My Wife Every Valentine's Day

Don't get me anything. I'm so low maintenance 👀 But did you seriously do everything I asked and nothing more? #valentinesday #marriedlife #comedy
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[@edna1915]

I love these Penn imitating Kim skits so much! The “Sharpie on an unprotected surface??” concern was so funny 😆

[@karenkohl3135]

The Sharpie line cracked me up especially!!

[@Vipre-]

#1) The laughter is a dead giveaway that every word of this "skit" is 100% accurate. #2) This was absolutely a "hint" Penn, flowers (get the bear), dinner, card (not handmade), take notes you've got five days. Good luck. 👍

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

Yeah she’s never actually said “honey i am legitimately upset that you got me something”. So there’s that.

[@sarah-phillips]

Haha! Yes! Just nothing you can get while buying toilet paper.

[@tjturner3916]

They're so adorable together. His imitating her running down the hall is so sweet. "Our love doesn't need nice... wow, those are nice flowers."

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

They really were nice flowers

[@craftyzisme]

I knew you got me something more than that crappy card! 🤣🤣

[@marabookstagram]

Kim laughing in the background is killing me! 😆

[@theholdernessfamily]

It's funny because it's true

[@vasseurbeauty]

Literally cackling over this. This is me

[@Mrs.NRalphs]

Hi! Brittney, fancy seeing you here😁. Ryan and Pen need to do a collab video.

[@AFeastOfIdeas]

I usually am low maintenance about gifts but for our tenth anniversary I was kind of lamenting that we always have to plan our gifts to each other (usually out of a kindness to our budget) but sometimes i’m sad he just doesn’t ever surprise me with gifts. He then proceeded to pull out a ring box with a beautiful tenth anniversary diamond ring. I have never been so delighted and so sheepish at the same time!

[@user-rk1ie8lh4l]

My husband was a restaurant manager for 25+ years. I really, really dislike Valentine's Day but he always brought home some of the best stories that night😆

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

Never went out V Day I took my kids out one year, once widowed Omg what a mistake We went 3 places trying to not have to wait an hour Ppl, this was the mid90s!! I cant imagine now lol Why do ppl even go out that night, way too crowded n shortstaffed for the crowds

[@dexmor3995]

Being married for almost 17 years now we stopped “buying” things about 7 years ago. We do go out for an awesome dinner each year, just around the date and not on V-day. We love each other and try to express it daily, no holiday needed. 😊

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

that sounds ideal

[@lucy_76]

yep! we're 30 years in and stopped with all the "extra" stuff a long long time ago. I like to get flowers once in a while but never ever on Valentine's or Mother's day when prices get jacked up for no reason. It actually feels better to get them on a day they aren't expected.

[@waggy401]

We were broke college students when we got married, so we started a tradition of getting In-N-Out on Valentine's Day. We don't care for crowds, so now if we go out it will not be on the 14th.

[@KentuckyKrafter]

Same. Been married 25 years.

[@backyardrebel2149]

Yup. Coming up on 20 years. We've never been interested in v-day. Though the 1/2 price candy the day after is fun. Lol.

[@trinaq]

Kim's laughter over Penn's imitation of her gives me so much life. Happy Valentine's Day in advance! 💖😍

[@theholdernessfamily]

Happy Valentine's Day!!

[@Jmmmd]

I'll never forget on the AR. Penn was watching Kim bungee and he cried. He said he was imagining something happened to her and he couldn't live without her. It was real and it was love.

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

He’s a keeper

[@karenlawton2549]

So sweet❤❤❤

[@javelinaflips-annie5000]

Love this ❤ First VD without my husband… He was the best at gift giving but also made his own cards out of printer paper on which he drew desert animals. I have found most of them and I am displaying them on my fridge. Planning on getting a big box of Godiva chocolates and champagne and make a toast (not the bread kind) to our life together.

[@jessezigg]

I'm so sorry for your loss. ♡ I hope you had a wonderful day anyway! And enjoyed those chocolates and champagne!

