brand of honesty James brings is incredibly refreshing. He also has a charismatic. He could read a phone book for 3 hours and I would play it while cleaning the house. 😆

[@seanvincent9777]

This man is F@#$ing brilliant! God bless you Mr. Sexton!

[@kirtusselleck8927]

One of my all time favourite people to listen to. The wisdom just flows for hours. Thank you for another great interview!!

[@oliviarang4109]

I’m obsessed with this guy. So eloquent and there’s no bull crap 🫡

[@nicolelewonkenobi]

I love this guy. I first saw him on SWUB, and have since seen him elsewhere. There's something so intriguing and charming about him. I could listen to him for hours.

[@davidsmith-hb1jx]

Look how much he smiles when he talks about friends with genuinely happy marriages around 1:16

[@Sabrina-LosAngeles]

I love this guy sooo much. Listened to his book 3x - classic. All I can say is that fortunately, I will never need his services ;). Hearing about it is priceless though

[@danielmorgan4899]

This guy is one of the best of the interviews of people you work with .. Seen he was on again knew I had to watch love your work

[@8StringKeith]

I’ve known that this guy has been on SWU but never dared to watch until now and it doesn’t disappoint. My clear take-aways based upon experience : 1) Prenups don’t work 2) ***Never get involved with a woman who was born in the same town that y’all live in *** 3) Love actually does work when realities are communicated and that both man and woman are willing to work hard at it!!!!!!!!!!

[@dephitaputrimawardi9503]

you emphasize with the second point, may I know why? (based on your experience)

[@8StringKeith]

Every single time I got involved with a woman, who was not born in the town we both lived in, I never had to hear about or worry about an ex boyfriend waiting in the wings. Every time I got involved with a local woman, that old flame lived in her head, lived in her heart and eventually lived in her home. I have even seen this with friends who had to live with the BS of dealing with local girl bull $h¡+ 💩 P.S. I’ve been around the world and I’ve seen how this rodeo played out regardless of the geographic location.

[@BrentonDevs]

Each time James sits down I am hooked right from the jump. Such quality advice it’s insane that it’s free. Easily in my most favorite interviews on the channel.

[@hornetscarab]

This is the best interview I have seen in my life. Very, very eye opening

[@lexyrae78]

So dead on. I started watching this randomly because I love this channel and find this to be one of the most on point interviews. I've worked over 20 years in medical care and have lived 46 years as an independent female with a number of fulfilling relationships and could not agree more and appreciate so much this frankness. More like this please

[@Spitfirephotographs]

Married my husband 25 years ago been together for 30 years and I am 52 years also ❤

[@zachpinkston4233]

Please bring this guy back on a weekly basis, daily even.

[@dephitaputrimawardi9503]

if we have it so regularly, we don't feel grateful for that...

[@puneetpotdar6351]

James Sexton is not a national treasure, he is an international treasure - Love from India

[@HeatherClisby]

I've never been married - saving it for dessert - but the man I am seeing, well, we've both watch anything Sexton has ever said or recorded and it has sparked some very honest conversations about the future. Just his bare honesty and, as other commenters have pointed out, his steadfast belief in love - this is what makes him so credible. He is clearly a man of passion and love, you can tell they way he speaks about his children and pets! We are are so human, so flawed. I strive to be an understanding, loving partner and insight like this will certainly help. Thank you. James, and the SWU channel for bringing all the truth here. Much appreciated.

[@henrikrod1211]

Once again, a video that should be shown to people before the get married and even before they graduate high school. Just like the last one with James sexton.

[@Abby-ll5yw]

I love this guy. This is absolutely an attorney you want on your side.

[@jaelinn2876]

He’s too expensive for me. But I love his interviews

[@saudigold50]

@@Abby-ll5yw - Few can afford him ✌🏼

[@beatewagner7.2934]

​@@Abby-ll5yw 750 $ per hour I have read or heard somewhere if I remember correctly

[@endlessnameless6494]

Never text and drive. Never drink and drive. Let's make our roads SAFER! Please, stay sober and alert out there!

