My Ex-Husband Is Upset That I've Moved On So Quickly r/Relationships

[@StellaVolschenk]

Ever seen how a toddler has no interest in a toy until another kid starts playing with it?Well that's what the ex is doing lol

[@liabowden8526]

Also my *dog*. “Resource Guarding.” Dude is a POS.

[@ScooterBond1970]

LOL, forget the 💯, this one's OVER 9000! 👍🏻👍🏻

[@AGolfHitter]

Fr

[@Octoberdoomster1]

Sounds like my ex. Only when I was actively looking for a partner or taken. He never loved me.

[@ronhall5395]

Yes, exactly. He is jealous and mad at her for him cheating. Lol

[@schimpletin8423]

I love how he's mad at her for moving on so quick when he's the one literally engaged to someone else

[@jamestown8398]

To his mistress. He’s engaged to his mistress.

[@whitneybennett4857]

THIS. Didn't OP say the fiancee was right there with him when he had his little meltdown? Was finding out he now wanted to get back with his ex-wife not enough to make her throw in the towel (not that I care about HER feelings)? Then again, I guess you have very little self-respect to begin with if you're knowingly sleeping with someone who's married. Well, congrats, bro! You literally f***ed around and found out. Enjoy your new life on the other side with the grass that turned out not to be as green as you thought it was.

[@sonialinsey8083]

Imagine calling someone this shitty your soulmate 🤨 sometimes I think the angry feminists are right lol.

[@SilverMKI]

I mean he moved on before even ending their relationship...

[@taz598]

LMAO have no sympathy for the fiancé/AP but bet she will be posting her own he cheated on me or he is still in love with his ex story soon enough

[@DarkwaveMistress]

OP1: She didn't "let herself go" and just "started to take care of herself". She was miserable and that showed. Now she's free and happy to be rid of that manchild and it also shows.

[@recycledapathy7411]

Yep. It's surprisingly easy to take care of yourself when all of your energy isn't focused on a shallow, verbally abusive partner.

[@BruinPhD2009]

@@recycledapathy7411 Right? Dude doesn’t realize he didn’t give his wife any encouragement or energy or time…SUPPORT to “take care of herself.” How much you wanna bet he’s no fitness model, himself?

[@meadowsong8560]

Being happy and at peace is the best “face lift” you can ever get! Not shocked she is looking and feeling good. The ex is such a tool.

[@DarkwaveMistress]

@@recycledapathy7411 facts

[@DarkwaveMistress]

@@meadowsong8560 Right? Good riddance for OP.

[@rmhartman]

He says that YOU broke "us", but he was the one having an affair. Tough chit, cheater.

[@pearbear6418]

Story 1: She's the one who moved on too quickly when he was the one moving on while they were still in a relationship?? Lol, the audacity of this man.

[@Jjudes9665]

For the first few years I was separated and divorced my ex would search my home. Everywhere, because he was obsessed with the idea I had men hiding from him. 🙄🤦‍♀️

[@AIBot929]

​@@Jjudes9665 and you let him 😬

[@tiffanyhaddox7499]

He’s not a man, he’s a giant titty-baby.

[@ambiava123]

Victim blaming at its finest. Never taking responsibility, even though the ex is responsible for stepping out first 🤷‍♀️. Yeah, with exception for our daughter through third party contact....NO CONTACT.

[@Theimmure]

@@AIBot929 That’s a baseless assumption

[@briansmaller7443]

1ST STORY - Dude really threw his "fiancee" under the bus with that outburst. She really knows her place now.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

Well, that is what she gets for choosing to be with a man who would cheat. She won the prize. And what a prize.

[@sonialinsey8083]

Whatever, karma’s a bitch. Who cares what she thinks, she effed a married man. Not illegal but definitely not without consequences, as she now sees. Only 26 and stuck with a giant man child.

[@lilfairykiki122]

Hope she’s miserable, that’s what homewreckers get. Hope she knows he wanted to stay with his wife too and just settled for her. Both her and her new man are losers, op is better off without them.

[@WolvenDragonZ]

I'm surprised it's not ex-fiancee. How bad are your issues that you sleep with a married coworker almost double your age and get engaged to him after he not only resisted divorce, but makes a public jealous scene about how hot she is in front of people that are going to be a constant reoccurance in your life

[@gregjayonnaise8314]

@@WolvenDragonZ People who date cheaters knowingly are usually very insecure. They love the thrill of being “chosen” by someone whose already in a relationship because it convinced them that they are so much better than someone else that they need to be kept a secret. The truth is that the relationship between them is undoubtedly shallow and built on lies and secrecy, so it only makes sense that there is no sense of stability or loyalty. They only stay out of fear of not finding someone else.

[@RaspberryHugs]

Story 1: If they glow up after you break up then you were the problem.

[@deegreatest7034]

My ex girlfriend who broke up with me (and is engaged I remind you.) pulled something like this when I was moving on. I started working out, working towards my goals and ambitions and started getting back into my hobbies. My grandfather told me this a while ago and it goes like this “Some people, can’t stand the fact that your either doing fine or better without them.”

