My Co-Worker Is Claiming We're Using "Office Politics" To Bully Her r/Relationships

[@stirlingarcher7972]

“I do not think I am in danger of physical abuse” I do not think we can trust OP’s instincts rn, look at her actions so far.

[@jaymel4691]

The whole situation is really scary, OP is stuck in a foreign country with no one but some guy she met on the internet, who basically just used her for sex but doesn't give a shit about her otherwise. I hope she's ok and got out of there.

[@jaymel4691]

Many people never think they are "in danger of physical abuse" until it actually happens.

[@StoutShako]

I feel like the commenters were not hysterical enough when trying to convey the danger she was in. Girls like her end up "missing" all the time. That shitbag 100% knew what he was doing, and I can't BELIEVE she's giving him a chance to lovebomb her and convince her everything is fine before starting the cycle of abuse anew. Does she even have any family or friends who would miss her if she was gone? I am legitimately freaking the fuck out

[@ophilianecr]

This chick was desperate from the get go. Desperate to have a relationship, that she accepted a long distance one. Desperate to move in with him that she didn't even meet him ONCE prior to uprooting her life. Desperate to feel wanted, she slept with him as soon as they met. Desperate to feel important to him, that she won't just leave after his BS criticism. Desperate to keep him despite all his red flags that she *LETS HIM CONVINCE HER TO STAY LONGER THAN SHE SHOULD*. That desperation to have a relationship is what makes her judgement on this situation and this guy untrustworthy. Dumb all around, and too spineless to have any self respect and leave. And no, being dumb doesn't make it less tragic if she gets kidnapped and trafficked; but it does highlight how preventable all this could have been.

[@darky5554]

@@ophilianecr sadly emotions sometimes make people dumb, but i fear your been abit harsh on the girl we dont know her background for all we know she came from a abusive home and thinks this is normal and is latching onto the feelings of been wanted. Its sad truth when i was younger i dident get alone much with my family and my bf at the time conviced me they dident want me and i believed him and moved away and in with him. I got away luckily but not before he harmed me alot and did stuff adult stuff too me without my permisson. I regret that part of my life and my stupid brain but i can also see how i got sucked in and how this girl is getting sucked in. Best we can hope is she sees the light before it too late and gets the fuck out of there.

[@ian7064]

Story 1: "Cathy made a b-line for me in the break room and said together we can take down the ageist clique in the office". Lol does she think she's count Dooku or something

[@rogerrabbit80]

Kathy wanted to be the "Power Behind the Throne", the unofficial controller of the office society. The idea was to use the bullying accusations to make herself appear more influential. "You know, Joe used to act like that to me. I hope he likes his new company."

[@ian7064]

@@rogerrabbit80 I know exactly what you mean. The guidance counselors/advisors at my old high school were apparently like the "queen bees" behind the scenes. They had a ton of influence when it came to deciding who to hire, who to let go, and even punishment. I found out after the fact that they'd let a few teachers go just bc they "didn't like them"

[@vanguardangel6912]

This content just sent me LORD HAVE MERCY! 😂

[@sophiescott143]

Story 1: You cannot tell your coworkers you wish to keep your work and private life completely separate and then bitch about people not inviting you places. She was so far in the wrong, not even counting the update stuff.

[@philwill0123]

In a way I think you can. Invites to things are different to Facebook/WhatsApp groups. I remember removing myself from a WhatsApp group because it was pinging non stop most evenings full of crap

[@Sherwoody]

Funny thing about social media. So many people are careless about what they post. I had a coworker who was supposed to have been off due to a work injury (no one saw it happen) and posted pictures of herself zip lining in Cancun. She had a lot of fancy explaining to do to HR when she returned.

[@invisible123-l9d]

The group were very cliquey, and their attitude was 'you can't be in our gang' right from the start. Had they been genuinely welcoming, and not shunned Kathy, the situation would never have arisen. Kathy did not like some tv shows, and the group treated her like a criminal for it.

[@CouncilEstateRach]

​@@invisible123-l9dyou are very odd. Did you not listen to what was said? SMH I just don't understand how people can hear words but come to a totally different conclusion to everyone else. She called someone she works with a N word with the hard R? If you wrote that on one's facebook in the UK and someone reported you to the cops..... you can get a visit from the police who WILL arrest you and you WILL go to court for it. We don't have the first amendment like the USA does. A teenager wrote the lyrics of a rap song her best friend loved who had recently passed away on facebook and she was of mixed race herself too.... she got arrested and got a criminal record...for writing the lyrics of a song which contained the n word but it ended in an A. She has a criminal record now!!!! FOR LIFE!

