Most Black Men Are Not Trying to be Players

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[@assaa5069]

Exactly. Being player is a lifestyle that some of those men are forced into. Biggest players I know are not even black. Most black men have no desire to be a player. Players are very vocal but few in number.

[@RomWills]

Real talk.

[@bamnjphoto]

Good video. I tried in my past to juggle 2 women at the same time, it was nerve wrecking and spent all my time and energy not to mention it can be a drain on your pockets. Most real time players I know are broke dudes looking for a woman to come up on, they spend a huge amount of their time playing a balancing act between multiple women so they really have no time to create or earn money. About the only way I could imagine a real player being on top is if he was well to do financially and the women were dependent on him.

[@bamnjphoto]

I don't buy into monogamy neither because balancing multiple women is different from slaying a piece of ass outside of your relationship every so often a not being a player, you just taking advantage of an opportunity

[@RomWills]

This is a powerful statement. It's hard for a man to make money AND cater to the needs of women.

[@bamnjphoto]

Thanks

[@t_adams]

Maybe you can do a video on how the things about a woman and even the type of woman a man finds attractive changes over time. I would rather be with one really hot chick, than several that need to sneak up on a glass of water in the dark, any day. The only problem is my definition of really hot has changed over time. Speaking about sneaking up on a glass of water, I have a friend, who is a very good looking guy, got his stuff together, and who has no problem getting stunningly beautiful women, but has chosen to marry a very unattractive woman. He has admitted that it is in a very part because she is such a sweet girl, which is true she is one of the nicest people you would ever meet, but the main reason is because she is a genius in bed. She is black and has a great body for a woman her age. Could you explain this to me, please? I have seen other couples like this, I do not know if those guys are whit who they are with for the same reason as my friend, but I would like to hear of your insight on the subject. Now back to the topic.I think many men dream about having many women at his beck and call, but the reality is, it would be too expensive and tiring dealing with more than one woman. The only way I can see some man doing this is, if the women were all just friends that he hangout with , and once in a while sex happens, or friends that just meet up for sex, fuck buddies. That way each person knows what is expected of them, and most if not all of the minutia of being in a relationship, like remembering birthdays, anniversaries, and the name of all of a siblings children. If you get a call from Pam, to get together Friday night, you know it is not to go to dinner and a show. Just show up in something you don't care is more than likely to be ripped off, several condoms, and a bottle of Viagra if needed.

[@RomWills]

T Adams I address the deeper aspects of sexual attraction on my private site. It's actually a hidden science to attraction. For numerous reasons this science if kept from the public though I throw out pieces in my videos.

[@Jason-ue9ym]

The problem is to many black men are willing to wait their turn for someone else's girl like she's going to make a better woman after the next man is done with her , it's all so damn disgusting why are we so damn desperate? There's no way that women can possibly have so many options unless the masses of them aren't worth a damn, so we all end up single just waiting our turn for some damaged chick and that man that has her ain't even happy with her he's just excepting the futility of it all.

[@RomWills]

Good perspective.

[@assaa5069]

Exactly. You are telling the fucken truth.

[@bingbong2697]

She may he might wasn't doing it ritr

[@lsporter88]

It's good to hear another Man speak truthfully and intelligently on the subject. Great Video.

[@RomWills]

As always thank you.

[@BlackRam313]

You are brilliant sir. Much wisdom shown here..thx for posting this

[@RomWills]

Thank you. Coming from you it's an honor. That video you did called "Short Story" is a classic. One of the few videos I've listened to more than once because I've seen the same things.

[@BlackRam313]

Rom Wills that compliment from man of your intellect and integrity is an honor as well. I hope you keep doing your thing bro. I also look forward to reading your book.

[@RomWills]

BlackRam313 Thank you brother.

[@busyrand]

Thank you for speaking for us on this important issue Good Brother. I will be circling back to this playlist often.

[@influ504]

I been Check Mr.Rom out bout 3 weeks now I thank God that my energy was directed here, this dude give Game from an respected Elder/O.G. this mans work changed my whole prospective just in time, because I'm in my early stages of my 'Rewiring Journey' and I need to hear things from a more experience person in many fields....Not knocking other KZbinrs but Rom talk that 'Playa Shit' Brother Rom thanks for putting me on that Brother Warren B. he's pretty damn good too... Thanks Man ✊

[@RomWills]

You're very welcome.