[@ronwaters478]

The dialog is so chock-full of Kim-isms ! Penn really nailed it. No wonder Kim is laughing in the background. 😃😄

[@jodystepnowski695]

Oh Penn’s expression when Kim says she is low maintenance! One of your funniest guys!

[@jessicas9136]

Haha! The only thing I ever want on Valentine's Day is a card and to not cook. He can get take out or take me out, I don't care as long as I don't have to touch a pan.

[@bbearsmama]

“It’s really thumby!” 😆😂🤣 Dying!!

[@barbaramorris923]

I love the giggling in the background! Every one of your videos just makes my day so much better.😊 My husband and I have been married almost 40 years and Valentine’s Day has been a non-event for a long time, and that’s perfectly fine with me. He travels for business so a lot of years (like this year) he’s not even home. We actually don’t give gifts for most occasions (birthday, anniversary) - we decided a few years ago that we had enough stuff, and we use the money on experiencias instead. We take a trip every year for our anniversary, and have made some wonderful memories. Happy Valentine’s Day! ❤

[@donnabolt5847]

I haven't laughed this hard in sooo long! We don't celebrate 🙄 My husband says it's commercial holiday. Which.. I agree. However, I am a huge romantic at heart and would just like the cute fun things (NOT go in debt) So now I just celebrate with my kids getting them little candies, books, a homemade valentine punch to drink etc. One year I decorated each kid's door with valentine wrapping paper and wrote 5 things I loved about each kid on it. It feels sooo good to celebrate love even if it's not romantic. Happy V day Kim and Penn!!

[@KayElayempea]

Great perspective! My preschooler got a cute book from the library last called 'Happy Heart' about how much you love someone. He has been taking it around to all the adults in his life and having them read it to him, it is so sweet.

[@Octoberfurst]

That was hilarious! My wife is the exact same way as Kim! She always says "Don't get me anything for Valentine's Day" or says she wants just a card. But if I don't get her anything more than a card she acts very disappointed, even though she claims she's not. So every year I get her a big bouquet of flowers and she is thrilled even as she chastises me for "spending too much money." Women are interesting creatures.

[@concettaworkman5895]

Check out my instructional comment, this is what they want, really, don't let them get away with it.

[@patriciadurham643]

I love when Penn imitates Kim and she’s laughing in the background!!! So funny!!!! ❤❤

[@amytomtan1594]

We’ve been married 29 years and Feb 14th is just another day of appreciating and loving each other....no gifts or dinner, just exchange cards.❤

[@LetsFocusOnChrist]

Agree! We don’t do cards or anything. Just our weekly date night on Friday.

[@lindaberg4777]

Agree!

[@marcw6875]

Ah, but it's not just another day if you exchange cards. Unless you exchange cards every day. ;) haha

[@gkennedy2998]

Penn is the best! Well done, Sir! Our Valentine Day solution is always the same: I receive a small heart-shaped box of Russel Stover candies. My kids eat it. I keep the box. Happy Valentine's Day.

[@sarahupdike1754]

My husband and I have never done gifts or cards for Valentine's Day. Our tradition is to spend time in the card aisle picking out the card we would buy for each other, sharing it there and then putting it back. My friends think we're nuts, but it's so much fun as it comes with a "right of refusal, must do over" rule. I used to be a store manager at a pharmacy and after years of watching folks come in at the last minute in a panic to get something so their significant wouldn't be mad made me never want to put that pressure on him. Thanks for your videos--y'all are the jam! :)

[@amyoung101]

That’s so creative and sounds like a lot of fun too

[@artwithheart3142]

That was fun especially knowing that you wrote it Kim. We’re complicated eh? On the one hand we’re like, “ I don’t need a token expression of our love” and then on the other we’re “yeah but I wants it”.