[@invisible123-l9d]

@@CouncilEstateRach If you can be civil, and stop assuming that I am an idiot, because I am female, let me know.

[@LisaApril]

Story two: My God, this girls gonna wind up dead or sex trafficked. I feel really sorry for her and I also think she’s incredibly stupid. It’s every parents job to raise their kids knowing the dangers of this kind of thing and giving them the confidence to get out right away if they find themselves in a bad situation. Instead of taking everyone’s advice, this girl again told the guy she wanted to leave (which she was explicitly advised not to do) . And now she’s going to go somewhere where she doesn’t know the people? Which she already did by going on the plane to meet This stranger… This whole post gives me the most dreadful feeling

[@neilfelsbourg170]

As soon as she said they might go up north to visit his friends I thought has she never seen the movie Taken? Mark if you get an update please post it but I don't think this girl will be heard from again.

[@mbyerly9680]

Yeah, she's dead or sold into sex trafficking. Stupid, stupid, stupid.

[@RosensDragon2140]

unfortunately, if you look up the user name you can see this post is from FIVE YEARS ago. And she never made any post after the first update.

[@scheneli000]

@@RosensDragon2140 I just tried looking up the op on Reddit, but their account didn’t even come up

[@RosensDragon2140]

@@scheneli000 I had to find it by searching via Google and that tool me to the archived post.

[@brigidtheirish]

1: OP in on the spectrum. Everyone in the office knows. Kathy called OP the "office idiot." Right. Time to bury a body. Almost wish there was video of her being fired. Must've been quite a scene to dent her desk. 2: Object lesson in *never* moving in with someone you haven't met in person. *Definitely* don't sell your car and use *all your savings* to do it! She should have left *immediately.* This post was from, what, almost five years ago? No other updates? She thinks she isn't at risk of physical abuse? ... Hope I'm wrong, but I think she's probably dead.

[@aethertoast4320]

On story 2, general consensus seems is that she got trafficked. Especially with being years old, no update, and nothing at all happening when it comes to the account.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@aethertoast4320 Sad but not surprising in the slightest.

[@smellyolegoat150]

I’m very very concerned about OP in that final story. Admittedly, I was working while I was listening, so I may have missed something. That trip they had planned felt like a human trafficking situation to me. It was not helped by the lack of a further update either. I hope OP is okay. I pray she updates soon.

[@jodianbeckford1312]

Or just go homeless in another country since she sold all her shit like a dumbass. He could have just kicked her out, she has no family or friends there... I can't with stupid people

[@lindsay4647]

I agree. That's honestly really scary. I really hope op is alright.

[@clairebear-96]

Yeah the lack of an update was scary to me too, Idk how long ago the story was posted but I hope she’s okay and made it back home

[@lindsay4647]

@@clairebear-96 appears to have been 4 years ago

[@clairebear-96]

@@lindsay4647 Oh my god okay that makes it WAY worse, I seriously hope she’s okay and safe

[@dm9078]

Sold her car and used her savings to move in with a guy she had never met in another country. That’s not naive that is stupid beyond words. 🤦🏽 Edit: After the update you cannot fix stupid!

[@jodianbeckford1312]

My Sympathy didn't even get to start. She deserves everything that happens. What a moron.

[@Kris-wo4pj]

Depending on the country sounds like she got sold into human trafficking which if thst happened I'm not going to blame her cuz those men are extremely manipulative.

[@CyeOutsider]

I had a friend who did something similar. She gave up her job - a really great job - to go overseas to be with a guy who she met once while on holiday. At the time they first met in person, he was one of her older sister's open relationship partners. I tried as hard as I could to tell her this was a bad idea. It was a disaster. He didn't mention that he was still married (he couldn't leave her because they have a business together and it's too hard, blah blah). The relationship fizzled out quickly. He was an ass. Its sad - she's always looking for love in all the wrong places.

[@Azulakayes]

Story 2: I think the boyfriend is trying to break down OP's self-esteem so that she would be dependant on him. It reminds me of that man who kept telling his girlfriend that she had bad body odor in order to control her(odor-order 😄). I don't get why people are this cruel to others. OP had better leave him, its better to get heartbroken now than in the future when more complications are bound to arise.

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

OP won't leave him anytime soon. She asked for advice and mostly ignored it. She also seems to have a condition commonly known as "sad brain".