[@bigq8332]

Absolutely right Bro..Certain energy in people will attract you to another person.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@DCHawk1993]

Rom Wills strikes again. Great information Rom

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@TheImplerazure]

Thank you for this great video.

[@RomWills]

You're welcome.

[@IWantMyVisionBack]

That imprint thing is very interesting.

[@RomWills]

I'll be talking about it in my next video.

[@RiderRed]

Well Said Sir, Good video.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@FrederickG9]

Most level-headed black women. already know this and are not of the kind we find fomenting and plotting against us brothers like here. I do try to ignore a lot of this evil noise but my sense of preservation keeps on sounding alarms and demanding that I respond to some of this insanity. Do these women actually think there is no negative consequence to what they are doing? Many will see the error of their unreasonable positions somewhere down the road but by then, they will be found out and labled as "untouchable" forever banning them from any compassion or regard by the objects of their poisonous entreaties, there is a price most ok g them will pay and that price will be exacted in full by them and black men will not show them anything, they will be written off and forgotten. There will be plenty of black women left to fill the needed positions and our lives will still go on and we will be ok as men, no matter what they say about us.

[@RomWills]

Very powerful comment. I have always said that there many decent sistas. The only problem is that there voices aren't as loud as the negative women.

[@RomWills]

Frederick G You broke everything down in a few paragraphs.

[@MoveInSilence23]

Very poignant.

[@glennjohnson6897]

Can't wait for the imprint video.

[@RomWills]

Coming next.

[@hadiyahammonds3033]

So why do guys want to be “just friends” and not want to be in a relationship or marriage?

[@RomWills]

They just want sex.

[@deborahyisrael5258]

Most men aren't trying to TRULY settle down and have sex with just ONE woman for his entire adult life either...

[@RomWills]

And?

[@deborahyisrael5258]

This is because they are not monogamous... So wouldn't this make them players by nature? There are many "married" players. Family-oriented men like Bill Cosby, Martin Luther King, D.L. Hughley, Herman Cain (who ran for president) and many others are not monogamous. Most blacks have a grandfather, father, uncle, etc. who has cheated on their wives (with long term mistresses) on the side. Bill Cosby had a particular woman on the side for over 20 years (not to mention all of the short term women). Same thing with Herman Cain, he had a mistress for 12 years although he was married to his wife for 32 years. I have a co-worker who is extremely family oriented and has been married for over 30, but he pretty much keeps a mistress on the side, not to mention the many "one night stands" "flings", or whatever you want to call it. It is very common in the Caribbean for a black man to have another woman. (My family is Caribbean). My grandfather cheated on my grandmother and had two daughters with another woman, which he brought home for her to raise. My aunt and her husband have about 7 kids together and her husband has 5 kids outside the marriage with the same other woman. One of my mother's church friends and her husband have been married for over 30 years and he has 5 kids outside of the marriage with 3 different women. This phenomenon is by far not something novel to our community. Black men do this in ALL socioeconomic categories and from every walk in life... This is nothing new. It would be naïve to think otherwise. Shahrazad Ali has highlighted this in her books, which she began penning back in the late 80's.

[@t_adams]

Even at my peak I only wanted one woman, because more would just be exhausting and expensive. Unless a man has that sex appeal that just have women throwing panties at them without having to do much for it most guys would prefer just one woman unless that one woman, for some reason can't perform all the females duties, such as being unable to have children.

[@christinabernat9681]

lovely video. I don't need these videos as I am happily married for over 20 years woman, and I am in roughly your age group, but I still LEARNED something I always wanted to learn, that being the average number of women 10 men you have talked to seem to have had. But the internet and u tube needs your videos because from what I have seen so far, younger black men and women are doing vids about relationships where they are sincerely talking but not presenting enough positiveness and deeper truths and solutions. This is the first of your vids that I have watched and believe me, keep it up, because what you are contributing is important to this dialogue going on between the younger black men and women because they are still trying to figure it all out - just like white men and women are. Feminism has really put a cancer into society because of the way it has been manifesting in the last 50-60 years. Check out this channel of a white woman who is speaking up FOR THE RIGHT OF MEN TO BE MEN - that is ALL she talks about, and there is such a need for it among the younger people! kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWGzhZ2Co72gedU And check out this vid (in two parts) kzbin.info/www/bejne/emTIlpSHhLCAp80 by a black woman (she is bi but in one vid she says if she marries she will stay monogamous to her partner and she would be happy to marry a man) who has just started her channel and is fabulous - in this video she talks about what the BLM matter movement REALLY is - a terrible organization started by black feminists WHO HATE MEN AND HATE THE HETEROSEXUAL FAMILY UNIT - and this is all on their WEBSITE, the actual website of BL -- this information REALLY needs to go viral !!

