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[@SLickev92]

Divorce that bum. He’s bold af to do that in his driveway for everyone to see. Definitely not his first time believe that. And don’t blame it on the booze . He’s not happy with his life.

[@cicicorleo]

*wife

[@JustinCase780]

John.."Are you having to explain about his funeral.." 😅😅😅😅

[@yogaqueen1527]

That man BEEN cheating. She is in denial.

[@miltoncat]

She doesn’t sound ready to leave him yet. I hope she gets strong enough to leave soon.

[@pamelawilliams9574]

I feel for this woman. My daughter discovered emails between my then husband and a co worker (telling each other they loved one another, etc) and my poor child had to be the one to tell me. I got all my ducks in a row and divorced him. My daughter and I are thriving together 5 years later. I could never stay with someone I couldn't trust and I could never let my daughter think that was how a man treats his wife. God bless all who deal with cheating....it is heartwrenching.

[@Manarhaz_8]

You’re a great mom ! Proud of you

[@pamelawilliams9574]

@@Manarhaz_8 Thank you! No one deserves to be disrespected and we must teach our children that.

[@supernotnatural]

Men needs more than 1 woman. That's how it works. Men doesn't cheat with emotions and intimacy, womens do. Just like kings who have more than 1 wifes etc. Even in strict religions, men are allowed to have wifes up to 4 or 5. It's the nature. Men needs to spread their sperms as much as possible for survival. And for you, that's what happens when you pursue relationship for guy to settle when it'snot %100 for him. He goes along, then finds love and you are shocked why.

[@Lipstickandchampagne]

Very proud of you! ❤ Happy to hear you and your daughter are flourishing. 😊

[@pamelawilliams9574]

@@Lipstickandchampagne 🥰 Thank you!

[@juicysmith38235]

Ashley, if you read this please know this comment is out of respect & compassion. I'm so sorry your heart is broken. I am the product of a child who grew up in this environment. I never witnessed the cheating, however I lived through my mother's heartbreak and trying to step up to the plate to help my mom when my father wasn't around due to being out partying & drunk with God knows who. My mother never left my father. I never understood. My mother deserved better. I am now almost 40 & growing up in that environment like that made a huge impact on my life that has followed me into adulthood. If you love your child so much much then please leave for her sake if you can'tleave for own self respect. No "family" meeting is needed. All she needs to know is that daddy made a decision on his own and so mommy had to make her own decision based off respect for herself. God bless 🙏

[@brightpage1020]

💯!!! 🎉❤ I’m so sorry for what you went through but I know this comment will help so many. For that reason, I feel grateful for your share.

[@vickiroberts3469]

My ex cheated on me after 20 years. I tried to stay together even though I knew he was still seeing her. This was after twenty years of marriage and also 20 years ago. It makes me sick that I let my then teenage kids see me be so weak. And also that I didn't talk to them more about all of our feelings. Trust me it affects them for the rest of their lives! In the end he married the other woman and he shattered our little family. I still cry about it at times because I see how it affected my kids and me. My point is be strong. He is the one that has to do all the soul searching and REALLY MAKE CHANGES IMMEDIATELY! If he doesn't do it immediately, don't wait around. Get out.

[@mariaroquavega5664]

It's not her job to save him. That's his responsibility

[@DrewsThoughts]

I wish all women took the same approach. It's not a man's job to fix a woman's past of how broken they are or damaged from their past either.

[@AlexisDavis16]

I saw my dad kiss another women at 8 years old too. I still think about how crushing it was. My dad NEVER stopped cheating.

[@manylaughs9002]

That is so sad

[@actual_doge3221]

My dad took me to his girlfriends house. And going by my moms words he kept going for years. My mom and I knew he cheated but she doesnt know about the first part.

[@Ceesquadd]

@@actual_doge3221Damnn u gotta spill the beans

[@DHass64]

Dr Delony is right....this isn't your husband's first time cheating. They get bolder and bolder each time. I know this because I was married to a serial cheater for 16 years. He could always talk his way of things that happened, someone calling our house, him coming home super late, etc. Until he met the woman that he wanted to leave our marriage for. I tried to keep our family together for the sake of the kids. It didn't work which was a blessing for me. I am now with an awesome man who, in 19 years, has never given one reason to question him or his intentions. Meanwhile, my exhusband cheated on the woman he left me for, and she cheated on him as well. I'd encourage you to get out of this marriage! He will manipulate the situation so it's all your fault. Put yourself first. It's time!

