My Own Mother Kept Something Secret That DESTROYED My Marriage r/Relationships

[@owl7072]

"You're punishing me over a mistake!" A mistake is forgetting to turn off an oven or something, her "mistake" was a multi-step process that she could have stopped at any point but kept going along with anyway.

[@Sherwoody]

Please forgive me, it was an accident. His penis fell into my vagina.

[@Ginamm13579]

A mistake is forgetting to pick up the dry cleaning not .. oops he fell on to me naked and now I am pregnant.. ooops it was a mistake if he would just watch were he was walkin/s

[@weronikaxo9842]

​@@Ginamm13579się ok =i

[@flora9084]

If sleeping with your sister's fiance is a mistake, then what is banging him so many times you create a human????

[@juliearmfield2634]

Story 1. Nta. My grandma used to say " Sunshine is the best disinfectant" Op did exactly the right thing to expose every single one of those backstabbing " family" menbers.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

Hey I agree with that statement

[@skullphantom705]

I like that saying, I'll start using it now lmao

[@Opinionatedboo]

Story 1:Anyone who supports a cheater, will cheat given a chance. I would ask dad to check mom out.

[@catsncrows]

Nah it's probably grandbaby rabies. I've seen it in action and it's a whole damn lot.

[@susankaempfer8427]

That could be fun… I’d drop something vague, like “well, it’s not surprising, given mom’s history. She threatened to put me up for adoption if I ever told….”

[@johnbradbury8610]

I bet anything the mother is a cheater

[@loganholzwulf1689]

Oh man. I was just casually listening to this and when I heard “Screw you Logan”, I was like, “Oh so that’s what Makree and Mark Narrations feel like when a Mark shows up”.

[@Frostfern94]

That’s what I feel like when a Megan shows up. They’re never nice.

[@geckokid8265]

And I feel the same when a Tom appears (I usually hope they're a goodie)

[@MysticMae21]

Closest I've gotten is a character in a show that sucked with my name. As mine isn't common I've never had it on one of these yet. XD

[@DaBaseBallZ]

Story 1:AHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!! Revenge is a dish no restaurant can cook😈

[@itsjonna5070]

This is a new and good saying

[@SkyEcho751]

Revenge is like a Plate of Ghost pepper curry, served to a person who can't even handle a small jalapeno.

[@yozarahirvi4750]

I pretty sure a restaurant can cook a poisened dish for you to take revenge on your wrongdoers

[@heatheraucoin5832]

S1- He wasn’t tired of OP, he received an invitation and took it

[@catpool94poolcat24]

Story 1: Honesty, she's better than me because I would have pour salt 🧂 in that garden. And say, like your dog, your Flowers are never coming back.

[@ladyjpolite]

I was thinking I would have dug up that entire garden in 2.5 seconds but your idea was so much better!!! 😂

[@gremlininblue2601]

The plants are innocents, man 😅

[@catpool94poolcat24]

@gremlininblue2601 🤣🤣🤣 Unfortunately they had to catch a stray

[@Mia-dt3gl]

_“I supported you, so it’s perfectly okay for your fiancé to get me pregnant!”_ 🙄

[@kentario1610]

"all I've ever done is support you" all? _All?_ Her audacity.

[@pippo17173]

Something tells me op is not admitting that maybe the support was actually manipulation base on how the mother is doing. It has to be that, there is no way its support.

[@taylorwashington7682]

Ops sister: 🎶 I dont want to face the consequence. Consequence. I dont want to face the consequence chasing me right now

[@Bucketus.Lord.of.Buckets]

*dad immediately informs OP of the betrayal* Based dad. ETA after update: damn, shame he lost cool points for giving in to his harpy wife and 304 daughter

[@bryn1063]

Dad is fine with being cut off as long as the post is taken down? L Dad. That's too bad he was doing so good. :(

[@Bucketus.Lord.of.Buckets]

​@@bryn1063yeah, commented earlier. My hope is at worst he got tired of the crap his wife and 304 daughter have him so he was just like "take it down to get these turds off my back"

[@RobDaCajun]

@@Bucketus.Lord.of.Buckets that and he’ll be the responsible grandfather raising the affair child. It’s making the best of a bad situation.