[@eddavanleemputten9232]

Absolutely HILARIOUS… Between my SO and me, it’s exactly the opposite. He keeps saying he doesn’t do Valentine’s and doesn’t want to exchange gifts… and then gets me one. Same with Saint Nicholas which is a big thing in Belgium and The Netherlands (depending where you’re from, December 5th or 6th gifts are exchanged). This year is going to be tough: I’ve just had spinal surgery and am not allowed to drive. I’ve roped my in-home carer to get something for him when she goes to do my grocery shopping for me. He loves abbey-style beers and she’s swinging by the local brewery to pick up a limited edition with matching glass. I’ve already paid for it, it’s the best I can do right now. He’s the best man I could ever dream of having and despite what he says this year he is getting that gift.

[@ccudmore]

You have exactly the same doorbell as us. And now my dog is running around barking because of this video, waking everyone up! Thanks 🙂

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

Oh dear sorry. Technically you have the same doorbell as the royalty free sound effect website 😂

[@vikigossen1578]

My dog went from sound asleep to intruder alert mode at that sound ha!

[@suemurphy1730]

At least he didn't say "Alexa", and wake her up....

[@compscidoggo]

There can be someone knocking on door in the house or a car/truck stopping outside, and my dogs will rain hell with barking.

[@Mushroom321-]

😄😄😄

[@vanessabogaert2104]

I also tell my husband not to get anything and then I get passive-aggressive about it on the day. But he’s learned to ignore me saying I don’t want anything. 😂😂😂

[@maryblakley3590]

I love Kim's laughter during these videos. It's like watching someone break on SNL.

[@AlauraJones]

“This is it? This is your best work?” Absolutely criminal. 😂

[@veronicatomasi2734]

You guys are helping me relieve pre-wedding jitters. Seeing your relationship gives me confidence that we'll also be about to handle all the ups and downs. Thank you

[@YoMateo.]

Who didn’t come from TikTok raise their hands.✋

[@35mayocynthia]

✋

[@karenlawton2549]

🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️

[@amsteensberg1653]

🙋🏼‍♀️

[@karentucker2161]

Not me 😊

[@tirzahmyers3392]

🤚🏻 ✋🏻

[@foxwaffles]

I feel like sometimes if someone is very anxious and doesn't like upsetting people they'll try to be as low maintenance as possible and say they don't need or want anything because they feel like they can't ask for something. Definitely difficult to overcome! Shout out to all the loving partners out there who can read past that and get us something anyway

[@Amandalyn316]

This was hilarious! I’ve just accepted the fact that my husband can’t read my mind. I think Valentine’s Day is a great reminder that we need that special focused time together as a couple. We discussed and planned Valentine’s Day together ahead of time this year-and decided to do something we both enjoy: going out to breakfast and a hike. Not to mention-hiking is free, breakfast gets us up early to enjoy the rest of the day, and breakfast is usually less expensive than dinner! I actually prefer breakfast over dinner anyways though. It was a wonderful romantic morning. ❤

[@lgottman418]

I love gardening. My husband loves carnivorous plants. Local garden center is offering a class on making a carnivorous plant terrarium ON VALENTINE'S DAY!! So his gift to me this year was signing me up for the class and my gift to him will be the finished project! Win-win!!

[@skeletonkeybooks]

My first husband splashed out on public displays on Valentine's Day so everyone else was all, "Oh, he's a keeper!" But he treated me like crap when we were alone. So I have no interest in observing the holiday. But I'm lucky to have a guy now who always treats me well, every day of the year. That's so much better. I also have explained to him my varied but specific reasons for not being a huge fan of fresh flowers as a romantic gesture, and he's allergic to everything, so he knows I'm not going to get passive-aggressive about it. It may help that we're both autistic and have no trouble communicating pragmatically without playing silly headgames about what we need, want, and expect.

[@lylaanderson6658]

You guys completely change personality in these! It’s so funny! The passive aggression too just can’t stop laughing 😝

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

It’s all in the EYES

[@christinachef]

After 21 years of marriage hubby and I learned that, I'll just buy the chocolates and flowers and say "thank you honey, look what you got me!". And if I want to go to dinner I have to say, hey can we please go out to dinner. And then he is so accommodating. It's pretty awesome. Works for us.