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@janglesthearsonist5265 I think she wanted Reddit people to reinforce her for staying with him and telling her that things will get better and she needs to stay with him. The dude basically wanted a live-in sex toy until he found someone better. She didn't meet his expectations of her after they met and started living together. When will people understand there is no such thing as a long-distance relationship. You are chat buddies that might bang every now and then when you get to see each other. For a relationship to be real it has to be both emotional and physical. We are humans, we need that physical touch and it doesn't have to be sexual, just physical like kissing, cuddling, holding hands, rubbing nipples, that sort of thing. Whoops, where did that last one come from lol???

[@ericaallisonc]

@@thomasjoseph5876 I wasted 3 years in a long distance relationship, eventually figured out he didn’t want to do anything with his life and practically just wanted a “mommy” instead of a partner.

[@YoYo-gt5iq]

Geez. "Don't message me ever again," then, "why aren't you including me?"

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#2 - I am so scared for OP, her safety and the possibility of this guy being a front for human trafficking! He's going to take her 'up north'? WTF? And she is still with him? Dammit. Someone needs to tell that girl to get her things together and get the hell out of there before something awful happens to her! How long ago was her update!?

[@patronofdragons]

The update was about 5 years ago. I hope she is okay and this isn't a trafficking situation.

[@donnaprudente8252]

This is the reason I watch your channel. You have updates. Without the update they are just waste of time

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 I would screencap Kathy’s facebook comments and then ignore her. I understand the pain of being left out of fun group events-but you don’t get to whine if you shoot down every invitation and backtalk people. Update: Annnnnd fired. Good riddance

[@invisible123-l9d]

Maybe if the invitation had been genuine, and not a 'do I have to' 'invitation', the situation would have been different.

[@dianecheney4141]

That’s why she wants to be included. More fodder for her account. She doesn’t want friends, she wants content

[@Garden366]

Can everyone say “ Machiavellian”? Look it up. Kathy is a textbook case. Good riddance to a very bad seed and I know the office will now run more smoothly. Have fun on your social nights out!

[@jackie187]

Before I saw your Machiavellian statement, this is what I thought! We ALL know that sh*t is hitting the fan everywhere AND it's all pretty much political. We know that America is standing in the way of the NWO! My feeling is that this person is being paid to try to take down businesses to keep in form with the taking down of our nation. A lot of these people are MK ULTRA MIND CONTROLLED PUPPETS. Look up Project Paperclip! Monarch & watch Revelations of a Mother Goddess by David Icke on YT. It explains a lot. I've been researching a lot of these things & since I am a Disabled Female Veteran, I do know about some of this crap! I served my country from 1976-1982, USAF. Our Military has been involved in some of this stuff, the higher ranking officers that is. There are people who have been MK ULTRA'D to start riots, some are SUPER SOLDIERS who are programmed to start killing during the END TIME programming AND if they get caught, they're programmed to commit suicide. NOT KIDDING. So this came to mind because of Kathy's erratic behavior. I feel like she's been programmed. BUT, people have their own minds & can think for themselves. I just suggest that you do your own research. Also, there's one more person who has some great insight to this madness. Her Platform is probablyalexandra.com, I highly suggest that you watch some of her videos.

[@kawaibakaneko]

She is far from being a genius, she post everything on her highly public facebook 😂 Her manipulations were never going to work, did she expect her (more and more close knitted) coworkers to never talk together? And she communicated via her work mail too! She tried to be a master manipulator but failed miserabily

[@DrownedInExile]

Story1: Aww OP totally should have peeked in on Kathy's FB after she was fired. But just once. My petty arse would have responded to her inevitable tirade with a giant Laugh emoji. Then blocked her.

[@jessicamarshall1975]

Story 2: I’m a cautious person. I couldn’t have done what OP did. And if I did do something like that the second my partner said something like that I would’ve gone back home. My mind would instantly jump to worst case scenario that the person had tricked me and that bad things were in store if I stayed. I’m just too cautious.

[@davidkristahay]

NEVER confront a coworker alone. Ask for an HR mediation and BRING THE EVIDENCE.

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Story one: Kathy sounds like a drama queen. Don't complain or lie about not being invited or being bullied when you YOURSELF decline said invitations!! YOU ARE MAKING THE WORKPLACE HOSTILE! Story one/after updates: YEP! DRAMA QUEEN! ರ╭╮ರ Story two: He doesn't deserve you when he's this shallow. Drop him and live well.

[@itbesid1566]

Yep. Now I know why Kathy was so hung up on the “high school bullying,” because she apparently never matured past her teen years and is still just as bratty, judgmental, and drama-hungry as she probably was back then. Assuming she didn’t just make that story up for sympathy, of course.

