Mother-In-Law And Husband Have SECRET Chats About Controlling My Finances r/Relationships

[@owl7072]

Ah yes, mother is quite the "mediator" seeing as she showed up and immediately took her son's side and refused to let Op speak and get a say on the matter and demanded she just give in to what he wanted. Truly an unbiased mediator if I've ever seen one. /s

[@ravenfox926]

I'd have yelled at them both; telling them that they SUCK at money management, are full of crap and are NOT entitled to piss away my or our kids money. I had a similar fight with my FIL who thinks he has a right to his wife's emergency savings and demanded we put his name on the account.

[@alyzu4755]

No, no, no, no, no, NO! OP is NOT being an AH. Her SO and his mom are VERY shady and cannot be trusted. OP needs to take her baby and get out. Update: I hope she screenshots all the conversations between OP and MIL. And gets a good lawyer.

[@lilmisskristy5467]

Reminds me of my dad: he's very controlling over my sister's money when she's disabled mentally . ( By that I mean very very hard time to learn)

[@ComaLies225]

As a former bank teller and without going into the story yet: No, you CANNOT be pushed into a bank account. Neither should the bank representative continue to if you clearly do not want to. When I was at my former bank, we were trained to look out of things like this and once the customer said no we had to stop. We could recommend some products but that's as far as it would go.

[@robertx8020]

Eventhough I agree I have heard some horrorstories where the bank employee simply lied or at best didn't do his job So I would never say it is IMPOSSIBLE!

[@Fete_Fatale]

This is simply not true. I once tried to set up an additional joint account at my (UK) bank with my then partner. My bank then decided to forgo the 'separate account' requirement, and just issued an additional debit card to my account in my partner's name. Fortunately my partner wasn't a financially abusive nightmare as in this story, and surrendered the card to me once we discovered the bank's error.

[@rachel87-h1c]

I work for a bank and we are trained to watch out for these things. And you must be present when the account is opened to have all legal documents in order. Op dont do it at all. This SO and mom will drain you dry.

[@ComaLies225]

@@Fete_Fatale What the heck!? I'm just speaking from experience in the US but I do know if I made a mistake like that my former boss (a very fair lady) would have chewed me out for that . lol

[@robertx8020]

@@rachel87-h1c Nice for you Still these things happen. I guess you are not a mold for all bank everywhere in the world

[@femboy__bunny]

As a domestic abuse victim I’m glad she’s getting out but I hope it’s soon and they don’t go crazy on her.

[@Undomaranel]

Been there, done that. However, word choice carries significant weight. If you _were_ a _victim,_ you are _now_ a _survivor._ Part of healing and moving past the trauma is taking back that power. Stop subliminally keeping yourself under that trauma and break free as a survivor! (Compare Journey's Separate Ways to Eye of the Tiger for some classic differentiation.)

[@femboy__bunny]

@@Undomaranel unfortunately I’m still a victim and me and my sister are waiting for our abuser to leave in March. We have nowhere else to go.

[@Undomaranel]

@@femboy__bunny You can be a victim but have the survivor mindset. Each event happens, putting you in the position of victim in the interaction, but regardless you've survived it right? You and your sister are survivors. Hopefully you aren't victims much more, but even when the garbage happens you're strong. Don't let it control you. Power to you fam, you two can do this

[@madarawijerathne276]

Whatever good luck care for yourself.

[@robertx8020]

@@femboy__bunny Be very careful as abusers are sore losers ...he (or she) might still do some things to you :( I hope I'm wrong

[@Emily-ck9ji]

... Jesus. This entire story is terrifying. Listening to you read out the texts made me nauseous. I hope she gets out safely. If there's an update, PLEASE let us know.

[@niyablake]

I felt like this was a horror flick we the guy goes nuts after the wife leaves. Except he is going nuts now

[@KCohere33]

Yeah, i agree, it’s truly frightening to listen to. I wouldn’t be surprised if they tried to “get rid of her”.