[@janellerash7723]

The angry instant pot fumbling was my favorite. HA! Valentine’s Day is a lose-lose set-up.

[@belindahugheslifestyle]

I'm the girl who got her soulmate boyfriend a long-stemmed red rose every month on our anniversary. Blew the pest control guy's mind when he witnessed one such presentation. lol Well done, #TeamHolderness! Happy Valentine's Day in advance. 💖💖💖

[@user-es9mb8wi3m]

You are both such astute students of human nature. This is so relatable. We stopped the Valentine’s fa la la la la years ago. Instead of gifts we don’t need, expensive roses etc, we do something. This year, we are going to enjoy antique shopping, (buying). Lasts longer than roses! I think this was one of your best. Kim’s giggle is priceless. Penn’s expressions are right on. How can you both be this talented?!

[@pathtowellnesswithmiriam1371]

This video is about me! I'm always saying no to everything until the day. Thank you for reminding me to say yes so we can actually enjoy Valentine's Day this year!

[@donnawildsmith2232]

47 years of marriage & we don’t do Valentines Day. Or birthdays, or Christmas gifts. But we do try to take a nice trip every year. Even when our kids were still at home. But your video was funny & often so true. My advice is make the most of each day for it goes by quickly & we never know what’s next! ❤

[@neals8752]

Penns face while Kim is talking at the end...about as close as I've ever seen to angry Penn...and so get it Penn. 🤣

[@kristinanoall]

You guys are AWESOME 😂 I love that you can laugh and be real about it, and I nearly died when you said Kim wrote the whole thing!! Hilarious and adorable! Thanks for the morning laugh 😊

[@amyoung101]

I had thought about texting my husband’s close friend to give him the “hint” to surprise me for Valentine’s Day but decided instead to plan a dinner date with my baby nieces and give them a memory of love to have 🥰

[@andreaf5497]

We've started a new tradition with our kids the last couple of years, and we all love it. They help decorate the table with Valentine's decor, and we have a "fancy" family dinner and dessert at home. Usually, lasagna or some other pasta, salad, and breadsticks. We can't have fresh flowers in the house because we all have allergies.

[@heatherhardwick419]

I love how you genuinely love one another and others.

[@newyorkpeggi]

Perfect imitation of Kim! "It's fine, really it's fine..."

[@pandapal2788]

Kim laughing behind the camera made me laugh so hard

[@wherami]

Her giggling is hilarious

[@theholdernessfamily]

I can't be mad. Everything he said ... I've said.

[@jillthompson8630]

Way back when we were about 7 or 8 years married one of us was going through chemotherapy. We had 2 small children. There was absolutely no money for anything including barely paying bills. Valentine's Day was coming up & we agreed that instead of feeling pressure to give cards, gifts, flowers, etcetera we'd simply acknowledge the day by wishing each other Happy Valentine's & leave it at that especially since we had no money. That & the fact this was one of the many holidays spent in the hospital. It's been many years since then & we have labeled Valentine's Day a Hallmark holiday which we always simply acknowledge the day & have zero expectations. It's worked out so well & no one is upset because no one is disappointed.

[@annetteatwood8272]

The last 3 valentine's days my husband has had to work. Go Army! However in 15 + yrs I have found expressing my gratitude and recognizing all he DOES do daily and not stressing over the things has no control over keeps the passive aggression away. Lol🤣 He does still try to get me gifts, but when I get them, it's like. "Flowers, yay, something to water and add to my to do list. Or you're making dinner? Another MRE meal yum! He does try other gifts, but clothing sizes and gadgets he likes don't always go so well. The best gift is him putting the kids to bed early (3 kids 10 and under) and then watching a show I want to watch with me. ( My love language is time together) A gift he likes, being an introvert, is alone time, time to decompress from the day. Lol.