[@chrisa.k.1531]

Actually, She sounds almost sociopathic.

[@invisible123-l9d]

The groups' attitude was 'you can't be in our gang', right from the start. The group never welcomed Kathy. they merely tolerated her. They excluded her, through their 'in jokes' and the 'invitation' was a 'do I have to' one, not a genuine invitation. Maybe if they had been less cliquey, and more welcoming, the situation would not have arisen.

[@Lestaticate]

Story 1: Wish I was able to see Kathy's update on her facebook after she was given the boot! Seriously though, I'm not sure if she was ACTUALLY planning on getting a co-worker drunk and using him, or just talking out of her hole, but that is one MESSED up thing to say. Story 2: STOP calling him "boyfriend" he is an abuser feeding off your naivety. It may not be physical abuse NOW, but it sure as hell is mental. He's feels "sorry" because he doesn't want to lose control of you. Pack up and go home.

[@KisameOwnsYouAll]

s1; This coworker is EXACTLY the dog meme! Dog; -has ball- throw ball! No take! Only throw! You need to put in the effort with your relationships if you want to have those relationships.

[@GreenSkye42]

Story two has similarities to what happened to me when I was 17. Sad .. hope their life goes well

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 this will need to be a life lesson. You need to at least meet this person a few times and spend a few weeks with them. I wonder if he's just getting cold feet about this big life change. If you showed him photos and videos of you in real time, you did nothing wrong. If he's offering to help you get home, take him up on the offer. Don't call him your BF. Do not stay. DO NOT STAY!

[@unicornglitterfart5201]

I have a feeling that filters and flattering angles were used all the time. Hell we even have filters that totally change one's appearance while live streaming and on video calls.

[@Musiyca]

@@unicornglitterfart5201 And that's why you make an efford to meet up irl if you're into someone, especially when you are in LDR. You don't just suddenly up and move in with them, not when we're talking moving countries!

[@huh4963]

Story two: one of my friends posted a kinda similar story on Reddit. Honestly, op should just leave him. He’s not worth it if he’s going to treat you like that on the first interaction

[@Tammohawk1]

1. Kathy played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. 2. I would have left without talking about it. Of course he's going to convince her to stay.

[@villageidiot7584]

Idk something about that last story screams of human trafficking to me, I really hope the OP is okay

[@dracawyn]

Story 2: makes me think of that story where OP's boyfriend kept insisting that she stank. My money is on this AH trying to neg her to lock her down now that she's there in person.

[@aethertoast4320]

Then the trip with friends that he desperately tried to keep her at to go on added on top of her account going completely silent sounds like we just heard the story of someone who got trafficked.

[@susanvanophem4569]

The story who sold everything to be with a loser. He is a scammer! This same thing happened to a friend of mine. They want to use all your money and plays mind games.

[@floraposteschild4184]

S2: "I love him so much" -- but he totally took advantage of you for his 'first time' and is not physically attracted to you. What about this relationship is not doomed? Take the money and anything else you can legally get, and move out to your own flat. Living on your own in a foreign country is a huge, wonderful growing experience.

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 1 & Update - Kathy sounds seriously unbalanced. Playing the victim and crying about office politics and being ostracized (even when she was actually invited!) and all the while ripping her coworkers to shreds on her facebook? And what's with the racist comments? I hope HR takes all this VERY seriously. OP and the work friends group are much better off for not having included this toxic creature in their activities. Later - Thank God she's gone!

[@markiusgalfordii9248]

The OP that moved across the country to be with her boyfriend that she's never met. There's a lot of people out there that play play games with people online online be careful. If you're going to go through with it make sure other people know about it. And where you're going that way way at least somebody buddy can be held accountable if you disappear

[@MsTemptation]

S2: I can’t say anything nice because I loathe stupid desperate people. I’ve done silly stuff but this is beyond silly. Seriously get some self esteem. No normal person sells all their crap and empties their bank account to be with someone they met online. All he wanted is what op gave him and now that he’s used her he doesn’t care. A billion people to choose from and she still manages to make the worst choice.😔😔

[@IggyHitokage]

Seeing as that second story hasn't been updated in 5 years, I sincerely doubt that OP is safe...

[@clairebear-96]

“the guy that rolled under the warehouse door” Lmfao I remember that one 😂

[@dc.pxrecious]

2nd Story is worrisome for me as there was no update. I hope OP is safe

[@tinygabriel9760]

Last story) I feel so sorry for OP. did she have no one to talk her out of this crap show.. this guy is obviously a player and used to using people... Hopefully this is a lesson she never repeats.