[@Russman67]

Story 1: The ex-husband doesn't get to have a new fiance AND an ex-wife stuck in the past. Let the ex-husband stay salty that OP had a glow up without him.

[@Sherwoody]

He wanted OP to look frumpy to his family to justify his leaving and having an affair. That didn’t work out so well.

[@faeb.9618]

dude's disgusting if he's having regrets now that she's "taking care of herself more" he really just cared about how "pretty" she looked

[@jamestown8398]

He must not be that regretful if he’s still with his whore.

[@dream6562]

A partner man or female should always try to keep themselves in shape or improve themselves, if you let yourself go that's disrespectful to your partner

[@Jennifer_helen]

@@dream6562 she was pregnant though? What was she supposed to do?

[@DirtSailor5]

All others issues aside, if you're able to put in the extra work to get the next person, it's a little disrespectful that you wouldn't put in the extra work for the current person. It says the current person isn't worth the effort but some random future stranger is.

[@dream6562]

@Jenn as far being pregnant that's just temporary thing so doesn't really count to me, but didn't she say it was when she just found out she was pregnant

[@sinn3rbun]

Don't ever stay with someone for the sake of the child. They will know and they'll be just as miserable as you are. Second, he has no right to be upset she "moved on" (and isnt even dating) considering HE cheated and got engaged with the affair partner.

[@wildfyah]

Parents stayed together for us. Can confirm we were all Hella miserable...

[@bantubrat343]

Too many people are trying to put up this act as if a two parent household is the ultimate way to raise a child. Two bad parents equals what versus one good parent ? People really need to do what’s best for them and their situation instead of thinking of what others will say and think and or do. Especially people in domestic situations

[@jjm152]

Children of divorce have lower life expectancies (5 years) lower levels of educational attainment, increased chances of dropping out of highschool, going to jail, being addicted to drugs and having mental problems and to top it all off, female children like OP's have basically a 1 in 3 chance of being sexually assaulted by either Mom's new boyfriend, the step dad or a step sibling. Now, I am not going to say that you need to always stay together for your family, or just because it will statistically be likely to ruin one or several aspects of your childs future, but this "the kids will be better off" bollocks has got to f'ing stop. We *know* statistically that this is just not true- Kids end up statistically better off being in a stable household regardless of if the parents are good parents, or bad parents, or angry parents, etc. The only case this ISN'T true is when the parents are either on drugs or where there is domestic violence involved. Stop minimizing the damage divorce does to children as a way of justifying making that choice. I'm not saying stay together, I'm not saying that marriage has to be a life sentence if you really can't work it out, but for fucks sake, STOP MINIMIZING THE DAMAGE TO CHILDREN.

[@AngelaMerici12]

Sorry, but living with one parent sucks!! If I have children and something happens I think is a good to stay together for the children until they are a little older. Of course, if there's abvse or something similar is better to leave. Let's not pretend that separated families are as good as a united family.

[@AngelaMerici12]

@@jjm152 Exactly!! All the negative things that separated families create is bad for the children future.

[@samoanjoseph1457]

Story 2: The only dumb thing OP did was admit to keeping food in her room. You're keeping it there so he DOESN'T find it, don't TELL him it's there!

[@srkh8966]

That’s what I think!

[@jmjedi923]

Yeah wtf why would you tell him? Now what's stopping him from going in there and getting at it?

[@dandotvid]

Yeah, just a simple "Oh I found it in the back of the cabinet" or something would have sufficed.

[@ponykazy3725]

In fairness OP could be a bad liar like me. It's not tell later I realize what I should have said. But pro tip that may not may not help, half truths can stop questions. "Oh, I bought it at the store. It's for me." He might have follow up questions, especially if he notices over time, but that could help in the short term.

[@recycledapathy7411]

@@dandotvid She could also be totally honest and just say, "I bought it, you should try doing that sometime, you sponge." :P

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: never, never stay in a marriage for the children. Op is taking care of herself for her sake and her daughter’s, ex-husband is throwing a tantrum because op isn’t groveling at his feet.

[@nyozeka93]

🎉Ex-husband🎉

[@louisejohnson6057]

She was describing the panicked and emotionally overwrought thoughts that were flying around her mind at the moment she discovered that she was pregnant, and that the man she loved and trusted, had betrayed her, and their marriage. She knew that staying wasn't an option for her, and that the bonds of holy matrimony had been irrevocably broken. And I agree that one shouldn't get healthy, which may require weight loss, just for another person, with an exception. It's very important that parents, especially if you're alone without a partner, do their best to remain a healthy lifestyle. Getting healthy/healthier so you will be around for your children, and possibly grandchildren, is a great reason to start on such a journey.

[@Deedoof]

Cheaters want what they believe they "deserve" and/or can't have. Even if OP was a model with a 6-figure salary her ex would have cheated because "You work too much, I got lonely" or "You're too perfect it's boring, and this girl half my age makes me feel young and wild!" You will not thrive keeping a cheater in your life, good for OP.

