My 3 EASY TRICKS To Make First Dates Less AWKWARD | Matthew Hussey

[@fozzer19]

hands in the bucket if u have watched this before a first date hahaha

[@amylovelock5584]

👍👍👍

[@kwann6286]

me

[@billywingrove27]

i will have one in a few days and i am terrified I have been watching these types of videos for a few hrs now :D

[@Bloominix]

+Nasko K. Dimov how did it go????

[@aliciaf4744]

tomorrow ahh

[@WafflePunk47]

proof that confidence can make any shirt look good

[@danm1063]

This is stupid true. Looks like a potato rag

[@sub7se7en]

But it doesn't look good.

[@genericyoutubeusername8418]

Nope his shirt still sucks.

[@abdulkek4821]

A Good looking girl make any dress look Good

[@SakuroAlex]

His face makes up. For it

[@Leila-yk8li]

Dude im going on a date in 2 hours i feel like im going to war 😂😂😂😂

[@stanleeajrdabeatles1523]

update?! please.

[@Dkbox-1]

@@stanleeajrdabeatles1523 she died

[@mimiskarafotis4224]

@@Dkbox-1 💀💀💀

[@ellynvaughn500]

same 😂💀

[@Weisior]

@@Dkbox-1 RIP She was a good soldier, fighting brave until the very end

[@sampiazza7483]

These are really great tips for people with social anxiety.

[@nnacamille4682]

Sam ve u hear about quick hookup if you're interested lemme know🇱🇷✈️

[@UkSapyy]

*Warning* STI alert

[@GachaHeroez]

FOR REAL 😢

[@kreshameee2222]

Don't have a date tonight, tomorrow or maybe even next month, just watching these dating videos just in case.

[@carloscoriano2]

Lol wanna go out?

[@LettuceBunnies]

Carlos Coriano how does it feel? To be a pathetic loser?

[@thaylamay3531]

Skeleton Clique takes one to know one.

[@BADGYALSHI]

Same same same

[@rayoflight7416]

Skeleton Clique wtf bro, you havin a tough time?

[@davidjonathannn950]

I don't even have a date wtf am I doing here.

[@hamiltonndlovu9141]

Thechosen one

[@FrauIndian]

Everybody has to start somewhere. Do not give up. :)

[@mirandawynn8982]

Preparing, I don’t have a date either haha

[@Kinobambino]

Preparing

[@dolgijoze]

never give up

[@JaySea]

Shows up to first date, extends arms out: "Hug?.." *3 sec pause* "No? okay.." :(

[@0clock275]

Jay Sea Haha the madman himself. Man we really have to go to some club to meet some chicks

[@superfudge2134]

Haha omg i really hope for you that you didnt actually ask her for a hug... women like confidence, which means not asking for permission... you wouldnt ask "sex?" So just go in for a hug whwn you meet her and maybe a kiss on the cheek if you feel like it

[@williamwillis9586]

Wooooooow it’s Jay. Notice me senpai.

[@williamwillis9586]

StraightUp Dude it’s obviously a joke.

[@williamwillis9586]

Morten Stenhaug It’s just a joke obviously.

[@dylanbryant4714]

1. Touch early and often (the longer you wait the more awkward it gets) (being warm is not being desperate) 2. Don’t sit opposite each other (it immediately gets awkward) park bench style allows you to people watch or not be forced to look at each other during silent moments. 3.do something that involves actual external focus, especially if you aren’t a conversation expert)

[@Kangaroo-Bob]

Thankyou!

[@not242]

@Mario Saldana If you're looking to romance a woman it is much easier when you can initiate physical touch during the date, and this isn't really possible when sitting across from each other. If you're great at conversation you can get away with it, but many people will find that the date is more enjoyable when you are adjacent to each other

[@bodacious9885]

i literally made every single mistake

[@clcamila]

@@bodacious9885 🤣🤣

[@alanteare1603]

2. Ya. How’d that work out for Mike Yanagita

[@No0neButMe]

I'm going on a zoom date do to quarantine and the first tip is "TOUCH EARLY AND OFTEN"

[@jenniferzhou8635]

What a mood lmao

[@Chris-zx1ez]

I find video calls with my friends awkward fuck that.

[@vay4310]

a zoom date is such a cute idea tho

[@izzy926]

@@Chris-zx1ez broo me too , i hate calling people

[@discotrain173]

How did your zoom date go man?

[@waswillstdu3779]

I have a Date tomorrow and im so nervous. Im quite a shy person and im so scared of arkward silence Edit: holy shit I never realized that this had so many comments. So for everyone asking, that was my first date (I was 16 or 17). I think it went better than expected, there was no awkward silence. No we didn’t end up in a relationship.

[@khxliakhxlia3605]

How did the date go if you still remember lmao

[@SuperPagt]

Waiting fo you

[@laerkejosefine1464]

Mel G same

[@stoyam7515]

Same

[@sanda9566]

same

[@kimhokenson366]

About a month ago I went out on a date with a man that I knew was shy. We went to a nice restaurant that was quiet and we sat directly across from one another. Typically I am not a quiet person but I was feeding off of him. We sat there miserable for less then 1 hour and then I went home. After listening to this I called him back up and asked him if he wanted to go for a motorcycle ride. I was shocked that he said yes. But it was perfect. I sat behind him and talked into his ear and got to rub his back and make that first physical connection to let him know I was interested and he was able to get comfortable enough talking to me without having to stare straight at me. This was brilliant! By the time we got back from our road trip and were face to face again we had 3 hours of conversation and 3 hours of things we could look back on and talk about. "Wow wasn't that waterfall amazing it reminded me of this one time..." Great advice, keep it coming. ;)

[@Honeyybjj]

Kim Hokenson wow lol that's interesting. I'm glad it worked out! Good thing you were a little patient! Great story to hear!

[@F22Raptor723]

That's awesome! cheers

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Kim Hokenson Are you two still together?

