Multipotentialite / ADHD Overwhelm: How I Deal with Fleeting Obsessions and Impulsive Spending

As a multipotentialite, I get bored easily. I find new obsessions, dive deep down a rabbit hole of Googling, researching and watching all the videos. Then I convince myself I need all the stuff that goes with this new interest, until it's no longer an interest. Then I've wasted, time, money and energy on something I no longer care about.
Does this resonate? In this video I share how I've overcome my fleeting obsessions and the impulsive spending that goes along with it. I hope it helps if you struggle with this, too.
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TIME STAMPS
:00 Intro
:30 Losing interest in jobs video • Why You Keep Quitting ...
:50 seconds what if you lose interest in hobbies?
1:20 Why do we cycle through interests so fast?
2:12 Why we have shame about it
4:28 How to control impulsive purchases around our changing interests?
6:00 How to evaluate the staying power of hobbies
10:08 Consider how your unmet needs are dictating your fleeting interests
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[@mickduprez9598]

After suffering through this for many years and not knowing that multipotentiality was even a thing, I worked out that the 'real' interests eventually come back around again. Knowing this about myself let me put things down without too much shame/regret but I had to make sure at the outset that I have a 'shut down' strategy. That is, when you take on a new interest, make sure you can give it a special spot or system to store it so that when you come back you can pick up where you left off. Leaving things laying around unfinished is a real downer but having them stored away gives at least some form of closure....until next time :)

[@heatherjuliet]

I definitely feel seen, lol. Until two years ago, I didn’t know a lot of these particular things were related to ADHD, and it made me feel so much more validated that I’m not crazy - lol. I’ve wasted thousands on hobbies that I end up not pursuing. I’m still figuring out (after 43 yrs), how to live in a world not built for our brains…it’s a wild ride! 😅

[@rpcheesman]

The most eye opening statement as well as the most soul-crushing one to hear from my wife is "how long is this going to last?" because at best it's a couple of months, with up to years in between. It was one of the key things that lead to my ADHD diagnosis. Fortunately now I'm fairly cyclical as my interests are within a set core, and learning to not be so hard on myself when I invariably switch. I still get frustrated that I don't really master anything enough to keep going - instead having to re-learn stuff to catch myself up.

[@CarenMagill]

I get this. But maybe mastery is not the point? For example, I've been a dabbler my whole life, but you know what? All my various skills are serving me now in this work. As Steve Jobs said, you can only connect the dots in retrospect. Trust that your interests are taking you to the right places. If you cycle through them faster than your wife, it could be just that you complete things faster because you have an interest driven brain. We need to stop looking at this as a fault and start seeing it as something we can use to our advantage. Just be mindful to manage impulse spending. That's the downfall. Try challenging yourself to explore interests without spending money on them until you're SUPER clear that it's what you want (or there is a path to retrieving your investment).

[@cbeebeez9418]

I've never been diagnosed ADHD but I definitely recognize this trait in myself. I'm a remote freelancer and I get a big dopamine hit from changing clients, winning new business, starting endless "side hustles", and moving from country to country. I'd say that my hobbies are more stable and I can generally maintain stable romantic relationships, but I do tend to need a lot of stimulation one way or another. I feel a lot of shame around this because I was never able to "fit into" the conventional school and job system, despite being told I was smart. I feel grateful to get to do all the things I do, but other people don't always respect you when your lifestyle is unconventional, and that wears you down.

[@jenniferakes8224]

Before you take that RV leap spend some time in one, either a rental or a trip in which you just stay in one. There is an amazing one I stayed at but it also taught me RV life wasn't for me. It is called Epic Bluff campsite and they provide the RV all set up and ready to use on this amazing site with breathtaking view and the host are amazing.

[@Missponderlit]

Thank you for deciding to create this channel on youtube and thank god that i founf your channel. I always hated myself for not sticking to one thing like most other people. My resume is filled with 1yr stints in different companies. My house is filled with tools that i bought for different interests. My understanding of this trait was i don’t have a “stable” mind. The more i listen to you, the more i understand that my traits are probably all due to adhd and are more biological and that I am not “messed up” in my head. I get emotional sometimes listening to you because i finally feel like there’s nothing wrong with me and there are people like me out there. Looking forward to the group session on monday! ❤️ - Priya

[@CarenMagill]

Oh Priya, it hurts my heart to hear you say that you hate yourself for any reason. You are exactly who you are meant to be. The sooner you can embrace your differences, the sooner you can create a life that supports them! Can't wait to meet you!