[@tankmeltedargon8831]

The sad thing is stories like this are way too common.

[@sammyk.6457]

“There’s no murder going on” people go crazy for money, a life insurance policy and an “accident” is what I fear happening the most for her

[@b.f.2461]

Her SO and his mom are obviously financially dishonest. I won’t say that makes them physically dangerous, but people who are abusive in small things are more likely to be abusive in big things than honest people are. So yeah, it’s a concern.

[@semperinfidel2115]

That is what I am thinking. Picking up vibes of murder from that vile mother and son.

[@WabbitHunter68]

I'm pretty sure that the situation would've lead to physical abuse.

[@AndyyWithAY]

This POS would rather buy games than support his child. That says it all. Be safe, but get out. This will only get worse.

[@SCScholar1]

OP needs to get out now. File an emergency order of protection against SO and his mother.

[@brigidtheirish]

1: He asked OP why she's looking at the UC statement? Why *wouldn't* she look at the UC statement!? She has to know how much money they have so she can pay for groceries! At first, the husband just sounded financially irresponsible, now I'm worried there's something nastier going on. Was he this sketchy and irresponsible before they married? Did they discuss finances before marriage? Update 1: He's using the *household budget* to buy *games?!* He dragged her to the pub for a *public lynching?* He's accusing *her* of financial abuse?!? He's taking *her* documents and *hiding them?* They're making plans to *restrict her work hours?* Please, *please,* OP, take screenshots of those horrible texts and sent them to the police or *someone* who can string him and his horrible mother up by their toes. Update 2: The fact that a man well into his twenties had never lived independent of his mother is a bit of a red flag all on its own. Yikes. OP needs to make a new go bag and hide it at that trusted friend's house. Grab all the documents next time the husband is out of the house and *bolt.* Like, *yesterday.*

[@lindalmiller429]

Don’t let Mama and her baby boy con you, OP. They’re bottom feeders.

[@neil999ish]

What is lower than a bottom feeder, then that is what these undescribables are, please don't insult bottom feeders some do a good job.😆

[@Davtwan]

I seriously hope they get charged with a crime after the divorce. If they’re destroying government documents, then they get no second chance with a house arrest with mandated therapy. They should be going straight to jail with a ban on credit cards.

[@stephanien6237]

Divorce? I didn’t think they were married. . .

[@KE-hr4sb]

"They say it means we can both have eyes open into each other's expenses..." "...until I told him I could see it on our statement and he asked me why I was even looking at the statement" So much for "transparency." He's lied on multiple things and proven he's untrustworthy, especially concerning money; he's not contributing his fair share to bills *or* your daughter's needs. Do NOT let them pressure you into a joint account, and you also should have pressed charges on his mother for fraud. ETA: Wow that escalated fast. Run and don't look back. I hope she and baby make it out safely.

[@stephanien6237]

Yeah-but as the father of the baby, she can never completely get away from him as he has coparenting rights. Poor decision to make a baby with such a sketchy guy. Makes me sad.

[@alibali193]

First story op needs to tell the UC that she's being financially abused by her partner. They have a process for this to stop him changing the payments to his own account

[@tinaperkins2788]

With what the BF and Mother is doing, it make me wonder if OP getting pregnant was set up by these people. OP didn't say if her pregnancy was a surprise event. But by OP having a baby, BF and his Mom could exert more pressure on OP to financially control her.

[@kellypatterson8506]

Mark, that's good observation about them essentially trying to keep her prisoner. Good update hope OP got the phuk out of Dodge:) she's probably laying low until shyte gets settled the hope to see another update with what happens.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: yeah...don't do it. This story has a giant sign that looks like this: 🚩🚩FINANCIAL ABUSE🚩🚩 Edit after update : I'm so glad shebhas the ability to find a way out. That "regaining control" comment is so beyond the pale. This isn't some passive abuse where dude and mommyare playing out some emotional script. This is active and planned. It's gross.

[@romonaelrod7870]

Hi Dominic, I saw your comment on Mama Doctor Jones from about a month ago. I am a fan of hers too.