[@Oddme100]

Sitting directly across from each other should in most cases be avoided. Especially if you're bad at small talk and/or shy. I learned this at work. Sitting directly across from someone is confrontational and if there is a lot of tension, the conversation can easily turn into what seems more like an interrogation. I'm more shy than most and I know it's off-putting. Once I'm done with my initial shyness, I'm more likeable. At least I hope so. :P I think a hiking trip would be a good idea for a first date. At least in the area where I live.

[@_yellow]

Mary Hunt I second that

[@alexolotl764]

''don't sit opposite each other'' AMEN! finally someone said that, thank you. I find it so awkward

[@Dr.Nantiwa]

I did that with my ex almot always and it would always be awkward. Learnt from that never to sit opposite to each other

[@carriebalberg5478]

What about eating dinner?

[@이하나-m2h]

Truth

[@ruffe7655]

Carrie Balberg yeah that what i was thinking

[@brettruss3359]

With my gf in the past I love sitting next to her, it allowed me to share food or give her kiss.

[@MrGamerman001]

Me: "Hey, how are you? How was your day?" Them: "Not bad, How was yours?" Me: " Pretty good, I spent half the morning watching documentaries and coming up with new recipes for my job's menu." Them: "Oh, that sounds fun." Me: "So what do you like to do in your down time? Do you have any hobbies or interests?" Them: " I just chilled and hung out." Me: "Um... Well that sounds fun... What do you like to do when you chill?" Them: "I like to hang out." Me: "Oh that sounds fun. I like to cook and travel. I'd like to go to Spain sometime. Have you traveled much?" Them: "No not really." Me: "um.... Okay.... What kind of music do you like?" Them: "I listen to everything." Me: "Uhhh.... Okay... I like a lot of different types of music too. I'm a huge fan of Classic rock, grunge and classical music. It helps me relax since it has some meaning behind it." Them: "Ohhh..." Me: "Okay, fuck this."

[@Soupraaaaaa]

😂😂😂 dead ass what they say to men lol

[@jesster777]

Too fuckinf accurate even when a girl hit me up first she was this way like tf u want me to do w u and ur 1 word self

[@Kinobambino]

Ahaaaaa!😅

[@goldenhd9656]

Lmaoooooppooooppoppoooooooo

[@weedmastersr]

You had some missed opportunities there. For example, when she said that she didn't travel much, you could've said that it would be fun for the two of you to travel together and then joke about seeing the world together and all the silly mischief you might get yourselves into while doing so. Or when she said she listens of everything, you could've teased her a little and said "Liar, nobody likes everything, come on be real, what's your favorite band", and stuff like that. I know it sucks when you have a conversation partner that does not engage well, but you shouldn't take things too seriously and just use your imagination to good around with her a little. This can create a spark of attraction and make the continuation of the conversation a little easier if she lightens up a little as well. Also, you can alternatively ask her about some things that she cares about the most and then tease her about those.

[@heysuz3488]

This was actually so sweet. He’s not a skeevy pick up artist or trying to take advantage of anxious/ socially awkward people. He’s just trying to help and giving real practical tips it’s so refreshing and comforting to see well intentioned and logical people like this

[@ma.rosariosevik8562]

G w❤c😅😅

[@kammy2187]

just take a shot before a date !

[@its_magic9516]

😂

[@kiriakidiamanti3885]

Actually helpful

[@User18dog]

Not one like 3

[@tyrellrobinson8853]

I just did this😂

[@zoemrubata2484]

Seems about right !

[@JuliannePanajon]

getting ready for my first date, oh my world im so nervous

[@eleshalatham204]

How did it go

[@AubrieRogan]

+Elesha Latham Haha I want to know now too :P

[@dinkleberry4609]

Yea! Keep us updated!

[@MamiYankeeMusic]

helpppppppp lol. how was it ??

[@JuliannePanajon]

Hey guys.... We're over. Like a week after the date.

[@thereturnofthepotato8850]

I have been binge watching date vids my first date is in an hour! Wish me luck

[@malksme]

yo how was it!?

[@thereturnofthepotato8850]

***** It was awesome!!

[@malksme]

PLEASE TELL ME ABOUT IIIT!

[@thereturnofthepotato8850]

It was so fun we went to a fair and rode a bunch of rides!! On the way back in fell asleep on his shoulder and it was so exciting!!

[@malksme]

ooh yayy! congrats ;)

[@mlpcookiebrownie1006]

“If you initially see him and give him a hug” *laughs in corona*

[@rialimp]

laughs still in corona

[@rptvortex5780]

@@rialimp laughs still in corona

[@rialimp]

@@rptvortex5780 laughs vaccinated

[@spoopysel261]

@@rptvortex5780 laughs in corona gone

[@nova4841]

Laughs in monkeypox

[@nemezote]

1 - Touch early and often. 2 - Don't sit opposite each other. Sit next to them. 3 - Do something that involves having external focus, particularly if you are bad at conversation. Such as a walk, hike, or just watching people on a bench.

[@camillastefanini5751]

Imagine dating the actual Matthew Hussey. So much pressure lol

[@katiecraighan9788]

Camilla Stefanini hahahha. HE KNOWS WHAT UR THINKINGGG!

[@hose3262]

Hahaahhahaahha 😆

[@CariBaez]

Camilla Stefanini he is probably a gentleman

[@Aripoma]

Ask Camilla cabello

[@zermerschern]

Seems like a pretty laid back dude tbh from the 2 vids i have seen. Doubt there's much pressure at all, more like a fun and easy-going time.

[@Twerpjuice]

I'm so nervous.

[@postnubilaphoebus96]

Mia H I feel you. 2h 45 mins left for me.

[@postnubilaphoebus96]

Rebekah Pena How was it?

[@postnubilaphoebus96]

I presume not so good.

[@bgill7475]

I’m scared.

[@luzbel4868]

B Gill im terrified, im shy and have social anxiety...