[@brandi5126]

Last story: no way in hell would I stay. He showed that his true face that he is dishonest scum bag that would use a girl he didn't find attractive. Next time don't be so quick to get in bed before you can get a genuine read on who a person is in real life. But I can tell you for sure this is a no go.

[@BlackLotus30]

No only I would not stay but having sex immediately after arriving would be a big no no.

[@fcold9402]

Blind move-in? Should you swallow your pride admit you made a mistake and leave? YES. It does not matter if he can "make this work". You have seen the truth of him and you will never be "good enough" because you will never be his imagination. BTW his behavior proves he is not good enough for you. Put this down as youth tax and move on as a more mature individual and do great things in your life.

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

Story 2: OP's actions in uprooting her entire life and moving in with a man in another country without previous visits seem a little thirsty. Sleeping with him immediately after getting there is a super thirsty move. Lots of long distance relationship should not equal immediate sex upon meeting. Just weird to an American girl.

[@lellepad]

Story 2 literally sounds like someone was negged into being trafficked. Icky!!!

[@mbyerly9680]

And OP ended up dead or sold into sexual slavery by the creep. Sigh. I wish she'd listened to Reddit and gotten the heck out of there that first day.

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

Story one-most companies I’ve worked for have a social media policy. That being you don’t talk about your job or colleagues on social media FULL STOP! You have 2 sign it when u start and if you break it you get the sack.

[@aethertoast4320]

The second story is really uncomfortable cause it sounds like we just listened to the last post before a woman got human trafficked.

[@maurer3d]

Story 1: What you describe is office politics.... Story 1 Update 1: well that took a massive right turn. Story 1 Update 2: good the company fired her... Story 2: You got scammed.... You were defiantly not the first.... Did you give him access to your money?..... Sounds like he is trying to get rid of you before the next victim gets there.

[@jaymel4691]

Story 2- leave now! It doesn't matter if he says he can "make this work", he's already shown you how he really feels. I feel sorry for OP, but she was more than just naive, the entire decision was stupid and ridiculous. It seems like OP may have some problems with impulse control or something, she needs to secure all her information/finances immediately, get out of there and go home. Block him everywhere. And please get some therapy to examine your decision making process. And for the love of God, OP, STOP TALKING TO HIM!! Don't talk, message, visit him, nothing! If your friends are still on good terms with him, tell them you can't hang out with them if he's going to be there. Visit them without him. Or don't visit them at all if they can't make time for you without inviting him along. OP, as long as you keep responding to this guy, he will keep trying to use you. Cut him out completely and stick to it!

[@ashleymcgaha5794]

I'm afraid that last OP was human trafficked on that trip up north or worse!

[@CyeOutsider]

Backstabbing coworkers on Facebook usually gets you fired. I dont know why Kathy wasn't.

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

Kathy seems so toxic!!! Im only on the second update so I’ll wait. Edit: And is, so many vile things! Edit 2: Glad she was fired. It’s some high school sh£&*.

[@HyliaFell]

I went and read the old post. I feel like OP was expecting to get a lot of sympathy for her original post against the co-worker, but got a lot of people kind of telling her she and her co-workers were wrong for discluding and not inviting out of politeness, etc. Seems like this was the only thing to prompt the sudden changes of "Oh, actually, she is a REALLY bad person you guys!" and suddenly had all these extra damning details to add. Just feels like she didn't get the response she wanted so she added more details and stuff to get people on her side and ride the drama high. Gross af either way.

[@redconvoy]

The last one-why didn't OP just visit him to see if they were compatible? I would never do that. I hope she learns from that.

[@Shenn3165]

Some people just love to start drama!

[@AJ-qe5xj]

If Kathy wanted work/home life separation, she should have made her Facebook private, but it’s obvious she likes the attention she got gossiping and exaggerating her work life online. She has recently realized that she is missing out on so much good “tea” by being so isolated so is now desperate to manipulate the situation.

[@debc6260]

I'm seriously depressed at how stupid and pathetic 2nd OP is. She is going to get passed around to all of the 'BF's friends. No one will hear from her again.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

10:18 I love the harsh differences between before the update and after. 😂🤣

[@CarlottaHall]

IDK why I am seriously concerned for the well being of the last op.

[@LadyRavenEyes]

You all need to go to HR I don't know about your work place but the office I work at has rules about how we need to present our public images on things like social media.