[@piscesrocks9701]

@@CarenMagillI have adult adhd, but I don’t have a lot of hobbies, I find this a struggle to find new hobbies. I also find that when bored, I shutdown and don’t wanna do nothing and I find that I just laze around doing nothing, but relaxing 😎. I find that I’m energetic and a lot of my energy is shown through talking 😂. I have the combined type, but I spend a lot of time daydreaming and I can be inactive physically too. Do you see this with combined types? I’m energetic, but more in the social sense and yet lazy.

[@traceyroseTV]

Yes! … I’m feeling this a lot and glad that my realisation to take it slow when I feel obsessed about a new thing is on the right track. Thanks for this video. Very helpful 🙏🏼🩵

[@Proffittk001]

I do the same thing but I find that researching adhd is something I keep coming back to.

[@isthatso2781]

I have watched at least ten of your videos. And never had someone just understand and be able to explain ADHD so well. Especially, for those of us who have had some degree of success, it can be difficult to articulate how ADHD impacts our life. And then you give realistic methods for coping with our uniqueness.

[@aprilmae137]

My impulses! Sometimes they're good but not when I know I have things that need to be completed and I go off on some other tangent... lol

[@richardblomstrand6896]

I’m so glad that I found your channel. It’s so deliberating to follow your tips, experiences, feelings, suggestions and relate to them all. You really are brilliant. Thanks.

[@CarenMagill]

thanks!!!!

[@emmac2867]

This is helpful. However I spent thousands on a nutritional therapy course (I had and have been interested in nutrition most of my life) but the way it was taught was so boring I couldn’t follow. I’m still paying for it now. I’ve also noticed as I’ve gotten older my interest in anything is waning. and interest in anything doesn’t last long. I think I’m also scared of going all in on something again to get bored in a few months. The cycle is now getting to me and I don’t have anything to show for it

[@CarenMagill]

Now that you know that about yourself, is there a way that you can manage it so that it doesn't cause unnecessary shame or expense?

[@ulsk7329]

Great tips! Thank you❤

[@carrieallmon]

SO great! Thank you so much for this breakdown. Not only can I relate, but I found your perspective so helpful, and learning about what you value is inspiring me to revisit my VIA test do some journaling with your journal prompts. Thank you so much for sharing!

[@CarenMagill]

You're so welcome! Glad it resonated.

[@ying1296]

Gosh I just started watching your channel and started habit tracking and the sort just to prioritise things and not overwhelm myself as per ur advice form another video… I don’t have adhd but I’ve so many problems that can be helped if I follow your videos, thanks so much for sharing these

[@CarenMagill]

I'm so glad to hear this! I think we can all benefit from doing less and ditching overwhelm. I'm so happy you're here!

[@vivianed.santos1273]

Thank you for this video!

[@CarenMagill]

You are so welcome!

[@missfeliss3628]

i have zero need for comaraderie, i barely have any social needs.... i have a deep need for aloneness and quiet

[@i_youtube_]

I always feel curious to learn new thing until I feel I satisfied my curiosity or feel bored with it then I switch to another area, topic, tool etc. It's hard for me to continue my life without learning everyday and I don't understand this behavior at all. I didn't accomplish anything for long years. I don't know if I have any disorder. I don't know what to do!

[@nesrop171]

hey i found you from the comment you wrote on dr k video a mouth ago and im really glad i found your channel

[@CarenMagill]

Thanks for being here!

[@koolhandlukemakemyday8812]

This is me to a tee!! Cycling interests and my wife is over it! I’ve always jumped from hobby to hobby and buy the equipment ending up being a waste of money because I stop and love onto the next interest. What to do?

[@freaksnweirdos]

thank you so much for this i feel like a freak or disappointment because i dont have one specific route i want to do because i want to do everything this has really helped me!

[@CarenMagill]

I'm glad!

[@Stickyunstuck]

Great Video Caren! I am currently sitting in a jungle of my latest passion - house plants. Will they survive? They bring me joy and make our house more healthy and happy and of course I found them mostly on deal so I'm ok with it. But I a bazillion interests and I'm always looking for that one thing that I can say is me - so I can accomplish something in my life. But you're right! Who says we have to stick to things? I've accomplished being interesting and bringing joy to others - maybe that's enough!

[@CarenMagill]

It's MORE than enough, Steph. Let yourself embrace your need for variety! Thanks for watching. Say hi to Dee for me! XO

[@angelcatalan3914]

This is super helpful! I’ve never known how to deal with it and it’s always been an issue to the point where my friends and family mention that I “want to do everything” 😂. It’s funny you mentioned your years in India bc I’m literally thinking of getting a new job just to pay for a trip to India next February lol

[@CarenMagill]

Go to India!!! It was an unforgettable experience.

