my journey thru grief.... being alone is starting to dictate all aspects of my life. future is now.

7/03/23. in our yard , enjoying a smoke-free day ,finally...in Monroe michigan .smoke has washed over much of the northeastern states. (Canadian
wildfires ?)

[@Prudence01]

Hi Len. The loneliness is hard. Also, being unable to communicate the things that are important to me with my husband. Going day after day , not having him to share my experiences with. Living without him is the hardest thing I have ever faced. It's unbearable. Take care. Peace and love.

[@kathykelly6045]

My husband passed away one year ago on the 10th of this month. Things are still very difficult. I feel like everyone except myself have moved on with their life.

[@sherryclingenpeel9304]

Prayers for you

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Kathy. I can understand your feelings here. This date of one year is upon you already. You have seen it coming. Now it's here. All these special dates and times and events we have to face without the one we loved, in our lives together, can be very stressful on us. They have been for me. I ask myself how did I get thru this one or that one. I can only say that prayers from others and my own cries for help were the difference, and Trusting in God's promises to keep me afloat and keep me walking forward one little step at a time . Sometimes I may step backwards. But I'm still here and still trying with God's help. May God keep you close and guide you through this terrible grief journey ...🙏🕊

[@kathykelly6045]

@@lenandcindypresley....4830 Thank you!

[@wendysullivan1909]

I understand what you are going through just hang in there. Many prayers.

[@patsybailey6187]

I lost my husband and it's almost 2 years and I still cry there's days that I cry all day I miss him so much it hurts a lot I'm sorry for your loss I can't wait for God to take me home when he's ready for me amen

[@lifesIronyboard]

It will be 5 years in October. I still miss her every day. We had just celebrated our 25th anniversary two months earlier.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

May God bless you with peace and guidance ,like he has for me...

[@Prudence01]

My husband died 4 years ago. We were together 31 years, and he died 4 days before our 25th wedding anniversary. I feel for you. It's unbearable, isn't it. My heart goes out to you.

[@lifesIronyboard]

@@Prudence01 Thank you. It really is hard. I wish more people understood what it's like without having to actually endure loss themselves. Please be gentle with yourself.

[@BlainsTube]

Brother thank you so much for sharing your pain and insights. Your honest voice is ministering comfort and encouragement to many hurting people. One answer for the pain is... You two were joined together as one flesh. A part of yourself is missing. How could there not be pain with that. Please continue to let your voice be heard. Your message is helping everyone that has lost a spouse and WILL help those in the future that must to face the same pain. God bless you Len as you walk this grinding road. Cindy, keep the light on.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Encouraging comments my friend. Thank you so much. Little by little, step by step, God's word is getting out to those who needed to hear it. I can only share what the Lord has done for me. And for now that is all I have to offer. In the end, knowing Jesus as your savior Lord and God is the only thing that really matters. God bless you ...🙏👍 I can't wait to get to heaven, leave the light on honey. Love that!

[@pjones7012]

my wife passed away 18 months ago. i did not know this level of sadness existed. my wife missed her mom and one memorial day wrote this: My Mother went to Heaven 20 years ago. I can still see her smiling face and hear her voice and feel her loving arms around me. I will always miss having her near. Her love will always be in my heart until we meet again.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

That is our hope . To be reunited with our loved ones in heaven one day. I long for that day. Not enjoying my new life so far. May God bless you with peace and guidance....

[@user-bq8vx6ji4t]

I just lost my husband in January. I am at a complete loss, married for 53 years. We had a wonderful and loving marriage. I will never be the same❤

[@MAvila744]

Hi Len, So good to see you. The dreadful smog is from the wildfires in Canada. I live in the North East and we had several bad days. I understand how you feel. I have a friend who began to grieve for the first time after 5 years. It is called complicated grief. With my friend, her husband died suddenly and she became a widow with three children still in school. She had to stay strong for them. She stuffed all of the pain down until she cried for the first time five years later. I often feel like I am living an out of body experience. We live a life we don”t want. Every day is a new challenge to keep moving on and not collapse in sadness. The one person we shared everything is no longer with us. I find this is the most difficult to deal with. This new life is very unnatural and very uncomfortable. We don’t want it but we cannoI change it. I am a devout Catholic and I am grateful for my faith. I am aware that God is taking care of me. It does not eliminate the suffering, but as Christians we can be called to walk with Cbrist as He suffered. Suffering, unfortunately is part of life. We just never knew until now how painful suffering could be. God bless you! Remembering you in my prayers. 🙏

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thank you for commenting, MAvila. Sorry it takes me so long to reply. I read every comment and pray for all. We were both raised as Catholic s. However we attended a missionary Baptist church for about the last16 years. In our Bible study group we have protestant and catholic believers. Our blessed Jesus is our union. Everything you said about your walk in grief I have felt and still do. I don't like it either. But everyday I try to do as my wife did. Jesus 1st others 2nd and self 3rd. It doesn't always workout that way . Thank you for your prayers, God's will be done...🙏🕊✝️✡️

[@FloresA7]

Len, I am about one year ahead of your loss, my heart still bleeds. I read form some other W who said that the amount of pain is equivalent to the depth of love we have shared with our beloved spouse. It seems soulmate love lasts our life time, even though some W have since remarried. For myself, 'continual bond' seems to help me, because to forget is definitely not for me. I fight to keep this love with me for as long as I live. And if God allows, I would like to see my husband again. Yes, loneliness is very very hard, and yet I have found that I must be careful not let this make me a prey for others, a new phenomenon I have been experiencing since widowed. May God bless you. You and all widowed people are in my prayers.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thank you for your comment. It speaks volumes of the world we now find ourselves forced to endure. To love again is a possibility, but to just let go of our special love to make room for another is not something I want, but I have considered. I fight to keep her memories alive in my heart and mind. But this takes a physical and mental toll on my spiritual life. Making decisions is so different now without a partner to discuss things. I realize I've never really been alone before. What a dilemma I find. I can't live with her, and I can't live without her . This has kept me isolated from any desire to progressively move forward in this new existence. I love my wife eternally, so what do you do.? I'm trusting in God's Word and believing that His will has a plan for me and you also. Father knows best! Praying for God's peace and guidance to surround you in your every need . GOD bless...🙏🕊💕

[@patriciataylor1409]

I feel like my husband is still with me and he's never going to leave me and I'm grateful he hasn't abandoned me.