[@debrahall709]

It's a celebration as it was the day we were married...47 years this year. We usually go out to dinner, my arrangements. I usually go shopping for myself, as I know what I like and want, then thank him for whatever I bought myself. LOL It's just another day really. We say we love each other every day, often, so it's hard to think of it just being celebrated one day a year instead of every day of the year!

[@hannahsutherland4760]

Growing up, we had a family tradition that mom would make meatloaf in a heart shaped cake pan for Valentine's Day dinner and write something sweet or doodle hearts etc. on top in ketchup. Kinda an odd tradition but we loved it. (BTW, no one particularly likes meatloaf that much, so we rarely had it. Just for Valentines Day for some reason). Cards and gifts had to be smuggled to the kitchen table by midnight on the 13th so they would be there for breakfast.

[@PatMcFadyenGrowingGradeByGrade]

I would rather drop a bowling ball on my foot than go out to dinner on Valentine's Day. Crowds, cost, leaving home...nope. After 42 years, we love to eat leftovers for dinner on the couch and binge something like Schitt's Creek. That's love! 🥰😜

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

That's true love

[@zoeware6926]

😂 I loved this. We don’t exchange gifts and I’m probably not passive aggressive about it because it’s our daughter’s birthday, so that won’t help you. Lol

[@maiacaldwell8503]

We have a daughter with a Valentine's day birthday too. Changes the focus a bit.

[@disneyjenn1671]

Same here! She will be 14 this year so golden birthday events are in full swing!

[@cindyyoung9610]

“I’m so low maintenance about Valentines Day until Valentine’s Day” 😂😂😂

[@kokolelu]

When we started dating, my (now) husband’s grandmother gave us $20 on for Valentines with a card that said for burgers and shake. Since then it’s a tradition that know we do with our kids. Every Valentines we have burgers and shake. So stress free and fun.

[@luigiscazzari4724]

4:30 Now I understand why Penn's eyes during the sketch. 😅

[@sandrainontario6710]

I'm in a new relationship. My boyfriend just got back from Cuba and brought me a present. Two little shell bracelets which he mentioned later that the store just threw in the bag when he bought a shirt there. So I'm trying not to have high expectations for Valentine's Day 🤣🤣🤣

[@amberyoung4425]

This is so me😂 been married 21yrs and my husband still surprises me🥰

[@carynplatt9790]

We only exchange cards. We've been married for 14 years this May. I love the cards he gives me! I do find myself becoming envious when I see on social media the gifts given and places others go for Valentines Day. It's unfortunate to want what others do, especially with couples that obviously love each other so much, like both of you!

[@juniper617]

After 30 years of marriage I fully expect flowers *and* chocolate on Valentines Day. And I get them. So we’re still married.

[@pbandbonwonder9523]

This was hilarious 😂 thank you for making it. Penn's expressions are priceless. I am doing dinner and a movie with the hubby for valentines day the weekend after🥰😍🙂

[@breannlukan8946]

😂 spot on, So awesome!!! Thanks guys.

[@claireashley427]

You guys SLAY me!!🤣🤣 You never disappoint and btw this is SO spot on it's hilarious! We say we don't want flowers because let's be real, they die fast, they are ridiculously expensive, especially around Valentine's Day..but when you get them anyways..we are THRILLED! My fiance has learned that even when I say I don't want anything..deep down I really do. Lol Even if it's not extravagant flowers or something expensive. I'm happy with a cheap bouquet from Trader Joes and some of my favorite chocolate or a nice card. Oh, and a foot massage of course!😝 It's the thought that counts..the fact that they spent the time to get you something regardless of what you said! Us women can be so confusing lol. I confuse myself sometimes!🤣🤣 Hope you two have a wonderful Valentine's Day! Also just a side note.. as far as flowers go..any day of the year, flowers are a super sweet surprise and way cheaper than for Valentine's Day! Lol the fact that it's unexpected makes it extra special..but we still want something that shows you care on ❤Day!😝 Also, I know this skit is exaggerated but that's what makes it so great and funny! You two are too much fun!🥰

[@jessicasimmons5706]

My hubby buys me flower bulbs for VDay every year. I love lilies and the cost when we were first married was astronomical so we made a pact that every year no flowers,just bulbs. Bonus he helps me plant them in the spring. I am truly low maintenance. But we discussed it early in our marriage and agreed to it. (currently 27 years in) A card and bulbs and no passive aggressive. we chose to put our limited resources into celebrating our anniversary instead.