[@Itsjustnotme]

This was so helpful! I do this a lot and always end up coming back to my usual hobbies-crocheting and knitting. I do need to figure out what my true needs are though because I’m tired of bleeding money on hobbies I never fully adopt lol

[@CarenMagill]

You are so not alone on this!

[@Venkat_Perunkanchi]

Am 54 and just a couple of weeks back I came to know that there's a reason and a name for everything about me and the way I live .... Smart but stuck....ADHD.

[@n00bdavidyt88]

I felt good mam like a therapy ❤️

[@towzone]

My husband calls it project madness!

[@Peter73sky]

Thank you,thank you,thank you,thank you,thank you,:)

[@Heyu7her3]

I just had a conversation with one of my good friends. She had hobbies. I realize I don't have any. I don't feel any negative way about it though. It's said that not having hobbies is a sign of depression, but I don't think we have to have hobbies to enjoy life. I still have interests, past times, and passions. Just no hobbies.

[@CarenMagill]

Totally agree with you! You don't have to have hobbies at all!

[@brandydinsmore8214]

What is the difference? Hobbies, pasttimes, interests, passions. Not all hobbies are crafts.

[@Heyu7her3]

@@brandydinsmore8214 past-times include: watching TV, reading, taking naps... other activities that tend to be passive. hobbies tend to be more active. interests are areas/ fields one attend to or engage with. passions are strong interests or desires, sometimes what a person feels is their purpose. some can overlap, depending on the person.

[@johnnatandc]

I am a Jac of all Trades (Master of None)... So i have perused through many interests and when i feel that I have domintaed the level that I wanted... I just simply abandone it

[@CarenMagill]

Or, maybe you're just "complete" with that interest. When you say "abandon it", it implies that you did something wrong or shameful. You just out grow things... just like you did with your childhood toys.

[@ioio7470]

1:26 our prefrontal brain lights up when we engage in our interests

[@borleyboo5613]

I cycle through hobbies and interests very quickly. Art, decoupage, journaling, card making, on-line courses etc. The one interest I have stayed with for over 40 years is history. But that waxes and wains a lot. But I also accumulate vast amounts of knowledge in this way. (I’m known as the family go-to when anyone wants to know something) And my cupboard under the stairs is jam packed with stuff I’ve bought for all these hobbies. Ah well......such as life with ADHD. 🙄👍

[@CarenMagill]

that is how it goes. I've learned to accept that about myself and try my best not to purchase stuff for fleeting interests.

[@missfeliss3628]

u can def teach yoga outdoors with baby goats !

[@canaleYouTubeasperger]

Hy you do video to problem technology and adhd? Can allegate link ? Thanks

[@CarenMagill]

what kind of issues with tech are you having?

[@vinesco5270]

My fleeting interests are related to my career, so I have a hard time finding a career i want to choose. So its hard not to attach it to my self worth. Once I lose interest, I feel like I have no future. What do I do?

[@user-rh2if6fk6o]

Need help with deciding to switch careers by going back to school. Any tips ?

[@CarenMagill]

There's no "best" decision. Go with what feels like the best choice that most aligns with your brain, temperament and interests.

[@missfeliss3628]

im really glad i dont have a credit card anymore.... i literally buy 5 of everything cuz i forgot i already bot it 4 times lol.... then i find the others in the garage years later lol

[@luckyandblessed]

I have a question. Does anybody have to slow down videos to 0.75 and keep hitting replay 'cause you get distracted?

[@CarenMagill]

I actually listen to most things on 2x speed. It helps me focus more.

[@SigmaFeminine]

that skull as decor 😬

[@brianc11388]

Going to India doesn't sound impulsive. You have to have a lot of details going into it not like oh that's by this boom done next thing p

[@CarenMagill]

Good point, maybe it was less impulsive, more risk taking. I still have zero regrets about it tho.

[@luckyandblessed]

Its not a hallmark trait. Its a human trait.

[@CarenMagill]

That is true, but ADHDers struggle with it more than most for a number of reasons.

[@Uncle_Tom]

First of all; i thought you were only a woo and a half kinda gal. Second of all; im a 34 yo male and im still interested in Barbies, hence why ive become an avid listener of your show. And just to set the record straight, I simply can not tell the difference between your real hair and your wig, both are absolutely the same in my opinion and your just getting worked up about nothing😉

[@CarenMagill]

LOL.... welcome tom!!