[@beatewagner7.2934]

@@jaelinn2876 True! $750/hour is a lot of money for many people

[@siera424]

I thought this guy was so entertaining. I thought it was the best interview. I could listen to him for hours. He's very intelligent and smart.

[@Goudoc]

Mark, thank you for this life-changing conversation with James! And a special Thank you to James himself! Wishing you both all the best!❤

[@laurelneedham5447]

No other comedian on the planet can pull off skits like this about divorce, relationships, etc!!!!! Freakin' top rate entertaining, but also so damn riveting true! James, I listen to you in the background while I'm working in my office at night and then I pull the video slider back to the beginning and listen to it again.

[@fonjongboris2178]

Sexton is a legend man can listen to him for ever.

[@TataNelson.N]

I must say,this is a germ ,this man is special for generations to come Such an insane amount of knowledge and wisdom for young adults to know what they are getting into

[@skylady64ish93]

Yes, he certainly is a wonderful gem! Love his insights.

[@velcrodreams178]

This dude is awesome ! He gives the most realistic perspective on ppls unrealistic expectations. Straight up !

[@AbsoluteMotivation]

Sexton being his surname is very fitting. Love this dude. So insightful.

[@pogosyanp]

The common sense and honesty James brings to the subject is brilliant .

[@Bellazme]

I rewinded this post more than 15 times at different segments. His quotes are superb, needs to just make a book of quotes.

[@jackieisabelajaso]

I love the ending with the shirts, Mark thanks for finding everyone and letting them be heard! They look like a weight has been lifted off their shoulders 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🙏🏻

[@BILL_78]

Mark is cool. I have to admit. He’s the ghetto people’s Johnny Carson. This was a fun interview!

[@carolseven3802]

😂

[@longdong3889]

Carson had zero educational value though lol

[@donacatanguma]

@@longdong3889 Johnny Carson introduced us to popular culture and helped usher in the concept of celebrity.

[@bkp8473]

This wisdom and blunt truth is worth its weight in gold

[@user-Aa310]

James Sexton is so interesting. I don't always agree with his views, but I love his energy and intensity. And yes, I independently figured out marriage a long time ago (on the balance of probabilities, it IS a losing proposition) and have happily remained single.😊

[@chrisk7091]

He’s last name is sexton? For real

[@user-Aa310]

@@chrisk7091 Yes.

[@still_becoming]

There we go, I was waiting for this one. Thank you Mark ❤ However I didn't expect it to start that way 😂

[@LaFolleItalienne]

😂😂 for sure

[@misterwallace3479]

This dude is true to form, and he’s off the wall within seconds.

[@Tiffaloni]

Familiarity breeds contempt. A phrase I heard like 25 years ago. But rings true in most relationships

[@waterbug1135]

It is a bizarre dynamic. We get into relationships wanting to be close to a person, but if that happens it hurts the relationship. But it depends on expectations and how you define "relationship". My parents screamed at each other, treated each other with contempt. Married 73 years when mom passed at 91. I kind of thought dad would be happier, but he's been very broken up. I don't understand it. I have to assume familiarity trumped their contempt for each other. Bizarre.

[@Tiffaloni]

@@waterbug1135 when you’ve been with someone so long you can fear the unknown. A relationship can be glory or hell. Either way when it’s all you’ve known for so long it’s your normal. People stay because of comfort. Comfort in the contempt?????

[@tizodd6]

Also "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Same meaning, phrased differently. Both often very true.

[@aliadams3984]

Doesn't mean it's the end but a rebirth depends on the situation

[@lalittl]

@@Tiffaloni how come people never say this about their kids? If this statement is true i want thousands of videos about how bad parents wish they could get rid of their kids

[@jordynxanae]

Very wise man. He has a lot of experience that then brings him the wisdom he possesses. I’m in school right now for psychology/sociology criminology, and I hope and pray I get to this level of success when I am in my 50s . Hopefully even sooner.😂 thank you Mark, your channel will forever be what the people need.