[@lhead7226]

My husband and I never get each other stuff on Valentines day. What's the fun in knowing that you're going to get something and it will be ridiculously overpriced instead we act like it is just any other day, because it is. We will just randomly surprise each other throughout the year with something, when we know the other needs a pick me up. That's a surprise from the heart. ❤❤

[@lucy_76]

yes! a couple weeks ago my husband sent me a text with a picture of 2 little bags of chips he got from the vending machine at work. It was a flavor I used to love but haven't been sold in the US for over a decade and they were now bringing them back. It felt like 10 Christmases all at once and it was just a random Tuesday. That's the real right there. He knew I was so bummed when they stopped selling them years ago so he wanted to surprise me but he was excited and couldn't wait so he texted me the picture. Even after 30+ years, I love this man so much because of all the non holiday moments like these.

[@darbymori350]

All I want is a box of good chocolates and no judgement when it's empty in 2 days.

[@tinamorris5951]

All I want is dinner out, it can even be fast food. Just don't make me cook or have to think about what to make. We also usually go to the store pick out a card we like for the other , show it to them and then put it back. So much cheaper for a pick of paper you will throw away in a few days anyway. This has been our Valentines day tradition for about a decade now!

[@paulapogmore102]

Hilarious as usual! And yes, I'm definitely passive aggressive. "I love Valentine's Day. It's just a nice day where we can show each other how much we love each other with a little gift". That plants the pressure.

[@Dicyroller]

We don't but we also forget about it. It has been 21 years together and we have remembered three times. Years 1, 2, and 4. He brings me spring flowers when they start blooming and that makes me so happy, and sneezy.

[@sallyhamilton7202]

Penn did such a great job doing Kim's "voice". He had her inflections and her specific way of saying some words down pat, as well as her gestures and facial expressions. Obviously he does pay attention when she talks to him... sometimes! The only thing that could have made this skit better is if the Midwest Neighbor came over to brag about the flowers/gifts her husband got her and how they were going out to dinner later.

[@michaelad8686]

I admit I watched the “coupon” part way too many times!😂

[@rebeccajacklin3976]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 We are soul sisters! Omgosh. So spot on! How did you know?! Married almost 24 years here!

[@nanagram9740]

We stopped buying each other Valentine's Day/Sweetest Day gifts after the first few years of marriage. It just seemed silly that THOSE are the days you are supposed to tell/show someone you love them. I'd rather hear that/say that/do that, on a day that hasn't been dictated to me. Sometimes, my husband will come home with something, BUT, here is my point. My guy does stuff for me all year. He will bring home special treats/gifts for me at different times throughout the whole year. I do the same for him, and it makes it FUN, not a "task to be completed on Feb. 14th". I appreciate that showing of love more than a few days a year when card/flower/candy companies say, "Go spend money because, if you don't, you don't love your gf/bf/so/spouse". Since we've just had our 45th wedding anniversary, it's worked for us. No passive-aggressive here, but thanks for the laugh! Now Kim, what do YOU do for Penn on Valentine's Day? It takes two to tango...

[@shawnmendrek3544]

0:15 "just write a letter" translation, spend $ on a good gift. LOL@printer paper, would have done the same ahahhaa. I heard this line a lot "oh don't waste the $ on flowers" later... *woman mad at just a letter* 3:20 too accurate with the micro aggressions. spot on+ 4:00 This man selected his wife wisely. All jokes aside, they are a good combo.