[@MirellaDerks]

I guess he tried to keep the family together also, but sadly didn't want to admit to himself that he wasn't that much into you.... (I know that it sucks to say this, but this is the vibe I get from your story).... overtime anymore, and needed an adventure or unstress. I wished he would have been more honest to you.

[@cathyl7944]

@@MirellaDerksit doesn’t matter whether he felt “into her” or not. He’s a dirtbag for cheating on his wife and the mother of his kids. Feelings are irrelevant once you’ve made that commitment.

[@MirellaDerks]

@@cathyl7944 You know what I always wondered about.... There is this marriage vow that says when you marry, you marry in good times and in worse times. But it looks like in modern day, "wives" only seem to want the good times. And the good times again and again. What does a "wife" learn from only good times? To become more demanding towards another human being, you can call YOUR man? That smells like ownership and entitlement. Hmmm.... I wonder again.... When is marriage based on real trust and when does it turn into slavery? Yo!.....You! Do this!.... You do that now!.... Hurry up! In that case I advise you instead of a man, to get a 🐕 dog. (Poor doggies) Oh, by the way, no worries, I'll soon shut up and be quiet, but before I do....I think I might sometimes be the stupid one 🤪...communicating weird and all that. You know what...... I'll put on another 👒 hat! Have a good day. 👋🙂 🍀

[@daisy9910]

She needs to divorce the loser.

[@dabd8175]

@@daisy9910 she needs to submit to her husband

[@marylevin9262]

@@dabd8175bad joke

[@alwaysyouramanda]

😢 peas… peas will pod

[@MissG-yl6xj]

She's a loser herself ..i cant stand woman like this

[@maybel5012]

​@@dabd8175😆😆😆 go bible!

[@triplebbb291]

This guy being so brazen in front of his family home, daughter and wife is scary. RUN!

[@texasgoddess323]

Because he knew he could do it to her!

[@BigBobbyBoLo]

" No Im trying t have some fun" is a wild ass response! wow! Drunk responses are true responses

[@dahliaherrod4301]

Oh Ashley. She's not leaving this man. My mother has friends just like her and always recommends two choices: Leave or let that man cheat in peace. I suspect, based on the fact their house is near or on a golf course, that this reckless husband is providing a nice life for Ashley and she's hesitant to stop the gravy train. If her daughter hadn't seen what happened, I guarantee you she would have sucked it up and never even mentioned anything to anyone. But now she's gotta deal with reality and wreck a very nicely decorated fantasy.

[@lauramclaine504]

You took the words right out of my mouth that’s exactly exactly what I was going to say, I know a lot of women like that that will stay for the lifestyle and they’ll just sleep in separate bedrooms. It’s more common than we think. I see it a lot in my age group 60 and over.

[@spriggy4382]

They entertained friends in their home within days of the offense. Can you imagine? Ashley is desperate to sweep this under the rug at any cost.

[@CG-MP]

about the golf cart: lots of average people own golf carts in small towns. There's only two stores, so they buzz around town on them. My sister lives in a town like that. Just saying that it doesn't necessarily mean they're rich.

[@thornyrose1235]

Yep. She called Dr. John thinking he would tell her what to say to her husband to make him feel bad so he won't do it again. Dr. John tried to help her accept reality but she's not ready for it yet.

[@sabrinagranger5468]

Yup. It makes me angry because if a woman wants to allow herself to be treated like that, ok whatever, I don't respect it but it's none of my business. But when there are children involved? There's a responsibility to show them a proper example and not raise them that way.

[@tkbreen1381]

His response to getting caught cheating proves that he knows she won’t do anything about it

[@araceliramirez7315]

💯💯

[@Mrs.TJTaylor]

He has no respect for his wife or his daughter. He shamed them in front of their home for their neighbors and all the world to see. She’s the proverbial doormat.

[@mrv2308]

Their is a whole lot of women like this. It’s sad.

[@truehogan]

The woman is in such denial that she gaslighting her own daughter.

[@wodi28179]

I was married to someone exactly like him. Same exact thing happened except there wasn't a small child around. He doesn't love or respect you. It will happen again maybe not with her but with someone else. Stop making excuses for him and start loving yourself!! You have to do what's best for you. You can't be the best for your daughter if you're miserable all the time. I get it if you're scared to be alone because I've been there but you deserve so much better whether you believe it or not. Get an attorney and get it done. Don't wait another day. It won't get better. I promise you. I know it hurts but it's the truth.