[@dreamart3395]

Story 1 …betrayal has got to be the worst thing ever to have to endure. It tears your heart and soul out of your body. The uncontainable anger it causes is understandably why in some cases someone gets physically hurt or worse. OP is entitled to her rage. I pray she will eventually be able to move on. She owes no on an apology.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: Of course the sister is pregnant. At least, more of OP’s family is holding the sister accountable, I wish that the parents did but they have to protect their golden child.

[@MrJpaynebb]

No one does betrayal better than a family member or a romantic partner. No one. As for OP's exposure of their betrayal some call it revenge, some call it justified and others say karma. Why not all 3?

[@LadyWolvie82]

Something tells me that in the future, OP's parents will get divorced, as the dad needs to grow both a pair and a spine to stand up for himself, and the parents will then realize that the older sister being the Golden Child ruined yet another relationship.

[@terramarini6880]

@@MrJpaynebb Ms. Karma's justified revenge... yep, it tracks.

[@momo382844]

@@LadyWolvie82Nah, the grandparents are going to be stuck raising their grandchild while their daughter runs the streets. We all know that Ex is gonna ditch the Sister as soon as he can.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

Story 1: op isn’t wrong here . Op deserves to get revenge on her sister .

[@kaykay8855]

For once I agree with you

[@lina9535]

If I was OP I'd have updated the story with "guess which tretcherous b is pregnant from cheating with me ex-fiancé"

[@kacielawrence]

Uhhh, no. Doing that to honor a deceased one's memory is wrong. Should have just exposed her for being a cheater

[@aduckofsomesort]

@@kacielawrencewhat

[@MizMorgue1]

💯💯💯

[@LadyWolvie82]

Markee... THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for sharing S1! Some of us on Reddit were going on about how if this got to KZbin, there's no going back for any of them. Team OP all the way for S1! Edit to add: S1 is far from over. There are several other issues at play for all involved. I won't be surprised if the parents end up divorcing over the matter, because the mom clearly favors the sister and the father has no spine to stand up for himself. The dad needs to grow both a pair and spine.

[@pinkgoblin5815]

1st Story: OP was brutal AF but rightfully deserved. I hope that every time sister looks into her baby’s innocent little eyes, all she can think about is how life shouldn’t be this way for her child AND her sister. I hope the child is a reminder that her choices are permanent and now she has to live with it. One day she’s going to have to explain this to her child. This was the ultimate betrayal and it is unforgivable. I wish OP nothing but the best.

[@YuToobVideos]

Story 1: "But I supported you" after sleeping with your fiance, is like saying, "Didn't I give you a bandage after I stabbed you?"🙄

[@pippo17173]

Man like its always the number 1 fear to me. Being close to people you have to believe they do care only to pull that crap. Hard to see threw that.

[@swisstroll3]

More like “didn’t I tell you which store sold bandages after I stabbed you?”

[@rubystone9074]

Back in high school, I always wanted to take an honors course like my twin brother, and when i finally got the chance after my teachers aproval, my own mother pulled me out after 3 days because she "didnt think I could do it" I also learned later that year that they kept me on a learning disability program that my teachers tried to take me off of, because they beleived I didnt need it anymore. (I have ADHD. Back then, it was undiagnosed. They probably thought i was just wasnt trying hard enough) While this expierence is nowhere near as damaging as OP in story 2, I kinda get it when it comes to trouble with parental favoritism in this kind of light, and his sister WILL find out about this one day, and honestly, it might break her. It just sucks to know how little faith parents can have in you, I guess.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