[@heartabduction]

Long distance relationships can absolutely work, but good lord you gotta visit them before intenting to MOVE IN. ETA: I really wonder how long they knew each other. I'm planning to visit/meet someone for the first time, in another country in a few months, and I've known him for about 14 years. I'd NEVER put myself in that vulnerable of a position, even though I trust him. This is just wild o.o

[@Silence-1170]

Happy Friday waffles! Hope you all stay safe and stay positive! Going to see my grandpa and celebrate his birthday on Sunday!

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey hey Silence hope you and the fam are all good :)

[@Silence-1170]

@@MarkNarrations As good as we can be. Thanks!

[@jayne5375]

Happy birthday to grandpa 🥳

[@isasantos8577]

Holy crap, me too! But my grandma. 73 years and full of life and sass, the entire family is together for the first time in 3 years (thank you, covid) and I'm super excited

[@WhitneyDahlin]

‼️HOW COULD OP NOT CHECK KATHY'S FACEBOOK?! Kathy FINALLY got what was coming to her and it was clearly very dramatic with all the damage done to the desks and NOW is when OP decides not to check and spill the tea????!!!!?? OP WHY???!!!

[@cheskydivision]

It’s sad one person can ruin the good feeling and camaraderie of a work place.

[@lienemeid]

Perfect timing 🥰 setting up a pool that apparently is about 6 sizes too big for our patio but I'm rolling with it!

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Story 2: Leave! Just leave! He's 25, meaning his brain has developed and this is him, he's not going to change!

[@mspearl5704]

My ex and I got really toxic toward the end of our relationship but it wasn’t until he called me fat during a fight that it was finally over for me. I’m not fat by any means, logically I know that, but it’s been such a huge mental insecurity for me my whole life. He knew that and he knew just how to hurt me the most. I knew there was no way, no way I could ever be intimate or vulnerable with him again after that. He apologized a million times and said he didn’t mean it at all but there was no coming back from that for me. It hurt so much at the time, but looking back, I’m SO grateful that he crossed the line in a way that left me no choice but to end it for good. I’m now with a man who goes out of his way to make me feel like the sexiest girl in the world among the countless other ways he makes my life amazing and I’m so happy that my ex was such a dick

[@crem-crem4070]

Story 2: this is how women get forced into slavery. Someone tricks them into coming to a STRANGER’S home, they get their valuables taken, they have no money to return home and are sold on a black market.

[@RosensDragon2140]

considering the post is from 2017, and the user never posted again. I think the trip up north was exactly that. Poor girl. Her story can now only be a cautionary tale for others.

[@videofan1010]

Up in the air... What? OP#2 is in fact dumb... I'm sorry.

[@philwill0123]

The Internet: don't tell the guy you are leaving, just go. Moron OP: decides to have multiple discussions with boyf and decides to do nothing hoping unicorns shit rainbows. Dear reddit can I have your opinion so I can ignore it?...

[@iamalbertwesker2]

guess the 'Office Idiot' outsmarted Kathy xD

[@Metal_Mouth]

"I sold my car and used all of my savings to move in with my bf in another country that I never met irl" Girl... girl... homie... my sister in christ, what the hell were you thinking. The guy being an ass was the least bad outcome that could've occurred in this situation, holy hell (though I wouldn't be surprised if it does get worse). The moment you guys met the relationship deteriorated and is only going further south, there is no point in salvaging the relationship- he got what he wanted and now he's checked out. ETA: I agree with the other comments, take it as a learning experience and move on. Hopefully op doesn't succumb to the sunk cost fallacy now that bf is giving her hope. But she, seems so desperate.

[@omnipossum92]

Story 2: It's possible (key word) that he was indeed attracted to her but tried negging her. Either way, he is absolutely not worth her time.

[@roycrossland9401]

There are valid reasons not to mix personal and professional lives. For some people, it works to blur the lines for others it does not. Neither choice is better than the other nor is either choice any more unacceptable than the other. What is unacceptable is how the co-worker is responding to her choice to keep the two lives separate. If you want them separate then accept the fact that others are not going to live their life as you do. If you do not like the fact that your co-workers are socializing without you then change your view on keeping your personal and professional life separate. But you can not have it both ways.

[@Germania72]

Story 2: When I was young I met a foreigner on one of the chats from those days (you know, MSN, Yahoo Messenger). We cammed and everything. After 10 months I met him in his country, but I was only on holidays. I never moved in with him. We were aware that we just wanted to meet and have fun. That was it. When we met, yes it's normal to be shy and all that, but we had chemistry. I spent a week sightseeing in his city, he was a real gentleman. Although, I'm not in touch with him anymore, I have the best memories of him. The point is that moving in with him after never interacting in real life is a high risk. The relationship has no foundation because when you're long distance and just camming, you show the best side of your personality, the other person doesn't know about your bad and annoying habits, your smell, nothing.