[@alluringbliss4165]

I think she has much deeper problems which derive from low self worth. She need a lot of help.

[@jennifersteen8236]

My husband was like this. Got sober. Been sober for a long time. He has never really been sorry or owned up to his actions. He still does unacceptable things eventhoughhe's sober. He has pivoted to slightly less bad things. But as a whole he really hasn't changed .

[@mrv2308]

@@jennifersteen8236if you stayed and see that still. You deserve it. Have a backbone and some self respect.

[@reneeantwi-boasiako3974]

No regard for the family whatsoever 😔

[@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose]

I am a crush to a married man right now & he's so addicted to see me that he keeps staring at me with a big smile, even in front of his children although I am cold to him & even two times near his wife who then looked at me like as if I was his affair or something alike although there is & will be NOTHING between us... Those people are NEVER marriage material because they just don't even care for their children, which is clearly shown with their egocentric, zero empathy actions. Leave him to have a better future with a right man who sees & appreciates your high value. Don't lower yourself for people who aren't worth the time. 💯 ✨️ ❤

[@mrv2308]

Why don’t you tell her?

[@dahliaherrod4301]

@@mrv2308 Cause she values her life. You risk violence approaching a spouse about a partner's infidelity

[@iluop3623]

​@@mrv2308Minding her own business

[@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose]

@@dahliaherrod4301 Sooo true 👍 And they are foreigners (I literally can't talk to her because she can't speak our language) & they have a different mentality. And according to my other neighbors who unasked talked that she's also pretty aggressive & their son is a psychooo who secretly k1lled some little animals like birds or mice. He's literally trained to k1ll someone. I just can't tell her but keep everyone & everything distant from myself. That's the only right solution to not cause f4t4l accidents. ❤️

[@esmeseyfried6394]

She's fine with the situation, she just upset the daughter knows

[@marylevin9262]

😮

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@SarahConnor562Eh I feel like she’s in shock more than just “tolerating this for the security of marriage.” Delony did give her some great guidance if she will take it!

[@flashthecorgi2053]

@@SarahConnor562 Yeah I guess you’re right. It’s hard to say if there is a definitive answer here. I do believe Delony is right this isn’t the first time he’s cheated based on the husbands firm “NO, I’m just trying to have fun.” BUT then again alcohol makes you do stupid, wild stuff. I really think the deeper issue here is the drinking and that’s what needs to be addressed unless he is truly having an affair with the neighbor which it’s hard to say at this point! Bottom line though feel terrible for the poor little 8 yo girl in the middle of this!

[@yogaqueen1527]

Bingo

[@cicicorleo]

I've let men go so he could wake up or learn for the next woman. I have absolutely no respect for this woman. I understand why the husband doesn't either. She is a doormat. Who would want a doormat?

[@pamelavesey6381]

She is going to sacrifice her daughter to keep the man. I no longer feel sorry for weak enablers.

[@lav7161]

John nailed it. This call isn't about the daughter. She's too prideful to say she was devastated to see her husband with another woman. Edit: After hearing the full call, she is in complete denial. Deep down, she knows this wasn't the first time he cheated. Low self esteem can ruin you.

[@alluringbliss4165]

I wondering what’s wrong with you: prideful!!!

[@erzabetf9544]

Prideful? Or maybe bewildered and unprepared for her husband’s disgusting, disrespectful behavior. And maybe she doesn’t want to admit to herself or anyone else that she married and had a kid with a degenerate. And maybe she knows that, as bad as it is to be married to this @sshat, it might be worse to be divorced from him. Imagine “co-parenting” with this guy, who hates his wife and doesn’t seem to care about his daughter; he’ll skip visits whenever he feels like it; and he won’t pay child support on time, if at all.

[@Kinksgalore]

She's the type to say, "I'm only here for the kids." Thanks to Dr. John for calling her out and saying keep the child out of adult drama.

[@cherylvisconti]

@@erzabetf9544exactly

[@thornyrose1235]

Yeah it was sad. She kept saying that she's going to have more words for her husband later as if there's a magical concoction of words that can get him to change his behaviours and that is why she called Dr. John for help. Her husband will not change because he doesn't have to. She will accept all of his bad behaviours because she's in denial. I feel for her daughter who will grow up thinking this is ok

[@anglofrancaiseyvonne9349]

When I got divorced, I begged my ex to keep his dirty business away from my boys, I just didnt want them to think whatever he does was right and let them lose respect for themselves and others, how bad that man is divorce him!!