In story 2 the parents are really not doing the sister any favors. They KNOW her life won't really end well so they are lavishing all of these "extras" on her knowing her life will most likely end in some sort of failure whether that is a broken or unhappy marriage or worse. I have seen this type of scenario before with a friend of mine who was a Test Pilot for Top Secret Military Projects. The Air Force and the Private Company who built the test vehicles (planes), bought him and his family a $2 million dollar home. They bought them a couple of new vehicles. They created a college fund for his 2 children and they paid for 3 different massive Life Insurance Policies above the extended benefits his family would receive upon his death. Notice they didn't say IF he died. They said UPON his death. He was preparing for a piloting test that he could not even talk about what the vehicle was that he would be flying. The day came, he did his thing and later that day his wife was visited by Air Force Officials. He had died during the flight. That's all they would say. There was no body to bury so they simply had to have a memorial service for him. One of his and my friend in "The Program" who knew what happened couldn't tell his wife or any of his friends what actually did happen. He did say the result was "expected" but they had hoped it would have succeeded. When I asked him what happened to his body and why the ejection system didn't function all he would say is there was nothing left. No body, no body parts, no wreckage. He and the vehicle simply blinked out of existence. Officially he is considered deceased, unofficially, he is considered MIA. So, like the parents in this story, the Air Force and the Private Company who built the test vehicles planned for and expected a failure but hoped for success.

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

It's worse. What they are doing is depriving her of learning skills to be self-reliant. My parents did this with my siblings and they have struggled much harder than I did learning how to be an adult. It pisses me off, but man, I have stuck in even the hardest of times to my life goal/plan.

[@hilaryc3203]

I left a longer comment above explaining why they did it that way, but it is all because they are Indian (south asia), and this is all based in their cultural norms that the daughter must be financially protected by the husband, or the brother if she is still single. If they were to leave her the money, she would be tarnished socially. As a result they indulge her while she is single and they are alive.

[@KnightMan16]

You have to remember, OP said they are brown people. Chances are they are probably south asian but either way, that's part of their culture. The son inherits and the daughter marries well to do. From the original post, I could tell this was the case. Even if you disagree with it, that's what they do and they are doing just that. They are preparing her by helping her build connections at the private school and live a life that matches her peers. Once she is beautiful enough, she'll find a rich husband (likely someone who will inherit too). The parents are well off so the offers will come.

[@LadyCeag840]

Story 2: I was all on board to saying NTA to OP, but I want to swing one to the Sister as well. I don’t know her personality or treatment of OP, but I still feel bad that the parents don’t see her as anything above a future SAHW to some rich dude. Do they even know if the Sister has any dreams or goals or hobbies? Do they even know if she can sustain herself if she can’t find a husband or she finds herself suddenly single? Sister may be the Golden Child, but I’ve heard that being the Golden Child has its own problems as well…

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@Batmanapplejax]

Whenever my little sis would do something “dumb” as a kid someone in the family would say “better marry rich or just as easy to marry a rich guy as poor” and laugh. My gram would snap “how, none of you know any” and gently correct her. Little sis is now rocking it in DC helping women around the world, married for love not money. Thanks Gram.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@secretskull21]

Every single cheater ever: “Oh, I destroyed your relationship/family/trust/mental health, but you made me look bad? You’re going to hell!”

[@jess-bo98]

Sister: I don't deserve online hate! Almost correct! You don't only deserve online hate 😂 you need some in person hate too B!

[@sterngerlach9184]

Story 1 final update: You have a war wound. It may heal partially, but it will always ache a little when your weather is bad. Thank you for your service.

[@carlrood4457]

One of my favorite movie lines comes from Gene Hackman in Bite the Bullet "If it ain't by a friend, it ain't a betrayal." Betrayal can only come from those we've granted trust, respect, and love.

[@susanrice5509]

story 1 I wonder if the mom was so forgiving because she cheated on her husband?

[@satansecretary665]

the dad should check if all those kids are actually his, i have a feeling the golden child sister might not be his.

[@pippo17173]

@@satansecretary665 Ether way, just the first post I can tell the man just gave up on life if he still married to this women.

[@nicolewilliams4827]

She knew she was pregnant and was going to let OP marry that dude?! Good thing the dad spoke up. What a disaster!