[@meninagreen5704]

Wow!!! How I love your insight. I struggle to feel this, too, and sometimes I do, but it's still so HARD. I miss him and I love him.

[@widowerscorner]

Thank you thank you!!! My wife my queen passed away around the same time your wife did. EVERY SINGLE VIDEO you put up is a mirror of my thoughts actions and words! I started recording my thoughts as well and I'm definitely telling folks about Jesus and he love you all of us!!! Bless you sir. I'm praying for you and everyone here!!!

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thanks for your comments. God be closer every day... He is our rock to cling, too...

[@clarencehogrefe1220]

THANK YOU, GOD BLESS.

[@WeepingWidowSueAna]

I think this is one of your best videos yet. God bless you my dear friend. We'll walk this awful road together and trust Jesus all the way. Come what may! You give me strength and courage every day to press on.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thank you, sue, I am so thankful for your friendship and encouragement. I know the terrible physical debilitating pain and the grief of the loss of your beloved husband You have had to endure these last 10 months +. The disease you have had for decades is now robbing the life that is left in you. I have seen some of your struggles and understand a lot of the miserable things you have to endure each day .sometimes all day, all night, for days ,and for nights. Watching you walking always uphill and still not giving up on God and yourself is an inspiration to me and many others. Thank you for sharing your story and for being a friend. God bless...🙏🕊💕

[@cindycrockettbradley5058]

Prayers. I understand. Hope you have a Happy 4th of July. Prayers for all who listen to your channel. God Bless.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

As always cindy ,thank you and God bless...🙏🕊

[@Wookinpanub235]

Great video, very encouraging and I can relate to everything you said with my own personal journey. Im just so thankful my wife said some things to me that only she could pull off because she was always looking 20 steps ahead and had a gift for thing like that. She told me she feels so bad for me because I put my career and my while life on hold to take care of her . She said she worries about me but she will make sure I have help. She told me it will be hard getting all the affairs in order with legal and financial stuff but it will work out. She told me I will be lonely but I can finally get a taste of the batchelor life for a kittle while but she said she wanted me to remarry and be happy. She even had the perfect Wiman for me picked out. She insisted that I marry her. At the time I didnt want to hear that but like I said she always thought 20 steps ahead and knew me better than I knew myself. And boy she was never wrong. We will see what happens but her words comfort me so much and Im thankful she told me those things. It really helps me along.

[@maryturner2633]

You hit the nail on the head when ewe said, "Your'e not the same person." I mourn my old life I had w/my precious soulmate. The pain will always be there, long as I'm in the flesh. But I'll see my Angel again. Can't wait :)

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

I hear you, Mary. I feel the same. God bless🙏🕊

[@beckyyoung4401]

It is good to hear from you. What you are saying is so true. I am still struggling so much that my husband is gone. I have alot of the same feelings you have had. It's been 17 months. Yes it's a very slow process.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thank you for commenting Becky. I understand the struggling part everyday sometimes . But somedays aren't as intense as I learn to stay busy to reestablish a desire to live in my new life without my best friend and my reason to live before. Adjusting to this new life is a very slow process for me... But it is beginning to happen bit by bit. Month by month. God is in the details now. I have to trust him totally. Not so easy to do. But I'm learning... God bless...🙏🕊

[@cajunkid0]

I lost my beautiful Melanie on March 27th. I'm in such deep despair right now. I keep asking God to take me. All I want is to be with my Melanie!

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello cajunkido. Thank you for commenting. What you are feeling is something most of us, in some way shape or form have felt. I lost 40 lbs, in my early days of bereavement. I just didn't want to live here without her. It was my commitment to my dear wife to put Jesus 1st in my life that kept me from self destruction. I'm praying that God will help you through this terrible grieving process of brokenness. It is the price we must pay for our deep love we have and will always carry with us. I talk to my wife everyday, every night before I go to sleep , I lean over and kiss her favorite pillow. These little moments and the memories of her words back to me, keep me from forgetting just how important she was and will be once again ,maybe soon... Hold on to Jesus, and keep trusting Him. He is able and willing to bring you safely thru this grief and all the highs and lows that you will experience. One day ,one moment , one memory at a time. my heart and prayers go out to you my friend...🙏🕊

[@loreewidmer4795]

The lonely times are the worst. Thank you for reminding me to ask Him to help me

[@dianewilliams5271]

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have some of the same feelings. I talked to an old friend from high schools days this past Saturday. She lost her husband a year after I lost mine. We shared some of our feelings with each other. We cried together, and also, laughed together. We talked for 3 hours. This seemed to help me, and I hope it helped her. Glad to hear from you again. You have a good out look. Thanks for sharing and encouraging each one of us.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

God bless 🙏🕊

[@Pecan27304]

Amen

[@MultiViolin1]

Good to hear from you Len. It will be 2 years next month since I lost my beloved Elzunia. I want to share a thought with you. There is so much about our suffering on this Earth which is incomprehensible when looked at through human eyes. I now believe we are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having the human experience. We are here to face our fears and to grow in unconditional love. You cannot avoid pain in this life, it’s how you deal with all that pain that matters. You have my utmost respect for the way you are dealing with it. We are all connected, with both living souls and with those who have passed on to another existence. I was told by a man I trust that my wife is closer to me than my own breath. I cannot feel her Len but that doesn’t mean he was wrong. I’m here to encourage you. Keep asking Jesus for guidance and let Cindy know you love her still. Embrace the pain with your unconditional love, the same love Cindy showed you. You are never truly alone Len. Yes, being in human form means that you experience separation and loneliness. It is an illusion. I believe it is necessary in order for our true being to grow. Remember, you can’t avoid the pain but you can decide that it won’t get the better of you. Your love is infinitely more powerful than your grief. I wish you well my friend.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thank you once again for a beautifully written comment. Your words have such a deeply thoughtful and positive comfort. I have often wondered how you have been handling your life now. I think about most of those I've been touched by frequently. And your story is one that has left a permanent mark in my heart and soul. I know you Miss your dear Elzunia, like I do,my dear cindy. I know I will see her again one day. I believe you will see your beloved wife also. This fact has kept me from the darkness that seeks to drag me away from that blessed hope. God will see us through. Untill that day, May He bless you and keep you close to His side, my friend...