[@Equiax]

jesus christ i wish i had have watched this before my date hahaha

[@MamiYankeeMusic]

hahahahahahaha

[@michaelal20]

Lmao!! Wtf did you kill her?

[@Equiax]

Nah was just real awkward and I did everything this guy said not to do

[@XIIILegend]

michaelal20 Haha, you almost killed me with this comment.

[@Equiax]

XIIILegend hahaha got a girlfriend now so we all good

[@jconstant7686]

External activity: put on a porn movie as a surprise.

[@AbbyElise151]

Maybe I am old fashioned, but I HATE kissing on the first or second date especially with someone you met online. A kiss is something pretty intimate and I feel like it says "I am interested in you in a sexual way, and I want to see you again". But with someone you have never met before, or someone you don't know that well, I feel like the first couple dates should be about getting to know that person as a human being, and seeing if you are even attracted to that person in the first place- ITS MORE THAN "oh hes hot". I had a REAALLLY bad first date the other day, where he was nice at first, and we did something super fun and adventurous, but then immediately was turned off because he constantly tried kissing and hugging me. It ruined it, ruined the first impression and now I refuse to see this person. Whereas a guy I dated 3 years, we went on many dates before we kissed, and as I began to become attracted to him, I think it made me more excited to see him and I anticipated that moment more.

[@SupramanTRD]

Thelondonbadger that was deep

[@eneko4509]

I understand what your view is about it but I think it really depends on the person. For me, a kiss is not wrong as it is another type of compatibility test. If I am having fun with a person and I see the moment, I will go for the kiss and "test" how well we connect too. A kiss can tell so much about the other person too, is not only about knowing the mental compatibility, is about knowing the physical one too, and imo there is nothing wrong with that. But again i suppose it depends on the person

[@dian277]

i just watched a video on how men and women date differently. It basically said that women try to make emotional connections first whereas men try to make sexual connections first. Of course, that's generalized and everyone is different in different ways.

[@Harl3yq1nn]

Omg yes!! I am watching this before a first date and honestly… I don’t want to touch someone I’ve only ever met online the first time I see them in person 👀

[@marinaom8641]

Totally agree!

[@jbelladove1888]

I like the shirt he's wearing, it looks easy to tear off

[@bddybdz]

Hamza V. hahaha

[@super.surabhi]

Hamza V. hahahahhaha 😂😅

[@JustineCarissa]

LOL props

[@motivation310]

😂😂😂

[@Kinobambino]

Lol freak

[@arwenooi1101]

How do u even touch him? I cant even look him in the eye

[@sarahbardhi4467]

Same

[@adamterry1550]

Just go in for a hug man as soon as you see him just say hey, and give him a hug. Don’t think about it too much just be natural about it! That should ease the tension a little!!!

[@nnacamille4682]

@@adamterry1550 Have you hear about quick hookup if you're interested lemme know🇱🇷✈️

[@asa.8691]

@@nnacamille4682 shut up

[@pinknails517]

i asked a guy out and we had the best first date EVER! it was instant chemistry after knowing him for around 4 months but just as friends, and we talked for HOURS and time flew by. we sat side by side, and it never felt awkward. im still seeing him! Edit: omg... how am I just seeing this 6 years later!!!!!! You guys are awesome. We broke up after 3 years.... but we were fairly compatible for most of it. Our life goals were just too different. I wanted kids and he didn’t... now I’m with the love of my life and we met on bumble!

[@haycheC]

How about now?

[@LettuceBunnies]

H C yea 😂

[@Saberdud]

nigga it been 4 years lmfao

[@seanb6986]

Did You, ahem, FRIENDZONE him?

[@wizyasilupumbwe2497]

now i really need to know if you er still seeing him

[@maryt.8043]

You supposed to kiss at the end? I think I'll die if I kiss this early 😂

[@jlaux7]

I've done the sit beside thing a number of times before. It actually helps immensely with the touch aspect. Reaching out across the table to touch her is rather creepy, but if you're sitting beside her it can come a lot more naturally.

[@_Idfc]

Or take some shots of vodka for confidence and everythig will be gucchy

[@SamandRie]

i gotta drive thooo

[@snobunni4808]

Lmaoooo

[@weedmastersr]

Yeah, and who drives?

[@cuauhtemocmorisco3493]

Gucci, Prada, and Fendi what more do you want?😂😂😂

[@P27MEDIA]

Agreed

[@superanimefan275]

So true about the 0 to 60 on a first date kiss. On a blind date once I hadn't anticipated the kiss since we hand't really had much physical contact throughout the date. Then at the end he just pulled me in and kissed me. Sounds romantic right? Well it wasn't. I was like "WTF!?" and my instant reaction was to push him off me. The date ended so awkwardly...

[@spunkiQT]

OMG SAME lol and I was already turning to walk away, so it took me completely by surprise! I was already over him by that point, too. And yeah it does sound more romantic than it actually is, I had a hard time explaining to my friends how awkward it was.

[@brandigraham3600]

superanimefan

[@justrandom7752]

superanimefan275 I probably would’ve kissed you on the forehead shows respect and care and not as awkward 😆

[@ravenclawsden2103]

Same except that I made him believe that it was going to be a second date while I was going up the bus telling him "you should have done that earlier. Next time!" When I wasn't answering his messages, I chose to tell him that I had lost interest instead of telling him the truth, that I haven't been interested throughout the whole blind date, I was being friendly because I had previously told him by a text message he needn't ask for a kiss. In my defense, his texting skills had impressed me as well as his looks. He was way different than what he seemed and I didn't want to make things awkward by leaving. Was I wrong?

[@DiogenesNephew]

Ravenclaw Pride Yeah. Being honest is usually the way to go as far as I'm concerned. If the truth bothers him, then that's a good sign you made the right decision anyway. If he doesn't take it personally, reconsider lol.