[@9liveslisa]

His drinking problem is 10 times worse than she thinks it is. What he did is not OK in any way, shape, or form. If she stays married to him, it will happen again. He doesn't care at all. He wanted her to see this. If it were me, I'd walk out the door with my daughter and never look back. I'd be telling myself, I deserve a hell of a lot better than this. And I'd be teaching my daughter that too.

[@LyYAHN]

Yes! He probably is only sober very sporadically... she decides to not know about it. Ignorance is bliss.

[@MissG-yl6xj]

That lady is Insane!!! YOU ONLY GET TREATED THE WAY YOU ALLOW PEOPLE TO. How is she not outraged or fuming mad at what her husband did ..she's more concern on how it looks to her daughter .... smh.

[@dahliaherrod4301]

I don't think she's allowed herself to feel the full weight of her husband's betrayal. It's a lot so I get it but it's not helpful at all.

[@mrv2308]

@@dahliaherrod4301that’s an excuse. Stop that.

[@jamiebrown-nugent9120]

Yikes! I'm trying to have some fun?!?

[@kellyturner4571]

Am I in the twilight zone?! You’re showing your daughter what love and marriage looks like. This is unacceptable behavior! His actions AND his words. *Leave.*

[@cindieogata1578]

She may not have the skills. He should be the one to go - she should change the locks - put his clothes in luggage and in his car - file for a restraining order and divorce.

[@erzabetf9544]

@@cindieogata1578 You can’t just get a restraining order because you’re mad at someone. 😂 I think she should leave this jerk, for sure, but she can’t get a court to order him to stay away from her because he kissed the neighbor. And she’ll make herself look like a crazy harridan if she tries.

[@Siamese66]

What if she have anywhere else to go?

[@StarletOfDavid]

She still wants this man? She’s trying to excuse his behavior by saying he’s got PTSD. No, he’s just an ass. She needs to figure out logistics. Selling the house - hoarding some money away. Sthg along those lines.

[@BSCTrainerRob]

A friend of mine confided in me that when he was 8 he walked in on his dad making out with his secretary in the office. After that his dad became much closer with him and he never became very tight with his mom, even to this day. Its like his dad took him under his wing to keep him quiet. He never told him mom but who knows what she knew

[@alwaysyouramanda]

Gross… here’s one for the birth control adds. (If women were directing them.)

[@alluringbliss4165]

He probably will become like his father

[@Carla-hl3fm]

I don't think she was trying to put it on her daughter. She was trying to figure out what to say to her and how.

[@indiaandrews6996]

It is amazing what adults do in front of children thinking it won’t go anywhere.

[@erzabetf9544]

I think he knew what he was doing. He hates his wife and probably struggles not to hate his daughter. He’s trash. Ashley should leave this dirtbag.

[@PollyPatriot]

I saw my father kissing a neighbor when I was about 3 years old; It stuck with me. I’m 61 years old.

[@mrv2308]

How do people remember things at 3 years old haha

[@amelias.2509]

​​@@mrv2308I actually remember things from younger than 3 yrs old. I'm the only one in my family that can. It's kind of cool.

[@LyYAHN]

​@mrv2308 I remember stuff that happened when I was 4 years old and younger (to about 2 years). It happens especially when the thing that happened was in some way extraordinary... positive or negative.

[@distorbia20]

This woman has checked out too and an eight year old is stuck with them. The husband and wife both have weird way of communicating.

[@elizabethlkemp]

Why are people so rude in the comments???

[@JustinCase780]

Pretty strange. Sweet lady made this call and she's in so much pain and in fear. John helped her a lot.

[@dahliaherrod4301]

@@SarahConnor562 I was worried the responses to this woman's question would be terrible but yours was actually quite apt and really summarized what I've seen in every Dr. Deloney video I've seen to date.

[@ilykepink]

Telling the truth isn’t rude

[@amethystmoonchild6568]

Because they want better for her and I know she’s not gonna get it because she’s going to stay with him she doesn’t want better for herself. This will be her life and it’s upsetting

[@elizabethlkemp]

@@ilykepink The truth is fine. The judgements attached are what I have a problem with. Using descriptors like "stupid", "loser", "insane", "bad mom" are unnecessary.

[@Emptytopfloor]

Divorce

[@dabd8175]

@@Emptytopfloor Dog mom

[@Mmmmkaaay]

​@@dabd8175you say that like it's a bad thing. 🤔

[@dabd8175]

@@Mmmmkaaay it is

[@Mmmmkaaay]

@@dabd8175 That's okay. Not everyone loves dogs.