[@Mewse1203]

@@romonaelrod7870 hi! It's amazing seeing people on different videos!

[@romonaelrod7870]

@@Mewse1203 I guess it is really a small world,even with about 8 billion people in it.😊

[@stephaniewilson3955]

You have it right, this is a horror story. I hope OP got herself and her baby out of that trap.

[@BigL_TheKing]

This story is scary AF. Op needs to get the hell out now. She might have to get nasty(waiting to exhale nasty) to get her and the baby out. Also Happy New Year to you Mark and all you spicy so and soes

[@Laura-it2zb]

She needs to run NOW! Grab the baby and run! Only once the two of them are safe can she afford the fight, and, she will need to fight for herself and her child.

[@sierrasasmartass7755]

This is terrifying to hear about. I'm so glad she and her child are getting out of this horrendous situation. What kind of person-let alone the abuser's own mother-could not only condone, but actively participate in the systematic abuse of another person? I don't have the words to describe how revolting this is

[@cashkitty3472]

The kind that gets her own son a CCJ and won't pay back the debt owed to her grandchild mother

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Girl needs to get her GO bag back together, grab the child, and nick the Xbox and his phone! The console can be sold for extra cash but she needs to grab screenshots off the his phone of the whole messaging chain where SO and his mommy plan to abuse OP. Then she should ditch his phone and disable location service on her phone so he can't track her that way.

[@Dragon-di1zg]

OP needs to put her GO bag and copy documents with a trusted friend.

[@emilypayton2070]

Omg my blood absolutely ran cold with this one. Mark please keep an eye out for an update. X

[@flamelily2086]

I bank with Halifax which I think is part of The Bank of Scotland. OP's husband and his mother are financially abusing OP. The update is frightening, they are trying to get complete control over OP bit I am pleased to hear she has found out their plan. She is being very sensible by quietly making copies of all her documents and also making plans to leave him. The mother sounds a bit like the notorious "Ma Baker" who led her son's on crime sprees across the United States. She might not be quite as bad as that but she is encouraging her son to take control of all the finances and not allow OP to have any access to her own money. Trying to open a joint account with OP behind her back is a huge red flag and I am sure the bank would insist that OP must also be there, in person. I hope OP can get as far away from them as possible.

[@dashcash7852]

Actually both Halifax and Bank of Scotland are both part of Lloyds Bank. Just thought I'd correct you because these kind of mistakes could cause you issues.

[@moonbear5929]

First Story: Mother in law ruins her son's credit by using HIS credit card to buy him something as stupid as an Xbox, doesn't pay anything back and now wants her daughter in law to have a joint account with her son? No way Jose. For all OP knows is MIL will also have access to this account like she did her son's credit card and start spending their money. 🚩🚩🚩 Keep your own money to yourself OP! Share what you want, but dont give other people access to what little hard earned money you happen to have. MIL really ought to BUTT OUT! OP should have some one she trusts keep an Bug Out Bag for her at their own house so husband and MIL cant ever mess with it again. When she leaves, all she has to do is pick up the baby and get out of the door, no extra bags to worry about. What she will need will be at a trusted friend or relative's house already. Make extra copies of keys to give to your trusted person to keep in your BOB. Give them money to buy diapers and other baby things for a while. Whatever you will need when you leave.

[@pippo17173]

For much as the husband is a POS for this crap he pulled, part of me does fully feel some sort of sympathy because the mom raise him to be this POS. Mother screwed his own son's life and now he is passing on that abuse with the wife and child. What a horrible situation this is.