[@riley6740]

Happy Friday everyone. Thank you Mark Narrations.

[@MarkNarrations]

Happy Friday Riley, have a good one 😊

[@GBunnyG]

Story 1: OMG. Okay, so, fun story, I got fired from a job for a post I made on social media. It was almost 10 years ago, and my entire office all got hired at the same time because the company had moved to the states from Canada. We all bonded and friended each other on FB. I am a social media sh!t talker, but I'm not stupid enough to post about people publicly, and even then, I don't ever use real names (I'm internet old, where you don't use your name and face) But then a year in, I made a post, not naming names, in absolute irritation that people were crowded behind my desk making a lot of noise for no good reason. Those people weren't even on my dang FB page and someone else showed them and I got sacked. Booooo. It's why I don't friend coworkers on social media anymore. 🤣 But MAN. I wish I could send that reddit post to the whiny bunch and say SEE I COULD HAVE BEEN SO MUCH WORSE!!!!!

[@topazblu6209]

Story 1 was just crappy. I have FB but I mainly use it to play games and to connect with fellow players. That said, it still amazes me the stuff some people post without a care till it comes back and bites 'em. Thanks for the story Mark. Hope you're having a wonderful day.

[@BlankBrain]

Sold her car to move to another country with someone she never met. "Boyfriend" constantly puts her down. She considers leaving. He invites her for trip to the north. No further updates. She ded

[@kristy1653]

That, or trafficked most likely. I’ve seen in other comments that this post was from 2017 and she hasn’t posted anything since!

[@BlankBrain]

@@kristy1653 That's awful! I didn't actually think that she died. But trafficking makes sense. I hope she just went home and stayed off reddit.

[@trainerlesseevee478]

My little sister tried to do what the last OP did, it would have ruined her life. It took me, our mother and her Father basically ganging up on her to keep her from going. Two years later she's happily engaged and going to marry the love of her life in 2024. I just could not lose my baby sister, my best friend and most wonder person in the world to people I didn't know, never met and across the world were I couldn't be there to help if something happened. I felt so shitty because she was so upset and betrayed but... I just couldn't let her go, not like that anyway. Later she said she was glad that we stopped it because he was controlling and manipulative. I adore her fiance and can't wait to give her away at the wedding! (Yes the big sister is giving her away, long story but I'll fight her dad if I have too lol)

[@Snowshowslow]

Story 2: a friend of mine did something similar when she was 18 or 19. Just packed all her stuff to go live with her online BF and his family in a different country with a language she didn't really speak in a rural area where she would be dependent on his car after never having physically met him. We were really scared for her and tried to talk her out of it, but to no avail. Luckily, the BF and the family weren't abusive or trying to take advantage. The relationship didn't last, but she was still so lucky in how that turned out...

[@tamsel814]

I had a classmate in high school who did something similar. Moved to his country straight out of high school. Differences are that I'm not sure if he lives in a rural or city area and that they got married as soon as her plane landed. No idea how is turned out since we were not close. But I was quite concerned for her at the time

[@Snowshowslow]

@@tamsel814 Yes it is a really... let's say brave move, that. I hope she's alright!

[@msredux]

I moved in with my long distance boyfriend from another country who I just met, oh girl why do this to yourself? You don't love him, you barely know him, you are infatuated, just leave girl

[@ServiceEevee]

The best thing to listen to while assembling my new computer gaming chair! Always brightens my day. Hope Mark and Poppy are having a wonderful day.

[@muhname6052]

Story2: Everyone: GO HOME! OP: weekend trip?

[@dangerouslysane]

Story 1: I never post anything about my work situation on FB. Period. I have the drama queen from my department blocked. I do not hang out with people from work outside of the office. Makes life simpler. Story 2: OP is in a Live and Learn situation. Hope she just chalks it up to experience and gets back home. If she is losing weight, it should be about what she wants for herself, not for anyone else. The LDR guy she went to be with is a manipulative person who will just make her miserable. She needs to get back to where she is comfortable and move on with her life.

[@justinecorrington4106]

Story 1: what did she think was going to happen? Her facebook is public?! She was a moron; who said keep work and private life separate (which yes, I am on all for and understand.) and then spilled the tea?! Story 2: short answer don’t sell all your belongings and spend your savings to one meet your sweetheart for the first time, much less move countries. That said pack up your tattered pride and move on. Don’t try to hope he’ll suddenly change; he clearly fu-ked her over multiple ways.

