My wife is pregnant with our second child but..

[@johnbradbury8610]

Op handled this like a champ. He went to the lawyer first, recoded everything, and set the record straight

[@mannydcbianco]

Yes, this. And he was sooo lucky to live in an at-fault state where cheating and paternity fraud actually means something. In most US states a man who was cheated on and ended up the father of a child that isn't his is completely screwed.

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@mannydcbianco At fault has nothing to do with child paternity or alimony, there are a few states that allow a husband to get off the birth certificate and Op must live in one of them. A friend of mine is a divorce lawyer and she tells men not to make the mistake of thinking At fault, will save them. If you're going to marry you need a prenup. Op got lucky

[@kennethsjvold9212]

Here is a twist, yea she cheated, but the test from the court came back as OP was the father to the girl..... story missing 3 updates

[@Taleline88]

I completely agree, OP really did handle the situation like a champ. His proactive steps, like consulting a lawyer and recording everything, were impressive. What do you think was the most critical action he took to set the record straight?

[@kennethsjvold9212]

@@Taleline88 like a champ🤣🤣 he was the father, story missing updates

[@holeymcsockpuppet]

I love that the boss bought him a bottle of champagne. I'm guessing he's been through it too!

[@karishma_k]

It was only once(1:48) when she thought that OP caught her once then it was only twice(5:45) when OP caught her twice. Bet it was multiple times.

[@johnbradbury8610]

Op is never going to get the whole truth, that is a lost cause

[@mannydcbianco]

Definitely. Cheaters always trickle-truth when their cheating is exposed. "It was only once, it meant nothing!". Then more facts surface and they shift to "it was only just those two times, I promise! I only love you, the other guys mean nothing!". Lather, rinse and repeat. The reality is that it was probably dozens if not hundreds of times.

[@snidecommenter7117]

With lord knows how many APs

[@HomeDefender30]

What would the probability of someone only cheating twice, years apart, and the spouse finds out about both at damn near the same time and it was the ONLY two times you cheated? I’m guessing it’s extremely low odds…. Now if you have cheated way more than two times, now the odds of someone finding out about only two of them near the same time is a lot more likely….. Essentially the math starts mathing.

[@seanb5888]

The cheater's classic line "every affair//occasion that you know about is everything that happened. Nothing more".

[@flintironstag2381]

For me, the saddest part was the fact that OP probably got very attached to who he thought was his daughter. I don't have any kids, and I can say for sure that finding out the child isn't mine would destroy me. That alone would be unforgivable. And on top of that, having stbxw trying to sweep it under the rug? Those are 2 lines you should NEVER cross.

[@ommadawn8434]

That's the most heartbreaking part. The poor girl had nothing to do with any of it and nothing was her fault. Both her and the OP are undoubtably close but I can understand OP's position completely. It's just totally messed up because the ex-wife couldn't be loyal. She's the only villain here.

[@geraldholt2755]

Poor OP. And poor daughter. I truly don't know who the bigger victim is. OP lost a child he knows wasn't his. She's losing the only daddy she has ever known.

[@Lego_Whis_the_wise]

She got that nat 1 for a mother

[@dwwolf4636]

Yea. And it's all on the B.

[@muzgi]

I am pretty sure that OP is the bigger victim. Yes the girl lost her father but at that age it is minimal. But he, he lost trust in every partner moving on, he lost love to children and will have skepticism to any pregnancy, he lost a family that HE took care of and most importantly he lost respect to everyone involved even himself, because it may or may not be his fault it will still chip from his soul.

[@tumblewed538]

@@muzgiAt that age it is arguably the most important! ahea a child!

[@theplayingimmortal1140]

​@@muzgi The theoretical minimum is still devastating. Whatever comes after this is going to cause painful turmoil.

[@roabarton7962]

Once a cheater always a cheater.

[@dinkyd1533]

With the judgements he got in court he can't be living in California.

[@MrPMAntunes]

Reading plenty of these stories is insane how you can actually make a list that is common with almost every cheater, from of signs that they're cheating, to what happens after being caught. She immediately went to the 'trickle truth'

[@juniormon7514]

she took a huge gamble thinking that her husband got her pregnant even tho she was cheating and she knew he got a vasectomy

[@momoangel9243]

I guess she thought op would not think, Of looking into it himself.

[@thematrix2661]

It is never a one time thing, by the time they get caught cheating is because it has become comfortable doing it.

[@SaintAnimus]

Leave her and fight everything

[@Zerif69]

My brothers 5th kid was a surprise as he got fixed so they could not have another. He got checked and sure enough it grew back. The child looks like him as he has a unique face. This time he made sure it was solved.

[@ICCUWANSIUT]

Human body be weird mans

[@HHH-zz3ip]

Praise 🙌🙏 the lord ... It's a miracle baby 🤩

[@skmohmamadsamim9130]

Lol🤣🤣

[@RandomUser25122]

😂🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@prestow]

They will always say it was just once.

[@HighNoone]

Wife just Forgot op had a vasectomy? Hmmm noy sure😂

[@RunningSession-j1b]

Probably she was as pale because she was getting her back blown Out at the traffic light on her way to the lawyers office

[@user-ho4tb5qe7v]

But they weren't actively trying to have a baby for the second baby?

[@unifiedhorizons2663]

of relationships end because women cheat and lose interest.. gets off a pill loses interest, interesting I have server ADHD and I can’t function without my pills but I don’t emotionally lose interest or become completely brain null on someone I care about. sighs humans, I simply don’t understand them. I guess that’s my autism.

[@johnbradbury8610]

"us" didn't get pregnant and "we" can't get pregnant. It's ridiculous when guys say "We're pregnant" or "we got pregnant"

[@johnbradbury8610]

The fact that she asked "why", shows how selfish she is

[@mannydcbianco]

@@johnbradbury8610 Yup. Such an absurd question to ask. She knew damn well.

[@johnbradbury8610]

@@mannydcbianco It shows the utter lack of respect she has for him.

[@VitorHugoOliveiraSousa]

Yep, I think is cringe. Pathetic modern effeminate men that are trying to share the role of the women in the relationship to appear modern and appease their narcissistic feminist wives. At most you can say "we are expecting" which is true, both are expecting a child but only she is pregnant. But even that I feel is cringe. Just say "my wife is pregnant" or "I'm going to be a father".

[@kennethsjvold9212]

Here is a twist the test from the court showed he was the Father to the girl, story is missing 3 updates

[@arsinist7663]

Bro automatically lost the high ground when he asked her to abort the baby. Ditch the cheating wife, sure. But killing an innocent baby won't fix it.

[@kiaa_rains]

d4m sorry op

[@paulefstathiou1819]

Why ? Is the sex worth it ? Is it a game ?

[@humansvd3269]

Women often try to split their choices to get everything they can get, it is called a dual mating strategy. They will get with the his with money, but they're not the sexiest or most attractive. So they will have sex with some other guy they don't want to marry but will have his kids.

[@romaboo6218]

why would you even get married?

[@tabicat.puccino7425]

maybe you can sleep with AP's ex, she seems nice

[@thor7219]

What a 304! They’re all the same.

[@sandybokara2109]

Cheating is one thing but why cant they atleast use condoms while cheating

[@ilyarepin7750]

"for us to get pregnant" for HER