[@EIizabethGrace]

Narcs, not cheaters. Some cheaters are just impulsive, immature, insecure…but not entitled assholes or truly lacking in empathy, and they are able to acknowledge they did wrong, feel genuine guilt, and even honestly work towards healing a relationship and/or becoming better people. Not that that means they they’re owed forgiveness, ‘cause what they did still hurts all the same, but what you wrote (just like the superficiality, blame-shifting, and entitlement in the video) describes cheaters only insofar as they overlap with narcissism, but virtually all narcs, including those who do or don’t cheat. I’m pointing this out just ‘cause I think it’s important to put the focus on the narcissistic component of this kind of behavior, rather than on the cheating itself. So one knows when a relationship may make sense to work on if they wish, sure, but most importantly so they don’t feel like they need to wait for a narc to cheat to see these and many more red flags.

[@AlyssMadigan]

Story 1 - OP lost weight literally due to depression and starving because she's stressed with a child and work. And her ex thinks she's doing it for attention and that if she took care of herself like she is now he would still be there? SHE WASN'T TAKING CARE OF HERSELF. She was struggling and broken because of what he did and she suffered before she started to feel better. She lost the weight in a negative way but decided to change her mindset for the sake of making her child happy and he got jealous of that which really just makes him jealous of his child. He's so convinced she's doing it for other men because that's all he would be doing things for, other women. If OP needs to learn anything it's THAT. He just assumes she left him and started working out, when she really left and probably stared at a corner for more time than she should've. He's so selfish.

[@nolav9280]

Exactly! That's literally what I was thinking!

[@erenssister.5535]

I have met so many women who looked happy and glowing after the divorce. It makes me wonder it the problem was the husband

[@Alayne89]

The thing is, he doesn't actually care about the ex wife or the fiance or the baby. It's all about him and how they serve him and his ego. He would blithely ignore her fatigue or hunger of it achieved his goal of having a trophy wife. Her looking good to outsiders after leaving him is what upsets him. I also predict that if he or the fiance change jobs, the relationship will break. He can't dump her currently, because it would affect his work reputation

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "You moved on too quick 😠" boy you moved on so fast you were still _married._ Story 2: First of all, I love Cracker barrel Mac and cheese and have two boxes myself lol. Second of all, as someone who literally had to hide a pack of mini ravioli recently _and_ a box of cake mix that I was gonna use for my birthday in a few months so that my older sibling didn't eat them, I felt this on a _spiritual_ level and am gonna have to go with NTA.

[@RandomTrinidadian]

Story 1: Basically, OP upgraded herself and the cheating ex is getting butt hurt over it. Also, the audacity that PoS has to bring the AP around. The dude is a PoS and not just because he a cheater.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

It is really going to get entertaining when she finds someone else and starts bringing that person around to the joint events for the child. The Ex is going to go ballistic, especially WHEN his marriage to a woman who is 15 years younger implodes and is either on the rocks or she leaves him for someone her own age and he is stuck with nothing but worn-out and tired old skanks his own age (who are probably single because they cheated on their husbands LOL). When he sees the OP living the good life, his brain will explode and he will further alienate himself from his child and his family and friends.

[@terramarini6880]

@@thomasjoseph5876 New girl is going to leave him, He popped off and basically told everyone he was with her for her looks and wouldn't even be with her if OP had "kept her looks up" She will be giving him the side eye and wondering when her expiry date is and if he even loves her... Plus she is now somewhat terrified of him after his little tantrum.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@terramarini6880 She might feel she is already trapped and can't get out. He obviously picked her for her looks but also probably because she is easy to manipulate and control. She might be stuck until she decides she has nothing left to lose and/or someone helps her "get out".

[@jamestown8398]

True. Any cheater who stays with their mistress is proving that they’re not the least bit remorseful for the pain they caused.

[@juliemcgugan1244]

And if she’s willing to cheat with him, she is willing to cheat on him with someone else.

[@momshardrockvideos]

For goodness sake. Ignore him. He’s having regrets and that’s on him! Keep up your good job and the wonderful mom skills. You are now happy and it’s killing him! Have an amazing life!!

[@philwill0123]

Basically she found life stressful and was considering getting back with him.

[@Batman-lg2zj]

No she wasn’t she didn’t what to do .

[@janejane6754]

Yessss

[@joannediaz8978]

She also better keep her guard up. Hemotionals can be unstable creatures and will try to delete you.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Story 1: Oh no its the consequences of my actions. People say that there's someone out there for everyone but people like OP's ex deserve to be alone. I hope his fiancé dumps his red flag-waving ass and he ends up completely alone.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Me too. He doesn't deserve OP. He doesn't even deserve his mistress. I absolutely hate it when boorish men like OP's ex treat women like they're meat or trophies.

[@sandrag3854]

Story 2: OP needs to accept the money dad saved for her and move out. Her buying more food doesn't make sense. Step-brother will just eat it, effectively, her money will be spent on him. Move out and spend your money on you. Not mooches.