[@adambartlett114]

@@pippo17173 While if I was just considering the guy, maybe but most importantly, he's an adult & is choosing yup continue & enable the abuse. He is now an active abuser. Hopefully, once she is out & safe, far from him & his reach; he'll reflect & get himself serious professional help. Undoubtedly, his mother is a root for all this & she should be more severely punished for this; nothing excuses this guys abuse of his partner. He will certainly never change voluntarily, as long as he can freely continue to abuse anyone with his sphere of influence. Until he stops abusing others, I've no sympathy for him. He should have realized based on his own experiences as a victim, that he had no right to abuse anyone else. Many have suffered far worse but never offended. The only 1 really feel sympathy for is the kid & that's why I want the mom to get her stuff in order far from her abusers. Frankly, mom put herself in this situation by ignoring reality & only hope is facing reality. They both brought a kid into this mess, now mom needs to do her duty by this kid & keep them as far away from the kid as possible. She does not get to keep ignoring reality while the poor kid is abused under her nose. Both are adults & can make choices, the kid has no say in anything. The kid is at the whims of an insane abusive grandmother & father while their mother is too busy ignoring reality to protect the kid from them. There's no reason that she should have stayed after the 1st update & staying after the 2nd is wilfully allowing her kid to be abused.

[@gypsygem9395]

@@adambartlett114 it's not that easy to walk straight out. It takes the abused person an average ten attempts before they finally manage it. Unless you've been in that situation (I have), please don't judge, it's not helpful

[@gigi0217]

@@adambartlett114 Abuse, especially financial and emotional abuse, are harder to convince others to see and help escape. Unlike broken bones and bruises, stolen money and emotional brow-beating are just so much more difficult to run from and sometimes take a LOT longer to recognize because they start sneakily. However, another commenter said it and it's true: Statistically, it takes a victim an average of 10 attempts to escape their abusers. And even then? A lot of victims end up in even worse situations because the abusers track them down.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#1 Time to get away from him and his mom,and get a lawyer

[@ceeshnia]

Man... what a crazy situation; I hope that she and her daughter get out safe. Damn that man and his mother to oblivion.

[@Davimez]

This they are sick in the head if they think they can control op. This was a hard read. I feel for op and hope she makes a exit plan. There's a special place for the hopefully soon to be ex and his shitty mom

[@TheSignGuy1234]

I would've taken screen caps of the whats app conversations to use as evidence in any future custody battle to show them as abusive and would possibly try to hold the op's child up for ransom. Hope the op can get out of this with their child, sanity, and finances intact.

[@mbyerly9680]

Story 1 made my blood pressure rise higher and higher as the story continued. Since there's no ending, I fear the worst for her and her baby.

[@murielross9288]

He allowed his wife to pay off a loan that was his mother's and knew she wouldn't pay it back. 🚩.He put's himself first and blames her,

[@AndyyWithAY]

You have to have a friend keep your bank card safe, OP! That says it all. The decision should be made. Do not do this and leave safely. This man is abusive. I've never been married, but I'd assume people would join finances when they marry or shortly after, not after their child is a year old. It's all unsettling

[@stephanien6237]

They aren’t married. And rules about sharing finances once married vary. For non-married people living together; I like Suze Orman’s suggestion of having individual accounts for each partner as well as a joint account that they each contribute to for all joint expenses (housing, food, child stuff, etc). Too bad this young woman didn’t see the red flags before making a child with this horrible man, because he is going to have to be in her life and her child’s life for many many years.

[@valh889]

Story 1: JFC, that spouse and mil are HORRIBLE. I hope OP gets away safely

[@OZARKMOON1960]

Last story - I'm glad OP finally figured how bad things were and hope she got the hell out of that, leaving ex and his mommy in the dust - and that she saved all her documents. all the best to her and LO.

[@christophermills7693]

never do joint accounts. Separate accounts with an account set up for bills only. Joint accounts end up being split up 50/50 and any debt .. well this does hurt credit scores at some point

[@brigidtheirish]

There are reasons to have joint finances. Dad was the only breadwinner of the house, but Mom was in charge of finances, so they both needed access to the family account.

[@jm1670]

You need to sue his mother for the $450- she owes you. DON'T LET THEM OFF or take the game console.