[@chetappling8200]

Len, I'm a mix of ups, downs & sideways. I applying my energy & efforts in completing household projects. So-called "friends" are hit & miss - that's hurtful, confusing & sad especially after my husband's death. Maybe, God is saying thru these "friend(s)" neglectful behavior - Look to Me & trust Me, don't rely on humans because of their careless & superficial ways. I don't know anymore. Mostly, I'm going through the motions of living😢

[@hiskid4eternity]

I have been going through this life without a spouse and I get lonely sometimes. But I am an introvert myself. the most difficult thing for me is being around family that have someone to share their lives with and I do get sad, but I put on a smile return home and give Jesus thanks for His love for me and know that I am loved. Doing everything by myself is not easy. I pray a lot and keep my eyes on Jesus. I pray you are comforted and encouraged in your faith.

[@hiskid4eternity]

I guess I have been holding out for someone who truly has made God his Lord and Savior., and have not closed the door on that possibility. thank you for your encouraging words.

[@nancyschaefer9748]

August 12 will be one year since my Bill died. Last July I was visiting him in his facility while he recuperated from a fall. It does not seem possible he is not there for me to see. Little things happen and suddenly I break down into crying missing him. The quiet times are the hardest.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Nancy In my everyday life now, it's those little things that we did together or for each other that I miss the most. I cry some every day. God bless...🙏🕊💕

[@Clara-wo1hg]

You know it would be really lovely if sometime you told us how you met and your story. Our loved ones live in our hearts and talking about them keeps them close ❤️

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hi clara , Thank you for your comment. I will share more as time allows. I have shared much in previous videos. I met my dear wife at the post office where she worked in Carleton, Michigan. We were both in the end of a divorce of around 4 years. The best thing that every happened to me next to my savior Jesus, was meeting cindy. God bless...🙏🕊

[@reginabyers5378]

Amen!

[@bride8305]

(HUG) Thank you so much Len for all your grief videos, I miss him so much, everything is so hard by myself/ Jesus is in me helping me to get through this, holy Spirit I need You every second of every day to omfort me in my pain.

[@lynnsmith9547]

Thank you for sharing your feelings when it's so difficult. In the end God will get us through this. Prayers🙏

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Yes, thank you Lynn. God bless...

[@reginabyers5378]

Have a blessed and safe 4th of July as best as you can. GOD bless you.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thanks so much

[@reginabyers5378]

@@lenandcindypresley....4830 your welcome.

[@boonicholls6649]

I am so sad and sorry that you lost your beloved wife Cindy. I lost my husband Ray. I have lost myself too. My whole world has crashed around me. You and me know how a broken heart feels. You understand my pain and l understand your pain. It hurts so much. Only someone who goes through it could understand.l will never love another.... I thank God that he came into my life and gave me 48years of love and happiness. I knew love because of my RAY..... I loved him then, l love him still, l always have, And always will... 💔🙏Thankyou for sharing your journey of grief. Yours was a love story as was mine...... 💔💕

[@cindynok]

I have been dealing with terrible sadness 23 months out. I had been doing pretty go then bam, hit the brick wall. I have been dealing with all the miseries of grief on my channel.. Hugs

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Cindy. You are feeling very similar to me and many others. I've mentioned the ups and downs in grief for over a year. Just when you think you can begin to handle this, something or someone or nothing but a simple little object or thought can bring on a river of tears and put you in sadness for hours or days. Sharing like you and I do can benefit ourselves while helping others to cope with these terrible times we all face may God bless you and yours...🙏🕊💕

[@myrtlegranger3443]

I Len! Good to see you again. Wow! I can relate to everything you said. I get so sick of this grief. You’re so right it’s changes you & your life is so different. I also hate the depression. God Bless❤️🙏

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hi Myrtle. Good to hear from you. Hope you are doing a little better as time has slipped past. You have been here a long time . I pray God keeps you close to Him through the days and months ahead... We need His help... God bless ...🙏🕊💕

[@clarencehogrefe1220]

Hi Len, all the words you spoke on this Video is how i feel. You are such. a Loving and Kind Person. I do understand the Loneliness, Yearning, Feeling so Lost & Numb. And yes there are times i ask God to take me to Heaven to be with Jan just like you with Cindy. I have been Blessed by Jan & God to find your Videos Len. Like i have said before i truely think of you as a friend. For me 7/18/2023 will be 2 years 5 months since Jan went to Heaven. So many dats are so hard for me, i just keep doing, my pain & grief are always with me. Gid Bless you my Friend Len

[@Kaytha.57]

clarence, you take good care of yourself. God loves you. Extra prayers for you.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Clarence. Thank you once again for a thoughtful encouraging comment. I know we feel the same things in many ways. One day at a time , just one day after another after another. Keep her memory living on And the hope for a great reunion in heavens glory. We can and will make it. God is there with us. God bless my friend...

[@fshafly2]

Good to hear from you again Len. I appreciate your insights. It's coming up to 10 months since my wife of 51yrs passed away with cancer. I recently told my brother that I still have a hole in my heart and in my life. I have no kids, live alone, but as an strong introvert, I am not lonely. Still there is that absence of caring, sharing, and loving that I miss (tears are falling as I type) and I have a fear of trying to fix it. I joined a bridge club as a way to meet new people. A few widows/divorcees have made minor gestures/flirts and I just cannot accept their invitations to dinner or whatever for now. I hope time will make a difference...