[@joansmith8840]

I stayed 20 years with a guy just like that because I didn’t want my family torn apart… but the fact is he had already torn our family apart every time he cheated drank gambled and lied

[@midnightblue117]

I’m assuming you are co- dependant?

[@nutellajizz9459]

​@@midnightblue117 is or was.

[@midnightblue117]

@@nutellajizz9459 That’s hard to say uh?

[@nutellajizz9459]

@@midnightblue117 I’m saying like she could’ve been but isn’t now and grown bebe

[@cicicorleo]

Good point

[@kayn2756]

She is looking for every excuse to rationalize his behavior. 😢😢😢. He has been messing with the neighbor for a long time, and maybe there are others.

[@LyYAHN]

And she knew about it, too...

[@cicicorleo]

She probably already has jerpes, very common with drunken circles. They're sloppy people. Nasty.

[@Elizabethatthebeach]

It feels like she still isnt ready to leave yet... Hopefully she can begin to get some counseling and build up her self enough to face reality. Then maybe she will be strong enough to leave.

[@tamiaedrington5762]

I feel bad but this woman was a bit frustrating to listen to. You just walked out on your husband cheating in front of your daughter and you don’t know what to do? Glad he told her to grow a spine, protect your daughter’s heart if you’re too weak to do it for yourself but my empathy runs low when kids are involved.

[@alluringbliss4165]

You sound as cold as the husband. Better say nothing when you have nothing valuable to add.

[@Abulls33]

She’s asking a genuine question. Shes almost certainly in shock considering she saw her husband, kissing another woman. And you shouldn’t say “but.” You don’t start your next sentence with a “but”

[@Cashhhhew]

@@SarahConnor562would you say the same to a career fire fighter? They have the highest rate of lung disease/cancer and they chose to do that job. It’s on them then, right?

[@Abulls33]

@@SarahConnor562 and how exactly did the caller bring this on herself? What was her said “role” in this situation?

[@Abulls33]

@@SarahConnor562 you are so unsympathetic and you’re not proving me wrong so, conversation over. Have a nice day

[@karil6461]

"Im trying to have some fun" 🙅‍♀️ that man would have needed the cops after that

[@user-ku5vm5jb1h]

That cheater would have been out of the house THAT NIGHT! Divorce papers served next business day. Period.

[@sds6303]

Dr. John is missing the fact that this man is highly narcissistic & will NEVER change. He won’t go to therapy, he won’t go to AA, he won’t stop cheating. He has no empathy & even likes seeing her in pain. He sadly doesn’t care about her or his family. He doesn’t think he has a problem. This is a personality thing.

[@userP8t05jP82K]

Very well put: "he doesn't think he has a problem" Exactly like my ex-husband. He sees prostitutes and thinks it's cool and acceptable while having a wife meanwhile professing undying love to the wife at the same time.

[@noone-dv1jo]

@@userP8t05jP82Kwell if it’s just prostitutes it’s probably just a man being horny, those two aren’t mutually exclusive

[@azimuthbusinesscenter]

this is a teachable moment. Little Jimmy needs to learn about blackmail and extortion

[@alwaysyouramanda]

😂

[@melkerner]

I feel bad for her. My wife hasn't kissed me or touched mt for 8 years and very little the 7 years before that - and I would never do anything like this, especially in front of my kids. Good Lord what is wrong with people?

[@GalaxyFluke]

That’s so sad. What is your wife’s problem? Sounds like she doesn’t care about you. Good for you for being a good man. But this breaks my heart

[@brownin329]

Why are you still there? Does she know how you feel? If you've done the work and it's still not working, you know where the door is. Get some counseling for yourself and when you're ready to go, get a lawyer and a place to live before you end things. Good luck to you.

[@melkerner]

@@brownin329 We are in counseling

[@Lipstickandchampagne]

Wow! Had a similar experience but it was my Dad getting cheated on by my step mom. She took me and her daughter to go shopping (I was then 6 and she was 3). She then pulled over in front of a house, got out the car, and met some guy and they just started kissing. I was like wtf? Once we got to the house, my Dad asked where we had been. Of course I was truthful, and she started calling me all types of liars. Like lady what? 😂. And she got her daughter to lie for her. I also had to go back home after that. (I was visiting for the summer).

[@carolinadecarvalho461]

This doc is so spot on. It is a relief to hear him talking the truth like this. And I so think that he is oh so right. Girl, that man is no good. Better to be alone than in bad company.