[@alyssiagibbs8147]

Domestic abusers are always the ones who accuse you of exactly what they're doing, it's fucking crazy, the same thing happened to me and so many others, they will abuse you and then turn around and accuse you of abusing them the exact way they're doing it to you. It's crazy how much abusers are manipulative and gaslight you into thinking you're the problem when they are.

[@itazuranakisu]

I'm glad OP is taking the steps to protect herself and child because it will likely get worse. The apple truly didn't fall that far from the tree. I know of someone whose husband landed them into bankruptcy because he wanted a lavish lifestyle but was irresponsible=with the household funds and refused to work for the lavish image (always got fired or quit). So she started saving money to make an exit which he found then said "I would get half of this" if they were to get a divorce (at the time she hadn't filed yet). This man didn't love her but used her to appease his family - he's closeted and was cheating on her during their marriage, lied to the kids about why they got divorced then remarried another woman who doesn't know he's closeted but needed a green card and treated the kids poorly. Recently he almost tanked one of their adult children's credit but thankfully they realized he had been brainwashing and alienating them from their mother so he wasn't able to manipulate them anymore.

[@katechiconi]

OP needs to get notarised/certified copies of her important documents, as just digital copies may not be enough. A police officer or JP can do it, usually for nothing, especially if the circumstances are explained. Or maybe she could replace the originals where they are stashed away with photocopies, so they don't immediately notice the originals are gone. Original documents should be left with a trustworthy person like the friend who has her bank card, not anywhere on the premises. Can she get a locker somewhere to stash her GO bag? So she can just walk out as she stands with the baby if it comes down to it... She also needs to get screen shots of those chats between the SO and his appalling mother as evidence, if at all possible. She's got her head on straight despite the really frightening situation, so I commend her.

[@lynnw7155]

I wonder what OP is afraid will happen if she grabs her documents, baby, and go bag and just leaves? Will husband get violent? In the US you can call for a police escort if you fear violence. I hope she is documenting/keeping proof of all the abuse (screenshots of hub/his mom's conversations) so he can't try to get custody of the baby. She needs to start a police/paper trail to protect herself and the baby. There are a lot of agencies that could help and protect her. The longer she dithers, the harder it will be to get out.

[@marist6734]

Mark had me scared for a moment. It was two days without my daily waffle what else am I going to listen to on my daily hike 😂😂😂

[@kellypatterson8506]

1st story.... OP not the butthead, DO NOT OPEN a joint account with this man. While joint accounts are good idea in general for household bills, still keep your own accounts.... basically... his her and our.

[@gypsygem9395]

Exactly, 3 accounts is the bare minimum

[@kellypatterson8506]

@@gypsygem9395 me and wife did that when married and each account had a savings account as well, put set money n2 each. Upon divorce we split the joint 50.50.

[@kellypatterson8506]

@@gypsygem9395 me and wife did that when married and each account had a savings account as well, put set money n2 each. Upon divorce we split the joint 50.50.

[@MalkavianGhoul]

I really hope OP got out, like I am really worried. I need a good update when she is in a safer place with her LO away from that nasty husband and his wicked mother

[@butchhoskins1536]

Story 1:no no no no no. Pack your things, take your daughter and get away from these people. If they haven’t already, he will take mom to the bank to open the account and forge your signature. They want to control you, your money, your life and when they’ve used you up and stolen everything from you they will dump you on a curb somewhere. Living in a shelter, if you have no one close to take you in, would be preferable to staying with these two.

[@RC-iq2hh]

This happened to my mothers after she had her first child with my dad. Unfortunately this was many years ago and she kept going back and dealt with him for an additional 20 years.

[@telinhajp]

Hi Mark! It's already 2022 here in Japan! 明けましておめでとうございます！ Ｈａｐｐｙ Ｎｅｗ Ｙｅａｒ！❤️

[@FredRated1967]

Ladies and gentlemen, never, EVER open a joint account with an SO only. Each should have their own personal account where paychecks are deposited and a personal savings account. Then have a joint account for household expenses that both deposit into to cover the bills.