[@cutieprincess431]

Matthew just looks like a really jacked Daniel Radcliffe

[@GuiarGodCole]

cutieprincess431 He isn't even jacked, wtf.

[@KF350]

can't unsee this now

[@DevilFrog61]

cutieprincess431 you think this guy is "really jacked" lmao wtf have we come to....he has good confidence though

[@ClumpypooCP]

If this dude is “really jacked” im excited to hear what I am lmao

[@ninjabreadgirl]

His voice even sounds like Daniel Radcliffe, the tone

[@soujoudtelli8101]

My first date is tomorrow i wanna ✨pass away✨

[@izzy926]

mines in an ✨hour✨

[@stanleeajrdabeatles1523]

@@izzy926 update???

[@soujoudtelli8101]

@マツホ。 i did cancel it and one year after im still watching this damn

[@masterchief7794]

@@soujoudtelli8101 you got this

[@stooze7470]

The more you worry about the date being awkward the more it gets awkward. Never have a goal at the end of the night.. not even a kiss. Always have the mind set of just meeting a new friend and you will be 100% less nervous. When you make expectation you are worried about not meeting those expectations. If your a bad talker then go to the movies or a concert.. a place where talking isnt 100% necessary. If your naturally a nervous person on dates than dont be shy about letting the person know. Breaking that bridge can help the other make you feel better, just dont apologize a shit ton if you say stupid things. Being confident even if you fake it is key

[@whatgamerlol5831]

No movie theater is open in quarantine

[@RubyDaBerry69]

Don’t go to the movies on a first date. It’s even more awkward than awkward silence

[@djjayem100]

This helps thanks. Will be reading this again in 3 days time. Damn dating is brutal.

[@its_magic9516]

I hate first dates

[@LettuceBunnies]

Akira Bell wtf u idiot

[@josejones4413]

Just pretend it's your second 👍

[@annapowell6686]

Don't we all and nice name 😂

[@merwinpique]

Who doesn't.

[@hugmac2246]

Well don't hate it, its your first time knowing each other personally and so on feels comfortable with each other

[@Homebrew1981]

who the hell sits side by side at dinner ?

[@jamalhippolyte94]

Me

[@XyntXII]

do something about 90% so you sit as he said adjacent.

[@ryuisonline8816]

it's easier if you get like a corner table or corner both where you can angle yourself to not be directly in front of the person

[@_DeadlyNightshade_]

ryuisonline As if the person is not anxious enough.. now I got to think about the design of the goddamn table. Can't wait!

[@DarwinzTheoryz]

Guywithaguitar me

[@vmlburmester4260]

great advice except don't go for a walk by a river or in the park unless you're confident you will be safe ... remember, you don't know this date!

[@MamiYankeeMusic]

great point!!

[@ashk9105]

Took a girl out to date today at a park now she's gone missing.

[@drsareekakatkuriphysiother5376]

That's fine, it's still a public place, never go to his house on first date. I have seen mishaps happening

[@ImDembe]

If it's a crowded place wich it's most likely gonna be, who the hell takes a date to a remote river lol?

[@sherryroberts6920]

Victoria Burmester true he could push you in the river exactly if you don't know that person

[@fernandososa6507]

First date coming fellas and she's exactly my type. Wish me luck

[@maryphantomhive7310]

How'd it go?

[@burgundyandblue3905]

howd it gooooo

[@bwestby1]

If you have chemistry the date will go 100 Times better. Nothing worse than a first date where you are like “yeaaaa no this isn’t going to work” lol.

[@kaytia6065]

Won't it seem weird to sit directly next to someone on a first date though?

[@frenchvanilla7109]

I completely agree. I like sitting side by side once I'm already in a relationship with you but definitely not first date!!!

[@brianbay370]

+Kay Tia I am quoting a guy(NARUTO4rEaL4) who commented in this page: "turn it into a joke, ask him if he ever feels awkward sitting across the table from dates. Maybe he'll say yeah it's awkward, that would be perfect moment to reply with, why don't we sit next to each other. And if he says no, or says you seem desperate, that makes him seem like a mean person to me. And if he is mean, why date him you know."

[@LettuceBunnies]

Brian Bay what a loser who commented that

[@_yellow]

Skeleton Clique But he's a loser with wit

[@BroTheDude]

As a guy I can tell you that sitting next to each other is way better in my experience. I have never had a woman not want to see my again after the first date and I always start it off sitting beside each other at a bar. Takes the pressure off awkwardly staring at someone you don't know and can't really reach to build physical connection. Sitting across from someone also makes it feel like some kind of weird interview.

[@ChelissaMoon]

This was so helpful! This is perfect for shy girls like me. 💗

[@maryplanton572]

If it's a restaurant and a 4 sided table, sit at 90 degrees to him. Easier to see the face and yet people watch, etc. I've done that and it's much more comfortable and makes it easier to have a conversation.

[@ryleynitschke6879]

Man I’m sad I even had to look this up

[@nnacamille4682]

Don't be sad ok

[@nnacamille4682]

Have you hear about quick hookup if you're interested lemme know🇱🇷✈️

[@honeyjam9593]

this is great! kind of knew these already but a great refreshener. 1. introduce physical contact early on so touching becomes more natural and not awkward, e.g. when you meet them give them a hug or a peck on the cheek as well as little touches here and there 2. don't sit opposite each other, if there's a silence it will be more awkward because you dont know where to look, if you sit next to each other and there's a silence you can just look at the surroundings together 3. if you're nervous or shy use the external stimuli/activity (museum, park) to create conversation

[@kaztazable]

given that he gives dating advice, mr hussey must spit some pretty good game to catch his prey

[@abigailwolden]

a guy like that doesn't need game ;)

[@caitijayne]

Alma Torres I still think he needs good game ;) he would need good game to match the challenge of a fantastic woman. He doesn't seem like the kind of guy who would be okay with getting girls too easy .... he says in one video I like, "people value what they earn"

[@LettuceBunnies]

Alma Torres to sluts, no one needs game.