[@RandomAccessFlicks]

I really hope this woman grows a spine & protects her daughter by getting her out of this putrid environment. She needs therapy to help her through, but SHE has to do the work of growing a pair. If not, she'll be calling back in 15 years with "my daughter won't talk to me & I din't know why." So sad.😢

[@laurao8099]

I think it's a stretch to say that the mama's putting all of this on her daughter! The dad is the one who put this on his daughter

[@erzabetf9544]

I think JD meant that she was focusing on her daughter when she should’ve been focusing on her husband’s behavior and her own reaction to it. Not that she was blaming her daughter.

[@laurao8099]

@erzabetf9544 Yeah, I know it's just the way he worded it that was really abrupt and blunt. In the beginning, she said she wanted help on how to approach this with her daughter.

[@erzabetf9544]

@@laurao8099 She seemed to be looking for magic words to make this okay for her daughter, instead of trying to figure out how she feels about it. She’s like a lot of people who just want a miracle to make the bad thing disappear. There’s nothing she can do for her daughter until she decides what to do for herself. She can’t tell her husband to drink less and expect that he’ll … drink less and behave better. That man hates her. He HATES her. There’s no other explanation. So she can’t focus on what lie to tell her daughter to make it all go away, and expect that her daughter will come out unscathed.

[@alluringbliss4165]

One reason I am very scared to be married.

[@missinginbc]

I pray you find the one God has for you. 😊

[@cherylvisconti]

Stay single.

[@gschneider225]

If anything, The wife is under reacting to what her husband did. Drinking is not an excuse, and he has probably cheated on her before and will continue to do so.

[@thornyrose1235]

For sure. If that was the first time his drunk ass kissed that neighbour she would have been like "Get off me! What the heck are you doing?!" They've been going at it a lot longer than the caller wants to believe

[@Juli-ge4yp]

It is not Ashley's job to make her husband a better dad or better man. She can't make him something he's not. But Ashley can model for her young daughter what self-respect looks like and what types of behaviors are unacceptable & and will not be tolerated. This shouldn't be confused with showing someone grace and giving forgiveness. He hasnt demonstrated any remorse or assumed any responsibility for the behavior his child and wife saw, his complete lack of respect for his wife, and his disregard for the impact his choices have made on those he supposedly loved.

[@honeybadgerdgf8876]

Bless her heart.

[@tmoh808]

She needs to divorce him ASAP!

[@kirstenmcculloch3008]

I am so happy Delony is there for this woman. That man is narcissistic, emotionally abusive, manipulative... she is very obviously in a relationship that she can't break out of. Alcoholism is just a cherry on top. This woman is grieving, first stage - you can't pull someone out of that. Props to this Dr. John for his patience with her as she processes.

[@bg370z9]

She’s teaching her daughter that this is what a relationship is. I grew up with an alcoholic philanderer and the other parent who relied on me (as a young child) for emotional support through it all. I am now incapable of trusting anyone enough, or being vulnerable enough, to have to have a relationship with them. I’ve tried a couple of times, but I ended up sabotaging them. I’ve mostly focused on my career, making investments, and had short lived casual encounters. Not a fulfilling way to live.

[@ae3209]

That he just wanted to have fun 😮😮😮 that was so deeply disrespectful

[@BigBobbyBoLo]

I need to know more about this Neighbor... Is she also married? what was her response? I need answers?!?!?

[@sabrinagranger5468]

I fully agree with that first point: The daughter needs to be told, clearly and directly and in no uncertain terms, that what she saw was wrong. Not "a mistake", none of that weird semantic nonsense. At her age, it's very important that she hears that it was wrong (I'm not saying she should be told that her father is a monster or evil or anything like that, before someone jumps down my throat, but she needs the acknowledgment that it was wrong full stop, no excuses), and then she needs to see that her mother values herself enough to not allow herself to be mistreated like that.

[@atomicgeisha]

I would lock him out of the house.

[@mrsTraveller64]

So she caught him with his secret gf, but she is too blind to see it. The husband is lucky to have a wife who allows him to have a gf!!!!! I hope she stops lying to herself about thinking it's a one time fling, IT IS NOT. And it really doesn't matter, she needs to get out fast OR get used to beeing the wife of a cheater. He will NOT stop, he will continue to HAVE FUN as he calls it.