[@Streetwisefirst]

yes to more personal stories Mark. If you want to tell them

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful day

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey hey Katie, pretty good thank. Bit cooler today :)

[@katiesmith2031]

@@MarkNarrations was still hot enough for my girls to have a pool party 😅I forgot about the mess lol

[@JohnSmith-xq1pz]

@@katiesmith2031 Poke👉

[@selbarton]

1: Professional people tend to not want the facebook connections. The had to be there to get it is another you aren't good enough to get it. She is excluded from work chat because of all of their outside events together is all they talk about. She is out of the cliche. The group is acting like high school. What she says on facebook is not appropriate, but they sought out her facebook after she drew a clear line of they weren't supposed to be there. They have the same issue of creating an uncomfortable work environment for those not in their cliche. Block her facebook and stop trying to be connected that way. Don't turn work into talking about the time you had with them the night before so that no one is being shut down trying to know any of them. Look at how OP can't help but run to facebook to find offense. HR shouldn't be reporting what they are scheduling others so HR shouldn't be telling her the weekend schedule. 2: At no point is selling everything to move in with someone you never met smart. She's dumb to believe she is his first too. She souns like she has o idea how any type of relationhip works, not even a friendship. She needs therapy. He likely never meant for her to do what she did. She even went from he wanted to pay her to go home and then stay. Sounds like she could be twisting things to make staying an option.

[@dancing0nthe3dge]

In the second story, did she say that he managed to nitpick her appearance, clothes, makeup, and the way she breathes, all within the same day of her arrival? Like within daylight hours? So like within I don't know maximum 10 hours? That's a lot of abuse to put someone through in a very short amount of time. Almost feels like he had it pent up and then also wanted to get laid and so did both.

[@jaymel4691]

Kathy herself.sounds like the only bully in the office. Hope she gets fired! OP should just avoid her.

[@melsolomon8256]

The last one sounded like the "boyfriend" was using human trafficking tactics. Getting a young lady to leave her life downgrades her to make her feel useless then move her. Im scared for her.

[@nejet2188]

This girl and I started at a job at the same time. We became friends for a year I became less popular among our coworkers because I wasn't "like" them. So she told me she wasn't there to make friends in the end. Everyone but her figured out you cant single someone out because you don't " like" their differences. She ended up on the outside. She couldn't get them to trust she was real and not a backstabber. FYI. I wasn't the only one she backstabbed. Everyone realized she couldn't be trusted at all with anything. She made her bed.

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

We are ALWAYS interested in your stories, Mark! It would be awesome for you to do a video with just your crazy stories!

[@thedarkwench]

Taking me north to meet his friends WTF am I the knky one thinking human traffiking?

[@josephtucker7181]

At first it seemed like Cathy didn't want to follow or be followed by coworkers on social media which is fine but because of it everyone just decided not to have anything to deal with her outside of work or at least ask. But OMG that update was wow she just a professional victim. XD I get talking crap about your work that is if you're not going to worry about getting fired for it. Alot of railroaders do it because holy crap are class 1s horrible place to work.

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark. Stay safe please, peace

[@RosesTeaAndASD]

Story2: It's a learning experience. I've done dumb stuff for love, but you leave, build up your life again (and your self esteem) and make better choices with time.

[@Feefee_333]

Do you have an e-mail I can submit pet tax to? I refuse to use Twitter for my own mental health lol. Amazing video as always and stay safe fam! 😄💙

[@toodlespoodles9842]

I was wondering the same. I too don’t do social media for the same reason💜

[@kathymonahan8024]

I would never have sold everything and moved to another country for a man I’ve never met. Maybe a short vacation to meet then decide

[@shanebrown4146]

first story was hysterical.Wish OP would have ghosted her-would love a follow up LOL

[@AndyyWithAY]

I'm always interested in the work stories, Mark. I just thought about the whip story and had a little chuckle.

[@RalphieGirl713]

I'm extremely worried about the OP in the second story. The lack of update is honestly probably going to keep me up at night now. I really hope shes okay ❤

[@dracawyn]

14:55 yes please! More Mark workplace stories!

[@mikeremski2102]

Work and outside work: Fine to mix but not be forced to mix. If common agreement to do outside work hangout (bowling, movies, etc) that's fine, but when it becomes "if you don't join the company bowling team you will not get promoted" that's not cool at all.

[@ellorasg4525]

Hello Mark Narrations. My roommates and I enjoy listening to your stories, kinda like a modern story telling. lol Good night.