[@mortimerbrewster3671]

So true. If the dad has been putting aside her $500/mo into a savings account then, depending on how long this has been going on, she would have plenty for the move in to an apartment and months of rent. If it's been going on for a couple of years (and depending on where they live) she could have enough for a down payment on a house. Definitely needs to leave.

[@RuminatingRaptor]

S2: the people telling OP to talk to her stepbrother can kick rocks. It’s not her responsibility to figure out what’s wrong and parent a grown man.

[@linkinlady06]

Story 1: LOL love how he totally blamed her for "letting herself go" but he's the one that cheated....yeah okay

[@Tijggie82]

Story 1: she's too focused on 'reaching her husband for an understanding'. Instead she should focus on her own boundaries. He's with another woman now, she should not keep managing his emotions.

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Wow, how much of a spoiled brat do you have to be to throw a tantrum as an adult at a baby's first birthday party? I'm sure even the baby was giving him the side eye. I hope the fiancee sees the giant red flag he's waving.

[@sherlockgirl88]

Love some men are like "I cheated because you stopped looking good for me" while also fully expecting the spouse to work full time, take care of the house/kids/pets and their man-baby selves and somewhere in all of that, the spouse needs to find time to exercise and maintain or lose weight, put on full faces of makeup each morning and still have the emotional and mental wherewithal to attend to their needs. There's no "Let me help you so you have time to workout/have less stress to focus on yourself." Before jumping into "I cheated cause you let yourself go." That's not always the case, the person might have brought it up and the spouse got angry about it so they decided it was safer to let it fester than to bring it up again, but still, learning to communicate with your spouse and be a partner and not a burden to them instead of cheating would save so many marriages.

[@momo382844]

All I have to say is 😂😂😂 Edit: I’m low key scared for OP now. Ex wanted to have his cake and eat it too. Now that he’s fluffed things up with his current fiancé, he’s going to spend his free time harassing OP. Possibly manipulating the daughter, too. OP should bring this up in the next custody hearing. I think the judge will be interested in this info.

[@ZoeAlleyne]

They don't have an official one I don't think. But they NEED one.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Story 2: I'm glad that the Dad does seem to be looking out for his son, but if OP, his dad, and his step-sister are the only ones working, it sounds like OP's stepmom is the real mooch. If she wants to support her son for the rest of her life, that's her choice, but putting that on her husband and daughter is scummy. Edit: whoops didn’t realize OP was a woman my bad

[@immapotato1]

I completely doubt that money will go anywhere other than stepmom's precious son once she hears about it. he's been allowing her to do whatever she wants with that manchild and I see no reason he will stand up to her this time.

[@RuminatingRaptor]

OP in the second story is female.

[@audreym3908]

OP is female

[@AllenTax]

A leech. With A bowtie.😅

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I internally rolled my eyes at the ex-husband. 🙄 Good grief......Of course she moved on. Why wouldn't she? And the audacity of him accusing her of not being "pretty" enough for him! But I don't expect anything less from the cheating scumbag. Maybe if he supported OP, instead of thinking about his own selfish desires, he would've had the beautiful wife he always wanted. And what's worse, he threw a temper tantrum in front of his mistress/fianceè! ಠ⁠︵⁠ಠ I'm willing to bet that he's ruined his relationship with his mistress as well. At this point, he just needs to be left alone. He doesn't deserve OP. He doesn't even deserve his mistress. He just needs to be left completely alone, at least until he can change his behavior, but I highly doubt he will. Good for OP for leaving him and moving on. OP just needs to take care of herself and her beautiful baby girl. I hope OP finds happiness, especially with her daughter! ❤️💕❤️

[@JuniperJadePR]

S2: As someone who has been in that situation, "you work for it, you pay for it, it's your food" applies here. Really hope that OP & her step-sister can get out of this situation since OP's dad doesn't have a backbone around the step-mom & step-brother.

[@inuzrule]

What really makes me sick about story one is that it's implied by OP (unless I'm missing something major) that she lost so much weight because she was stressed and depressed after becoming a single mother. She lost thirty pounds, that's a ton of weight, and I'm sure not all of it was baby weight. Her ex wants her back because she's thin, and she doesn't seem to see that. What a truly despicable man, hope she ends up cutting off contact as much as she can and I hope the new fiancee gets out of there as well. Just wanted OP to pull her to the side and go "you in danger girl".

[@TsukiKageTora]

People who were upset that their ex has moved on usually are the ones that haven’t moved on And of course the guy cheated. Narcissists like that think everyone should want them. And he blames her for his affair. She isn’t the one with the male anatomy.

[@rogerrabbit80]

He's upset about her moving on "so quickly," but he moved on even before the divorce. Projection is strong in this one.

[@khughes9574]

Story 1: Look up the term 'grey rock'. Please stop blaming yourself for his infidelity. He says he cheated on you because of your appearance but you know what he could have done? Used. His. Words. Like a grown up! Have a conversation with you. I would guess you look different because you are less stressed not being around him all the time. I hope OP will consider individual counseling. Also, look into parenting software--from what I understand, these apps help to communicate with the kids' other parent without having to deal with them directly. (Anyone here use one they like they can recommend?)