[@joanlocke867]

In our house the phrase “I love you more than TOAST” is real lol❤

[@sherryvanrijn5453]

OMG, you guys! I have never laughed so hard, thank you!! These "my wife" videos are the funniest things I have ever seen, seriously!! 🤣🤣🤣

[@vladeckk21]

A few years back my equivalent half got me flowers. From the grocery store. Which I found lying on the counter, not in water, two hours after same arrived home and settled in front of the computer. We're still married, but gifts like that lend a lot of sincerity to the annual , "no, really, DON'T get me anything, honey." :)

[@hippychickshannong3884]

Lol! Love Kim laughing in background -my hubby imitates me all the time so I found it exceptionally funny new have been married for 29 years

[@lilstarship34]

You might say she’s “Holden’n” it together…….. I’ll go to the corner now

[@travismayes4547]

Yeah after 18 years we barely remember our anniversary. My wife often forgets the day and I forget the year. And together we usually can figure things out.

[@epguider]

Hi Penn and Kim, you two are adorable and I like your videos! As my two cents re not getting passive-aggressive about disappointment on Valentine’s Day, I think it’s a bigger question about holidays in general. When I’m not celebrating a holiday with family, I’ll tend to shrug them off and not decorate or plan anything special to celebrate (like Kim saying she doesn’t want anything for Valentine’s Day) but then on the day I’ll be sorta disappointed and my life will be that much more meh over time. This year, I’m picking a few holidays a month to actually do something festive for, even if it’s small or silly or arbitrary, to have more festivity in my life! Planning ahead and finding ways to actually make special days special - even if we don’t ‘really need’ anything to be special - is being good to our future selves! 🎉 So, stop saying you don’t want anything special for Valentine’s Day; you just made a whole video about how you already know that future-you actually will, so be nice to her!

[@katherinew1538]

Omg I FEEL THIS 😂😂. My first Valentine’s Day with my husband, he asked what my expectations were and I didn’t really give much info and said I was low maintenance, assuming he would know at an absolute minimum he should get a sweet card and maybe a small gift. So I show up with a basket of homemade cookies, a book with 100 reasons that he’s awesome, a mix CD, and a few other goodies and he had…NOTHING. Then we went to the dive bar across the street and he sang karaoke to Lonely Island (I’m on a Boat). 🤦🏼‍♀️😂🤦🏼‍♀️😂

[@marshastraub2158]

I love this so much. We sometimes celebrate and sometimes don’t and its always fine. We’ve been married for 30 years next month and i know he’s pot committed so to speak. We also may not be celebrating our 30th Anniversary more than going out to dinner. We did celebrate our 25th big by taking 19 people to Disneyland for a week. Our kids, parents, grandkids, and 2 close friends. We’ve never bought each other like lovey dovey cards or anything like that. However, when my husband does do something romantic for me he goes hard and its all like a fairytale. I think thats why I’m not passive aggressive about it at all. I do love that you can laugh at yourself. 😂

[@JK_Stinson]

My husband I have never done a typical Valentine's Day celebration: no cards, gifts, dinner out, flowers, etc. I'm just not into the commercialism of the day. We love each other as well as show and say it everyday. I cook daily so I usually make a fancier dinner, such as filet. I'll mention we're also very practical. When he took me to look at engagement rings I told him I just wanted a gold band and no diamond. He respected my wishes and a few months later his mom was confused when he texted our engagement and sent a pic of the ring. Naturally, she expected to see a diamond and thought we had gotten married on vacation. For our anniversaries I make a cake and a nice dinner. No passive aggressiveness here. We're happy and love each other and don't care about the material stuff.

[@lijahsampson6979]

I don’t have a significant other so for Valentine’s Day I make super elaborate homemade valentines cards for my mom dad and brother and mail them or at least send a picture if it’s too big. None of them ever expect it or are sad if I don’t, (some years I just don’t have time) but that’s why I enjoy doing it. And of course I FaceTime them, like I do every other day. We have never really celebrated in my family so like there’s not an expectation or anything, I just like being crafty and this gives me a good excuse. And it makes my parents happy. (My brother likes them too, but he has adhd like I do and you know, forgets or misplaces it in the next minute.)