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

I'm hearing every word you speak hear. I feel much the same way. Tears often accompany my reply to comments . I don't want to give up my memories so easily, to make new ones with another. Time holds the answers, at least some of them. God be with you ,closer each day.🙏

[@pjones7012]

my wife of 51 years also passed from cancer 18 months ago. i agree with len as i do not like my life now but as others i am trying to live again and hope that my tears are more often replaced with smile memories.

[@user-jg3hz3kr1c]

I lost my belove husband of 50 years in January , 2023 and this is tearing me. He was the love of my life and irreplaceable . My Life will never be the same . He was and still is my best friend.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband, your best friend. 50 years is a long time to be together. I was 35 years with my wife. Irreplaceable is not just a word. It is a legacy , a devotion a lifetime of memories which can never be replaced. I feel it my friend ,I really do, God be near,,, Closer each day,,, 🕊🙏🏻🤍

[@suedavis4017]

Thank you Len for another touching video. I am 16 months out from my husband's passing. I can relate to everything you are sharing with all of us.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

You are so welcome sue. Thank you for replying to us. May God keep you closer each day. 🙏🕊💕

[@janetslicer3637]

Hi Len, thank you for this special pep talk. I'm still talking to Jesus, he hasn't answered yet, but I will wait as you said. I send you best wishes until we talk again. XO Janet

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thanks for sharing! Janet👍🙏🕊

[@patriciataylor1409]

You are healing even though it dosent feel like it. The scar will always be there. You will feel better. Its going to be ok. ❤

[@lindaclarke7887]

Hi len I feel the same as you, my family think I should move on, but as you say grief is hard. Hope you have a good 4th July, prayers for all. Linda from U.K

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thank you for your comment, Linda. Forgive me for taking so long to respond . We will move forward when we are ready to move forward. ,unfortunately, we will know just what to say to others when their time of grief arrives. We hope it don't. But it probably will one day. I hope things are going good for you in U K . God bless...🙏🕊

[@brookemcgillivray180]

You have such a great way of expressing the highs and lows, all the crazy feelings of this grief journey… and you do it with hope. Thank you, Len. It’s been a year and 8 months for me, a few steps forward, a couple backward, but feel I’m making progress. Tomorrow my son and I board a plan for Oregon to visit family and spread my husband’s ashes. I’m happy we are finally able to do this and praying it helps in the healing process for all of us.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hi Brooke. I hope all is going well for you and your son on your trip. It is a hard thing to do ,but a necessary one . I spread my brothers ashes in San Francisco Bay just a couple of years before my wife became ill. I cried pretty good. I couldn't imagine me doing that for my dear wife. But it is all part of the healing process of grief. God be with you and your family. 🙏🕊

[@brookemcgillivray180]

@@lenandcindypresley....4830 We returned from our trip a couple days ago. It was a great time with family and a very meaningful experience for all. My oldest son who still lives in Oregon found a beautiful spot on the river and we all met there. I had rose petals to throw in the water which my young granddaughter, who still loves and misses her grandpa, loved doing. So very sweet. We all still miss him and grief will go on, but so is hope and healing.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

@@brookemcgillivray180 thank you for sharing again. It was a good trip for all. You will carry this journey with you always. God be with you closer each day...🙏🕊💕

[@claudetteikuesan2017]

Hello Len it is good to see you again after a few months of not tuning in.... You are looking a whole lot better. I lost my husband last year August. It was a such a shock although he was not well for about a year his passing was sudden it changed everything for me and my son who was 19 at the time. I felt that I was walking through a nightmare which I wished I could wake up from...... It does take to time to accept the loss of a love. When my mum and dad died I really felt the loss of them both. For me personally the loss of my husband was and still is the hardest of all.

[@marygoodsell3602]

My husband died 2 1/2 months ago, and i put on a happy face for others and cry 10 times a day at home. I wear his wedding ring with mine, dont think i will ever take it off. I hope i am not alone for the rest of my life, but if i am, thats ok too. Thank you for sharing.

[@malcolmdivorty6852]

I know how you feel. I lost my wife of 53 years a few months ago. At times the sadness and grief is overwhelming. I put on a brave face when around people but when alone the sadness and loss is always there. I go to bed in an empty house and wake up to the same. I don’t know what life now holds for me. All I know is that I miss my wife so much and wish she was still here with me.

[@annabarbour9903]

Ten weeks ago I lost my husband and I can’t stop. Crying my kids say think of the good times don’t dwell on how he was before he died ,oh god it’s hard not to think of how he was as I can’t get him out of my mind. I loved him so much and miss him even more.,,,,

[@maryannwhitten5123]

Keep holding on! We will get through this with God's help. Happy 4th, take care.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hi Mary Ann. Thank you for your comment . Holding on like the rest. God bless 🙏🕊💓

[@candidaherron6130]

Hi Len !! So glad to hear from you ! You know I've been thinking and still looking back on losing my husband Eddie ! It's been 11 months and I definitely know God has been carrying me ! I'm still so sorry my husband died. But I'm starting to know I must move forward . I still can't pack his things up or actually go through them. I just can't ! I went to church on Saturday and it did me a world of good 😊😊 God bless you as always Len and thanks for showing up with Love !

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Candida. Great to hear from you. Sorry it takes me so long to reply. I'm staying busy to keep my mind working on this new life. I haven't touched my Wifes things yet either. Not ready for that, not yet. I am so glad to hear you went to church, that is a big and necessary step forward. Eddie would be happy you did . God is there 24/7, He knows our needs before we ask. GOD bless ...🙏🕊❤️

[@candidaherron6130]

@@lenandcindypresley....4830 🤗 💙😄👌. As always God bless you!

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Candida. 🙏🕊💕

[@jillshaw9306]

It's been 2 years for me, and this morning I'm really in the dumps. This video motivated me. I feel better.