[@BIGEAGLEDUDE]

This is one of those situations in the first story where you need to go for full custody of the child because the man is so angry at the fact that you're moving on and focusing on your child and your happiness that he's willing to make your life as toxic as possible until you give him another chance. And the moment you start dating is the moment he's really going to take it to the next level from abuse accusations to child neglect to unsafe environment you name it. You need to send a message to your ex in-laws that their son needs to get help and he needs to be more wise along prioritizing your child. And I guarantee it his fiance is on the verge of breaking up with him because of this. You're not in the wrong here but even his parents know this is getting ready to get real dangerous for him and he may lose a lot more than just his wife and daughter

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #2: Sounds like it's probably time for OP to move out. As for those Redditors suggesting it's her job in any way to "figure out" her stepbrother, hell to the no on that. He told on himself when he outed her about keeping food in her room. Let *him* figure out what that means.

[@gremlininblue2601]

FR istg sometimes it seems like some redditors think it's somebody's job to try and be everybody's therapist, as if there's always a reason. Sometimes the reason is just that somebody is a selfish, greedy, gluttonous, or plain old asshole

[@peteranon8455]

Story 1. NTA. He doesn't get to feel angry at you moving on when he moved on before your relationship ended.

[@RayeChrystiline]

Story 2: Never reveal where your stash is. I kept my snacks hidden from my siblings. Rule #1 is to keep your mouth shut

[@abm5119]

Lol the audacity of this guy. He went and got engaged to his side piece before the ink on the divorce dried and he's angry that OP "forgot him and move[d] on so easily"

[@chiquitaf16]

My Ex husband cheated on me with someone 14 years younger. Someone commented that I wonder if he’ll come crawling back now due to my regained confidence and weight loss. I’m like I can’t reverse aging so I’m safe from that. Him leaving was the best gift I never knew I needed.

[@myroc1]

"I don't want any of these tantrums thrown at me in the future." This hit home. The fact is we have basically zero control over other's feelings and our energy is better spent on our own emotions and behaviors. It's easier to keep his emotions at arms length allow him to go home while you find a way to carry on with the festivities than to try and figure out how to make him happy.

[@JasperCatProductions]

Story one I would no longer have shared parties, go limited contact only talking through mediator. I wouldn’t put myself in a room with him.

[@miaa5712]

I experienced first story first hand in my situation. Never be overly nice or compromising they always misinterpret your intentions, thinking you want them still. Do not over share your personal life not even in small talk that will come back to bite you! When he says, "You broke us" respond no you did remind him of what he did and let him know you deserve to be happy whichever way that is, and it shouldn't matter to him.

[@TheNicolevertone]

Story 2: NTA. Food insecurity is a real thing and can be a form of abuse. You paid for the food, you can eat it. Now that they know you have food on your room, I'd get a way to lock it, or your room. Don't back down on this. You shouldn't have to go hungry for your step-brother's convenience.

[@EveryDayALittleDeath]

Story 2: As someone who can only eat a limited list of food due to ARFID, I cannot STAND it when people eat my food, especially without asking. I've talked to people from the ARFID subreddit about it, and the general consensus is once food thieves know you have food in your room, it's time to get a lockbox and a mini fridge with a padlock. If it's already gotten to the point you have to keep it in your room, they aren't ever going to stop. NTA

[@LovesGaming37]

Typical cheater: blaming the victim for them cheating

[@carolroberts4614]

Well, many people here seem to think he's right! Never mind that he found someone 16 years younger than his wife. If a man wants to cheat, he will cheat, and find any excuse! You worked too much/ didn't work/ ,spent all the money on looking nice/stopped looking nice.,etc.

[@louellacharlton4425]

My dad taught me how to budget my money with my first paycheck. He too saved it all for me as I paid a portion to him for rent. What a wonderful surprise for me to receive when I got back from honeymoon. This does happen so the people that are saying he's lying are just sad to me. Always expecting the worst of people is not a good way to go through life. Tyvm Mark and stay safe please, peace.

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #1: This guy sounds scary. He's making aggressively possessive noises and actions, and stomping over boundaries she sets. I hope she's able to keep his parents between the two of them until he calms his cheating ass down and accepts the new reality (that could take a while). I also hope they don't let their grandchild out of their sight during his visitation because he keeps talking about the baby possessively, too, which means he could well "take revenge" against the OP through infanticide. I can't really tell which fantasy he had when he started cheating--either ditching her for the new model or keeping both women at the same time, but her taking control over the situation and leaving him clearly upset him. I also think the fact that she found out she was pregnant upset the fantasy that he was replacing her with a younger, prettier, more fertile model (whether or not he actually wanted kids). Now he's obsessed and unfortunately, they have that connection between them. I hope she and the nibbling get through this okay.

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

When a man doesn’t love you you subconsciously feel it. He was cheating before you gained the weight. He thought if he treated you with indifference and you had no self esteem you would NEVER leave him.

[@Russman67]

Story 2: I get keeping food aside from the stepbrother who is just eating everything. Unless he's unable to he should contribute. I'm glad that dad was trying to hold the rent money for OP and the resolution is good but stepbrother has got to get his shit together.