[@Mr.andMrs.Smith_0420]

Story 1- It's sad that Op even has to say, "I know I shouldn't have done that" and other things of the sort, it goes without saying that her sister deserves every bit of hate coming her way.

[@helianabanes4875]

Here is how someone who is ACTUALLY sorry: "you are right, leave the posts up, i deserve this judgment."

[@garthrogers2269]

Story 1. OP now knows who her mother's favourite is, and her father needs to start questioning his wife over her potential cheating, since she's defending her cheating daughter so hard.

[@Russman67]

Story 2: So which child had it worse? Was it the one that was worked like a pack mule but always knew that he would be successful or the one that was basically just being set up to be married off because that's the best she can do? Parents of the year candidates for sure

[@hilaryc3203]

I left a longer comment above explaining why they did it that way, but it is all because they are Indian (south asia), and this is all based in their cultural norms that the daughter must be financially protected by the husband, or the brother if she is still single. If they were to leave her the money, she would be tarnished socially. As a result they indulge her while she is single and they are alive.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@carlrood4457]

Weird how so many families choose the one who can only drag them down.

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

Story 2: The sentence I got brown parents to apologize is so great. I got white boomer parents and I got them to apologize to me--that was equally wild (to me, not everyone) because that generation never admits their fuckups. Enjoy it. It really demonstrates to you how much they love you.

[@heatheraucoin5832]

S1- WTF does she mean, “ I’ve supported you all your life, you should forgive me for this one mistake.” So she was going to be cool with OP and wolverine get married and be fine carrying his child and have siblings cousins. As for the parents good on dad for telling OP. They are just accepting the fact that they have to be civil in order to see their grandchild.

[@kentario1610]

_wheezes_ she really went "throw out the trash, my sister now, YOINK" and you know what, good for her

[@dianedavid3052]

I got brown parents to apologise 😂😂😂. Kudos to you!

[@carlrood4457]

I've never understood this. When someone I know is with someone, they automatically get categorized in the "like a sister" category for me. I can objectively see them as attractive, but there's simply no chance of developing sexual or emotional feelings for them.

[@ObsidianFaux]

Let’s go!! Op punched that spreader

[@crystalweible152]

I absolutely can not fathom sleeping with my sisters guy. WOW. Not just my relationship gone but my blood aswell. Jeebus that's just EVIL.

[@DaBaseBallZ]

Story 2:Dude,That is the most favouritism i have ever seen in my entire life,Those parents really stink,NTA at all

[@hilaryc3203]

I left a longer comment above explaining why they did it that way, but it is all because they are Indian (south asia), and this is all based in their cultural norms that the daughter must be financially protected by the husband, or the brother if she is still single. If they were to leave her the money, she would be tarnished socially. As a result they indulge her while she is single and they are alive.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@DaBaseBallZ]

@hilaryc3203 That doesn't mean it's ok

[@teddychu1177]

"The Blood of the Covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" is the proper saying as I understand it. People have been taking it a little differently over the years.

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

Why not? They do it with everything else so why not this one too? Pulling one's self up by the bootstraps is supposed to mean an impossible task as you cannot bend over & pick yourself off the ground without help. A few bad apples was supposed to signify the need to get those apples out immediately before they cause the barrel of apples to rot but somehow they think it's an excuse that means only a few people did bad things. The bottom of the totem pole is supposed to be a place of honor as they are trusted to carry everyone else but in this utterly cuckoo land it means the worst spot. It's wild how little Americans understand these things.

[@aduckofsomesort]

That is actually false. The original saying is the short version. But the cool thing about being a human being that these are just sayings and not laws we have to live by.

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

Well, you understand it *_wrong,_* so... there's that. 👍 The bogus "blood of the covenant" shtick is only decades old (as in back in the _1990s_ - I remember when they started spreading it in church as a "fun *new* thing"), while the original short version is _centuries_ old (circa 12th century Germany). So, yes, people have been taking it a little differently over the years, because people keep spreading the bs "covenant" version.