[@HummerH3ish]

Good to see you Len. In my prayers. I had to get back to work and that has had me exhausted for awhile now. It keeps me busy. Lot of days i feel kind of numb. There are times the reality that my husband is gone hits hard. I ask God to take the pain and the loneliness. You take care. God bless.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thank you for commenting. I will be going back to work as soon as possible . I just need to stay busy and occupy my mind with other things. I know the loneliness. God bless...🙏🕊💕

[@patriciataylor1409]

Hi Len it's 20th of Feb 2024. Here we are moving forward. Everything has changed a lot. We now have to rely on ourselves for everything. Still working on it. You offer some comfort and I want to thank you. Your like a friend out there who understands. I think I am at the coming to terms stage. But it's still difficult. I hope your journey is getting easier. ❤

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Patricia. Yes ,I agree with you on everything you are saying. It's still very different and new , old feelings seem to change into fading memories. What is this ? It's so strange, not what I have ever felt before. I face each day in wondering what new emotions I will experience. I pray for peace of mind in all my new decisions, and I must believe and trust in God's plan. I just wish I knew what it was. God be near to you, Patricia. Thank you for your wonderful comments...☝️💞

[@reginabyers5378]

I think that my shock and trauma is getting better because of God, Jesus and The Holy Spirit. I never thought that as a believer I would take this so hard.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Regina. I'm no different from you in my thoughts about a Christians experience in this terrible grief journey. I still ask God why now and then, but always remember that He has a plan for me, for us. We don't have to like it ,but trusting in His promises is what He desires. I do my best to believe in God's Word... God bless...🙏🕊

[@reginabyers5378]

@@lenandcindypresley....4830 I trust in GOD everyday. I can't get through this season of my life without GOD. I have been praying for GOD to give what my purpose is now. It will be four months on July 9 th. My flood of tears have reduced. I never knew that the human body could produce so much water. Well thank you for your videos they are helpful. May GOD bless you and keep you in Jesus Name, Amen

[@WeepingWidowSueAna]

I agree with you Regina! I am clinging to God with all that is within me, but I never dreamed that as a follower of Christ that I would hurt this bad and be this devastated and wrecked.

[@reginabyers5378]

@@WeepingWidowSueAna Hi Sue Ana it's really been a journey for me. If I wasn't a born again Christian I wouldn't have made it this far. I was in my husband's ICU room when he passed. As so as I knew that he was gone I didn't want to go on. My husband and I had talked about this and we promised each other the one that was left would go on. My husband had been hanging on for me. I finally realized so we talked and he asked what would I do and how would I make it. I looked at him and said I will be just fine. Don't worry about me. If it's your time to go home stop fighting and go. In fact I had no idea what I was going to do. When I saw my husband relax I knew that I had said the right thing. Then he started to apologize and I stopped him. It's was about two or three days later that he passed. He told me that he was tired and was going to take a nap. The staff had turned off the monitors in his room they were monitoring him at the nurses desk. I had walk away from his bed and plugged my cellphone in. I was checking my email when his nurse came in and told me that his heart was barely beating along with his breathing. I walked back to his bed side and took his hand. He was already gone. In that moment my whole world was turned inside out and upside down. By the time the Chaplin arrived I didn't even know how I was going to get up the next day. July 9th, this Sunday will be four months since my husband went home to be with GOD. I was in a such a dark place. I felt like I was walking through fire but I realized that I wasn't burnt. I realized that JESUS was walking with me. I couldn't have made it to now if I hadn't of held on to Jesus. Most people just kinda tell me to get on with my life. They don't understand what I am going through. Thank GOD for putting a few friends that had been through losses and understand. I have one friend that I can call day or night and I thank GOD for her. My son checks on me when he can but it's mostly just God and me.

[@lealugerlynch802]

I can’t wait to be in heaven. 💔😊

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Me too. Yes, me too.🙏🕊

[@sapphire6769]

​@@lenandcindypresley....4830 me too! I nedd to be here for now for my 2 boys and mom but i really really want to be with my dad again pls god reunite us xx

[@user-tm1pr8eq8c]

I cried,still hurting..

[@janicemcantyre3360]

Hi Len! Nice to hear from you. My life so different without the love of my life Charlie. July 7 will mark 17 months he went to Heaven and also its his birthday! He was born on the 7th and passed on the 7th but a different month. Holidays so hard for my daughter and I now. The loneliness you feel unbearable at times. Everyone different in their grief, but my husband and I were truly soulmates. I miss leaning on him, but don't have that anymore. I still go to a monthly meeting at a restaurant with my GriefShare group. Nice to laugh with people who understand. Your message today very true! I relate to what you said about your own journey. I wish you lived down the street I know you would be a great friend! I am sure you are kind to many people in your town. I pray things are better in your life. I know your wife would be so proud of you trying to help others with your videos. I still write to my husband in journals. It gives me some peace. Praying for you, my daughter, Sue, and all the nice people struggling in their grief. Good days and bad days for sure. The weather here been bad for a month off and on. Severe weather always popping up. Pray we get a break from storms and very high heat indexes of 115. I hope the smoke goes away for you also. Have a great 4th of July!🎆🌻🌻

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thanks again Janice ,for a wonderful comment. It takes me a little longer to reply to everyone. I'm always glad to hear from you and how you and your daughter are doing. God's helping us, prayers are what He desires. I don't know if you can ever pray too much. Long or short prayers from the heart are all He asks. Thanks for your prayers for all. God bless you guys...we will meet in Heaven ,👍🙏🕊💕

[@janicemcantyre3360]

@@lenandcindypresley....4830 Have a blessed week! I hope your weather better! No storms here but under high heat warnings all week. Trying to put ice at least once a day in water outside for outside feral cats. Heat brutal lately. God Bless.🙏😴🐈

[@JayP-kd5rc]

Hi Len. Nice to see you. You are looking well. July 5 will be 2 1/2 years, and I still miss him every day in everything I do. Every day is one day closer to going home.