[@lindsay8885]

Love this per usual!! 😊💜 Your posts always brighten my day!! My husband and I had our first date the week after Valentine's, so we celebrate that day instead. It means more to us and we avoid the crowds, etc. And we don't always do presents...it sort of depends on the year. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@holliberry2614]

I ask if I can get a certain gift. He says yes ( sometimes no, but mostly yes...and if no, I have backups on hand). I order it. When it comes....I give it to him to give to me on Valentine's Day. He sometimes forgets because he hides it. And then I have to remind him to go get my gift, that I know he has, to give to me. 30 years, baby,,,,THIRTY years! LOL!

[@kristysingletary9432]

For me it's not so much about a "gift". I'm the planner of the family and my friend group. I coordinate all holidays, birthdays, vacations and other special occasions. So if someone really wants to do something for my birthday or Valentines Day (which fall in the same week), the most meaningful thing would be for someone else to step in and plan/coordinate it. Even just having the family over for pizza and board games, if someone else coordinates and all I have to do is show up and enjoy it, that's priceless for me.

[@Tambryl]

Not gonna lie, honestly can't remember the last time we celebrated Valentine's day - I've never been a fan of it. I do enjoy being spoiled on occasion - doesn't everyone ? - but not because some date on a calendar dictates it. Just because it feels so much nicer. A date just because, hubby cooked just because, he brought me flowers just because ... okay, that last one, unless it's a fruit tree or something I can plant, he knows better, lol. I am that wife who Wants household appliances, kitchenware, or a gift card to buy myself clothes - not even joking, I got super excited over the stuff I got for Christmas the past few years ! All kitchen/camp stuff ! Loved the video as I see so many family members/friends in this, lol

[@urokmonkey]

love how the real wife is cracking up in the background

[@jenniLB]

Gifts from someone I share a bank account with don't make sense to me. We tend to focus on the kids for Valentines Day, but for our anniversary and our birthdays we go out to a nice restaurant and write something to each other (email or on Facebook). Other than that, we appreciate doing things for each other, like a massage or taking over a chore for the day. Or sometimes for birthday, Christmas, or Mother's/Father's Day we help the kids make something touching for the other parent. Before we had kids we took a trip for Christmas/anniversary (same month).

[@freefromburdens01]

We’ve been together for over 30 years and I told my husband years ago let’s not do valentines. But, in 2019 we we’re temporarily separated and during that time, on valentine day, he got me a candy dish someone made at the church. He didn’t have to do it during that time; but he did. It’s the best gift he ever gave me. We still don’t do valentine lol. But I think I’ll get him a card because lately he’s been having a tough time and feeling depressed.

[@natashaw401]

love hearing Kim giggles in the background makes it better wonder how many out takes u did

[@Music_is_Breathing]

Any guy I was dating who didn't buy me 20 PEACH roses was out of the running. Lolololol!!

[@susanharris3092]

This is hilarious! My husband has ADHD, so it really helps him when I tell him specifically what I want. I prefer Costco flowers (they are beautiful and last much longer than flowers from other places) and take-out on Valentine’s Day. We get See’s chocolate and go out to dinner sometime before or after the day. It really helps when I tell my husband exactly what I want…hints don’t work well with a lot of men. It may sound like I am very controlling, but after over 25 years of marriage, we both appreciate the plain talk.

[@Cheray_]

This Valentines will be our 22nd anniversary and the only reason we celebrate! We stopped buying each other's gifts years ago! For anniversary, Christmas, etc..I buy my own, he buys his own, I wrap them all, and give him a label to sign, I slap a label on his and we call it done🤦🏾‍♀️ True lovebirds over here🤣🤣🤷🏾‍♀️

[@sarahpeterson2813]

We don't exchange gifts, we exchange "sorry I didn't get you anything"s.

[@ashleyfriedrich9856]

I told my husband , flowers are nice once in a while. He bought me a cauliflower. 😆