[@DarkspineBlaze00]

I’m here again Mark. Husband was in the ER again this morning 😫 the lacerations in his throat that occurred because of violent coughing got infected so he’s been put on a bunch of medications. It’s better than his original diagnosis last week. Hopefully things get better with the new year. I just want to let you know that I really really appreciate you and all that you do. even though I don’t have the money to join up, I would if I could. Happy New Year!

[@jennilynne1977]

I hope your husband gets better. Don't forget to take some time for yourself as well. Peace, hugs and love to you.

[@BruinPhD2009]

I'm sorry you're facing these challenges. All the best to you and your husband for full healing.

[@DarkspineBlaze00]

Thank you for all your well wishes ❤️ Happy New Year to everyone.

[@bellarose-au]

I hope your husband is soon on the mend. I wish these were real instead of emoji's, I think you could really use them right now. 💐💐 Also sending cyber hugs to you both from this internet stranger. All the very best to both of you. 💙🌹

[@marshmello3455]

Mark, this story is terrifying! I really hope OP finds a way to extricate herself from this horrific situation!

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Wow I really hope we get another update to this one too, and I REALLY hope OP gets out of this situation quickly and safely. I'm saving this video, I want to try and get a Tescos or supermarket gift voucher to OP to help with food and essentials when they escape, since OP is in the UK.

[@kristinecollier8113]

Ya know, Mark, I find it unsettling too! Throughout the story I kept thinking, What? Just red flags the way through!!!

[@maureenmaclaren372]

Why hasn’t the mother been reported for fraud re the account in her son’s name that she opened.

[@CathySW]

I think that was a lie and the CCJs were the husband's all along

[@rogerrabbit80]

@@CathySW Or, son is a mamas boy, and anything mama does is right and good.

[@clarissagafoor5222]

2 years later part of me is pretty sure that OP hasn't left. If she meant to go she'd have gone before the last up-date! The fact that she was still going on about her plans made me feel that making the plans was all she accomplished!

[@judithgockel1001]

‘No’ is a complete sentence.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Hi Mark, hope you've enjoyed your time off you deserve it, but I sure as hell have missed your voice. It's so calming for me. Much love

[@TheZMage]

OP should divorce him, as it’s clear from her suspicions alone that she doesn’t have a healthy marriage

[@estherwithers8857]

One word RUN RUN RUN massive red flags he does nothing for you or your child good luck op

[@elainellisle5357]

She needs to take photos of their chat and user it in court about their abuse and conspiring against her. She needs to grab her stuff and leave now.

[@broklynchedur8757]

Mmm, yes yes, I see I see. I remember way back when I was young and married a million years ago and my husband and his mother and sister used financial abuse to control all kinds of nonsense like my ability to buy enough gas to drive farther from our home than allowed, buying too many diapers or have a phone or pay bills. I wasn’t allowed to have bills in my name, when my husband was upset with me he’d go to his mothers house for a week and shut off electricity and and the landline phone and take the car keys.

[@stephanien6237]

Holy crap! How was that legal?! I hope you got out of that fast and are loving your best live without that psycho family!

[@gypsygem9395]

Omg, I do hope op and the baby are safe! That's coercion of the highest order and sounds dangerous as f..k. I hope op took photos of the WhatsApp conversation between bf and mum. Hopefully we will get an update before too long. I'd gladly offer if she needed somewhere to go, but I guess she might not see these comments.

[@oliviaanderson4595]

Universal Credit can also help where abuse is occurring, including liaising with local authorities re emergency housing etc. Even social services involvement as there is a child which means certain funding can be accessed. It does require physically attending a jobcentre as op needs to ensure that nothing appears in the journal that the partner can see. They are super helpful in these circumstances and move heaven and earth to aid. They even have code words for urgent meetings which can be founds on refuge sites etc. State that code and they will be immediately seen, in privacy. Good luck to the lady and her child❤️❤️❤️

[@jerriewyatt905]

Hopefully OP got out and is safe.. I hope she has friends that can help her and she’ll update..