[@rabick62]

Every day is one day closer to going home. Amen to that, I can hardly wait, the waiting hurts.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Jay P. Good to hear from you. Yes, each day is just one day closer to being where we belong . I do long for that day so much. But I'm here for a while yet. I'm going to try and make the best Of the time allotted to me. It's never easy anymore. God bless...🙏🕊

[@josephbologna2086]

Hi Len today is nov 2 iam Lonely n I know god has that plan u really helped me going from one doc to another I pray The rosary every day There’s just these elements that are starting now, but you definitely won’t be closer and you were very pleasant and I’m happy that you’re on. Please stay on it’s JoAnn.❤

[@sharoncooper5110]

Jesus is coming back for us✝️

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

🙏 amen

[@Bossmombalance]

I am finally getting the help I need with my grief after 18 years It is such a journey and a blessing to be able to lean on God during our difficult times

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Bossmomba Thank you for your comment . 18 years , wow. I'm glad you are finally getting help in your journey of grief. And yes, I only have had Jesus, to lean on during the darkest of times. May God be nearer each day 🙏🏻🕊

[@kathypolomcak7760]

You are so right

[@irisperez5560]

Thanks .

[@patriciataylor1409]

Its obvious you have a good heart and thats why you will find happiness again. Let God do the work. You have to start loving yourself more each day.❤

[@iamyankee4661]

Good to see you, Len. Its been a while for me.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thank you for commenting. God bless 🙏🕊

[@Kaytha.57]

Hi Len, God bless you and your channel. Prayers for all... faith is hope love.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thanks so much Kaytha. 🙏 🕊 God bless...

[@anicimarais4703]

Thank you Len for your guidance ❤

[@kathypolomcak7760]

God has a purpose for all of us we just don't know why we're here I will tell you one thing I got baptized and it's a Fourth of July my kids are going to put some of the tractors in the parade for tomorrow in dacatur Michigan and then we're having a barbecue with one of my neighbors

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Kathy. Sounds like you had a wonderful time. I was baptized as a baby and again at half moon lake near he'll michigan at our church campground . 1974. God bless you and yours. 🙏🕊 .

[@juliewhereisjfkjr8902]

I am so sorry for your loss and what you are going through. I am a nurse and I know what you are going through is extremely painful. It s nice of you to share to try help people. ❤ I have suffered loss myself. And I believe with my whole heart Jesus is coming back for his bride sooner than we think. Jesus is my everything. I would be open to talking with you. God bless you and may the Holy Spirit comfort you with his peace that passeth all understanding. Julie

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thank you for your wonderful comment, Julie. Sorry I take so long to reply back at times. yes ,I believe He is just waiting for the appointed hour. I'm here to talk to anyone about the Lord. He is the reason I still live here now. He has a plan. Thanks for what you do . We had the best nurses you could ever ask for when my wife was in the hospital. Beaumont hospital, in Trenton mich. They prayed with my wife before she left to heaven. God bless all Nurses. God bless you too. ❤ 🙏🕊

[@rmurphy3435]

In Hebrews 13:5 Jesus said “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Now in this time of our lives we need to always remember that He is with us. 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

[@richardkopaniasz8935]

Thank you Len for your words and God bless you.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

You are so welcome!

[@patriciataylor1409]

❤

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello claudette, Thank you for your encouraging comments. I hope you and your son are doing ok. August is fast approaching. Time seems to race bye, yet moves on in such a very different way now. Hard to explain. But I think you know what i mean. Its all so unfamiliar. Praying for you both to endure the constant sadness that seeks to overwhelm your new life without your best friend. God be with you, closer each day...🙏🕊

[@josephbologna2086]

It’s horrendous times I don’t know what to do with myself I see People out with their spouses or boyfriends couples everything is different. Sometimes I don’t know who I am without Joe. He’s like half of me. I’m watching TV and relaxing even though there’s a large family it doesn’t matter. They’re all very busy. people don’t know you’ll never know sometimes I wonder what they think inside I’m dead and outside so I have makeup on so white and a nice haircut so what it doesn’t mean I feel good because I look good nothing to do with it at all but thank you so much for being on. God bless you and your wife she was born in 1953. Me too it’s JoAnn

[@josephbologna2086]

Sometimes when I type it doesn’t come out the way it should like the word white shouldn’t be in there. Oh Well that’s what happens when you can’t really concentrate. Well, you have a good night len And thank you again

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

@josephbologna2086 I know JoAnn, It happens to me also. Words are missing mistakes or not intended. It's ok . Thank you, friend. God be nearer, each day...🛐❤️

[@stephm-p2839]

Hi Len, so true about this grief journey and how different it is for everyone each one of us, . The stages each one of us travel thru lead us to our journeys end as well. I just started a new part of this grief journey, our dog passed away last week, and so did a part of John again too. Im doing ok but would always welcome prayers. We never know what tomorrow will bring. but I do know Gods leading me. Happy 4th To your Len and God bless you and God bless America. We need his blessings that’s for sure!!

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hi Steph. I'm sorry to hear about your pets passing. I'm sure this brought more and different feelings of griefs painful processes to your front door again. I wonder how I will feel if our pet cat," her little girl", is suddenly not here anymore to comfort my loneliness . I can sympathize with you Steph. My prayers are on the way for you . GOD please help her through this new experience in her grief , bring her peace and comforting guidance in Jesus name amen ...🙏🕊💓

[@C5B-jc1yj]

My wife Jenny passed away 4 months ago from brain cancer. Watching her suffer through her last year, losing her mental and physical functions little by little destroyed me. She never never complained, but she was scared. I was holding her at home in bed as she fought for her last breath. I am not sure I will survive this. Not sure I want to. Like your wonderful Cindy, Jenny had many people who loved and adored her. They seemed to have moved on and are doing okay. For me, any little reminder will cause me to break down sobbing. The despair is bottomless. I am even afraid of going out in public in fear someone will ask me how I am doing. I found your channel last week. I cannot express how much gratitude I have for your tenderness, love and prayers for the rest of us. I watch your videos several times daily and feel I have a trusted friend who is going to walk me through this unbearable grief.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

I'm so sorry, my friend, I still hurt every day. God bless...

[@C5B-jc1yj]

It feels like you are the one who is always reaching out. It has brought me much comfort. @@lenandcindypresley....4830

[@C5B-jc1yj]

Thank you. The gentleness in your words and stories is calming for me. They help me lose my sense of loneliness as I can feel your friendship that you always share with us.