[@persephonescrown]

I always start my days with you and lost genre, thank you mark!

[@kitarrah1422]

Same. Love Mark and LG! The best Reddit readers, in my opinion.

[@jamestown8398]

Remember, if a cheating ex starts a relationship with the affair partner than it proves they’re remorseless.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Second story: I would’ve said to the dad if I got that text message “oh, just like how your stepson doesn’t contribute anything to the household, but it is out and makes us starve. How about you looking at the bigger picture where I have to store food in my room because you allow that mooching little jerk to eat my food and make me go hungry. Why are you enabling him?”

[@Park-Kim_VMin]

Sounds like what I had to do when I lived with my older brother.

[@taylorslade961]

Spoiled Step Bro: OP should get one of those toaster oven/coffee maker/hot plate combos and a mini fridge too. Really set herself up.

[@kitarrah1422]

Or just move out.

[@melosidhe779]

Got to love when a cheater is mad that you've moved on. They literally moved on while still in a relationship with you. EYE ROLL.

[@emcustard]

Story 1: He's engaged and still worried that she'll start dating again? The arrogance of that man is astounding.

[@bruuh0_0]

Dude moved on while in the relationship and wants to talk about too quickly

[@jpbaley2016]

S1 - OP has found the one worthy of her love and her happiness and contentment shows this. OP just needs to look at the ex as the one, who helped provide her with real love. That love no longer includes him. He’s angry that he’s no longer the center of OP’s life.

[@Tammohawk1]

I don't understand not having food in your house when people are working. That just baffles me. And OP's step brother would be a different kid if he had of been mine.

[@MMKMoore1]

Story 2 - I really worry that OP's stepmom is financially abusing OP's father, especially if he's keeping OP's rent payments to give back to her later.

[@01wonderful]

Holy shit, I've gained a lot of weight after both my kids. I'm struggling to lose it and maintain a healthy diet and do more exercise. It's very tiring taking care full time of kids, my husband never cheated on me because "I don't look sexy anymore". He loves me, he encourages me to get back in shape, he knows it will take time as I'm just exhausted and he knows both my pregnancies were tough on me. This is such a load of b.s when I hear men saying "you don't look the same anymore". Like no shit Sherlock? Pregnancy isn't easy for everyone and taking care of kids is draining, do these people even know that sleep plays such an important role in maintaining a healthy weight? Do you know how much sleep you get in the first 2 years? My first son started sleeping through the night when he was a month away from his second birthday.....and my second kid that's 1+ still wakes up 2-3 times a night to eat. Doesn't matter how much he eats through the day, at night he gobbles down 3 bottles of milk and then he's happy....

[@peteranon8455]

Story 2. NTA. I wouldn't pay rent when my older brother isn't paying rent. Update: The dad is most certainly not going to give any of that money back to OP.

[@dimsufferer9951]

Oh 100% he was lying about the money so she wouldn’t stop paying him

[@OhHeyItIsNano]

Story 2: NTA. Keeping some food hidden for yourself especially if you pay for it is rather smart. Keep the food stash safe though. Step brother is hungry 24/7. Also I didn't expect the plot twist. Sounds wholesome but yeah, investigate it.

[@untiedshoelaces2588]

Story 1: The cheater has absolutely no say in how their victim chooses to move on and cope without them. It sounds as though the ex cannot accept that OP's life is a lot better without him in it. He never expected her to actually leave him. It sounds as though he's made a habit of gaslighting and manipulating OP during their marriage and he's begun doing it again. I would expect that he will begin poisoning their daughter against OP as soon as he is able. Story 2: Anyone else thinking that the "savings account" doesn't exist and the stepmother is buying just the bare necessities for the kitchen and pocketing the rest?

[@NeroTheDarklord]

The update from the first story had me internally screaming with approval. Every single sentence, every single statement, right on the money. 100 points! A+! She still needs to learn that she shouldn't take shit from her idiot ex-husband, but things look like they are definitely heading the right way with her moral compass. There's gonna be much more drama with the ex-husband in the future, though.

[@LadyCeag840]

Story 1: OP is living her best life, and the Ex hates it! She didn't have to do anything to get back at him for the cheating. Ex-Husband is literally self-destructing! 🤣

[@katphish30]

Story one: OMG, ignore him. What a sad little man.

[@recycledapathy7411]

So, here's the story that's playing in my head, which might or might not be accurate (regarding story 1): OP's ex was probably a pain in the ass to live with, given how quickly he went from attempted love bombing (with all the compliments) to being verbally abusive when she didn't respond to his tactic the way he wanted. He probably told his affair partner that OP was an awful person, that he was planning to leave her, etc. If, according to OP's comments, this is the first time that AP met OP, it's not surprising that she was scared of his outburst because she's probably just been given a glimpse of her future with the guy. OP was perfectly nice, as far as AP can see, and the ex blew up at her for... looking nice? I do hope that young woman sees the nasty middle-aged asshole for who he is now - an opportunist, a cheater, and definitely not a prizewinner for any good relationship. In fact, I kinda feel bad for the chick, because she clearly saw that her boyfriend is still attracted to his ex and had a baby tantrum because the ex doesn't want any of it.