[@superdill6665]

Wow! This made me want to jump in my car, find OP's house and get her out. She needs to get out NOW. If she stays and allows it to continue escalating she might find herself unable to leave. They could use her child against her, threatening custody issues etc. Grab your bag and go girl. Don't look back and cover your tracks so they can't find you.

[@Lisapizzza]

I missed the news you'd take time off so I kept checking your channel for new videos. Really made me realise that you've been such a constant presence in my life this year. Mark you're a wonderful human being and I wish everyone in the community a happy new year! ✨

[@dougbaron8021]

YELL NO. They can't force you into a joint bank account. Any further attempts to pressure you means "Divorce".

[@lynnw7155]

Yeah; it always frustrates me when people don't see that they have power over their own life and finances. People can demand that you do all sorts of things, but "No" is a complete sentence. If they try to open a joint account without you, notify authorities. Life is so much easier if you develop the spine to stand up for yourself...if you fear violence, don't hesitate to get the police involved. I'm sure they'd rather help OP get out safely than deal with her murder.

[@zoe9190]

In circumstances like this, i would recommending leaving immediately once you have all your documents secured and destroy any copies you made at the house before you go. The faster the better, not a month from today, like today. If you have anywhere to go which can take you and bub, run

[@laurenmentink7401]

I am honestly scared for OP. I hope that her husband and MIL don't murder her. There are too many of these stories where that happens. Never tell an abusive partner that you are leaving him with your child. Just leave and hide.

[@damien678]

I'm genuinely so scared for OP too, I hope we get an update from her soon

[@stephanien6237]

Who wants to bet that the OP’s partner and parter’s mother will try to open up credit in the new baby’s name?!

[@pokefan213]

here's hoping that OP does get out safely and cuts these toxic folks off completely

[@AdorableOracle]

Does anyone else often say the bloody cheek of that person because of Mark? :)

[@jennilynne1977]

::raises hand:: I do!

[@jamieserrano827]

OP definitely needs to GTFO from that situation ASAP

[@TheArnaa]

It’s 5:54 a.m. New Year’s Day and I’m starting 2022 with a video from Mark. 🙂

[@MarkNarrations]

Happy New year 😁❤

[@Nikkimommyof4]

I'm worried that OP and her daughter's life is in danger, not just her finances. This is extremely scary and I really hope and pray that she was able to get away and is currently somewhere safe. Sending out prayers and positive thoughts to this OP.

[@A.x3]

Always keep copies of important documents (if possible) somewhere else safe such as a family friend/your parents, a safe, your job, hidden in your car, etc ect. I hope we get an update on this story.

[@rebeccagrinblat5297]

I have never commented before but I am extremely concerned for this OP. I have worked in family violence for years and when the perpetrator realises that the victim-survivor is planning to or trying to leave, even if there has “only” been financial abuse, she enters an extremely dangerous time - statistically this is when she is MOST at risk of being murdered. So I would recommend she contact her local family violence crisis service as soon as possible to help her and her baby leave safely, and for them to stay safe until she is able to carry out her plan to leave. I am happy to share some safety tips if that is helpful but am aware that the legalities change between different countries.

[@GrayTimber]

"I know no murder is going on here." You say that, but behavior like this is a strong indicator that it may escalate that way. I hope she got out and is safe

[@BlueAnimeCat21]

idk why i feel like i havent heard u in a while even tho i keep up with all ur recent videos just missed hearing ur voice all of a sudden i guess hope my favorite comfort youtuber is doing well, and wishing u a happy new year too

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww thank you so much. I've been a bit hit and miss the lass week or so but we're getting back on from now 😊❤

[@gypsygem9395]

@@MarkNarrations you deserve it Mark, you've worked so hard over the last year, putting out 4 videos daily at one time! I'm glad you've scaled back to 2 to give yourself time for yourself and Poppy! Happy New Year!