[@downunderandoverit]

Bare minimum... Yep! Let's just say and long story short, after questioning one of my sisters out of concern. She responded with, "She's still alive, isn't she?". Can't be helped. Some of us have "bare minimum parents."

[@bustakitayancey7261]

@Markee Story One OP is NTA but the Mom, Sister and Ex-Fiance certainly are GIANT A-Hs! I've also gotta say that your reaction to this story was absolutely heelaryous, yo! 😂😂😂 You were sounding like me wen I'm all alone watching a good movie or show! 🤭Your interjected comments had me literally LOLing! You're a funny dude, bro! 💯🔥

[@hanoh2904]

Loving your energy today!

[@brokenvampyre]

Story2 - "Here's a bunch of money, BUT you can only spend it the way we approve!"

[@bryn1063]

Hope everyone knows and the sister regrets everything. Can't imagine picking your cheating daughter over your innocent and heartbroken daughter. You don't have to disown her just say shes wrong because she is!!

[@Sherwoody]

@@bryn1063 but now mom’s cheating daughter is providing her with a grandbaby , OP isn’t letting her enjoy the experience of being a grandma. How can she brag to all her friends and relatives when OP is trashing her and her daughter on social media.

[@KE-hr4sb]

S2: "You were more successful and self-sufficient than your sister!" Yeah, that's a common theme with abused/neglected/parentified children.

[@roseh458]

Wow, with sisters like this who needs enemies, looks like she's dodged three crap people here. Who does that! I guess the unwanted kid will be their punishment. The fact that he was her high school sweetheart goes to show you really don't know someone.

[@rickcarpenter1066]

Blood is thicker than water full quote "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb"

[@moonyollie6977]

S1 reminds me of that infamous story about the OP's pregnant bestfriend whose babydaddy was the OP's boyfriend. Gaslighting and lack of care for the OP's mental health all around. The father is especially going to regret no supporting his daughter, and I would not be surprised if the wife has cheated/is cheating

[@MelissaDawes]

S1: Ah, the standard “mistake” or “accident” excuses when caught cheating. There are SO MANY steps which have to occur for the affair to happen. Do you magically lose your clothes and suddenly discover both of you are in bed together? 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@superc.j]

Bro, while i was listening to the update in the first story, Dirty Laundry came on the radio 😂 That timing is wild!🤣

[@catsncrows]

S1 Okay it takes some kind of determination (idk can't find a word) to get pregnant, most people would have the common sense to use protection if messing around. That was a hahaha he's mine now, I've staked out my territory move. Yes the mother is in grandbaby mode, okay she gets this one born into chaos but possibly misses out on any op has. I bet she'll climb the walls if that happens.

[@joeyjojojrshabadoo7462]

Yes. There's risking it by choosing not to use protection in a committed relationship and then not using a protection within a secret affair with your sister's fiance. She wanted it to happen.

[@dichromatism1681]

omg this year i've been seeing and reading so many stories like this, w/future family members sleeping w/the fiance. what is wrong w/these families?

[@annem7806]

Hero dad. But faaaaamily. You are justified. She is a horrible person.

[@Bleg94]

dad was a hero at the beginning but lost his spine in the end -.-

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

I would love to tell OP to ignore the whole "Blood is thicker than water." That is just a small part of the saying and does not mean what many people believe it to mean. The entire saying and correct saying is, "Blood of the brethren is stronger than the water of the womb." This saying comes from medieval times, and what it means is, that the bond of brotherhood of those who spilled blood together in battle is stronger than the brotherhood bond who came from the same womb. This saying is also where "Blood Brothers" came from. Basically, the bonds one makes with their chosen family are stronger than the blood-born familial bonds.

[@geckokid8265]

Usually I would say not to take revenge, it's not worth the brain power and toll it takes on your psyche but in this case I definitely get it. Also the husband telling his Mum the sister's pregnant to get her to cool it on her reminds me of in the Simpsons when Marge writes a book and the book version of Homer attacks the book version of Ned and he says "you wouldn't kill the father of your next child would you?... Whoops"

[@kazzuo32]

#1. Nta. And thats the thing with people now days that think that for saying "sorry" everything is forgive and forgotten. Nope.