[@patriciataylor1409]

Ok❤

[@jenmidwest2432]

Nice to hear from you, Len. I am still crying more than I thought I would at this stage of my grief. I will be so glad when the Lord comes back. Thanks for doing a video to share.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hi Jen. Thanks for the comments. I'm with ya, come soon, Lord. It won't be much longer, I think. God, be closer to you each day. Keep looking up. 🙏🕊

[@jenmidwest2432]

@@lenandcindypresley....4830 Thanks Len. I never dreamed this grieve would last this long. I miss my husband so much. :-(

[@patriciataylor1409]

You have been blessed having a very special wife. This experience will teach you a lot about who you are. Grief can be soo bad. But we cant let it destroy us. God will help you. ❤

[@cliffmoore1360]

On the 26th of this month (January ) it will be a year since I suddenly lost my wife. She was 66! She loved life and she loved me! In the last 2 weeks I have watched some of your videos among others that talk about losing their wives. We seem to suffer very much the same way. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and yes I do think that this helps others who are going through the saddest moments of their lives.

[@sherryclingenpeel9304]

I think our Lord will be here soon. I am ready. Thank you for all you do..I appreciate you more than you know.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thank you sherry, Comments like yours help me and others. I am ready also. I am so ready also. But for now I'm just living day to day. Things can and will fluctuate between now and departure day. But I'm not to worried. I do feel for those with young children, growing up in a so very different world than I did. Hard to believe what I'm seeing around me. But soon, we will see our beloved and our savior Jesus. It will be worth the wait, I'm sure...God bless...🙏🕊

[@donnaboutwell8612]

Everything you said is the same way I felt now lonleyness has set in I hope to find a friend that is not easy to do

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Donna. Loneliness is and has been the most painful experience for me. I don't believe I have ever been so alone before. But God is helping me cope with this extremely difficult time. God be with you thru your grief journey closer each day.🙏🕊

[@practicalporters]

Well shared pearls of grey hair wisdom from someone who fears Jesus and loves others enough to share clearly. My crib notes from your video: Pain feared more than sudden death. Life is inconvenient and uncomfortable even with Christ. Free from jail of shyness. Born again into another Kingdom everything becomes different on the inside. Blessed are those that mourn for they shall be comforted. (Said by a man, not a woman). I don't have an answer for that...the best way to accept change and help from God and others who love you. It takes time. You are proof that hope is not a fable to cope with reality. Good work.

[@wendysullivan1909]

August 26th will be year one. Cried so much already. I know he was in pain. And he wanted to go. Thank god he did go fast at the end. I have good days and than there are the horrible ones. I keep trying to see past it. I find myself not wanting to be around people when I get in a bad way. But on the good days I love being around everyone. And you are right you are not the same person how can we be?life has changed, and in order to go on we must change . So I take it one day at a time. It is getting better. Best wishes . God bless and thank you.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Wendy. One year is almost upon you. More tears will probably flow in the coming weeks. They are always there if we need them. A friend of mine (weeping widow sue) calls her tears, lake sue. So I call mine Len Lake. Whatever it takes to get through one day at a time. You described my feelings and those from so many others. It can be a big comforter to know that you're not alone. Some periods of time take more assurances from God and others to get past the downsides. I have been getting better days and nights as the change in my new existence has become a reality. I still fight it off now and then , but with God's help and prayers from others and myself, I understand my reason for being here and now. I still don't like it, but I have begun to accept it. That is a big step. Life isn't over yet. There will be the same seasons of ups and downs, but without a partnership of a devoted wife and best friend to share it with. That alone is a scary thought. But so far, I've survived many horrible moments and even days of extreme aloneness. I will mark my calendar on 26th aug 2023 and pray again for you, Wendy. Thank you for commenting. God bless ...🙏🕊💓

[@wendysullivan1909]

@@lenandcindypresley....4830 thank you mr len. I know I am not alone . There are so many. To all I wish you many Grace's and once again thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. God bless.

[@rmurphy3435]

Coming up on 8 months and I feel your sorrow, it’s a tough time to be sure. My prayers are with the you. One day at a time. The loneliness is the hardest for me as not only in losing a wife but a best friend too is the hardest. ❤️🙏🏻

[@wendysullivan1909]

@@rmurphy3435 l hope you feel some comfort in knowing you are truly not alone in feeling the loneliness. I think we all feel it.and as time passes we gain a strength we never knew we could accept. But chatting with everyone here I feel much stronger to better. And I thank you and everyone for sharing. Mr. Len opened up to all of us , so in turn I like to thank him for that once again. And also you for being so gracious .

[@patriciataylor1409]

Change is hard. The world never stops turning we have to go with it. My hope is you find a true friend and companion. ❤❤

[@mikeharris127]

I have always been a shy person too.

[@patriciataylor1409]

I'm in Manchester England.

[@annchristie2009]

😭 I know

[@susan4772]

Hello Len, it’s always good to hear from you. God has given you a gift of expressing your thoughts and feelings and He has definitely used your words to help me get through the tsunami of grief that just keeps on coming in waves. I truly hope you find someone who you can share your life with who will respect the deep love you will always have for your Cindy. I would love for God to send me a godly companion, too. The loneliness is almost as brutal as the pain of grief. Of course, in order to meet someone, I have to get out of the house! My new theme song is “Don’t Get Around Much Anymore”. 😊 Thank you again, Len. May your words continue to help others in their grief journey and continue to point them to Christ…our hope and strength.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Susan. Thank you for commenting. The loneliness is the big one for me to. I'm adjusting to a lot of different things, but being alone at home or going anywhere is always a difficult, empty experience. The quietness at home overwhelms me at times. But I still feel best hanging around our home with all her belongings. Memories stay fresh in my heart when I'm there. That will change when I go back to work and put all thoughts of griefs painful periods aside . May Our dear Lord bring you peace and guidance, Susan. And supply all your needs ... God bless...🙏🕊💕

[@akfinn5308]

I was tending my sweeties grave the other day. It was full of flowers. Maybe twelve different kinds were blooming and several more to come. Some lady driving by slowly called out to me that it was beautiful. I smiled and said how I asked the kids to put flowers on his grave and they sure did! I smiled and said how it was nice except that sweetie went home to be with Jesus and I was still here. She smiled and went on, but I heard her call out; "I love you!" and I called out before I knew it; "I love you." I cried after that because it was Jesus in me saying that to the Jesus in her. That stranger going by that says something that affects one, like Len was saying.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Such a beautiful story comment AK finn. The Lord is a very present help in our time of need. I can pitchure this in my mind. Good to hear from you. Hope all is well as can be. May Jesus be closer each day.🙏🕊🌷

[@robertzabick1030]

It's been 2 years since I lost my Theresa. I exist, but I don't live anymore. Nothing gives me joy. I pray every night for God to take me. I don't say this for people to feel bad for me. I just want to exit this world. My wife was my life, and nothing gives me joy. I am tired of living like this, so I pray God, in is mercy, will take me home. If this wrong, I pray God will forgive me.