[@myperfectbooks]

I'm scared for OP I hope she got out safely

[@Denuhm]

The universal credit is NOT his money too. It’s YOURS to make up joint expenses.

[@madisonl3401]

Happy New Year! Loving the relationship stories! Hope you have the best year ever Mark and Poppy!

[@jessical4866]

It’s stories like this that make me glad the internet is easily available. Without knowing what her options were, OP would have been pushed into financial abuse despite her misgivings. OP isn’t stupid, just outnumbered, but now she’s got hundreds of people giving her advice.

[@mattyw8811]

Very frightening. Hopefully OP can get out of this horrible situation.

[@markiusgalfordii9248]

Get out as quick as you can and make sure you have full custody of your kid that way he cannot use it as a pond to control you

[@lapsedgoth]

My husband and his family are bad with money. Always lived comfortable didn't have to worry about spending. MiL always tries to push my boundaries with spending but luckily my husband has been so receptive to my more frugal ways especially with how hard finances have been lately. If it went like this story I'd have fecked off too. It's so heartbreaking to see someone in OPs position but so encouraging to see her get out asap. ♡

[@kathleenjemison1421]

Have they taken out life insurance on you. This story gives me chills.

[@minavelez2009]

I'm sincerely horrified and concerned for OP. That SO and MIL could really do anything. They don't GAF about her at all. I hope she got out!

[@jennilynne1977]

Yay! A new video from Mark! I hope you had a good few days off. We missed you. Peace, hugs and love everyone! Happy New Year everyone!

[@princesspanda12012]

Huge red flag, as a domestic abuse survivor dont ever let anyone control your finances or have access to your money

[@jemase7931]

No. You DON'T open a joint account, and you tell momma that she starts paying you back and butt out.

[@wildblue0]

Story 1: The woman who committed identity theft and the guy hiding spending from his wife are not people I'd take financial advice from. Good on OP for hiding her bank card. My guess is they know her credit is good, so they want the joint account to raise their line of credit.

[@lindajacobs1487]

OP should NOT get a joint account under any circumstances.

[@ceeshnia]

Oh look, a video to listen to while I get my textbooks! Happy New Year's everyone!

[@sweett2924]

Have a happy new year, my friend! A big thank you and a psychic hug from across the pond! You've helped me so much in this last part of a rather awful year, you help brighten my days. Much love to you, to Poppy, to all your friends and family!

[@SilentDecepticon]

This story is horrifying. I hope she kept her plans to leave quiet until she was already out and safe. If she has the messages between those two monsters, she should report them to the police or whoever.

[@pollywantsacracker9648]

Happily married near 20 years. No joint account, no credit card sharing, even properly has agreed shared ownership. If there's a situation, and it happens, it's a loan and it's repaid. Gifts are different. Never blindly give anyone control over your finances no matter how many stars are in your eyes. Stand, don't fall in love.

[@brietiernan7101]

#1 Get away from him!! RUN!! Both he and his mom are using you!!

[@donaldcampbell3043]

Tell MIL no contact with grand baby until she pays money back, and no joint account... tell him you will leave him if he mentions it again.

[@lauracottom7425]

Op should have made copies of the conversation between her so and mother. She needs to run because this does not seem like it will end well.

[@MarionHogan-m5i]

People planning to leave an abusive relationship are advised to leave their get out bag with a friend and also realise that the most dangerous time is when they are planning to leave. Please be safe

[@ceridwen04]

These stories make me thankful for the beaurocracy in my country that goes into doing anything with your bank (you know, having to be there in person, showing documents, promise them your first born...)

[@roelthas]

S1. I don't understand how she doesn't see how messed up her relationship is.

[@JootjeJ]

Hi Mark, I hope you have a good NYE and an amazing year to come! Thank you for helping to keep a bunch of us sane in 2021

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww tha is as always Jootje! Thank you for keepi g me going 😁

[@reallyisay]

Poor OP she needs a good friend to teach and help protect her interest..

[@Silence-1170]

Have a great Friday all you waffles and wishing you a happy early new year!