[@جزائرية-م2س]

I'm having first date tomorrow.. Wish me luck

[@ashlynnschrock1480]

sun shine how’d it go?

[@MattGarcyaDC]

@@ashlynnschrock1480 The world will never know

[@ashlynnschrock1480]

Matt Garcya maybe they are married now! Maybe they hate each other... maybe he’s her new baby daddy! Who knows🤷🏻‍♀️

[@ClassyRyan]

sun shine update ?

[@Mankind5490]

Wow those tricks are actually game changing

[@greener3922]

Couldn't sleep cause I have a date tomorrow, am nervous as usual. I don't even know what tf I'm doing! 😂 I guess I shouldn't take myself too seriously. It's just a human, like me.

[@trash6960]

how did it go

[@greener3922]

@@trash6960 well tbh she looked hotter on her pictures, I guess that's why I was so nervous about it. We had a nice long walk through my area. I wasn't really into her personality tho, but I am greatful for the experience. Don't know how or if I'll see her again, depends on her level of interest, cause I've decided not to chase.

[@mindfortress105]

but if she's a woman she probably has A LOT more experience than you, and she will be judging you based on past experience with guys who knew what they are doing

[@emmi5581]

@@mindfortress105 not true, it really depends on the person. men and women can think like that but not all of them.

[@ameliasoldierpng]

I have a date in.. Four hours, so I'm basically binging all of these videos. 😂

[@willowr22]

I am heading out on a first date to go feed the ducks and walk along the river. Thanks for the advice!

[@ghvvgvgvkgv2048]

smooth mate

[@haleyanne447]

how did it fo

[@reinborn8667]

The fact about sitting adjacent to each other actually sounds brilliant to me, didn't even think of that. I pictured my first "date" with someone I've known for a while as us, sitting completely opposite of each other and now I can see how impractical it is in comparison to sitting next to, or adjacent to each other. I imagine it's more freeing.

[@grovertigo]

that second one is especially smart.

[@evelinegina]

I did this unintentionally at the first date with my first boyfriend. We immediately clicked and I always wondered why I never had that with other guys. Now thinking back of this date I realize what I did wrong the following dates after my first boyfriend.

[@Janeweirdo]

yeah, it's awful when you haven't touched at all and then they try to kiss. like, no mate, thank u

[@lavendercurrent09]

Omg my frist date is tmr, yikes i hope it goes well

[@its_magic9516]

how it was?

[@lavendercurrent09]

Akira Bell horrible.... I was fine but my date was totally awkward

[@its_magic9516]

+lavendercurrent09 explain how "ankward" he was :D

[@lavendercurrent09]

D: We went out, i was totally me but he was so reserved and like we asked questions but when I was silent waiting for him to ask me one he wouldn't as well?? I could tell he was nervous and thinking of what to ask ahah but its like I did most of the work. Oh well, didnt work out

[@its_magic9516]

+lavendercurrent09 oh man i feel sorry about that, because of this, I hate dates so much..if my date would act like this , I would go, just go..

[@jenorr3989]

This literally helped me so much❤️

[@ashk9105]

Asperger Datter 👉👌

[@NWEISS-vj3nt]

Tosh.O Daniel Tosh bully

[@imgonnastealyourgirl]

The underside of his face and his voice are almost identical to Daniel Radcliff.

[@devsie11915]

and somehow he's 10 billion times more attractive than Dan. I totally see the resemblance

[@lucifersdevilishdetails.]

Dam you now I hear it and can’t get rid of it

[@mels1651]

Damn I can't unsee this

[@ClearBlueSky1]

That is so random and true

[@santanalikesbanana6304]

That’s what I thought I was just hearing this video and I was like ‚Is Harry Potter talking to me right now‘

[@christinan005]

I was in a 4 yrs relationship broke up kept to myself and now I'm bout to go on a first,date got anxiety so bad smdh

[@whalien1756]

I’m going on a date tomorrow 😬 Gonna come back to this comment and document how it went. It’s gonna rain, so we’ll go to a café - and sit opposite each other... and I’m damn awkward.... So shit’s going down D: Edit: it happened. It was pretty nice. And pretty awkward. But he was so sweet. It wasn’t too bad sitting opposite each other. We sat outside and at some point it started to rain. So we decided to go for a walk instead.. in the rain. A lot of awkwardness. But also kind of nice. We have decided to meet again. Maybe I’ll document that as well. Edit 2: all right....! It’s been 4 weeks since I first started seeing him. Today I saw him for the third time. He’s so sweet, and I’ve grown quite happy for him c: I went to his place and we sat in his room and played card games. And he played piano for me. I draw, and had promised to draw him one day, so I did that lmao. It wasn’t as “romantic” or whatever as I had imagined in my head. But it was kind of wholesome. And then at the end of the day.... we kissed!!! That was my first kiss (and I’m 19 y’all). It was horrible. But I did it. I’m so glad :)))

[@peggy-annottawa6159]

I’m going on my very first date tomorrow with a guy I met 2 weeks ago online, we played video games together today and I’m so shy and I’m scared to make the whole thing awkward and uncomfortable 😅

[@amyamy8953]

@@peggy-annottawa6159 so ? tell us girl

[@peggy-annottawa6159]

@@amyamy8953 it went well I think, he still wanna see me even tho I didn’t really talk the whole time 🥲🥲🥲 he’s really sweet tho!! But still too shy to even say anything 😅😅

[@rubyrangel64]

Search next Google Tindero *Plus* -> ur welcome

[@AvonleaMontague]

If he auctioned himself off for a date I would be okay with that.