[@RomWills]

Thank you. I'll check out the videos when I get a chance.

[@LuluIsPureLove]

wonderful video

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@LuluIsPureLove]

Rom Wills Your welcome.

[@joefromdc]

Rom am i understanding this point, when ppl stay woman are afraid of a strong man they mean from a mental standpoint, because hes not easily contolled by woman? second point men dont start off as players, most of that has to due with the environment they grow up in or the type of woman they hv selected that ultimately changes their perspective

[@RomWills]

I've been told straight up by many women they were scared because I couldn't be controlled. Some tried anyway because back in the day I was quiet with a baby face so they thought they could get over. They found out the hard way that they were wrong.

[@diggyonutube]

When a woman cannot control a man with her most priced possession, it shatters her entire being/reality, becos her most priced possession is her only possession.

[@RomWills]

Diggyonutube Accurate observation.

[@joefromdc]

Rom Wills , Man created a male dominated world were to woman we physically / mentally/ spiritually oppressed them. what did we expect to happen when they got a taste of power and freedom. while i like to go in on woman for their bad behavior, how much do we as men own this

[@RomWills]

Joseph Monroe Yeah ultimately it is up to men to create order. I'll be addressing this in my next video.

[@BGSIBMOR]

Gotta listen to this twice. You do the imprint video and I'll do one.

[@RomWills]

Okay since you and another brotha asked I'll do it for Thursday. The beauty of it anybody can verify the info for themselves.

[@BGSIBMOR]

I've imprinted a few so I know it's real...lol

[@doncalypso]

BGS and Rom, how about we do an Obsidian Radio Live episode where you two take the wheel and discuss imprinting?

[@BGSIBMOR]

Cool

[@RomWills]

doncalypso You know I'm down.

[@jment34]

This is interesting what should a man do if he doesn't have the 4 traits/desires you mentioned? He lives for himself does not want a family but just wants to get laid now and then.

[@RomWills]

Very few men are going to have all 4 anyway. Every man still has to work on being the best self he can be. Just a part of living life.

[@REDMICRADIO]

We as Black came to this country 500 years ago and adopted the white mans European way of life. One man one woman is Eurocentric because of Christianity. First Off Pologamy is going on in the Black community as we speak. How many women are sleeping with the same man. Knowing he has a girlfriend or married already. Women like to compete with other women. Thats how they are. Every girl wants to be the number one. When a man has a woman already he proves value to another woman and women want what other women have. check out my view kzbin.info/www/bejne/bqS3m3SInNBsnNU

[@victorshaw8619]

answer to 2:46 It was that black ass Wesley Snipes and Stevie Wonder With that jungle fever shit. On the real though shout out to Wes, he put dark brothers on the map.

[@RomWills]

Women were going hard for chocolate brothas in those days.

[@joefromdc]

okay do the imprint video lol

[@RomWills]

It's coming next.

[@KhemistryIBMOR]

Good job. 10 broads, huh? Interesting.

[@RomWills]

Reality for many men.

[@creedlang419]

Khemistry IBMOR Very

[@joejett5084]

What are the 4 traits for women?

[@RomWills]

In general they are 1) Nurturing; 2)counselor; 3)sensualist; 4) Gatherer. Other terms are used but I gave this to give you a general idea. Look for a more in depth video this week.

[@joejett5084]

Rom Wills Thank you

[@alvinhollingeriii2562]

Do the imprint Video

[@RomWills]

It's coming next. You've already have the info from the private site.

[@TheImplerazure]

Please do the subconscious and extremely deep videos.

[@RomWills]

Check the next one. I go deep all the time on my private site, www.connectpal.com/romwillsraw.

[@TheImplerazure]

Cool! I will head over and check it out. Thank you.