[@brittw9781]

Drinking is not making him cheat…HE’S CHEATING BECAUSE HE WANTS TO!! He does it sober…trust

[@MirellaDerks]

There are men that used to drink, blew up everything, quit drinking and tried to make things better again.... But the women kept living in the past. So it's not always the men that are the problem... The question is can both partners become real partners again....

[@savedbygracespurling1840]

This lady didn’t care that her husband kissed someone else☹️

[@agricolaregs]

That’s not what I get at all.

[@CrystalM1917]

Yeah bc of the way she acted, regardless of her daughters presence when she saw it. She was just like you need tonget in the house. I would have told him he needs to gtfo...😮

[@brightpage1020]

I know a lady who caught her hubs cheating when she and their kids drive up to surprise him with supper at closing time. They got a surprise. Her daughter (I think 7 at the time?) goes: “Daddy is *so* busted!” She said if it weren’t for the kids in the car, she’d have driven over the affair parties. She had to stop herself from doing that because she knew that would mean Dad was dead and mommy was in jail and either of those would be worse than seeing what they had just seen. But she said her foot was over the gas pedal for a full minute while she talked herself down before they realized his family was there watching them in the car.

[@lyndalamb3221]

"I'm not real happy about it"-John was right about the husband's funeral. Why did Daddy do that? Because Daddy doesn't think he has to keep the promise he made to Mommy.

[@donnawheeler2195]

This woman is a flake. He has 100% cheated, and she’s delusional.

[@destined2bebossy]

She's dependent on him and has checked out of the marriage so a part of her is ok with him cheating, she just is mad about the embarrassment and escalation of it.

[@l3hxy]

He gets to that point when he's drinking because he wants to. It's not any deeper than that. He's selfish. That's it. She's only down to waste her whole life wondering how he got to this point of selfishness because she doesn't believe she can make herself happier yet. What a redemption story that would be for her daughter though

[@CaToRi-]

Neighbors should know a lot more about his infidelities

[@brittw9781]

Drinking is not making him cheat…HE’S CHEATING BECAUSE HE WANTS TO!! He does it sober…trust me

[@angryshadeofpink]

This wasn't drunk behavior at all. He's a cheater and alcohol is just a convenient cover story because the caller believes it. I hope she finds the strength to realize she deserves better and her daughter absolutely needs better than this.

[@shayesmithcustomlyricvideos]

I don’t think this will end well. His disregard for his wife and child says it all.

[@ConstantlyRepeatingMyself]

It’s one thing to kiss a woman behind closed doors but he was making out with her in the front yard of his house. Drunk or not, I bet he doesn’t have any love or respect for her when he’s sober. The sad part is that her daughter saw it and saw how the mom is handling the situation. She’s sending a message to her daughter that this is what marriage is like and it’s okay to be disrespected by your partner. If he doesn’t seek help immediately and make amends with both the wife and daughter leave him if not she will be in the same position 20-30 yrs down the road.

[@truehogan]

That husband done cheated before and Barbara knows it. Girl, get your ducks in a row and leave him. Blink if you’re afraid for your life. Is he a psychopath? Has he threatened to harm you and your baby if you leave?

[@MsBamafanatic]

Her "I means" drove me crazy. She is in denial that she is an enabler. She doesn't really want to have the hard conversation of, "You need to do this, or we are moving on." She doesn't want to lose that false security.

[@maggiekuzera8243]

I would ask my husband that if a man did this to our daughter how would he feel if she came to her daddy and told him what her husband did. How would he react.

[@tiger05rtc]

This guy is such a woman pleaser. He knows what position in these arguments makes the most money.

[@bg370z9]

What advice would you give?

[@ananimity7332]

DIVORCE HIM!!!!!

[@mmmmlllljohn]

Alcoholics lie to their family and lie to themselves. They cannot see reality so I hope this mom can be strong and tell him to leave until he can show her he is sober and going to AA. Don’t worry about what he is going through or why he drinks because you can’t control any of that but you can control what you will do with the crap he has put on you and your 8 year old. Show your daughter that women deserve respect or she will allow herself to be disrespected. ❤️

[@Sommerain]

You've got all you need. Take him to the cleaners and move on. His response says you'll live the rest of your life this way. Don't miss the opportunity.

[@actual_doge3221]

My father took me to his girlfriends house. I still keep thos secret nearly 20 years later .

[@AlexisDavis16]

🥺

[@bayareacali]

ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER! DIVORCE THE LOSER!