[@bryansutphen1884]

Can you imagine if a guy said that about a girl host? Oh the feminist outrage

[@1besieged]

The bidding would be fiercely competitive ! ;D*

[@jade4897]

The best dates i had was when i haven't sat in front of a guy. I never noticed that until now

[@shandelvega]

Ugh he's so attractive! And that accent mmmmm

[@uhhangel]

Someone's horny

[@chilisaucee]

I really needed this cause I'm awkward as hell

[@vincentfreeman3273]

Type on Google *Tindero* Plus - You will learn yourself Thank me later

[@wowso4]

What about if he takes you to a restaurant you have to sit opposite to him other wise it would seem strange.

[@wowso4]

????????

[@wowso4]

But his going to think I want to get close to him, I don't want him to think I'm desperate? Maybe I'm over thinking this lol thanks for the advice @NARUTO4rEAL4

[@wowso4]

But his going to think I want to get close to him, I don't want him to think I'm desperate? Maybe I'm over thinking this lol thanks for the advice @NARUTO4rEAL4

[@wowso4]

@NARUTO4rEAL4 that sounds much better, I'll give that a go thank you for the advice :)

[@SuperSilverJay]

Sandra Jefferson what was the advice? The user's comments aren't there.

[@VietSytlezzz]

''just give a hug' its actually harder than you think lmao

[@mediocredriver3741]

Especially during a pandemic

[@JaffytaffyBTC]

My first date ever is in 4 days and is with this short cute quiet girl. We already have a nice inside joke to goof around with from our initial texting, which I think can always help.

[@abdizito8074]

Not that well, i assume…

[@JaffytaffyBTC]

@メロンパンおいし Yeah it never happened. 2 days before, she asked to postpone it due to a family emergency. I said no problem and told her to hit me up when she's ready to meet again. Like 2 weeks later, I was like, "Yeah, she probably just flaked and ghosted me." Then, out of nowhere, Facebook suggested her profile to me. So I clicked on it to see if something bad actually happened. Turns out, her mother died from a long battle with cancer. And her mother ultimately died on the exact day our date was scheduled. The girl never hit me up again. I've since moved on, and admitted to myself that I'm not ready for a relationship now anyway. I'ma focus on finishing school, making new friends, and improving my life first.

[@KrypticFR0ST]

@@JaffytaffyBTC Jesus dude that fuckingsucks

[@JaffytaffyBTC]

@@KrypticFR0ST Yep it sucked big-time at the time. But I've been improving my life since then, and I'm making nice progress. I'ma begin to truly date in probably 2-3 years, which is when I think I will be financially independent, grow into my body, get better mentally while becoming a man (mentally and physically), make more high quality friends, and become much more happy with my life.

[@KrypticFR0ST]

@@JaffytaffyBTC well I just asked a girl out yesterday for a movie date(we’re both into marvel so we gonna see Shang chi) and I’m just so nervous because it’s her first time going to a movie theater with a guy. I just want the experience for her to be the best. I want to set the bar high for other guys who date her in the future.

[@user-ws9qt4xw4t]

Boys, just came back. It was really nice. I was like nervous in the begining, but then it was smooth conversation.

[@albertbazinyan7790]

LADIES PLEASE HUG US FIRST😂

[@thejojojo1111]

This is VERY culturally unique. In some cultures, touching on the first date is inappropriate, let alone kissing someone.

[@pinkqueenscookie]

Western cultures.

[@jennakenna7252]

British people much like they speak are very straightforward.

[@marko514]

Jenna Kenna ya, met people from all around the world and Brits are the worst ones (liking them as a person, their appearance, the way they talk, their straightforwardness etc)

[@sofiyah9552]

Start the date with a hug. Good start :)

[@nekko4565]

How tho

[@asa.8691]

@@dillonlee2346 lmao I hope it went uphill because that’s not a great start

[@edrashernandez2261]

I tried to touch early and I got slapped

[@izzamismath5127]

I’m going on a date in 3hrs and I’m nervous af 😶🫠

[@loopa7563]

had a first date with a guy two days ago, was good the whole time but had such an awkward kiss goodbye lol…we had casual contact throughout the date, hugged instantly, hugged throughout, nudged shoulders ect. we did an activity so we had external focus for like the first two hours, we DID sit kind of opposite eachother, but adjacent enough that we could look out at things so the date itself wasn’t awkward. seeing him again in an hour and i want to improve the chemistry or something. ive never felt that chemistry with a person first date, only ever with people i’ve been friends with first that i developed feelings for. anyone else experience that kind of numbness on a first date? not even awkward, just kind of…friendly??

[@dian277]

maybe you're either not sexually attracted to him or you don't know him enough

[@rimano3922]

I don't know why am i watching this after a date! 😅

[@whitemailprivilege2830]

Simply Because... simply because...

[@Jeffery99]

@@whitemailprivilege2830 He/she fucked up

[@jerryc3088]

Hey, you're just evaluating the situation

[@NASSAfellow]