[@JayP-kd5rc]

I feel the same way. Don was my life. We were married for 30 years and I don't want to be here either. No family, so no reason to remain here.

[@rabick62]

I don't think it's wrong, just normal. Still we need to try our best, I know it is so hard for me too.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello robert. I can understand your feelings here. I've had these feelings and occasionally still do. So hard someday's just to get out of bed. Looking forward to that special reunion in heaven. God understands. May God be closer to you every day...🙏🕊

[@josephbologna2086]

Hi Len I left a comment, but I forgot to say it’s Joanne from Jersey where I spoke to my daughter about you and she told me I should listen to you again because I spoke about you to her and all the wonderful things that you say and how you make me feel God bless you and your wife len n Cindy Oh, and I also told her how do you play the guitar and piano like my dad well take care make more videos please

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Oh thank you! Dear friend...🙏🕊💓

[@vedrakuca]

I lost my husband 8months ago from consequence of bizarre sports accident playing football while kept innocent in prison. I am devasteted and left alone with 2sons 13 and 16years old. I am 47.without job,hoby,close friends or family..How to forgive the judge and lawyer for putting innocent Person in prison and that Person died..how to find faith again ,i am so heartbrooken

[@maryturner2633]

It hurts b/c you miss her so much

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Yes ,you are correct..❤

[@josephbologna2086]

Hi Len looking for you it’s Joann I hope you’re doing fine or I should say better than before. Try to stay in touch my only friend To share the grief loneliness there’s so much more I would like to see you. I just hope you will make another video so I could see you and something new Just to talk and become friends we have a lot in common today’s December 16, 2023. I hope you’re feeling fine.❤❤❤

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Ok Joann 👍🏼🕊

[@clarencehogrefe1220]

Len, every word you said is me also. The Loneliness. Is so very hard, no one will EVER REPLACE JAN..I keep struguling . Also Len how to i find your other videos on your other phone. God Bless Friend. Len

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Clarence. Good to hear from you again. You are so right, no one will ever replace the love we had and still carry for the painful loss of our special bond we had in our union of marriage To that special friend who made our life together a life worth living for. . . ." Widowers journey thru grief by len presley " Is the other channel ...God bless ,my friend...

[@josephbologna2086]

Hi Len I told my daughter about you and how you helped me with your confidence and you believes in God And heaven, and how do you know for sure that your wife is in heaven and that you would see her again that makes me feel good knowing that for me it’s a year in a month and it is very lonely. I’m looking to move into a 55 and over community to make some new friends, I don’t have any friends now. But thank you and I hope you make a new video soon. God bless you and your wife.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Hello Joanne. Good to hear from you . Hope you and your daughter are doing OK. I did receive your letter. Thank you for writing. It was very thoughtful of you to go the extra effort to write. I will send a letter back soon ,but I am not a very good writer. GOD bless you my friend in NJ. 🙏🕊

[@hiskid4eternity]

How wonderful that you claim Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, God Bless you

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Thank you for commenting, jojeejonicholson. I was born again in 1974 Oct. I'm so glad He never left me or forgot about me. JESUS is my waypoint. My starting point. When I put him aside He let me go. He never left me, just let me. Now I want His will and nothing else...God bless...🙏🕊

[@hiskid4eternity]

@@lenandcindypresley....4830 I could share a true story about how He literally saved me. When I gave my testimony at my church, I wasn’t sure how the congregation would take it but I felt it would bless somebody and so my story is that I was on the fence for quite some time mainly because I was very hurt in the past and confused, and was searching for the truth and many different ways. So anyway, One night when I went into my room to lay down to sleep I always make sure my bedroom door was closed because I felt safe that way for some reason and as I was going into the second level sleep with him, I heard my door open and could not respond or move. Could not open my eyes I was paralyzed. And then I saw In My minds eye A dark shadow, hovering over me getting closer and closer I mind I was screaming for God to help me, but soon as I felt that this dark shadow was going to smother me, or kill me. in my mind I screamed as loud as I could, the name of Jesus, and instantly the dark entity and vanished, and then I was able to sit up and wake up. I know this might sound spooky to some but to me as I reflected on the event incident I realize that Jesus literally showed up to save me and remove any doubts or questions that he is my Lord and my savior I too am so very thankful that He has never given up on me nor will He ever. And so I praise and Him every day all day in everything

[@hiskid4eternity]

@@lenandcindypresley....4830 Amen

[@hiskid4eternity]

@@lenandcindypresley....4830 Thank you for responding😊🙏

[@eifionjones559]

an ancient primitive myth as your crutch

[@julialaureano1225]

Do you also feel like your friends all of a sudden disappear?? I lost my husband of 45 years and now i feel like i dont fit in the group anymore. Much like a spare wheel that one uses when needed..

[@patriciataylor1409]

You are talking to 3.000 people talking to you.😮

[@angelapriddy6308]

When we were younger we had a lot of bomb fires and they were Hugh. We'd det there for hours And no one got sick. In fact we'd all feel better.. so how is trees burning causing so much havoc?

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

Good question Angela

[@sharynduran5993]

I NEVER smile anymore. There is no joy in my life anymore. I am so unhappy. Life just sucks without my husband.

[@lenandcindypresley....4830]

I understand your feelings, Sharyn. Mostly. GOD, be with you...🙏🕊