[@WinterIsWelcome]

Ashley, if you take anything from his advice it’s to grow a spine. Stand up for yourself. Stand up on your daughter’s behalf. Stop excusing his behavior by thinking what caused this can be fixed easily. You’re not responsible for his behavior, it’s not your job to fix him-HE needs to do that himself. Set boundaries. Enact consequences. Not just for yourself but for your daughter. Otherwise you will continue to see this behavior from him because you’re allowing it.

[@coolkidvt01]

Tiger wood's super model wife followed his car with a gold club and broke the glass in rage..... that's what a woman with self-respect does.

[@sherburck]

She wants to fix him….

[@Beautytrends77]

This lady is actually justifying his behavior. She is actually trying to work through this and there is nothing to work through. The person that’s going to be the one that hurts the most of this is her daughter. I honestly think Ashley is pretty selfish for even considering to work on this. Lady wake up, he kissed another woman in front of your 8 yr old!!! 🤯

[@motrcrosgrl]

My dad use to take me and my brother to his gf's homes. We were like 5-7 years old, yes he has been cheating on my mom for years, he thought we wouldnt know whats going on but We knew! He cheated on my mom til i turned 18.

[@truehogan]

This woman is crying out for help. She’s terrified.

[@juniorlsdmusic]

Get video evidence because he'll deny it of course and say it only happened one time drunk.

[@CyberXShinobi]

Looking at these comments reminds me that you shouldn't take life advice from people in the comment section.😅

[@susanamunoz3537]

Which one for example? They all seem pretty on point to me

[@missinginbc]

Hahaha. Yup!😂

[@Kinksgalore]

9:00 Everyone saying divorce but this is who he is before the marriage or child was born. She accepted all of him the day she got pregnant. Why complain now?🤔

[@izzywox8246]

Nobody has tolerate abuse. Man or woman

[@Kinksgalore]

@@izzywox8246 she accept disrespect on the first date.

[@queenari1142]

She doesn’t have to to stay with a man who doesn’t care or respect her. He wants to get lost in booze and women fine. His daughter doesn’t need to witness that, she needs to see her mother be strong and fight for what she deserves.

[@callenday6853]

If I had to guess, in his heart of hearts, he wants out. Still a child.

[@araceliramirez7315]

LEAVE! He's been cheating on her probably with the neighbor for awhile. Drinking isn't an excuse

[@kaitlincyr]

She keeps saying I have "so much to say", he should have lots to say, including apologies and a plan for how to make things better. Iit shouldn't be up to her

[@davinasquirrel7672]

She wants to know what to say, so he can get it together? Nope. Here is what you say... "Time to pack your stuff, you are moving out TODAY. You will not treat me, or our daughter like that. You have a low regard for females, clearly. You made a choice to fool around with the neighbour, in public, and then had the audacity not to be apologetic for your actions (at the time). Choices have consequences, and moving out (and divorce) are those consequences for you." Because the most telling behaviour in all of this, was his attitude straight after the fact "I was just having some fun". That means he has zero respect for you, and he has had previous 'fun' (being so casual when caught). Delony is correct, the chances of this dude turning it around, are next to zero. Rip off the bandaid, and fast. The sooner you do that, the sooner you can get your life back on an even keel.

[@Mayfloweralways]

I’m going to guess that most or almost all of their conversations start with how she is the problem and she has gotten to the point where she assumes that’s true. That’s why she is so calm. She sees it as she broke things by not being enough for her husband. and can fix it- you can hear it in the “i can fix this problem with him” approach. She doesn’t see that he is the one that is the literal problem and she cannot fix him, and it’s not her job to fix this. It’s his. But i can also guess he won’t. He has no respect for her.

[@UpStateNyXHwife12]

She's a lot more hurt than we could ever even imagine, Because if she walks away from her husband she loses everything, her home her lifestyle her car her everything shall have nothing and either will her kids

[@AquaGirl953]

This was heartbreaking, the neighbor and the husband are absolute trash.

[@Molly.Blaylock]

Oh darlin…

[@marcoguevara8850]

Sometimes it's hard to be a woman Givin' all your love to just one man You'll have the bad times And he'll have the good times Doing things that you don't understand But if you love him, you'll forgive him Even though he's hard to understand, mm, mm And if you love him, oh, be proud of him 'Cause after all, he's just a man Stand by your man Give him two arms to cling to And something warm to come to When nights are cold and lonely Stand by your man And show the world you love him Keep giving all the love you can, mm, mm Stand by your man, hmm, hmm Stand by your man (Ooh, ooh) And show the world you love him (Ooh, ooh) Keep giving all the love you can Stand by your man, mm, mm, mm