I'm going to put this on all the posts I watched. I watched this video the morning of my first date and it helped a tonne. Stories about my life I was struggling to think of beforehand but funny ones came to me during the date just as I needed it. If you ever start discussing something negative, always turn it positive with a funny story. Make her laugh, never sit opposite if you can. Always get there before her. The bouncers gave me one last tip before the date arrived. I was standing in the cold lol. Don't wait outside; it makes you look desperate. Also how you feel, she feels so push away nerves by talking to those around you before she arrives and familiarising yourself with the environment. Make bets with her and lose so she can buy you a drink too. Let her repay the evening with only a drink/ice cream or whatever during the same date (she should offer). Go kino EARLY. Start with a hug, she may or may not choose a peck. Be decisive but a gentleman e.g. about when to eat or do things etc. Don't ask her where she wants to go, have things planned out. Flow in conversation. Move environments, even if it's seats in the same bar. Have things planned like a competitive or team work activity that allows you to interact. Gentle taps on her shoulder whilst laughing, briefly move your hand over hers and let go whilst your both laughing. But don't go too early on this, it has to set up a relationship for a bit. So maybe an hour in if it's going well. Move in close sitting next to her. Maybe even lean close to say something funny (make sure your mouth hygiene is impeccable. Floss, Use a tongue cleaner/scraper with tongue gel and ultradex to be sure). If it's going well you should have tonnes to talk about. Someone here said FORD family, occupation, recreation, dreams. Don't reveal too much about yourself if you want a second date. Tease her a little, to break down her wall but don't make her feel insecure. Compliment something she has done e.g. hair/worn rather than a feature of her body. Never compliment makeup; the reasons for that should be obvious. If the date is successful she'd set up the second one in some way, it might be mentioning she's doing something for charity etc. Take interest in HER. Generally if things are going well, her eyes won't wander, this is why it is so important you set up an environment you're comfortable with. The worse you are with conversation, the more external focus you need e.g. bowling to fill the gaps/tour a stately home, palace together or go on a boat ride. Point out similarities between you rather than differences. Choose DIFFERENT drinks to her on purpose after asking what she's having to show you have a mind of your own. Do something spontaneous at least once during the date like do something you're both willing to do to make you both embarrassed like dance randomly for a few seconds on your way out. It will show her CONFIDENCE and fun and exciting. You'll only have confidence if you calm your nerves that's why I'll say it again, talk to people around you and make small talk to compose yourself before the date. Finally go kino again at the end, with a hug, hopefully she'll give you the peck this time. Remember the aim of the first date is NOT to get a kiss (that's a Hollywood thing), but instead, a second date with her. Hopefully it's her that sets you up. Walk her to wherever she's going to get her ride home. Be a gentleman and put your arm round her, asking her if she doesn't mind you bringing her close if she's cold. Finally after an hour or two text to ask if she got home safely, she'll probably text saying she had a lovely time before that though. Give her a chance to do it though. Resist the urge to text her the next day before she does. Resist a further urge to text back straight away. That urge will be the hardest you've done. Respond with things that follow up on things you talked about during the date. Make her feel good about herself but always make yourself the prize and like a kitten, she'll keep interest in the ball of wool. Never boast though. I learned so much in one night and can't believe how many years I feared this day... And it went beautifully. She set up the next date. I just want to thank all of you in the comments section and the creator of this video who literally changed my life. Don't be put off if it goes bad, not everyone is made for each other and it is better you break off and stay friends than force something that won't work. Take it all slow. Don't be disheartened. Perfect practise makes perfect. Good luck brothers.

[@Egg1z]

you are a legend

[@thearithmos3408]

It's my first time hearing that advise, "not sit opposite with each other", and I was like "oh so that's why!" because often times it feels more like an interview rather than a casual conversation hahaha.

[@nevergetsthejoke1844]

Thanks man, tomorrow we’re gonna go see topgun. I just turned 16 and this is gonna be my first ever date. She’s so gorgeous. Wish me luck boys.

[@RBJG-]

How did it go bro?

[@aarongonzalez4458]

@@RBJG- probably bad i had a date and went to the movies. Never works out there

[@RithuAB]

Sitting opposite each other is also known to be seen as more formal and intimidating. I remember in my peer counselling classes we were told to sit in a sort of 45 degree angle next to each other so that it's comforting and less intimidating to the other person.

[@victorpal7512]

I have a date in an hour haha... I'm hoping this helps 🤞🏽

[@Abby-yk4mg]

How’d it go?

[@victorpal7512]

@@Abby-yk4mg it went well. We just talked and got to know each other, will probably go on a second date soon. At least I hope so!

[@aaronfisher7159]

My girlfriend of almost 9 months and I's first date was a movie (My actual first date ever). We had talked nonstop 24/7 for a month before the date but I could not get her to go out with me lol. She was and still is a pretty shy person. But when we met at the theater I didn't give her a hug, I wanted to, but I didn't want to seem pushy. During the movie she kept touching my arm to get me to hold her hand or touch her but i wasn't catching on. Eventually i talked myself into it and put my hand out for her to grab, and after that it was all over. It was so peaceful, and i had felt a connection i had never felt before. But the date wasn't awkward at all, because we already knew everything about each other. I would highly suggest at least texting someone for a week or so before the first date. At least that's what seemed to help me.

[@bizznizman7035]

everyone always says like, "dont text them for more than 4 days!" but i dont get it. Knowing them for at least 2 weeks gets you comfortable and it gives great opportunities to understand them and what they like. Then from that information you can make them talk about them selfs (everyone likes talking about them selfs)

[@sweetmery1988]

What's the difference between " next to him" and "adjacent to him" ? sounds the same to me .

[@JB-km1yk]

at an 90 degree angle, like if you sitting at a table then not right across from each other but to the right or left side

[@sweetmery1988]

I see. Thank you :)

[@OneMate4Life]

For us visual people, something like: Corner Booth vs Park Bench :)

[@TheFamilyLedger]

Think in terms of chess. The pawn can only take an opponent's piece when that piece is Adjacent to the pawn. It can only move forward normally to a space that is next to the pawn.

[@Trazynn]

He could've said 'perpendicular' but he knows his audience.

[@jafetmendoza6785]

Going to ask a girl to go out today pray 🙏 for me people on the comments just watching this video just in case she say yes an nervous I’ll update y’all toning if she say yes or no.

[@Taylor-kh6el]

I haven't been on a first date yet but from my experience talking to guys it's always easier to have something to resort to when things get awkward, such as a game. Something as simple as just asking random questions to each other, because you can figure stuff out about them, talk about it, and then if there's ever an awkward pause, then you just be like, "ok your turn".

[@hadihussin3839]

Nah if you say your turn after you finish your talk it will feel like an interview it must be somehow smoother

[@theexpierow8951]

Dude this video is deadass helpful. Honestly wasn't even expecting that 😂

[@NANAMI146]

Wish me luck guys. I’m going on a date in a few hours. I’m at the nail salon rn n I am anxious as hell 😂

[@a.nr.d7167]

Lol same, heading out for a hike in 30 minutes and i’m dying

[@belletaunde102]

NoBSsplsbtch how did it go?