[@789blackops]

A nuclear revenge (for what can come out of it) would be to post the Reddit post link on her social media 😂

[@hexgirl29]

I LOVE how messy markee is 😂

[@MandyLina123]

Story 1: OP should take her ex's sister as her own. Maybe then ex would understand why losing your sister sucks 🤣 Yes it would be different as she lost her sister due to cheating and is just adopting ex's sister as her own sister, but it would probably still hurt him at least a little bit knowing his sister likes his ex better. Also keep that post up, let the sister you once had cry. She aint your problem anymore. Make it worst by letting her see you be happy with your new sister (ex's sister)! :D

[@PlasticBluVentRabbit]

“We didn’t do as much for you because you were so self reliant!” He was self reliant BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T DO MUCH FOR HIM First time parents, my ass. The fact he got an apology out of them is astounding

[@RobertWilson-p1t]

Op should talk his sister about their parents. There thinking is crazy for her and she should be warned.

[@TheVeggiekat]

Wait for the plot twist where Tia’s baby isn’t Logan’s and she only slept with him because she thought him and his family would take care of baby.

[@loganjoh1]

Story 1: trash sister, trash ex, trash egg donor. OP should’ve went scorched earth immediately

[@jewlzcraig-leaves597]

You’re evil Markee WTG with excellent Disney song aside 😂

[@jewlzcraig-leaves597]

Not as evil as Tia and Logan tho 😡

[@judithgockel1001]

She has 18 years to regret it.

[@Kay-Rayzie]

What a surprise that Tia pulled the instant DARVO card 😮

[@hvymax]

It's better to have people fear you than laugh at you.

[@littlepeeper9223]

Story 1 burnIt is apparently quite normal to treat one child better than the other child And if they get the same treatment, you are evil, toxic and selfish. It is therefore difficult to be a parent. It's not a game of SIMS, you need to love and care for them.

[@gremlininblue2601]

Sis had shit coming but the plants?? Come on, people, dont take things out on innocent living things, they just chillin be plants

[@kool3884]

Story 2: Golden Child

[@nelly2958]

S1: I was kinda hoping op covered the garden in bleach, oh well

[@QuayHollywood]

Op shouldn't have agreed to them getting her that new car either. They suck balls.

[@fabianbiere5653]

... i mean not as long as she uses it to drive as far away as she can😂

[@slayermoon666]

Me playing the world’s smallest violin for the cheaters… but I will get hate for saying this, destroying the garden dedicated for the dog…

[@elgronk.]

Markee is my new spiritual animal

[@Masenken]

Legitimate question: obviously aside from never saying it out loud, exactly what are you supposed to do when you realize your child is mentally fine but nonetheless dumber than a box of rocks despite your best efforts? I think most would leave then to their own devices once they become adults, but I feel like this has to be a sore spot for a lot of parents. You try to teach them right, try to give them what they need, try to teach them right from wrong, yet they just make it their life's mission to be their worst possible selves. It's gotta feel like being between a rock and hard place and a hydraulic press all at once

[@mwuahugz1115]

Story 2: "they are brown parents" ahh that explains the expectations of their daughter to marry someone rich 😂

[@hvymax]

There are no expectations for sis to become a functional adult. She just needs a man to take care of her. OP needs to be a functional MAN who can support a wife and family. Why would they expect a helpless Dingbat to be functional??? They are establishing standards for her future husband!!!

[@notajetplane]

In the end the sister still won. She still has their parents, and the ex. Not exactly a prize, but Op still lost her family.

[@LadyWolvie82]

I think the parents will eventually split up. Dad needs to grow both a pair and a spine so that he can stand up for himself, because favoring the older sister like this will eventually open his eyes. The fact that it's now on KZbin - and other channels likely will pick up this story in time - there's no way out for them. When the Golden Child sees that she destroyed more than one relationship, she (the sister) will need both therapy and time to herself so that she can self-reflect on things.