[@toothless3835]

First Story: Just because "she let herself go" which is BS, that is NO reason to cheat. HE'S the one who ruined the relationship. NOT her. Cheating always ruins the relationship. And it's always the cheater's fault. Period. They deserve NO sympathy when they're looking for it. Same with abusers.

[@amberluppens3292]

“My ex who cheated is upset I moved on so quickly” well seeing how he moved on from you before you even separated he has absolutely no space to talk

[@bernedettekuteyi3843]

Op you owe him no explanation to how you have moved on, tell him to bugger off. Op if he doesn't keep away from you, get a restraining order against him

[@carlrood4457]

I think what OP hadn't considered is that she didn't realize how unhappy she was in the marriage and for how long. Whether it was his cheating or stuff from before that, the two of them probably weren't happy for a long time. It was probably a gradual decline they didn't notice. Once free of that, she flourished and that affected her outward appearance; not just the weight loss, but the body language of a happy person.

[@KK-jl9sz]

Story #2 absolutely NTA I've been in the same situation. Being the only adult in a house of 4 adults that bought and cooked food gets old. Its came to the point I've become food aggressive from my food always being taken. now I separate my food from everybody's my own pantry cabinet and my own fridge. I don't mind sharing if I've invited you but don't invite yourself to my food. It's not my job to feed grown ass adults

[@Dethilion]

If i ever catch some step sibling going through my food that i bought and labeled, being able to eat on his own would be me being merciful

[@kayleighnez2626]

Story 2 I can relate. My 35 yo brother was the reason I moved out. I was staying to help with my disabled father but I couldn't take him anymore.

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 1 - Update 2 - OP had better be on the alert. Her Ex seems to be spending so much time with their daughter out of OP's presence, I wouldn't put it past him to start trying to turn the little girl against her mom.

[@xelectrix]

Story 2: Whoa, that update. If it's true, that's heartbreakingly sweet.

[@danielmarek4609]

Story 2 -- I have a neighbor who dropped out of high school. He worked part time at the job he got in high school till the store closed down and he never found another job. Decades later he never worked and now is in his mid 60's. So there are others like the step brother who don't want to do anything in life but mooch off of others and see nothing wrong with that.

[@devlyn873]

I love the background you're using, the winter scene with the fireplace is so relaxing

[@brookestormcloak8039]

My ex got very mean when I started dating. They couldn’t believe “how quickly and easily I moved on”…it was 2 years after our split! And they started dating first! Some people don’t make sense and there’s no reasoning with them. Logic doesn’t apply to some people’s feelings.

[@dm9078]

That last story. I know OP loves her dad but he is enabling that crap.

[@historictruecrime5119]

I’m so sorry, but I had to laugh out loud when the OP said that the affair partner were terrified and had to be driven home by father-in-law. The man is completely immature and totally unhinged and I hope he gets the help. He desperately needs both women need to find new partners and move on.

[@tinycrimester]

cheater: are you f'ing someone!? are you, lol?

[@SherriLyle80s]

S1: Oh wahhh! Cry baby. 😂 The nerve of him!

[@Detector1977]

s1: just disgusting when cheaters try to blame someone else when they are 100% to blame. Cheaters aren't bad cause they're cheaters, but because they're selfish swine who don't really care about others...

[@kevinclark495]

the brother in story 2, she should already know whats wrong with him, his mum failled him by babying him, wrapping him up in cotton wool and spoiling him too much, now he'll never be ready for the real world, any parents who does this too their child are failures

[@sandpiperr]

Story 1: LOL! All she needs to say is. "My love life is no longer any of your business, end of discussion."

[@kims.5357]

OPs ex is just a narcissist. Thats the mental gymnastics he pulled in his mind to justify his cheating at the time, and its the same game he plays to justify the divorce best ng OPs fault.

[@christophergibbs2616]

There's a small part in story 1 that I haven't seen mentioned: In many cases, the person who wants you to change is actually the one holding you back. Telling someone that you don't find them attractive because they're fat or whatever won't motivate a person to change. Affirming your love for that person is the ACTUAL motivator for them. I've been told several awful things because of some physical attributes, but the people who I actually listened to and the ones who helped me were the ones who said stuff like. "Hey do you wanna share this salad?" Or, "Hey man, it seems like you're having a rough day, so just know that you have a friend." And plainly put, if anyone is reading this, please know that you have people who love you and even if you just want an Internet stranger's shoulder to lean on, it's fully available :)

[@Rose_Bride]