[@NANAMI146]

belle taunde Disastrous to say the least

[@Ilmard99]

Best tips I've heard. Usually its just "Be yourself", "Don't be nervous" etc.

[@s0phi76]

Hello world I may be going on a date tomorrow with one guy (freshman in college) and definitely one next weekend with another guy (sophomore in college). Uh I'm still a senior in HS (Well,I graduate in legit 10 days and I'm 18) BUT I go to an all girls school so like lmao I can't really deal with men. I went on my first date, and had a second date with the dude a month or two ago and he's the sweetest and we still talk but just couldn't see myself in a relationship w him so I told him straight up. I'm afraid I'm like asexual or some shit bc I can like someone..until they show interest back. Then I'm like nOpe nVm. And I'm an introvert and have slight anxiety so I overthink EVERYTHING and take things personally. THIS IS LIKE BAD MOJO BITCH. Watch me create the awkwardness on these next two dates I'm going on. HELP.

[@tarang2458]

I can totally relate with you! I can sense the level of anxiety you're dealing with right now. But trust me I went out with this guy yesterday. I think I'm not that hot, and the guy was kind of really cute, and this was my firstest date ever in life. And I was so nervous the guy was going to react weirdly to me or that I'd act dumb, but somehow none of that happened. I think he was following all of Matt's tips honestly, cause he literally did all of that (side to side sitting at all times, occasional touching, walking). But leaving that aside what I'm trying to say is that, I thought he was gonna react weirdly to me for me being me 😬 but somehow he didn't. And it turned out to be pretty great.

[@tarang2458]

I think we are really similar people (can tots relate to the asexual stuff too) if you wanna connect and talk more on this let me know.

[@s0phi76]

@@tarang2458 ah omg I'm so glad it went well for you though! My guy wasn't too cute but I agree it went well with the dude who went on 2 dates w I was talking about. The date on Friday did not fall through and the date w the sophomore may be happening this Friday so you've given me hope that I shouldn't stress out that much aha. What did you guys do for your date!? And sure, I'd love to connect cause we do seem similar lmao. What form of social media do you use??

[@samswan8197]

The touch thing makes sense, but personally if I JUST met someone and this was our first date I wouldn't really want them to touch me. I'm not much of a touch person in general, even with friends it takes me a long time to warm up to the hug stage of our relationship. But I can see myself being more comfortable with it if I've met them and interacted with them a few times previously.

[@KatyaMorozova]

Great video! I love the bluntness "the worse you are at conversation the more external focus you need"

[@tanbrolo]

I used the touch often tip! Set my timer to beep every ten minutes then we have to touch. She loved it, worked great.

[@korekiyoshingucci4237]

I have my first date ever in two hours. I'm scred that the conversation will get awkward and silent.

[@iselflores7913]

how did it go?!

[@korekiyoshingucci4237]

@@iselflores7913 OK so bacically the first date was so amazing. We met, walked a bit trough the city and sat down at a Caffè. We had our first kiss and the night got to a beautiful ending. Like a month later when we were already together we hooked up multiple times and I just didn't feel comfortable doing this so HE broke up with me, then wanted to go back together and I was like no thanks. Oh and I'm 15, German and graduating this year. He was 18 at the time. In the 4 months since I posted the comment I had my own little love story that ended sooner than I thought. But the first date was amazing not gonna lie Edit: spelling

[@dieasap]

@@korekiyoshingucci4237 Er war 18?! damn 😟

[@korekiyoshingucci4237]

@@dieasap that reminds me... Update 2: so bacically he sexualy abused me and I never got the bravery to go to the police and I think that this would just create new drama which I don't want or need right now

[@leonjee4245]

"Hey after dinner, lets go to this river" "Ok" Gets ghosted and never sees her again.

[@mariaayala2264]

Hahah just got home from my best first date ever! We hugged right away and touch was so natural and Intentional the entire time. We sat next to each other at both restaurants we went to and ate korean bbq so we had to cook the food ourselves which was a great external distraction. The only thing that didnt work was the darn t shirt line from your other video! Lol 😆 may work on some other guys but this guy did not get it ....he thought it was an insult until i explained and had to confess it was a line.i think our more frank and honest conversation was more our speed but i truly appreciate all your tips and advice for us all in the dating world. ❤❤❤ Thank you!

[@carmina7pulchra]

This is such great advice! All of the awkward dates I've had were because of the mistakes you talked about. I will definitely be using these tips before my next first date.

[@nadine8663]

Going on my first date in two hours and I feel so confident now!! We are going to the cinema wich has a lot of external activity of course, and after we’re eating sushi! The sushi restaurant has the benches that allow us to sit next to each other. If the restaurant seems full, I’ll convince him to sit on the benches

[@hercourdog5154]

how did it go??

[@jcharper9258]

Facts how did it go?

[@sashagonzales1240]

Went on my first date last night with a guy I've liked forever, mine wasn't awkward at all bc we've known each other forever and been friends. I saw this in my sub bar for KZbin and watching it explains why it wasn't awkward thanks for helping me to understand why this one worked so much better than the others

[@smoothie_boi8013]

How is it now?

[@benjaminlundback8394]

@@smoothie_boi8013 she died

[@smoothie_boi8013]

@@benjaminlundback8394 nah💀😭

[@benjaminlundback8394]

@@smoothie_boi8013 😔

[@JayJay-kp1sn]

I am meeting a guy in 2 days for the first time in person. We have matched on tinder in 2018! and kept texting since then (with 1 year break) so in total 2,5 years of texting. He is flying in so I offered him to stay in my place. I am threatened since he is over confident and I am not. Its a first seeing and then we already sleep for 2 days in my house. Oh. my. god. help. I really feel in love with him even this sounds crazy. Cross your fingers for a happy end please.

[@mai92225]

going to ask someone on a date thing to the cinema pls give me tips and things to talk about on the train to the movies 😭😭😭