[@momo382844]

At least OP will get the last laugh. Ex will ditch the sister as soon as he can. Then the sister will shove her baby to grandma because she needs a “break”.

[@immortalsofar5314]

#1: Sure they suck, dump them etc etc. However, I'm picking up a lot of red flags from OP, just from the way she phrases things. I kind of get the impression that her sister thinking she's "ps*chotic" might run deeper than the current situation.

[@robert4657]

S2. Why can't a guy marry rich. So much bs spewed. Poor op l.

[@politereminder6284]

Markee, "I got brown parents to apologize" is not exactly a crazy sentence. 😅 culture is real!

[@stephjovi]

Sis and fiance suck. BUT instead of she knew how much I love him or how much marrying him means to me. No how much getting married means to me. She just wants to be married doesn't necessarily love her ex fiancé. Only judging from the little info we have

[@rinherdez]

Story 2: *I actually got brown parents to apologize * brooo

[@suzismith9011]

Hi all 👋👋

[@kiraalexandraruizburgos1236]

🦐

[@katherinehutton9870]

There out of her life, until she gets married, then haveiing a baby, and when she buys a house. Then it will be we our your family you need to let thisbe good now

[@AP_7846]

Is anyone else annoyed by how little cultural competency Reddit has. Like people come from different cultures and backgrounds. Not everything has to be how Americans expect it

[@lemarch57]

Story 2: Are OP’s parents really soulless for offering him money when the majority of complaints about his sister were centered about her receiving material things at an earlier age than he did? He apparently has accepted getting that money as well. He admitted being ‘somewhat’ of a troublemaker, so would giving him material things early have encouraged him into becoming entitled? There always more than one side to a post. I think his parents may have had good reasons for making him earn what he received.

[@test-kf2zv]

Story 1: Sorry, no, that was too low, even if it was only "slightly". OP couldn't have chosen something else? The sister sucks the most, but kids and pets (especially deceased pets) are off limits.

[@MeTeaOakRStNR]

63 💚

[@johnbradbury8610]

story 2, NTA, look what happened when you finally stood up for yourself. Nevermind what you're culture says.

[@SillyTeaSeal]

Helloo

[@ChiquitaBanana-si5qq]

The way they talk about the wedding is off putting.

[@miirax393]

Story 2: wow Op's parents aren't homophobic but somehow still misogynistic? Damn that's impressive

[@hilaryc3203]

I left a longer comment above explaining why they did it that way, but it is all because they are Indian (south asia), and this is all based in their cultural norms that the daughter must be financially protected by the husband, or the brother if she is still single. If they were to leave her the money, she would be tarnished socially. As a result they indulge her while she is single and they are alive.

[@miirax393]

@hilaryc3203 oh I know about the misogynistic culture in Asia, I live in an African country that doesn't have it worse than them but there are still some sexist beliefs here and there, I'm just surprised that they're not ALSO homophobic since that's also pretty common in those countries

[@hilaryc3203]

@@miirax393 It depends on which community they live and what the political tone is. I'm in Canada, where most people don't care about sexuality, unlike the USA where there is a ton of homophobia. The parents still have the son they think will take care of them in their old age, and a daughter to give them grand babies, so in the grand scheme of things, it's all covered for them.

[@namename2040]

Story 1 Op is a gross person. You got cheated feeling hurt is valid what's not valid is destroying your sister stuff especially something sentimental that's vandalism. I hope the sister presses charges. Throwing the fiances stuff in the garbage is also unnecessary. The only retaliation to cheating should be what you get in a divorce, or if you SO is in the millitary you can get them there. In the millitary cheating isn't allowed that's low class pedestrian behavior and they hold themselves to a higher standard.

[@carlrood4457]

What OP doesn't get is he's actually the golden child, probably due to sexism. His parents expect nothing from his sister. They actually expect OP to be successful and achieve. That's why they push him so much harder.