I'm glad OP mentioned the affair partner's reaction. Personally, I wouldn't be allowing the fiance to even be around my kid. And he FOR D@MNED sure wouldn't be bringing his mistress to MY house for pick-ups. That *DEFINITELY* wouldn't fly. In fact, I would have 100% put that in as a condition of the custody agreement: *NO* outside partners to be introduced to the child until the partner has been dating the parent for _AT LEAST_ a year. That way you KNOW it's serious, and the other parent won't just have randos popping in and out of your kid's life like a revolving door. The fact that her ex's fiancée apparently STAYED with him after he had his jealous little outburst/tantrum shows the AP's own insecurity. It's bad enough that she apparently had _no problems_ with messing with a married man _15 years older than her_ who ALSO had a _pregnant_ wife at home, but after seeing how hung up on OP this man still is, (because I have _no doubts_ that he has been talking about her at his home, grumbling to his fiancée about OP) WHY would the AP even WANT something like that? I don't understand the logic of clowns who will happily hook up with married men/women, then act all hurt and surprised Pikachu face when they THEMSELVES end up being cheated on. Just as soon as his -midlife crisis- mistress/fiancée starts to gain weight, does she REALLY believe such a superficial man will stick around?

[@firerosenight6937]

Don't water a flower- it withers Take care of it- it thrives Hubby didn't take care of his wife, now that she's thriving he wants her back.

[@Baptisteog18]

The nerve of him to accuse OP of moving on too quickly and breaking their family apart when it was him that cheated and is currently engaged to his AP. Not to mention the age gap is between him and his AP is says a lot about him.

[@ShyShrike]

Honestly I think OP is just “taking care” of herself now because her mental health is better. I’ve gone through similar with my own mental health. Usually when we’re depressed taking care of ourself takes a back seat. Especially when you start seeing yourself as worthy of that kind of care.

[@paulahowlett8452]

S1, no he cheated because he is lacking any honor or respect and has no loyalty

[@LunaP1]

Story 1, ex is a disgusting narcissist. He’s pissed that OP isn’t playing into his game to get her to fight over him or be miserable without him. Now he’s losing it and at this point OP should record all their interactions and use it to get full custody with no visitation (he’s dangerous and might abuse the baby in retaliation).

[@GMWILD87]

Story 1 Good for OP she's strong and her daughter will see that.

[@Dean_I_Guess]

First story - He blamed her for "letting herself go" during their relationship and now he's mad because how dare she take care of herself after their relationship has ended She was literally pregnant when he cheated, she didn't "let herself go" She lost weight after the baby mainly due to being a single mother and working hard to care for the child, and he's so selfish he thinks she did that to him intentionally

[@shewolfroux6091]

Story 2: as somebody whose been hiding their favorite snacks and boxed foods on their room for YEARS, my only advice is to invest in a lockable tote or cabinet. My step brother was exactly like this. He ate everything in the house, and if he was asked not to eat something, he purposefully left it out or ruined it so that I couldn't have it. I once bought myself $150 worth of crab and shrimp (which is Hella expensive where I'm at) to celebrate 5 months at my first job and he left it out on th counter so that it would spoil. Luckily I saw it and saved it, but I was PISSED We had one hell of screaming match about it and my parents decided enough was enough. They had been trying to get him to stop for over a year and they were DONE. My stepdad came home with a chain and padlock the next day. As well as a cheap mini fridge for my room. I insisted on paying him back, but he said it was cheaper than all the food his son had stolen or wasted. Dude was NEVER denied food. He got any snack he asked for and NOBODY touched his food. I found out later that he was also stealing my clothes for unsavory purposes. He had a choice. Go to therapy and get a job at 18, or leave. He chose to leave immediately. He went to live with his mom and I can honestly say that nobody really seems to miss him. Lock up your food OP and don't tell ANYONE where it is.

[@Luminoxie]

For story 2 I gotta admit I smiled at the end of the update. I was expecting the dad to be paying off step bros loans or something stupid but instead he's packing away all the rent he receives from his daughter into a fund for when she's moving out. This is the exact thing I plan to do for my child when they move out, any money I get from them goes directly into their future savings along with a deposit for a house, I want them to have an easier future than I do so I got mad respect for the dad for it.

[@Lily_of_the_Forest]

The ex only lusts after and does not love unconditionally.

[@Thelazertagkid]

Story 1 sounds like the ex is looking to trade OPs role with his new fiancés original one as AP and thinks they can guilt her into it using their daughter. Story 2, OPs definitely NTA and I might even say NSH. If Dad was honest about the money she gives him and no one knew until he admitted it, he’s causing the problem though not meaning to. I mean, if stepmom doesn’t know she might not be TA either as can you imagine what she might think about OP? Stepbrother might be a mooch but when it comes to the food, he might not be TA. Anyway, love the vid, keep up the great work.

[@Swnsasy]

Girl.. He blamed YOU for cheating? Why on earth are you on Reddit for. Ignore him.. You're happy and he doesn't like the fact that you are.. He's the father of your child and nothing more..

[@LuvEvrytingKOREAN]

Story 2 I’m with OP. No!!! I had to do the same, my dad would eat my food. Eating out was a treat for me. I wouldn’t eat in front of them, but when I would get caught he would say I had to buy for everyone, but I couldn’t afford to buy for everyone. Even if I tried to explain he wouldn’t get it. So I did the same as OP and started hiding my food 😓